It’s almost like we’re normal ppl just like everyone else. 😂 I completely agree with you. I’ve actually met a couple of homophobic gays. We’re not all the same. Lol
As part of the gay community I find that their is a lot of pressure from some people to be more feminine and as a more masculine man it’s viewed as conforming to society out of pressure for some reason. No I’m just me that’s all.
Sexual preferences are ALLOWED judgement like no this color of skin or no femboy. Preference is not transphobic or what not. Everyone have their own preferences and that is OK!
For me whether you found out later in life or you instinctually knew, whichever gender makes me hard/horny is something that is hard wired into me, no matter if I knew the term gay or have been exposed to gay culture prior to coming out. I knew I was different since I was a kid but I just didn't know the word for it. That doesn't mean that I wasn't born gay or that I just discovered gay culture and that transformed me into a gay person.
I know people will say it’s offensive but dude at 11:15 talked and talks and said nothing. I don’t identify as gay, I just am. And if gender wasn’t real, we wouldn’t be. These same lines are almost verbatim it’s like having a personality went out of style.
Exactly. Gender is a social construct, sexuality is not. Long before the modern idea of gender there were still people who loved exclusively the members of the same sex. They also exist (always existed and always will) independently across different cultures with different ideas about gender.
I once envisioned myself as a mentor who lived through modern gay history. Younger people have no interest in anything I have to offer. Stonewall? Fire Island? AIDS? Gay Culture. Better Midler. LOL. Barbara Streisand? They aren't curious about anything that occurred the day before they were born. They hardly know much about the day they're in. Much of our "collective" knowledge ends with me. These kids will never find out who "Mary" is, or Miss Thing. There is no gay humor left because the children have no gay humor. Disco would have never flourished with these children. They don't leave their bedrooms. "If you cannot remember history, you are doomed to repeat it."
As a gay man myself, of course other gay people can be religious. Although as a strident atheist, I just simply don’t understand why anyone would want to be. Gay religious people really have to do a lot of cherry picking of ideas to justify having those beliefs. But of course they can, I just don’t understand why anyone would want those beliefs.
I don't understand being religious either. Most religions say we are "flawed and broken", I felt a lot of shame growing up before accepting that there was nothing wrong with me.
Yeah, this represents only the experience of this age and effeminacy level group. You would need to have so many of these specials to truly get a full picture of what it means to be gay. So many ages, so many races, so many social economic groups, so many regional groups, urban /rural, fem/mid/masc dichotomy, cis/trans, etc.
I've watched several of these episodes and this is the first one I've seen where they consistently can't make a definitive choice. Even when they decide to go either direction, they don't even stand on the line, they're like in-between lines every time lol
I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE! This video! My hair was so poofy and not my septum being not straight (well neither am I LOL)! Thank you for an AMAZING video. This will easily go down as 1 of my favorites that I have ever been apart of!
For a lot of gay POC we always have the bravery to call out racism in the gay community but never the bravery to call out the homophobia in our own cultures. We also need to stop looking for white validation and in addition we need to stop looking for representation and diversity in other peoples dating preferences, its getting weird, we should never have to unlearn something to be attracted to someone.
Can y’all stop speaking for groups collectively? 🤷🏾♂️ most of what y’all call racist is just you being rejected on Grindr. The struggle gay story is played out.
I'm going to be the decenter on this, but how can you tell if all gay men think the same when the 5 of these men are essentially the same person. There's zero diversity here.
M A S C U L I N E - Super Butch, country boys, cowboys, policemen, military, construction workers you can be on the chubby / heavy side and / or thinning / balding as long as you OWN IT.
its interesting because they relate religion to homophobia too, but thats not really what religion or spirituality is all about, the homophobia is related to the people, and the people who believe it is against nature, but religion and spirituality in itself is connected to the individual
In the uk its virtually impossible to show affection or hold hands with your boyfriend without receiving verbal homophobic abuse or been stared at and given funny looks, so life is easier just to not bother xx
I’m in London right now and whenever I dress up anything colourful, I get sneered at, stared at, laughed at. I wanted to think that it’s because of my poor fashion choices. 😂 But I’m starting to think that a lot of people here are ignorant 😂😂😂
For me as a bi guy living in Florida, the fact that NO ONE went to “strongly disagree” on the “I feel safe holding hands” was shocking. I am in a long term wonderful marriage and we already know that hand holding (any form of affection really) is off the table completely in public. It has to be a explicitly queer location to even consider.
Probably because all these guys live in very liberal areas (you can tell by how they dress). Where I live you can't tell gay from straight men and you'd get yelled at and possibly attacked as two men holding hands.
depends where you are, in the uk its fine but at the end of the day i feel like affection in public no matter the sexuality is a no go, save it for the privacy of your own home.
@@communismwillbeeradicated.6128 “nomatter the sexuality” thats very hypocritical because your ignoring that this is actually a real problem , queer people are being killed for kissing or holding hands in public!! Not straight people , why shouldn’t queer people be allowed the same privileges and opportunities that straight people have when it comes to them living their life for something as simple as kissing someone or holding hands in public , its not something as sexual as you make it out to be
The 40 year old guy having a mid life crisis is fundamentally irritating and massively wrong about the biological basis of sexual orientation. This generation has not deconstructed anything or provided any sound reasoning. It’s incredibly frustrating when people his age are ignorant and overtly politically motivated. You can tell some of the other guys were annoyed by him.
They overthink it... I liked Daddy types when I was younger, and now I look at the young men. Though, I see men in their 40-60 range that I find attractive and interesting. The Cis thing is bougie.
OK the 1st question I can relate I am only attracted to masculine men I can't help it tho I have tried it with effeminate and camp men but the instruments just don't work it's just hormones u can't help it 😎 let's be cool about it tho we all have attractions 🎉😂
I’m bisexual and work at a Lutheran school and they know and are accepting of me. Now the Catholic Church makes me uncomfortable because we got kicked out of the church because my parents got divorced. I have been in the Catholic Church and it’s just not for me. I identify more with the kindness parts of the Bible because that’s what should be taught.
I'm sorry that you went through that but, in defense of the Catholic Church, I'll say that it probably depends on the country. I went to a catholic school from when I was 3 till when I was 18 and priests gave me classes, and I've had the majority of them admit that they'd be happy to marry homosexual couples if the Pope allowed it to happen. Ofc, I'm not invalidating your experience and I'm so sorry that that happened to you, but I think countries and different cultures affect the way religion or religious people think about other groups.
TBH, you'd need to have a pretty skewed view of doctrine to think that most religions are at all accepting of Gay people. Every single one I can think of has specific parts which specifically state it's forbidden. I don't know why anyone would want to be a part of a community that actively hates them or suppresses their own holy book to accept them.
I am far too homonormative for Pride and find the Q community too large to suit anybody. The concluding question reminded me of Miss Brodie asking her class, "Who is the greatest Italian painter?" and responding to the answer, "Leonardo daVinci," with, "That is incorrect. The answer is Giotto; he is my favourite.:
Once again a very sincere and wholesome video! Thank you, Brian! If you’re going to do more of these, I’d love to see even more variety in the groups, like having a trans gay man as well and more age differences. ❤
@@Saidnoone it does not apply only to straight people, im guessing you have that impression because you dont see alot of straight who actually know what the word means, whereas gay people are surrounded by trans and non binary people, people who question gender, and so they use the word more often in their vocabulary. The whole thing about cis and straight, is that, if you are both, you arent the type of person who will feel societal pressure to question your identity and so the word "cis" doesnt get used much by you. Unless youre trans or non-binary, you are cisgender. Its also used alot by people in the medical profession, for actually a long time, maybe 100s years but id look that up. Medical people deal with intersex, trans and nonbinary ppl so it makes sense they would know and use the word more.
@@billibilliyou oh okay thank you. I’ll look it up. I mean. I only started hearing it from my boyfriend. (He’s the only other gay person I know/ talk to).
Thought as much too .jubilee does the same thing ,even worse .I will assume because this video is shot in a much progressive place lolz . Too many flaming gays. Make it look like all gay men act lyk this.
Dating for gay men is significantly harder than it is for straight men. we talk about lgtbq issues all the time especially online as if were like 50% of the worlds population when in reality we are only 10% of the world population and that is shared with lesbians, bisexual women, etc. We dont have the option to just like anyone, we have to know whose gay, also not every gay person feels like part of the lgbtq community so we rarely ever meet another gay person, Im from the UK and the option here are terrible and every time I meet someone attractive or develop feeling for, always turns out be straight, dont think I've ever met a gay person who has made my heart race or developed any feelings for. Its interesting how one of the dude in this had to say sorry for liking masculine men, its funny how we have kink shaming, slut shaming, fat shaming but preference shaming in the gay community is fine apparently :/
Existing dating app or gay locals/beaches/bathouse/cruise, It Is really easier for gay men, trust me. Obviously you must settle you. 10% of male population are anyway a lot people
@@cicciomattese I live in a small town in a conservative and Christian country, 20,000 inhabitants, all the people who use these apps are known, and most just want sex, the few who want something serious, are three times my age, I don't I know how this can be considered "easy", I literally did not identify with any of the opinions in the video
I like that this discussions are being had!!! I feel they're important to listen to different perspectives and literally see that there are many ways to look at a certain issue. I also feel they are a good starting point for people that have no idea about diversity and want to start dipping their toes into all the new ideas we can find around diversity and other important topics. 😁
that last question - i literally don't care - this just shows how trivial we gays can be for sure and if thats the most incendiary question that could be asked, well sorry but we're lost 😞
This is good, but could be better if participants JUST CHOSE A SIDE!! and if they offer too much backstory, it's sound like they are trying hard to justify their stance, which makes it seem like they really don't beleive their stance. Choose a side, this has been my experience, and that's that.
i love these episodes, most people who are casted are smart and say eye opening stuff. please make other videos for lesbians, bisexuals, different genders.
Are we going to ignore Dolly Parton on the last question? Just the vast number of songs she has written and published surpass probably any other artist. Whitney Houston's "I Will Always Love You" is written by Dolly Parton, for example.
Great insight seeing all this!! Hope this can help others understand and accept that each human is different and no one is exactly identical to anyone else! GET IT GENTS!
I am both queer and a devout roman Catholic and it's so wild how much the gay community has misconceptions about Christianity. The Church welcomes everyone. Period. It is sad that this myth is constantly pushed in the queer community.
I know! I was raised Catholic and I knew I was gay since I was really young. I always loved god and the church I thought it was so beautiful… I remember telling my priest that I’m gay and I’m thankful to this day that he accepted me into the church and told me to continue to be a amazing person and just pray every night before bed. I’m definitely one of the few gay people who really love god.
All of the Abrahamic faiths are homophobic at their core. The majority of LGBT people aren't religious because y'all have been killing us for millennia. You don't get to sugar coat your awful cults that to this day are on TV calling LGBT people groomers and worse.
Just half way in but I think I had enough. At the born gay part; while it is very obvious to me they lack good sexual education, probably not just that. Knowing what I know about US educations. What I take most issue with is when the 30 y/o is talking about fluidity more or less and the spectrum aspect like this is "new" only the past 10 years or so we spoke about that. And that is not true.... Kinsey scale is a spectrum, that is older than 10 years. Trans-ness is not new, the gender spectrum theory is also not just 10 years old. I am Dutch, from the Netherlands, born 1980 thus I am 13 years older than the oldest gay in that group, and some reactions are just head scratchers to me. I understand my culture is very different from the US culture... Amsterdam is known for the wallen, red-light district and prostitution - which is legal, sex work is legal, drugs like cannabis all my life there were shops you could buy it legally in small amounts. Hell we are even the first country in the modern age that had legalized same sex marriages. We are not a Puritan culture. It is like watching Americans answer basic knowledge questions and they can't answer "correct", like they live in a semi own reality disconnected from the rest of the Western democratic worlds. Like the Hawaii raised person stating it was very heteronormative how he was raised, but this not being a reason why he had a girlfriend however he always was attracted to men. Bless him he is still young. Ever since 9/11 I have been disillusioned by the USA, and since 2016 - it took a very deep nose dive. With facts that 54% of Americans have a literacy level below 6th grade, is very telling. It makes me wonder why we the social media/globe is still paying that much attention to the USA cause they lost it a little.
im pansexual, and i definitely had to learn to separate god and religion. When i was learning and discovering my sexuality and i was very lost , I was at one of the darkest time of my life , finding out i was getting cheated on after wasting time w this man for three years, also mourning my dog of 17 years, and being in rehab, i completely gave up on pray and begging for god to give me a break because i was close to following through with my S* Ideations. I gave up because i realized that i was gay and there had to be a reason why those who claim to be very close to “god” say we go straight to hell. but thats only because they believe that gay relationships are led by Lust and the Devil. We all should advocate that even homosexuals CAN have their own communication with god and don’t have to label themselves. Labeling yourself shoves you in a box and makes others have a perspective that you follow all the “rules” in the religion. i can keep going on but theres soo much to say and point out. Im still lost but im finding time to communicate with whoever this higher power is. You can still have spiritual connection without labeling your religion.
I resent the fact that persons who are not gay, who have lifestyles and goals that I would never want, have the gaul to include themselves in my tent. Go away, go build your own tent.
For me the distinctions are the same as with the greater society; its class warfare. LOL. I am more refined than a lot of street people; I read. I follow the cultural landscape. I form my opinions based on my experience. I have never lived in a ghetto, so I cant identify with boys who have. They have probably not seen the Metropolitan Opera or American Ballet Theatre in performance. Or worked for one of the Swans.
I am pleasantly surprised to see feminine men that don’t hate other feminine men and are open to dating either. It’s so common to see feminine gay men that refuse to even look at any men that look and act like they do.
what an amazing video like wow too good there was some moments were i was like arguing to my computer screen then understanding it after it was discussed please we need more i feel like ive never seen something queer based this educational and good at the same time
@@BrianTerada Being gay is a lie, being lesbian is a lie, being trans is a lie, what else there to say? We all been deceived on a major scale. Whence the truth been known, it can stop a heart. Truth can blow a mind, as the lies collapse. The reality is opposite to what we been told. Many live in delusions and proudly so. Can a soul survive, while seeking truth? Can a mind stay sane, as lies get exposed? Can a heart stay beating, whence the old life collapsed? What a wonderful testimonies from souls, as they found the truth. What a heartbreaking tragedy from those who stayed in lies. Be fruitful and multiply is a message for the matures. One male one female, thats how you make a home. But where`s the adults, the wise and the old? Who supposed to share the truth, where`s lies been told? Who would give out healthy advice as they say; have some alone time. Think and analyse the life road you are on and where does it take you and why is it so?. Many complain about the evil, then why they bowing down? Why they serve the master of many lies? Many call themselves “educated”, yet fill their minds with lies. Lies which been told by masons, again and again. As time passes by, many seek not the truth, they perish away and dying twice. Enlapekaf news once told, actors are neither males nor females, have we ever dared to ask, why is it so? And where`s the worry about the children, that we expose them to perverts? And telling a child, it is okay to be cut apart? Many complain about the evil, so you`re telling we good? Like the father of lies, who lie - steal and kill, the same we do, lie - steal and kill.
Love it!!!!! I'd like to see more diversity, people from other country, religious, and also people who talks un neutral way, I mean not in their own perspective
Walking down the street holding hands, I don’t feel comfortable, my nearest major city had a very recent hate crime incident *in the gay district* a group of straight guys called a gay couple over to their car after they spotted them walking down the street holding hands and glassed one of them in the face and beat them. They were horrifically disfigured, in a place that was supposed to be a safe space for all of us. The group was convicted with committing a hate crime. I admire couples that have the guts to do it but I personally couldn’t.
First off - LOVE this so much!! I do think that the answers to so many of these questions depend so much on where you live. I am an older gay man who has lived all of my life in the NYC and SF,CA areas. My experience is drastically different than the great majority of gay men who live in areas other than the top urban hubs in the US. I also have to say that I really relate to so much that the guy in the printed shirt said! I too have usually felt the most represented by Dykes on Bikes (as well as the sober, Faerie, and poz contingents) at Pride! Thank you for this content, Brian! Look forward to more in the future!
the holding hands one is interesting - yes it depends where you are - you wouldn't do it in a muslim country for sure - but in most western countries people just do not care if they see two guys holding hands - they may look, there may be some who comment, but my experience is that its just accepted if you do it naturally as it were?
Well, this video probably serves a purpose for very young mainstream Americans. As a European 50+ man with loads of experience loving the same sex who accidentally stumbled on this video it's an incredible painful dissapointment. Do better people. Step out of your safe identity box and start living. Please
Sure, here we go: Pink Narcissus (1971), Fox and his friends (1975), Cruising (1980), Querelle (1982), Une robe d'été (1996), Happy Together (1997), Before Night Falls (2000), Le Temps qui reste (2005) A Single Man (2009), Moonlight (2016). Enjoy!
Religion question depends upon relegion and your own defination of connection with god hinduism accpets gay people... then there are people who dont follow relegion but belive in god
It would be interesting to do this in different areas. Where I live, being openly queer you are risking your life. I feel a little better because my fiancée is ex-military and can kick ass, but we hold hands in the wrong place and we could get noped out of existence.
UGH these videos are starting to make me sooo mad. Brian… dude! Get some BIG GUYS in these videos. The ONLY mention of “bigger” in this video was “belly’s too big”… never ONCE said fatphobia, fatshamming, body shaming “no fats”. Also wtf is with the Taylor Swift shit? Hello Kim Petras and Tove Lo are IN our community. Britney, Madonna, Beyoncé are literal gay icons. Who casts these?!
15:26 to 16:20 Okay, I can agree to some extent, but very little. Especially towards minorities within a minority groups. Sure asking for help and picking them up in a bad spot is great, but when they already felt alone in the community because of people within their own community, I would think that is a tad flawed. The one who was on agree side basically seems to have a bubble that he can go back into at anytime with no problem. As for the ones who changed their answers again still a bubble.
As a swiftie... I don't think there is a greatest of all time I struggle to rank her albums beyond giving my 3 equal faves, I'd be unable to choose between idk mitski and Taylor if that was something that had to happen At the end of the day, music is way too subjective to rank meaningfully
Agreed, we do not all think the same or feel the same. It is like say all white people think the same. Or all women think the same. In any group out there, we still have diversity.
Being called gay before you even know what gay is! Most relatable thing said this whole video.
Yes! That hit home for me
It s none of their bussines tho
And its used as an insult
@@johnnyjack4079hmm, that's the point, like-
This is not discussed enough
100%
As an openly proud gay man, before even watching this video, I can absolutely guarantee that we do not all think alike. Not even close.
It’s almost like we’re normal ppl just like everyone else.
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I completely agree with you. I’ve actually met a couple of homophobic gays. We’re not all the same. Lol
As part of the gay community I find that their is a lot of pressure from some people to be more feminine and as a more masculine man it’s viewed as conforming to society out of pressure for some reason. No I’m just me that’s all.
Same for me
So true. Yet they complain about us being stereotyped
thats not true at all
Sexual preferences are ALLOWED judgement like no this color of skin or no femboy. Preference is not transphobic or what not. Everyone have their own preferences and that is OK!
For me whether you found out later in life or you instinctually knew, whichever gender makes me hard/horny is something that is hard wired into me, no matter if I knew the term gay or have been exposed to gay culture prior to coming out. I knew I was different since I was a kid but I just didn't know the word for it. That doesn't mean that I wasn't born gay or that I just discovered gay culture and that transformed me into a gay person.
Imo their all over the place responses to the question showed they were kind of uneducated about sexuality which is interesting to me…
I know people will say it’s offensive but dude at 11:15 talked and talks and said nothing. I don’t identify as gay, I just am. And if gender wasn’t real, we wouldn’t be. These same lines are almost verbatim it’s like having a personality went out of style.
my thoughts exactly
Exactly. Gender is a social construct, sexuality is not. Long before the modern idea of gender there were still people who loved exclusively the members of the same sex. They also exist (always existed and always will) independently across different cultures with different ideas about gender.
Not him balding while having a ponytail 😂😂😂. Just let it go sir 😂
Wish there were more diverse men to provide diverse perspectives
fr wish there were non feminine gay guys here
I disagree with many of their opinions and i think is due to age. It would be great to hear from older gay guys as well.
That’s a cool idea: do old gay men and young gay men think the same?
@@EnclaveVeteranNobody does lmao. Do any two people think the same?
I once envisioned myself as a mentor who lived through modern gay history. Younger people have no interest in anything I have to offer. Stonewall? Fire Island? AIDS? Gay Culture. Better Midler. LOL. Barbara Streisand? They aren't curious about anything that occurred the day before they were born. They hardly know much about the day they're in. Much of our "collective" knowledge ends with me. These kids will never find out who "Mary" is, or Miss Thing. There is no gay humor left because the children have no gay humor. Disco would have never flourished with these children. They don't leave their bedrooms. "If you cannot remember history, you are doomed to repeat it."
@@jaya.d-gauthier1644 I believe they presented the question as a video idea, not because they were asking op to answer haha
@@jijitters Yeah? I got that. It’s a ridiculous video idea. Not sure what you misunderstood
I would like to see some southern gay guys on this show some of these scenarios would differ these guys appear to be from the same place or culture
As a gay man myself, of course other gay people can be religious. Although as a strident atheist, I just simply don’t understand why anyone would want to be. Gay religious people really have to do a lot of cherry picking of ideas to justify having those beliefs. But of course they can, I just don’t understand why anyone would want those beliefs.
I don't understand being religious either. Most religions say we are "flawed and broken", I felt a lot of shame growing up before accepting that there was nothing wrong with me.
Yeah, this represents only the experience of this age and effeminacy level group. You would need to have so many of these specials to truly get a full picture of what it means to be gay. So many ages, so many races, so many social economic groups, so many regional groups, urban /rural, fem/mid/masc dichotomy, cis/trans, etc.
As a gay guy who isn't feminine and is considered 'straight-passing' (not a fan of that term), I wish they included some non-feminine guys
I've watched several of these episodes and this is the first one I've seen where they consistently can't make a definitive choice. Even when they decide to go either direction, they don't even stand on the line, they're like in-between lines every time lol
Is the black guy even gay. He said he's attracted to both men and women but prefers men. That's just Bisexual with preference to men.
As a senior gay man I was surprised by several opinions. It's like our 60s generation gap has been transplanted into the gay world.
Who is really asking this question? Of course we don’t. The only ones who do think we are in a “community” in their imagination.
Hey, in future maybe bring gay dudes have a diversity in thought, alot of these mens have alsmost somewhat similar views
They all get to live in liberal cities and are much safer than most gay men in the USA who live rural.
Anytime I am listless feeling empty Brian Terada and his guest pick me up. Fact not gushy.
I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE! This video! My hair was so poofy and not my septum being not straight (well neither am I LOL)! Thank you for an AMAZING video. This will easily go down as 1 of my favorites that I have ever been apart of!
15:13 I completely agree with this. And it’s not to say it’s not a toxic behavior, just that it takes a different form. This is a societal problem.
For a lot of gay POC we always have the bravery to call out racism in the gay community but never the bravery to call out the homophobia in our own cultures. We also need to stop looking for white validation and in addition we need to stop looking for representation and diversity in other peoples dating preferences, its getting weird, we should never have to unlearn something to be attracted to someone.
Thanks for mentioning this point. I always try calling out homophobia in my own culture, but I often feel alone with this attitude
Or call out the bigotry towards those with independent thinking and minds that are not a part of this communist toxic culture of collectivism.
We do what We want and you don‘t get to lecture any of us on anything.
Can y’all stop speaking for groups collectively? 🤷🏾♂️ most of what y’all call racist is just you being rejected on Grindr. The struggle gay story is played out.
@@user-qx5ps1fi7l Do you need a safe space soyboy?
I'm going to be the decenter on this, but how can you tell if all gay men think the same when the 5 of these men are essentially the same person. There's zero diversity here.
M A S C U L I N E - Super Butch, country boys, cowboys, policemen, military, construction workers you can be on the chubby / heavy side and / or thinning / balding as long as you OWN IT.
amen brother
its interesting because they relate religion to homophobia too, but thats not really what religion or spirituality is all about, the homophobia is related to the people, and the people who believe it is against nature, but religion and spirituality in itself is connected to the individual
My biggest complaint about this video is that the ages aren’t different enough.
Tacky jubilee ripoff…
Interesting content but the normalized overuse of uptalk is so disruptive. Couldn’t get through it.
I’d be interested in seeing versions with guys from different generations. My responses were nearly all strongly agree or strongly disagree.
Why does that guy have a ponytail but is balding?
In the uk its virtually impossible to show affection or hold hands with your boyfriend without receiving verbal homophobic abuse or been stared at and given funny looks, so life is easier just to not bother xx
Sorry to hear that! u.u that must be hard
You can in London , can't you?I mean central London....
@@naobe5 Mainly in the Gay Quarter down Soho, but it's still feels awkward if you try as for the rest of the UK its safer to not bother
@@MrCassett Its ok its normality now, safer that way 😊
I’m in London right now and whenever I dress up anything colourful, I get sneered at, stared at, laughed at. I wanted to think that it’s because of my poor fashion choices. 😂 But I’m starting to think that a lot of people here are ignorant 😂😂😂
For me as a bi guy living in Florida, the fact that NO ONE went to “strongly disagree” on the “I feel safe holding hands” was shocking. I am in a long term wonderful marriage and we already know that hand holding (any form of affection really) is off the table completely in public. It has to be a explicitly queer location to even consider.
Probably because all these guys live in very liberal areas (you can tell by how they dress). Where I live you can't tell gay from straight men and you'd get yelled at and possibly attacked as two men holding hands.
@@Scar-jg4bnin the Carribean or some parts of africa you’ll definitely get hatecrimed
depends where you are, in the uk its fine but at the end of the day i feel like affection in public no matter the sexuality is a no go, save it for the privacy of your own home.
@@communismwillbeeradicated.6128 “nomatter the sexuality” thats very hypocritical because your ignoring that this is actually a real problem , queer people are being killed for kissing or holding hands in public!! Not straight people , why shouldn’t queer people be allowed the same privileges and opportunities that straight people have when it comes to them living their life for something as simple as kissing someone or holding hands in public , its not something as sexual as you make it out to be
@@mistybreezy9084… no we aren’t 😒 Why do some of yall make things up? Anything for that victim persona.
I wish there were also non-feminine guys here
The 40 year old guy having a mid life crisis is fundamentally irritating and massively wrong about the biological basis of sexual orientation. This generation has not deconstructed anything or provided any sound reasoning. It’s incredibly frustrating when people his age are ignorant and overtly politically motivated. You can tell some of the other guys were annoyed by him.
They overthink it... I liked Daddy types when I was younger, and now I look at the young men. Though, I see men in their 40-60 range that I find attractive and interesting. The Cis thing is bougie.
lol "I'm both itself (masculine and feminine)'.... um, no, u r not masculine at all honey.
😂
Sorry, I laughed when he said that as well. I feel bad for laughing 💀
OK the 1st question I can relate I am only attracted to masculine men I can't help it tho I have tried it with effeminate and camp men but the instruments just don't work it's just hormones u can't help it 😎 let's be cool about it tho we all have attractions 🎉😂
I’m bisexual and work at a Lutheran school and they know and are accepting of me. Now the Catholic Church makes me uncomfortable because we got kicked out of the church because my parents got divorced. I have been in the Catholic Church and it’s just not for me. I identify more with the kindness parts of the Bible because that’s what should be taught.
I am sorry that you went through that. They should have never done that.
I'm sorry that you went through that but, in defense of the Catholic Church, I'll say that it probably depends on the country. I went to a catholic school from when I was 3 till when I was 18 and priests gave me classes, and I've had the majority of them admit that they'd be happy to marry homosexual couples if the Pope allowed it to happen.
Ofc, I'm not invalidating your experience and I'm so sorry that that happened to you, but I think countries and different cultures affect the way religion or religious people think about other groups.
@@loslibrosdecarangi yeah I agree, I came out to my Catholic Church when I was 12 and to this day I’m thankful my priest accepted me
TBH, you'd need to have a pretty skewed view of doctrine to think that most religions are at all accepting of Gay people.
Every single one I can think of has specific parts which specifically state it's forbidden. I don't know why anyone
would want to be a part of a community that actively hates them or suppresses their own holy book to accept them.
I am far too homonormative for Pride and find the Q community too large to suit anybody. The concluding question reminded me of Miss Brodie asking her class, "Who is the greatest Italian painter?" and responding to the answer, "Leonardo daVinci," with, "That is incorrect. The answer is Giotto; he is my favourite.:
Once again a very sincere and wholesome video! Thank you, Brian!
If you’re going to do more of these, I’d love to see even more variety in the groups, like having a trans gay man as well and more age differences. ❤
This video is about gay men, not autoandrophilic straight women on testosterone.
Girl okay Lmfao
He’s a “sis white man who’s gay ”? I thought sis means straight
its cis, short for cisgender. Meaning his gender agrees with his sex. So he is both male(sex) and identifies as a man(gender)
@@billibilliyou oh thank you. But oh my gosh. So why do people call straight people cis?
@@Saidnoone it does not apply only to straight people, im guessing you have that impression because you dont see alot of straight who actually know what the word means, whereas gay people are surrounded by trans and non binary people, people who question gender, and so they use the word more often in their vocabulary. The whole thing about cis and straight, is that, if you are both, you arent the type of person who will feel societal pressure to question your identity and so the word "cis" doesnt get used much by you. Unless youre trans or non-binary, you are cisgender. Its also used alot by people in the medical profession, for actually a long time, maybe 100s years but id look that up. Medical people deal with intersex, trans and nonbinary ppl so it makes sense they would know and use the word more.
@@billibilliyou oh okay thank you. I’ll look it up. I mean. I only started hearing it from my boyfriend. (He’s the only other gay person I know/ talk to).
@@Saidnoone Thank you for being so open to learning. glad to help
This wasn’t a good representation tho if like you only went after one type of gay 🤷🏾♂️ mainly the fem type
Thought as much too .jubilee does the same thing ,even worse .I will assume because this video is shot in a much progressive place lolz .
Too many flaming gays. Make it look like all gay men act lyk this.
Yes, we absolutely do, we actually share a hive mind.
Dating for gay men is significantly harder than it is for straight men. we talk about lgtbq issues all the time especially online as if were like 50% of the worlds population when in reality we are only 10% of the world population and that is shared with lesbians, bisexual women, etc. We dont have the option to just like anyone, we have to know whose gay, also not every gay person feels like part of the lgbtq community so we rarely ever meet another gay person, Im from the UK and the option here are terrible and every time I meet someone attractive or develop feeling for, always turns out be straight, dont think I've ever met a gay person who has made my heart race or developed any feelings for. Its interesting how one of the dude in this had to say sorry for liking masculine men, its funny how we have kink shaming, slut shaming, fat shaming but preference shaming in the gay community is fine apparently :/
Existing dating app or gay locals/beaches/bathouse/cruise, It Is really easier for gay men, trust me. Obviously you must settle you. 10% of male population are anyway a lot people
@@cicciomattese Those are terrible choices and it depends where u live, just because you have option, doesnt mean its good options
@@cicciomattese I live in a small town in a conservative and Christian country, 20,000 inhabitants, all the people who use these apps are known, and most just want sex, the few who want something serious, are three times my age, I don't I know how this can be considered "easy", I literally did not identify with any of the opinions in the video
@@sthepcorms6747 in small Town aslo for straight people would be difficult. Anyway i already told that matters settle
If you're looking for a one night stand, that can be found. If you're looking for more, that's where it becomes different.
Why did they do that only with woke dudes?
Ikr.
Yes
Because that's probably all that the creator knows and he's afraid of being ostracized by his friends for showing different views.
I’ll rephrase their question: “Where’s the horrible ppl? “
@@JiafeussyHIS* he’s a dude . You are not, you have no lines in this play 💀
Wow. This was a great conversation! VERY powerful when the question was : " Do gay people support one another?"
I like that this discussions are being had!!! I feel they're important to listen to different perspectives and literally see that there are many ways to look at a certain issue. I also feel they are a good starting point for people that have no idea about diversity and want to start dipping their toes into all the new ideas we can find around diversity and other important topics. 😁
LOVED THIS!! thank you for your service
Hahaha you’re welcome 😂
that last question - i literally don't care - this just shows how trivial we gays can be for sure and if thats the most incendiary question that could be asked, well sorry but we're lost 😞
You are probably lost, but not the rest of us.
This is good, but could be better if participants JUST CHOSE A SIDE!! and if they offer too much backstory, it's sound like they are trying hard to justify their stance, which makes it seem like they really don't beleive their stance. Choose a side, this has been my experience, and that's that.
i love these episodes, most people who are casted are smart and say eye opening stuff.
please make other videos for lesbians, bisexuals, different genders.
You are not "reifying the culture's femophobia or transphobia or whatever" by having a "preference for masculinity". 🤦🏿♂
Fr, gays took the woke to extreme levels even going to a bar serves no purpose. 🤷🏿♂️ I’m not trying to appease victimhood
I read that as soon as it came up lmao
Are we going to ignore Dolly Parton on the last question? Just the vast number of songs she has written and published surpass probably any other artist. Whitney Houston's "I Will Always Love You" is written by Dolly Parton, for example.
Amazing ❤️ group talk 👍
Great insight seeing all this!! Hope this can help others understand and accept that each human is different and no one is exactly identical to anyone else! GET IT GENTS!
I am both queer and a devout roman Catholic and it's so wild how much the gay community has misconceptions about Christianity. The Church welcomes everyone. Period. It is sad that this myth is constantly pushed in the queer community.
I know! I was raised Catholic and I knew I was gay since I was really young. I always loved god and the church I thought it was so beautiful… I remember telling my priest that I’m gay and I’m thankful to this day that he accepted me into the church and told me to continue to be a amazing person and just pray every night before bed. I’m definitely one of the few gay people who really love god.
i don't think you can blame any queer person for loathing christianity...it is a literal life/death reason.
@@kise295 The only religion that kills gays is Islam. Not Christianity 🙈😂
@@kise295 You‘re talking about muslims… right?
All of the Abrahamic faiths are homophobic at their core. The majority of LGBT people aren't religious because y'all have been killing us for millennia. You don't get to sugar coat your awful cults that to this day are on TV calling LGBT people groomers and worse.
Please cut the ponytail off. It ages you.
I love how indecisive Drew is, very relatable. 😂
Just half way in but I think I had enough.
At the born gay part; while it is very obvious to me they lack good sexual education, probably not just that. Knowing what I know about US educations.
What I take most issue with is when the 30 y/o is talking about fluidity more or less and the spectrum aspect like this is "new" only the past 10 years or so we spoke about that. And that is not true.... Kinsey scale is a spectrum, that is older than 10 years. Trans-ness is not new, the gender spectrum theory is also not just 10 years old.
I am Dutch, from the Netherlands, born 1980 thus I am 13 years older than the oldest gay in that group, and some reactions are just head scratchers to me. I understand my culture is very different from the US culture... Amsterdam is known for the wallen, red-light district and prostitution - which is legal, sex work is legal, drugs like cannabis all my life there were shops you could buy it legally in small amounts. Hell we are even the first country in the modern age that had legalized same sex marriages. We are not a Puritan culture.
It is like watching Americans answer basic knowledge questions and they can't answer "correct", like they live in a semi own reality disconnected from the rest of the Western democratic worlds.
Like the Hawaii raised person stating it was very heteronormative how he was raised, but this not being a reason why he had a girlfriend however he always was attracted to men. Bless him he is still young.
Ever since 9/11 I have been disillusioned by the USA, and since 2016 - it took a very deep nose dive.
With facts that 54% of Americans have a literacy level below 6th grade, is very telling.
It makes me wonder why we the social media/globe is still paying that much attention to the USA cause they lost it a little.
im pansexual, and i definitely had to learn to separate god and religion. When i was learning and discovering my sexuality and i was very lost , I was at one of the darkest time of my life , finding out i was getting cheated on after wasting time w this man for three years, also mourning my dog of 17 years, and being in rehab, i completely gave up on pray and begging for god to give me a break because i was close to following through with my S* Ideations. I gave up because i realized that i was gay and there had to be a reason why those who claim to be very close to “god” say we go straight to hell. but thats only because they believe that gay relationships are led by Lust and the Devil. We all should advocate that even homosexuals CAN have their own communication with god and don’t have to label themselves. Labeling yourself shoves you in a box and makes others have a perspective that you follow all the “rules” in the religion. i can keep going on but theres soo much to say and point out. Im still lost but im finding time to communicate with whoever this higher power is. You can still have spiritual connection without labeling your religion.
Such intelligent view points. LOVED THIS VIDEO
“I fundamentally reject the terms of the question because gender…the binary…gen z…”
Me: 🙄
I resent the fact that persons who are not gay, who have lifestyles and goals that I would never want, have the gaul to include themselves in my tent. Go away, go build your own tent.
For me the distinctions are the same as with the greater society; its class warfare. LOL. I am more refined than a lot of street people; I read. I follow the cultural landscape. I form my opinions based on my experience. I have never lived in a ghetto, so I cant identify with boys who have. They have probably not seen the Metropolitan Opera or American Ballet Theatre in performance. Or worked for one of the Swans.
I am pleasantly surprised to see feminine men that don’t hate other feminine men and are open to dating either. It’s so common to see feminine gay men that refuse to even look at any men that look and act like they do.
I mean do they have any choice 😂. Most men in Los Angeles are flaming gays 😂
Religion and God are NOT the same. FACTS. RELATIONSHIP and GOD are the same.
I live in rural California 😭😭 please save me!
Brian is the best, always makes my day❤ was having such a bad day
what an amazing video like wow too good there was some moments were i was like arguing to my computer screen then understanding it after it was discussed please we need more i feel like ive never seen something queer based this educational and good at the same time
I love this comment thank you so much
@@BrianTerada Being gay is a lie,
being lesbian is a lie,
being trans is a lie,
what else there to say?
We all been deceived on a major scale.
Whence the truth been known, it can stop a heart.
Truth can blow a mind, as the lies collapse.
The reality is opposite to what we been told.
Many live in delusions and proudly so.
Can a soul survive, while seeking truth?
Can a mind stay sane, as lies get exposed?
Can a heart stay beating, whence the old life collapsed?
What a wonderful testimonies from souls, as they found the truth.
What a heartbreaking tragedy from those who stayed in lies.
Be fruitful and multiply is a message for the matures.
One male one female, thats how you make a home.
But where`s the adults, the wise and the old? Who supposed to share the truth, where`s lies been told? Who would give out healthy advice as they say; have some alone time. Think and analyse the life road you are on and where does it take you and why is it so?.
Many complain about the evil, then why they bowing down?
Why they serve the master of many lies?
Many call themselves “educated”, yet fill their minds with lies.
Lies which been told by masons, again and again.
As time passes by, many seek not the truth,
they perish away and dying twice.
Enlapekaf news once told, actors are neither males nor females,
have we ever dared to ask, why is it so?
And where`s the worry about the children, that we expose them to perverts?
And telling a child, it is okay to be cut apart?
Many complain about the evil, so you`re telling we good?
Like the father of lies, who lie - steal and kill, the same we do,
lie - steal and kill.
kenny you’re awesome! loved your opinions
Love it!!!!! I'd like to see more diversity, people from other country, religious, and also people who talks un neutral way, I mean not in their own perspective
Do this videos ever have actual gays or lesbians?
Walking down the street holding hands, I don’t feel comfortable, my nearest major city had a very recent hate crime incident *in the gay district* a group of straight guys called a gay couple over to their car after they spotted them walking down the street holding hands and glassed one of them in the face and beat them.
They were horrifically disfigured, in a place that was supposed to be a safe space for all of us.
The group was convicted with committing a hate crime.
I admire couples that have the guts to do it but I personally couldn’t.
They was all born gay.. thier life experience in this world make them think they’re experience is what made them not feel gay.
First off - LOVE this so much!! I do think that the answers to so many of these questions depend so much on where you live. I am an older gay man who has lived all of my life in the NYC and SF,CA areas. My experience is drastically different than the great majority of gay men who live in areas other than the top urban hubs in the US. I also have to say that I really relate to so much that the guy in the printed shirt said! I too have usually felt the most represented by Dykes on Bikes (as well as the sober, Faerie, and poz contingents) at Pride! Thank you for this content, Brian! Look forward to more in the future!
the holding hands one is interesting - yes it depends where you are - you wouldn't do it in a muslim country for sure - but in most western countries people just do not care if they see two guys holding hands - they may look, there may be some who comment, but my experience is that its just accepted if you do it naturally as it were?
Well, this video probably serves a purpose for very young mainstream Americans. As a European 50+ man with loads of experience loving the same sex who accidentally stumbled on this video it's an incredible painful dissapointment. Do better people. Step out of your safe identity box and start living. Please
Would love to gain your perspective in a video one day. Thank you for the feedback ♥️🌈
Sure, here we go: Pink Narcissus (1971), Fox and his friends (1975), Cruising (1980), Querelle (1982), Une robe d'été (1996), Happy Together (1997), Before Night Falls (2000), Le Temps qui reste (2005) A Single Man (2009), Moonlight (2016). Enjoy!
Religion question depends upon relegion and your own defination of connection with god hinduism accpets gay people... then there are people who dont follow relegion but belive in god
I hate that not being sexually attracted to femme guys has become some taboo topic or you have to be pc about it
It would be interesting to do this in different areas. Where I live, being openly queer you are risking your life. I feel a little better because my fiancée is ex-military and can kick ass, but we hold hands in the wrong place and we could get noped out of existence.
I know these are la gays get conservative town gays than ask
Exactly!!! These kind of gays are obnoxious to country gays. 😂
glad to escape the world for a little bit thanks Brian.
@brian terada This is a great series 👏👌👍 Keep it up ! Thank you
Why aren't there any middle aged or senior gays in this group? Do we not count.
'my skin colour does not dictate what I bring to the table' yes, thank you!
UGH these videos are starting to make me sooo mad. Brian… dude! Get some BIG GUYS in these videos. The ONLY mention of “bigger” in this video was “belly’s too big”… never ONCE said fatphobia, fatshamming, body shaming “no fats”.
Also wtf is with the Taylor Swift shit? Hello Kim Petras and Tove Lo are IN our community. Britney, Madonna, Beyoncé are literal gay icons.
Who casts these?!
David Bowie is the greatest recording artist of all time and the world still hasn’t figured out out yet. I believe what I believe.
I love you, Brian!!
Gay dating in Iowa is the hardest thing I’ve ever done 😭
I would love to take part in one of these! ❤
Hahaha that guy who said he'd already had 3 hook ups !
Taylor is overrated
18:19 as a swiftie I have to say yes!! However, I do love many other singers
this is cool video and nice to hear what you guys had to say Brian
15:26 to 16:20
Okay, I can agree to some extent, but very little. Especially towards minorities within a minority groups. Sure asking for help and picking them up in a bad spot is great, but when they already felt alone in the community because of people within their own community, I would think that is a tad flawed. The one who was on agree side basically seems to have a bubble that he can go back into at anytime with no problem. As for the ones who changed their answers again still a bubble.
i loved this video! love the rebrand! keep up the good work brian 🥰
Taylor Swift is the greatest recording artist who can't sing.
Period , too the Capricorn 😭 hey gworl 👋🏽
As a swiftie... I don't think there is a greatest of all time
I struggle to rank her albums beyond giving my 3 equal faves, I'd be unable to choose between idk mitski and Taylor if that was something that had to happen
At the end of the day, music is way too subjective to rank meaningfully
What are your 3 equal faves
Agreed, we do not all think the same or feel the same. It is like say all white people think the same. Or all women think the same. In any group out there, we still have diversity.
I love this new series ur doing Brian!! I followed the other people from ur previous video 🥰🥰🥰💜💜
2:55 I just noticed his shirt!! Omg a fellow swiftie!! 🩵🩵🥰🥰