I love how in-love you are with motherhood, really taking it as serious as it is. You can tell in how your kids behave how dedicated to them you are. You are such an inspiration. Thank you for your mom-content.
I absolutely LOVE that you went to Ivy and asked her how you could improve. I think it's so beautiful that you value the thoughts of your toddler and want to improve from that. Love that. Thank you for this video sister
I have a LONG list of things I don't want to be a mistake when raising my own kids. My relationship with my mom was very...dysfunctional and she passed away when I was 19. As I hope to start my family in a year or two, there are things I really want to do. Most of all, I want to spend FUN one-on-one time with my kids, like go and get ice cream, get dinner together, cooking together. I didn't get that with my mom to the point that it BLEW MY MIND when other people talk about doing fun dates with their moms and are so close compared to what I had. I want a good connection with my kids and I don't want anything to get in the way of that.
Girl I feel you!!! I’m starting to plan a family now and my mother is a narcissist. I barely talk to her and only do because me and my baby brother are very close. But I had an older woman friend who so loving and affectionate with me. I was lucky. I don’t see her anymore but I won’t forget going to a spa in the city with her and it was like mom daughter day and the ladies there assumed we were mom and daughter 😅 loved it! I can’t wait to be a mother and I’ll be so happy to have a daughter! My mother competed with me it seemed and said horrible things I hope to never say or do with my children!! I mean I don’t need to hope I won’t do it!
Hi! I love your idea, but I also suggest that if you have more than one child you should spend time with only one of them, not all of them together. Like give them different spaces to be with you ^^ Im not sure if you already thought abt that or if one-to-one means exactly that hahaha im not an english speaker
My mother (who is 76 years old) apologized a few days ago about her mistakes. But I didn't know what mistakes she was talking about. I don't care, I had a great childhood. We're only humans. What's done is done. :)
I was just watching this with my four year old daughter and she was like “mommy but you don’t make any mistakes” my heart melted ❤️ Thank you Sarah for these amazing videos. I love and enjoy watching them.
I was that weird veggie kid. When I was 5 my favorite foods were Lima beans, cantaloupe and carrots but I hated animal products. So weird how pickiness can exclude so many foods.
The misdirected anger, ugh. I'm not even a mom yet and i struggle with that so much (and even just directed shouldn't-be-angry-anger) and I'm terrified of ever misdirecting it at my kids in the future because that was something my dad always had an issue with and i really don't want my kids to be scared of me like that.
I experienced so much negativity from people when I was pregnant too, and was pleasantly surprised with how amazing things were after my son was born because everyone said it would be terrible!
Re. the forgetting thing, I can definitely relate. One thing I say to my kids is, ‘We can do x, y, z later but you will need to remind me because sometimes I get so busy that I forget things and I don’t want to forget because I would love to do x, y, z with you - I think it would be really fun.’ And if I do forget or don’t have time, they are mentally prepared and they aren’t feeling rejected 😌
Just a little reminder for all those mothers struggling, God can sanctifiy us through the mistakes we make with our kids. We can thank Him for allowing us to see how much we fail so we see how much more we need Him!
This video helped me today and forever. I totally will admit I redirected my anger today and I felt horrible about it. I apologized about it and held my kids tighter. Thank you Sarah as always!
I struggle with forgetting things. I've been diagnosed with fibromyalgia, and one of the symptoms of that is called "fibro fog" which is basically just a terrible short term memory. I'm learning to write everything down, especially with such busy days filled with 5 kids and appointments! Mine is an illness, BUT it's normal to forget things when your busy, so please don't beat yourselves up mommas if you're forgetful sometimes!! Planners are the greatest invention for me!
My son is 2 years old and suffers from bad eczema. Due to his health and lack of speech I really compare him to other kids and this affects me emotionally daily. I need to try and stop the comparison and celebrate his individuality. Thank you for this video Sarah, just what I needed 🙏🏼❤️
I'm currently living like textbook mom and didn't realize it. Thank you for sharing this!! Knowing it's not that big of deal is big weight off my chest.
This video was amazing. I can relate to so much of this not even as a mother but as a person. I too rarely feel anger but when I do I often feel a lot of guilt about taking anger out on others. I also think it is so important to know what your kids love most about having you as a mother so that you can do your best to make them happy, like you knowing how much ivy loved quality time.
Thank you so much for posting this, and being so raw. It’s hard to admit mistakes anyway, but especially as a parent, it almost seems to invite judgment. I’ve looked at you as a solid role model for many years, as you’re the embodiment of what I’d always hoped to be and achieve as a mother. Now that I am a mom of a 2- almost 3 month old, I’ve really realized what a super mom you are. Maybe you don’t feel that way, but that’s certainly the way I look at you. It’s through your vulnerabilities and rawness, that I can take notes, and implement your words and advice into my own journey as a parent. I’ll still make mistakes, and I’ll still have questions and moments of doubt, or whatever, but I also have faith that I will be the perfect mom for my kid(s), even if I don’t feel like it sometimes. Anyway, I just want to thank you again! I’ll be looking forward to your next one!!
I love when you said I don't want my children to feel shame when eating a cookie. I hear so many parents say, we can just have one 'naught' cookie or along those lines, labeling the food as bad. We just simply call them sometimes foods.
I agree so much !! That raising your kids by textbook standards or “ milestones” is such a bad thing to do. Every child is differnt and has differnt needs and that is totally okay 👌
I would want my child to not be scared to come talk to me. Not be scared of telling me anything. Kids need to feel like they can tell you stuff or else they will hide and grow up to be strangers. That's what im going to try to do, but i realize no one is perfect.
I'm happy this was her experience. I'm also here to say that postpartum rage is real. You're not alone, mama's. I see you and the struggle you are going through and it can get better.
The mistakes I've made as a mom, somedays I'm not patient enough for my eldest and allowing my own depression to effect our ability to go out and have activities.
Don’t worry about the skiing, I started learning at 6 years old and my brother was 8 when we moved to Switzerland and we quickly picked it up and became good at it. There is plenty of time for them to make great skiing memories 🙂
Yeah I also started learning to ski when I was 7 with my sister who was 5... The one thing I really commend my parents for doing concerning our skiing is enrolling us in ski-school - i feel so much safer on my skis than many if my friends who didn’t have that privilege :) oh and also - liebi Grüessli au us de Schwiiz 🎉
I know I'm going to struggle comparing when I have more kids, because my first is such a good baby and is honestly "ahead" of standard measures according to society. Love this video!
Thanks for this video! I discovered you during quarantine. We got pregnant around exactly the same time but I lost my girl Johanna around 14 weeks and I’m just feeling able to watch you again. I still have beautiful wonderful kids who are 5 and 3 and you inspire me to be a great mom to them! Thanks for being cognizant brought to reflect on your parenting journey. Also for being brave and vulnerable! I enjoy watching your videos!
These are all SO GOOD. I just had my 5th and I went through allllll these phases and feel the exact same way. Thanks for the reminders/encouragement ❤️🙌
My biggest mistake: Thinking my child was going to be just like my brother and me when we were kids. I even bought him all the same toys we liked to play that I grew up with. But he is nothing like me, and really like no other child I have ever been around. It took some time for me to really understand him (he is now 5) and letting go of my previous expectations has been so good for both of us! For some strange reason thought I knew what my child was going to be like. WRONG! haha
As someone who was put on skis at 3, put your kids in ski school!!! Maybe it’s just a couple days a year, but it is one of the best things my parents ever did for me, and some of by best memories are skiing with the family.
I work as a teacher in primary school and I smiled big time at the part about ‚not doubting the kids‘ I tell my forthgraders all the time ‚YES, you can do this!‘ and then in the course of this I have to face there not there yet...
I don’t want to make the mistake of not letting my kids know how much God loves them and this is done through me and my husbands actions. I want to show God’s love by me and my husband’s relationship and how I love my kids. I want my house to be filled with the Spirit, not the flesh.
It's so great how you treat your kids as actual human beings, even though they are still small. They learn a lot from you and you learn a lot from them! Though I dont have any kids myself, I see so many mothers who treat their kids as if they can't do anything or can't grow because they are children. I mean, my sister went ballistic at my dad for setting her child in the grass before he was a year old (because a textbook said so). Its refreshing seeing mothers like you!
Hi, come from Angela Braniffs channel. I can definitely relate. I have 5 kids. With my first, I took on board what everyone said all the time and it was absolutely depressing thinking I must just have it all wrong. And realising that I lacked confidence, when I had no reason to. When my second came along, it was SO life changing and parenting both became a breeze, because I chose to just do what I wanted to do as a parent, I let myself be the judge of me, and I went about parenting my children with my own expectations of myself as a mother. And it just made it such a breeze. The confidence was life changing. It wasn't a matter of oh, I know what I'm doing or whatever else, but being confident in my choices and decisions. Sure, if something didn't work, I'd try something else, however it did make me a more persistent mumma, a more calmer and happier mumma.. I finally embraced motherhood and enjoyed being a mumma. And its sad that it took me to have number 2 to get to that. But I guess that's how I ended up having 3 more kids, and it's just gotten better and better. 💗
@@SarahTherese I've been watching you both for years as well as Delilah. You're all so powerful women and are such an inspiration for me and so many others. ❤
I am not a mom but I love to listen to moms talk about their children. I baby sit my seven year old niece since she was a baby and I love to learn from specials mommy’s like you. 😊
this is seriously one of the best videos I've watched! i love that you are not afraid to talk about your mama mistakes, as everyone has them and we are not perfect
Honestly with the newborn thing, totally depends on the baby. One baby I had was exhausting, I never had any time to myself, baby needed thing a constantly or was crying non stop. My other two, easy going, eat sleep poop types. Total luck of the draw.
Wow Ivy’s comment! 😍 I had the most loving and present parents but when I was a child, I used to keep a list of things I would or wouldn’t want to replicate with my children later. I see myself thinking back then ‘you MUST remember this not to do it’. Obviously, I’m an adult so I forgot most of it.. but the one thing that will never leave my mind is exactly what Ivy told you. My parents would tell me we were going to do things later to please me, there was no bad intention. They had very busy days and did their best. I don’t know if they would just forget to do it in the end or if they never had the intention to but I am sure now they simply thought I would forget. But I would not, there was not much in my life apart from them so if they promised me something I would wait for it until it happened. A small promise for an adult is so huge for a child. Of course I would never blame my wonderful parents for this and it is absolutely ok to forget things but as you say, I think it is even more important not to promise something we aren’t sure we can do on the first place. Thanks Ivy for having reminded it to adult me 🙏🏻☺️
The biggest mistake I’ve made so far as a mom is not pay attention to my kids over hearing complaints about myself. I’ve struggled with depression over half of my life so I’m not my biggest fan. But when I’m reaching out to my husband on tough days I don’t realize my kids can probably hear me talk about how much I dislike myself. I’ve been working on explaining mental health and being more open about why I struggle instead of them putting it together as if there’s any other purpose to beat yourself down so much. 😔
As the daughter of a severely depressed mom, my only suggestion is to really impress upon your children that the way you feel is not their fault. I adore my mom and we have a beautiful relationship, but much of my childhood was spent feeling guilty for 'making her sad'. There is so much hope for you and you are so valuable and loved. 🧡
@@annarocha3254 oh I do. Absolutely. My kids know I’m “sick” and my husband and I explain age appropriately to them what that all means. I had a rough relationship with my own mom and one thing I made sure was to own my faults and be the one to say sorry and seek my kids forgiveness when I mess up. I know my kids love me and they know I love them so much. Depression is truly a dark battle that I will probably struggle with for the rest of my life but I do have better control over it now. And more tools in my belt to prepare to reach out and use when there are worse days. I love my family. We’re such a solid team. But I have so much mom guilt because depression has robbed so much of my time getting to enjoy that love. 😔
Love the skiing thing 😆 I aways though my kids will learn very early, but for the last 5 years I was pregnant or having a small baby so being the most experienced skier in our family and wanting to be a part of teaching them, it hasn't work out so far 😁
My daughter can get into a frame of mind where she finds problems in everything, and can pretend she can't do things. Usually when she's being told to do stuff she doesn't want to. I went mad at her this week because I thought she was pretending she couldn't open some doors in the house, which I was certain she usually has no problem with. She was making a scene over it. So I shouted at her, "Why are you now pretending you can't open the doors?!", and refused to help. Then later, my husband told me she can't actually open the doors (how I've missed this I don't know?!). Felt so bad. Sometimes, if they've been in naughty frame of mind, you can then mistake genuine actions as acting up.... Staying calm when she's acting up over small things that need doing is something I have to try really hard with.
Thank you for being honest and sharing. You are an amazing mama making mistakes and learning from them is part of motherhood. Love your gentle approach to parenting. 💗
I was just thinking that I miss Sarah's videos and was planning on watching one, and here she comes bringing me joy!! You're in my Prayers Sarah, I hope You and your Family are Safe, Healthy, and Happy😌😘
I am not a mumma yet, but I will soon be on that journey of TTC. In my motherhood journey, I hope I don't make the mistake of when my child is upset, I don't want to make the mistake of not allowing them to express how they feel in that moment, I don't want the repeat of what I got "Don't cry, or I'll give you something to cry for" type parenting that I got growing up. I want to teach them what that emotion is and allow them to tell me why they feel this way and help them process it and move forward, I am very impatient and can get irritable easily and I don't want that to rub off on my child, I want my child to know what their emotions are, be able to recognise and express them in a safe, healthy environment and learn how to cope with them better then I have in the past. Great video! I am so inspired by your parenting :)
Regarding doubting your kids - it sounds like you may over-estimate their capabilities for their ages, rather than actually doubting them, which to me implies lack of confidence in them. It might be a small distinction, but I wanted to put it out there. So glad you mentioned the sunglasses. I have always wondered why I see so many children without sunglasses when their parents are wearing them. Your children are so lucky to have a mama who puts thought into treating them with respect. You are a terrific mama!
I'm glad you mentioned the fruits and veggies thing. I have three kiddos and I have one that will eat anything (sushi, salad, etc...), one who eats maybe 5 different things and gags and vomits even being around anything not in his approved 5 (granted, he is special needs so that could play a part), and one kiddo in between. I'd love a more in depth video on that subject. What you've learned, what you've tried, what works and doesn't work, etc. 😊
My 1st child just finally wants to eat fruits. She loves green food when she was younger. Then suddenly she stopped. My 2nd child loves fruits so much. Now I just realize they take their own time.. I am no longer feeling pressure about making food. As long as they want to eat. They are just fine..
The best tip I ever got about getting a kid to eat veggies is when you are introducing new foods to the baby, do NOT introduce them to fruit until they are used to all the main veggies. Once they try the sweet fruit they won’t be interested in bland veggies. Worked like a charm for my son who is now 16 and will eat anything you put in front of him!
Such an important video! Moms always feel guilty and they don't have to, really. I'm not a mother yet, but I learn so much from you, Sarah, thank you! Sending love from Brazil 💖
About the kids don’t remember your mistake thing, that’s not always true. I know so many women who were body or fat shamed and that stayed with them forever. Your kids may not remember your mistakes, but they’ll remember how you made them feel.
Not a mama but one day not invalidating my children’s feelings!! I don’t want to call them dramatic or a baby for having big feelings or being upset it’s so important and builds trust
My kids as infants are ALL the veggies, fruits not so much. Once they turned 2 a light switched and they refused ALL. Now they’re 3&4 and beginning to finally dip their toes WILLINGLY into the world of veggies again
I really felt the one about comparing your kids to the standard. My son is almost 14mo and he still can't even crawl, even though he is very well developed in other ways and has such a greaaat personality. Every time I see other kids who are literally half his age which can already crawled do a bunch of other stuff it is really hard for me. That's something I'm really working on!
YES TO THE SKI FAMILY!!! We really hope to get our future kids on the slopes before 2 too! I definitely have a soft spot for kids bundled up like marshmallows cruising down that bunny hill😂 But thankfully skiing is pretty accessible to learn at any age!
Sunglasses! Yes! And I'm going to do my very best to always put sunblock on my kids . one tip I heard about caring for your baby is if you're cold, your baby's cold, if you're hot, your baby's hot. same thing with the sun bearing down on you! 💖💖
Sarah saying in the beginning: " I am a mother of three and one of them is in the utero"
Me being like: "no Sarah, you actually have 4 children 😂😂😂"
Well, she did say she tends to forget things 😂
Hahaha! I noticed this too!
Came looking for this comment before I commented it 😂😂
Same ! 😅
I thought she said 3 plus 1 in utero
I love how in-love you are with motherhood, really taking it as serious as it is. You can tell in how your kids behave how dedicated to them you are. You are such an inspiration. Thank you for your mom-content.
😭😭😭😭😭 *When that border opens up, please come squish me!!!! I’m seriously so happy to have you be part of this collab, my friend! You are a gem!*
OMG! Best collab ever! Love both of you so much! ❤️
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I absolutely LOVE that you went to Ivy and asked her how you could improve. I think it's so beautiful that you value the thoughts of your toddler and want to improve from that. Love that. Thank you for this video sister
“The more I live, the more I forget”
Wow. I felt that.
I have a LONG list of things I don't want to be a mistake when raising my own kids. My relationship with my mom was very...dysfunctional and she passed away when I was 19. As I hope to start my family in a year or two, there are things I really want to do.
Most of all, I want to spend FUN one-on-one time with my kids, like go and get ice cream, get dinner together, cooking together. I didn't get that with my mom to the point that it BLEW MY MIND when other people talk about doing fun dates with their moms and are so close compared to what I had. I want a good connection with my kids and I don't want anything to get in the way of that.
I feel you.
Best wishes to you!
Love the one on one time. Xxx
I totally feel you on this. Same here
Girl I feel you!!! I’m starting to plan a family now and my mother is a narcissist. I barely talk to her and only do because me and my baby brother are very close. But I had an older woman friend who so loving and affectionate with me. I was lucky. I don’t see her anymore but I won’t forget going to a spa in the city with her and it was like mom daughter day and the ladies there assumed we were mom and daughter 😅 loved it! I can’t wait to be a mother and I’ll be so happy to have a daughter! My mother competed with me it seemed and said horrible things I hope to never say or do with my children!! I mean I don’t need to hope I won’t do it!
Hi! I love your idea, but I also suggest that if you have more than one child you should spend time with only one of them, not all of them together. Like give them different spaces to be with you ^^ Im not sure if you already thought abt that or if one-to-one means exactly that hahaha im not an english speaker
My mother (who is 76 years old) apologized a few days ago about her mistakes. But I didn't know what mistakes she was talking about. I don't care, I had a great childhood. We're only humans. What's done is done. :)
I was just watching this with my four year old daughter and she was like “mommy but you don’t make any mistakes” my heart melted ❤️ Thank you Sarah for these amazing videos. I love and enjoy watching them.
I was that weird veggie kid. When I was 5 my favorite foods were Lima beans, cantaloupe and carrots but I hated animal products. So weird how pickiness can exclude so many foods.
The misdirected anger, ugh. I'm not even a mom yet and i struggle with that so much (and even just directed shouldn't-be-angry-anger) and I'm terrified of ever misdirecting it at my kids in the future because that was something my dad always had an issue with and i really don't want my kids to be scared of me like that.
my daughter when I asked her Did mama made any mistake she says Nop just sometimes you leave lights on and that doesn't save planet.She's 4yr old.
@@SarahTherese thank you. and Happy Mama's day ❤️
your little girl is going to save the planet . 💖 you are doing really well mama.. happy mother's day.
@@jocypare6019 aww thank you so much. Happy mothers day aswell
I found out I am pregnant yesterday. You're literally an angel 🤍
that is so exciting for you!! praying for you and your baby 🤗🤗
Sarah, you are an awesome mom. This should be labeled “Things I have learned from being a mom.”
I experienced so much negativity from people when I was pregnant too, and was pleasantly surprised with how amazing things were after my son was born because everyone said it would be terrible!
Re. the forgetting thing, I can definitely relate. One thing I say to my kids is, ‘We can do x, y, z later but you will need to remind me because sometimes I get so busy that I forget things and I don’t want to forget because I would love to do x, y, z with you - I think it would be really fun.’ And if I do forget or don’t have time, they are mentally prepared and they aren’t feeling rejected 😌
Just a little reminder for all those mothers struggling, God can sanctifiy us through the mistakes we make with our kids. We can thank Him for allowing us to see how much we fail so we see how much more we need Him!
This video helped me today and forever. I totally will admit I redirected my anger today and I felt horrible about it. I apologized about it and held my kids tighter. Thank you Sarah as always!
I struggle with forgetting things. I've been diagnosed with fibromyalgia, and one of the symptoms of that is called "fibro fog" which is basically just a terrible short term memory. I'm learning to write everything down, especially with such busy days filled with 5 kids and appointments! Mine is an illness, BUT it's normal to forget things when your busy, so please don't beat yourselves up mommas if you're forgetful sometimes!! Planners are the greatest invention for me!
My son is 2 years old and suffers from bad eczema. Due to his health and lack of speech I really compare him to other kids and this affects me emotionally daily. I need to try and stop the comparison and celebrate his individuality. Thank you for this video Sarah, just what I needed 🙏🏼❤️
Hi Amy, have you heard of the GAPS diet? It helps many health issues since the gut is being healed. Bumblee Apothecary has many videos on this
I'm currently living like textbook mom and didn't realize it. Thank you for sharing this!! Knowing it's not that big of deal is big weight off my chest.
My kids said the same thing when I asked them if I had made any mistakes. “You haven’t made any.” 🤣 I was like, yes yes I have made many 😂.
Look depending on the age thats a hard question for them to truly grasp
This video was amazing. I can relate to so much of this not even as a mother but as a person. I too rarely feel anger but when I do I often feel a lot of guilt about taking anger out on others. I also think it is so important to know what your kids love most about having you as a mother so that you can do your best to make them happy, like you knowing how much ivy loved quality time.
Elizabeth’s face in the thumbnail is 100000% why I clicked on this video... she’s too FUNNY😂
What a brave woman💪🏼 failure is human and as long as we care and ask for forgiveness there’s nothing to be ashamed for🥰
Thank you so much for posting this, and being so raw. It’s hard to admit mistakes anyway, but especially as a parent, it almost seems to invite judgment. I’ve looked at you as a solid role model for many years, as you’re the embodiment of what I’d always hoped to be and achieve as a mother. Now that I am a mom of a 2- almost 3 month old, I’ve really realized what a super mom you are. Maybe you don’t feel that way, but that’s certainly the way I look at you. It’s through your vulnerabilities and rawness, that I can take notes, and implement your words and advice into my own journey as a parent. I’ll still make mistakes, and I’ll still have questions and moments of doubt, or whatever, but I also have faith that I will be the perfect mom for my kid(s), even if I don’t feel like it sometimes. Anyway, I just want to thank you again! I’ll be looking forward to your next one!!
I love when you said I don't want my children to feel shame when eating a cookie. I hear so many parents say, we can just have one 'naught' cookie or along those lines, labeling the food as bad. We just simply call them sometimes foods.
I agree so much !! That raising your kids by textbook standards or “ milestones” is such a bad thing to do. Every child is differnt and has differnt needs and that is totally okay 👌
I would want my child to not be scared to come talk to me. Not be scared of telling me anything. Kids need to feel like they can tell you stuff or else they will hide and grow up to be strangers. That's what im going to try to do, but i realize no one is perfect.
I'm happy this was her experience.
I'm also here to say that postpartum rage is real. You're not alone, mama's. I see you and the struggle you are going through and it can get better.
Yes!!! I wrote about this on my site PostpartumBrain.com. Everyone has different experiences, but maternal mental health struggles are so valid
The mistakes I've made as a mom, somedays I'm not patient enough for my eldest and allowing my own depression to effect our ability to go out and have activities.
This. Dealing with depression is taxing enough, but having to put your child’s needs aside on days when you can’t pull yourself up can be so painful.
Take care of yourself, your mental health is a priority. I’m 13 weeks pregnant and I’ve struggled a lot with depression and anxiety. ❤️❤️❤️
Same! Sending you love
We love vulnerability! 😃 it’s perfectly natural to make mistakes, as long as you learn from them 🥳 Thank you, Sarah 💕 you make me want to be a mom
Don’t worry about the skiing, I started learning at 6 years old and my brother was 8 when we moved to Switzerland and we quickly picked it up and became good at it. There is plenty of time for them to make great skiing memories 🙂
Yeah I also started learning to ski when I was 7 with my sister who was 5... The one thing I really commend my parents for doing concerning our skiing is enrolling us in ski-school - i feel so much safer on my skis than many if my friends who didn’t have that privilege :) oh and also - liebi Grüessli au us de Schwiiz 🎉
I know I'm going to struggle comparing when I have more kids, because my first is such a good baby and is honestly "ahead" of standard measures according to society. Love this video!
I love this video ! ❤️ Happy Mother’s day Sarah !!! 🥰
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Thanks for this video!
I discovered you during quarantine. We got pregnant around exactly the same time but I lost my girl Johanna around 14 weeks and I’m just feeling able to watch you again.
I still have beautiful wonderful kids who are 5 and 3 and you inspire me to be a great mom to them! Thanks for being cognizant brought to reflect on your parenting journey. Also for being brave and vulnerable! I enjoy watching your videos!
These are all SO GOOD. I just had my 5th and I went through allllll these phases and feel the exact same way. Thanks for the reminders/encouragement ❤️🙌
My biggest mistake: Thinking my child was going to be just like my brother and me when we were kids. I even bought him all the same toys we liked to play that I grew up with. But he is nothing like me, and really like no other child I have ever been around. It took some time for me to really understand him (he is now 5) and letting go of my previous expectations has been so good for both of us! For some strange reason thought I knew what my child was going to be like. WRONG! haha
As someone who was put on skis at 3, put your kids in ski school!!! Maybe it’s just a couple days a year, but it is one of the best things my parents ever did for me, and some of by best memories are skiing with the family.
My biggest mistake !!! Tv!! thinking it's Time for me to get things done.... Nooooo !!! It's a trap!!!
I work as a teacher in primary school and I smiled big time at the part about ‚not doubting the kids‘ I tell my forthgraders all the time ‚YES, you can do this!‘ and then in the course of this I have to face there not there yet...
I love the idea of parent should ask their kids whether they made mistakes or not...
Praying that everyone falls asleep quickly and has a peaceful sleep. Hope you all wake up happy and well rested 😜👍😀
New favorite quote “the more I live, the more I forget”
I don’t want to make the mistake of not letting my kids know how much God loves them and this is done through me and my husbands actions. I want to show God’s love by me and my husband’s relationship and how I love my kids. I want my house to be filled with the Spirit, not the flesh.
We need to thank the lord for having people like Sarah. God bless her soul💗🌸
It's so great how you treat your kids as actual human beings, even though they are still small. They learn a lot from you and you learn a lot from them! Though I dont have any kids myself, I see so many mothers who treat their kids as if they can't do anything or can't grow because they are children. I mean, my sister went ballistic at my dad for setting her child in the grass before he was a year old (because a textbook said so). Its refreshing seeing mothers like you!
Hi, come from Angela Braniffs channel. I can definitely relate. I have 5 kids. With my first, I took on board what everyone said all the time and it was absolutely depressing thinking I must just have it all wrong. And realising that I lacked confidence, when I had no reason to. When my second came along, it was SO life changing and parenting both became a breeze, because I chose to just do what I wanted to do as a parent, I let myself be the judge of me, and I went about parenting my children with my own expectations of myself as a mother. And it just made it such a breeze. The confidence was life changing. It wasn't a matter of oh, I know what I'm doing or whatever else, but being confident in my choices and decisions. Sure, if something didn't work, I'd try something else, however it did make me a more persistent mumma, a more calmer and happier mumma.. I finally embraced motherhood and enjoyed being a mumma. And its sad that it took me to have number 2 to get to that. But I guess that's how I ended up having 3 more kids, and it's just gotten better and better. 💗
I knew this was a collab with Natalie when I got notified from both at the same time
@@SarahTherese I've been watching you both for years as well as Delilah. You're all so powerful women and are such an inspiration for me and so many others. ❤
I am not a mom but I love to listen to moms talk about their children. I baby sit my seven year old niece since she was a baby and I love to learn from specials mommy’s like you. 😊
Sarah I miss you on youtube girl! I
Hope the LORD had blessed you tremendously! ❤
Loved being a part of this collab and hearing from other mamas!
this is seriously one of the best videos I've watched! i love that you are not afraid to talk about your mama mistakes, as everyone has them and we are not perfect
Honestly with the newborn thing, totally depends on the baby. One baby I had was exhausting, I never had any time to myself, baby needed thing a constantly or was crying non stop. My other two, easy going, eat sleep poop types. Total luck of the draw.
Omg yes first baby soooo easy 2nd I can put her down!!!!! It's mentally exhausting. Couldn't even make dinner for my 3 year old
I actually google my daughter it was high needs baby 12 signs of one from a doctor it was interesting and I felt less insane
Happy Mother's day Sarah ♡ be safe 🥰💞💕💓😷
Footwear is a huge one! I’m so big on getting good quality footwear for their growing body.
Wow Ivy’s comment! 😍
I had the most loving and present parents but when I was a child, I used to keep a list of things I would or wouldn’t want to replicate with my children later. I see myself thinking back then ‘you MUST remember this not to do it’.
Obviously, I’m an adult so I forgot most of it.. but the one thing that will never leave my mind is exactly what Ivy told you.
My parents would tell me we were going to do things later to please me, there was no bad intention. They had very busy days and did their best. I don’t know if they would just forget to do it in the end or if they never had the intention to but I am sure now they simply thought I would forget.
But I would not, there was not much in my life apart from them so if they promised me something I would wait for it until it happened. A small promise for an adult is so huge for a child.
Of course I would never blame my wonderful parents for this and it is absolutely ok to forget things but as you say, I think it is even more important not to promise something we aren’t sure we can do on the first place.
Thanks Ivy for having reminded it to adult me 🙏🏻☺️
It's my first pregnancy ☺️ thank you for sharing those things... God bless you 🥰 I love your videos 💗
The biggest mistake I’ve made so far as a mom is not pay attention to my kids over hearing complaints about myself. I’ve struggled with depression over half of my life so I’m not my biggest fan. But when I’m reaching out to my husband on tough days I don’t realize my kids can probably hear me talk about how much I dislike myself. I’ve been working on explaining mental health and being more open about why I struggle instead of them putting it together as if there’s any other purpose to beat yourself down so much. 😔
As the daughter of a severely depressed mom, my only suggestion is to really impress upon your children that the way you feel is not their fault. I adore my mom and we have a beautiful relationship, but much of my childhood was spent feeling guilty for 'making her sad'. There is so much hope for you and you are so valuable and loved. 🧡
@@annarocha3254 oh I do. Absolutely. My kids know I’m “sick” and my husband and I explain age appropriately to them what that all means. I had a rough relationship with my own mom and one thing I made sure was to own my faults and be the one to say sorry and seek my kids forgiveness when I mess up. I know my kids love me and they know I love them so much. Depression is truly a dark battle that I will probably struggle with for the rest of my life but I do have better control over it now. And more tools in my belt to prepare to reach out and use when there are worse days. I love my family. We’re such a solid team. But I have so much mom guilt because depression has robbed so much of my time getting to enjoy that love. 😔
Hey sweet Sarah!!! I’ve been loving how involved your family has been in your most recent videos
Love the skiing thing 😆 I aways though my kids will learn very early, but for the last 5 years I was pregnant or having a small baby so being the most experienced skier in our family and wanting to be a part of teaching them, it hasn't work out so far 😁
My daughter can get into a frame of mind where she finds problems in everything, and can pretend she can't do things. Usually when she's being told to do stuff she doesn't want to. I went mad at her this week because I thought she was pretending she couldn't open some doors in the house, which I was certain she usually has no problem with. She was making a scene over it. So I shouted at her, "Why are you now pretending you can't open the doors?!", and refused to help. Then later, my husband told me she can't actually open the doors (how I've missed this I don't know?!). Felt so bad. Sometimes, if they've been in naughty frame of mind, you can then mistake genuine actions as acting up.... Staying calm when she's acting up over small things that need doing is something I have to try really hard with.
Thank you for being honest and sharing. You are an amazing mama making mistakes and learning from them is part of motherhood. Love your gentle approach to parenting. 💗
I will (hopefully!) be a wife and a mom in the next 2-3 years, and these videos are SO enormously helpful! Makes me so excited for the future.
Sarah, you are shining! Wish you and the baby all the best! Love the comment about the veggies, I still don't like asparagus 🤭
I had so much free time with my oldest too!!! Now, with three... lol.... your time management video is next up on my watch later playlist 😂
I felt so many of these!! Specifically the amount of free time I actually had and holding onto other people's suggestions 🙃.
You are such an incredibly gorgeous mama. I love your hair in this video.
I’ve been watching Natalie for years and I feel you, I too would very much like to squish her 🥺❤️
I was just thinking that I miss Sarah's videos and was planning on watching one, and here she comes bringing me joy!!
You're in my Prayers Sarah, I hope You and your Family are Safe, Healthy, and Happy😌😘
I am not a mumma yet, but I will soon be on that journey of TTC. In my motherhood journey, I hope I don't make the mistake of when my child is upset, I don't want to make the mistake of not allowing them to express how they feel in that moment, I don't want the repeat of what I got "Don't cry, or I'll give you something to cry for" type parenting that I got growing up. I want to teach them what that emotion is and allow them to tell me why they feel this way and help them process it and move forward, I am very impatient and can get irritable easily and I don't want that to rub off on my child, I want my child to know what their emotions are, be able to recognise and express them in a safe, healthy environment and learn how to cope with them better then I have in the past. Great video! I am so inspired by your parenting :)
Regarding doubting your kids - it sounds like you may over-estimate their capabilities for their ages, rather than actually doubting them, which to me implies lack of confidence in them. It might be a small distinction, but I wanted to put it out there. So glad you mentioned the sunglasses. I have always wondered why I see so many children without sunglasses when their parents are wearing them. Your children are so lucky to have a mama who puts thought into treating them with respect. You are a terrific mama!
This made me get all teary eyes cause I’m right there with you! 😭 we are doing our best 💯
I'm glad you mentioned the fruits and veggies thing. I have three kiddos and I have one that will eat anything (sushi, salad, etc...), one who eats maybe 5 different things and gags and vomits even being around anything not in his approved 5 (granted, he is special needs so that could play a part), and one kiddo in between. I'd love a more in depth video on that subject. What you've learned, what you've tried, what works and doesn't work, etc. 😊
My 1st child just finally wants to eat fruits. She loves green food when she was younger. Then suddenly she stopped. My 2nd child loves fruits so much. Now I just realize they take their own time.. I am no longer feeling pressure about making food. As long as they want to eat. They are just fine..
I'm not even a mom but I enjoy this videos so much! Keep up the great work, Sarah!
Thank you, Sarah ❤️🙏
Sarah´s content is thrivingg!!
I sit with snacks and a cup of coffee whenever you post such long videos💕💕
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Thank you for being so open and vulnerable to us!
The best tip I ever got about getting a kid to eat veggies is when you are introducing new foods to the baby, do NOT introduce them to fruit until they are used to all the main veggies. Once they try the sweet fruit they won’t be interested in bland veggies. Worked like a charm for my son who is now 16 and will eat anything you put in front of him!
Me: keeps taking the birth control pill every day
Also me: watches parenting videos all the time 😅
Yes yes yes!
Same lol
Such an important video! Moms always feel guilty and they don't have to, really. I'm not a mother yet, but I learn so much from you, Sarah, thank you! Sending love from Brazil 💖
Praying for a baby currently but soaking up all this advice in the meantime. Love these videos. ❤️
Loved this, Sarah! Thank you for so vulnerably sharing your heart with us other mamas! 🤍
Awesome advice from the heart. Thank you for another amazing video Sarah. You're very helpful.
I would love to see more videos about your first baby Ivy, how did you do everything, how were you felt...
About the kids don’t remember your mistake thing, that’s not always true. I know so many women who were body or fat shamed and that stayed with them forever. Your kids may not remember your mistakes, but they’ll remember how you made them feel.
I love watching your videos on motherhood.
Thank you for your vulnerability! This is great!
My mom had me start skiing at age 6 and I'm just fine on the slopes!! Hope is not lost!
Not a mama but one day not invalidating my children’s feelings!! I don’t want to call them dramatic or a baby for having big feelings or being upset it’s so important and builds trust
My kids as infants are ALL the veggies, fruits not so much. Once they turned 2 a light switched and they refused ALL. Now they’re 3&4 and beginning to finally dip their toes WILLINGLY into the world of veggies again
Your are such an inspiration to me as a mom. Really enjoyed your video like always :) I can relate a lot, thank you for sharing!!
Thanks a lot for always giving content that is fruitful and engaging. You are the best Sarah ❤❤
I really felt the one about comparing your kids to the standard. My son is almost 14mo and he still can't even crawl, even though he is very well developed in other ways and has such a greaaat personality. Every time I see other kids who are literally half his age which can already crawled do a bunch of other stuff it is really hard for me. That's something I'm really working on!
YES TO THE SKI FAMILY!!! We really hope to get our future kids on the slopes before 2 too! I definitely have a soft spot for kids bundled up like marshmallows cruising down that bunny hill😂 But thankfully skiing is pretty accessible to learn at any age!
Sunglasses! Yes! And I'm going to do my very best to always put sunblock on my kids . one tip I heard about caring for your baby is if you're cold, your baby's cold, if you're hot, your baby's hot. same thing with the sun bearing down on you! 💖💖
Giiiiiirl put your kids in ski school 🙌 Mine go to ski school every year and they are seriously pros.
I'm glad to see your video today. I wish you all the best.😊🍀
my whole family skis :) :) we all started when we were 3!! don't worry. you have plenty of time