You REALLY Want to Date a Chinese Girl? Listen to This Chinese GUY First! - Intermediate Chinese
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- Опубліковано 7 бер 2021
- Sometimes, dating a Chinese girl is not all moonlight and roses, at least not according to our Audio Podcast guest, Jonas!
Jonas outline 8 major complaints that many Chinese guys have about dating Chinese girls:
1. Girls are domineering
2. Girls are clingy
3. Girls always expect guys to consider their emotions
4. Girls accuse guys of being “straight men”
5. Girls like to escalate a minor problem into a bigger one
6. Girls mess with other guys whom they say are just friends
7. Girls always want a gift on festivals
8. Girls always doubt guys’ loyalty
Music: Blue Skies by Silent Partner
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Well, since you asked, yes in fact lol
Your accent has really gotten good! Congratulations!
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我的名字是John Lennon。
我是巴西人。
So good! The fact that this video came out right in the International Woman's Day is hilarious!
38 (international women's day date|) is slang for a b**ch in Chinese slang. Perhaps it's not a coincidence.
😅😅😅
@@dompretcloud2 wtf 😂🤣🤣🤣
As my friend said, "Sex you pay for is often cheaper than sex you don't pay for"
I don't learn Chinese language, but I find your videos very interesting to watch and to learn about Chinese culture and different topics in general. Congratulations with 100k subscribers.
Well, you really maxed out on this one: this is more than language but an opening into the human psych or at least a somewhat frustrating part of it. You are stretching us to think not only in Mandarin but in terms of some essential parts of ourselves as well. Wow! Very impressive!
Totally agree with you Ian.
@@mvdmusicvideostorefreshthe3224 Thanks: my Mandarin isn't up to much but Mandarin Corner provides some really interesting content so that I always listen simply because of the insights it provides, and Eilen is so sweet, amenable and quite funny at times. She certainly comes across well.
@@ianrowcliffe Cheers Ian, yes, I found this particular video insightful too, although I have met a number of Chinese students and they have seemed naive, but now with Western influence, things seem to be changing in China as they are less insular and they are affected by the exposure of the West. I don't know if you live in the UK but I have seen a massive change in every aspect since the 70's, unbelievable really, so I guess this is the same for China too. If you are interested in Mandarin you might like a young lady called Chelsea, she's Chinese but speaks excellent English and presents it well, although she's a bit crazy / funny, also Shuoshuo Chinese, she brings out aspects that others seem to omit. Yes, Eileen is personable.
This podcast is so funny. I laughed a lot 😂😂😂 Eileen please invite him again to do a podcast. He is so funny
Good idea!
@@MandarinCorner2 This guy is a genius. I have Chinese wife and I have a reality check now. Wow, he is spot on while being caring for gf or wife as a person. Kutos to him and me!
This channel is the best for learning Chinese 👌
It really is. I love the host. Great sense of humour!
Yes
说得好
Is Chinese a language
@@philipsimmonds1103 LOL
I like this guest, he has a kind of deadpan humor about everything. Really good podcast, thank you so much!
Exactly. Attractive guy, he shouldn't put up with his gf's BS. There are Asian women that don't nag and don't do any of this to their bf.
@@Re3iRtH The submissive or traditional women are mostly in less developed area, I don't think men will have interest to date them if they can find one in large city with decent job.
@@alanchen8272 Won't have interest to date which type of woman?
@@alanchen8272 Men don't care what kind of job a woman has. That's literally last on a man's list on what makes a woman attractive
All these girls/women sound like a nightmare to me. I'm French and this behavior wouldn't fly here passed middle school. The lack of maturity is terrible. I just feel like you can just communicate with people (no matter who they are) in a respectful manner and try to solve conflicts or problems. No need for unnecessary drama. I'd never date someone like this...
lol this is a language vid lol... im glad you got so sucked in to the roleplay lol... im sure these types of people exist too lol
it's horrendous.
Complètement d’accord et je pense pas que ca passerait aupres des hommes en France haha..
I would say it's the gender imbalance problem. Women, especially beautiful women, are able to make demands
@@reigninblood123 ya but telling them to bugger off is fun
Excellent video. "Love is the ideal, marriage is the real; a confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished." Goethe
What a fantastic video. In addition to pinyin, chinese characters, and english translation, it also includes videos of speaker so I can more easily imitate your speaking, and my favorite, explanations for cultural or slang terms explaining their meaning a significance. Your videos really could not be of any more help, thankyou.
Thanks so much for taking the time to add pīnyīn and translations and Chinese characters, this is the reason I keep watching these videos
I'm not learning Mandarin, I just enjoy these lessons on Chinese culture. Very interesting, thank you!
the discussion, the guy arguing, the culture shock, everything is a real anthropological experience,
awesome video! thank you
wow. Great GREAT video. The guest is funny, the content is well structured, great amount of useful vocabulary. These dialouges are just awesome!!!
This topic has brought me back 10 years ago when a relationship was like playing the game of love. Every day full of testing and trying to be on top of each other.
Hilarious! Can’t wait for the girl’s complaints next
Me toooo
Yup! Would love to hear the other side! You'll have to find a woman with that kind of deadpan, dry humor. LOL!
No need. The whole world knows about girls complaints. It's what you do most. *drops mic*
@@vulpesregis Haha Well said. Very true.
@@GeoScorpion*AwkwardWhiteKnight666* joined the chat.
- wtf was that you weirdo. It's a joke, take a hint will you. Presumptuous little man.
Eileen, I love so much that you tell us the accents of your guests. Thank you for doing that!
Congratulations to 100 000 subscribers !!
You did it! Well done! Great work! You’re the best! Keep going !!
This interview was hilarious, omg I was laughing the whole time. Thanks!! and learned lots of colloquial sayings to put in flash cards
This applies not just to Chinese women but to Westerners as well! Looking forward to watching video about dating Chinese guys who live in China.
Congratulations on 100k subs ! thank you for another amazing podcast they are my favorite content
Excellent Eileen, you asked the right questions to the right man!
Thank you so much for your great video.
I love the guy in this conversion.
He is humorous in every sentence with his expressing, lol.
Congratulations with 100k subscribers. I have been a big fan for a long time. This is amazing content. Thank you so much Eileen!
Grats for the 100k and Happy Women's Day!
Quite funny ! Felt sorry for the guy when he went to the shop with his girlfriend 😂.
OMG thats a real thing, my GF is Chinese and going shopping is a torture you don't know what to say and you just stand there and sweat.. Specially when she sees some clothes and asks you 你觉得这件合适我吗？ 我艹。。别来问我这些好不好。
All gold digger ! Byee thank you!!!! 🧟♀️🧟♀️🧟♀️🤡👺🙋♂️
哈哈, 他说 “该死的问题他妈又来了” 的时候，我笑死了！
Göteborrrrrg änna!!! 👌👍
最初我来了提高自己的听力能力，突然收到了非常宝贵的生活课程。 非常感谢您们俩！
You should get these videos on spotify! 你真的帮我提高我的汉语水平
100K subs, congratulations!
I dated a chinese girl for 8 months, and I'm a caucasian (french) canadian. She was great, but there was definitely some cultural things I had to learn. She was much wealthier than me, but still expected me to pay for many things and to take her out. Also to hold her bags when shopping, which took forever. She also wasn't super affectionate, and whenever we were in public we had to be super "proper" and could only hold hands and nothing else. Other than that though, she was pretty awesome :) It just didn't work out because in the end we weren't super compatible.
Imo...bills should be paid 50/50. Holding her bags is fine, I can cooperate if she's cooperative too. Being proper in public is mature to me, people here act as though they're teenagers who've found their first gf/bf and wanna show them off everyone just like a kid showing their toys.
Congratulations on 100 k subscribers. You are the best!
Great Eileen!! Loved so much!
100k! 恭喜恭喜，爱林 ☺️☺️☺️
My congrats on 100K subscribers. Great video as always.
I should say my Chinese husband is sooo perfect to me. He always wants to do something good for me, sometimes it is too annoying. In the past he had relationship with Chinese girl and may be it affected him 😂
If you don't mind, may I know what is your ethnic or country?
Likely so, sadly for me, listening to my parents advice about relationships made me screw things up. I listened to my friends and thats when things worked better. I feel like chinese view of relationships tend to be too invasive of a person's self autonomy and personal space. Your a queen for understanding your husband and staying by his side
congrats on 100k subs！I love this channel！
Very good presentation, thanks. The amount of work for the translation shows clearly and raises the value of the video considerably, at least to those who are studying the language.
I think it goes both ways, some of the complaints. Some men can be controlling, of course. I bet the complaints can in many cases have another side that can in fact be justified, so it can be confusing to interpret at face value. So some complaints are about issues intrinsic in any relationship but can still be grating, like sacrifice of enjoyable activities to benefit the significant other. Communication is a big issue, too, and mood.
Love your podcasts 🌟
Congrats for the 100k subs
really nice work! I loved this format 👏👏
Very Goos Ellen!!!! We also learn Chinese culture with your videos, and the view of the Chinese mind
This was definitely a great podcast as always eileen and a even greater discussion the guy you were interviewing was hilarious 😂 #I got a fucking son
I enjoyed this video a lot. The guy is sooo funny and has elaborated the issues meticulously with examples. Although this was aired 2 years ago I just came across it as I recently started learning mandarin. I would like to see Jonas talk more on other topics like this too.
I haven't listened to the podcast yet, but I met a Sichuan girl yesterday and chatted with her in Chinese. I was charmed, she wasn't.. :p
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The answer to this problem is to enjoy your life as a single man and then you can spend your time watching these videos learning Chinese or anything else you want to do and be super happy that none of this mentioned in the video will happen to you but to some other poor schmuck
No greater pleasure than freedom and self-sovereignty. There really is no need to fall into the trap of tradition if you don't want to have a kid.
If you end up with a decent person, you can do it together and not worry about the nonsense either.
@@pnksmigge5324 你找到那个好的人吗? or are you talking about hypotheticals?
不是，我和我的女朋友一起很高兴的生活 @@aoeu256
Jonas 说得特别好，哈哈。我之前也经历过这样的问题。谢谢你们，这个视频很幽默也很有用啊。
16:35 LOL whoever came up with that is genius!
This was fun and educational! Thank you.
haha this was a really fun lesson! can't wait for the next episode on the women's prospective !
Interesting, but to me as a Westerner, I find it hard to take this seriously. Why are these men putting up with childish, ridiculous nonsense? Are they men or children? Respect your woman and do good things for her, but you are not her slave! One has to compromize in a relationship, but it's no way I would put up with anyone demanding that I account for every hour of my life, or place my accept physical punishment, or such. Likewise, I would also not try to control her. You must give each other a certain amount of trust and room for personal freedom.
Facts
Firstly its cause its a cultural phenomenon so alot of chinese men tolerate this.
Secondly, chinese mothers are tiger moms, so often times a chinese man's upbringing is mentally abusive and so he has all forms of mental strength and desire to stand his ground beaten or scared out of him as a child
对我来说, 在UA-cam上，这是最好的教汉语的频道。每个视频都有正宗的汉语，每次看完后感觉我学到了很多。谢谢您！
我不敢在这里公共抱怨我女朋友！
非常有意思的视频！好玩儿，好笑🤭😂😂我特别喜欢💕
Congratulations on 100k Eileen! Keep up with the great content 👏👏👏👏
I wanna see what chinese women don't usually like in a relationship too haha
Chinese women are most materialistic and they get to choose as there are far too many Chinese men. The host won't answer you to protect her pride. I can tell you that Chinese women don't like men that they considered poor and very short sighted. A good looking guy with degree level education but earning average income is treated as hopeless.
Ocean king is a new word for me. I'm impressed by your effort to teach us mandarin
非常拭目以待你所有的视频。☺️☺️
this is really good . subscribed
采访的内容很有趣，谢谢你们的努力!
I want to learn mandarin because of my ancestors. Great job, Mandarin Corner.
I love the interviews they are so funny!
In China, in Italy, or another culture....growing up as a single child, a mamma-boy or a daddy-princess, will shape you into a person more self-centered and less willing to share and give, a person constantly demanding attention. It takes a strong character and an engaging society to ameliorate these traits.
That's a rather large generalization. The one-child policy (they've raised it to two now) and general upbringing culture in China definitely causes a higher rate of these cases, but you can see with one-child families in any country that it is not the sole deciding factor, and there is a significant number of single children that grow up to be perfectly fine, though they must rely more on their peer relationships to develop interpersonal skills and principles. The other main factor besides being a single child is ultimately the parenting, and I think that should be focused on a little more. There's a culture of grandparents spoiling and parents being strict with children, which may contribute to people developing self-centered behavior and high expectations of others. Women are also a rather strong force culturally in a Chinese household, which is what the man in the video was talking about. Even with that, his words can be taken with a grain of salt, as the anecdotes he brings are just anecdotes: subjective accounts based on one side of the story. We don't know how good of a boyfriend these guys are or if the stories have been modified, though the general trends of their complaints can be surmised.
@@alexlei2235 I agree and I have changed and toned down my comment. Yet I have directly experienced at least two such people in my life. There is a clear pattern of behavior in these people though the whole issue is a more complex one. And no, it's not a "Chinese phenomenon".
the line of divorce is actually longer than the happy day red books😂
my cousin who is chinese american acts like this way too even though and she was born in US . She watches a lot of chinese dramams. I think all those chinese shows have a similar portrayal of relationships w/ chinese women and she picked it up the culture from her mom and the shows
One thing I thought was interesting; women who are more successful expect the guy to pay because their standards are higher.
But here in the States it is the opposite; the more independent a woman is, the more she appreciates not having to rely on the man to pay for everything. Of course I am generalizing, but predominantly this is the culture here in the US.
I saw this question and immediately thought "Of course not". But after watching the video I see that these complaints about Chinese women are universal for females everywhere. Some cultures just emphasize maturity more than others, but you'll find this kind of woman everywhere and in every woman if you allow it.
Great comment I actually think the greater of this video should examine it from both Chinese and non Chinese perspective and draw similarities and list differences. It's better for cultural exchanges that way.
are you serious?? "in every women if you allow it?" Not all women are "deep inside" some kind of mom or dominatrix for their partners.
Many women just want an equal partnership - though local culture may sometime not allow/valorize this.
Understand Eileen at normal speed is doable, but Jonas is too hard. Watching on 0.75 speed makes it much easier!
Agree. Ive listened to him say 然后 several times and still cant figure out his pronunciation
@@proxypylon One of the obvious accent Jiangxi people have is that they replace R sound with L sound. So, he probably pronounced ranhou as lanhou.
@@MandarinCorner2 sometimes it even sounded like "laou" with no (or almost no) nasalization of the 'a' vowel and an 'h' so weak I couldn't hear it. Quite interesting!
Great guest, btw :)
Excellent video. I was laughing out loud many times. Good guest speaker too.
哈哈😄Me, too! Loved this interview!
Wow more than 100000 subscribers congrats. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Your videos are such an interesting look into real people and culture in China. I am seeing some similar videos in Russia too. We never get this perspective of some foreign countries here in the US and it's very interesting to watch and learn after so many years of mystery - even if I am not good with learning other languages. Thanks for the videos and insight into China and it's people! It makes me want to learn the language and visit some day just to see in person and talk to people.
i had a girlfriend like that sometimes she got into trouble having a good time ..and sometimes i had a phone call had to either to collect her or wait and take her to her home..
she was one of those heart of the party girls.
think is if i wanted to go somewhere to a party/event/or any social event she would come with me. and was great company and very pretty ..we were best friends for years..sad to say she got cancer at 26 years old and past away. i still visit her grave now and then and leave flowers i am 71y old now still miss her
Jesus.
he has a view and variety perspective..
nice to hear his idea
I love your content!! ♥
Really interesting stuff to discuss, especially for those people who live and planning their life for longer in China.
“宝宝要抱抱”😂
Great job, Eileen. 有趣！
Hinata🥺
100K subs, congratulations! This is the best intermediate Chinese learning channel ever!
Well, my impression (thank God!!!!) is that Eileen does not do it for "subs". And I hope it will always remain like this :)
Sweet content!
this guy had a list and examples to back up everyone...It's a universal list.the same everywhere. some funny stuff
I really enjoyed the conversation and the humor, great video! Although I have a doubt about the label "Intermediate Chinese", since it appeared to be full speed and advanced level.
1) You can use the UA-cam speed controls to slow down the video. It is the gear icon on the lower right of the video frame.
2) Yes, we aware that the level is advanced but, the reason we still say this is suitable for intermediates is because we provide full hanzi, pinyin and English translations. Our videos are for intermediates who seek for a way to consume advanced content.
@@MandarinCorner2 I love all your videos, they are some of the best on UA-cam. I can tell that you put a lot of work into them.
That happens when you have more males than females in a country, it's also true the other way around. The less "competition" you have, the more entitled you can behave.
哈喽Eileen老师, thanks,you're the best and you deserve more subscribers!
Congrats on 100k
You have helped me pass my hsk exams and l belive l'm gonna make it to the top level.One day you will interview me on your channel.加油！
Thank you❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
More Jonas!!! this guy is hilarious
Thanks for uploading!
Small question: where does Jonas' accent originate from? It sounds quite southern to me but I have trouble locating it
thank you your videos are so helpfull
Wow this guy is amazing. You need to get him back for another episode. I loved it
Hi Eileen🐿️! I'm very happy to see you again! How are you? Where did you go to find this new guest of yours? Straight into the belly of a whale 🐳passing by in the 🌊Pacific🌊 Ocean?....😁
That'why his pronunciation is.. 比较 （tongue smack!).... not familiar!
(I still long for 东北读音！）I'm going to listen to you both today night! (我会听到你们两今晚!)
拜拜
1. To the guys : Always choose money not women because women choose guys with money. 2. If you have a girlfriend and she is clingy, be thankfull for that becaus that means she only needs your attantion and not attantion from other guys. 3. The biggest weapon women has is thier mouth. A woman can destroy a guy with just a view words. But the biggest weapon of a man is to be silent and just leaving. If you are a succesfull man (it means you have money, cars houses and so on) the woman has to play your rules because your rules are the succesfull rules. If she trys to dominate you, put her back in place or she belongs to the streets. It is that simpel.
YES!!!!!I pray for a chance to be in that type of energy and again YES absolutely, love to.
i really like this video , the guy is really amazing and understand many things :
we can resume this video : how to became gentleman ( good words with good attitude ) not so easy :) ^^
Thank for sharing
WOW! SUPERB CONTENT!
thank you very much , i love to learn chinese with your VDO
1:46 can anyone tell me, is "chayi" normally used as an adjective? My dictionary says it is only a noun, but here it appears to be an adjective. Or is "yousou" the verb, and "chayi" the noun? Can you say "... ye hui chayi"?
It is a noun. So you suo cha yi means, it has difference, thus, different.
很有意思。谢谢！！！
Interesting 👍👍
100% yes. I dated and met quite a few in college and they were pretty independent but maybe they're different since they're willing to travel outside their homeland and comfort zone. Pretty sure there are a good number of high maintenance or difficult women in every country.
Doesnt matter, they will still pull all the sajiao crap on ya xD as someone whose ethnically chinese theres a reason why i have a dating policy of "no chinese girls"
Excellent video. I am still HSK1 level or even more novice than that. But it was a topic I was curious about. And I found out that the downside to dating Chinese women is the downside to dating women from any culture or country. I think these traits are common with all women regardless of where they are from. If you deeply care about the woman you are dating, then I think the guy will tolerate your flaws and focus on remaining loyal to her. All the other things don't matter as much for him
謝謝🙏您分享這部好玩的影片
"As a girl ,I certainly have no right to speak". That's some crazy asian stuff.