I really really wished I knew pushing out a baby is exactly like pushing out a really big stool when you are constipated 🤣 sorry TMI. It would have shortened my pain and saved my energy
How to find out if you allergic to latex. I had a c-section and I was bandaged with latex tape. Within a few hours I had and awful break out around my incision. They had to go out and get fabric bandages to not only cover the incision but the rash surrounding it. They use an ointment to heal it. It was very sore. Now doctors’ offices, ERs and operating rooms don’t use latex at all in my area. Southeast United State.
@@Hope12Grace90 that is exactly how I described it to my daughter. That’s why I advised her to request an enema. The baby put pressure on your colon and if it’s empty no worries.
Mom guilt is society's fault... Since people expect moms to work like they have no kids and raise their kids like they don't work... I think guys (most) don't feel this way since society does not see dads as the main parent to raise the kids, so all that pressure is put on the Mom's shoulders... Shouldn't be like that, but it still happens... I've seen people praising dads for doing normal parenting stuff (like doctor appointments and stuff like that) as if they were doing and going beyond... So kudos to all those parents that are changing the "normal roles" and we should normalize for moms NOT to feel guilty for themselves (working, hobbies, just time for them..) since once the kids grow the mom will still be a person and if her world is 100% their kids, once they grow and leave to make their own live they will have nothing left...
Amen. My husband has always been a great involved father but when the kids were little he would get offered discounts and free stuff when he took the kids out without me. Like he was doing some great thing even though these same places would ask me where the kids were if I came in without any of them.
I love how honestly you talked about how it affected your relationship, and it's wonderful to hear you two had the patience and maturity to get to a point of restoring a healthy dynamic after such a big stressor was put on it.
I personally don't want a baby mainly because of that. I don't want to change my entire lifestyle just for a kid that I probably won't like (ps, I hate babies, so I'm not planning on having any kids in the future at all)
I'm nowhere close to having a baby, but oh boy, thank you, Tina, for always speaking on topics others think are inappropriate. You are like a big sister! Stay happy and healthy! 💜
When I had my baby, I had a 4th degree laceration and going to the bathroom was very uncomfortable. I wish I knew that bleeding would take a while, I was bleeding for around 2 months (took so long!) and lastly, I wish I knew about postpartum depression. I was a single mum and had to work after 2 months and running back home to breastfeed my baby. It was never easy and I'm glad I got through the rough times. My son is now 4 years old and in his pre-school years. You also realised that after 6 months of your baby, they start growing so fast, and it makes you teary eyed.
As someone in their mid-twenties, married but no kids yet, both working 9 to 5s, my husband and I already have a hard time dealing with lack of time to finish everything we need to do. Commuting, making food, cleaning dishes, cleaning the house, washing laundry, taking care of landscaping, caring for the pets (just 2 cats), grocery shopping, etc., is time consuming in general but I know it’s immensely harder for moms, especially when they’re young bc the lack of sleep makes it worse. Moms should not feel guilty about struggling to balance time between their kids and work (including things like household tasks and errands). Even people with typical jobs and basic responsibilities struggle to find time to fit in everything they need to do. Thank you for such an insightful video. I know it will help a lot of new and expecting mothers ❤
Hello from Melbourne, Tina! I’m 20 weeks pregnant and have been really enjoying your baby/pregnancy content - great job mama! Would love to see a video where you go through the newborn/baby essentials that you have found actually are useful, and tips or watch-outs for the 4th trimester. Sending love to you and your beautiful family ❤️
1) hemorrhoids 2) the first few months are hard bc body, mental health. relationships, work, etc - complete life change 3) change in spouse relationship dynamic and dealing with the change 4) hair loss - keep washing your hair 5) being uber emotional after birth 6) if your baby doesn’t keep you up, your breast milk will :T 7) you know your baby best - don’t let others get to you w unsolicited advice, trust yourself 8) parental guild - work, life, parent balance 9) anxiety is normal hope this was helpful
Thank you for being so open and honest about everything, it feels like an older sister telling their little sister every thing she needs to know, although I am a 19 year old, I never knew any of this things. The older women in the family will always sugar coat stuff and but all the 'real' talk behind. You are such a strong woman and a great mother, thanks for making us a part of your motherhood journey.
Me nodding at every point you've made 👏👏👏 thank you for highlighting not only the rollercoaster ride of parenthood but also the relationship aspects that very few people address. I went all full mumma bear mode after my LO was born and my husband had to call me out on it to realise that "the baby is first" did not justify how I should treat people. It's hard as you're in survival mode and sleep deprived, but he was right and we all need to just stop, breathe and be kind. Be kind to yourself and the people around you. I would love an insight from Alfred's point of view what he wish he knew. PS. You're doing us mummas proud 🙌❤️
Hey Tina, been watching your vids for a while, I'm 5 months pregnant and not gonna lie, your pregnancy videos were a huge part of helping me feel ready because of all your helpful tips, complete transparency and I feel like I can relate to you and it was the confidence boost i needed. And now during the pregnancy, every time I've felt overwhelmed about something you post a video relating to it and I feel so much better, this vid came at the right time too, so thank you! Keep going, you are doing a great job mama ❤💪 P.S. My wedding make up was totally saved by your korean bridal make up video, my MU wasn't used to doing asian make up, I showed her your vid and she smashed it after 👍 always saved by ur vids haha. Thought i'd leave a message and let you know how much you've helped me and I'm sure many others. Lots of love from a Msian in Melbourne :) Hope you'd do a meet and greet in Melb if you come back to the land down under hehe.
I’ve had 2 kids myself through caesarean. Honestly no regrets even though it left me a scar. I tried natural birth for my first but unsuccessful as I couldn’t dilate after several induction pills and man the contractions were painful as hell. Watching your kids grow up and progress day by day is the best gift ever. Dun pressure yourself too much nobody’s perfect and you don’t have to be. Take in advice you think is helpful and shut out those that are trying to bring you down. Don’t compromise to look good in front of others. You need to feel good internally and you will naturally radiate. Go do whatever makes you happy and things will be much easier for you. Welcome to motherhood and embrace what may come ❤
same ,had 2 c secs ,no regrets ,but the relation ship with hubby was going sooo curvy .but woof after having my second and final one we are having the best time of our 10 year marriage. we had never been soo passionate about one another before .
My baby will be 2 months old next week. This video is so on point once having a baby 🥹 Finally getting into a routine and when it doesnt go as planned, I always remind myself “tomorrow is a new day”
The sleep deprivation was immensely difficult. Especially when we would had to drive to our baby’s appointment check up with barely any sleep. We literally almost got into 2 car accidents every time we left the house to the doctors. We didn’t have anyone to drive us there.. and yes I agree 🥺 Our relationship was SO rocky but it’s definitely better. Parents need to talk about these things with new / expecting parents. Side note: The Huckleberry App SAVED me the sanity. I couldn’t remember when baby ate or how long baby slept so it helped to track everything.
This is so helpful and important. I think two more critical things is do not compare yourself to other mothers and DO Not compare your baby to other babies, not even siblings. Another thing that is interesting and night help us understand ourselves is reading about how our brains change when we are taking care of a child or a baby.
Hi Tina! I can’t tell you how much appreciate your content always. I am not a commenter (actually ever) by any means but this video is so eye opening, refreshing, and helpful. It is my first time being pregnant and am now 25 weeks pregnant and am quite anxious, but knowing that there are people out there who are willing to be open and transparent about the journey without sugarcoating it, is so helpful. Thank you always for being the wonderful light that you are - Mama Tina, Entrepreneur Tina, we love them all. Sending you so much love to you and your family! ❤
U R doing great as a Mom! It does make a difference when you have that support from ur partner. Just enjoy every stage of her life! Our kids are grown 20 & 21 respectively daughter and son. Keep up the good work Moma Tina and continue to slay!!!
Even as a father, this is an amazing tool to be aware of what to expect to give the best possible support to the mother of your child. I appreciate the honesty and not sugar coating everything, it's better to be informed and what actually does happen with feelings and experiences. Well done.
I just had my baby 2 weeks ago and I can absolutely on everything you've mentioned. Motherhood and breastfeeding is HARD. Glad to know we're all in this together. Love how real your videos are Tina ❤️
Hello Tina! I had my baby around the same time as you. Baby boy just turned 7 months on November 16. I understand and agree with everything you talked about in this video. Especially the mom guilt. I went back to work the same week my college started. Right after baby turned 4 months old. I’m taking 16 units, working, and taking care of a baby. 😓 My husband, like Alfred, doesn’t struggle with dad guilt. It’s good because he is able to just get things done without stressing. Sometimes, I get so stressed I end up sleeping. 😅 I wish more women told me how hard breastfeeding would be, and how hard pumping at work would be. I want quit almost every day, but that’s another thing I would feel guilty about. I’m very glad you are sharing your knowledge with other future mamas. Thank you, Tina. ❤️
Hi Tina! Thank you for all your lovely content! Im pregnant with my first child and there is just an overwhelming amount of info and SO MUCH stress. What is right, what is normal, it has been a rollercoaster of emotions. I am very glad to see your side and hear your kind words. Every experience is different but it is nice to see so many mommas sticking together and helping each other up.
Totally agree with you about pressures to be everything and that can be so overwhelming! Thank you for speaking about that, I find women like you so inspiring. I don’t even have a baby yet but I am planning to in the next year and it’s so nice hearing about your experience and everything you went through. Thank you! ❤️
the adjustment is so hard single to being a mom...but when see the smile and little laugh of your bb all these tirednes is awarded by our little angel...tc from germany
Thank you for these TMI videos, one of the scariest things about pregnancy and birth for me is the unknowns. I feel like no one ever talks about these things but it is so necessary for young women approaching adulthood/motherhood. Thank you for such informative videos that really clear up so many questions for me in the future.
I agree. I didn’t know much about motherhood until I had a baby, that’s why I think it’s important to share this info with others so if they decide to have a baby, they know what to expect and it won’t be a complete shock to the system.
Sleep deprivation is effin REAL. My baby is now 7mos old and I wouldn't trade her for anything in this world but dangggg I'm craving for an 8 hours of sleep!!! 😢 Also, even if it's cliche to hear that we can still get back in shape, I am still saddened by the fact that my clothes does not fit me any longer. I now wear medium-large sized clothing from small. How I wish I knew all of these postartum dilemma 😑
This was so honest and helpful! I’m think about this next step in my life and hearing your experiences truly does give me some insight ❤ so proud of the woman and mother you’re becoming Tina!
Your momma videos are the best! So honest and (yet not disgusting Lol). I think you are answering the questions we have all always wanted to know, with great advice built in! Keep going girl!
Wow I love this!! Thank you for the raw honesty!! Social media makes it look so easy and honestly I feel like I may be rushing into having a baby and this makes me realize I need to just slow down and let gods plan come to fruition! 🙏🏻🙏🏻
One thing I wish I knew as a new mom was that it was ok to not exclusively breastfeed and that bottle feeding breast milk is just as ok. I was traumatized from breastfeeding for a couple of days because my son just wouldn't latch properly so I was constantly in pain and my nipples bled. Even after getting two lactation consultants to help me get him to latch and it didn't help. So that stress started to affect my milk supply and when we were discharged that night I panicked because he wasn't getting enough milk and was crying and I was crying...it was a hot mess. I had to formula feed him and give him what like breast milk i could pump so he could at least get something to eat. I had to reassure myself that I wasn't a bad mom and I would rather make sure my son is growing and eating rather than tie myself to exclusively breastfeed because society deemed it so. Because I allowed myself to alleviate my stressor my milk supply is coming back and my baby is growing. I do both formula and breast milk still and although he still doesn't latch to my breast (at this point he got accustomed to the bottle anyway because apparently I didn't use a slow stream nipple or something like that) we still bond in other ways and he's growing so I'm happy.
Thank you for informative & honest video! I would love to hear on preparation for baby's nursery, hospital bags etc. Or maybe items that you found the most useful for you & the baby, sinceyou have given birth.
Love this video. Glad you are doing you. My girls are teens already and I just want to say that mom guilt and anxiety never leave. You learn to manage your situation and how to cope. All I will say is enjoy every minute of it. It may not always be easy but children are a love that is worth it.
Can we have a dad version of this pregnancy journey? Like how should they act and do especially you've gone back to working again, what do they do during then. Thank you
honestly, there were things about pregnancy i wish i knew, im currently 4 months pregnant🥰, but i wish someone walked me thru it at the beginning, like the symptoms, and how sex is different,, and what the nausea is like your emotions ur sleep like lol i think it would’ve been better for you to start w pregnancy first, hehe im a little new to your channel but informing ppl about what ur pregnancy is like then this vid, but i love the advice,🥰 it’s helpful im gonna need it😅
Love u so much Tina I just wanna say this...u r like a sister for me❤️watching ur videos for ages now..but videos after u r pregnant felt like so heartful and I felt u r real and humble..
Me too! Oh my gosh! I feel like I am always mad at the father of my baby. Felt so alone most if the time. Feels like I am doing all the things and struggling with sleepless nights but I know for a fact that he is there helping me. It is just I’m so frustrated that he is not moving as fast as he should be.
not a mom but I have had hemorrhoids...still do and yes, those things hurt....like hell ...to the extent that I used to be paranoid about having to go to the bathroom. Just the act of sitting on the toilet made me sweat and I have cried on the toilet seat...Later you can't sit, can't stand......I can't imagine what it must be like having that hellish encounter right after giving birth. Hemorrhoid trauma is real people... Drink a lot of water...water ...
I wish I knew how fast time would fly by. My son just turned 20 and I'm thinking, wow where did the time go?! Cherish as much as you can, take all the pics & videos, journal, etc. My biggest regret was just not slowing down and appreciating the time a bit more but hey that's part of this crazy life! Lol You're doing great momma!
Thank you for being so vulnerable Tina! I literally experienced everything you did as well! The one thing I wish they would of told me about was CLUSTER FEEDING! I didn’t know it was normal for the baby to eat every hour at the beginning! When we first brought my now 5mo old home, she nursed EVERY HOUR for about 45 mins each feeding. I felt like a total zombie and almost gave up on breastfeeding! It only lasted about a week, but I wish they would have told me about it!
My baby was born about a week before yours! I love watching all your videos especially the ones about new mom life. I would love to see a video about how you got introduced Lyla to solids and what worked for you! We're currently trying to figure out what works 😊.
Thanks so much for sharing! This is very helpful as my husband and I have been talking about family planning. I’m typically a sensitive, anxious person, so I can totally imagine how all of my emotions will be heightened 😭
Not even thinking about getting pregnant for another 5 years, but thank you so much for being so open about your experience!! A lot of people don't talk about it so openly and it's much appreciated!
Hi Tina, I am 34weeks pregnant and I've been watching your videos. Thanks for sharing these info as I'm feeling very anxious now as we get closer to the delivery date. I attended birthing classes just because I'll be a first time mom but obviously I still feel unsure about a lot of things! I learned some more things watching your videos, and I really admire how brave you are to talk about these super personal stuff which I don't know I'd be so open to talk about. Thank you! Something I'd want to see in your videos is whether the way you prepare yourself / do your make up has changed pre-pregnancy and after. Are there shortcuts that you're now taking to make yourself look presentable on your videos and going out. :)
It is a miracle having a baby. Like you I wasn’t prepared for my first born son. Everything you said happened to me. The only difference is I lived with my in-laws so my mother in law helped me a lot with my son. She taught me everything which I’m very thankful for her. It is hard but to all new mommies you’re going to be a great mom.
I'm 20weeks now and last days I feel kind of overwhelmed for no exact reason. My body changes so much now and I probably can't keep up. I'm also terified of breast feeding 😔 But with so much anxiety that I have I still remind myself how much I look forward to have a baby. Thank you so much for this topic. ❣️
I'd like to see tips & tricks for moms, pregnancy / postpartum products you found useful, baby products that made your journey easier, stuff you had but didn't use or didn't work.
That's the first thing my friend said to me when I asked her for advice. She said 'you know your baby best!' and boy was she right. Best advice ever! ❤️😍❤️😍
Just had my third baby ...and yes a lot of things changed,my relationship with husband and the first two changed alot...i didn't had any time or proper time for my first two kids,they felt left out .. ofcourse their dad came at rescue but it was hard for me to be calm knowing I'm not providing enough for the first two....now things are getting better...he's 3 month now,n developed a sleep routine...so basically I do most of the things when he is sleeping... resting is not an option still 🤗but I m happy 😁
13 moths post partum and I feel like I could have said this all myself! (Minus the hemoroide thing....I didn't have that issue luckily). You are doing amazing with your baby girl! The part that struck a cord with me is when you talk about how you ask your husband for things now when baby is crying - yeah, thats me to the core. When my girl is crying its like ...a sense of urgency.
I love co sleeping with my babies. I think it builds a stronger bond. Everyone is different and if you don't feel safe that's fair enough, but if you know you can do it safely and want to,no one should try to take that decision out of your hands,and make you feel bad about it. All of our babies have different needs and all you can do is to be the best mama and papa you can be. That's what's important 😊
Thanks for sharing all this valuable information with us, Tina! I am sending this video to one of my best friends who recently became a dad. I am sure your experience and comments will be extremely useful during their journey as new parents! 💖💖💖 Thank you!
i had to be induced because there were no signs of labour eventhough i’m already in the 40th week, and finally gave birth 27 hours after. it’s an understatement when people said the contractions felt like x10 worse of menstrual pain 😂😮💨 i had wanted to go drug-free but couldn’t take the pain so had to opt in for epidural eventually. they had to cut down there to make more space for the baby to come out. first few weeks was the worst, with the perineal healing and lack of sleep and overwhelming with the knowledge as a new parent. im lucky to have my MIL take care of the baby during that period. you’re so accurate about relationship with hubby affected. i spoke like that to him eventhough i dont even do that pre-baby 🤣😭 my baby girl’s going 2 months now and all the sleepless nights were worth it. i just wished my mum was around to witness her first granddaughter growing up (she passed away a week before i was due) ❤
I still wake up in the middle of the night and check to make sure my kids are breathing. They are 6 & 4 years old. That anxiety will never go away. For me.
Please do talk about stretch marks and changes to the skin post-pregnancy and your skincare routine to deal with them. Im sure it will help a lot of us. ❤️❤️
Hi Tina, always love watching your videos! It’s so real, relatable and handy! I’m giving birth this week and I’m so clueless as to what to expect. Can you do a video on baby must haves/ essentials ? I e could be products, apps or routines that work for you.
Love your content and I’m so excited to follow you on this journey!! I definitely think the pressure women feel is shaped by society but you’ll be an amazing role model to Lyla in addition to all aspiring female entrepreneurs 💕
I love pictures of your whole family, including the dog. Has he been jealous of the baby? I think making this video will help new mom's, I think hearing these things from a "friend" (I know you're not my real friend but you share your life so I feel like I know you.) helps. Shea Whitney has a million commercials on UA-cam for Vegamour. She started using it after having a baby. Many critics say it doesn't really work because the new growth was after post-partum hair loss. Mom guilt is partly hormonal. Your body knows it just had a baby.
Christ I can understand and feel each and everything you said in this video... Stool softener is the best thing my doc gave to me. I joined work after 4 months, and it was so hard.
Your background looks breathtaking. I love the style and colorscheme. You are my favorite UA-camr. I really like your clothing haul and cooking video's.
I'm a beagle Mum, so not one for a human haha. I just wanted to say I love how real your discussions are esp as my partner and I are getting to the stage of deciding on whether to have kids. Last thing, I heard this quote off Headspace, "There's never a bad day, just a bad moment", so thought I'd add some positivity in the comments. From a fellow Aussie in the Netherlands x
Love love this video! Thank you Tina! Would love to see a video about your breastfeeding journey, tips and tricks on what you do when you go to work re: pumping and how introducing solids is affecting BFing. Also would be great to get a video with you and Alfred about how you guys deal with your changing relationship and becoming parents!
OMG, when I saw what was happening to your hair the first thing I said was "Take your prenatal vitamins!" I'm so happy that your hair is growing back! Often times I wash my hair separately from my body in cool water, I put a few drops of cinnamon oil in my shampoo bottle (it stimulates the hair follicles), and instead of conditioner I use hair masks. Aloe on hair and skin too. When I had a health scare, this helped me with hair loss. Anyone can get hemorrhoids for straining, they stop bleeding but, those things stay. I feel you girl, they suck. Thanks for sharing your authentic motherhood experience. I want to be a mom someday soon so, I'm excited to listen in. Keep doing what you're doing beautiful mama!
I really feel the need to tell you that I am currently pregnant on my 6th month and your videos are always so informative for me preparing for a lot of things...even the way you prepared the nursery is inspiring for me haha. But yes thank you so much for your videos, I have a playlist for pregnancy and most of your videos regarding this subject are saved in there 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you for being so open about it all. It seems a lot of it still isn't discussed enough. Also, I thought the hair loss and feeling oversensitive was down to the huge hormone fluctuations & physical "shock" as well. Here's a fun thing my mom found out btw that no one told her about, that food can influence breast milk in a big way. As a baby I kept crying a lot and they didn't know why until finally after almost a year the doctors figured it's because my mom ate spicy food at times and it upset my bowels as a baby. As soon as she stopped I stopped crying so much!
I'd love to know from other mums out there, what are some things you wish you knew about before having a baby?
I wished Ive watched this video first before becoming a mom 😅😅
I really really wished I knew pushing out a baby is exactly like pushing out a really big stool when you are constipated 🤣 sorry TMI. It would have shortened my pain and saved my energy
How to find out if you allergic to latex. I had a c-section and I was bandaged with latex tape. Within a few hours I had and awful break out around my incision. They had to go out and get fabric bandages to not only cover the incision but the rash surrounding it. They use an ointment to heal it. It was very sore. Now doctors’ offices, ERs and operating rooms don’t use latex at all in my area. Southeast United State.
Baby must haves , regrets
@@Hope12Grace90 that is exactly how I described it to my daughter. That’s why I advised her to request an enema. The baby put pressure on your colon and if it’s empty no worries.
Mom guilt is society's fault... Since people expect moms to work like they have no kids and raise their kids like they don't work... I think guys (most) don't feel this way since society does not see dads as the main parent to raise the kids, so all that pressure is put on the Mom's shoulders... Shouldn't be like that, but it still happens... I've seen people praising dads for doing normal parenting stuff (like doctor appointments and stuff like that) as if they were doing and going beyond... So kudos to all those parents that are changing the "normal roles" and we should normalize for moms NOT to feel guilty for themselves (working, hobbies, just time for them..) since once the kids grow the mom will still be a person and if her world is 100% their kids, once they grow and leave to make their own live they will have nothing left...
Yes🙌🙌
Well put
Amen. My husband has always been a great involved father but when the kids were little he would get offered discounts and free stuff when he took the kids out without me. Like he was doing some great thing even though these same places would ask me where the kids were if I came in without any of them.
Couldn’t agree more. My sister went through a similar experience
Yep. You hear dads talk about babysitting their kids and like no, my dude. No. They’re your kids, you are not babysitting, you are parenting.
I love how honestly you talked about how it affected your relationship, and it's wonderful to hear you two had the patience and maturity to get to a point of restoring a healthy dynamic after such a big stressor was put on it.
My friend had a baby 6 months ago and her relationship to her partner changed too, even her voice kinda dropped an octave which was interesting
Couldn’t agree more. She’s helping so many women
I personally don't want a baby mainly because of that. I don't want to change my entire lifestyle just for a kid that I probably won't like (ps, I hate babies, so I'm not planning on having any kids in the future at all)
I'm nowhere close to having a baby, but oh boy, thank you, Tina, for always speaking on topics others think are inappropriate. You are like a big sister! Stay happy and healthy! 💜
When I had my baby, I had a 4th degree laceration and going to the bathroom was very uncomfortable. I wish I knew that bleeding would take a while, I was bleeding for around 2 months (took so long!) and lastly, I wish I knew about postpartum depression. I was a single mum and had to work after 2 months and running back home to breastfeed my baby. It was never easy and I'm glad I got through the rough times. My son is now 4 years old and in his pre-school years. You also realised that after 6 months of your baby, they start growing so fast, and it makes you teary eyed.
You are a super mum!!
Wow I don’t know you but you sound incredible! Just know you’re doing amazingly! ❤❤
@@khalilahd. gurl I swear I saw you everywhere----
As someone in their mid-twenties, married but no kids yet, both working 9 to 5s, my husband and I already have a hard time dealing with lack of time to finish everything we need to do. Commuting, making food, cleaning dishes, cleaning the house, washing laundry, taking care of landscaping, caring for the pets (just 2 cats), grocery shopping, etc., is time consuming in general but I know it’s immensely harder for moms, especially when they’re young bc the lack of sleep makes it worse. Moms should not feel guilty about struggling to balance time between their kids and work (including things like household tasks and errands). Even people with typical jobs and basic responsibilities struggle to find time to fit in everything they need to do. Thank you for such an insightful video. I know it will help a lot of new and expecting mothers ❤
Hello from Melbourne, Tina! I’m 20 weeks pregnant and have been really enjoying your baby/pregnancy content - great job mama! Would love to see a video where you go through the newborn/baby essentials that you have found actually are useful, and tips or watch-outs for the 4th trimester. Sending love to you and your beautiful family ❤️
A video on mama or baby products that you've found useful for the first few months would be great 😊
1) hemorrhoids
2) the first few months are hard bc body, mental health. relationships, work, etc - complete life change
3) change in spouse relationship dynamic and dealing with the change
4) hair loss - keep washing your hair
5) being uber emotional after birth
6) if your baby doesn’t keep you up, your breast milk will :T
7) you know your baby best - don’t let others get to you w unsolicited advice, trust yourself
8) parental guild - work, life, parent balance
9) anxiety is normal
hope this was helpful
Thank you for being so open and honest about everything, it feels like an older sister telling their little sister every thing she needs to know, although I am a 19 year old, I never knew any of this things. The older women in the family will always sugar coat stuff and but all the 'real' talk behind. You are such a strong woman and a great mother, thanks for making us a part of your motherhood journey.
Me nodding at every point you've made 👏👏👏 thank you for highlighting not only the rollercoaster ride of parenthood but also the relationship aspects that very few people address. I went all full mumma bear mode after my LO was born and my husband had to call me out on it to realise that "the baby is first" did not justify how I should treat people. It's hard as you're in survival mode and sleep deprived, but he was right and we all need to just stop, breathe and be kind. Be kind to yourself and the people around you.
I would love an insight from Alfred's point of view what he wish he knew.
PS. You're doing us mummas proud 🙌❤️
Hey Tina, been watching your vids for a while, I'm 5 months pregnant and not gonna lie, your pregnancy videos were a huge part of helping me feel ready because of all your helpful tips, complete transparency and I feel like I can relate to you and it was the confidence boost i needed. And now during the pregnancy, every time I've felt overwhelmed about something you post a video relating to it and I feel so much better, this vid came at the right time too, so thank you! Keep going, you are doing a great job mama ❤💪
P.S. My wedding make up was totally saved by your korean bridal make up video, my MU wasn't used to doing asian make up, I showed her your vid and she smashed it after 👍 always saved by ur vids haha. Thought i'd leave a message and let you know how much you've helped me and I'm sure many others. Lots of love from a Msian in Melbourne :) Hope you'd do a meet and greet in Melb if you come back to the land down under hehe.
Awww thanks for your lovely message. Wishing you all the best with your pregnancy and journey into motherhood! ❤️
I’ve had 2 kids myself through caesarean. Honestly no regrets even though it left me a scar. I tried natural birth for my first but unsuccessful as I couldn’t dilate after several induction pills and man the contractions were painful as hell. Watching your kids grow up and progress day by day is the best gift ever. Dun pressure yourself too much nobody’s perfect and you don’t have to be. Take in advice you think is helpful and shut out those that are trying to bring you down. Don’t compromise to look good in front of others. You need to feel good internally and you will naturally radiate. Go do whatever makes you happy and things will be much easier for you. Welcome to motherhood and embrace what may come ❤
same ,had 2 c secs ,no regrets ,but the relation ship with hubby was going sooo curvy .but woof after having my second and final one we are having the best time of our 10 year marriage. we had never been soo passionate about one another before .
My baby will be 2 months old next week. This video is so on point once having a baby 🥹 Finally getting into a routine and when it doesnt go as planned, I always remind myself “tomorrow is a new day”
The sleep deprivation was immensely difficult. Especially when we would had to drive to our baby’s appointment check up with barely any sleep. We literally almost got into 2 car accidents every time we left the house to the doctors. We didn’t have anyone to drive us there.. and yes I agree 🥺 Our relationship was SO rocky but it’s definitely better. Parents need to talk about these things with new / expecting parents. Side note: The Huckleberry App SAVED me the sanity. I couldn’t remember when baby ate or how long baby slept so it helped to track everything.
This is so helpful and important. I think two more critical things is do not compare yourself to other mothers and DO Not compare your baby to other babies, not even siblings. Another thing that is interesting and night help us understand ourselves is reading about how our brains change when we are taking care of a child or a baby.
Hi Tina! I can’t tell you how much appreciate your content always. I am not a commenter (actually ever) by any means but this video is so eye opening, refreshing, and helpful. It is my first time being pregnant and am now 25 weeks pregnant and am quite anxious, but knowing that there are people out there who are willing to be open and transparent about the journey without sugarcoating it, is so helpful. Thank you always for being the wonderful light that you are - Mama Tina, Entrepreneur Tina, we love them all. Sending you so much love to you and your family! ❤
U R doing great as a Mom! It does make a difference when you have that support from ur partner. Just enjoy every stage of her life! Our kids are grown 20 & 21 respectively daughter and son. Keep up the good work Moma Tina and continue to slay!!!
Such good advice to all the new moms/moms-to-be 😊 God bless you Tina 😘
Even as a father, this is an amazing tool to be aware of what to expect to give the best possible support to the mother of your child.
I appreciate the honesty and not sugar coating everything, it's better to be informed and what actually does happen with feelings and experiences.
Well done.
Thanks for watching! More dads should be aware of this to better support their partners 👍🏻
I just had my baby 2 weeks ago and I can absolutely on everything you've mentioned. Motherhood and breastfeeding is HARD. Glad to know we're all in this together. Love how real your videos are Tina ❤️
Hello Tina! I had my baby around the same time as you. Baby boy just turned 7 months on November 16. I understand and agree with everything you talked about in this video. Especially the mom guilt. I went back to work the same week my college started. Right after baby turned 4 months old. I’m taking 16 units, working, and taking care of a baby. 😓 My husband, like Alfred, doesn’t struggle with dad guilt. It’s good because he is able to just get things done without stressing. Sometimes, I get so stressed I end up sleeping. 😅 I wish more women told me how hard breastfeeding would be, and how hard pumping at work would be. I want quit almost every day, but that’s another thing I would feel guilty about. I’m very glad you are sharing your knowledge with other future mamas. Thank you, Tina. ❤️
I love how transparent you always are Tina that’s why we love you!♥️
Hi Tina! Thank you for all your lovely content! Im pregnant with my first child and there is just an overwhelming amount of info and SO MUCH stress. What is right, what is normal, it has been a rollercoaster of emotions. I am very glad to see your side and hear your kind words. Every experience is different but it is nice to see so many mommas sticking together and helping each other up.
Totally agree with you about pressures to be everything and that can be so overwhelming! Thank you for speaking about that, I find women like you so inspiring. I don’t even have a baby yet but I am planning to in the next year and it’s so nice hearing about your experience and everything you went through. Thank you! ❤️
the adjustment is so hard single to being a mom...but when see the smile and little laugh of your bb all these tirednes is awarded by our little angel...tc from germany
Due in about a month, rewatching all your baby related videos. So glad it’s on YT, makes me feel so much less alone and clueless
Thank you for these TMI videos, one of the scariest things about pregnancy and birth for me is the unknowns. I feel like no one ever talks about these things but it is so necessary for young women approaching adulthood/motherhood. Thank you for such informative videos that really clear up so many questions for me in the future.
I agree. I didn’t know much about motherhood until I had a baby, that’s why I think it’s important to share this info with others so if they decide to have a baby, they know what to expect and it won’t be a complete shock to the system.
Sleep deprivation is effin REAL. My baby is now 7mos old and I wouldn't trade her for anything in this world but dangggg I'm craving for an 8 hours of sleep!!! 😢 Also, even if it's cliche to hear that we can still get back in shape, I am still saddened by the fact that my clothes does not fit me any longer. I now wear medium-large sized clothing from small. How I wish I knew all of these postartum dilemma 😑
Everyday that passes you get more and more beautiful .❤️
This was so honest and helpful! I’m think about this next step in my life and hearing your experiences truly does give me some insight ❤ so proud of the woman and mother you’re becoming Tina!
Your momma videos are the best! So honest and (yet not disgusting Lol). I think you are answering the questions we have all always wanted to know, with great advice built in! Keep going girl!
Wow I love this!! Thank you for the raw honesty!! Social media makes it look so easy and honestly I feel like I may be rushing into having a baby and this makes me realize I need to just slow down and let gods plan come to fruition! 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Send you and all new mothers a lot of support! ❤❤❤
One thing I wish I knew as a new mom was that it was ok to not exclusively breastfeed and that bottle feeding breast milk is just as ok. I was traumatized from breastfeeding for a couple of days because my son just wouldn't latch properly so I was constantly in pain and my nipples bled. Even after getting two lactation consultants to help me get him to latch and it didn't help. So that stress started to affect my milk supply and when we were discharged that night I panicked because he wasn't getting enough milk and was crying and I was crying...it was a hot mess. I had to formula feed him and give him what like breast milk i could pump so he could at least get something to eat. I had to reassure myself that I wasn't a bad mom and I would rather make sure my son is growing and eating rather than tie myself to exclusively breastfeed because society deemed it so. Because I allowed myself to alleviate my stressor my milk supply is coming back and my baby is growing. I do both formula and breast milk still and although he still doesn't latch to my breast (at this point he got accustomed to the bottle anyway because apparently I didn't use a slow stream nipple or something like that) we still bond in other ways and he's growing so I'm happy.
I am childfree by choice and I have such a huge respect for mums all over the world. You guys are the rea superheros!
Thank you for informative & honest video! I would love to hear on preparation for baby's nursery, hospital bags etc. Or maybe items that you found the most useful for you & the baby, sinceyou have given birth.
36 weeks pregnant and I have been LOVING these videos! So excited for my baby girl to be here!
Love this video. Glad you are doing you. My girls are teens already and I just want to say that mom guilt and anxiety never leave. You learn to manage your situation and how to cope. All I will say is enjoy every minute of it. It may not always be easy but children are a love that is worth it.
Can we have a dad version of this pregnancy journey? Like how should they act and do especially you've gone back to working again, what do they do during then. Thank you
honestly, there were things about pregnancy i wish i knew, im currently 4 months pregnant🥰, but i wish someone walked me thru it at the beginning, like the symptoms, and how sex is different,, and what the nausea is like your emotions ur sleep like lol i think it would’ve been better for you to start w pregnancy first, hehe im a little new to your channel but informing ppl about what ur pregnancy is like then this vid, but i love the advice,🥰 it’s helpful im gonna need it😅
Love u so much Tina I just wanna say this...u r like a sister for me❤️watching ur videos for ages now..but videos after u r pregnant felt like so heartful and I felt u r real and humble..
Me too! Oh my gosh! I feel like I am always mad at the father of my baby. Felt so alone most if the time. Feels like I am doing all the things and struggling with sleepless nights but I know for a fact that he is there helping me. It is just I’m so frustrated that he is not moving as fast as he should be.
not a mom but I have had hemorrhoids...still do and yes, those things hurt....like hell ...to the extent that I used to be paranoid about having to go to the bathroom. Just the act of sitting on the toilet made me sweat and I have cried on the toilet seat...Later you can't sit, can't stand......I can't imagine what it must be like having that hellish encounter right after giving birth. Hemorrhoid trauma is real people... Drink a lot of water...water ...
I wish I knew how fast time would fly by. My son just turned 20 and I'm thinking, wow where did the time go?! Cherish as much as you can, take all the pics & videos, journal, etc. My biggest regret was just not slowing down and appreciating the time a bit more but hey that's part of this crazy life! Lol You're doing great momma!
Thank you for being so vulnerable Tina! I literally experienced everything you did as well!
The one thing I wish they would of told me about was CLUSTER FEEDING! I didn’t know it was normal for the baby to eat every hour at the beginning! When we first brought my now 5mo old home, she nursed EVERY HOUR for about 45 mins each feeding. I felt like a total zombie and almost gave up on breastfeeding! It only lasted about a week, but I wish they would have told me about it!
My baby was born about a week before yours! I love watching all your videos especially the ones about new mom life. I would love to see a video about how you got introduced Lyla to solids and what worked for you! We're currently trying to figure out what works 😊.
Thanks so much for sharing! This is very helpful as my husband and I have been talking about family planning. I’m typically a sensitive, anxious person, so I can totally imagine how all of my emotions will be heightened 😭
Not even thinking about getting pregnant for another 5 years, but thank you so much for being so open about your experience!! A lot of people don't talk about it so openly and it's much appreciated!
It’s weird because I don’t even want kids and had a hysterectomy but I still find these sorts of videos interesting.
Hi Tina, I am 34weeks pregnant and I've been watching your videos. Thanks for sharing these info as I'm feeling very anxious now as we get closer to the delivery date. I attended birthing classes just because I'll be a first time mom but obviously I still feel unsure about a lot of things! I learned some more things watching your videos, and I really admire how brave you are to talk about these super personal stuff which I don't know I'd be so open to talk about. Thank you!
Something I'd want to see in your videos is whether the way you prepare yourself / do your make up has changed pre-pregnancy and after. Are there shortcuts that you're now taking to make yourself look presentable on your videos and going out. :)
It is a miracle having a baby. Like you I wasn’t prepared for my first born son. Everything you said happened to me. The only difference is I lived with my in-laws so my mother in law helped me a lot with my son. She taught me everything which I’m very thankful for her. It is hard but to all new mommies you’re going to be a great mom.
I'm 20weeks now and last days I feel kind of overwhelmed for no exact reason. My body changes so much now and I probably can't keep up. I'm also terified of breast feeding 😔 But with so much anxiety that I have I still remind myself how much I look forward to have a baby. Thank you so much for this topic. ❣️
Hannah Witton has a great video here on UA-cam on breastfeeding and things to help with.
@@woolypuffin392 I'll check that, thank you!
Hey keep them coming!! I helps this mom help my expecting daughter.
Was about to go to bed, but I saw this and had to click!
I'd like to see tips & tricks for moms, pregnancy / postpartum products you found useful, baby products that made your journey easier, stuff you had but didn't use or didn't work.
The honesty and raw nature of this video 👏👏
That's the first thing my friend said to me when I asked her for advice. She said 'you know your baby best!' and boy was she right. Best advice ever! ❤️😍❤️😍
I’ve loved watching you and Alfred grow as parents, Lyla is a very lucky little lady xx 💋
I love that you get straight into the video!! Thanks for the info!
Very relatable.. I experienced everything you said and I'm glad that I am not alone. Thank you for sharing 💓
Thank you for this honest video. It is really great to share these experiences with other women. You do not feel weird anymore. 😍
Girl! Yeah, I found myself nodding the whole time. big hugs. Mamahood is so hard but so fulfilling.
Just had my third baby ...and yes a lot of things changed,my relationship with husband and the first two changed alot...i didn't had any time or proper time for my first two kids,they felt left out .. ofcourse their dad came at rescue but it was hard for me to be calm knowing I'm not providing enough for the first two....now things are getting better...he's 3 month now,n developed a sleep routine...so basically I do most of the things when he is sleeping... resting is not an option still 🤗but I m happy 😁
13 moths post partum and I feel like I could have said this all myself! (Minus the hemoroide thing....I didn't have that issue luckily). You are doing amazing with your baby girl!
The part that struck a cord with me is when you talk about how you ask your husband for things now when baby is crying - yeah, thats me to the core. When my girl is crying its like ...a sense of urgency.
You sound like a wonderful mum 💛
im so proud of how far you've come tina
I love co sleeping with my babies. I think it builds a stronger bond. Everyone is different and if you don't feel safe that's fair enough, but if you know you can do it safely and want to,no one should try to take that decision out of your hands,and make you feel bad about it. All of our babies have different needs and all you can do is to be the best mama and papa you can be. That's what's important 😊
Thanks for sharing all this valuable information with us, Tina! I am sending this video to one of my best friends who recently became a dad. I am sure your experience and comments will be extremely useful during their journey as new parents! 💖💖💖 Thank you!
You’re such a super mom ! Go Mama Tina!!!! 😘🫵🏼💕
So glad for this video, it's gonna help so many of us prepare for motherhood beforehand ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. My hubby and I are soon to be parents and you really took at lot of my "baby fears" away. ❤️
i had to be induced because there were no signs of labour eventhough i’m already in the 40th week, and finally gave birth 27 hours after. it’s an understatement when people said the contractions felt like x10 worse of menstrual pain 😂😮💨 i had wanted to go drug-free but couldn’t take the pain so had to opt in for epidural eventually. they had to cut down there to make more space for the baby to come out.
first few weeks was the worst, with the perineal healing and lack of sleep and overwhelming with the knowledge as a new parent. im lucky to have my MIL take care of the baby during that period. you’re so accurate about relationship with hubby affected. i spoke like that to him eventhough i dont even do that pre-baby 🤣😭
my baby girl’s going 2 months now and all the sleepless nights were worth it. i just wished my mum was around to witness her first granddaughter growing up (she passed away a week before i was due) ❤
I still wake up in the middle of the night and check to make sure my kids are breathing. They are 6 & 4 years old. That anxiety will never go away. For me.
My mom admitted to doing it when I was in my late 20s. I suspect that’s an always thing for many moms. ❤😊
Oh gosh. I thought it’s just me. My sunshine is 14 months old. And I did that when he didn’t change his sleeping poses in awhile.
Please do talk about stretch marks and changes to the skin post-pregnancy and your skincare routine to deal with them. Im sure it will help a lot of us. ❤️❤️
Hi Tina, always love watching your videos! It’s so real, relatable and handy! I’m giving birth this week and I’m so clueless as to what to expect. Can you do a video on baby must haves/ essentials ? I e could be products, apps or routines that work for you.
Love your content and I’m so excited to follow you on this journey!! I definitely think the pressure women feel is shaped by society but you’ll be an amazing role model to Lyla in addition to all aspiring female entrepreneurs 💕
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She is absolutely adorable. Congratulations
Great tips I like how your nails match your outfit
Can try to rub ginger soaked in sorghum wine. It stimulates blood circulation in the area and encourages the nutrients to be delivered to the area
Tina! You are the big sister to us, we appreciate you sharing TMI !!!
Omg thank you dear so much, i am having my first baby any day now In Sha Allah! And i love getting tips from a Queen ❤️🥺
Congratulations 💖💘💝👼👶🏻! Just do you! All you can do is your best, regardless of what the world demands or the norms of society!
You are strong Mama. Continue to stay strong!!
I’m 2 months postpartum and in the thick of it all! Glad I watched this video 😅
I love pictures of your whole family, including the dog. Has he been jealous of the baby? I think making this video will help new mom's, I think hearing these things from a "friend" (I know you're not my real friend but you share your life so I feel like I know you.) helps. Shea Whitney has a million commercials on UA-cam for Vegamour. She started using it after having a baby. Many critics say it doesn't really work because the new growth was after post-partum hair loss. Mom guilt is partly hormonal. Your body knows it just had a baby.
Christ I can understand and feel each and everything you said in this video...
Stool softener is the best thing my doc gave to me.
I joined work after 4 months, and it was so hard.
Your background looks breathtaking. I love the style and colorscheme. You are my favorite UA-camr. I really like your clothing haul and cooking video's.
Love your videos!❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much for your honesty!❤️🙏❤️
Just love ur chit chat talk videos ...feels like i have a frnd talking with me💜💜....btw waiting for some try on hauls..😅....love ya
Please do a video on breastfeeding and pumping schedules and what food/supplements helped to increase milk production and supply! Thank you
I'm a beagle Mum, so not one for a human haha. I just wanted to say I love how real your discussions are esp as my partner and I are getting to the stage of deciding on whether to have kids. Last thing, I heard this quote off Headspace, "There's never a bad day, just a bad moment", so thought I'd add some positivity in the comments. From a fellow Aussie in the Netherlands x
Love love this video! Thank you Tina! Would love to see a video about your breastfeeding journey, tips and tricks on what you do when you go to work re: pumping and how introducing solids is affecting BFing. Also would be great to get a video with you and Alfred about how you guys deal with your changing relationship and becoming parents!
OMG, when I saw what was happening to your hair the first thing I said was "Take your prenatal vitamins!" I'm so happy that your hair is growing back! Often times I wash my hair separately from my body in cool water, I put a few drops of cinnamon oil in my shampoo bottle (it stimulates the hair follicles), and instead of conditioner I use hair masks. Aloe on hair and skin too. When I had a health scare, this helped me with hair loss. Anyone can get hemorrhoids for straining, they stop bleeding but, those things stay. I feel you girl, they suck. Thanks for sharing your authentic motherhood experience. I want to be a mom someday soon so, I'm excited to listen in. Keep doing what you're doing beautiful mama!
Thank you for your video & honesty of motherhood ❤
I really feel the need to tell you that I am currently pregnant on my 6th month and your videos are always so informative for me preparing for a lot of things...even the way you prepared the nursery is inspiring for me haha. But yes thank you so much for your videos, I have a playlist for pregnancy and most of your videos regarding this subject are saved in there 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you for being so open about it all. It seems a lot of it still isn't discussed enough.
Also, I thought the hair loss and feeling oversensitive was down to the huge hormone fluctuations & physical "shock" as well.
Here's a fun thing my mom found out btw that no one told her about, that food can influence breast milk in a big way. As a baby I kept crying a lot and they didn't know why until finally after almost a year the doctors figured it's because my mom ate spicy food at times and it upset my bowels as a baby. As soon as she stopped I stopped crying so much!
I really enjoyed that you were very honest! Thanks for sharing!
Tina love all your videos and love from South Africa and thank you so much
I forgot about hair loss... thanks for the tips!
Really good practical advice, 5 months mum here, thanks for sharing ❤
Yes more videos on baby and baby products!