We’re Judged For Having 18 Kids | MY EXTRAORDINARY FAMILY
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- Опубліковано 4 вер 2022
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HAVING 18 children is a lot to deal with. Christopher and Desiree can’t remember a time when they’ve had a house to themselves. They spend between $10K and $15K on birthday and Christmas presents for the children each year. On a weekly basis, they spend between $250 to $500 every time they buy groceries. They usually buy four to five gallons of milk at a time. “It doesn’t take much for us to fill up the fridge", Desiree says. They’ve received plenty of judgement for having so many children. People complain about them bringing more people into the world but Desiree says: “We’re raising people who are going to put into society and put into the world and be more of an asset than a liability." As is often the case with siblings their children often get on each other's nerves but there’s never a dull moment. Today they're giving us a house tour and an insight into their lives.
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These parents seem like the perfect parents for this. They seem happy and in control and it looks like they're raising lovely non-judgemental children
you cant raise non-judgemental children. Its biologically impossible. Doesn't matter how many kids you have. We are biologically built to make judgements. People associate judgement with bad judgements but there are plenty of good judgements too. The brain judges within 1/10 of a second of seeing something. That's faster then it becomes a thought. Any parent can raise loving children, if the example is set.
They are also on their best behaviour during filming and they ceratinly do not have time for everyone it nearly impossible.
If you can afford to bring up your kids, not just financially but emotionally, all power to you.
Thank you!!
They put multiple kids into one room. A teen shares a bed. That isn't right
You can't judge others if they want that many kids that is their business. Stop judge them don't like the way they raise their kids don't watch
With that many kids you can't. I don't care what anyone says
@hellobot67 it might not be right for your family but that doesn't mean it's not right for another family. There are so many different lifestyles but you obviously can't see past your own.
Never in a million billion years would I want to be in a house, day in and day out, with EIGHTEEN CHILDREN....
Lmaooo
So you don't have to...
That is your choice
You and me both!!!
Hi!! Great video! My husband and I have 17 kids. My 12 and his 5. We are now in the stage of only the youngest 2 home. The blessings never end! We have 19 grandchildren so far! It is incredible! Keep training your kids to work together! It pays off. My grown kids have amazing jobs and are super affective in society! I'm here cheering you on!
woah that sounds like hard work! hope you and your family are doing well:)
Oh my gosh!!! Amazing 🎉🎉🎉
My great grandfather had 10 children, 57 grandchildren, and 41 great grandchildren, and I haven’t met all of them yet!
@@Switzerland_rules379whoa that’s a lot.
Good for you and don't let anyone tell you that you're wrong. They're wrong.
Making the teen girl sleep with 5 other siblings is beyond me
She's happy though
She's happy but she should get her own space, it doesn't need to be big, literally just put a beanbag chair in a closet with some cool lights and don't let the little ones bother her.
@@GenaF she has no choice
@@luisacholas8153 for the most part, she’s the one who just hangs in her room in her own space… the little girls are always out playing in the other living rooms until bedtime ;)
@@GenaF she's on camera. She's not gonna say she's unhappy.
Holy crap! I wonder what they do for a living??? That's a ton of financial responsibility on top of what seems like a full time job just raising them! 😲
1 is a roofing business and they probably have other business's too. Definitely not on welfare. So Good for them. They have a large beautiful family. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@carrieanncancino5118
How do you know they aren't on welfare or get some sort of government help.
With that large of a family, they should qualify for something
Perhaps they retired and work from home.
@@LipstickOCD it’s not hard to find them online since he’s wearing a company shirt. Looks like they both have jobs outside the house
I sell lemonade on the corner and we randomly come up with rent money growing off the lemon trees🌝
I LOVE how the daughter has absolutely no idea how old her siblings are 😅😂😅😂
As an interovert and an only child, this sounds like hell.
Lmao.
Only child with an only child . I rather eat rocks 🤣🤣 I rather break my leg for 10 years . Like I CANT
Ad an extrovert with 1 sibling, that still sounds like hell!
having 5 sister's is enough.
just think how much money there gonna need for all those 18 kids.
If you love you're siblings it's great. You have many supports
I just hope these kiddos get one on one time with the parents.
We already know they don't, it's impossible with this many kids.
@@tianna4411 tbh lol I would be mad
They definitely don't.
@@tianna4411 how do teachers do it in their classrooms? Believe me there’s plenty of time they get! Do we miss moments? Oh you bet! But we do take the time and we do pour into them!!!
@@lifewitkassie it’s definitely not for everyone 😂😂😂
I’m mostly impressed with their financial ability. That’s more than most people can manage
Why thank you!! It definitely takes hard work and commitment and dedication!!!
Makes you wonder how they earn their money to support them all.
Frr I could not
Check Husband’s shirt. Roofing business. Could be his own.
Hard work.
It doesn't.
They could save and only buy by necessity. Buy clothing and things from thrift stores and buy smart.
I’m all for having a big family. But the teenager sharing a bed with the 2 and 1 year old is a little concerning.
How
This is exactly why the parents keep having children. The care of them is interspersed among the older kids.
@@lildooky1277 Because the teenager did not give birth to the 2 and 1 year old children. They are not the teenager's responsibility and should be cared for by their parents, not their siblings!
Especially since the boys get their own beds...
@@sjrpfr parents are selfish and only care about what they can get out of there kids lol
Only criticism I have is that the older kids need their own space !
I don't see anything wrong is having a big family .
Once the parents can provide for them that's all that matters.😊
I'm fine with what theyre doing tbh, as long as they can afford it, but i just feel bad for the teenagers, who get little to no privacy
The teenagers get little to no privacy and on top of that, it's the older ones who end up doing most of the caring for the younger ones.
So. Why do teens need so much privacy? They are still kids and don't need privacy. They probably get their own thinking spot. At least that is how I would do it if I had that many kids.
@@sjrpfr there is nothing wrong with older kids helping. That's how family works. How do you know they do all the parents work caring for the young ones?
@@jenniferromero571 you really don't understand why they need privacy?
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@@jenniferromero571 older kids should still be kids. they shouldn't take the role of the parents...
not saying this is what's happening here though. I don't know how their family works.
I hollered when the eldest daughter said: "you WANT to be alone in this house." 😂🤣 I don't have children, but my concern is for the parents. Because they are giving so much attention to the kids, when do they have time to themselves & individually? How are the re-energizing themselves?🤔 And wanting to be alone to decompress/recuperate to prepare to deal with life on a daily basis is not a selfish act. Just my 2 cents. 🤷🏾♀️
Lollll that’s why I like the bathroom I’m the girl in the vid
Seriously? Seems like the parents have more one on one time than they need.
@@emilyheyokaevans 😂😂😂
when they alone they make babies upon babies.....Hahaha
@@makailamontgomery4362 😆😁
Teenagers sleeping with the little kids, that’s a “no”.
That’s why they’re with big sis! Next year they’ll split up in the room when the boys graduate and move out!! Someday soon we’ll build our dream house!!!
I think you missed the point, they were specifically saying big sis with the toddlers is pretty unfair to her.
I still don't get y it's unfair🤷is it for privacy??🤭the younger ones sleep fast then she can have her privacy😉😂
I sleep with my younger sisters and I enjoy it
I slept in the same room with my little sister since I was about 14-15 n she was about 4-5 now im 21 I still live at home n I still share a room with my sister lol
Congratulations! My parents had 9 children. Dad worked 3 jobs to support the family, and Mom and some of us, grew veggies and fruit trees on our property to support the family. Since we are a family of color, everyone expected us to be on Welfare. However, my father believed in supporting his own family. He taught all of us to do the same, and we do. Children are a blessing from The LORD. Most of us did not have big families. However, I welcomed 6 other children into our home, whose parents abandoned them. There are so many children around the world, who need to be adopted, and/or fostered, in loving and safe homes.
❤
Hispanics or Africans is probably your family lol 😂
God bless you 🙏❤️
You are beautiful yourself! God bless you for taking in littles that needed a loving and safe home that will raise them up in the way they should go! You understand the treasure that they are! The blessing that is on each one of them and taking care of them!
I'm sincerely wondering, at which point is this considered an addiction?
The husband said he wants more kids.
He already has 18.
They also said that they are not PLANNING on having more children, but it is pretty obvious that birth control is not something that they have ever considered. They are not planning to avoid it either. They seem to consider every child another accomplishment!
Lol… this kind of makes me laugh because I made a reel on Instagram the other day of “I’m addicted to this”… and it was our baby!!! But I’m also 34… probably not much longer… PLUS… once grandkids start coming… no way will I continue!!! Lol
@@sjrpfr I don’t push my convictions on anyone… but I have a personal one with the birth control… I feel like cancer stems from them with all those extra and added hormones… PLUS I don’t want to “control” my life… I do trust God with my womb and all over the Bible it says He closes and opens them… and if mine is open, you never know who you give birth to 🤷♀️ could be the one who comes out with cures for some plague or disease… could be a phenomenal president who literally changes the world!!! You never know! And I don’t want to live with that kind of regret of “not knowing”…
@Perfectly Blended Family It is obvious that you do not use birth control of any kind, just don't say with a smirk "we are not planning on more" knowing that you are not doing anything to prevent it. When you do not use birth control, you ARE planning on more children. You also say in the comment above that "once the grandkids start coming", you will stop having your own. What are you going to do then, cross your legs?
@@sjrpfr no hubby will get a vasectomy ;)
A teen girl sharing a bed with toddlers is frustrating
Two things about this family 1. It’s a battle for the bathroom and 2. It must be hard to get any privacy or alone time
What would a house be without a bathroom
The kids seem pretty content, though.
@@miss_bhello7925 EEEYYHH
they are sending out a tribe of kindhearted loving people that will always have their siblings support in their life
Yes they have so much support for LIFE!!!
This is life. Where else do you see two parents taking care of and being responsible for this many children? What is their salary? For everyone saying this is silly, remember, they are taking care of their children. They are not overpopulating the world. God blessed them with this many. There are so many women who choose not to have children. It will balance. I love this family.
You can see how truly in love they are and the kids look so well put together Good job to mom and dad 👍🏽
They’re bad parents for making the teens share a bed with toddlers
@@notmyrealname4978 don't hate on them just because their children have a stable enough relationship to share a room together.
@@notmyrealname4978 it’s not “teens”… it’s A teen, and she has a KING size bed with the kids who are under 2… if you watched the whole thing, I stated this year we have 2 older boys moving out after graduation AND it frees up a room, which splits up the younger girls and they will each have their bunk… we already pay over $3k/mo and at the time of crazy housing market and moving to Texas we were able to win on our offer and get this house with 5 bedrooms… meant to sacrifice and we made up in a KING size bed which makes PLENTY of room!
God bless you indeed! We do love our life!
@@perfectlyblendedfamilyi think it's wonderful how y'all all have so much Love for one another, don't worry about what others have to say, they're just jealous of y'all, keep doing what y'all are doing, great job Mom n Dad, 💯 💗
2 beds, 5 girls and 3 beds, 3 boys … living in this family sounds like hell to me, I have a big family but at least we had our own beds and own rooms for teenagers
"We are judged for having 18 kids."
Go to tv so more people could judge them.
I think they do this partly for the shock value.
In my country you get financial support when you have three child if you are a single parent or without a job. And if you decide to have more, the support level won't get higher. You have to work to support your kids. Your kids = your responsibility.
Wonderful family and I'm so happy you have so many too. All contributing world changers, with parents setting such a loving responsible example and guidance. All the best to you!
The kids all seem kind and well spoken! Beautiful family
It's messed up that you didnt let the kids meet their future siblings until the day yall got married
It’s your choice, you’re lives. Be more YOU everyday.
Hey thank you!!! We happen to love our little craziness!!! Lol
How come there’s 6 girls in one room but in another room there’s 3 boys and all get their own beds? I’d be pissed if I was the teenage girl! So wrong to make her share a bed with to two toddlers
This family is truly amazing and doing the best as a family and parents are doing the best for the kids.
That had to hurt
Big respect to this family. Wish u all the best.
Thank you so much!!! We appreciate all the love and support and prayers!!!
that's what being married is all about having 18 kids. that's a blessing.
Sir really??! You already had 8 ON YOUR OWN!!!! You go and you find a woman with 3 of HER OWN and you mean to say 11 was enough??? You didn't even make 1 more you made 7 more!!! Not to mention in this CRAZY world we live in??!
WHY!!
I agree..... the husband bred his first wife and now bred his second wife..... there's definitely some mental issues here.....
Lovely family good luck to them hopefully they will reach all the goals they need to stay happy and healthy
To raise children that is going to be adults that are safe and a aset to this world, is a huge gift, to all of us.
If they don’t have the house alone to themselves
How do they make time to have more
I be thinking the same thing🤣🤣🤣🤣
Well gee that's what the older kids are for. Taking care of the rest of the kids.
Shower
@@Ryhillchibulls Right!🤣🤣🤣
Most seem to be in school
I love how happy all of them look together.... they are their own healthy little community....
Thank you 🥰🥰🥰 we love our little tribe!
What a beautiful happy blended family. I grew up in a blended family of 6 and love that I always have a sibling to reach out to now as an adult.
Hi,how're you.?
These people are so happy, it’s nice to see.
Both of you are so blessed. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full. You will blend in well with Papua New Guinean families. Having lots of children is a blessing
I could never, but they look like they manage well. The kids look happy, they can afford it so why not. It seems like a lovely family!
so since they both came in with kids of their own, I wonder where the other moms and dads are
My bio dad is in prison, same with my little brother andrews dad, and Malikis dad idk where he is and then we have my step dad
@@makailamontgomery4362 damn that sucks but it's good you have your step dad
I don't need to have kids.
there's enough people on the planet.
My biggest nightmare.
i dont want no 18 kids
“We’re not planning on having anymore children” yet she’s obviously pregnant.🙃🤦🏻♀️
What a good looking momma and daddy . Yah for the paper plates .. that and a nap sounds like a vacation for me. Momma looks so well rested ! Super cute family
Such an amazing family ❤
The teenage girl is wonderful and an real example to her younger siblings. 😊
Thank you for your kind words! You are a blessing!
I have two kids. This family has it all over me. That said at my age 59 i now know that all that does not come with ease. Dedication to each other is where it begins. I say bravo and God bless them all. ❤
What a beautiful family. Love it!❤❤
As long as you canfinancially and emotionally support and take care of your family… screw what anyone else thinks.❤
I am the oldest of my mom's 11 kids and my dad's 6! Childhood was awful! They divorced when I was a baby cuz by the time I was 2 she was with hubby #2 (of3) and I had a baby sister! I felt like a miserable slave most of the time cuz all I ever heard was YOU'RE THE OLDEST, DO THIS! DON'T LET YOUR BROTHER SPLASH WATER ALL OVER THE FLOOR AT BATHTIME, ETC! ETC! EVEN THOUGH I WAS ONLY 2 years older than him! No matter whose house I was at, it was watch the little ones, don't let them do this or that! At 5 years old, I had babies propped up on pillows on me as my mom did chores and on and on! Washed dishes STANDING on a milk crate! I felt like a slave! It was chaotic and noisy but clean! We were poor but content, always fed but few gifts or presents! To sum up, I'D JUST RATHER BE DEAD, PERIOD! IN THESE TIMES, NO WAY! BUT GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS! OH, forgot to mention kidney punches from my grampa! So many of us that we lived in 2 houses! Oldest 4 or so lived with grandparents on same lot! Gramps would come up out of the blue, imo, and snatch me up and punch/slap the pee out of me! NEVER EVER knew what I did, to THIS day, to deserve this! The pain and shock was indescribable and I would spasm and piss like a dog or something! No one ever spoke up against this! Just go wash yourself and put dry clothes on! Yeah, fun times! Blessings! 😥😯🤤😫😮☠️😥😮☠️☠️🙏🙏
Omg! That must have been awful. I really do hope that you have a better life now.
@@lazylizzy3045 Yeah! Thanks! I do somewhat! Have been homeless living with relatives since Ida tore up the Gulf Coast last year! They sick of me, I'm sick of them! Playing games with FEMA, etc! Trying to get repairs to the house! I pray and cry and cry and pray! What else can you do these days! If you believe in Prayer, add me to your list! Thanks 🤗🙏🙏🙏🙏😍♥️🤩
@@irisscott9488 I do not believe in God but I send you my empathy, love and lots of confidence.
Thank you for speaking up Iris. This is the problem with large families. The older children basically raise the younger ones. Some families are worse than others, of course, but the older children do the work and the parents reap the praise as' wonderful parents'. I am so sorry for you. You missed out your childhood.
@@lazylizzy3045 ♥️🤩🤗💃🧚🧜👌👍👍💅💋💛💚thanks, I accept!💝
I love this for them. They're taking care of them, and everyone looks happy. ❤
Thank you!!
You only live once and I say go for it as long as your body allows it keep making beautiful people.
Congratulations ❤
When I saw the headline, I hoped that some of the kids were adopted, but no. They don't say if they're homeschooling quiverfull fundamentalists, but that seems to be the usual motivation for families this large. Sigh...
Hi,how're you.?
Wow I have a big family as well 6 of my own and 7 step children pat your self on your back your doing an awesome job!
You guys look happy and i wish you lots of love and patience with all your kids. God bless your Family ❤
Many blessings to both of you and your family
I have 6 siblings- Dad had 3 children in a prior marriage & they have 4 children between them. My parents could afford to have us; there was only 1 shared bedroom during part of our childhood & we've all been productive members of society in adulthood. Despite all that, I don't think having handfuls of children is something people should aim for.
What a beautiful, healthy family! Sharing rooms is very healthy I believe and leads to more adjusted individuals later on.
I'm pretty sure in foster care you LEGALLY have to give a kid a bed. So this would be seen as unfit. They can't share a bed with another child. They are crammed into a bed room. That's not normal. A teenager should have their own space. I feel bad for her.
It’s different in regards to biological children
@pawstofreedom617 I find that it's the SAME thing. A teenager shouldn't share a bed with a small child. Idc how that Is or looks. I've seen families broken apart because they live in a homeless shelter or a hotel
God bless you both!! ❤you have a beautiful and amazing family!!
I don't mind what people do as long as they don't make their older kids ( in particular the girls) get the job o being mom to the younger kids because mom has no time.......If you have lot's of kids you need to raise them......The Duggars often required their elder daughters to always take care of the younger kids......Not their job.
Too many things going on, no quiet time
Awww it's so cute! The real life version of Yours, Mine, And Ours
ALL children are a blessing, and I also think that if you want a large family and can handle it then GO FOR IT!!! This family looks as it has lots of love and has it all under control. If anyone has anything negative to say, then they have an issue with children OR they are upset because they could not even raise one or two effectively. If I could have had more children, I sure would have. I was an only child for almost nine years growing up and I ALWAYS wanted a big family! I guess it's big compared to many but nothing like this, but to me the more babies and children the better. God bless them!
Well said 💖
They should be on TLC 🤩🤩
Ong email them and tell them
Me sitting over here stressing over my family.......btw I have one kid 😂
Your family are the most beautiful, happy blended 👪 ever. You are both blessed. Dont listen to haters.
Beautiful family 💞
Looks like you guys got it handled. Keep up the good work!!! Everyone seems to get along great and really care for one another.
And thank you!!
They Never have the house alone, for themselves....how has she gotten knocked up 7 times?!!!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 idk how people have the time
I think this is beautiful they are a lovely family taking care of their own it must be so much fun a built playmate at all times
Your family is beautiful
Wow,not judging as long you guys are happy why not!
Amazed at how they do get along!
Thank you!!! We are too!!! But doesn’t mean we don’t have our normal family and sibling moments!!!
I'm not going to judge you for choosing to have that many kids, but I am going to judge you for using paper plates. That's absolutely ridiculous. That's AT LEAST 60 plates a day put in the landfills.
Amazing parents! Proud of you both! Specially Mam!
I have a big family. I just can see so much love with this family and it makes me so happy
I love this family ❤️
They look quite young as for having just 18 children. I think nobody gets bored there ever.
As a oldest sister of 4 siblings this is hell. Rn only 3 of my siblings are with me rn
One thing is for sure these people can never get lonely. Their sibling can be their best friend
with a family that size i think i would have a farm grow my own fruits, veggies n livestock for eggs, milk n meat!!!! especially in this world today being so unsure of what’s to come. store shelves so bare n as a family u need so much so yep i would def hav a functioning farm
Hi,how're you doing.?
True! It would be so nice!
I love it, good for you two. There are parents with 1 or 2 children who are negligent in their care but you two have a gift to raise many with great love and joy!
It’s no one’s business and this is God’s world so you may populate as much as you want.
He said to be fruitful and multiply!
I think it’s beautiful and you’re amazing!
God bless you two and your beautiful family!
💖Support you, In know many family with 8-9 siblings. Also someone in our area also has 17 siblings, you are normal, don't let anyone criticize you!! Lots of love💖
My dad is the oldest of 14 children I loved growing up with a big family !!!
You may have loved it, but how does your dad feel about it? As the oldest, how much of the burden was shifted to him?
My dad was one of 13 kids. He was kind of in the middle but he loved his childhood and all his siblings. As for me, I loved having all those aunts and uncles and cousins around when I was growing up
@@sjrpfr get a life, as my moms oldest, there's no burden or raising, irs all training for real life when we have a family
@@malikimontgomery1773 Your father said "I think everybody in our family knows what their part and their role and their position is and they know how to move when they are called on it". What do you think this means?
@@sjrpfr yeah, simple chore's to do? my parents dont need to do anything extra for me that they do, they choose to and all they ask is to help clean. they didnt have to give me a ride to work when i had no car, pay for my drivers ed, my phone bill, money randomly for new clothes, gift me a car, buy me gifts. they do more then what the screen shows and all they ask is simple nowhere near strenuous tasks to be complete
I grew in a fam of 12 sibs and and my bestie grew up in a house of 15. It was the best upbringing we ever had!!
With all those kids they don't look hurt for money they have a nice house they look happy God bless them 👏🏿
Large families are blessing ❤ keep making babies
There is absolutely no way these parents can give the proper love & attention to this many children. & why on earth is a one year old sleeping with her sisters.... just so much wrong here.
Kinda feel bad for the kids. Especially the older ones
I believe law should enforce maximum two kids in the world to consider parents, kids n others rights.
Amazing. It’s like having a class. Like it. Every one has the right to do what you want. Love what you have done. If you love what you are doing keep it up. ❤️🥰💗
I can imagine them going Christmas shopping
having kids and staying within the family is a sign of healthy relationship.
Oh maaaan, this is an overcrowded house:D amazing how they get along and keep their life's running 💪🏼
Yikes. This looks like a nightmare to me 😂 but more power to em! It’s their life, they gotta deal w em, so it’s no one’s business but theirs.