10 Reasons Why So Many Great People Stay Single
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- Опубліковано 24 чер 2024
- Have you ever wondered why so many great people stay single? It is almost as if some people were born to be a loner. Well, there are various reasons for staying single and avoiding traditional relationships, from having high standards in relationships to valuing independent living and the flexibility a single lifestyle brings. Sometimes, choosing to stay single stems from relationship skepticism because of having observed unhealthy dynamics growing up or due to negative past experiences. Such circumstances can certainly make some individuals feel like they are meant to be single forever.
But despite the common misconception, people who like to be alone and live alone are not necessarily lonely. In fact, the lone wolf type often embraces singlehood and is able to find genuine happiness and fulfillment in solitude. By choosing to stay single, they prioritize their personal goals and enjoy the freedom that comes with an independent lifestyle.
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After several failed toxic relationships I am happier single at the moment. If I’m meant to be with someone then we will meet. I know not to tolerate toxic behaviours from the start.
That's sound gud, not all human in this globe always need relationships. Freedom, money, over marriage or relationship 😂😂
I was married once. I was a good wife but I needed a good husband- I asked for a divorce and got it.
I’m happier single, I’m more financially secure single, more free single- permanently!
An ‘ideal’ partner simply doesn’t exist in this world, and that’s ok. They don’t serve a purpose in my life.
Same
I appreciate the positive growth I've achieved all by myself. I love myself more than before. I'm almost 5 years sober.. the best thing I've ever done for myself! I need no one's validation or approval. My last relationship taught me so much as I realized how nothing lasts forever with people we thought we truly loved.. they always leave. These days, I'm good! Being single serves me well!
❤🎉
I love my solitude. There is no one to mess with me! My time flies in solitude!
I am fully capable of messing with myself, just can’t blame anyone but myself for that.
It sure flies in absolute misery.
@@Nick-1992-SRB solitude and misery are two different concepts.
Please do not compare apples with oranges.
Some solitude is good. Some one player games are fun to play alone.
I have learned to embrace my oneness. Two failed marriages and growing up in a toxic household has lead me to remain single. I'm 67 and will remain single until the end. Never had any kids either.
Not just for staying single, but also for being wise in choosing friends. I have few friends these days. My standards are high, I value my choices in how I spend my time. I don’t want friends who are needy or emotionally immature. I’ve had “friends” burn me, talk abusively to me and lie to and about me.
The same is in my case. I hate needy clingy manipulative selfish emotionally immature people. They're energy vampires.
Yes you are right, the older we get the smaller circle of friendship. I no longer in same wavelength with all friends who already married. We also live in different phase of life. When I tried to connect with them, it failed. We have different thoughts, different world.
I feels like people are just need someone to "fill the void", they don't want to really connect with others. It's like I'm walking amongst millions but it feels so lonely.
Are you talking about all those cats😂😂😂
Your standards are also high in the dating world with your age
When you came from a toxic or failed relationships you realize the value of time wasted. You learn and become emotionally mature individual.
I am 64 and have lived alone my entire life . I am happy & content . It’s wonderful. ❤
( ps . Even strangers walk up to me to say things about how good -looking I am etcetera.)
So , yes I am alone by choice
I love my solitude & have craved solitude since being a small child .
Thx for sharing
I can relate to this . Single is the best choice I made .
Relationships always diminish who I am and add nothing back.
I love being single. It's a bit of a double-edged sword, but then again so is being partnered!
My neighbor. She’s single. She’s shapely & beautiful and she lives right across the street...
I watched her as she got home from work this evening. I was surprised when she walked across the street, up my driveway and knocked on my door.
I opened the door, she looked at me and said, ”I just got home, and I have this strong urge to have a good time, get drunk, and have fun tonight. Are you doing anything?”
I quickly replied, “Nope, I’m free!”
“Great ”she said. ”Can you watch my dog?”
😂
🤣🤣🤣
Boss move 😂
Hahha,not really!I wouldn’t help.
Wow. Finally when I can relate to at least in a few aspects. I am a minimalist and I just don't need to keep up with the Joneses to be happy. I love my solitude there's nothing I cherish more one thing he didn't mention which is a big reason for me. when he talked about relationships and the like when you know three out of every five marriages ends up in divorce, it makes me ask why I would want to put myself through that. I'm not knocking them it's just not for me. To each his own. When you get married half of your life is planned out for you that does not fit me well. Bottom line some people just are not cut out for marriage and there's nothing wrong with it. Conversely, I've known some people that have been married four or five times and it's like who would do that to themselves. Then I realized that some people just have to be married I'm glad I'm not in that category
Going through an awful divorce that completely blindsided me and wrecked me financially is why I will stay single. I may have a GF but won’t open myself up to another failed marriage. Men get crushed in divorce. Sucks for all the other nice ladies but I won’t marry again.
Excuse me but women get railroaded and divorces too, buy greedy Gold -digging men husbands, okay I'm tired of hearing it from you men, you think only the men come into the marriage with money, sometimes you men come into marriage with nothing and the woman gives you everything, also it's not fair for good women who get married and burned either, bad marriages put women dead in the grave, or wind up separated from their husband alone never to want to be with a man and married again, and if they tried dating men they get equally burned by a on sleuth of narcissistic men. And I will never marry a man again let alone date men again I am done.
Welcome to the club I agree don't get remarried not worth the headache unless u get a marriage contract such as a prenup or don't waste your time it's really not worth it
Mgtow redpill positive Christian male love my life..zero regrets here. Mgtow = peace tranquility joy bigstack ect. See Warren Farrell his many books and aron clarey.
Remember they are all nice in the beginning and then depending who u are with you are dealing with a control freak there needs to be a balance and unfortunately some women want to control everything as to why they should stay single its not a one way street hopefully people will realize that one day maybe they won't cause they are stubborn
@fortnite360HZ so your saying women are always like that
I have never found myself desperate for a relationship. From a very young age until early College my Mum worked outside the home. From 8 or 9 I was expected to contribute to the housework and eventually in my teenage years I started to learn how to cook for myself and wash clothes. The area where I live women are still raised to totally take care of their spouses and children as well as work a full time job, so they have never known what to do with me. Plus as an only child and being an Army Brat I learned to enjoy my own company growing up. I have friends, but am willing to wait until the right person comes along.
I preferred to be alone And single I foucus better And do things better
This cover all the reasons i have stayed single all my life.
I watched my school friends get married only to divorce a few years later.
The same with people at work, some have been divorced several times.
A wise grandfather once said to me, choose your friends with care, your true friends
will be there when you need them the most, the others will be too busy to care.
i Prefer the solitude of been single, relaxation for me is a quiet night with a good book.
Happy for you,been there and back only to end up miserable
I value my freedom and independence.Some people have tried to label me and I was stuck in a parent trap and bad relationship once and barely escaped with an inch of my life.Yes,I value my freedom and independence.Feeling more free everyday now.Thanks for this video.😀🍀♥️
Same I really love FREEDOM and INDEPENDENCE (that’s why it’s very positive for me)
For me, one thing that I think it’s negative, like for example when you want to travel alone in certain countries especially for us as woman, it’s kind of difficult so there are some countries that you can travel alone and sometimes you have to be with some groups or with your family !
I see myself in all 10 points why I'm remainig single and I absolutely don't see myself (and never did) in a conventional relationship. I have a best friend, we were partners for 3 years 20 years ago and after we split remained best friends, which is better for both of us. I also have a cute dog and she wouldn't be too happy to share me, expecially not with someone who doesn't trully accept and value me. By being a social worker, i've also seen what happens to women who have bad partners , so being single is the best option for me.
I’m single because most men I meet aren’t fully developed as a person yet. Most lack the basic communication skills it requires to have a healthy relationship
And most people blame women
The women are always „difficult“ 🙄
There is no recognition that the two participants are responsible, it is just the woman.
A lot of men think… 🤦♀️
@Chris.R. and you don't think like that right
@@vihangahiggoda5101 I‘m a woman. And I don’t think like that. I belong to the „difficult and picky ones“.
I think the problems between men and women are historically grown. And we deny to see and accept different truths.
I met men who were physically adults and acted like teenagers and women who acted like evil dragons towards men or everyone.
So: it‘s not that simple.
@bunniewood
AaaaaaaaMEN! This is 💯% true!!
One reason that I've stayed single for so long is that I don't want the hassles of being a stepfather. If I date someone who has kids, then they must be old enough to be left alone for extended periods. In other words, I'm not interested in a "package deal," where everything is about children. I prefer adult activities.
#2 and #3 for me, especially #3. I've had my share of abuse growing up, and I don't need more.
Basically nothing about marriage sounds good to me. I like to live alone and have things to myself. I don't want to make decisions with someone else. I don't want to wear a wedding ring. I don't want to make promises to stay with someone for decades; I don't know what the future holds! (No one can REALLY make promises about what they will do decades in the future, but not many people analyze that concept.)
Thanks brainy ❤️😊
I am single. Almost all of what you said is absolutely right.♥️👍👍
Being in a toxic relationship,that's why I am single. Maybe one day a real man will come in my life,and say I am enough. We will see. I have friends ,and Jesus ,that's all I need. Not worth the heartache.
Ever notice how some of the coolest people in history never settled down? It's like they were too busy changing the world to swipe right. Maybe being single isn't just a relationship status - it's a superpower that lets you focus on your passions without compromise. Wonder if Einstein would've cracked the universe's code if he was busy planning date nights?
Excellent video.❤
As a single person for most of my life, I can almost completely agree with you. 😅❤👍👌
Since reaching peace 3.5 years ago and 18 years of my self-improvement journey, I've gone from being codependent relationship wise to not needing others in my life but wanting them.
If they aren't good for my peace, they won't be around too long.
I just ended a relationship where yes the sex was the best I've ever had. Just a fantastic connection sexually. Everything else really declined and I finally decided sex isn't as important as it was before
I was a teenager in the mid-1970s and I saw a young actress (who was very attractive and already quite successful) on a talk show say that the four years she was married were the "loneliest years of her life." I couldn't believe it! A famous actress saying that marriage could be bad? I never forgot it, and, for better or worse, always kept those words in the back of my mind.
True but sad,gets so frustrating
thanks, good video
This video is spot on ❤
This is how many people watching this are still single
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You mean "How many great people are out there" 😂
@@ifell3 exactly thank you
I feel all these reasons are exactly mine too. Thank you 👍💯
Choosing to be single is not an achievement, I think it's a reaction for the more sensitives souls in this life that know what they want and they are not finding it! We are social beings and singledom might consciously make sense but being witnessed by another connects some very primal settings in our brain and souls. I have remained single for a while because I have not been able to find someone that I find is suitable for me. The barr is set so low in the dating market that there's this expectation that one should be grateful for anyone with a heartbeat, but I won't give up my singledom for that, it is too basic. If I have to stoop that low I know I would turn into a raging narcissist, something I am not willing to become no matter how much I want to find someone. But I do long to find someone, but the right person for me, not just anyone as that will make me feel more lonely than now, being alone.
Yes it’s best to remain single rather than miserable. I was married and recently widowed ( almost a year). I loved my wife dearly (32 years together). I’m financially well off and a physician ready to retire in 3 years. Do I remain single? I do like people and companionship ( no drama) . Traveling alone ? I didn’t do that when I was single 32 years ago. So there is no greater gift than your health followed by being fulfilled. Having a smart funny person by your side may help you grow and enjoy life . The wrong person is misery, single is vanilla ice cream, and the right person is an ice cream sundae!
The video talks about achieving success and living up to your full potential. But here is the truth and the reality: if you want to live up to your full potential and achieve success you need a team. Nobody does it all alone. You can't achieve success simply by yourself. Having a team means having a committed partner and you committing to your partner.
That doesn't mean go into a toxic relationship. If you find yourself in a toxic relationship then there is something about yourself you need to fix. You can have a relationship that is fulfilling, happy, meaningful and can bring you success. But if you have unresolved problems of your own you are not aware of, you are going to find yourself in negative toxic relationships. This is why it's important to truly get to know yourself and fix yourself first so you can have healthy positive relationships.
But you are not going to achieve success going it alone. That I promise. Every successful person has a team backing them and serious help along the way and to deny this fact is simply living in personal delusions.
Keep helping people 🙌
To all the great people out there you don't have a problem it's what the negative teaching society teaches people so ignore the negative teaching follow the positive of society and do what makes you happy
Some ppl are simply happy single. For me, it is an absolute lack of interest in being a wife and mother. I see very little or no benefits but a lot of costs. It is hard but better than motherhood and / or being with the wrong person.
That's so sad continue being like that for the rest of your life and don't ever change
@@damiandennis3740There is nothing sad in living in the concordance with own needs and wants. Being deprived of what we need is sad, like being unable to conceive a child if having a child is important.
@@Erintii the problem with you type of species in the world today are too selfish... at the end of the day no one can ever run from their nature because it's biological there will always be a void.. keep convincing yourself you're happy
I’ve been single throughout my entire life. I know it’s hard but it nice though.
Hi i'm Rahila :-). Thank you for this video. As a single feminin soul by choice (for the remainder of my present lifetime here on Earth anyway) I identify with a lot of your points. I find them quite therapeutic, I feel able to show myself self-compassion for the remainder of my singleton moments... Thank you. However, because I have been verry lucky in love, when I catch up with my future possible life partner in Heaven, I shan't be showing my best friend this video LOL. I'll just show him my comment, and reassure him that I shal give him a genuine second chance (if we're still romantically into each other), if he's able to accept and respect 99 percent of my independence. If he can do that from the start, I shan't break his heart a second time in his existence. I reckon he'll be game for my challenge personally :-). Here on Earth my memory of my friend is of a high flier, ambitious, resilient, independent. So a worthy life partner for me in an ideal setting... :-). Anyway, thank you again, I love this video, but for my best friend's sake, I won't be championing these points forever. LOL. Not Only for my remaining spycho-spiritual education. :-). I've got women's rights to champion as well i'm happy to add! Woo!!! :-). Thanks again. Keep up the great/whacky job LOL. You're doing brilliantly. Big hug. RS
these kinds of explanations make it sound as if being on your own is the deverred state, but actually being alone is the basic and stable state :-)
so... why explain ? try to explain why someone should seek a companion
I like this video.
All of the reasons mentioned in the video are completely true and applicable
All of the above ❤🎉
Partially correct.
Number nine is the biggest one for me! 😝
Im sold. Staying single lol
My Dad raised me to be self sufficient, independent, on my own & NEVER depend on a man for anything….He would scream at the top of lungs…..!!!!! Learn to take care of yourself!!! NO MAN will fix you it know how to take care of you better than you! & don’t get pregnant!!!! I was a teenager when he planted those seeds…he was right. Having a dude around would simply mess up my mojo…..😂❤😂❤😂❤
They can think for themselves, have critical thinking skills and don’t need to follow what everyone else is doing
I am an INFJ and wondering if staying single for so many years is just me, or if it is a predominant characteristic of INFJ personality types? Any thoughts?
My expenses are low and atmosphere is quiet and calm.
I never have to do anything I dont want to.
I wouldnt even consider a relationship.
Team minimalist .................🗿
Akiane Kramarik is a great sample.
Because we have best qualities of personality. We tend to use our logic rather than feeling. 😂😂.
I will say the same too 😂🤣😂
Logic mind 😂
Please make a video on how to cope with loneliness and having no friends.
Love went, you are ready not when you're lonely. Why not just take a chance a love 😉
If it looks as if what you want isn’t being offered, why stay in the store?
True, although there are many that settle and just take whatever is on offer. Not sure that is a good solution, but for those that cannot bear to be alone, that is the way to go....until it isn't!
44years old and have been single all my life by choice after seeing how horrible women were since high school. I still till this day don't know why men take horrible women seriously for?
I'm great but no money for building but when I started I never finish
To get to know themselves
Traditional marriage and even traditional courtship is an outdated antiquated concept that had a concrete and obvious practical purpose 100s of years ago and even just a few decades ago. But now what made courtship advantageous to both parties no longer exists: Women don’t need men to provide & protect and men don’t need to be in a relationship to have sex.
Our evolutionary biology and evolutionary psychology is still the same as it was 100s and 1000s of years ago yet cultures, religions, technology, and life itself is unrecognizably different. The best and maybe even only way to make traditional marriage/family work nowadays is to live off grid away from society.
I’m single because I had a lot of operations and I had to play by myself.
Why So Many Great People Stay Single?
Answer lies in the question.
They had this goal on top priority and they saw relationship / marriage as a hindrance in that goal / cause.
Why? Because everyone suffers from the "human condition" which manifests as narcissism, codependency, and borderline disorders. People aren't right. Don't blame yourself for relationship failures. A long lasting relationship is probably dishonest.
In some cases but the decision to remain may not arise. If it does, then it may depend on many factors.
Sex without a true spiritual connection might not be the greatest, but sex with a toxic relationship is even worse than celibacy.
at 5.30 ... its sign of beeing an introvert... introvert and extrovert have nothing to do if someone is more great or not (title)
Sources?
Ĺife experience and common sense. It's opinion not a research study.
Once again, all young people shown in this video. Some of us older folks stay single, too, for all the reasons noted here. Brainy Dose, you need to consider all ages with these videos. The issues you post about don’t happen just to young people.
Clearly it applies to older people so no need to comment.
@@utualan I’m referring to the images shown in the video; they are all young people. I’m aware that the content is for all ages, but the images shown don’t include any older folks, so yes, I felt a need to comment.
@@luvcats120
When you get old you will alone, think about that. Prep for old age have money stored up and directives. UA-cam stuff is not always right.
Yikes, a lot of the reasons or items I resonate with, but not the platonic idea??
So that's why I can't get a girlfriend.
The only difference with high standard men and women are not the same and we don't run with a time clock
Time clock my ass my only time clock is when I'm called to leave this earth until then I'm gonna live my life the way I want to.
@@miyagriffin9673 🤣🤣🤣 ... sis nobody's stopping you guys from living your life..just make sure you remember your past in the dating world comes with consequence ..... and the quality men all have standards now... no single baby mama and no promiscuous woman
To those who keep asking Me when I'm getting Married, I'll get Married on the day I get Married
I definitely don’t want to stay single . I’m just very picky about who I date safety is my most important someone who s nice has goals and a job who doesn’t use women . I’m careful because my apartment building has women beaters and murders which has opened my eyes to choose very carefully get to know someone before I let them in my apartment as I have been stolen from lots . Goals and career focused is very important to me . There s no such thing as rejection when your happy with yourself I love looking in mirror at my small back and big bootie it makes me smile .
I can't imsgine not having s loved yrusted partner to go through life with. Read wedding vows. If you have a huge ego then you are better off single.
Never get married - your girlfriend will treat the dating as a method acting class - on marriage that’s dropped
If you want to half your net wealth get married
It's bacily Selfishness
It is a sewer out there. Very happy staying home with my pets and paying my own way.
Few weeks ago I turned 34 and have never been in relationship. I hhave high standards especially in morality and had never use tobacco nor marijuana. My first the most basic demand is that someone who want to have relationship with me could never use marijuana or other narcotics. I have bachelor degree in sociology so I think such person should at least have matura but I would rather prefer tertiary education. Of course being nonsmoker is other most basic standard. I rqther want that person would be beatiful, pretty and kind. I have these all characterisrics maybe exclude beauty. I'm not sure. Sorry for my english I'm Pole.