I am Getting a Divorce!

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  • Опубліковано 2 чер 2024
  • Dearest friends, I'm providing a deeply personal life update in this video. A very difficult time in my life but hoping I can help some of you going through a similar situation. Please join me on my journey. I want to help you as so many of you have helped me get through this awful stage and I am forever grateful for your support. Love to you all xoxo #divorce #divorcedmom
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  • @pamela3213
    @pamela3213 Місяць тому +39

    As a retired litigation paralegal and twice divorced myself, the best plan/advice/action I can say is, Listen to your lawyer! After you agree on which approach w/your attorney is Let him/her/they do the worrying for You as that is what You're are paying them for!! Concentrate on Yourself and it's more than Okay to pamper yourself and be a lil selfish with Self Care! I Wish You All the Best - Trust in God and Yourself ❤️🙏🏻🤗

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому +1

      Great advice Pamela, thank you! The pampering is a bit difficult, don't think us moms know how to do that...we tend to put everyone else first. Great reminder for self care ☺️

    • @pamelasprings6723
      @pamelasprings6723 26 днів тому

      I so agree with you. Listen to your lawyer. The first thing mine told me was remove that wedding ring. My attorney put in the decree that I was to be the beneficiary of his retirement and sadly he passed away 6 years later from cancer. I am so grateful I listened to my attorney. I really would not be able to live comfortably without that retirement money.

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  25 днів тому

      @@pamelasprings6723 Hi Pamela, appreciate your advice, thank you!

  • @lyndam6640
    @lyndam6640 Місяць тому +34

    When you first moved and spoke to us I knew by your broken spirit that you were dealing with hard things as separation and/or divorce. There is nothing worse than a broken spirit. You seem much stronger now. Trust yourself. You are on mind and in my heart. May our Lord encourage, strengthen and bless you in the days to come. You are so sweet and beautiful. You’ve got this! Looking forward to good updates! Can’t wait to see your Christmas decor this year….you are the best🎄

    • @cathymokaraka3695
      @cathymokaraka3695 Місяць тому +3

      Agree with all you’ve said!

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому +1

      Hi Lynda, so right. Broken spirit and 💔. Looking forward to brighter days and a happy future..whatever and whenever that comes 🤗

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому +1

      Thank you Cathy.

  • @lolasalesmoore236
    @lolasalesmoore236 Місяць тому +11

    You will be just fine.My ex asked me for a divorce, I told him to go file, he did… I’ve been living the single life, love it!! The road will get easier. God will give you the strength you need, not man, GOD!!! Thx for sharing!! Blessings!!!

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Hi Lola, so glad to hear you are finding happiness in your new life! Thanks for your support friend ❤️ Blessings to you too!

  • @kimalonzo3363
    @kimalonzo3363 Місяць тому +17

    Youre the second youtuber I've seen in a week getting a divorce. The other one had "happy" in their name too. Hmm

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      I imagine many women who get divorced are happy about it, depends on the situation of course and what led to the decision. I am not happy about mine but I fully accept it now and that acceptance makes me happy 😊

  • @chrishhdhdh4308
    @chrishhdhdh4308 Місяць тому +9

    Please remember your truely one of a kind, your very special and anyone who watches your videos can tell that 10 seconds!!! Sending love 💕

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Thank you for that Chris...received and very much appreciated ❤️🤗

  • @peterstuneck3993
    @peterstuneck3993 Місяць тому +5

    Hello Denise. I’m so sorry that you are gong through such a difficult time but I am glad that your head and your heart are finally in alignment. That’s a major step in figuring out your next steps. You have always been open and honest and I think that is so admirable. Keep moving forward - you know that you have lots of love and support. All the best to you and your family!!!

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Thank you Peter. Feels like it's all settling onto place...and that feels amazing. I live everyday with openness and honesty...trying to be my most authentic self. Not sure how to be any other way..I guess I'm very lucky there. Thank you for your support. 😊

  • @lynanneconnors2688
    @lynanneconnors2688 Місяць тому +14

    You never know the strength you have until you realize the only way forward will require strength. You’ve got this.

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому +2

      Hi Lyna, I did realize that when I hot rock bottom. You find strength in amazing ways. Thank you ☺️

  • @kathycarter1553
    @kathycarter1553 Місяць тому +7

    Denise, you will get through this and may God bless you and your Family through this hard time. Have a blessed week my Friend.

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Hi Kathy, so nice to hear from you. 😘 Thank you for all your support.

  • @jwillow6983
    @jwillow6983 Місяць тому

    Your so brave to talk about this, I just found your channel and I watched several of your videos, I hope you have great things to come in your future, you seem like a very nice lady and you deserve happiness!

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Welcome to my little corner of the world, so happy to have you here. With all the love, support and positive energy shown to me, I do feel happiness coming my way 😊

  • @theirishcailin333
    @theirishcailin333 Місяць тому

    My heart goes out to you and your situation! I'll keep you in my prayers and I hope things work out for you, I can't imagine what you're going through

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Greatly appreciate those prayers and support..thank you! 🤗

  • @SuperCandyjunkie
    @SuperCandyjunkie Місяць тому +3

    So sorry to hear this. I am struggling with this too. My husband of 26 years left and it has been so very difficult. Sending you love and prayers.

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      I'm so sorry to hear that 😔. Hoping we can lean on each other for love and support. As so many of these wonderful ladies are telling me...it will get better! But presently...as I know all too well it's absolutely devastating. I hope and pray you find the strength too to carry on and day by day...you will find glimpses of happiness and one day you will be back to your old self...better, stronger and mightier than ever! Sending prayers your too my friend ❤️

  • @Coloradoinni1
    @Coloradoinni1 Місяць тому +1

    Thank you for your grace and bravery in sharing something so personal. I wish you all the love and joy in your next chapter of your life

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      I appreciate you saying that. Putting yourself out there...is and can be difficult and over whelming. But I love all the support you bring me, that makes it a lot easier. ❤️

  • @whilethevossisaway
    @whilethevossisaway Місяць тому +1

    I’ve been there, I hope you take us with you on this new path. You have a lot to offer your audience, we look forward to learning from you!

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      You all help me so much too and I definitely will take you along! Thank you 😊

  • @terryryman9553
    @terryryman9553 Місяць тому +9

    I am so sorry. Keep praying. You are auch a beautiful person.

  • @denisebeckett8014
    @denisebeckett8014 Місяць тому +1

    What a great way of putting it... the battle between your mind and heart! You seem much happier and at peace with things now, and I couldn't be more happy for you. What a strong woman you must be... and you're beautiful inside and out. I will add you to my prayers in hoping you get through the rest of the process with little -to - no stress. Take care of yourself, and I look forward to seeing more from you with your new house hunt. 💜

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Hi Denise! The full acceptance and reconciliation are making life a lot easier for me these days and really helping me to move forward. I don't feel very strong a lot of the time, but I'm trying..strength comes from within and I'm digging deep 😊 Thank you so much for your continued support...means the world to me 🤗 I will definitely take you along on my house hunt!

  • @Kim4everblessed
    @Kim4everblessed Місяць тому +1

    🙏💖 Praying the best for you!

  • @NickGatsis-ss2en
    @NickGatsis-ss2en Місяць тому +2

    Wishing you strength and positivity as you navigate this new chapter.

  • @annier8604
    @annier8604 Місяць тому +1

    Hugs and prayers. You’ve got this!

  • @lizzabbott
    @lizzabbott Місяць тому

    Soooo sorrry to hear that you have been going thru this heartbreak & ordeal ! This Dark Night of the Soul ( as Caroline Myss puts it) is preparing you for great things ! You are not alone. And thank you for reminding so many of us that WE are not alone. I broke up w someone years back, who would not let go / turned into a platonic relationship … even tho I’d have been beyond fine with no contact. This individual is an energy vampire & has severely drained me. I think now I’ve finally cut the cords, where he will seek his narcissistic supply elsewhere. It is truly a serious health issue when you are an empath & energy vampires take advantage of you. Itz too much ! So thatz MY story ! I even have a female friend who’s an energy vampire & she too would not let me go. I think this time I may have succeeded on properly cutting ties. Yes it’s sad, but necessary. Thank heavens for the block option on the phone. But itz trickier than that. If you don't ween them off as undramatically ( but assertively) as possible, they will drain you still …. via destructive, draining thought forms.
    Here’s lookin at YOU , Kid ! You’ve got this, Denise ! Take good care of yourself . Liz

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Hi Liz, thank you for sharing your story. So happy to hear you broke free from those relationships, sounds very toxic. Hope you are doing better and finding joy again. Appreciate your support, thank you ❤️

  • @THErealBRITSofFlorida
    @THErealBRITSofFlorida 29 днів тому +2

    new subscriber. I appreciate you putting this video out. I was divorced just a year ago..(35 yrs) had no clue it was coming. But vlogging my way through life now and completely starting again at 60. I will stay tuned !! Thank you xox

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  28 днів тому

      Thank you for subscribing and welcome to Happy Haute Home. Being blind sighted is awful, sorry that happened to you. Hope you are finding peace and happiness now or will one day soon ❤️

  • @MichelleT777
    @MichelleT777 Місяць тому

    Your video popped up in my feed and felt led to watch. I will be praying for you and your family.

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому +1

      Thank you so much Michelle. Appreciate all the prayers 🙏

  • @gsswasami
    @gsswasami Місяць тому +4

    Thank you for continuing to be an inspiration to us! You are a such a strong woman. May God Bless you in every way. ❤

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Some days I think I am, other days I feel soo weak. Thank you for your support and encouragement ❤️

  • @heidifuller5934
    @heidifuller5934 Місяць тому

    Hello Denise, and thank you for coming on and explaining to us what has been going on just keep praying and stay brave. You can do this you got this were all behind you we will give you all the strength we can with all of us together you will pull through. We love you and you take it easy. God bless you.❤

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  29 днів тому

      Hi Heidi, so nice to hear from you. Your support means a lot to me, very much appreciate that girlfriend ❤️

  • @fionaschiffl8065
    @fionaschiffl8065 Місяць тому +2

    I found doing new things like renovating my furniture and home so much fun. It’s all on the cheap but paint makes a difference. People told me to just go back to sewing and doing my regular things when my instincts were to change up the house and make it a home. My ex never wanted art on the walls or anything but his hoarded boxes of junk around the house. Now I have space and want a home that reflects my personality. I needed a new routine and to make a difference in my life. I’m still smiling after a year since I painted the main area. ❤

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому +1

      Yes! I find great pleasure in decorating and making a beautiful home too. Glad you find some healing in the process as well! Paint...so inexpensive for the change it makes!

  • @antoniarivera4388
    @antoniarivera4388 Місяць тому +1

    Glad to hear from you. Life is so filled with unexpected twists. Hope everything keeps looking up for you!😊

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      You said it Antonia! The only constant in life is change. Thank you!🤗

  • @pathart3724
    @pathart3724 14 днів тому

    Hi I just found you after seeing your post on the Antique Factory Mall
    I have a booth there. I hope that you will get thru this with the help of your friends and find the bright future you want . I will say a prayer for you ❤

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  14 днів тому

      Hi Pat, nice to meet you. I love the factory mall, try to visit whenever I'm in the area. Thank you for your kind words...❤️

  • @erinluke2913
    @erinluke2913 Місяць тому +4

    Hi Denise, I'm very proud of you! It takes a lot of guts to walk away from a marriage that is not the best for you. I will pray for you that God will walk with you through the next steps with this divorce. Bless you.

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Hi Erin, thank you! At times, I feel strong but so weak at other times. Just a huge roller coaster of emotions. Prayer does help. Thanks for being with me ❤️

  • @victoriaadams4318
    @victoriaadams4318 Місяць тому +2

    Hi Denise❤, we love you so much. Thanks for encouraging us through your own difficult times. See you soon!

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Thank you so much Victoria!! Your support means the world to me 🤗

  • @audreyshort8852
    @audreyshort8852 Місяць тому +4

    The first video that I saw of yours was when you talked about how you were going through something really hard, I felt like this might be what you were going through. I felt like God led me to your video to pray for you, and I have, I was thinking about you just yesterday. I am so glad that you are doing so much better. God is the restorer. I pray that God blesses you and your family. It was so good to hear from you today.❤

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому +1

      SO good to hear from you Audrey ❤️ Your kind words of encouragement mean a lot 🤗

    • @audreyshort8852
      @audreyshort8852 Місяць тому

      @@HappyHauteHome 😊❤️

  • @suzieflowers5696
    @suzieflowers5696 Місяць тому

    I’m so sorry that this is what you have been going through , however when you moved from your other home I felt that this is what was happening, I hope your life gets better and your new journey is good for you , remember baby steps and one day at a time . God bless you in this new journey ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Hi Suzie, sadly yes. Wish it could have turned out differently, my commitment was very deep but it is what it is. Now focusing on moving forward, as you said baby steps. So happy you are here to support me! ❤️

  • @CynthiaParkerButler77
    @CynthiaParkerButler77 Місяць тому

    I am a new subscriber, and I know exactly how you feel, I went through the whole process as well, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel, don’t ever give up, give yourself time and your heart as well, keep believing in true love, I have never given up, and I found my soulmate and I just got remarried, I gave myself 6 years to let my heart and soul heal, I can careless what others think, keep going keep fighting for what you believe in, learn to love yourself again, find what makes you stronger and laughter is a huge plus, believe me you will get through this

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому +1

      Welcome Cynthia, so glad you found me here at HHH. I have always believed in true love and want to hold into that feeling. You are right. I'm so happy to hear you finally found your true love! That is wonderful. You did the right thing in letting your heart heal, only then can you really find true love and are able to give yourself to another completely. Laughter is so important!! Yes yes yes. Thank you for your words of encouragement new friend ❤️

  • @barbkenas5663
    @barbkenas5663 Місяць тому +2

    Prayers for you, this is a very difficult situation and you are a strong person for sharing this. One day at a time...🥰😘😍

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Yes Barb, so right. One day at a time is all I can do right now. Maybe that will change one day..but perfect for now 🤗

  • @Blake.Cooper
    @Blake.Cooper Місяць тому +2

    What a brave video! You always have to be your greatest fan. Take care of yourself. You seem like a very logical woman and it's always best to "go with your gut". Best wishes for a wonderful NEW chapter!! LIVE YOUR LIFE!!

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому +1

      Hi Blake. Yes go with your gut..it's usually correct! We may try to ignore it...but the feeling is strong. Thanks so much for your support ❤️

  • @charlenedimonte
    @charlenedimonte 20 днів тому

    Denise, you’ve got this💪🏼. We are stronger than we think and we CAN do hard things ( from my yoga instructor). I adore you and your channel. You are beautiful inside and out, and your followers are here for you. Hoping this brings you peace and joy. 🙋🏼‍♀️🇨🇦🥰

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  19 днів тому +1

      Hi Charlene! You as well, my friend 🤗 It is funny, how in very difficult times we rise up and fight the strength to fight for our lives. Your sweet words mean a lot to me, thank you so much! ❤️

  • @joliz1234
    @joliz1234 Місяць тому +3

    Hi Denise, I’m glad your heart and head finally came together in making this difficult decision. You just seem more at peace and relaxed. I’m glad you have a good support system and you know you have all of us that have followed you through the years. Happier days are ahead for you. You are young and pretty and you have a lot of living to do. Still waiting for the Ralph Lauren style show. lol ❤ Joann

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Hi Joann, it feels so good to finally have that reconciliation. Brings peace and a smile back that I've been missing. Your support over the years is recognized and greatly appreciated my friend 🤗 I did promise you that video...didn't I? 😅

  • @lizstephens3
    @lizstephens3 Місяць тому +4

    God bless you and your children sweet lady. Divorce is difficult and it brings out strength in you that you never knew you had. I will be praying for you and your sweet little family. ♥🙏

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Hi Liz. So true...don't realize it until it happens. My kids mean everything to me and I so love my time with them. Changes your perspective when you see them less but strengthens the bond ❤️

  • @user-zz6gc9qg9m
    @user-zz6gc9qg9m Місяць тому +2

    I’m sorry you were dealing with so much pain, I prayed you’d find peace and happiness, again.
    So happy to hear that your heart and head came to peace, once we accept, we begin to heal.
    Just give yourself the grace and permission to be happy once again, you won’t regret it!
    Btw it is very true about husband, I can confirm… :) take care my friend, love & hugs 💞
    Ps our children are happiest, when they know we’re ok. 😊

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Hi Marianne, yes the healing is starting. I'm sure it will be a long road with many bumps but finally my heart is ready to begin the journey. Thanks for being here my friend 🤗

    • @user-zz6gc9qg9m
      @user-zz6gc9qg9m Місяць тому

      @@HappyHauteHome
      🙏🏻💞:)

  • @kwallen78
    @kwallen78 24 дні тому

    Wishing you all the best in whatever the future holds!

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  19 днів тому

      Thank you so much, greatly appreciated 😊

  • @lindahensley1646
    @lindahensley1646 Місяць тому +1

    Prayers for you and your family.

  • @veronicadoveschs6258
    @veronicadoveschs6258 Місяць тому

    So very sorry that you're going through this difficult time. You are in my prayers and with help from the Lord above this too shall pass.God bless you and your family 🙏🏻 🙏🏻 ❤️

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Hi Veronica, so kind of you to offer support, thank you, it's greatly appreciated ❤️

  • @joannehetherington445
    @joannehetherington445 29 днів тому +2

    You will get through it ..many women have divorced and thrived

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  28 днів тому

      Probably for the better too. Yes, thank you ❤️

  • @stealth48nurse
    @stealth48nurse Місяць тому +1

    Thank you for sharing. Your in my thoughts and prayers 🙏

  • @user-tv5hl8zu9s
    @user-tv5hl8zu9s Місяць тому

    I'm grateful to you for make this videos you are a beautiful honest person ✨️ 💛

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Wow, what nice words. Thank you so much! ☺️

  • @nancycrawford4855
    @nancycrawford4855 Місяць тому

    Denise I am so glad you have reconciled your heart and your head. Yes divorce is difficult. I made that decision many years ago and know how difficult this time is for you right now. Just let me say that you will emerge from this a happier, stronger and independent woman. Do what is best for you and your children. You are loved by many of us out here. We will continue to pray for you to have strength and many the Lord give you guidance. You got this girl!!!

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      I love hearing that Nancy, thank you! I think I'm hearing that it made a positive change in your life..that's amazing. Your words of wisdom are very encouraging, thank you for being with me and sending prayers 🤗

  • @anaferguson5135
    @anaferguson5135 Місяць тому

    You seem to be like such a nice, sweet person! You look great! Hopefully everything will turn out okay. Our prayers are with you! We wish you peace, love and happiness! God Bless! 🙏🙏🙏🌷❤🧡

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Aw thanks Ana! God bless you too my sweet friend ❤️

  • @claudiaweldon9460
    @claudiaweldon9460 Місяць тому

    Praying for you be strong ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @kathywest1023
    @kathywest1023 Місяць тому

    Denise it is difficult to go through but it is so worth saving yourself. Life is too short to not heal yourself and enjoy life again. Trust me it is so worth the fight and you deserve it! Much love and prayers ❤

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  29 днів тому

      Thank you Kathy for those words of encouragement! Made my morning seeing your positive energy, appreciate that greatly ❤️

  • @jo-annmaruszak9885
    @jo-annmaruszak9885 29 днів тому

    So sorry. You will survive and you know that. I hope you have a good support system at home in addition to all of your supporters on you tube. ❤

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  29 днів тому

      Hi Joann, yes I am very lucky in the respect. thank you ❤️

  • @jewelllowe3054
    @jewelllowe3054 Місяць тому

    I believe you will thrive after this divorce, you are such a nice person and I can’t wait for the upcoming videos. Hugs ❤️🙏🏻

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому +1

      Aww thanks Jewel ☺️ I look forward to making more videos for you all. You are the best! 🤗

  • @fionaschiffl8065
    @fionaschiffl8065 Місяць тому +1

    Sending you big hugs.❤ I see the same body language from you that I had. I divorced a narcissist last year. My take aways are: Get mentally strong enough to believe in yourself. It also took me months to say the D word out loud. I started decluttering my stuff years before leaving so I didn’t have to do it in the thick of things. If your lawyer isn’t moving the case along, get another rather than giving them the benefit of the doubt. You still have to pay them. Lawyers drained my bank account and the second lot wouldn’t use anything the first one had done.
    Be careful who you confide in. Even if it’s close family and best friends. They will offer advice ad naseum thinking they’re helping. I had 4 people for 1-2hrs per day for 6 months telling me what to do and not thinking I was capable of making my own good choices. When you’ve been under the thumb of a narc, you behave differently always trying to avoid arguments and their wrath so that’s what people see of you. You can tell them that you can’t do something one way because of X and you’ve put a lot of thought into your plan but they don’t listen. Then they get annoyed with you because it’s all going too slowly for them and you’re still down.
    I’ve gone and am going through 3 stages of healing. A: researching the ex’s addictions and undiagnosed personality disorder. That lead me to the fact that he was never going to change. B: I wasn’t in control of anything during the lawyer phase as no one addressed my concerns despite family saying the lawyers are there to fight for you. This lead me to depression and not functioning. Telling people to snap out of it isn’t helpful. It was made worse by people who don’t understand narcs and how you die by 1000 cuts. They say because you’re not around him any more then the problem is over, so get over it, it’s been X amount of time. That thinking is not helpful. C: Learning to trust your instincts after 30+yrs of being told you can’t do anything right and you’re useless. I’ve done therapy since I found out about the ex’s fun life and it’s completely changed my mindset. I’m learning new things, how to do chores that work for me.
    Take care of your heart everyone. This time will pass and just feel and acknowledge the stages of stigma, grief and healing. Dance to your favourite song in the morning. Thank yourself for putting on your socks. Fake smile at yourself in the mirror. I bawled for 2 weeks trying to do that, then it got to a fake smile, then a real one then a grin. It took a few months but worth it. You have to start healing when you don’t want to. Sorry this was long. ❤

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Hi Fiona, so sorry to hear about your struggles. That's a horrible situation! Sounds like you learned a lot from your experience and are now so much wiser. I appreciate all your wisdom and tips. We ladies need to stick together and look out for one another! Thank you for being part of my family and I admire you for sharing your story.❤️

    • @fionaschiffl8065
      @fionaschiffl8065 Місяць тому

      @@HappyHauteHome I call people who say things get better after divorce, divorce heroes and will sit on my shoulders forever more. I hope you have an easier time and am able to find the smiles through the process.

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      @@fionaschiffl8065 I hope so too Fiona, I think that is achievable. I slowly feel my old self returning ☺

  • @txspacemom765
    @txspacemom765 Місяць тому +1

    I'm out here with you my sister! We got this!

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому +1

      I love supportive women!! Thank you!! ❤️

  • @lesliehardin7963
    @lesliehardin7963 Місяць тому

    You are a brave strong woman. The best is yet to come. May not be in the form of a big house, pool and other material things. You got this!

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Appreciate that Leslie and I hope you are right. Material things are nice to have but certainly don't bring true happiness. Thanks for being her ❤️

  • @1_viewer
    @1_viewer Місяць тому

    Divorce can be one of the most emotionally difficult times in a life. Glad you can speak the words now. That is the first step to recovery of joyful times. Step by step you will get through it.

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Spot on 💯. Its devastating. But feeling better and I see with such clarity these days...makes things easier 😊

  • @marysalim5107
    @marysalim5107 Місяць тому +2

    Вы очень трогательная и элегантная женщина. Сразу покорили своим вкусом, манерой. Увы, и такое в жизни бывает. Всем достойным дамам-достойных кавалеров! 🌺

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Thank you Mary, your kind words mean a lot to me ❤️

    • @marysalim5107
      @marysalim5107 Місяць тому

      @@HappyHauteHome Thank you too. Denise. I am very glad. Good luck!

  • @cathymokaraka3695
    @cathymokaraka3695 Місяць тому

    All the very very best to you, you sweet sweet lady❤

  • @rachaelnuchols764
    @rachaelnuchols764 24 дні тому

    Praying for you all ❤

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  19 днів тому +1

      Thank you Rachel, I will take all the prayers I can get 😊

  • @justasmalltowngirl_lynne5089
    @justasmalltowngirl_lynne5089 Місяць тому

    Oooh Hugs Hugs & bigger HUGS for you‼️‼️‼️💗💗💗💗💗💗

  • @susymurillo5758
    @susymurillo5758 Місяць тому

    Yes it's very hard. Time will help. I pray for many blessings to you 🙏

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Yes Susy, so true...takes time...more than I'd like but that's ok. Grieving is different for everyone. Thank you ❤️

  • @chrisfreemanmastin9358
    @chrisfreemanmastin9358 Місяць тому +2

    My head and heart are not completely in alignment but unfortunately I cannot afford to live as a retired woman to not have my husband’s income.

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому +2

      I always advocate keeping a marriage together if at all possible with the exception of a few situations. If those are happening, I fully encourage one to leave but completely understand the financial difficulty that poses...you have to do what's best for you and make a collective decision. Wishing you all the love and happiness life has to offer ❤️

  • @cats2ish
    @cats2ish Місяць тому +4

    of course men take divorce harder, they don't want to let go of their cook, clean and bottle washer. We make life for them so easy and uneventful. They don't know how to stand on their own 2 feet. We women keep the fort running and men are happy with that.
    I have been separated for 1 year. After 49 years of marriage. I will tell you I cried and felt bad but in the end I have gotten through it and you will also . Hang in there and take care of your self.

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      🤣 I love your perspective! Yes we do...we give everything to our families. Incredible...49 years, that must have been very hard on you but so happy to hear you have come back better than ever! You go girl! ❤️

  • @apt221bbakerst
    @apt221bbakerst 28 днів тому

    I have always been single, but I know that normal break ups are difficult, but divorce is a whole lot harder because it isn't just a breakup that you thought this union would last forever, but dealing with legalities, splitting up assets, selling and relocating to start again. Then you have friends who may feel they can't remain friends and if you have kids, you got that to deal with to. It is a big upheaval and it is hell. But in your case, you made your decision, stuck to your guns and stayed your course through the storm. This is to show you that you are stronger than you know. That door is closed and a new door or chapter is opening so embrace the new changes as new possibilities. Hugs!

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  27 днів тому

      Hi LouAnn, you are so right...hell it is, regardless of who makes the decision. I am excited about new possibilities and a new future but dealing with the emotions of all this is so draining. I appreciate you being so supportive and offering your wisdom. Cheers to new beginnings 🥂

  • @colleenpowell5324
    @colleenpowell5324 Місяць тому

    Thank you for sharing your heart. I just found you and subscribed to your channel.
    I'm struggling with the decision to file for divorce within a year. It's been a long time coming. I am currently making plans to be independent after 36 years of codependency. I truly need to turn my life around. I'm dealing with layers of issues that make it logically clear. I'm a loyal person, so my heart also aches with the disappointment of a failing marriage.
    Best to you!

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  29 днів тому +1

      Hi Colleen, I'm sorry to hear about your struggle. It sounds like you're making the right decision for you and that is incredible. A lot goes into that and I'm happy to hear you're planning it out. You kept your marriage together for 36 years and that is a major accomplishment. I too am a very loyal person but sometimes that isn't enough, and that's not your fault! Hope the healing can begin for you soon. Thank you for sharing your story with me..maybe we can learn from each other. ❤️

    • @colleenpowell5324
      @colleenpowell5324 29 днів тому

      I'll be holding onto your encouraging words. I greatly appreciate your taking time to write to me. Yes, we absolutely need to learn together and support each other. May the pain go away and may we be healed and freed to Excell!!! Here's to our amazing futures! ❤ to everyone here, thank you all for sharing.

    • @colleenpowell5324
      @colleenpowell5324 29 днів тому

      Please, whatever resources any of you here may have, I'm open. Other UA-cam channels, etc. I'm in a rough place considering divorce for decades of reasons. 😢

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  29 днів тому

      Thank you for your support Colleen, we go this! ❤️

  • @pamelasprings6723
    @pamelasprings6723 26 днів тому

    I had a strong feeling when you moved that you were separated. Your sadness just showed how devastated you were. You will be ok. The love for someone does not ever go away for some, like myself, but you are able to move on and deal with it. I pray it all goes smoothly for you. You will have ups and downs, but God is there for you to lean on. So are your friends so be sure to let them help you along the way. Keep busy. Love to you and look forward to more videos and let us know how you are doing as we all care about you.

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  19 днів тому

      Hi Pamela, your words are very comforting thank you ❤️ I am completely devastated by all this, you are so right. I feel that the situation of how the marriage ends plays a lot into holding onto feelings or having the ability to let go. We shall see, my feelings are up and down, all over the place but I see more clarity everyday and for that I am forever thankful. I hope you are finding peace in your new life too Pam...love to you too 🤗

  • @terryryman9553
    @terryryman9553 Місяць тому +5

    May all your dreams come true.

  • @gabrielarich2015
    @gabrielarich2015 Місяць тому +1

    As with anything else, it also depends on each situation and your perspective on life. I’m not a huge believer in divorce and would not encourage anyone to take that approach unless they have exhausted their options and of course if there’s abuse or infidelity then that’s a wrap. You can’t live in a relationship if the person is abusing you or your children or even if they abuse themselves to that extent…. With that being said you do what’s best for you

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Could not agree with you more Gabriela! 💯 I also think you should do everything you can to try to make it work, better or worse...right, that's the vow we took. But sometimes if those options have been exhausted..moving in is the best bet for everyone. Appreciate your words of wisdom ❤️

  • @GGFaison
    @GGFaison Місяць тому

    Hi friend, continue to take one day at a time, allow God to direct your every move. I pray you guys can remain or obtain respect for one another. As women, most of the time we give it our all and by the time we decide to walk away, all angles have been covered and worked out to the fullest. You will be fine, enjoy life! Thanks for sharing💐💐

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      One day at a time seems to be a great motto to live by. I hope we can too, but so very difficult when there are such hurt feelings. Thank you for your guidance, appreciate you being part of my family ❤️

  • @sueboschetti4933
    @sueboschetti4933 Місяць тому +1

    Take care of yourself and I wish you all the best.

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Hi Sue, appreciate your support, thank you

  • @marilynbaudier1094
    @marilynbaudier1094 Місяць тому

    God bless you my friend and hang in there. The Lord is walking this out with you. One day soon you will understand why God has put it on your heart to move forward and on with your life. There is a huge forest beyond the trees. God has you.

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Hi Marilyn, I do believe that too. Thank you for being here and your support ❤️

  • @marshacollins6235
    @marshacollins6235 Місяць тому +4

    I am so sorry you are going through this very difficult time! I pray in time you will feel peace and joy when everything is said and done. I have never been divorced, however My husband of 45 years passed away in 2018. I know you will be okay! I will be praying for you and your family!

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому +1

      Oh Marsha, so sorry for the loss of your husband. 45 years is truly a testament to your commitment, strength and love for each other. Hope you are able to move forward and find peace. Thank you for your support, appreciate all your prayers too ❤️

  • @angelamonson
    @angelamonson Місяць тому +1

    So Sorry

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Appreciate that Angela, thank you.❤️

  • @kathrynsanburn9383
    @kathrynsanburn9383 19 днів тому

    My heart aches for you because I have been right where you are. I was married 20 years and worked with him to build the kind of life similar to yours. Unfortunately for me, he met someone younger who stole his heart. As time went by, the happy life I thought I had with him was a complete lie and so I let him go. I was devastated but trusted God. I have now found the love of my life who treats me with so much love and respect and we will be celebrating our 4th anniversary tomorrow. Although my lifestyle has drastically changed, I would not change anything because I feel so safe and loved in my new marriage and it has made all the difference. It’s not easy but keep walking towards the light at the end of the tunnel. God bless.

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  19 днів тому

      Thank you for sharing your story Kathryn ❤️. Please know that what happened had nothing to do with you, but a deep insecurity within your ex. I'm so proud you were able to let him go and move on, to find the love of your life!! When God closes a door, he opens a window. I truly believe that. I'm so happy for you!! I too want to believe my new life (someday) will be spectacular but first I need to walk through the fire and it does burn deep. Your story is inspiring and very comforting 😊

  • @nancyleathers4846
    @nancyleathers4846 Місяць тому +1

    Divorce is like going thru a death. I wish you the best in the future. Happiness is right around the corner.

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Right?! Yes Nancy, you are spot on.. Death of a relationship. Grieving is similar too. Hoping brighter days are ahead ❤️

  • @melanierogers6370
    @melanierogers6370 Місяць тому

    I love you !

  • @leticiahernandez4857
    @leticiahernandez4857 Місяць тому

    You are a very beautiful woman, I’ll be praying for you and your family.

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      How sweet of you Leticia. Praying for all of you too 🙏

  • @msdee2905
    @msdee2905 Місяць тому +2

    Sorry for the loss of your marriage. Hope it all works out. Yes keep praying for wisdom and guidance. Don’t rush it. Seek God. But if there is another woman involved. Take it slow and maybe he will wake up and stop cheating. Pray pray pray. Take care of yourself. I’ve been there. 😊

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому +1

      Thanks Dee. I hope it works out too. Appreciate you being here, thank you for your wisdom and guidance. As for men who cheat..I firmly believe, "what goes around comes around" and they will greatly regret their choices in the end ❤️

    • @msdee2905
      @msdee2905 Місяць тому

      @@HappyHauteHome Amen. Keep trusting in God!

  • @user-it2pw4cu1r
    @user-it2pw4cu1r Місяць тому +3

    I got a divorce. I was in an abuse marriage. I have children with this man, I finally told myself that I can get out. I left with my children. It was the best ever. I hope you continue to stay strong.

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      I am so happy to hear that! Thank you for sharing your story! You are strong and mighty! Thrilled to hear you are happy now and living your best life! Kuddos to you! ❤️

  • @stevenmonroe8177
    @stevenmonroe8177 Місяць тому +2

    You are beautiful and have a wonderful spirit

  • @tlbailey1469
    @tlbailey1469 29 днів тому

    So very sorry.

  • @retheniahill8132
    @retheniahill8132 Місяць тому +2

    You are a strong woman, keep praying and believing. You’re gonna be just fine. Wishing you a successful and brighter future, in JESUS name.❤❤

    • @terrificme420
      @terrificme420 Місяць тому +1

      AMEN🙏🏽

    • @mikeelder6298
      @mikeelder6298 Місяць тому

      The Bible says that God hates divorce, why are you encouraging it?

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Thank you Rethenia, your support is so kind. ❤️

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому +1

      She's not encouraging divorce, instead being very supportive of my decision.

  • @linda7504
    @linda7504 Місяць тому +2

    I’m so sorry you are having to go through this, but I suspected that this was what had happened after you said you had sold your house and you seemed very depressed. I have been down that road before myself. It’s been 34 years and it’s always especially hard during the holidays. I pray that you will find peace.❤

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Nice to know there is light at the end of the tunnel. Yes I can holidays as being very tough Linda, hope you get through them with happiness and strength ❤️

  • @oxanaporoshina203
    @oxanaporoshina203 Місяць тому

    👋❤️❤️❤️

  • @jillianmartin6335
    @jillianmartin6335 Місяць тому

    Hi
    I have only just found you. I am awful, sorry. The demise of a relationship is very hard. I have been divorced after 10 years of marriage with a child. The emotional roller coaster is exhausting. Somehow, we find the strength to keep going and eventually get easier. I have now remarried years later, and I can assure you things happen for a reason. I pray you find peace and experience joy, hope, and love. Take time for yourself and listen to lawyers. You are going to be ok. ❤

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому +1

      It's so uplifting to hear your story Jillian. Yes the emotional roller coaster is exhausting. I look forward to easier peaceful days. All great advice, thank you for your encouragement ☺️

  • @Tiffchanelley
    @Tiffchanelley Місяць тому

    🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @davidmerrill4496
    @davidmerrill4496 Місяць тому +1

    BELEIVE ME DEAR LADY IVE HEARD THAT SOMEONE ELSE OUT THERE HAS IT HARDER BUT I DONT QUESTION IT IVE ALSO BEEN TOLD ITS ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF THE OTHER THATS THE PLAN AN IVE ALSO HAVE HEARD GOD PICKS US UP AT ARE WEAKEST MOMENTS I KNOW THAT ITS TRUE IF IT WASNT I WOULDNT BE TELLING YOU THIS IM STILL HERE BUT THATS THE ADVICE I CAN GIVE YOU DEAR LADY SORRY YOUR HAVEING A HARD TIME OF THINGS ...........

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Thank you David. I have found peace in prayer and appreciate the advice 😊

  • @msdee2905
    @msdee2905 Місяць тому

    New subscriber

  • @edwizard62
    @edwizard62 Місяць тому

    Sorry for your divorce. You're beautiful so I'm sure you already have 4 or 5 men in the wings. Choose wisely.

    • @HappyHauteHome
      @HappyHauteHome  Місяць тому

      Thank you, I will. It will be quite a while before I feel like dating.

  • @roxanapadillazavala9274
    @roxanapadillazavala9274 Місяць тому +1

    1 Corinthians 7:15🙏

  • @anitawells3705
    @anitawells3705 Місяць тому

    ❤❤❤❤Jesus loves you John three sixteen ❤️ 💙 💖 ♥️

  • @terrificme420
    @terrificme420 Місяць тому +2

    You are in my PRAYERS🙏🏽❤ stay focus and remain strong LOVE YOU SIS🤗😘❤