my RED FLAGS in a GUY by a Psychology student 🚩..how to spot a clown 101
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- Опубліковано 11 вер 2024
- PART 1 coz i got a lot. no misogyny or misandry in the comments. let me know your red flags HAHAHAAH. coz I have really been through it babes.....
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her saving us from toxic guys? yes.
queen 🥺
I praise
all girls toxic
You still falling for toxic guys and then cry? Yes.
Yall still fall in the same trap 😂
Another red flag to note! If the person constantly points out something they don't like about your body (especially out of the blue) or wished your body was different because they prefer it that way (especially something you cannot change by working out). Or if the person hurt you in any way, and you tell them, but they do not acknowledge your pain or the fact they hurt you. Or even worse, they try to turn the situation on you by making it seem they are the hurt person and not you, a way they could do that is by making your pain seem lesser to what they present to you or that they compare your pain to something they were hurt by from you, but that is truly ridiculous. Flat out manipulation.
Wow..that's deep...did someone do tht to u in past or something???
Smh that describes my father perfectly 🙂
exactly!
mi bf pointing out that my skin tone is weird and that he rather when i look pale
My bf points out stuff I'm insecure about and makes fun of me "lovingly" and when I tell him it hurts me, he tells me I should learn to take a joke so idk if I'm being too sensitive
friendly reminder to all the men, women, and enbys out there watching this video - the red flags mentioned are meant for you to notice in others, but give yourself a quick vibe check and see if you check off on any of the red flags yourself so you can work on them too ! have a nice day :)
Listen here babes, I love YOU like a lot. A LOT
why does she say "....and gays" aren't gay people also considered ladies/gentlemen?? tf
@@melis2198 mate its called a joke
@@Sam-nl9zt she says «and non-binary» right after so doesn’t sound like a joke mAtE
@@melis2198 idk it sounds like a joke to me maybe it came across differently to you 🤷♀️
A big red flag for me is someone who always has to be right. You tell them they were wrong for doing something that hurt your feelings and they excuse their actions while making you feel like the wrong one just a big no
true, everyone who gaslighting their partner should be left by society if they have no self-aware and don't fix that part. I'm not even use irony here.
My dad was like that he always blame me for some mistakes that aren't fully mine he is also involved but he just turn the tables around yell at me and say hurtful words to me...
BIG Red flag
omg, sis, i need to hear this so bad
oh god this sounds like me, need to correct myself asap 😬
Im a guy and Im saving this video, cause I wanna make sure im not being an asshole. I know Im not the target audience, but I think it good to keep this stuff in mind regardless, so that I can do better for the women in my life. In any case dope video.
good for you dude. that is a great thing to do. Also if you feel like it you can send the video to your friends too.✨
Heck yeah! :)
Simp.
That's amazing
Dude you are TOTALLY the target audience. It says guys but women can do it too. For example today i found out that in my past flings I always used to LOVE BOMB due to my insecurities and desire to fix those I was attracted to. We all are learning!
you forgot to add this, any men who feel offended by this video is a walking red flag LMAO, like u know this is literally the basic boundaries for a normal decent human being in general 😂
Facts
@@simonesquared yassss we are on the same page as we should ✨💅✨💅✨💅✨
@Dan Ras Did you even watch the video?? She clearly stated that they are applied to both gender
@Dan Ras Shut up you trash can. "ExPecT sO mUcH fRoM gUyS" Da fuck.
I personally feel a little offended by the if you don’t have any close friends red flag. I have social anxiety so I find it hard to talk to people and make friends and and no one ever talks to me either which I understand. I fully agree with the other red flags though.
Red flag #1 a big, round red nose
Red flag #2 a curly red wig
Red flag #3 giant shoes
Red flag #4 the flower in his pocket squirts water
Red flag#3 is People that wear platforms and thick soles to give themselves height
LMFAOO
another red flag that came to my mind is being too brutally honest, to a point where its rude and claiming for it to be "constructive criticism". some opinions you can just keep to yourself there's a fine line between constructive criticism and insulting
T H I S .
...not me thinking about someone right now who does this and always comes with the excuse "im sorry im just very honest"
Also a red flag in some women. "I'm just blunt" like mkay
I wasn't ready for the spanish ending 😅😂 12:45 i think it's spanish 😢
Japanese people got this right, there is Honne (personal opinion) and Tatemae (public opinion) And Tatemae is usually used generally to not bring about problems or arguments.
Honne is used with care of course.
The last one really hit me and was so right. I remember meeting a guy on the internet. I was bored, so I entertained him. As the days passed, I got attached, so I didn't notice or maybe I ignored the red flags because we have the same vibes and he talks maturely. I was so done with the things he was doing that it was making me uncomfortable. I stopped what we were doing, even though it was hard for me because I was already attached. After a few weeks, I realized a lot of things, and one of those is that he is manipulative and a liar! Remembering all of that makes me vomit. I can't believe I settled for that while he was so far from my standard. Don't get attached to the wrong person. For some reason, it will make you stupid and blind. Now, I learned my lesson: the right person will come at the right time.
Same
Omggg honestly same I get attached so quickly it hurts💔💔💔💔
Even the best of us have done the same. Don’t feel bad. So glad that you found the right person. ❤️❤️❤️
Also please remember to be gentle with yourselves and that it is never your fault for being manipulated
oml the same thing literally happened to me too but i realised too late how shit he was//
I LOVE that you’re going over subtle red flags because these are the ones we usually fall for 👏🏽 and “you don’t want to be with a man that lets you suffer alone” oof I felt this one 😭
I felt that too.
Girl I see you everywhere 😅
A red flag I saw in a guy it was that every time we use to go out to parties he ONLY invited male friends, and it was a new group of male friends every time and his friends use to flirt with me and he used to pretend he didn't notice, at first I was thinking I was just cute and that my guy was so innocent he didn't realize his friends were attracted to me. Just to find out months later that the guy I was seeing use to tell all his friends they were allowed to fuck me cause he didn't care about me :( at the time I was young and wanted attention but someone that truly cares about you wouldn't let his close friends to be all flirty with you
This is so upsetting, these people are all very disrespectful and disgusting. Hope you are taking care of yourself x
@@gwencaster6485 I'm still healing that period of time as it was a lot of manipulation and mental abuse but I am doing better, thank you really :)
@Fairy ّ I am sorry too sometimes lol but I treat myself better now and that's what is truly important
@@auespaa Sooo sorry really, what you went through sounds so horrible and dehumanising! I am very glad you're now aware of their behaviour now and probably will be well-braced to protect yourself in the future. Take your time healing
This is actually so horrible. I’d complain to him in private about it.
“If a guy doesn’t remember things he doesn’t like you” *cries in poor memory*
It depends, I have depression and one of the sintoms that affect me the most is loss of memory, back in October i was into this very cute guy and till this day I remember every single thing he has told me about himself, I can tell you all the things detailed if you want to jajajaja, that just shows how much I cared and how much I was into him
Sadly he has an egocentric ass and things didn’t work out :(
@@user-th3ez5sj9y
Loss of memory can also be common in people who don't sleep well or have too much going on on their minds, like worries or anxieties. It's not even really considered memory loss but loss of focus in a moment to make it a memory.
@@user-th3ez5sj9yare you sure that he didn’t leave any impact on your mental health and anxiety. Because that might be the cause you still remembering too detailed...
well if they know that they have a bad memory, then how about writing it down to his phone notes? there's always a way and if he wanted to he would if not then he basically just doesn't care
@@fieliyn8854 frrr, this one toxic guy, he’d always excuse for not remembering what i’ve told him for his “poor memory” like hell nawww i used to let it slide but noooow i totally understand that if they wanted to, they would. nvr settle for less ppl!💯
Another red flag: clinginess or neediness. It just reeks of desperation and if they don’t listen to you.
i think clinginess and neediness is part of love bombing ? not sure correct me if im wrong 😅
@@vvecnaurr love bombing is itself a red flag it was given in the video
very true
Isn't that to an extent? 😅😟
girls are more clingy lmfao
I think that just as being uninterested about you and your life is a red flag, asking TOO much, finding reasons to get involved in your life early on, deflecting questions you ask about them are a big red flag as well, especially if you are young and this person is older or more experienced. It's a way to feel out how vulnerable you are and get to know your weaknesses.
Yes and some people just don't ask things because they're trying to be polite
I honestly never ask question to anyone. Am I wrong? I ask general things but not details. After a while they have always told me everything little by little even without me asking tbh but still. I don't mind it when others ask me questions to know me better tho.
@@SoWhosGae you’re not wrong, I wouldn’t overthink it, I’m sure you’re just fine. just talk to a girl the way you would a friend, ask general questions, find stuff you have in common and build off of that :)
@@3mi3mi I'm a straight girl tho 😅 But I relate to this point.
@@SoWhosGae omg im sorry 😭
“YOU DONT WANT TO BE WITH A MAN THAT LETS YOU SUFFER ALONE” Amen
I actually want to add to the point about friends, I think it is a red flag if he has A BUNCH of friends. People who hang out with loads of people can be very uncritical, just accept any kind of entourage and behaviour. Honestly, if he hangs out with 20 different guys, what are the chances they never say anything e.g. sexist, homophobic etc., and typical for these groups is that they just don't react if they disagree to keep a good atmosphere. It shows a weak spirit and a weak moral code. I've had one good guy friend and he always just laughed at everything, even if he disagreed, it's so spineless
I have a lot of guy friends and they never have a problem with speaking their mind, lets not be sexist here
@@nataliafijakowska2666 i didn't mean this to be sexist, don't worry, it's just that this is the common behaviour i've whitnessed in these sort of friend group constellations; people will say erring stuff and nobody reacts because they're all just making jokes and refuse to be serious. The example of my previous friend is also given because I actually knew his values from our conversations, but he didn't reveal these when with guys. I also don't relate with girls who are part of big friend groups, but in my country I just don't see that as often. It's not about "guys" not being able to speak their minds, it's about the context of these huge groups, specifically consisting out of men/boys (more chance of sexist & homophobis stuff being said), which cannot really exist when there is too much conflict about things people say.
@@gwencaster6485 I get it but I think that it could be the same in a big group of girl friends
@@nataliafijakowska2666 we are talking about guys here but it can be true for girls as well . This video is especially meant for red flags in guys so thats what the comment section will be about 🤡
Oh this is the reason why i just have few friends i can't tolerate toxic behavior for the sake of "having fun"
The close friends one... I understand why it would be a red flag but tbh I have 0 friends, and I am genuinely a great girl! theres absolutely nothing wrong with me, I've just always been told I look intimidating and stuck up because I was always quiet. I've always had a hard time making friends and thats just my path, but I dont mind being alone now that im 21 because almost everyone platonic or not is not healed and I treasure my peace:)
I think there's a difference between
a shy person not having friends and
a "normal" person saying that they are constantly losing friends all the time and not having any friends.
I think what Simone is saying the latter!
I understand you
THIS!! 👏🏼
same. my parents didn't let me have friends nor go out with people to create bounds, so i'm basically a loner and that hit me straight on the face. i don't think i'm a bad person for not being able to stick with other people, i just don't know how lol
@@AmIWhatIAm yepppp
Guys never change, if he is rude don’t give him a chance
Best way to know about a guy's personality is to look how he treats his mom
I second that. And don't forget to look how his dad treat his mom too. Most of times, the parents are the very first teachers for their kids when it comes to behavior and the kids will absorb it subconsciously. I said what I said 😌😌😌
@@idontknowmyname.9202 truee tho
This is so true a man who respects his mom is going to respect you
@@idontknowmyname.9202 This isn’t necessarily true. Sons are their mother’s ultimate protectors including when it comes to the father and when the father is abusive or mistreats the mother it usually leads to the son resenting the father. For example: the boy I like’s dad cheated on his mother (they got a divorce) and from what I’ve heard he refuses to go with his two younger siblings when they go to stay with their father every other weekend. If anything it teaches the son what not go behave like.
@@taegan1831 That's not always the case. It is different and can happen either of the ways. I know someone who started hitting his mom after he saw his dad doing it. I also know someone who was the opposite and wanted to take revenge on his dad who beat his mom. But I feel like he grew up being a bit too controlling so his wife left him in the end. Everyone is just very different.
“only give someone a chance if they have what you’re looking for” !!!!!!
a red flag I notice is them alway making sexual jokes or always wanting to speak about something sexual
Omg me too
bro the way u uploaded this rn and i started dating this guy yesterday 😭😭😭
Good luck babe
@@pragyameshram851 thank youu 😭
Hope your man doesn't have any red flag
Ayo be careful girlie
Red flag for me is effort. I can't keep putting in effort if I see it is not reciprocated
Another red flag is when he/she/they treat you diffrently around their friends or people in general. for example: if they aren't kind to you around ppl, make fun of you, are cold to you, when in private they are nice, and totally mature.
Very true, they secretly think you're less than them
he/she/ ((they))? what? what do you mean they?
@@ProtoIndoEuropean88so you have chosen death.
My strategy is to just fall in love with Ghibli anime characters. They don't disappoint, they are interesting, talk meaningful stuff, do even more meaningful stuff and are just as reachable as my desired person, which is not at all
Ghibli Characters are si refreshing because love it’s implied in the story but it’s not the main theme, the protagonist doesn’t necessarily ends up with them but you know they care for each other. Ahhh, it’s such a beautiful dinamic.
Pffff but I don't want to be the female equivalent of a neckbeard :[
This guy slid into my dms and started hitting on me. I knew him from my school but asked anyways that in which class he was. Dude literally lied that he was 17 but actually he was 19. So lying about your age and class and acting younger: 🚩🚩🚩
@ana well I knew his age so I could tell he was lying. And its hard to tell appearance wise. Because he actually looked 17 and I would've bought that if I didn't know. Maybe you can take a guess by his class or I don't really know how to tell lol
You will see in a few years, 2 years isn’t really a big age gap. But he shouldn’t have lied that’s a huge red flag
@@jacobcutrer you’re right, it’s not but in adolescence it can be really difficult
You are not in the same mental place at 17 compared to the one you are when you’re 19
@@user-th3ez5sj9y I totally agree
one of my red flags is if he avoids talking about or introducing you to his friends. I used to like this guy who was super cagey whenever I mentioned any of his friends BUT he would actively ask about mine and always said “is she hot” whenever i talked about them and tried to play it off as a joke
wtfff are you fr??
please tell me you already kicked him in the nuts and left him
@@idontknowmyname.9202 gurl i dropped him like a hot potato
@@frenchtoast9555 glad to hear that 💖💖💖
@@frenchtoast9555 lmao imma steal that line😭💀
i knew the second he started telling me he loved me after dating for like.. not even a week... was still upset when things ended but my god he made me feel so guilty if i didn't say it back
Yes And this kind of men always leave first🙄
„I want to spend Every free moment with you” And after 2 months „I don’t feel this” ,so I don’t trust men
Even with all this experience, I am genuinely so afraid of going back out there to date incase I accidentally get attached to the wrong guy again. I swear it's brainwashing. Surround yourself with friends that genuinely care about you and will tell you the truth, too.
One red flag I have noticed is grand gestures happening in a matter of weeks, or anything happening too soon. This one guy wanted me to move in with him like two weeks into dating so yeah. Huge red flag imo.
Please as a wlw it's kinda weird how this is pretty much a lesbian stereotype. A real issue for sure. Lesbian relationships tend to skip over the talking stage right into the I'll die for you please marry me stage which isn't good at all.
True
Why though? He clearly had goals set in place and wanted to fulfill them with you. A person you're dating for years could cheat on you, a person dating you for weeks could be the perfect kind of person. Stop being immature.
Trueeeeee af
When I started to date my bf I didn't like how he commented on my outfits ( he is a photographer, so he notices details too much), then we talked and he completely stopped. So when it comes to changing your partner, if it's little things and you communicate it well, and obviously they care enough to listen, it can happen.
And I love you Simoneee❤
i’ve been talking to a guy since january and he’s the first guy i’ve ever really talked to properly aside from my family of course, so i’ll be watching this video very thoroughly 😌😂
Be careful please. It's not worth it with the wrong one trust me I've been there. Leave qiuck!! If you get the feeling It's not right for you.
Good luck!! 💫🍀
@dingus :) yes keep us updated please :) also if it's good share😄 it would make me happy 😊
@@Mymoon_laaaaaaaaaadiiieeesss I don’t know how to leave though
@@remkenyon there will come a time when you cant take this hurt anymore. Listen to your gut. Go. Go at the right Moment.. i had problems with that too
@dingus :) if i remember i’ll definitely update but i have a feeling it won’t be any time soon 😅 you never know though
when he doesn’t ask you about your life.. biggest red flag i ever did see & THATS THE TEA 🐸☕️
Maybe other women have shamed him for asking such questions... especially early on... ever think of that?
Exactly!
@@Hassan12239
These women are quick to juddge without understanding anything at all about what men go through.
IF HE THINKS OF YOU AS HIS MOMMA, LAID BACK, EXPECT YOU TO CALL HIM OUT AND EDUCATE HIM!
there was this one time, I got back in contact with a primary school friend (we both went to all girls and all boys boarding schools respectively). we talked for a few months and one day, he invited me to go to a art museum with his friends. and out of nowhere, he texted me saying that "oh yeah I told my best friends you're my girlfriend" bitch excuse me. I thought that was very rude and just childish. after a few days, I confronted him about this and then he ghosted me. wtvr man rot in hell
u go girl ! that WAS incredibly childish of him and i hope no girl (or guy or enby) will have to put up with that
girl you dodge the whole missile
hahahahahahah
OMG YES! I worked once with a guy who was interested in me and we were talking. And he always cared soooo much about money, always counted how much tips i got and tried to take it from me. When we were shopping, I was the one who payed. And as soon as we got out of the store, he would take the products from me and eat it by himself! He even said me once or twice that he was really envy of how much money I did and he wanted that too!!! I stopped talking to him as soon as he started to show me his true colors. 🚩🚩🚩
This girl is literally a blessing from the Universe
Also when he tries to make you forgive and forget arguments by coming up with new drama or distraction or literally wait it out instead of communicating and fixing the issues. He'd do anything but tackle the problems.
Im a woman and I can relate to some of this. Does it mean that im not worthy of love? Honestly, I think that everyone has some issues and we all are toxic sometimes. We shouldn't reject people right away because no one's perfect and we might end up alone. For me the biggest red flag is when people can't admit they made a mistake, doesn't want to talk about it and does not want to try to fix that. No one can change their whole personality but by talking and compromising u can make the realtionship work
Yes everyone has some sort of toxic behaviour about something but we gotta improve
I think that in the end you just gotta decide what you want to deal with. Like someone can be a walking red flag but maybe someone decides they want to deal with it, then so be it. You are not here to change anybody if you want to deal with it do it, if not then don't. Also remember that the live of your life is yourself like that's what matters the most: loving yourself and that's it
@@mar-lo8ox Exactly, it all comes down to which toxic traits will u accept and which u won't and also is this person worth the struggle. But it works only if u both are willing to try
I do not agree. Her red flags were good all of them. And maybe it means that you should work on yourself. I don’t accept any of those and I have few partners but I can say that my relationships are amazing and we really look up to each others
@@DanieB322 ikr
Agreed with most of it except for few. I think not having close friends isn’t a red flag as someone who doesn’t like getting too close with people. Sure I have my friends which are mainly from my workspace, but I think it is just as important to enjoy your own company and being your own best friend. It takes a while to realize this.
i haven’t watched the vid yet, but maybe it’s a reference to having an avoidant attachment style. so that person isn’t gonna end up having a secure attachment w u as well.
I agree. I have never had many friends. But the few I had, I had to cut off because they were dragging me down.
And honestly, I'm just not very interested in making new friends at this point, I'm comfortable alone.
your videos are really getting me through one of the hardest times of my life
I'm a dude & I totally passed this test. 😉
My red flags are mostly the same as yours, so I'll add some green flags:
Admits when she's wrong/apologizes.
Keeps her word/communicates when she can't.
Wants to share things.
Approaches potentially emotionally challenging situations with communication in a respectable manner.
Cares about what she does.
Respects her elders.
Is respected & liked by children. (sign of being good parent material)
These are great, thanks
the last one touched my heart because children tend to gravitate towards me. I have a lot of work to do, but I feel validated that im doing the work to be the partner who I would want.
Not all children are respectful lol
@@maishazarinanan5028
I’m an introvert. It’s kinda embarrassing but children (
so true
Can I just say one red flag I once saw. Was when he was listing what he liked about me he said he liked my blue eyes. I have BROWN eyes. We hung a couple days before that for the first time in a while. We had known each other over 5 years tho and even worked together before. How can u say to like someone and get the eye color wrong 🤔😭😂
Wow good thing you knew from the start
Color blindness or what 😏😏
Bro literally pulled up the wrong girl moment💀
Clingy and dependent men are such a red flag to me, I need my freedom get outta here
omg yes so true, they drain tf outta you. like boy I'm not your mom
Lmao
"I need my freedom get outta here" You smell like red flag from across the world. If you love someone, why would you consider that person to "get outta here"? Seems like you're part of the toxic party.
One red flag is that he projects what he wants me to be, not learning who I really am
this video reminds me one of my closest person. this was the first time ever i got attached with someone so badly and being ditched also.
one more red flag "if anyone really just uses u in his/her tough times and start to squeeze the soul out of u , always talks to u sweetly(sugar coated) that person is gonna really hurt u , a lot " .thanks simone 💖
THIS!!
Exactly what I went through 😭❤
How are you doing now tho? Did you make new friends
@@elle-jh7to honestly still in the process,,,,, nd really don't want anyone
She’s glowing different today
when he asks you about your favorite type of guy and then goes off with a whole description of the type of girls he liked (so you could align). when he won't take a no, when he sends you mixed messages --> likes you/doesn't care, when he keeps you guessing on whether or not he likes you, when he keeps asking the same questions and doesn't remember your answers, when he speaks to different girls, when he brags about having had so many experiences, when he brags about being so good in bed.
Girl?? He was just like that. Is just like that
When they don't respond even though they're active or always "seen"
Girls, don't. Unless you're really sure coz guys usually has "reserve"
Means??
I don't have reserve cutie. I'm the one who gets left on seen and I'm fine with solitude.
a red flag i should have seen in my personal experience is if you are trying so hard to appeal to them and get affection and you keep trying hoping they will start treating you better its a waste of time and likely will never happen, in fact they will just feel more entitled to the way you have been treating them and will just make you feel like you are not good enough
Thank you for mentioning a male gold digger I dated one for a while and I met him before I got my current job and he was always having me pay for EVERYTHING when we’d go out to dinner or other places. When I’d ask him to reciprocate he’d throw a fit about it or say “you make more than I do” to justify himself
Wow. You're a "boss babe" congratulations.
This is what I need right now - a slap of REALITY! Thanks for bringing this up, love u simoneyyy💛
Absolutely love how simone gives us so much tips and ways to glow up in life in such a clear conscience and entertaining way
Not much ppl make videos like this
Thank you. If I have someone who listens to me I used to be already mesmerized but for long-term the dude should be able to evaluate things and maybe actively seek solutions for problems etc. Interaction and intelligence 🥺🙏🏻
I love hearing her speak omg she she speaks absolute facts and I love how she deliveres her words perfectly and we'll explained. Ly Simone😌✨❤️
OMG I THINK LITERALLY THE SAME!
Hi, just to add on to the list if you’re texting with the guy and he just wants to talk about the pervy stuff (🚩) but also if you text for one day non stop and then he just disappears for 4-5 days or more, and then afterwards comes back when he needs that dopamine or pervy talk and accuses YOU for not texting him first, even though you told him that as a lady you never text first ( that’s something I do to check if the guy is genuinely interested in me) 🚩🚩🚩
For the most part I agree with this, as it's fairly obvious to see the issue....but ngl if someone tells me "as a lady I never text first" I'm going to kinda think that's a bit of a red flag...... I don't see how initiating conversation is a gendered thing???
@@Hazamatoxin i see your point but the man is suppose to pursue the woman not the other way around. But I'm big on the vibe I get from the person. If it's unsure or unclear I'm not going to put in the effort or get attached, but if there is mutual interest and dedication that's a different story.
GIRL where was this when i needed this back in december 😭 i was dating a guy for a few weeks and then he went away for a month (back home to see family), he never called we only texted but it was 24/7 and felt ‘relationshipy’, he’s back now and over text he talks to me like i’m his GF but only invites me over to 🏁💥 on the weekend but i still go over every weekend 😭😭 i’m the clown pls pray for me bc i’m gonna keep doing this every weekend now and i’m literally being USED
girl please get tf outta there with peace & love 😭
Why are u doing this to yourself? I mean, you're not obligated to let him have his way with you or something
Also you're literally his slut lmfao. He will have his way anytime he wants
@@illumi8378
She likes it this way. She complains as a way to satisfy her needs to talk about her getting used. It's a turn on for her.
seriously dont give em a chance if they give off red flags or are not what you want!! So easy to get attached when u need love.
A red flag in ANY person in general to me is when they don’t respect your opinions. Like for example they make fun of ur music taste or style/ preferences Ect. Like I just feel like people should understand that not everyone is the same as them, everyone is different. They shouldn’t make fun of your music taste just because they don’t listen to that. This may seem minor or sometimes it appears that I’m being sensitive but I’ve dealt with it before and to me it’s just pure disrespect. Idk.. what do u guys think???
If he's friends are telling you "he changed a lot he's never been this way before he's really in love with you". Sometimes true, sometimes too good to be true.
I can smell a toxic guy right away even if we don’t date. I stay far away.
What a superpower
Same
You mean you make assumptions and judge a book by its cover? That is toxic... Got it... NEXT
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then stay safe. I rather be with someone who doesn't need to worry.
I'm not so good at reading people so still learning ....and I get so attached that I even forgive clowns...also in some other video you talked about having high standards...that helped me to realize what high standards actually mean....thnx
15 really resonated with me. I feel like I'm always making plans 🙄 Feels like they don't care, or don't care about me enough to put in the effort. That irks me so hard. Google is free, it's not hard to find shit to do.
As a guy I have a felling that the dynamics in dating are quite fucked on both sides:
We live in a society where superficial values are very much celebrated and people are pushed towards a toxic behaviour (I remember a few times at work where I got asked why I didn’t treat someone person more agressively. I almost said, because I’m not an asshole 😂). Behaving toxic pretty much get’s reinforced in many situations and if you are egoistical, you get promotions, respect, … Add some terrible influences like the whole manosphere to the situation and there you have it:
Far too many walking red flags who believe that behaving toxic get’s them anything.
That's so messed up
these are so valid. I needed this reminder.
you always manage to make good necessary videos, gurl you need nobel prize
As a fellow man, I would agree with these red flags. This not only applies to relationships between men and women, but also making friends.
Ever since I found your channel (*cough* yesterday lol), my life is a lot brighter :)) i really love your videos gurlll
Same.
Simone: How to spot a clown.
Me: *looks at the mirror*.... well it's not that hard
The first one is completely right. I mean, I have adhd and I forget A LOT of things (and when I say A LOT, I mean... A LOT LOT LOT), but I could never forget the important things my partner says to me.
Obviously, it depends on the person
thank you 4 saving me in case i met someone like this in the future 🙏🏻
Look after someone's friends too! Sometimes, they may reflect some parts of his/her personality that you didn't see before (because he/she hides it well or you don't know him/her good enough yet). Like, "Wow! She/he is so nice! Why is he/she with THOSE friends? He's/she's totally différent from them,". If he/she really was, he/she wouldn't be in those relationships.
PS: I had a friend that I really liked. She was the friend of a girl who is toxic, who manipulates emotionally, lies, and talks about you in your back. I didn't understand why MY friend would stay with that person, since SHE looked so "authentic". Turns out she was just like her friend. I learned a valuable lesson that day.
omg i'm so proud of myself cuz i came in here to add more things into my red flag list but the fact that I had written 95% of the things down already just shows that i know my worth😭 also I'm new to your channel and i have to say, I LOVE U, loveee your vids and your vibe
So basically girlboss, don't gaslight, don't gatekeep.
Your red flags are genuine and they are actually the things that matter👍
Oh and how to spot guys that are being too nice sometimes and subtle assholes other times! They are like trick questions I never get right.
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Crŭdux čruo!
uh, probably only red flag I look for consistently, is a girl who's really interested in one of my external qualities, and not really interested in any internal ones (ie. a girl only interested bc of how much money I make, instead of things that lead to that like intelligence and ambition, and other qualities and personality traits)
Liking someone for who they are, not what intelligence or ambitions they have. That's a red flag when a guy tries showing off how smart he is and never stops talking or stopping to listen for a moment. And we can have many ambitions, even very good ones, but it doesn't mean we'll actually achieve them all. Maybe none at all.
Your ambitiousness doesn't matter if you're also lazy and do nothing about it. Most women are attracted to people for their personality along with their looks, not things like intelligence or ambition.
I'm gonna disagree a bit with the above comments and say that basic intelligence matters. It's frustrating when you want to talk about something more complex and the other person doesn't understand or want to discuss it. Or if they're very narrow minded.
simone trying to save our time ughhh queen things!! ❤️
i love that you're playing a men i trust song in the background 🥵 numb is such a good song
You hit the spot with every single one sis this world is overcrowded with clowns smh
I dont have any close friends cuz i think its better to be alone than with the wrong ones, i can build good relationships but you cant stay with people who make you less of yourself
i needed this video so bad🛐🛐🛐
Girl it’s “need I say more” but great video! Definitely done with people that only talk about themselves
LMFAOOOO DEAD
Oh actually I googled it and it’s both so
@@simonesquared tf! I’d never heard it but thanks for telling me
People who push you to have a drink when you said you’re not drinking right now is soooooo annoying omg esp men like ur not being cute and persuasive ur annoooying me
Omggg this is what i needed😭
I thank myself that I rejected the men who tried to woo me, because they had red flags.
(I know we aren't perfect, just protect yourself from it)
Fighting girls꒰⑅ᵕ༚ᵕ꒱˖♡
you lost way more opportunities than you can realize ;)
gonna watch this everytime I catch feelings just to make sure 😀🥰
Yesss sameee
thanks for educating us 🧚✨
"If he's rude to the waiter" girl we are the waiters 😂
Omg yes I’m so glad I stayed up now!! I just love how you explain everything
YOU MAKE MY DAY WHENEVER YOU POST
OMG that outro is a vibe - so glad you still use that - anyways stay awesome and hydrated y'all😚💖
thank you sm simone for posting this!!!
The way she speak is just ✨AMAZING✨
Dang! The way I have experienced this 2 years ago. I needed this years ago, Simone! But so thankful to have you confirm these!
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This is so relatable, 100% agree. Can't wait for part 2 with Cathleen.
Last one was completely avoidant, inconsistent, never took me out, etc etc. It got to the point where i couldn't deal with it anymore and told him about himself. Obviously i was used. Now coming down off of the brain chemical high. It's hell. From now on I'm RUNNING 1st red flag. Thank you so much for your videos.
The confidence this woman has is something i dream about...
My red flags would be when he ignores me or constantly tells me he is busy. Another thing is when you call them and they don't pick up or call back. If someone couldn't pick up my call I would understand. But not calling back shows you're not really important.