I've been watching detransitioner's perspectives to make sure I consider both sides of the equation. I've been out for years, but I'm always trying to keep my mind open because I want to make sure I do what's best for me. Videos like this have only reaffirmed me that I'm transgender and living as my authentic self ❤ One of the main things you mentioned to support this is that transitioning didn't make you more comfortable with yourself, because your problem was body dysmorphia, not gender dysphoria. When I transitioned, I felt like a flower that finally bloomed after being stuck in the shade for so long, or like a butterfly that finally broke out of its cocoon. I'd woken up after living life on autopilot. I finally felt like I was allowing myself to be me, and I still feel that way! Thanks for the video 😊
Thank you for your kind words! I just want to share my story with those who may understand and resonate with some of my information. My goal is to be a good resource
@@bangbangjoelfitness9354 Well, you've succeeded)) There are a lot of stories about MtF transition and supporter for that proccess, but extremely few about detransitioning. So, one may decide erroneously, that there is no a path back. By the way, I think you sttoped the transition in a proper time, because if one takes estrogen injuctions longer than 6 months period his testosteron producing function gets worse.
I'm glad this video exists. I think I am trans, and while I don't really relate with anything you said, and I relate with trans people much more when they talk about their experiences, I think its important that I take it slow and figure myself out before I choose to do anything permanent. I feel affirmed after watching this video as the influences you mentioned didn't really apply to me but I know that the experiences of detransitioners are all different, so I'll be sure to watch many more videos about them and question myself many more times for many years until I find an appropriate conclusion about my identity. If that conclusion is that I am trans, and a psychiatrist backs me up with a proper diagnosis, then I will proceed with transition.
I’m glad that’s what you took away from this. I would never say to anyone that they shouldn’t seek healthcare, if they are indeed the ones who need access to it. Whatever you decide to do with your life and your body I wish you all the best. Wherever the road leads you it is valid.
This video is so important. I personally have heard many gay men say that being called "girly" and being told they "act like a girl" made them question their male identity. We have to stop telling boys and girls that they have to act a certain way to be what they are. I have often wondered if i would have gone into that gender confused mind space if that online culture had existed in the late 90's. Thank goodness i didnt, because as an adult i was able to own the fact that i'm a more masculine cis woman, and be confident about it. FYI, the male-brain/female-brain myth has been pretty thoroughly debunked.
Idk if it has… You can see out in the wild that men and women act differently and there have been studies to show differences in male and female psychology even among trans people. You have to be sure in yourself.
@@gillianomotoso328 There are some behaviors that are a result of our biology for sure, you just have to look at crime statistics to see that. There may be differences across cultures regarding the quantity of violence and violent crime offending rates, but within a society the differences between the sexes when it comes to violent crime and sex crime specifically are stark, so biology is clearly playing a part in that. But conditioning, generally speaking, is huge, and probably much more significant when it comes to social behaviors. As a female, my social behaviors and perceived masculinity and feminity make zero difference to whether or not im a woman. The only criteria i need to be a woman is to be born female. To suggest any behavior could, even in theory, make me less females, and therefor less of a woman, is absurd and damaging.
@@onepartyroule Crime isn’t the only thing, there’s also a different distribution in extent for instance of the Big Five traits between the sexes (namely as far as agreeableness), as well as between the traits of agentic leadership and commensal leadership. Like, even beyond maladaptive behaviors there are differences
@@onepartyroule But I do agree that aggressive tendencies play out more and more extensively in men than in women and thus criminal & violent behavior is much more common & extensive in men than in women
@@onepartyroule The “born female” aspect is important and definitely gratifying to one’s sense of sex, but there is plenty of empirical evidence to suggest (not necessarily prove, but suggest, and sometimes prove) that sex has fluid aspects between male and female that can lend to masculine behavior & identity in women and feminine behavior & identity in men (as well as in terms of appearance)
Hello. I have a lot of sympathy for you. I'm sorry it didn't work out for you. At least you now know more about yourself now. As for me, a trans woman, I would rather die than to not transition. Good luck on everything ❤
thank you for sharing your story! I think I may be in a similar spot as you, I'm not certain yet, I'm a couple months into MtF HRT but I'm doubting whether it's the right "choice" for me when I say "choice" I mean the choice whether I want to (continue) medically transition or not, hearing your perspective helps! have a wonderful day :)
At the end of the day you should do whatever you feel adds something positive to your life. If hrt stops feeling like it adds to your life it may be time to re-assess ❤️ it’s a difficult situation to discern the correct feelings of
How do you go from being 6 months on hormones crying happy tears to going back to presenting as male. What changed? I used to think I wanted to look like a woman because maybe I could have what I couldn’t being a man. Like more attention from guys and feeling confident in my body because I look different. Idk it was weird but I love who I am naturally no boxes or social constructs for me
Once my body started changing from the hormone therapy, I started experiencing genuine dysphoria. I felt like I was in too deep, and that there was no going back. I know that’s not everyone’s experience and trans People deserve rights to appropriate healthcare.
I am trying to figure out (with therapy) if transitioning is right for me - I already socially identify as female but i regularly suffer from imposter syndrome - What made you desire to dress and present as a man? I feel like I don't enjoy having short hair and wearing boyish clothes and love my long hair and being mistaken for being a girl (cis ofc)
For my transition, it just felt inevitable. I'm only on hormones and I don't know if I'll ever have any surgeries. I like wearing feminine clothes and my voice passes pretty well. I figure if you feel like a woman without any need for makeup, clothes, medical intervention etc. then you are one. Your identity is something intrinsic to you and not something to be achieved, you already have it and always will.
Thank you for this video, it's very interesting indeed. At least from I could gather in your first videos, you seemed very excited and happy for the changes, but of course I'm sure there was much more we couldn't see if you were starting to hate yourself much more. What I find fascinating is how you were convinced you wanted all the changes that came with HRT, plus electrolisis, and then you detransitioned to a full man, beard included, instead of perhaps trying to embrace your inner feminity as a man. Sorry if I'm being insensitive, I'm a trans woman myself but sometimes I don't know when to shut up.
I'm trying to understand the transition and detransition stuff on people on the west. In my country transitioning and detransitioning isn't really too much of a deal. There are those who detransition here and realized that they're just gay and not trans and that if they want to dress opposite to their gender they can just cross dress anytime they want.
I am a straight female. I have always been a tomboy. For about 3 years I thought I was peter pan, I dressed like a boy, I was tough, I didn't play with dolls, I liked to play with snakes. For real. These people out there with the GENDER IDENTITY need to STOP. Let the person figure it out on there OWN. Thank GOD I didn't have adults around me telling my parents I was a lesbian, or that I wanted to be a boy for real. It is just called going thru a PHASE. You don't have any of this garbage, you need to STOP letting people tell you what you are. Your letting them get in your head and making you think this is what you wanted to do.
Heyo, can someone point me towards the papers referenced here? Asking for a friend. I'm currently questioning/exploring my gender/gender-expression and I'm very interested in whatever science can say at this point.
I've been watching detransitioner's perspectives to make sure I consider both sides of the equation. I've been out for years, but I'm always trying to keep my mind open because I want to make sure I do what's best for me. Videos like this have only reaffirmed me that I'm transgender and living as my authentic self ❤ One of the main things you mentioned to support this is that transitioning didn't make you more comfortable with yourself, because your problem was body dysmorphia, not gender dysphoria. When I transitioned, I felt like a flower that finally bloomed after being stuck in the shade for so long, or like a butterfly that finally broke out of its cocoon. I'd woken up after living life on autopilot. I finally felt like I was allowing myself to be me, and I still feel that way! Thanks for the video 😊
Your unique experiense and advice can be of immense importans for many people. You're truly smart and cool guy. Keep doing!
Thank you for your kind words! I just want to share my story with those who may understand and resonate with some of my information. My goal is to be a good resource
@@bangbangjoelfitness9354 Well, you've succeeded)) There are a lot of stories about MtF transition and supporter for that proccess, but extremely few about detransitioning. So, one may decide erroneously, that there is no a path back. By the way, I think you sttoped the transition in a proper time, because if one takes estrogen injuctions longer than 6 months period his testosteron producing function gets worse.
I'm glad this video exists. I think I am trans, and while I don't really relate with anything you said, and I relate with trans people much more when they talk about their experiences, I think its important that I take it slow and figure myself out before I choose to do anything permanent. I feel affirmed after watching this video as the influences you mentioned didn't really apply to me but I know that the experiences of detransitioners are all different, so I'll be sure to watch many more videos about them and question myself many more times for many years until I find an appropriate conclusion about my identity. If that conclusion is that I am trans, and a psychiatrist backs me up with a proper diagnosis, then I will proceed with transition.
I’m glad that’s what you took away from this. I would never say to anyone that they shouldn’t seek healthcare, if they are indeed the ones who need access to it. Whatever you decide to do with your life and your body I wish you all the best. Wherever the road leads you it is valid.
Good lookin! Glad to hear you came to your senses
I'd rather die than detransiition. There's nothing wrong with transitioning.
I was once feeling dysphoric and I’m glad I’m not alone on this. Ty for sharing your story 🥰
Transition has taken away from me more than I got in return. At this point I just want to give being a man a try and see how it goes
Then PLS listen to chloe cole and Dr Jordan peterson. Bring a man is not painted with rainbows.
This video is so important. I personally have heard many gay men say that being called "girly" and being told they "act like a girl" made them question their male identity. We have to stop telling boys and girls that they have to act a certain way to be what they are. I have often wondered if i would have gone into that gender confused mind space if that online culture had existed in the late 90's. Thank goodness i didnt, because as an adult i was able to own the fact that i'm a more masculine cis woman, and be confident about it.
FYI, the male-brain/female-brain myth has been pretty thoroughly debunked.
Idk if it has… You can see out in the wild that men and women act differently and there have been studies to show differences in male and female psychology even among trans people. You have to be sure in yourself.
@@gillianomotoso328 There are some behaviors that are a result of our biology for sure, you just have to look at crime statistics to see that. There may be differences across cultures regarding the quantity of violence and violent crime offending rates, but within a society the differences between the sexes when it comes to violent crime and sex crime specifically are stark, so biology is clearly playing a part in that. But conditioning, generally speaking, is huge, and probably much more significant when it comes to social behaviors. As a female, my social behaviors and perceived masculinity and feminity make zero difference to whether or not im a woman. The only criteria i need to be a woman is to be born female. To suggest any behavior could, even in theory, make me less females, and therefor less of a woman, is absurd and damaging.
@@onepartyroule Crime isn’t the only thing, there’s also a different distribution in extent for instance of the Big Five traits between the sexes (namely as far as agreeableness), as well as between the traits of agentic leadership and commensal leadership. Like, even beyond maladaptive behaviors there are differences
@@onepartyroule But I do agree that aggressive tendencies play out more and more extensively in men than in women and thus criminal & violent behavior is much more common & extensive in men than in women
@@onepartyroule The “born female” aspect is important and definitely gratifying to one’s sense of sex, but there is plenty of empirical evidence to suggest (not necessarily prove, but suggest, and sometimes prove) that sex has fluid aspects between male and female that can lend to masculine behavior & identity in women and feminine behavior & identity in men (as well as in terms of appearance)
Hello. I have a lot of sympathy for you. I'm sorry it didn't work out for you. At least you now know more about yourself now. As for me, a trans woman, I would rather die than to not transition. Good luck on everything ❤
Thanks for telling your story. I will say though that even though dysphoria is very real transition is rarely the best solution to elevate it.
thank you for sharing your story! I think I may be in a similar spot as you, I'm not certain yet, I'm a couple months into MtF HRT but I'm doubting whether it's the right "choice" for me
when I say "choice" I mean the choice whether I want to (continue) medically transition or not, hearing your perspective helps! have a wonderful day :)
At the end of the day you should do whatever you feel adds something positive to your life. If hrt stops feeling like it adds to your life it may be time to re-assess ❤️ it’s a difficult situation to discern the correct feelings of
Could you seek out real in-depth therapy?
Your videos are so refreshingly open and positive. What are you doing today? How are you?
How do you go from being 6 months on hormones crying happy tears to going back to presenting as male. What changed? I used to think I wanted to look like a woman because maybe I could have what I couldn’t being a man. Like more attention from guys and feeling confident in my body because I look different. Idk it was weird but I love who I am naturally no boxes or social constructs for me
Once my body started changing from the hormone therapy, I started experiencing genuine dysphoria. I felt like I was in too deep, and that there was no going back. I know that’s not everyone’s experience and trans People deserve rights to appropriate healthcare.
I am trying to figure out (with therapy) if transitioning is right for me - I already socially identify as female but i regularly suffer from imposter syndrome - What made you desire to dress and present as a man? I feel like I don't enjoy having short hair and wearing boyish clothes and love my long hair and being mistaken for being a girl (cis ofc)
For my transition, it just felt inevitable. I'm only on hormones and I don't know if I'll ever have any surgeries. I like wearing feminine clothes and my voice passes pretty well. I figure if you feel like a woman without any need for makeup, clothes, medical intervention etc. then you are one. Your identity is something intrinsic to you and not something to be achieved, you already have it and always will.
Transitioning is still just an imposter of you think about it.
Thank you Joel ❤
Really nice to hear you story
Thank you for this video, it's very interesting indeed. At least from I could gather in your first videos, you seemed very excited and happy for the changes, but of course I'm sure there was much more we couldn't see if you were starting to hate yourself much more. What I find fascinating is how you were convinced you wanted all the changes that came with HRT, plus electrolisis, and then you detransitioned to a full man, beard included, instead of perhaps trying to embrace your inner feminity as a man. Sorry if I'm being insensitive, I'm a trans woman myself but sometimes I don't know when to shut up.
I'm trying to understand the transition and detransition stuff on people on the west. In my country transitioning and detransitioning isn't really too much of a deal. There are those who detransition here and realized that they're just gay and not trans and that if they want to dress opposite to their gender they can just cross dress anytime they want.
@G K Philippines
@G K where are you from?
I am a straight female. I have always been a tomboy. For about 3 years I thought I was peter pan, I dressed like a boy, I was tough, I didn't play with dolls, I liked to play with snakes. For real. These people out there with the GENDER IDENTITY need to STOP. Let the person figure it out on there OWN.
Thank GOD I didn't have adults around me telling my parents I was a lesbian, or that I wanted to be a boy for real.
It is just called going thru a PHASE. You don't have any of this garbage, you need to STOP letting people tell you
what you are. Your letting them get in your head and making you think this is what you wanted to do.
Heyo, can someone point me towards the papers referenced here? Asking for a friend. I'm currently questioning/exploring my gender/gender-expression and I'm very interested in whatever science can say at this point.
I wonder if it is poss to speak with you? I think you said once you are in Chicago - how can I reach you?
You can reach out to my Instagram. Bang.bang.Joel
I am on the process doing so, mtftm
Can I say you're a handsome man
This is helpful to me as a mom .
So you gave up?