wasteman, did u comment on his debate video with Jordan Pererson? I remember ur cowboy bibop picture( it might be someone esle with same avatar picture )
@@Stakhanovites wow, it’s kinda crazy I have that show on rn as I watch this too. Frank Reynolds is intuitive in some weird way, but can let out some harsh statements. I guess I could see the similarity, maybe it’s the delivery
The imperfection in another is reassuring and comforting as we are all well aware we have our own flaws.Seeing them in others allows us to be more accepting of our own and not feel an erroneous need to be something we are not. If you're not aware of your own 'flaws' or idiosyncrasies you are in trouble.
If you perceive someone as being flawless in their looks and speech, it’ll definitely make you self conscious around them because you don’t feel worthy of their attention. It’s similar to when you’re talking to someone very well educated, and not having anything to say for fear of sounding stupid.
This may explain the feeling of culture shock when one moves to another country. To be aware of one's own idiosyncrasies implies having an idea of a standard of the 'norm', and if at in part this norm is culturally constructed, then it would itself be put to the test in another cultural setting.
I bet he never tried online dating, yet he has the capacity to make an accurate analysis of what it is people desire from such mediocre platforms that promise happiness. If there was an actual allegorical cave, he's just smashing it with a wrecking ball.
He did the same with the review he wrote about matrix 4. He didn't actually watch the movie but read reviews by other people and tried to get to the essence of what the movie is about and how it fails
Like always I assume most people meeting each other online do not meet on a dating site. Or that's my experience anyway. Maybe Tinder is different. If you have an activity in common you can talk about that without thinking about the "other stuff". The "two machines" are going at max while the two of you are doing the "usual" infatuation thing, having a crush just like IRL. But with a twist since the infatuation isn't appropriate to the setting. Giving it a better shot at getting to know the other first. Getting to know someone is a big deal, even if you haven't seen a pic. The average person looks average, so the odds of being disappointed are still quite low, right?
@@Ingu.z I guess the odds of being disappointed also depend on how high the expectations have been set upon the other person (reward prediction error). Also, imo, it partly depends on which demographic sample the two people belong to (what's the common denominator that led to them meeting?) Why haven't they found anyone? Are they too niche or is there some underlying issue? I wouldn't say the odds of being disappointed are high, but I wouldn't say they're low either.
@@golfinonotturno9697 It's difficult to readjust once you see a photo of the person for the first time after having talked with them for some time. It's not disappointment per se, just that the mental image usually is way off. Getting past that stage, the average person looks average. I'm not sure how much you have dated, but it's common to learn to like a few traits (visual or otherwise). If you had an intensely good time with someone you were in love with, you may associate some of those features with that feeling. It somewhat "updates" your preferences. I've never been interested in skinny girls, but as it happened, I got together with one anyway and now I can find it very attractive with thin without much contour. I'd say - you don't choose who you get together with, and when you do, it may have a lasting effect on your future dating.
His closing for this talk is so endearing, the imagery of Zizek putting up robots to fuck so he doesn't have to and he and his partner could just explore and experience themselves to void ego focus is touching. This is an anti-social man who just wants to experience the warmth that is usually voided in casual sex, how sweet.
I'm not sure I quite understood, the robot sex is there to destroy any awkwardness or embarrassment so they can enjoy some level of sexless intimacy or what?
@@TenderHooligan it's not about sexless intimacy. He literally mentioned that maybe our hands touch and we maybe even get in bed . All the machines are doing is removing that pressure of performance etc etc that comes with dating.
I thought he was saying something to the effect of talking/interaction/communicating with someone you could be sexually interested in is highly filtered and stiffled by the implications that sex could happen if certain things are done correctly instead of truly. So why not just let the machines (being analogs for our desires and egos) just fuck it out while we actually have tea and talk without expectations
“You don’t ever fall in love with a perfect person. There must be some tiny, small disturbing element, and it is only through noticing this element that you say, but in spite of that imperfection, I love him or her”
I like the phrase, "do what you like, be yourself, but don't express yourself too much." Sometimes we express weaknesses, or dark things in our nature, because we don't filter them out through restraint.
Or we express, throw into the game our oppressed side for strategic reasons. For positioning in certain situation as to avoid the others doing or saying even more stupid and worse things
You know when an older educated guy starts a non-stop one way conversation with you while you're restlessly nodding your head in agreement although you are spaced out completely holding a beer. Yeah it's magical, thank you for sharing this while I completely didn't understand a thing watching him touch his snoze canon every three seconds.
I think what is described as normality here is the sickness of society we can't get rid of. Accept imperfections in the moment, but work on them. Imperfections of image which is relatively superficial are different that imperfections of character which is deeper and multidimensional.
In life, you present yourself, with all your flaws and eccentric mannerisms and endearing personal qualities. Online, you’re submitting the equivalent of a resume. Nobody who looks at that personal bio is gonna have any idea of your actual personality, and when they meet you, it’s almost like a job interview, with both of you having your guard up, asking inane questions to ferret out whether you are somebody worth taking on or just an imposter. That is not how love begins; two complete strangers meeting and trying to figure out what the other is hiding. It is something that builds slowly between two people who know each other and over time draw closer together. And in todays modern age, when we spend so much of our time at work or in front of a screen, isolated from one another, that is a becoming very difficult if not impossible. And so we have the machine sex.
Not just that but expectations that certain dating scenes cannot meet. Sadly for people who want a certain vibe/scene, they gotta move out elsewhere and not be around in middle of nowhere.
People's expectations? Women's expectations, men are fairly easy to please, you can check dating studies, most men rate most women as attractive, whereas most women rate most men as unattractive. They rate something like 15-20% exceptionally good looking men attractive, the others have to navigate this labyrinth and impress her in so many ways an s maybe hopefully one day wear her down eventually, where the exceptionally good looking men could've done the trick with 1 photo.
I never had much of a success in online dating. Maybe because its just a form of social media which is far away from social nowadays. Picking up girls in real life is much more fun and has a real chance of finding a good partner.
We always tend to present ourselves in a way we believe makes du desirable… be it online or irl. Online dating doesn’t change the way we fall in love, just the way we meet potential partners. (I just love the way he describes the ideal sexual relation)
Changed my tinder profile after watching this. I just took a picture in terrible lighting before my morning shower and now I have more matches than I know what to do with. Definitely try this technique.
Are you serious about getting matches on Tinder? I mean, dating sites have become such a trash that it is hard to find someone being successful. I have been to POF for 10 years and in the old days it was the place to have genuine conversations with good girls. I even met in person like 10 or more girls. But in recent years it has come down hill and I left the building in october last year.
He should of been a character in Grand Theft Auto IV,Niko Bellic’s eccentric philosophy professor uncle visiting from the homeland and gabbing nonstop during a mission.
I think this self-control makes him so genuinely appealing. He has millions of reasons to hate life and yet he keeps these thoughts to himself and keeps being positive.
I looked at online dating about 15yrs ago and thought nope, and never looked again. It's a shallow thing where men pay to meet women, like prostitution but instead of sex you pay for rejection.
That's hilarious - for what it promises, it delivers : the hope of a shortcut to the hard work of finding interesting people for romance. The challenge of course is there remain problems we can't solve with technology but like the proverbial carpenter we continue nailing! What I'm learning from my female friends is how easily mens worst traits translate perfectly for the platform; its becoming a bit more honest these days - nearly most everyone on there knows its about sex now.
As a man on dating apps, you'd better have a lot to offer or else you aren't worth more than a second of thought. The selectiveness goes up an order of magnitude, as important social aspects aren't present such as body language, tone, facial expression and even smell. It can be very disheartening as it gives the impression that you aren't worth any consideration, whereas in real life, the "chemistry" that sparks human connection is reintroduced.
My brain hurts when I try to understand the premise of any of Zizek's speeches... He just rambles, rambles and rambles, while my mind wanders, wanders and wanders... I have zero idea what message he's trying to put out there. I'm just watching, because his tics are making me extremely uncomfortable, but at the same they are so mesmerizing I can't turn it off...
This man is so many leagues ahead of us that he could loop back down just so that he could takeover again. His highly thoughtful analysis of society is wrapped in a unique and perverse sense of humour that's much more easily digestible by mere mortals.
He says expressing yourself through emotions like anger isn't being yourself, but it's learnt behavior. Then he proceeds to talk about inner dirtiness and sado-masochism as something that we simply possess and have to express in some way (being yourself) in order to get rid of it. Could anyone explain me please what part I didn't understand? These two statements contradict each other.
I am not sure myself, as i am not that much into psychoanalysis. My guess would be that he sees that dirty stuff as some kind of hidden desire that want to express, just like we want to express anger when it is there. By outsourcing the the dirtyness (or anger) into a place where it can be expressed safely without hurting anyone, we can satisfy that sdesire and move on onto simply being. Both; being dirty and being angry are usually dependend on the society and not on us. Those 2 Things must be expressed by behavior that is NOT socially agreeeable. I would say, at least to some extent and of course a little anger is mostly accepted. Those aspect are characterized by going against the norm (or with the sexual dirty norm). And i think that he thinks that we are ourselfs when we are able to follow our own norm. But all just guesses.
Dear Ondrej, that is actually a question, that can be answered, because Zizek writes about that in his books (How to read Lacan, chapter 5: Ego Ideal and Superego). Basically the psychoanalytic theory behind this is this: You have three important Elements. 1. The Ideal-Ego: That is the ideal-image you like to present to your self (usually expressed on social media like instagram, but of course in real life too). 2. The Ego-Ideal: That is the gaze, in front of which you want to appear in that way. In other words: We always act for some Other. Please be careful here with this concept, because it does not necessarily mean a concrete Other. This gaze refers to a symbolic entity. (If you want to know more about the symbolic register i recommend you to read the easy understandable chapter 1 of the book mentioned above). 3. Finaly we have the Super-Ego. Here we may answer your question. I quote: »For Lacan, the seemingly benevolent agency of the Ego-Ideal that leads us to moral growth and maturity forces us to betray the "law of desire" by way of adopting the "reasonable" demands of the existing socio-symbolic order. The superego, with its excessive feeling of guilt, is merely the necessary obverse of the Ego-Ideal: it exerts its unbearabel pressure upon us on behalf of our betrayal of the "law of desire"« (page 81). By finding a space, where you can find enjoyment in transgressing the socio-symbolic order (like sado-masochistic behaviour for some people) you can follow the Ego-Ideal in a more peaceful way (like those nice girls he talked about). In short: The sado-masochistic behaviour is not an "authentic" expression of ourselves. That is not what he ment. I hope this gives you some context, where Zizek is coming from.
Well, you may be just focusing on things because you were taught they somehow matter more. The point is that EVERY human behaviour is learned and trained, but comes from an inner desire all animals have. So if you don't express that animal desires through some behaviour, they will bubble up. It's not "being yourself" it's being that part of yourself just enough to be satiated. The simpler way to remember that is that everyone you know, including yourself, if born in out of socieety, wouldn't know that you have to clean your ass, and would probably shit on your hand and toss it at things, everything else was learned and programmed by the super-ego, collective subcounscious or whatever you call it.
@@arthurrosa9403 This begs the question: Who are youWhich self is your self? On one hand it agree with you. On the other hand i would like to add that HOW we do things matters. We don't just wipe our ass. We do it in a certain way. Its maybe on tis own a bad example but when seen over many action we can see some form of temparament (which can also be seen as learned, but also be seen as express of stress or how fast you think etc).
In a true sense, romance is nothing but a primitive display of sexual market value. Everything else is a story people tell themselves to portray this primal lust as something deeper than the surface, which it really isn't. Oh yeah I fell in love with his personality, says she as she passed by 14 other dudes with the exact same personality and none of the physical appeals of the guy she picked. People are so pretentious and phoney.
I think it is important his discourse around commodification and love and how like most aspects of our lives in Capitalism it is up to us to "sell" ourselves to the world whether it be for jobs or relationships and has created an objectified marketplace where "perfection" is the only goal and we drive ourselves to mental illness to achieve those rotten incentives.
isn't it more what Sokrates was tslking about in Phaidros? That etics is more important then expressing desire? Andrew Feldmár claims that we often transform lonleyness into sexuality. Although it is just childish desire (to get close to a woman's body when we are anxious from being alone in a psychological sense). So making love in order to decrease lonleyness without knowing him/her is masturbation basically (and m. is like a baby hold the funiculus in the hands). Real sexuality is not in a person (there is no libido in anyone), but between two or more persons. And as such it is not a phisical but a psichological thing, that is not in me or in you but between "us". So what is the ideal sexual relationship for me? My answere is I can't desire sexuality, becouse it is not in the realm of will. But it. is possible to act ethically, lovingly, honestly, sincerely with the other person or live him/her alone, and if ("IF") sexuality accures between us, let's play. If not, I can do without it.
Not straight away. We play roles sometimes to impress if we find that person attractive. We do it without realising. You can find out more about a person fucking them as its a form of letting go.
I definetly don't agree that people being themselves would be monsters . People when they hold up an identity of themselves... and thus an idea of what is "other" and thus, usually, less human, will be monsters. When one learns to let go of this persona caused by their ego, this becomes less of an issue. Eastern philosophy has great teachings here. In fact, he is right that, even if alone, people will act out being their idea of themselves. Hence, the value of eastern teachings which shows you the ways to let go of that idea of the self... and just be.
The end is very true. Years ago and a while into my current relationship, whenever I had sex, I evaluated the quality of the sex by how often I could make the woman orgasm. As I opened up to my partner and became more vulnerable, my many flaws were showing more and more until I was so ashamed of myself that I could no longer get an erection. I had to disconnect my sense of pleasure from how pleased my ego was. Today I am still overweight, still not as strong as I want, not as successful as I want, not as competent as I want, but because I am loved and can love myself despite my flaws, sex today is much better and intimate than ever.
This guy Slavoj is a legend. He does a G of blow and tells an awkward lesbian story (2:12) and everybody's like WTF bro, but then he gets all Freudian (6:22) and we're like OK I guess you have a point, and then he's like HELL YEAH everything I know I learned in the lesbian BDSM scene (6:47). Everybody's like OMG seriously Slavoj? You're hilarious, but you're a creep! And he's like, "You wanna know the dirtiest thing I ever did? I hooked up with this girl and we just had tea and watched our dystopian sex machines pound each other! Now it's the only way I can finish!" (8:30) Today I saw some guy recorded it all and put it on UA-cam and acted like it was a TED talk about dating! What a timeless treasure! They say Slavoj, Ron Jeremy and Partiboi69 are the only people to ever get VIP at Berghain AND at Paul Stamets conferences.
The first story wasnt a lesbian story. He didnt explain a single thing he learned form lesbian women, he made a correlated observational reference about lesbians into sado mazo fetishes are actually very morally and ethically responsible. This a very easy concept to conjure...hes saying that while fetishes in our society may seem very taboo that as a function they allow people who conceive them merely as an ephemeral act of enjoyment etc are able to balance such acts and still be very moral. This is the opposite of right wing weirdos that scream and shout endlessly about how terrible trans people are in public then go home and masturbate to trans porn.. or how the stereotypical homophobe degrades gays when in the presence of others... but then goes and secretly desires gay sex in private. When people have an intrapsychic conflict where intrusive natural tendencies present themselves in their mind they often have to reject these ideas by focusing on an external representation of these negative ideas of self.. then they can attack something on the outside to lower anxiety about what is happening on the inside. The story about the sex toys is explained to be something we should merely imagine, he called the sexy toy he forgets the name of... "horrible." This concept is about highlighting the state of the human condition in modern times. Its amazing how much I can derive from this idea! Its really funny to think that if you were to bring a sex toy to meet someone else who brought their sex toy and you could commence to insert one in the other, but then, in doing so, both would be able to freely be themselves. he is essentially explaining how we have this immense social pressure where we are modeling an idea of who we are when we meet others, and because this spectacle of modern times insists that we have to be perfect in every way, we end up faking so much. The sex toys represent a consumerism and allowing a product to take away from the immense social pressure to perform as a good consumer in society. He began discussing how dating website profiles are hyper focused on the people behind them seeming perfect... he explains how perfection is best seen through a flaw, and finishes with a pretty good joke. I sincerely hope your comment is tongue n cheek and you actually grasp some of this on a deeper level than your comment would leave one to believe.
Zizek was the perfect debate match for Peterson in that they both occasionally say something interesting and insightful amidst all the verbal fuckery they usual utter. I suppose that sums up most philosophers and psychologists though.
“Sir, all I asked is if you’ve heard of tinder”
Haha!
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
id answer just like how Long he would answer.💚
wasteman, did u comment on his debate video with Jordan Pererson? I remember ur cowboy bibop picture( it might be someone esle with same avatar picture )
And so on
This guy is imperfect in every way… I think I’m in love.
Aren't we all.
@@guyincognito5663 Absolutely not, some people are just better than others in every concievable way. Lol
@@indiomoustafa2047 Only true for your mom.
gay
@@indiomoustafa2047 Wait, I should have explained that I meant we are all in love with him, not that we're all imperfect.
You know hes feeling it when the shniff more frequent
Reject modernity, embrace schniff
@@indiomoustafa2047 funniest comment i saw in ages 🤣
A rubber chicken would work equally well.
It´s astonishing he manages to say even more corny platitudes than he blows his nose in his hands
Hahhahahaha
“Two very attractive ladies, sexually”, Slavoj Žižek
More and more I think Frank Reynolds is influenced by Slavoj Zizek.
You forgot the sniff at the end
@@Stakhanovites wow, it’s kinda crazy I have that show on rn as I watch this too
@@Stakhanovites wow, it’s kinda crazy I have that show on rn as I watch this too. Frank Reynolds is intuitive in some weird way, but can let out some harsh statements. I guess I could see the similarity, maybe it’s the delivery
@@stefanroche3052 they're both influenced by diogenes
hes the greatest comedian of our times his timing is impeccable. freud would be jealous
What's the deal with airline food? Amiright
@@sayedalazam4228 lol
If you mean Freud would be jealous of degenerate and sickening humour, then yes.
@@emmanuelgoldspleen2905 keep hating nigga come back to me when youve read jokes and their relation to the unconscious (1905)
@@skiptoacceptancemdarlin no hes definitely pregnable. ;)
"Most people are monsters, secretly. I mean I guess. Or whatever. I have to pay tribute to my superego now." - Slavoj Zizek, probably
This is an interesting observation.
And so on
"Sniff" - Slavoj Žižek
They are.
@@hamc9477 Fries
The imperfection in another is reassuring and comforting as we are all well aware we have our own flaws.Seeing them in others allows us to be more accepting of our own and not feel an erroneous need to be something we are not. If you're not aware of your own 'flaws' or idiosyncrasies you are in trouble.
If you perceive someone as being flawless in their looks and speech, it’ll definitely make you self conscious around them because you don’t feel worthy of their attention.
It’s similar to when you’re talking to someone very well educated, and not having anything to say for fear of sounding stupid.
This may explain the feeling of culture shock when one moves to another country. To be aware of one's own idiosyncrasies implies having an idea of a standard of the 'norm', and if at in part this norm is culturally constructed, then it would itself be put to the test in another cultural setting.
No, we are in trouble either way doesnt matter how aware of things in our lifes we are, The Earth is dying at rapid pace, we are all in trouble.
“Stimulating training unit”
That is a perfect compliment
Stamina
@@alvareo92yeah he corrects himself but I prefer the imperfection
"let the robots have sex with each other so we can be human" awesome
Man, I like to hear this guy talk.
You and a lot of fine and very interesting people. He infers more from the shadows human behavior casts than near anyone living right now.
I bet he never tried online dating, yet he has the capacity to make an accurate analysis of what it is people desire from such mediocre platforms that promise happiness. If there was an actual allegorical cave, he's just smashing it with a wrecking ball.
He did the same with the review he wrote about matrix 4. He didn't actually watch the movie but read reviews by other people and tried to get to the essence of what the movie is about and how it fails
@@samwellick1706 Yeah, not everything he does is brilliant, but I still find it fascinating he understands alot of things that concern the youth.
Like always I assume most people meeting each other online do not meet on a dating site. Or that's my experience anyway. Maybe Tinder is different. If you have an activity in common you can talk about that without thinking about the "other stuff". The "two machines" are going at max while the two of you are doing the "usual" infatuation thing, having a crush just like IRL. But with a twist since the infatuation isn't appropriate to the setting. Giving it a better shot at getting to know the other first. Getting to know someone is a big deal, even if you haven't seen a pic. The average person looks average, so the odds of being disappointed are still quite low, right?
@@Ingu.z I guess the odds of being disappointed also depend on how high the expectations have been set upon the other person (reward prediction error).
Also, imo, it partly depends on which demographic sample the two people belong to (what's the common denominator that led to them meeting?) Why haven't they found anyone? Are they too niche or is there some underlying issue?
I wouldn't say the odds of being disappointed are high, but I wouldn't say they're low either.
@@golfinonotturno9697 It's difficult to readjust once you see a photo of the person for the first time after having talked with them for some time. It's not disappointment per se, just that the mental image usually is way off. Getting past that stage, the average person looks average.
I'm not sure how much you have dated, but it's common to learn to like a few traits (visual or otherwise). If you had an intensely good time with someone you were in love with, you may associate some of those features with that feeling. It somewhat "updates" your preferences. I've never been interested in skinny girls, but as it happened, I got together with one anyway and now I can find it very attractive with thin without much contour. I'd say - you don't choose who you get together with, and when you do, it may have a lasting effect on your future dating.
His closing for this talk is so endearing, the imagery of Zizek putting up robots to fuck so he doesn't have to and he and his partner could just explore and experience themselves to void ego focus is touching. This is an anti-social man who just wants to experience the warmth that is usually voided in casual sex, how sweet.
I'm not sure I quite understood, the robot sex is there to destroy any awkwardness or embarrassment so they can enjoy some level of sexless intimacy or what?
@@TenderHooligan it's not about sexless intimacy. He literally mentioned that maybe our hands touch and we maybe even get in bed . All the machines are doing is removing that pressure of performance etc etc that comes with dating.
*asocial not anti social
I thought he was saying something to the effect of talking/interaction/communicating with someone you could be sexually interested in is highly filtered and stiffled by the implications that sex could happen if certain things are done correctly instead of truly. So why not just let the machines (being analogs for our desires and egos) just fuck it out while we actually have tea and talk without expectations
"This is why I had always a deep sympathy for - of course, not practicing - Sadomasochism sexuality" - Slavoj Žižek
"even when we are just ourselves in private life, we always play being ourselves"
Damnnnn 😮
Seventeen of my Greek uncles are almost exactly like this all the time - one of them even does the sniff.
😂😂😂
Brilliant! 🤣
Norbert Steinkamp - 🙂
I want to get drunk with them so much right now.
Same😂😂
“You don’t ever fall in love with a perfect person. There must be some tiny, small disturbing element, and it is only through noticing this element that you say, but in spite of that imperfection, I love him or her”
"I was talking, once, in a faraway country...somewhere in Latin America...of course I will not say where!"
Cuba. He's definitely talking about Cuba.
He did a sniffing gesture, so he sure means columbia
@@TheGahta or peru? he was partying with gonzalo that's why he couldnt say where
Nah, it was argentina. You can see him therein his film.
@@TheGahta, Columbia (South Carolina, USA). Cannot even spell the name of a country, what r..e.-t..a.r.d.
I like the phrase, "do what you like, be yourself, but don't express yourself too much." Sometimes we express weaknesses, or dark things in our nature, because we don't filter them out through restraint.
You do need to express those feelings sometimes, but only to those who truly care about you and will not hold them against you.
Yes otherwise our repressed feelings will retreat into our shadow
Or we express, throw into the game our oppressed side for strategic reasons.
For positioning in certain situation as to avoid the others doing or saying even more stupid and worse things
"Don’t express yourself too much"
"Bring your biggest dildo to the restaurant, and I’ll bring my fleshlight"
Embrace the shadow self, don't hide it
that`s by far the best interview/ talk i`ve heard in years! thank you for that! plus i laughed my head off, thank you so much for that!!
You know when an older educated guy starts a non-stop one way conversation with you while you're restlessly nodding your head in agreement although you are spaced out completely holding a beer. Yeah it's magical, thank you for sharing this while I completely didn't understand a thing watching him touch his snoze canon every three seconds.
I’m sad you didn’t understand a thing
@@alvareo92 - 🤓
I am literally nodding and holding a beer atm lol
SNOOZE CANNON😭😭😭
I didn’t know I could feel confused, amazed, disgusted, and be laughing hysterically all at once. I love this man. 😂
holy shit the tangents he goes on are absolutely amazing and to top it all off they always end with a little bit of knowledge to be shared
He’s glowingly on fire in this one. Absolutely lovely.
@ 7:57. One of the most funniest things I've heard, particularly with that accent. XD
Omg this guy is fucking hilarious
Ele-tric deldoh
I think what is described as normality here is the sickness of society we can't get rid of. Accept imperfections in the moment, but work on them. Imperfections of image which is relatively superficial are different that imperfections of character which is deeper and multidimensional.
In life, you present yourself, with all your flaws and eccentric mannerisms and endearing personal qualities. Online, you’re submitting the equivalent of a resume. Nobody who looks at that personal bio is gonna have any idea of your actual personality, and when they meet you, it’s almost like a job interview, with both of you having your guard up, asking inane questions to ferret out whether you are somebody worth taking on or just an imposter.
That is not how love begins; two complete strangers meeting and trying to figure out what the other is hiding. It is something that builds slowly between two people who know each other and over time draw closer together. And in todays modern age, when we spend so much of our time at work or in front of a screen, isolated from one another, that is a becoming very difficult if not impossible. And so we have the machine sex.
I have no idea where this conversation went lol. But I do think that dating apps are rising people's expectations to unrealistic standards.
Not just that but expectations that certain dating scenes cannot meet. Sadly for people who want a certain vibe/scene, they gotta move out elsewhere and not be around in middle of nowhere.
@@t4d0W definitely, people can really be in their imagination on those apps, it's not likely for them to meet similar minded people
People's expectations? Women's expectations, men are fairly easy to please, you can check dating studies, most men rate most women as attractive, whereas most women rate most men as unattractive. They rate something like 15-20% exceptionally good looking men attractive, the others have to navigate this labyrinth and impress her in so many ways an s maybe hopefully one day wear her down eventually, where the exceptionally good looking men could've done the trick with 1 photo.
@@joschmo4497 Men aren't easy to please.
@@Conormcnproductions For real? Do tell us what this unreasonable list of men's expectations is.
I loved his facial expressions when he mentioned the name of the electrical vagina after remembering it, all the love uncle Zizek !
lmao that one perfect frame of him grinning with wide open eyes and sharp tongue in corner xDDD
I had the laughter of the year , thans uncle Slavoj
Most people are monsters inside lol truest shit i ever heard.
Woooahhhh so original man
This guy is brilliant
"People are monsters, secretly" - Slavoj Zizek 🗿
I never had much of a success in online dating. Maybe because its just a form of social media which is far away from social nowadays. Picking up girls in real life is much more fun and has a real chance of finding a good partner.
Never had luck in regular places...
We always tend to present ourselves in a way we believe makes du desirable… be it online or irl. Online dating doesn’t change the way we fall in love, just the way we meet potential partners.
(I just love the way he describes the ideal sexual relation)
It's an amplifier
Changed my tinder profile after watching this. I just took a picture in terrible lighting before my morning shower and now I have more matches than I know what to do with.
Definitely try this technique.
Are you serious about getting matches on Tinder? I mean, dating sites have become such a trash that it is hard to find someone being successful. I have been to POF for 10 years and in the old days it was the place to have genuine conversations with good girls. I even met in person like 10 or more girls. But in recent years it has come down hill and I left the building in october last year.
Uncle Slavoj, you're the best!
He should of been a character in Grand Theft Auto IV,Niko Bellic’s eccentric philosophy professor uncle visiting from the homeland and gabbing nonstop during a mission.
Slavoj once didn't rub his nose for 38 seconds .. in a row!
nobody:
Žižek: *snif*
1:24 why he lick after saying their names tho
I love how this video only gets better and better
thanks uncle Slavoj!
Pay attention to this guy, im surprised that being the smart person he is ...he's still pretty cheer up, thats a bit rare haha
He still hates life :D
I think this self-control makes him so genuinely appealing. He has millions of reasons to hate life and yet he keeps these thoughts to himself and keeps being positive.
He's cheery because he doesn't let society bring him down. He's a class example of a rebel, an absurd hero, the Übermensch. A true philosopher.
Slavoj hates life
"He's still pretty cheer up"
*phone rings*
Slavoj: "I hate life."
His satisfied expressions at the end of the video though
I looked at online dating about 15yrs ago and thought nope, and never looked again. It's a shallow thing where men pay to meet women, like prostitution but instead of sex you pay for rejection.
Some kind of sado mazo. True, true... I'm good looking guy, every woman saying so but online dating for me is catastrophy.
That's hilarious - for what it promises, it delivers : the hope of a shortcut to the hard work of finding interesting people for romance.
The challenge of course is there remain problems we can't solve with technology but like the proverbial carpenter we continue nailing!
What I'm learning from my female friends is how easily mens worst traits translate perfectly for the platform; its becoming a bit more honest these days - nearly most everyone on there knows its about sex now.
@@Kobe29261 true. Plus normal people are out of market very early ( goes for both sexes). They don't need tinder.
You do know the women pay to use it too right..
As a man on dating apps, you'd better have a lot to offer or else you aren't worth more than a second of thought. The selectiveness goes up an order of magnitude, as important social aspects aren't present such as body language, tone, facial expression and even smell. It can be very disheartening as it gives the impression that you aren't worth any consideration, whereas in real life, the "chemistry" that sparks human connection is reintroduced.
Wasnt ready for this, so good
goddamn that joke at the end was awesome
Zizek is Quite AWESOME. REALLY INFLUENTIAL.
This man should do some serious stand-up, great future beckons...
No matter how funny he may present himself through his mannerisms etc, he’s absolutely correct
My brain hurts when I try to understand the premise of any of Zizek's speeches... He just rambles, rambles and rambles, while my mind wanders, wanders and wanders... I have zero idea what message he's trying to put out there. I'm just watching, because his tics are making me extremely uncomfortable, but at the same they are so mesmerizing I can't turn it off...
Gotta give it up here. That was a wild ride.
"Let's say- It's not true- but let's say we are talking"
This man is so many leagues ahead of us that he could loop back down just so that he could takeover again.
His highly thoughtful analysis of society is wrapped in a unique and perverse sense of humour that's much more easily digestible by mere mortals.
You are allowed to have your own opinion on certain philosophers, but always remember to think critically!
@@alang.2054 Better keep being aware of ideology before i get too swayed by it
2:15 the imperfectness creates the illusion of perfectness; without it there is no perfection but plainness
He says expressing yourself through emotions like anger isn't being yourself, but it's learnt behavior. Then he proceeds to talk about inner dirtiness and sado-masochism as something that we simply possess and have to express in some way (being yourself) in order to get rid of it. Could anyone explain me please what part I didn't understand? These two statements contradict each other.
Yes, the sado-masochism part was confusing to me too
I am not sure myself, as i am not that much into psychoanalysis.
My guess would be that he sees that dirty stuff as some kind of hidden desire that want to express, just like we want to express anger when it is there. By outsourcing the the dirtyness (or anger) into a place where it can be expressed safely without hurting anyone, we can satisfy that sdesire and move on onto simply being.
Both; being dirty and being angry are usually dependend on the society and not on us. Those 2 Things must be expressed by behavior that is NOT socially agreeeable. I would say, at least to some extent and of course a little anger is mostly accepted. Those aspect are characterized by going against the norm (or with the sexual dirty norm). And i think that he thinks that we are ourselfs when we are able to follow our own norm.
But all just guesses.
Dear Ondrej, that is actually a question, that can be answered, because Zizek writes about that in his books (How to read Lacan, chapter 5: Ego Ideal and Superego).
Basically the psychoanalytic theory behind this is this: You have three important Elements.
1. The Ideal-Ego: That is the ideal-image you like to present to your self (usually expressed on social media like instagram, but of course in real life too).
2. The Ego-Ideal: That is the gaze, in front of which you want to appear in that way. In other words: We always act for some Other. Please be careful here with this concept, because it does not necessarily mean a concrete Other. This gaze refers to a symbolic entity. (If you want to know more about the symbolic register i recommend you to read the easy understandable chapter 1 of the book mentioned above).
3. Finaly we have the Super-Ego. Here we may answer your question. I quote: »For Lacan, the seemingly benevolent agency of the Ego-Ideal that leads us to moral growth and maturity forces us to betray the "law of desire" by way of adopting the "reasonable" demands of the existing socio-symbolic order. The superego, with its excessive feeling of guilt, is merely the necessary obverse of the Ego-Ideal: it exerts its unbearabel pressure upon us on behalf of our betrayal of the "law of desire"« (page 81).
By finding a space, where you can find enjoyment in transgressing the socio-symbolic order (like sado-masochistic behaviour for some people) you can follow the Ego-Ideal in a more peaceful way (like those nice girls he talked about). In short: The sado-masochistic behaviour is not an "authentic" expression of ourselves. That is not what he ment.
I hope this gives you some context, where Zizek is coming from.
Well, you may be just focusing on things because you were taught they somehow matter more. The point is that EVERY human behaviour is learned and trained, but comes from an inner desire all animals have.
So if you don't express that animal desires through some behaviour, they will bubble up. It's not "being yourself" it's being that part of yourself just enough to be satiated.
The simpler way to remember that is that everyone you know, including yourself, if born in out of socieety, wouldn't know that you have to clean your ass, and would probably shit on your hand and toss it at things, everything else was learned and programmed by the super-ego, collective subcounscious or whatever you call it.
@@arthurrosa9403
This begs the question: Who are youWhich self is your self?
On one hand it agree with you. On the other hand i would like to add that HOW we do things matters. We don't just wipe our ass. We do it in a certain way. Its maybe on tis own a bad example but when seen over many action we can see some form of temparament (which can also be seen as learned, but also be seen as express of stress or how fast you think etc).
“Sir this is a Wendy’s”
i love his increase in passion at 2:31
Wow. He’s a romantic in the truest sense. Who knew?
In a true sense, romance is nothing but a primitive display of sexual market value. Everything else is a story people tell themselves to portray this primal lust as something deeper than the surface, which it really isn't. Oh yeah I fell in love with his personality, says she as she passed by 14 other dudes with the exact same personality and none of the physical appeals of the guy she picked. People are so pretentious and phoney.
@@joschmo4497People don't understand themselves, because they don't like to understand anything, or think.
I fucking love Zizek 😂
I think it is important his discourse around commodification and love and how like most aspects of our lives in Capitalism it is up to us to "sell" ourselves to the world whether it be for jobs or relationships and has created an objectified marketplace where "perfection" is the only goal and we drive ourselves to mental illness to achieve those rotten incentives.
Thank you dad
His struggles with his nose are real.
The imperfection of non symmetry of her beef curtains
His body moves as ist you watch the video on 200% but his voice is on normal speed
He pulls up coke in his hand and snort it while being interviewed
Really?
What a legend
The best information is always made hard to consume
No matter what kind of philosopher you are, you hate online dating
Thank you Zizek for spitting on me while your're giving me some thought provoking ideas... I guess?
I precisely agree with him on the perfection theory.
Comedian or philosopher? I don't think these things are mutually exclusive.
This is why a funny story…
Someone please get this man a tissue
very true, just kept getting distracted by him touching his nose
The Illusion of perfection is created precisely by this Excess.
He is kinda crazy but some of the shit he says is kinda true
Lmao
Kinda
It’s all true: that’s why it’s funny.
The worst part about online dating is so many guys pretending to be Zizek when they’re Russell Brand at best
Dealer: How much coke you want?
Slavoj: Yes
Those aren't coke side effects, he clearly has Tourettes.
@@Justin88800 All the hooligans in my country have Tourette.
No.
Zizek is based, we dont deserve his greatness
I don't know why I fell in love, I just loved her smile and that she wanted to be with me, nothing about imperfections but ok
isn't it more what Sokrates was tslking about in Phaidros? That etics is more important then expressing desire? Andrew Feldmár claims that we often transform lonleyness into sexuality. Although it is just childish desire (to get close to a woman's body when we are anxious from being alone in a psychological sense). So making love in order to decrease lonleyness without knowing him/her is masturbation basically (and m. is like a baby hold the funiculus in the hands). Real sexuality is not in a person (there is no libido in anyone), but between two or more persons. And as such it is not a phisical but a psichological thing, that is not in me or in you but between "us". So what is the ideal sexual relationship for me? My answere is I can't desire sexuality, becouse it is not in the realm of will. But it. is possible to act ethically, lovingly, honestly, sincerely with the other person or live him/her alone, and if ("IF") sexuality accures between us, let's play. If not, I can do without it.
The analogy for ideal sex in the end was beautiful
He’s very right but at the same time, as soon as you date the person, you will get to know their real self.
Not straight away. We play roles sometimes to impress if we find that person attractive. We do it without realising. You can find out more about a person fucking them as its a form of letting go.
Or their unconscious self as you start living with them.
@@ThorOdinson1269 I would argue that their unconscious self is MOST of their real self
I definetly don't agree that people being themselves would be monsters . People when they hold up an identity of themselves... and thus an idea of what is "other" and thus, usually, less human, will be monsters. When one learns to let go of this persona caused by their ego, this becomes less of an issue. Eastern philosophy has great teachings here. In fact, he is right that, even if alone, people will act out being their idea of themselves. Hence, the value of eastern teachings which shows you the ways to let go of that idea of the self... and just be.
give this man a dam tissue
How did I end up being here?
I was listening music and the just popped on recommendations
his perfect date is the starting point for the next yorgos lanthimos movie
He sounds mad but he is right
The end is very true. Years ago and a while into my current relationship, whenever I had sex, I evaluated the quality of the sex by how often I could make the woman orgasm. As I opened up to my partner and became more vulnerable, my many flaws were showing more and more until I was so ashamed of myself that I could no longer get an erection. I had to disconnect my sense of pleasure from how pleased my ego was. Today I am still overweight, still not as strong as I want, not as successful as I want, not as competent as I want, but because I am loved and can love myself despite my flaws, sex today is much better and intimate than ever.
Although some of his ideas do have some weight behind them, they are few and far between.
I would never shake this dude’s hand. Not out of disrespect but because I don’t want to catch something.
This guy Slavoj is a legend. He does a G of blow and tells an awkward lesbian story (2:12) and everybody's like WTF bro, but then he gets all Freudian (6:22) and we're like OK I guess you have a point, and then he's like HELL YEAH everything I know I learned in the lesbian BDSM scene (6:47). Everybody's like OMG seriously Slavoj? You're hilarious, but you're a creep! And he's like, "You wanna know the dirtiest thing I ever did? I hooked up with this girl and we just had tea and watched our dystopian sex machines pound each other! Now it's the only way I can finish!" (8:30)
Today I saw some guy recorded it all and put it on UA-cam and acted like it was a TED talk about dating! What a timeless treasure!
They say Slavoj, Ron Jeremy and Partiboi69 are the only people to ever get VIP at Berghain AND at Paul Stamets conferences.
The first story wasnt a lesbian story. He didnt explain a single thing he learned form lesbian women, he made a correlated observational reference about lesbians into sado mazo fetishes are actually very morally and ethically responsible. This a very easy concept to conjure...hes saying that while fetishes in our society may seem very taboo that as a function they allow people who conceive them merely as an ephemeral act of enjoyment etc are able to balance such acts and still be very moral. This is the opposite of right wing weirdos that scream and shout endlessly about how terrible trans people are in public then go home and masturbate to trans porn.. or how the stereotypical homophobe degrades gays when in the presence of others... but then goes and secretly desires gay sex in private. When people have an intrapsychic conflict where intrusive natural tendencies present themselves in their mind they often have to reject these ideas by focusing on an external representation of these negative ideas of self.. then they can attack something on the outside to lower anxiety about what is happening on the inside. The story about the sex toys is explained to be something we should merely imagine, he called the sexy toy he forgets the name of... "horrible." This concept is about highlighting the state of the human condition in modern times. Its amazing how much I can derive from this idea! Its really funny to think that if you were to bring a sex toy to meet someone else who brought their sex toy and you could commence to insert one in the other, but then, in doing so, both would be able to freely be themselves. he is essentially explaining how we have this immense social pressure where we are modeling an idea of who we are when we meet others, and because this spectacle of modern times insists that we have to be perfect in every way, we end up faking so much. The sex toys represent a consumerism and allowing a product to take away from the immense social pressure to perform as a good consumer in society. He began discussing how dating website profiles are hyper focused on the people behind them seeming perfect... he explains how perfection is best seen through a flaw, and finishes with a pretty good joke. I sincerely hope your comment is tongue n cheek and you actually grasp some of this on a deeper level than your comment would leave one to believe.
@Paul Gauthier Not even! 4 out of 5 PhD students agree that the 'research' they conducted with Slavoj is a good thing!
Pretty sure he’s Patient Zero for Covid.
Terrific breakdown. You had me at those three as VIPs at Berghain.
Zizek was the perfect debate match for Peterson in that they both occasionally say something interesting and insightful amidst all the verbal fuckery they usual utter. I suppose that sums up most philosophers and psychologists though.
Yet people on online platform at times present their inadequacies and interests.
4:22 “I believe in proper manners”
DO YOU?!
It makes much more sense if you watch it stoned
His nose gets more red as the video goes on.
Hahahhahaha, I am at the airport. 7:30am. I didn’t know but I needed that.
this guy treating the letter s like a sidechick