My quarter life crisis, one year later
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- Опубліковано 2 жов 2024
- Today I react to a video I posted on this channel 10 months ago called "Dealing with depression." Why was I depressed? What was I going through? I hope this video can be of some sort of help to you.
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give up on your dreams sometimes!
no >:(
purr
I appreciate your honesty and vulnerability. It seems like you’ve gotten more comfortable with yourself and giving yourself more grace. It’s nice to see you laughing and just reflecting. One of the things I truly believe is that it can take just as much courage to give up a dream or make a new dream than staying the course with a dream you initially thought you wanted. I really hope you have a content life and just keep reflecting and growing and do what brings you joy and fulfillment.
thank you so much anne ;_;
aaaah the feeling of wanting to go home even when u already are home is the worst... I thought I was the only one to feel that way at times but its reassuring to know that's not the case (not that I want others to feel that way but ygm)
So much growth and also so much glow 😭😭 ur skin and the lighting in this are 👌👌👌
natttt ;_;
Love this character development going on here :)
I also felt attacked at the celebrity thing lol, all my childhood I basically looked up to public figures (especially musicians) and had this thing as a kid that I also want to have CDs selling at the store, music videos playing on tv and all of that fuss. Obviously now that my brain developed on the rationale part, I don't want that anymore, since that's basically the music version of winning the grand lottery (and now that the industry is mostly exposed, it doesn't seem glamorous to live that life anyway). Glad to know you're content with the state of your channel :)
thank you so much dreambrush. yeah, i think we both experienced similar things in regards to that dream. and we're def not alone
I know the feeling of spending so much time crafting a costume of myself that the authentic me feels like the failed version.
The irony is that I drafted and re-drafted this comment over and over because I forget how to simply say what I mean. But you sharing your story made me feel seen in that.
...And damn, ADHD testing sounds more and more sensible everyday. Thanks for the great video!
thank you aly! you speak of something very relatable
Hey! Recently found your channel. I love ur content, I think you have a lot of really insightful thoughts and critiques of society, norms, and culture. On the topic of giving up on your dreams, I just dont know if that's the way to word it, though I agree with the sentiment. I like to say rewrite your dream, and dont rely on your dream. We, as people, have to allow ourselves to evolve
Edit: its something that hits very home with me over the past year as well
I absolutely love this video man. Thank you
oh man this is great to hear! thank you
23:18 This is crazy. I also think that I am autistic. You described my life right there and I found so many people on tiktok that I also relate too. I've been thinking that since 2020 but I just ignored it. I am on a waiting list and I hope I get a diagnose soon. Hope that you also get the help you need.
This is why journaling is great and I really need to get back into it, hah. It's fascinating revisiting your past self and seeing things in a new light after a bit of time. 💜 Thanks for sharing with us.
Oh, and if you are ever able to get assessed for ADHD and/or autism, I encourage it! I was finally diagnosed with both this year at the age of 39 after dealing with some pretty heavy burnout. It got me in the position to finally try to talk to someone about it, despite suspecting for years. Hoping to start therapy soon with a better idea of what I need now. I think it'll be worth it. And if nothing else, it's been enlightening and kind of eye opening.
That said, if you don't need a diagnosis to be able to get yourself the support you need then I totally understand not taking that step. Especially if cost is a factor.
thank you so much!!! i will def look into it. and yes journaling is really good
this healed something, might've cried , but still very healing
Omg i get u with the indecisiveness but watching your recent videos is so inspiring Elliot! Im so glad uve come a long way and u seem so headstrong and focused
Well, there it is. I was sitting and wondering what exactly made you look so much healthier here.
Then at 21:00 you answered ☺️
I was going through the same thing last year. Looking back on my older videos just makes me see a child-brain (ok teenager maybe).
Going through the grief of the lost time is the tougher part afterwards. But I feel freed from my emotions heavy weight, and I can explore my mind in a different way.
Finally, I can truly understand what everyone has been singing about all this time 😌
It's like I actually knew everything before, but my brain had to connect the last dots for it to click.
I really needed this, thank u for sharing ❤️
Your video helps a lot with self reflecting, gj !
thank you!
The point you made about whether things outside of our control are what we really want was very interesting. I think i come to a similar conclusion, but the reason why I don't want the things outside my control (a successful music career), is because in knowing the odds, I simply must think of a backup plan, and know that I can always enjoy and create music regardless, and that still keeps the opportunity open. But then I still have to decide what is a realistic career goal, which I seriously struggle with lol, 27, havent finished school yet 😅
the fact of trying to intentionally communicate a particular idea or feeling or whatever, and someone having a different takeaway, is something I really struggle with. It makes communication and relationships feel so shaky and unstable on all levels, and it also impacts my perception of my self, of my intelligence, competence, etc. What I think is really interesting is how I don't recall people talking about this phenomenon pretty much ever. people I think just carry on with conversations and make assumptions about what the other person must be thinking i guess, rather than comment that they might not have the understanding you hoped they would have. I think it partially comes down to the facts of human communication and language. Idk if U have seen anrels video on semantics but it felt really validating as far as this feeling is concerned, at least for me.
elliot ur so cool 🤗✨
no u
I been on my quarter life crisis 5 years lol 24 when it truly began and nearly 29 now 29 next month but I struggled with anxiety since I was very young I feel like im getting better but still struggle abit
Wow. I think I need to stop trying to make the sky turn purple... I had about 3 epiphanies watching this video so thank you 😭