59:28 😅 The proper Maya Angelou quote, “You are only free when you realize you belong no place, you belong every place, no place at all. The price is high. The reward is great.”
Great conversation! How to manage expectations could be a whole topic. But the topic of internal versus external boundaries is a very important issue to discuss. I think this is something that isn't taught and trained well in our society and in our families, at least it wasn't for me. I had to learn the hard way. I've never really considered internal boundaries as a topic, though I definitely have many of them, I haven't really thought about it like that. Thanks for the insightful thoughts! My thoughts align with something my pastor talked about how we should deal with people, we should use truth and grace. If we use too much truth and not enough grace, then we become legalistic. But if we use too much grace and not enough truth, we end up compromising and maybe even enabling. So, we should use an equal amount of both in our relationships and setting boundaries. I would push back a little about forgiveness. I don't believe that repentance has to precede forgiveness. As a follower of Jesus, I'm called to forgive others no matter their response is to me. Forgiveness is more for us than the other person. Of course forgiveness doesn't mean that you're saying what they did was right or ok or that you have to have any contact or relationship with the unrepentant person. But having unforgiveness in your heart is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. So, forgiving others is paramount no matter the response of the other person. Just like Jesus says in Matthew 6:14-15, For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. That's a pretty serious consequence of not forgiving. Definitely a lot of deep material here. I've lived much of this as well and have plenty of lived experiences around these topics. And I thank God to getting me to where I am today.
59:28 😅 The proper Maya Angelou quote, “You are only free when you realize you belong no place, you belong every place, no place at all. The price is high. The reward is great.”
Agree, perfect quote!
I love this episode. I appreciate when you discussed boundaries.
Great conversation! How to manage expectations could be a whole topic. But the topic of internal versus external boundaries is a very important issue to discuss. I think this is something that isn't taught and trained well in our society and in our families, at least it wasn't for me. I had to learn the hard way. I've never really considered internal boundaries as a topic, though I definitely have many of them, I haven't really thought about it like that. Thanks for the insightful thoughts! My thoughts align with something my pastor talked about how we should deal with people, we should use truth and grace. If we use too much truth and not enough grace, then we become legalistic. But if we use too much grace and not enough truth, we end up compromising and maybe even enabling. So, we should use an equal amount of both in our relationships and setting boundaries.
I would push back a little about forgiveness. I don't believe that repentance has to precede forgiveness. As a follower of Jesus, I'm called to forgive others no matter their response is to me. Forgiveness is more for us than the other person. Of course forgiveness doesn't mean that you're saying what they did was right or ok or that you have to have any contact or relationship with the unrepentant person. But having unforgiveness in your heart is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. So, forgiving others is paramount no matter the response of the other person. Just like Jesus says in Matthew 6:14-15, For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. That's a pretty serious consequence of not forgiving.
Definitely a lot of deep material here. I've lived much of this as well and have plenty of lived experiences around these topics. And I thank God to getting me to where I am today.