GIRL I AM GOING THROUGH THE SAME THINGS. I am 26. Graduated college 4 years ago. Got the job I went to college for. What now???? I am so glad you made this video because I have been struggling with this but haven’t been able to put it into words. I’ve always been one to work hard and pursue the next step in life, but I have no idea what I actually want in life now which is driving me crazy. I believe this is a perfectionist struggle. I think we need to try to go easy on ourselves and understand this is a weird stage in our lives and we’ve also been going through a pandemic which does not help at all. As a perfectionist it’s hard to accept this, but sometimes it’s okay to not be pursuing/working on something, and simply focus on the small things that make you happy (reading, yoga, walks, time with friends/family, whatever makes you happy). Hearing your struggle and reading these comments is comforting knowing I’m not alone in this. Sending love to everyone struggling with these things right now 🤍
Unsolicited advice: The 20s are hard but you’re evolving and that’s great. Your interests, friends, lovers, jobs, and passions will usually change as you get older. Find something bigger than yourself and try to get out of your head. If that’s church or politics or charity, then pursue it. Waiting for things to come to you will just increase your frustration. Get offline for a bit and (with love) stop focusing on you and focus on something that can use your obvious strengths. Get busy and serve other people or things. You’re in a great position to help others/causes you support while maintaining your lifestyle. I hope you find relief soon. Xoxo, a 50 year old.
Your videos make people feel better also when you are being "negative" and sharing your struggles because it helps us see that you are human too, it helps us feel less alone. it helps us feel more connected to you. I think that is pretty positive. I am really struggling in life right now as well, I can't let go of the past and the future scares me but I am also not enjoying the present because I feel stuck & stagnant. I just want to escape this. It's such a relief to know that even though such times can feel lonely, I am not alone.
I also feel that Renee's vulnerability unites us (the youtube community) and we pick 'Ney up, shake her and tell her "HEY, STOP IT! ✋🏼you are smart, you are beautiful, you are loved, you are a Fricking human! So just take your time with things, we'll be here to support you" 😂 I love this Channel so much 💔
I could not say it better Babli, I feel the same, and we are not alone my sweet friend!! We are all going to make it!!! Kisses to you and all this community and Renee!!!
I feel similarly about having trouble meeting people due to lack of depth. Hearing you vent doesn’t get me down; it makes me feel that depth that we lack in day-to-day conversations! :)
I'm struggling at 25, and someone shared with me that this is a hard point in life because we are entering the unknown while grieving our past. I'm glad you opened up to us, you'll find yourself again!
Wow, so much of this feels like you picked my brain. Been feeling the exact same, I’m almost 26 and have been feeling so stagnant-after college it’s like you have nothing you’re working towards, and you want to work towards something but cannot figure out what the hell you want to work towards, constantly back and forth about what type of life you want, spend so much time worrying about it that you end up not doing anything to change it. It’s such a cycle.
i literally just turned 27 and feel the exact same way... the pandemic made life feel so miserable and useless. I graduated in 2020, and fell into a pit of confusion and existential crisis. I used to be so goal oriented and driven. Now I'm like whats the point? what is my goal? should i have any? so weird... Anyway, sorry you're going through it to, but so happy you are open about talking about it. Makes me feel much less alone
thank you so much for sharing this, I’m in the exact same place! This past year has been really hard and though my introverted self loved being at home and taking up a hobby on youtube, I feel like the world has become very scary and negative. When you stare at the same 4 walls and screens all day it’s very easy to forget the beauty of the world and life and I’m longing to just do something - anything - again. I’m turning 25 in two weeks and I feel like this is just a mid-20s thing no one ever told us about - seeing everyone from high school buying houses, getting married and on their third kid and those things are nothing close to what I want any time soon, and yet I let myself compare myself to them? It’s really weird. So thank you for sharing that we’re not alone 🥲
Therapy is honestly such a beautiful thing. I am also someone with a lot of anxiety, and I was getting overwhelmed by how loud it was becoming. Going to therapy helped me to sort it all out, acquire the coping mechanisms needed to help myself through moments of overwhelm, and it provided a safe outlet to let out my thoughts/ emotions in a judgement free zone. I completely agree that it’s such a loud world and social media/UA-cam and the whole “look at me” culture we have created has set us all up in a constant state of comparing/judging. In the end, it comes down to your personal happiness. Everyone’s walk is completely different, and we spend our 20s constantly pressuring ourselves to fulfill that imaginary checklist of “everything society expects me to accomplish by the end of my 20s” fuck it. 30s don’t feel any different and you’re not missing out on anything/ are not behind, you’re just living which is what we are meant to do. Enjoy the ride and get rid of the things that don’t make you happy. 30s are awesome. ✌️
I feel you need to get a life outside of UA-cam and the whole social media. I mean a source of income outside this world. And keep posting content just 'cause you like the process. ✨ I feel you're pressurized since this is also your career and obviously you're anxious about it.
I think that too! I find it hard to find something else lol .. like what else do I want??! Its tough to find interests at this point .. especially in the career field *pulls out hair*
i was going to say the same thing. I think, Renee, that you can try different thing, like, go back to teaching kids, become a barista, start an arts course, idk, just reeeally try to explore thinks outside of social media. XO from Brasil
@@ReneeAmberg yeahhh I understand. I guess I would suggest to just start with something. If you hate it, leave it. If you like it, voila! Just start with something.
Girl legit for real thank you for making this video 🙏🏻 I’ve been feeling the EXACT same way, esp related to my own channel. I’ve come to the conclusion that I’ve outgrown my old self, old beliefs, old channel style, etc and the reason I feel unmotivated & down is because I’m still trying to follow those old beliefs. Time to LET GO and renew🤍
I have so much respect for you for your authenticity. I'm like 100% in the same boat as you, I feel like I'm just floating through life not really knowing what I want to do. Panicking that I'm nearing 30 as well. And the whole social media/influencer thing freaks me out too! Like, it's all about that dopamine rush of just getting attention instead of enjoying life and experiencing things. They're honestly not contributing much to life and I think we as people feel most fulfilled when we're giving back and doing important things to contribute to society. So maybe that's why so many influencers are unhappy deep down. It looks glamorous and all but what does it matter? And then there I am feeling pressured to take perfect pictures when I'm out and literally stressing about it instead of enjoying myself. And for what?! Let's just live!
I'm so sorry that you are going through this, Renee. A couple of years ago I had a big crisis (this video reminded me a lot of that) and I took what is probably the most importante decission of my life: start going to therapy. It was life changing. I discovered myself and I totally changed the way I was living my life, and now I'm the happiest and the healthiest I've ever been in my entire life. Hope you get out of this, and ask for help if you need it because sometimes you just can't do it alone.
I absolutely empathize with these feelings. I turned 30 at the end of last year and its been a bit of a struggle. I went to law school after undergrad which put me in a different "stage" of life than a lot of my high school/college friends who started their careers and families while I was still pursuing my education. I'm slowly trying to embrace being on my own path and enjoy this time as a single adult with much more knowledge than when I was in my 20s. I'm worrying less about what others expect and, rather, focusing on what I need and want. Some days are easier than others, but got to have a bit of faith things will work out.
We’re fighting for authenticity. Authenticity is the most beautiful thing because it takes alot of courage and confidence. And its also very refreshing to others when they meet someone who is authentically themselves, no facades, no pretense. Just genuine. I follow you because of how genuine you are. Even if you sway a little bit because of social media pressures, you always go back to your authentic self. You will lead a fulfilling life because of it. It may not seem like it now but you will eventually see the fruit of simply being genuine
You should try doing some group activities in the city with people who aren’t influencers/work in social media. Join an adult kickball league, a book club, a church, an adult gymnastics class, etc. There are so many opportunities to meet people whose lives don’t revolve around social media. Yes a lot of people are focused on social media and their appearance, but a lot of people aren’t. If you join activities like the ones I mentioned, you’ll meet people who are just trying to have a good time. I think it’s also important to be aware that the world was always a scary negative place for a lot of people. Minorities, people of certain religious faiths, etc. have always lived in fear and anxiety about the world/people around them. It’s just that it’s finally being talked about loudly and those who were able to be blissfully unaware of it are being forced to realize how messed up the world is and has always been.
This kind of struggle is real especially during/after the pandemic. Adam Grant wrote an article on languishing and how it’s the most common emotion as a result of the pandemic. That article kept coming up for me as you were sharing. He says the antidote is flow state - which is essentially getting immersed in exercising your strengths in solving challenges (even small ones). Essentially it’s a long way of saying you’re not alone and you sound like you’re getting yourself back on track!
❤️Baby girl… maybe you need Austin.. a dog .. and a yard?.. or maybe some place that matches that sweatshirt….cause if the flower isn’t blooming we don’t yell at the flower …we change the soil.. sending love and light. You got this🔥🦄.🙏🏼
I’m wondering if you’d feel better making content that aligns with your current state. For example, discussions like these where you talk through your thoughts or even just “Things I Do When I’m Having a Bad Day,” “Toxic Thoughts I’m Working Through,” etc. I’m a writer and I battle mental illness on the reg, so when I’m in the thick of it, it feels good to just start writing about it in that very moment and explaining my experiences without a filter for others to better understand. It’s really cathartic for me and helps me better connect with my audience. People value authenticity, and that’s why I follow you. I really enjoy videos like this one, as they help me feel less alone and less ashamed for being human. 🤍
Please don’t apologize for experiencing emotions. We don’t view you as a victim and we’re here for you! I for one can relate to pretty much everything you are feeling, so I am very happy to see someone with a large platform “normalizing” feeling this way. I just moved to NJ and spend a lot of time in the city, and I completely understand the anxiety. I’m about to be 27 and feel like I have nothing to show for it; I’ve been in a quarter life crisis for 2 years now 😂 I hope we find peace soon and find something to look forward to!
Talking about what you’re going through isn’t negative and can also allow some of your viewers to be able to relate and not feel alone. I feel like i’m exactly at the same stage in life (just moved back to my hometown from New York). Don’t be so hard on yourself. It’s nice to hear someone say things I have also been going through!
This is more relatable than you know! I have been doing my best to focus on my personal values, and make choices that get me closer to them rather then further away. All we can do is our best. Thanks for sharing and giving us vulnerability and depth!
I’m 47 and for the past 5 years have been going through this exact same thing. My daughter is 23 and has been since she is 20. I believe that we are all just waking up to the idea of what being a human living is suppose to be like, and this is not it. I live in Vancouver moved to the ocean and I am doing small things that bring me joy. Don’t have really any friends either. Maybe one day it will all come to the surface and we will really see what life is. 😎
I literally feel like your videos are a part of my daily routine. It was weird without you posting but so glad you're back! Focus on you, girl! Do what brings you joy. I am thankful for your pure experiences, and I love that you share them with us!! You are so appreciated!!
hey, I have seen so much growth from you over the past year. I completely feel you on the connections with people. Most of the time I can let work and school fill that void, but sometimes that need for real human connection bleeds through. I miss just laying down and doing nothing all day but talking. I hope you are able to find a place that makes you feel both safe and liberated. Thank you for being vulnerable and opening up a dialogue for this time in our lifetime. I wish you the best.
Hi Renee, with this video you echoed my thoughts exactly. Over the past year I was able to reflect on what's really important in life, and the more I examine today's society, the more disappointed and cynical I get. I recently moved to the East coast and life is very different here, and when you couple that with how loud the online world is, it can be very overwhelming. However, there is something very special with going your own way and taking value in truly important, non-materialistic things. Take pride in the fact that you refuse to conform to what society is pushing on you! Embrace this feeling, because it truly is special and needed in today's world :)
You put into words exactly how I've been feeling for the past year! I'm 24 and relocated from TX to Minnesota for work in the middle of the pandemic and have had the exact same experience. I've constantly been telling my friends and family that I feel like I'm floating because I really don't enjoy my job, but I'm not entirely sure what I want from life either. I'm also a perfectionist too, and it's killing me to not have that next step or goal planned out. I made the decision to not renew my lease here in Minnesota and to go back home for a mental health reset. I'm the same way of not really feeling happy wherever I am or what I'm doing, but I know at home I feel safer and have my support system, and I think that's what I need right now. I just wanted to let you know that you are putting everything into words that I've been feeling and experiencing too and that you aren't alone!
Girl yes. I have definitely been camping out in the same place in life. I used to find my purpose in my grades in school, then it was getting my degrees, and then it was finding my worth in my job. I wanted to be teacher of the year. Then, my husband’s job took him on the road. Meaning we are at one location for a few months then, without any notice, we could be on to the next place. I tried to keep on teaching, but the long distance relationship thing wasn’t working for me. So I gave up my classroom to teach virtually online. I thought I would be a stay at home mom and homeschool my own children one day. But I’ll be 31 next week and after 8 1/2 years of marriage I still haven’t conceived. So that leaves me feeling purposeless without my classroom, without children, and without direction. I’m just like in a funk. I need some inspo bad!
Every single thing you said in this video, I've never related to more. Just could never verbalize. I was going through a rough time back in February and I felt like I was just hitting a brick wall completely. No idea what else to do. I was just completely lost in every aspect of my life. I packed up my things one night and decided to get in my car, drive, and just have a getaway by myself. I played all my favorite songs, went on a shopping spree, had amazing dinners by myself, and ended up spending a few nights in Cape Cod on the beach (I live in Baltimore). I, of course, was anxious and was thinking "What am I doing?" while driving up there alone. I'm a single woman in my 20's. They ended up being some of the best days of my life. I valued that time alone with good books, good music, good food, etc. in a very quiet and friendly place. I didn't realize how much I needed to recharge and look at the earth with beauty again. It was an emotional experience. I was afraid I lost it. I came home and of course still had the same problems, but the trip alone reminded me that this is my life and I can create it anyway that I want. It gave me to peace that I lost.
This honesty actually makes me feel less alone. I just turned 34, have increasing anxiety, and no idea what I want either. I have always struggled with change but then I end up feeling like such a loser thinking everyone else is better than I am. Especially other women. I have a bachelor's but am an admin, I have anxiety often for no reason, and feel like life is passing me by.
I feel like what you’re talking about sounds like depression. Nothing seems to sparkle for you right now. If you’re not already seeing a therapist I would recommend it!
Renee Amberg a therapist who specializes in grief and loss would be extremely beneficial. I went through this too. An LCSW therapist is the only thing that helped me. The only thing.
Anything is possible, but as a masters student in psychology I would not jump to a conclusion until seeing a psychotherapist ❤️❤️ love all the love here in your comments.
Ahhh came back after watching to comment that my heart goes out to you! I totally relate with those surface level relationships, I just wish all your true friends could come give you a big hug and tell you to your face that we are here for all the rants/troubles/hard days etc. that come with being human, growing and living! Life is not always easy, it’s the hard times that make us evolve, grow and become better versions of ourselves. I love seeing your intro and outro update 🥰 very old school Ney. Here for all the good and bad moments girl! ❤️
Renee, I can relate to everything you’ve said so much. I’m 22 and just graduated college, and I should be happy and excited about my future but instead I’m terrified. I feel like all my life there’s been something new to look forward to, like starting high school, then moving out, then starting college, etc, but now when I think about the future all I can think of is that I’ll work for the next 45 years and that’s it. And it feels so stagnant and scares me so much. On top of it I feel that I missed out on some of the best years of my life due to Covid… I could’ve spent the past year studying at college in person, going to parties with friends, traveling with friends, going on vacation etc, and I know I shouldn’t even think about these “could have” scenarios, but it pisses me off a lot that this summer is my last summer as a carefree student, and I feel that it’s wasted, just like last summer. And I know I should be grateful, and despite what I’ve just described, I actually do feel grateful and am aware there’s a lot for me to be grateful for, but still there’s a lot of anger, frustration, as well as anxiety and worry in me as well. I think it’s just life and adulthood, it’s always challenging but especially so during a global pandemic. I’m not sure what the solution is for feeling better, I’m trying to figure it out for myself as well, but I know it will get better because it always does. 🤞🏼
I could relate to everything you said even tho I'm in a very different phase of life and life situation. Feeling lost , and not feeling that enthusiasm about the future like I did before. Before I could just dream and believe it would come true. But everything feels so unpredictable now that Its hard to have faith in myself or my dreams. That inturn makes me not want to commit to anything ,leaving me even more confused and lost. Hope we all can gain back our grip on reality and rediscover who we are in this new world.
I don't usually comment on the videos but I feel the need to do it here. omg everything you feel I'm living it too. last year I moved to another country, I left my family and my friends and when I moved the pandemic came and from that moment I changed and I am not proud of it. I'm so lonely here. I have anxiety and depression and I feel very stagnant in my life but hey, it's a process to keep growing and learning. So thank you so much for this video bc makes me feel with hope💜✨🌟🌻
I was feeling the same way I 2019 and then I decided to continue school for my masters degree. No plan, no goal for after getting the degree ... But it was what I needed to have something new to focus my energy And now I am almost done with it!
Someone went to the pool with her kids, brought floaters and stuff, she just took a few pictures with her kids then left and called it a pool day online. She wasn’t even enjoying being at the pool
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and struggles. I can definitely relate to what you are saying about anxiety and entering a new world being scared and resisting the changes caused by the pandemic. I still haven't found a way to cope with it but I do my best every day. Hope you find peace of mind and that everything turns out great for you. ❤
💛 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” - Matthew 11:28 “Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.” - 1 Peter 5:7
IF you can, and are comfortable....start traveling! Even just in the US. Rent a car and do a road trip. Do some exciting things to maybe get inspired again. Go visit some friends or other UA-camrs you connect with that live somewhere else. I figured out a lot of things in my 20's (currently 30) from traveling. Where I wanted to live, not live, etc.
Thank you for sharing! I was nodding along to almost everything you were saying. It's actually nuts - when you think about it, social media is literally nothing. Like it's just a bunch of pictures and it literally does not matter or count for anything in life. I couldn't agree more with what you said about people posing for two hours just to post on instagram, too - I subscribe to a lot of influencers on UA-cam, but I refuse to follow them on instagram because their photos are so curated and I end up just feeling badly about myself and comparing myself to their perfect squares and "life." I also understand what you mean about feeling bored and unmotivated. That tends to happen even to those who aren't influencers. Figuring goals and "what's next" is really difficult, and sometimes it takes a long time to find that thing, so be patient and gentle with yourself as you do that! Lean on your newfound faith in God and be open to where He may be leading you. He's got you!!
I know people have talked about working outside of this and that was your original plan maybe working at a gym is something you would like. I remember moving to nyc and loving it but also feeling a bit lonely and then toward the end I really started to make some connections with some of my coworkers who even though I moved back are still friends to this day. To the point where I could go back and live again cause I know they would be there. I know things will get better at some point because life truly has its ups and downs I’m 39 and for almost 2 years I was having some of the feelings you are talking about and now I’m back in a much better place and just enjoying me
Also I will tell you that when you were talking about anxiety, I’ve always battled with anxiety BUT after COVID it has hit me ten times more. You are NOT alone in dealing with your struggles with anxiety. I know this might sound like a broken record but a therapist has helped me SO much through this time. If you haven’t done that I would suggest it.
why not change it up? move or go somewhere else so you have something to look forward to, like have very spontaneous plans. maybe a cottage core getaway, something peaceful enough to clear ur mind. hope it helps x
I totally agree that it’s so GROSS when life becomes all about taking a picture for a fake life created online. As a mom, I see moms that literally do things with their children just so they can show it off with pics online…instead of enjoying time with their family. It’s sad. Also, as a Christian, it makes me sad that so many of us have lost all sight of our purpose in this life. Not trying to preach here, but honestly, without God this life doesn’t have much meaning, and most of the world needs Jesus. I really appreciate your vulnerability here. Wishing you all the best! 💕
Some people would day " it's a privilege to grow old" .. seeing as to how many people don't get to. Once I realised this, my perspective really shifted. Another thing, when mortality comes into perspective.. everything changes. You're not here forever'.You have to remind yourself that life is limited. Time is fleeting by. I heard somewhere (tedtalk- how to find your passion) that if you had all the money in the world and the resources and time, then- what would you want to do? That's your real passion! Hope these helped 💌
Sorry to hear you feel so down. My thoughts as a mom in her late 40’s. Working from home and for yourself can become so routine, even the most introverted of us get bored. Are there any new interests you’d like to pursue? Art, music, skill, language etc? You are financially independent, is there anything you are passionate about and would like to go back to college for? Not for a career, for personal growth. Part time work? Volumteering, charity work? One of the best way to feel fullfilled is to help others. You were teaching online, could you volunteer and help kids in underprivileged NY areas with their homework? Consider suburbia. It gets a bad rep but if the city is too much, it’s a good compromise. When possible again, would you like to do more travel? US or world wide? So many places to see! You don’t mention your relationship. Have you got any plans or goals as a couple? Moving, starting a family etc, have a look at your situation and see how you move forward as a couple. When you get to 50, that sense of mortality becomes more real and palpable. It is horrible scary. You realise you only have 20, 30 years left, honesly it drives you nuts and you have to fight your own self very hard to not think and get depressed about it daily. It’s not all about amition, productivity, money, achieving more more more. There is nothing wrong with life being simple and stagnant, enjoying simple things in life. If the issue is getting bored, fill your life with helping others, growing as a person emotionally and intellectually.
I SO relate. I'm there to and have been for a few years now! You are certainly not alone. hang in there one day at a time. thanks for sharing this with us.
I’m with you girl. I resonate so much with everything you are saying especially about nyc, i find what I value doesn’t align with ppl here anymore. And it’s a toxic culture here
I know it doesn't work with your lease, but I think you'd like the city a lot more if you didn't live in midtown. There are a lot more neighborhoods in the city that have a lot less hustle and bustle. You might like the Upper East or the Upper West Sides, especially being so close to Central Park. I think all the green space would be good for you. I'm sorry you're feeling this way!
I am in my early 30s and I feel the exact same. I’ve always struggled with anxiety but this last year really took things over the top. I’ve worked at the same place now for a decade and I am bored with it, but idk what I want to do next.
I can definitely relate to a lot of the things you mentioned in this video. I’m in my 20s too and I also get that whole “what do I wanna do with me life” crisis. I feel like when you’re in school and university/college you get this automatic feeling that you’re progressing in life but once you’re out of it and in the “real world” it can be a bit daunting to figure out what your next step should be. I completely recognise that I’m lucky to be in this position where I get to ask myself what I want to do with my life whereas many don’t have that opportunity but it’s still a daunting question. But I guess we just take it one day at a time eh? :) I really enjoy your content and I know you like to post quite frequently but I’m sure having to pump out 2-3 videos per week can be really tiring and could also be contributing to burnout. So would posting less frequently maybe help with that? The youtubers that I enjoy watching the most are also the ones who maybe only post a few times a month and personally I’ll alway value quality over quantity. Sending you big hugs xx
I would recommend seeing a psychotherapist if this persists. Especially if the dynamics are deeper than you are relaying; which may become revealed with time. Most people do not want to burden people with their mental struggle because that struggle is perceived as invisible. That is an error in judgment. You should always place priority for your emotional health and no need for disclaimers or apologies as long as you are not releasing triggering info. This was not triggering so no need for any apologies. I understand the sadness in the perceived shallowness. You must always remember that you are in control of your life. What others do does not define your life.
You do see the hypocrisy in your message about influencers and money and showing off their lives and wealth and stating that that is gross, right? Because the things you have, the place you live, your job, you're not portraing yourself as an average 20 something year old. You have a lifestyle that most girls your age, any age, could only dream of. And I'm in no way saying you shouldn't live like you do, or that you aren't deserving of all the good things coming your way, what you've accomplished is fantastic, but you are a part of the group that you're calling out. There's nothing simple about the life you're showing, but I think that's why a lot of people are watching. And also why a lot of people have instagram and follow celebrities. It's an escape from the average, and boring, and mundane. I can't relate to you at all, I live in a run down cabin in the woods. But that's part of why I watch your videos, and others like you. To get away to somewhere better for a while.
The difference is that people's lives start to look so different from one another in your late 20s early 30s. When you're younger typically people's lives like similar. You relate to one another better. The older you get, the harder it is to relate to your friends. Comparison really starts to creep in during these years. Or at least they did for me. Specially if you don't want the typical life stages of marriage or children. You have to find your purpose beyond those socially accepted norms, and that's hard, and much harder to figure out with people in your life that you are finding it harder to relate to. I just turned 30 this year, and it's just been my personal experience in the last few years. You aren't alone in feeling this, and by sharing, it helps others to realize they aren't alone :)
Thanks for sharing that. I have been feeling just like that as well for the last 15 months, it’s been hard and still is. I‘m trying to find my way back as well.💜
Here's an advice, since you get bored easily, i think you need to try new stuff and be adventrous. Like try traveling to new cities that are different from American culture, i promise that it will be a great experience and you'll enjoy it. And then you'll start mabybe seeing the advantages you have .like to travel to other side of the world ..even in newyork there's so many things to do. Try new challenges things that usually wouldn't do. This would really help.
I totally get your point and totally relate about people wanting to create a picture perfect life in instagram. It gets me so mad and it’s so draining so I just choose to stay away from it because I end up just poisoning my mind. Lol one thing i have been doing is deleting my socmed apps during the weekdays. On the weekends I like to still connect and check on updates from family and friends but still try to not spend too much on these apps. It’s life-changing!
You sound like you need to live in a midsize city, where you have access to green open spaces but also access to the busy hustle activity of a big city. Maybe consider a suburb close to a big city. You sound like you need a community.
Girl, first of all you know what people who are all about faces and money etc does not even worth you alright. You are precious and People don't want that they wanna show off their luxury. Being really honest social media ruined my life seriously because of that I swear I lost myself and its soooo bad that I even forgot who my real self was. So sad and sorry for myself that I let myself lost just because of those people who doesn't even care about me nor they ever texted me nor checked up on me during my lows. We are extremely good that now we should expect from others that are they capable of us or not. That are you strong enough to be with me during my high and lows, because we are very kind that its really rare to find one in this world. So our worth is more than social media so I deleted it and its not worth it anymore for me.
I feel the exact same way.. lost of creativity & motivation and what's next in my life- and I'm 30! Social media can be so exhausting. I agree 100% about society today and how everyone seems so superficial.. keep focusing on you and what you enjoy most. Your videos are something I look forward to every week! So good to see you're back, I absolutely love your content Renee!
To be honest, I think collectively we are all kind-of in this place because of COVID. It's a weird feeling. I enjoy your videos, Renee. Keep being you. I am also from the south and I can relate to how you feel about NYC. I love it here and feel more comfortable here, but by the same token as a christian woman I don't fit in and don't relate to others in the party scene. I hope you can find your community.
I completely understand i have 10k subs and I get like this often even delete content & stress myself out. I‘m at a place where im just going to be myself. I know im not like everybody else but that fine. Also feel better renee its growing pain lol
Renee- I am so thankful for you sharing this today! You have no idea how relatable this is in every way. While everyone has gone through their own trauma dealing with this past year, I know we’re all dealing with our own difficulties in life on top of it all- and it. is. so. incredibly. hard. But I just want you to know that you are NOT alone in this AT ALL. I think finding our own pieces of happiness again is a constant battle but I know we’re all growing as we navigate each day of life. Thanks for doing what you do and sharing your life online. Being able to relate to someone through a screen is so hard but you do it so well by just simply being you. Here’s to better days ahead and everything in between. Being a human is hard. Sending you lots of love!
Here is something I do when I get stuck feeling like u do, when u feel like there is nothing that motivates me. I hit the road! Look at google map, look around and see places u like, book a ticket and hit the road . Wonder around, it always gives inspiration and who knows? Maybe your chapter in New York is over, maybe while u go traveling u find a place that gives u fire and u can move again? Don't forget the feeling of adventure, your not bound to any place at all. U have a stable income from home, u can go wherever it inspires u, Noah will for sure understand whatever u decide is best for u. If u grow out of one place you will fit in to another.:)
It takes a lot to open up like this!! I can definitely relate to a lot of what your saying being a 24 year old trying to figure out what the heck to do. You definitely did a 180 flip of lifestyles/atmospheres between Florida and then moving to New York. When it’s time, possibly look into a place like Virginia Beach, VA!! It’s a beach town and big enough to always have something to do, with lots of diversity and cool local spots. But it’s also no where near as large and consuming as New York City. Just a suggestion, I can’t wait to see where/ what you end up doing ❤️
You MUST watch Bo Burnham’s show on Netflix called Inside. You will love it, particularly his song White Woman’s Instagram. You’ll so relate to what he says.
Did you ever think of moving somewhere like colorado or something? Somewhere super different, mountains and stuff!! Get some hiking done, what a beautifully different world that could be ❤️
Oh my god I UNDERSTAND EXACTLY what you mean about the vicious cycle of living in NYC. I've been threatening to leave for years but something always pulls me back. So hard to explain but I get it. I'm only 10 minutes into the video and I've yelled "YES!!!" so many times at my computer
Sounds to me like Renee is describing 99% of influencers and life in the city.. I live in a small town and could never imagine seeing people posing for hours for pictures on Instagram or being super rude.. I like my close net of friends and my community. I thought about moving to the city like all teenagers but I don’t think it is for me.. I’m happy where i am You did mention wanting to move out of the city, I think you’d like it Renee
Hi Ney! This is my first time commenting on your page. Thank you for making this video. I see that so many of us are feeling the exact same way you do. And it’s comforting to know that we are not alone even when we feel we are. I started volunteering 2 hours a week outside of my home (I work full time from home and I go nuts). It’s helped me feel like I have a purpose outside of my family and work life. Have you ever thought about volunteering? I wish you all the best in finding your inspiration again. You’re a beautiful person inside and out! Blessings to you.
I could really relate to what you said and yes the Instagram is getting out of control. I was once told to move away from a view just so this girl could pose and I was like I'm here on holiday too and I drove for hours to see this view!!! 😔
Don’t underestimate the role of grief in a funk like this. It took me several years after my parents passed to feel grounded again. That was without moving away from my home & friends and dealing with the collective grief of a worldwide pandemic. You’re doing amazing.
You are amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I dont think I would be able to do it if Im in your place, so I am envying you with the patience and courage that you have!
GIRL I AM GOING THROUGH THE SAME THINGS. I am 26. Graduated college 4 years ago. Got the job I went to college for. What now???? I am so glad you made this video because I have been struggling with this but haven’t been able to put it into words. I’ve always been one to work hard and pursue the next step in life, but I have no idea what I actually want in life now which is driving me crazy. I believe this is a perfectionist struggle. I think we need to try to go easy on ourselves and understand this is a weird stage in our lives and we’ve also been going through a pandemic which does not help at all. As a perfectionist it’s hard to accept this, but sometimes it’s okay to not be pursuing/working on something, and simply focus on the small things that make you happy (reading, yoga, walks, time with friends/family, whatever makes you happy). Hearing your struggle and reading these comments is comforting knowing I’m not alone in this. Sending love to everyone struggling with these things right now 🤍
GIRL! me ... "I believe this is a perfectionist struggle"
Unsolicited advice: The 20s are hard but you’re evolving and that’s great. Your interests, friends, lovers, jobs, and passions will usually change as you get older. Find something bigger than yourself and try to get out of your head. If that’s church or politics or charity, then pursue it. Waiting for things to come to you will just increase your frustration. Get offline for a bit and (with love) stop focusing on you and focus on something that can use your obvious strengths. Get busy and serve other people or things. You’re in a great position to help others/causes you support while maintaining your lifestyle. I hope you find relief soon. Xoxo, a 50 year old.
This is bomb advice. 💣
thank you!
So very true
Your videos make people feel better also when you are being "negative" and sharing your struggles because it helps us see that you are human too, it helps us feel less alone. it helps us feel more connected to you. I think that is pretty positive. I am really struggling in life right now as well, I can't let go of the past and the future scares me but I am also not enjoying the present because I feel stuck & stagnant. I just want to escape this. It's such a relief to know that even though such times can feel lonely, I am not alone.
omg you said it perfectly!
Same
This is me100%
I also feel that Renee's vulnerability unites us (the youtube community) and we pick 'Ney up, shake her and tell her "HEY, STOP IT! ✋🏼you are smart, you are beautiful, you are loved, you are a Fricking human! So just take your time with things, we'll be here to support you" 😂 I love this Channel so much 💔
I could not say it better Babli, I feel the same, and we are not alone my sweet friend!! We are all going to make it!!! Kisses to you and all this community and Renee!!!
I feel similarly about having trouble meeting people due to lack of depth. Hearing you vent doesn’t get me down; it makes me feel that depth that we lack in day-to-day conversations! :)
Right it makes us feel as we are not alone in feeling this way, on the nose sister!
I'm struggling at 25, and someone shared with me that this is a hard point in life because we are entering the unknown while grieving our past. I'm glad you opened up to us, you'll find yourself again!
Wow that part!
Wow, so much of this feels like you picked my brain. Been feeling the exact same, I’m almost 26 and have been feeling so stagnant-after college it’s like you have nothing you’re working towards, and you want to work towards something but cannot figure out what the hell you want to work towards, constantly back and forth about what type of life you want, spend so much time worrying about it that you end up not doing anything to change it. It’s such a cycle.
i literally just turned 27 and feel the exact same way... the pandemic made life feel so miserable and useless. I graduated in 2020, and fell into a pit of confusion and existential crisis. I used to be so goal oriented and driven. Now I'm like whats the point? what is my goal? should i have any? so weird... Anyway, sorry you're going through it to, but so happy you are open about talking about it. Makes me feel much less alone
30’s has been my best decade yet. And I am only 3 years in. Try not to stress. Life will all pan out!
I agree, my 30s have been WAY better than my 20s.
ALOT of people are saying this!!
I totally agree ❤️
Same same. For sure!
YESSS! I'm 2 years into 30s and 100% agree!
thank you so much for sharing this, I’m in the exact same place! This past year has been really hard and though my introverted self loved being at home and taking up a hobby on youtube, I feel like the world has become very scary and negative. When you stare at the same 4 walls and screens all day it’s very easy to forget the beauty of the world and life and I’m longing to just do something - anything - again. I’m turning 25 in two weeks and I feel like this is just a mid-20s thing no one ever told us about - seeing everyone from high school buying houses, getting married and on their third kid and those things are nothing close to what I want any time soon, and yet I let myself compare myself to them? It’s really weird. So thank you for sharing that we’re not alone 🥲
Therapy is honestly such a beautiful thing. I am also someone with a lot of anxiety, and I was getting overwhelmed by how loud it was becoming. Going to therapy helped me to sort it all out, acquire the coping mechanisms needed to help myself through moments of overwhelm, and it provided a safe outlet to let out my thoughts/ emotions in a judgement free zone. I completely agree that it’s such a loud world and social media/UA-cam and the whole “look at me” culture we have created has set us all up in a constant state of comparing/judging. In the end, it comes down to your personal happiness. Everyone’s walk is completely different, and we spend our 20s constantly pressuring ourselves to fulfill that imaginary checklist of “everything society expects me to accomplish by the end of my 20s” fuck it. 30s don’t feel any different and you’re not missing out on anything/ are not behind, you’re just living which is what we are meant to do. Enjoy the ride and get rid of the things that don’t make you happy. 30s are awesome. ✌️
No one ever talks about how hard your 20s are. People always say it’s the best time of your life but I truly feel like it’s the most challenging
Right on. I'm in my 30s now and don't miss my 20s at all.
true
Agreed
SUCH a weird and erratic age ~~
@@Blessed1283 saaaaame. I feel like my 20s were a decade-long crisis
I feel you need to get a life outside of UA-cam and the whole social media. I mean a source of income outside this world. And keep posting content just 'cause you like the process. ✨ I feel you're pressurized since this is also your career and obviously you're anxious about it.
This!
I think that too! I find it hard to find something else lol .. like what else do I want??! Its tough to find interests at this point .. especially in the career field *pulls out hair*
i was going to say the same thing.
I think, Renee, that you can try different thing, like, go back to teaching kids, become a barista, start an arts course, idk, just reeeally try to explore thinks outside of social media.
XO from Brasil
@@ReneeAmberg yeahhh I understand. I guess I would suggest to just start with something. If you hate it, leave it. If you like it, voila!
Just start with something.
You could even just start volunteering in an area you’re interested in. It would help you meet like minded people who aren’t shallow.
I’m 45 ! Trust me it’s a blessing to turn any age - take it all on - it’s a beautiful ride
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Girl legit for real thank you for making this video 🙏🏻 I’ve been feeling the EXACT same way, esp related to my own channel. I’ve come to the conclusion that I’ve outgrown my old self, old beliefs, old channel style, etc and the reason I feel unmotivated & down is because I’m still trying to follow those old beliefs. Time to LET GO and renew🤍
I have so much respect for you for your authenticity. I'm like 100% in the same boat as you, I feel like I'm just floating through life not really knowing what I want to do. Panicking that I'm nearing 30 as well. And the whole social media/influencer thing freaks me out too! Like, it's all about that dopamine rush of just getting attention instead of enjoying life and experiencing things. They're honestly not contributing much to life and I think we as people feel most fulfilled when we're giving back and doing important things to contribute to society. So maybe that's why so many influencers are unhappy deep down. It looks glamorous and all but what does it matter? And then there I am feeling pressured to take perfect pictures when I'm out and literally stressing about it instead of enjoying myself. And for what?! Let's just live!
I'm so sorry that you are going through this, Renee. A couple of years ago I had a big crisis (this video reminded me a lot of that) and I took what is probably the most importante decission of my life: start going to therapy.
It was life changing. I discovered myself and I totally changed the way I was living my life, and now I'm the happiest and the healthiest I've ever been in my entire life.
Hope you get out of this, and ask for help if you need it because sometimes you just can't do it alone.
You are so much happier in Florida. I can see a difference in you with your videos.
I absolutely empathize with these feelings. I turned 30 at the end of last year and its been a bit of a struggle. I went to law school after undergrad which put me in a different "stage" of life than a lot of my high school/college friends who started their careers and families while I was still pursuing my education. I'm slowly trying to embrace being on my own path and enjoy this time as a single adult with much more knowledge than when I was in my 20s. I'm worrying less about what others expect and, rather, focusing on what I need and want. Some days are easier than others, but got to have a bit of faith things will work out.
We’re fighting for authenticity. Authenticity is the most beautiful thing because it takes alot of courage and confidence. And its also very refreshing to others when they meet someone who is authentically themselves, no facades, no pretense. Just genuine. I follow you because of how genuine you are. Even if you sway a little bit because of social media pressures, you always go back to your authentic self. You will lead a fulfilling life because of it. It may not seem like it now but you will eventually see the fruit of simply being genuine
You should try doing some group activities in the city with people who aren’t influencers/work in social media. Join an adult kickball league, a book club, a church, an adult gymnastics class, etc. There are so many opportunities to meet people whose lives don’t revolve around social media. Yes a lot of people are focused on social media and their appearance, but a lot of people aren’t. If you join activities like the ones I mentioned, you’ll meet people who are just trying to have a good time.
I think it’s also important to be aware that the world was always a scary negative place for a lot of people. Minorities, people of certain religious faiths, etc. have always lived in fear and anxiety about the world/people around them. It’s just that it’s finally being talked about loudly and those who were able to be blissfully unaware of it are being forced to realize how messed up the world is and has always been.
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This kind of struggle is real especially during/after the pandemic. Adam Grant wrote an article on languishing and how it’s the most common emotion as a result of the pandemic. That article kept coming up for me as you were sharing. He says the antidote is flow state - which is essentially getting immersed in exercising your strengths in solving challenges (even small ones). Essentially it’s a long way of saying you’re not alone and you sound like you’re getting yourself back on track!
❤️Baby girl… maybe you need Austin.. a dog .. and a yard?.. or maybe some place that matches that sweatshirt….cause if the flower isn’t blooming we don’t yell at the flower …we change the soil.. sending love and light. You got this🔥🦄.🙏🏼
Dayan that’s a good saying
I’m wondering if you’d feel better making content that aligns with your current state. For example, discussions like these where you talk through your thoughts or even just “Things I Do When I’m Having a Bad Day,” “Toxic Thoughts I’m Working Through,” etc. I’m a writer and I battle mental illness on the reg, so when I’m in the thick of it, it feels good to just start writing about it in that very moment and explaining my experiences without a filter for others to better understand. It’s really cathartic for me and helps me better connect with my audience. People value authenticity, and that’s why I follow you. I really enjoy videos like this one, as they help me feel less alone and less ashamed for being human. 🤍
Please don’t apologize for experiencing emotions. We don’t view you as a victim and we’re here for you! I for one can relate to pretty much everything you are feeling, so I am very happy to see someone with a large platform “normalizing” feeling this way. I just moved to NJ and spend a lot of time in the city, and I completely understand the anxiety. I’m about to be 27 and feel like I have nothing to show for it; I’ve been in a quarter life crisis for 2 years now 😂 I hope we find peace soon and find something to look forward to!
Talking about what you’re going through isn’t negative and can also allow some of your viewers to be able to relate and not feel alone. I feel like i’m exactly at the same stage in life (just moved back to my hometown from New York). Don’t be so hard on yourself. It’s nice to hear someone say things I have also been going through!
This is more relatable than you know! I have been doing my best to focus on my personal values, and make choices that get me closer to them rather then further away. All we can do is our best. Thanks for sharing and giving us vulnerability and depth!
I’m 47 and for the past 5 years have been going through this exact same thing. My daughter is 23 and has been since she is 20. I believe that we are all just waking up to the idea of what being a human living is suppose to be like, and this is not it. I live in Vancouver moved to the ocean and I am doing small things that bring me joy. Don’t have really any friends either. Maybe one day it will all come to the surface and we will really see what life is. 😎
You live in heaven. I heard Vancouver is beautiful. Life is about meaningful connections. Thank you Katrina Ann for opening up and sharing.
I have been going round in circles and want to move towards the ocean as well. It's got such a great energy. Just need to find the right town/city.
I literally feel like your videos are a part of my daily routine. It was weird without you posting but so glad you're back! Focus on you, girl! Do what brings you joy. I am thankful for your pure experiences, and I love that you share them with us!! You are so appreciated!!
hey, I have seen so much growth from you over the past year. I completely feel you on the connections with people. Most of the time I can let work and school fill that void, but sometimes that need for real human connection bleeds through. I miss just laying down and doing nothing all day but talking. I hope you are able to find a place that makes you feel both safe and liberated. Thank you for being vulnerable and opening up a dialogue for this time in our lifetime. I wish you the best.
Hi Renee, with this video you echoed my thoughts exactly. Over the past year I was able to reflect on what's really important in life, and the more I examine today's society, the more disappointed and cynical I get. I recently moved to the East coast and life is very different here, and when you couple that with how loud the online world is, it can be very overwhelming. However, there is something very special with going your own way and taking value in truly important, non-materialistic things. Take pride in the fact that you refuse to conform to what society is pushing on you! Embrace this feeling, because it truly is special and needed in today's world :)
You put into words exactly how I've been feeling for the past year! I'm 24 and relocated from TX to Minnesota for work in the middle of the pandemic and have had the exact same experience. I've constantly been telling my friends and family that I feel like I'm floating because I really don't enjoy my job, but I'm not entirely sure what I want from life either. I'm also a perfectionist too, and it's killing me to not have that next step or goal planned out. I made the decision to not renew my lease here in Minnesota and to go back home for a mental health reset. I'm the same way of not really feeling happy wherever I am or what I'm doing, but I know at home I feel safer and have my support system, and I think that's what I need right now. I just wanted to let you know that you are putting everything into words that I've been feeling and experiencing too and that you aren't alone!
Girl yes. I have definitely been camping out in the same place in life. I used to find my purpose in my grades in school, then it was getting my degrees, and then it was finding my worth in my job. I wanted to be teacher of the year. Then, my husband’s job took him on the road. Meaning we are at one location for a few months then, without any notice, we could be on to the next place. I tried to keep on teaching, but the long distance relationship thing wasn’t working for me. So I gave up my classroom to teach virtually online. I thought I would be a stay at home mom and homeschool my own children one day. But I’ll be 31 next week and after 8 1/2 years of marriage I still haven’t conceived. So that leaves me feeling purposeless without my classroom, without children, and without direction. I’m just like in a funk. I need some inspo bad!
Every single thing you said in this video, I've never related to more. Just could never verbalize. I was going through a rough time back in February and I felt like I was just hitting a brick wall completely. No idea what else to do. I was just completely lost in every aspect of my life. I packed up my things one night and decided to get in my car, drive, and just have a getaway by myself. I played all my favorite songs, went on a shopping spree, had amazing dinners by myself, and ended up spending a few nights in Cape Cod on the beach (I live in Baltimore). I, of course, was anxious and was thinking "What am I doing?" while driving up there alone. I'm a single woman in my 20's. They ended up being some of the best days of my life. I valued that time alone with good books, good music, good food, etc. in a very quiet and friendly place. I didn't realize how much I needed to recharge and look at the earth with beauty again. It was an emotional experience. I was afraid I lost it. I came home and of course still had the same problems, but the trip alone reminded me that this is my life and I can create it anyway that I want. It gave me to peace that I lost.
Dude I’m so tired of “look at me” culture. It’s refreshing to hear that I’m not alone lol
Either go out and get a job or start to go,integer to help others in need. There is nothing like helping others to get you out of yourself.
This honesty actually makes me feel less alone. I just turned 34, have increasing anxiety, and no idea what I want either. I have always struggled with change but then I end up feeling like such a loser thinking everyone else is better than I am. Especially other women. I have a bachelor's but am an admin, I have anxiety often for no reason, and feel like life is passing me by.
meeee tooooo!!!
Yes! The world is so heavy right now. You are definitely not alone in this ❤️
Thank you for sharing.
I would call this "awakening" and it's FULL of anxiety. Unfortunately. I admire your very classy way of handling it. I hope it gets easier 💜
I feel like what you’re talking about sounds like depression. Nothing seems to sparkle for you right now. If you’re not already seeing a therapist I would recommend it!
def felt that at a point. its hard :/
Renee Amberg a therapist who specializes in grief and loss would be extremely beneficial. I went through this too. An LCSW therapist is the only thing that helped me. The only thing.
@@ReneeAmberg I hope you feel inspired to reach out and talk to someone. ❤️
Anything is possible, but as a masters student in psychology I would not jump to a conclusion until seeing a psychotherapist ❤️❤️ love all the love here in your comments.
You’re the kind of real friend that everyone wants. Do you!
ily ❤️
I am first. I was thinking about you a while ago and hoping you’d post a life update and here you are 💜
thank you for being there
@@ReneeAmberg Your voice is beautiful
Don’t think I ever clicked on a video so fast! Whoohooooooo so happy to see your face!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Ahhh came back after watching to comment that my heart goes out to you! I totally relate with those surface level relationships, I just wish all your true friends could come give you a big hug and tell you to your face that we are here for all the rants/troubles/hard days etc. that come with being human, growing and living! Life is not always easy, it’s the hard times that make us evolve, grow and become better versions of ourselves. I love seeing your intro and outro update 🥰 very old school Ney. Here for all the good and bad moments girl! ❤️
I missed you all!!!! *so much 😢
So glad you’re back and continuing to push forward! Love you Renee!!
Renee, I can relate to everything you’ve said so much. I’m 22 and just graduated college, and I should be happy and excited about my future but instead I’m terrified. I feel like all my life there’s been something new to look forward to, like starting high school, then moving out, then starting college, etc, but now when I think about the future all I can think of is that I’ll work for the next 45 years and that’s it. And it feels so stagnant and scares me so much. On top of it I feel that I missed out on some of the best years of my life due to Covid… I could’ve spent the past year studying at college in person, going to parties with friends, traveling with friends, going on vacation etc, and I know I shouldn’t even think about these “could have” scenarios, but it pisses me off a lot that this summer is my last summer as a carefree student, and I feel that it’s wasted, just like last summer. And I know I should be grateful, and despite what I’ve just described, I actually do feel grateful and am aware there’s a lot for me to be grateful for, but still there’s a lot of anger, frustration, as well as anxiety and worry in me as well. I think it’s just life and adulthood, it’s always challenging but especially so during a global pandemic. I’m not sure what the solution is for feeling better, I’m trying to figure it out for myself as well, but I know it will get better because it always does. 🤞🏼
You had talked about pursuing a non-UA-cam job before you came to New York. Maybe consider that again? Or film school?
I could relate to everything you said even tho I'm in a very different phase of life and life situation. Feeling lost , and not feeling that enthusiasm about the future like I did before. Before I could just dream and believe it would come true. But everything feels so unpredictable now that Its hard to have faith in myself or my dreams. That inturn makes me not want to commit to anything ,leaving me even more confused and lost. Hope we all can gain back our grip on reality and rediscover who we are in this new world.
This is so true and relateble! x well said
YES!!! Its SO hard to commit .. I feel like at this point if we do we are making a life shift and we have to stick with it or something lol
I don't usually comment on the videos but I feel the need to do it here. omg everything you feel I'm living it too. last year I moved to another country, I left my family and my friends and when I moved the pandemic came and from that moment I changed and I am not proud of it. I'm so lonely here. I have anxiety and depression and I feel very stagnant in my life but hey, it's a process to keep growing and learning. So thank you so much for this video bc makes me feel with hope💜✨🌟🌻
I was feeling the same way I 2019 and then I decided to continue school for my masters degree. No plan, no goal for after getting the degree ... But it was what I needed to have something new to focus my energy
And now I am almost done with it!
Someone went to the pool with her kids, brought floaters and stuff, she just took a few pictures with her kids then left and called it a pool day online. She wasn’t even enjoying being at the pool
that’s depressing
stfu.
@@ReneeAmberg Ikr!
99.9% of what you’re saying - I feel it !!!
hearted bc we are in this together lol but DEF don't want anyone in this mind space :(
@@ReneeAmberg aaahhh you responded!!! ❤️❤️❤️ I love your channel ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and struggles. I can definitely relate to what you are saying about anxiety and entering a new world being scared and resisting the changes caused by the pandemic. I still haven't found a way to cope with it but I do my best every day. Hope you find peace of mind and that everything turns out great for you. ❤
I’m 31 and i feel the same exact way. Every. Single. Thing. You said.
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“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” - Matthew 11:28
“Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.” - 1 Peter 5:7
IF you can, and are comfortable....start traveling! Even just in the US. Rent a car and do a road trip. Do some exciting things to maybe get inspired again. Go visit some friends or other UA-camrs you connect with that live somewhere else. I figured out a lot of things in my 20's (currently 30) from traveling. Where I wanted to live, not live, etc.
It sounds like you need an adventure! Pick someplace, small southern town, somewhere in Europe. And GO
haha I've been CRAVING!!!! a getaway .. we shall see 😏
YES
Thank you for sharing! I was nodding along to almost everything you were saying. It's actually nuts - when you think about it, social media is literally nothing. Like it's just a bunch of pictures and it literally does not matter or count for anything in life. I couldn't agree more with what you said about people posing for two hours just to post on instagram, too - I subscribe to a lot of influencers on UA-cam, but I refuse to follow them on instagram because their photos are so curated and I end up just feeling badly about myself and comparing myself to their perfect squares and "life." I also understand what you mean about feeling bored and unmotivated. That tends to happen even to those who aren't influencers. Figuring goals and "what's next" is really difficult, and sometimes it takes a long time to find that thing, so be patient and gentle with yourself as you do that! Lean on your newfound faith in God and be open to where He may be leading you. He's got you!!
I know people have talked about working outside of this and that was your original plan maybe working at a gym is something you would like. I remember moving to nyc and loving it but also feeling a bit lonely and then toward the end I really started to make some connections with some of my coworkers who even though I moved back are still friends to this day. To the point where I could go back and live again cause I know they would be there. I know things will get better at some point because life truly has its ups and downs I’m 39 and for almost 2 years I was having some of the feelings you are talking about and now I’m back in a much better place and just enjoying me
Also I will tell you that when you were talking about anxiety, I’ve always battled with anxiety BUT after COVID it has hit me ten times more. You are NOT alone in dealing with your struggles with anxiety. I know this might sound like a broken record but a therapist has helped me SO much through this time. If you haven’t done that I would suggest it.
why not change it up? move or go somewhere else so you have something to look forward to, like have very spontaneous plans. maybe a cottage core getaway, something peaceful enough to clear ur mind. hope it helps x
I totally agree that it’s so GROSS when life becomes all about taking a picture for a fake life created online. As a mom, I see moms that literally do things with their children just so they can show it off with pics online…instead of enjoying time with their family. It’s sad. Also, as a Christian, it makes me sad that so many of us have lost all sight of our purpose in this life. Not trying to preach here, but honestly, without God this life doesn’t have much meaning, and most of the world needs Jesus. I really appreciate your vulnerability here. Wishing you all the best! 💕
Also a Christian and I agree - God gives us purpose! We need to lean into Him for joy, every day. This is so hard to do sometimes!
Some people would day " it's a privilege to grow old" .. seeing as to how many people don't get to. Once I realised this, my perspective really shifted. Another thing, when mortality comes into perspective.. everything changes. You're not here forever'.You have to remind yourself that life is limited. Time is fleeting by. I heard somewhere (tedtalk- how to find your passion) that if you had all the money in the world and the resources and time, then- what would you want to do? That's your real passion! Hope these helped 💌
Thank you for sharing this!
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Sorry to hear you feel so down. My thoughts as a mom in her late 40’s.
Working from home and for yourself can become so routine, even the most introverted of us get bored. Are there any new interests you’d like to pursue? Art, music, skill, language etc?
You are financially independent, is there anything you are passionate about and would like to go back to college for? Not for a career, for personal growth.
Part time work? Volumteering, charity work? One of the best way to feel fullfilled is to help others. You were teaching online, could you volunteer and help kids in underprivileged NY areas with their homework?
Consider suburbia. It gets a bad rep but if the city is too much, it’s a good compromise.
When possible again, would you like to do more travel? US or world wide? So many places to see!
You don’t mention your relationship. Have you got any plans or goals as a couple? Moving, starting a family etc, have a look at your situation and see how you move forward as a couple.
When you get to 50, that sense of mortality becomes more real and palpable. It is horrible scary. You realise you only have 20, 30 years left, honesly it drives you nuts and you have to fight your own self very hard to not think and get depressed about it daily. It’s not all about amition, productivity, money, achieving more more more. There is nothing wrong with life being simple and stagnant, enjoying simple things in life. If the issue is getting bored, fill your life with helping others, growing as a person emotionally and intellectually.
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I SO relate. I'm there to and have been for a few years now! You are certainly not alone. hang in there one day at a time. thanks for sharing this with us.
I’m with you girl. I resonate so much with everything you are saying especially about nyc, i find what I value doesn’t align with ppl here anymore. And it’s a toxic culture here
I know it doesn't work with your lease, but I think you'd like the city a lot more if you didn't live in midtown. There are a lot more neighborhoods in the city that have a lot less hustle and bustle. You might like the Upper East or the Upper West Sides, especially being so close to Central Park. I think all the green space would be good for you.
I'm sorry you're feeling this way!
Thought this exactly! Try non touristy areas.
I am in my early 30s and I feel the exact same. I’ve always struggled with anxiety but this last year really took things over the top. I’ve worked at the same place now for a decade and I am bored with it, but idk what I want to do next.
I can definitely relate to a lot of the things you mentioned in this video. I’m in my 20s too and I also get that whole “what do I wanna do with me life” crisis. I feel like when you’re in school and university/college you get this automatic feeling that you’re progressing in life but once you’re out of it and in the “real world” it can be a bit daunting to figure out what your next step should be. I completely recognise that I’m lucky to be in this position where I get to ask myself what I want to do with my life whereas many don’t have that opportunity but it’s still a daunting question. But I guess we just take it one day at a time eh? :)
I really enjoy your content and I know you like to post quite frequently but I’m sure having to pump out 2-3 videos per week can be really tiring and could also be contributing to burnout. So would posting less frequently maybe help with that? The youtubers that I enjoy watching the most are also the ones who maybe only post a few times a month and personally I’ll alway value quality over quantity. Sending you big hugs xx
I would recommend seeing a psychotherapist if this persists. Especially if the dynamics are deeper than you are relaying; which may become revealed with time. Most people do not want to burden people with their mental struggle because that struggle is perceived as invisible. That is an error in judgment. You should always place priority for your emotional health and no need for disclaimers or apologies as long as you are not releasing triggering info. This was not triggering so no need for any apologies. I understand the sadness in the perceived shallowness. You must always remember that you are in control of your life. What others do does not define your life.
I love your vedios. I have been depressed and you seem to cheer me up and i want to thank you for it.
You do see the hypocrisy in your message about influencers and money and showing off their lives and wealth and stating that that is gross, right? Because the things you have, the place you live, your job, you're not portraing yourself as an average 20 something year old. You have a lifestyle that most girls your age, any age, could only dream of. And I'm in no way saying you shouldn't live like you do, or that you aren't deserving of all the good things coming your way, what you've accomplished is fantastic, but you are a part of the group that you're calling out. There's nothing simple about the life you're showing, but I think that's why a lot of people are watching. And also why a lot of people have instagram and follow celebrities. It's an escape from the average, and boring, and mundane. I can't relate to you at all, I live in a run down cabin in the woods. But that's part of why I watch your videos, and others like you. To get away to somewhere better for a while.
The difference is that people's lives start to look so different from one another in your late 20s early 30s. When you're younger typically people's lives like similar. You relate to one another better. The older you get, the harder it is to relate to your friends. Comparison really starts to creep in during these years. Or at least they did for me. Specially if you don't want the typical life stages of marriage or children. You have to find your purpose beyond those socially accepted norms, and that's hard, and much harder to figure out with people in your life that you are finding it harder to relate to. I just turned 30 this year, and it's just been my personal experience in the last few years.
You aren't alone in feeling this, and by sharing, it helps others to realize they aren't alone :)
Thanks for sharing that. I have been feeling just like that as well for the last 15 months, it’s been hard and still is. I‘m trying to find my way back as well.💜
Renee, find a job. You are not in crisis, you are bored. You need a job and you need obligations.
Here's an advice, since you get bored easily, i think you need to try new stuff and be adventrous. Like try traveling to new cities that are different from American culture, i promise that it will be a great experience and you'll enjoy it. And then you'll start mabybe seeing the advantages you have .like to travel to other side of the world ..even in newyork there's so many things to do. Try new challenges things that usually wouldn't do. This would really help.
Maybe try to find somewhere to move that is a happy medium. Somewhere exciting with more chill vibes and people? 💕
Been feeling EXACTLY the same. This sucks, really! Hope we get past it.
I totally get your point and totally relate about people wanting to create a picture perfect life in instagram. It gets me so mad and it’s so draining so I just choose to stay away from it because I end up just poisoning my mind. Lol one thing i have been doing is deleting my socmed apps during the weekdays. On the weekends I like to still connect and check on updates from family and friends but still try to not spend too much on these apps. It’s life-changing!
I feel EXACTLY the same Ney, you just put the perfect words to explain that, it's such a anxious period in our life ... Love u
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I FELT THIS AND YOU SAID IT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can totally relate, we are with you.
Have you thought of traveling? To get inspiration and to experience new places and cultures? To appreciate coming home?
You sound like you need to live in a midsize city, where you have access to green open spaces but also access to the busy hustle activity of a big city. Maybe consider a suburb close to a big city. You sound like you need a community.
Your right it is sad! Be who you are! It’s an imperfect world trying to look and be perfect and there’s no such thing!
You're literally the reflection of how I feel about myself and the world! What a coincidence
Girl, first of all you know what people who are all about faces and money etc does not even worth you alright. You are precious and People don't want that they wanna show off their luxury. Being really honest social media ruined my life seriously because of that I swear I lost myself and its soooo bad that I even forgot who my real self was. So sad and sorry for myself that I let myself lost just because of those people who doesn't even care about me nor they ever texted me nor checked up on me during my lows. We are extremely good that now we should expect from others that are they capable of us or not. That are you strong enough to be with me during my high and lows, because we are very kind that its really rare to find one in this world. So our worth is more than social media so I deleted it and its not worth it anymore for me.
Sooo happy you’re back! You’ve been missed!!
I feel the exact same way.. lost of creativity & motivation and what's next in my life- and I'm 30! Social media can be so exhausting. I agree 100% about society today and how everyone seems so superficial.. keep focusing on you and what you enjoy most. Your videos are something I look forward to every week! So good to see you're back, I absolutely love your content Renee!
To be honest, I think collectively we are all kind-of in this place because of COVID. It's a weird feeling. I enjoy your videos, Renee. Keep being you. I am also from the south and I can relate to how you feel about NYC. I love it here and feel more comfortable here, but by the same token as a christian woman I don't fit in and don't relate to others in the party scene. I hope you can find your community.
I completely understand i have 10k subs and I get like this often even delete content & stress myself out. I‘m at a place where im just going to be myself. I know im not like everybody else but that fine. Also feel better renee its growing pain lol
Renee- I am so thankful for you sharing this today! You have no idea how relatable this is in every way. While everyone has gone through their own trauma dealing with this past year, I know we’re all dealing with our own difficulties in life on top of it all- and it. is. so. incredibly. hard. But I just want you to know that you are NOT alone in this AT ALL. I think finding our own pieces of happiness again is a constant battle but I know we’re all growing as we navigate each day of life. Thanks for doing what you do and sharing your life online. Being able to relate to someone through a screen is so hard but you do it so well by just simply being you. Here’s to better days ahead and everything in between. Being a human is hard. Sending you lots of love!
ily thank you so much xx this meant so much
Here is something I do when I get stuck feeling like u do, when u feel like there is nothing that motivates me.
I hit the road! Look at google map, look around and see places u like, book a ticket and hit the road . Wonder around, it always gives inspiration and who knows? Maybe your chapter in New York is over, maybe while u go traveling u find a place that gives u fire and u can move again? Don't forget the feeling of adventure, your not bound to any place at all. U have a stable income from home, u can go wherever it inspires u, Noah will for sure understand whatever u decide is best for u. If u grow out of one place you will fit in to another.:)
It takes a lot to open up like this!! I can definitely relate to a lot of what your saying being a 24 year old trying to figure out what the heck to do. You definitely did a 180 flip of lifestyles/atmospheres between Florida and then moving to New York. When it’s time, possibly look into a place like Virginia Beach, VA!! It’s a beach town and big enough to always have something to do, with lots of diversity and cool local spots. But it’s also no where near as large and consuming as New York City. Just a suggestion, I can’t wait to see where/ what you end up doing ❤️
You MUST watch Bo Burnham’s show on Netflix called Inside. You will love it, particularly his song White Woman’s Instagram. You’ll so relate to what he says.
Did you ever think of moving somewhere like colorado or something? Somewhere super different, mountains and stuff!! Get some hiking done, what a beautifully different world that could be ❤️
Oh my god I UNDERSTAND EXACTLY what you mean about the vicious cycle of living in NYC. I've been threatening to leave for years but something always pulls me back. So hard to explain but I get it. I'm only 10 minutes into the video and I've yelled "YES!!!" so many times at my computer
Sounds to me like Renee is describing 99% of influencers and life in the city.. I live in a small town and could never imagine seeing people posing for hours for pictures on Instagram or being super rude.. I like my close net of friends and my community. I thought about moving to the city like all teenagers but I don’t think it is for me.. I’m happy where i am
You did mention wanting to move out of the city, I think you’d like it Renee
Hi Ney! This is my first time commenting on your page. Thank you for making this video. I see that so many of us are feeling the exact same way you do. And it’s comforting to know that we are not alone even when we feel we are. I started volunteering 2 hours a week outside of my home (I work full time from home and I go nuts). It’s helped me feel like I have a purpose outside of my family and work life. Have you ever thought about volunteering? I wish you all the best in finding your inspiration again. You’re a beautiful person inside and out! Blessings to you.
I could really relate to what you said and yes the Instagram is getting out of control. I was once told to move away from a view just so this girl could pose and I was like I'm here on holiday too and I drove for hours to see this view!!! 😔
I'm 28 and totally resonate with everything! You are a superstar , keep doing you 🤍hope you are ok! Welcome back 🙂
Don’t underestimate the role of grief in a funk like this. It took me several years after my parents passed to feel grounded again. That was without moving away from my home & friends and dealing with the collective grief of a worldwide pandemic. You’re doing amazing.
You are amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I dont think I would be able to do it if Im in your place, so I am envying you with the patience and courage that you have!