I always send “recap” emails. If they don’t respond with a correction, then they are tacitly agreeing that it was all correct. Their word against my written documentation. Guess who wins.
I wish I could act like this and speak like this to people in real life withOUT being fired, retailiated against, abandoned, or out right abused. Because in real life people HATE those who speak up for themselves and know how to cover their asses and who can protect themselves from backlash abusive retaliation.
Retaliation is illegal. Period. Check reviews and find a good employment law firm in your area. You may not need them now, but you will in the future. They all give free 30 minute consultations, periodically. (Like, the first time you contact them and then a couple years later, etc.)
I once had a comically insane and tyrannical boss. I was working as her right-hand man running 2 small companies, a cleaning company and one that rented out rooms and apartments to traveling handymen. The working conditions were absolutely bonkers. She didn't feel like having to drive to an office in the mornings anymore, so she moved the companies to her mansion and I would sit at a computer desk in her living room, writing invoices and work plans while she was laying on the couch and watch TV. Not sure whether it was early onset dementia or whether she was just totally overworked because she felt she had to micromanage everything all the time, but she would constantly tell people to do something and then later claim she never did or vice versa. It wasn't just her forgetting and misremembering stuff though, she also just was really dumb sometimes. For example, she would yell at me and call me stupid because I didn't know stuff that had happened on the weekends, when I wasn't at the office. I would come in Monday morning and for example rent out a room and write it into the booking plan and she would see it and fly off the handle and call me a retard because I didn't know that she had rented out the room to somebody without writing it into the calendar. I wasn't the only one who had such problems with her. For example, one day she hired a carpenter to install new kitchen furniture into a bunch of her apartments. He said he would like to start next Saturday and she said OK. On Friday she called him and told him to postpone because she had new customers in 2 of the apartments. Then the guests cancelled on Saturday and she didn't tell the carpenter, but fired him on Monday because he hadn't done his job and she yelled at me for "taking his side". Stuff like that happened basically every day. For a while I tried to write stuff down, but it was useless because she refused to look at my "stupid scribblings".
@@JOYFULJESTANIMATIONS I should have quit, but I needed that job and was lucky to be hired at all, because I had flunked out of college and had a huge, gaping hole in my CV that made me next to unemployable. There was so much weird shit going on in that company and with that demented weirdo boss. For example, twice it happened that I came into her living room in the morning to start working and she would just walk around naked in front of me and when I looked away embarrassed, she laughed at me and asked whether I never saw a naked woman before. (And no, that was not hot, just to dispel any ideas like that. She was a obese monster.) She also was a criminal and tried to pull me into her criminal activities too. 2 or 3 times a year or so some Albanian dude named Ziggi would come by and sell her stolen Mac Books and iPhones and stuff like that and she got angry when I refused to buy any of the stuff myself. Pretty sure she wanted to have dirt on me to blackmail me.
I think I would fire Veronica. She makes good points but it is so rude that it would create a toxic environment. Also, in several instance she refuses to do what she is told. Most job descriptions have a catch all "other duties as assigned", which would make her refusal insubordination.
Imagine accusing someone of creating a toxic environment because they protect themselves. The projection is strong with you, clearly you're the manager that has something to hide and doesn't want to be exposed.
When a manager has been so bad and so toxic that this has developed in the first place, it's the direct personal failure of the managers. It is also the direct personal failure of whoever owns the business , and whoever manages the manager. Good managers don't create the need for shit like this. Ones who do, destroy morale and productivity, they are a destructive waste of money at their job, they are MANY lawsuits begging to happen, and need to be fired. Put in someone who knows the law and doesn't destroy your company.
ABCDE -Always be Consistent, Document Everything
I always send “recap” emails. If they don’t respond with a correction, then they are tacitly agreeing that it was all correct. Their word against my written documentation. Guess who wins.
I wish I could act like this and speak like this to people in real life withOUT being fired, retailiated against, abandoned, or out right abused. Because in real life people HATE those who speak up for themselves and know how to cover their asses and who can protect themselves from backlash abusive retaliation.
Retaliation is illegal. Period. Check reviews and find a good employment law firm in your area. You may not need them now, but you will in the future. They all give free 30 minute consultations, periodically. (Like, the first time you contact them and then a couple years later, etc.)
If they fire you for obeying the law, you can destroy them in a lawsuit
@@schoolingdiana9086 All very well, but if a firm wants to get rid of you they will !
Carry a pocket recorder and don't tell anyone you have it.
I once had a comically insane and tyrannical boss. I was working as her right-hand man running 2 small companies, a cleaning company and one that rented out rooms and apartments to traveling handymen.
The working conditions were absolutely bonkers. She didn't feel like having to drive to an office in the mornings anymore, so she moved the companies to her mansion and I would sit at a computer desk in her living room, writing invoices and work plans while she was laying on the couch and watch TV.
Not sure whether it was early onset dementia or whether she was just totally overworked because she felt she had to micromanage everything all the time, but she would constantly tell people to do something and then later claim she never did or vice versa.
It wasn't just her forgetting and misremembering stuff though, she also just was really dumb sometimes. For example, she would yell at me and call me stupid because I didn't know stuff that had happened on the weekends, when I wasn't at the office.
I would come in Monday morning and for example rent out a room and write it into the booking plan and she would see it and fly off the handle and call me a retard because I didn't know that she had rented out the room to somebody without writing it into the calendar.
I wasn't the only one who had such problems with her. For example, one day she hired a carpenter to install new kitchen furniture into a bunch of her apartments. He said he would like to start next Saturday and she said OK. On Friday she called him and told him to postpone because she had new customers in 2 of the apartments.
Then the guests cancelled on Saturday and she didn't tell the carpenter, but fired him on Monday because he hadn't done his job and she yelled at me for "taking his side".
Stuff like that happened basically every day. For a while I tried to write stuff down, but it was useless because she refused to look at my "stupid scribblings".
@@TrangleC you should have fired back to her as well😂😂
@@JOYFULJESTANIMATIONS I should have quit, but I needed that job and was lucky to be hired at all, because I had flunked out of college and had a huge, gaping hole in my CV that made me next to unemployable.
There was so much weird shit going on in that company and with that demented weirdo boss.
For example, twice it happened that I came into her living room in the morning to start working and she would just walk around naked in front of me and when I looked away embarrassed, she laughed at me and asked whether I never saw a naked woman before.
(And no, that was not hot, just to dispel any ideas like that. She was a obese monster.)
She also was a criminal and tried to pull me into her criminal activities too. 2 or 3 times a year or so some Albanian dude named Ziggi would come by and sell her stolen Mac Books and iPhones and stuff like that and she got angry when I refused to buy any of the stuff myself. Pretty sure she wanted to have dirt on me to blackmail me.
Always have a paper trail, especially when making complaints to HR
Use Automatic Read Receipts.
They can just choose not to send a read receipt
I think I would fire Veronica. She makes good points but it is so rude that it would create a toxic environment. Also, in several instance she refuses to do what she is told. Most job descriptions have a catch all "other duties as assigned", which would make her refusal insubordination.
Imagine accusing someone of creating a toxic environment because they protect themselves. The projection is strong with you, clearly you're the manager that has something to hide and doesn't want to be exposed.
When a manager has been so bad and so toxic that this has developed in the first place, it's the direct personal failure of the managers. It is also the direct personal failure of whoever owns the business , and whoever manages the manager. Good managers don't create the need for shit like this. Ones who do, destroy morale and productivity, they are a destructive waste of money at their job, they are MANY lawsuits begging to happen, and need to be fired. Put in someone who knows the law and doesn't destroy your company.