She doesn't accept you for who you are, your a multi-talented young man ,who is intuitive,a beautiful person inside and out, i wish i can give you a big hug to make your day better❤❤❤ i love Chandler just the way you are
Gosh. Your siblings doesn't appreciate you. Boundaries. And distance both for your brother and sister. You are a healer and the breaker of the trauma in the family.
I'm so so sorry Chan for what you went through, what your Mom went through. That's awful. I can't explain why you're siblings did that, took advantage, showed disrespect and little regard. It's garbage. It's a reflection of immaturity and entitlement. Takers do that and when you don't give, it's your fault and when you do give, it's never enough. It's an ugly cycle that keeps repeating itself. Givers give and give, even at the expense of themselves and their health. Please take care of you. You don't owe anyone anything, even if it's family. Never let any person try and make you feel ashamed of who you are. Ever. You don't need that type of treatment. I think boundaries need to be in place for your own well-being. This is my opinion and you do whatever is best for you in the end, but I would stay far away from them. It makes me sad anyone would do that to you. You're an incredibly special man, Chandler. You deserve the best in life, and that includes people. I wish I could give you a big hug. I'll send one to you in spirit.🤗 I hope your luggage is found too. I love you. Everyone here loves you, just the way YOU are. Thank you for sharing your hurt with us. We see and validate you.🙏🏻♥️♥️♥️🪽
Your mother appreciates you being there. 🙏🏼 As a mother that just moved her son to college, every ounce of support is so deeply appreciated. I hope lovely surprises roll in soon - unexpectedly wonderful blessings to lift your spirit and answer your kindness. Life has ways of rewarding your generosity. ✨
Entitlement is so frustrating. You both are so very kind and generous for giving your time and resources to her. I would feel the same way. Just know we appreciate you exactly as you are. I hope your luggage is found ASAP!
I’ve pretty much have cut off everyone that’s not awoken & healed. They don’t know how their actions hurts others. I’ve had enough instances since I heal myself fully 4 years go, where being around/ connected to people that are not healed or awoken, has caused me to get hurt/ close heart chakra etc. Then I Have to Heal All Over Again! As healed And Aware Beings it’s coming are time to separate from the unhealed. EVEN FAMILY. The people you think you should be receiving love & care from, ARE THE ONES That Can Hurt You The Most. Find your Soul Tribe Family Now! You don’t actually belong to the family you came from if You Have Already Broken SO Many Ancestral Patterns. You’re free from that family. Yes you love them. But your happiness & respecting yourself & healing work is to PROTECT IT. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I walked away from that. Not even blood gets to use and abuse me. Very abusive behavior. You may get your luggage back when Mercury stations direct and afterward.
The amount of ingratitude... The lack of empathy/consideration... Show them what not having you guys is like. Boundaries are a great thing for this kind of situation. Say no and mean it.
Please never let friends or family ever diminish your kindness and dictate who or what your wear or date..You can't choose your family sadly..Love and Peace from the UK..💋
I am sorry your sister and brother don't appreciate what a kind and loving person you are. Focus on the love from your mom. Sounds like some people need to mature emotionally. We love you, Chandler!
That’s some family stuff right there - totally recognize and relate how some family members just think they can talk to you any type of way and you just have to deal with it. No I don’t! You don’t get to shit on people just because they’re related to you!
It ALWAYS happens with us VIRGOS, isn't it? U have THE WORLD out here who LOVE YOU CHAN ❤❤❤❤❤ *Virgos R NEVER APPRECIATED ANYWAY* 🤷♀️ So LET GO sweets!!! WE LOVE U WE ADMIRE U WE CARE when ur hurt...
Now you know not to ever help her again. Their actions are a reflection of how your mom has raised them. It has nothing to do with you. I hope you find peace and your luggage is found. Sorry you went through that. I cut off family because of this. It hurts but it’s worth it.
Theyre just jealous of your sass. You got great energy, dont let the haters bring you to their level and stress tolerance, forgiveness. And proper communication
WOW! Thats such a shitty situation. Dealing with bullshit from siblings is always soooo uncomfortable and unnecessary its like why do you have to be so disrespectful AND difficult for no reason AND THEN think im supposed to cater to your feelings and do what you want. Ugh God bless
Retrograde shining a spotlight on emotional triggers for you. Always uncomfortable but always enlightening. I've watched enough of you to know that you don't need me to tell you how beautiful and wise you are. Some family is here to guide us and some others to grow us. Sending love and high vibes. 🫶
I have some siblings that sound like this, the acting like im just somehow automatically obligated to do stuff for them. Ugh. Im so, so sorry about your luggage! ❤
This is pretty much why I will never, ever have children and only talk to my mom and dad 😎 Chandler, you are too good for this. Blood is not thicker than water. You deserve more than this. It's ok to cut ties anytime for any reason with anybody. Much luck and success to you!! Can't wait for my next read. Your fans and clients respect and value you!! Thank you for all you do. You were instrumental in my growth this year and help with my situation with my ex-person 🎉🎉
Everything you lost will be multiplied back to you! 🙌🏽 Asè! Both of them will mature one day and tell you both how stupid they were for not realizing sooner how you all are the best to and for them and the family. Peace, love, and light! 🙏🏽💕
I’m 10 years older than you. When I was 28, in the course of just a few months, I stopped talking to both my mum and my sister. This was after I had communicated to them ( individually as it was for individual reasons) how and why the way they dealt with me was no longer tolerable for my wellbeing. It was hard the first years. I never regretted it though. I never saw my mother again and she passed a couple of years after our break-up, aged 57. For me she had died somewhere around those days when she refused to acknowledge what was wrong and even harmful in her behaviour towards me and why. My sister was her golden child, so I was bad ( she used to tell me sometimes, no doubt here). I felt relief when she died because the days when I should and could have a loving mother but didn’t experience that came to an end. Obviously that was completely impossible now she was dead. I felt sad that she didn’t get to be happier in her life, but this was something I felt for decades before she died, so no difference there. I know my heart. I know how I care for and about others. I don’t feel selfish or cold for feeling relief although I was surprised how good it felt. Finally. It is a relief to not share life with my sister. It is a relief my own mother has exited my life. That’s what she has accomplished between us. BUT: I started feeling her energy and presence some time after her passing around me. If I got it right, she understood so much more from the other side and wanted to let me know. It’s hard to tell when you are not exactly used to being telepathically gifted, haha. Meanwhile she hasn’t been around in a while and I feel like she’s gone for good. I wonder why she made herself noticed to me - for my sake or hers? Either way it’s fine by me. I carry peace. All I want to say is, I have learnt: be kind, but kind and firm so you leave unkind people behind. That’s the best peace you can achieve …
😳 My ears fell of and my heart was broken when I listen to what's happend those days for You 😢 💔 Your siblings seems to be VERY immature and really spioled brats 😤 The most disgusting thing was their rude and hurtful behavier to both You and too Your mother I have heard for a very long time 😱 😡 All Your work You did for them was obviesly NOT appreciated and I'm SO sorry for You and Your mother to be so badly treated by them. I'm 65 year old woman with 2 grown up boys (37 & 32 years old) born and living in Sweden and if that same situation has accourd in my family I should have been both very hurt BUT I should also get furious of those (aka mine) kids and told them: This is NOT a deacent behavior and if You wan't any more Birthday Party in my house or help with moving anywhere else on the future You (my kids!) are going to bee respectful to Your family. If they don't understand how disrespectful they where and apologize to You and Your mother... I should really thinking of don't going to help them further nor talking or visit them either. Except Your mother. My Holy 😖 PS Sorry but THIS get my brain to explode 💥🤯 and I completely understand that Your feelings are both anger and sad over what's happend DS Sending You BIG HUGS and LOVE to both You and Your Mother 🙏🌹💞
Ugh I'm so sorry. My sibling is a narcissist and I've had similar interactions. Sucks when I had to realize there's no hope for a connection without sacrificing my own wellbeing
People are not obligated to treat you with respect but you are also NOT OBLIGATED to TAKE ANY disrespect from anyone. Might be best to go NO CONTACT with the ones that hurt you. I learned my lesson the hard way that family is NOT ALWAYS FAMILY!!!! Good luck to you and I hope your luggage will be found.
Wow, Chan! That’s a lot! I am so sorry!! Bless her. Change me. That prayer works for me over and over until I have peace again. Sending much love and light. Hmu next time you need Tulsa coffee support!! Love you!
I swear sometimes family members can be your biggest enemies. Wow they sound rather ungrateful your sister and brother. If I were you and your mother I probably wouldn’t be available for them next time!
I am so sorry that your family says these horrible things to you. Families should be loving and excepting of their children and you are not an inconvenience because you are queer. I will say that again you are not an inconvenience. Please always be who you are because you are absolutely amazing regardless of your gender or sexuality. I am actually really happy that you posted this vulnerable family story because I have run into a lot of family drama this week as well. I am a trans man and my family does not one 100% except me, and two understand. I have tried so many times tocommunicate and a half of me was hoping that they would do their own research on how others have transitioned as I am not talking to them at the moment. My family for years has verbally and mentally abused me to make themselves feel more comfortable because they were scared scared to get to know me instead.
You angelic soul…please BE YOU!!! What I would give to have you as a brother! You are absolutely amazing, fabulous and you have “THE Light!” I am extremely sad to hear you and your mother went through all that stress and drama! You are in my positive, loving, peaceful thoughts and my prayers. Thank you for being YOU…I wouldn’t change a thing! ☮️💜😊✝️🙏🏻✨✨✨✨✨✨
Awwww Chan, sounds like you are ready for your chosen family. Britany the cosmic intuitive wifey channel would be great for you to watch right now. ❤ it’s time to start saying no to anything not aligned with your highest timeline.
I'm so sorry, Chandler! 😢 I know how it feels to be treated so unkindly and inconsiderately by family. It can be so painful! 😣 💔And I'm sorry about your luggage too! It seems so often that when it rains, it pours. You deserve so much better than that kind of treatment, and I hope that your life will soon be filled with relationships that give you the love, respect, and kindness that someone with your lovely, generous heart should have. 💖💞 Sending you love! 💖
So sorry that you have to go through this. Hope you find your luggage soon. It's hard when your own family doesn't like you. Hope your brother and sister realize their mistakes soon.
I just CANNOT even imagine your own family treating you like shit! That's bullshit and your mom and you deserve soo much more !!! My older brother hates me too?? They're assholes try to forget about how they are, it's ultimately their loss ❤❤❤ love you Chandler
Your feelings are completely valid. I am so sorry you had to deal with that. Your siblings are immature, and that's no excuse but they are selfish. You deserve love and acceptance for all the amazing things about you. We don't pick our families but they are great teachers. I hope your luggage shows up. Vent any time you need to, we love you, you are amazing.
I'm so sorry Chan. What a horrible trip. Hope you get 🙏 your luggage back. Sometimes it takes a while for them to find it Wish you every happiness. Families are fun. Love ❤ ya 😘 Chan
I'm SO glad my family isn't like that. I live in Tulsa BTW I was surprised when you said Tulsa lol love your vids keep em coming...(even if ya need to vent a little every now and then)😊
Firstly, thank you Chandler for sharing what your going through because it isn't easy to talk about personal things on the Internet. I so understand how you must be feeling and how siblings can be. I have many in my family & oh they are ungrateful to the core. I hope and pray that things get better for you. You are so amazing and such a beautiful soul. I love you. We all love you. ❤️❤️❤️
I’m so sorry Chan. Sending you so much love and hugs and prayers for healing 🙏🏾🩷 And I pray they find your luggage with everything intact, and that an extra wonderful blessing comes your way because you are amazing!
I understand why. Sounds like next time she might need nudging to help her own self and you can spend your own sweet time, space and MONEY on YOU. Just because they are family does not mean thye are entitled to your peace of mind. Next time choose you and politely point out their bad manners if they want your help again. Rude! Sending smooth, relaxing rose gold breezes to soothe and drift the bad feelings away✨️🏵🌸✨️🦋🌸
Family can be a lot sometimes, what I learned is to be apologetic about who you are, what love and what you want. Set firm boundaries, expecially with yourself, if you know that you don't want to go x date, don't go, be faithful to you first, tou know deep down what's best for you. I can't believed she asked you to not act gay wtf I know tons of people that act "gay" that are not and the other way around, and even If you get a boyfriend, so what, that should be beautiful, not something to be ashamed about! Don't ever think that way! Don't let others think that way! Be yourself! always, there's tons of people, the right people, that will LOVE you to death for it Much love! I hope to book a reading with you someday, I can see you have the biggest heart
I hope they see this and hope you get your luggage back asap! If you have travel insurance it should cover for belongings as stand depending on what insurance you have. Lost my luggage once with all my sisters clothes 😅 didn’t receive until day four of holiday
I think it’s great you feel comfortable enough to share the importance of maintaining a high self-esteem and self-worth even when doing so irritates those we love. Just because the family and friends we were raised with don’t believe in us doesn’t mean we aren’t worthy.❤
Oh Chan, I am so sorry 😢❤ you are literally the most amazing person to exist and I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through this. Please know you are SO appreciated and loved. I hope you find your luggage ASAP. Sending love, Roma xxx
If I could I would cuddle the hurt away from you darling ,your the same as myself ,I never learn my lesson and just end up doing the same things over and over ,karma will pay them a visit my sweetheart x x x
I have watched youre content for awhile. ❤ The very beginning is always most helpful to me so here it goes.. Lets take a deep breath and exhale. Okay. Some people grow slower than others like plants. Your sister's complaints about you are her own insecurities. She might be repressing her own feeling that people are judging her so she isn't her true self. Hurt people hurt people. I Imagine ypu lost your luggage could be a sign to let the family luggage of past hurt feelings and bad relationship with your brother and sister go. Leave the luggage. you don't need to carry it around anymore. The good news about lost luggage...is.. you get to go shopping. Yeah!!!
Ugh family seriously sucks ass sometimes. I feel you Chan. You’re an amazing person inside and out, sometimes our closest people don’t even see or appreciate that. Sending you all my love 💜 don’t let that shit get to you (although I know it’s the hardest when it comes to family)
Hi sweet Chandler❤ I am so sorry for your disappointment and hurt. The treatment you received was not ok. Feel good knowing you helped. Just know God gave you blunt clarity about your relationship with your sister. God will return to you what has been lost and tenfold. Sending a big beautiful hug to you❤
Chandler you go on being you release your sister and your brother take care of your mom and I believe that she will pay sooner or later for being an inconsiderate human being so don’t worry spirit has you don’t forget all the good you do will come back to you and they will get the negative end of things sooner or later so glad you’re here💕
Thank You for sharing your personal experience with us. You did nothing wrong. You only wanted to help your sister and being a good person😊😊😊😊 As for your siblings, especially your sister it's not 🚫🚫🚫 your fault or mother for the way they are. You are being True 💯 to yourself and to who you are and your mother loves her children very much and I believe that she just can't say NO to them and accepts bring mistreated like this - but she should put strong boundaries. Both your sister and brother are grown adults and Nobody has an obligation towards them!!! Take back your power and Energy!!!! So your mother! Stop giving them time and Energy and put High boundaries!
Sending hugs & I hope you find your luggage your sister doesn’t deserve a brother like you.❤coming from me who has shitty older brothers that never help .
This is why my kids and I stick to ourselves. So sorry you were going through this and as far as being embarrassed because you are gay, you act gay or you dress gay you do you don’t worry about what others think.❤
Be who you are and be proud. I know what it feels like to not have the same romantic interests as those around you and to be judged for that or treated differently just because of how you want to express yourself and wanting to embody to their desires. It’s pure misery living for others and not being true to yourself and your expression. Those who really rock with you will stand by you. They are coming off self loathing and selfish on the low. I’m wishing the best for you and your family and may they heal from what truly hurts them. May you also heal from your past and hopefully these losses means something better will make up for it in your future. May you find more courage and support from those who love you for expressing yourself
Firstly i love you for who you are, you have such a pure soul and always giving and loving person, never listen to people who say otherwise or don't appreciate your energy and your presence. and yes unfortunately god always puts us in unbalanced family i really don't understand why??!! not being ungrateful but yes similar situation and family members are in my life, had been a caregiver for my elder sister and helping every sibling and my parents niece, nephew literally everyone and i end up with nothing and i still never get appreciated instead i get blamed for my failure which happened because i was not doing my work and helping everyone out . i really understand your pain. but please never tone down for anyone, you are amazing!!!!
I'm just reading a book from rodrigues smthg called 4 promise and one promise is to not take anything personally ever. When people act out like they do, it's their shit, it has nothing to Do with you ore anybody Else. Everyone lives in their own Personal bubble. Just send IT back to her, it's all her crapp. Focus on your own feelings and your truth. Bless you and I would give the World to have such a cool, sweet and great brother like you ❤️💎🦄
You are a cute boy,Chan! He “hate you” because you have something he don’t wanna accept ! You have a beautiful gift to understand people!So u know he is not outgrowing some thing in life spiritually! Send u love because u help us so much and you deserve love!❤️
Its the first day into ♍️ Virgo Season. And one of the best self awareness lessons, is on the EXPECTATIONS we have on others..When we have high expectations of some one, and they do not meet those expectations it can be hurtful. When there is already intuition in a situation, especially as an empath, it is important to remember to PROTECT your spirit before going, what was put up into the air manifested fast, Sometimes we put things into the air and it happens so fast that we can't even take it back...so with that i would just like to add that you are an INSPIRATION to me and i sure you are to many other people as well♡☆ Have you ever heard of a medicine bag?
I’m sorry you’re going through this Chandler but honestly? FAMILY SUCKS! And it doesn’t always get better with age. I’m almost 60 and have NEVER gotten along with my older brother. He’s been extremely jealous of me since the day I came home from the hospital! 🤷🏼♀️
Wow Chandler, You are loved beyond comprehension. You stay and always realize you are perfect just the way you are. I have family members very similar and I realized recently just to "let them" because they will do what they do no matter what. We need to live the way we want and " let them" do what they do and not pay attention to them, is what I've learned. I realized I can do my best and it's never good enough ,but I know it is. Sending you all my love Chan🥰 from Chicagoland
You have been heard and oh my goooooodnesssss??? You deserve so so much MORE. You’ve touched so many lives online , I hope you can feel the love here in the space bc we’re all cheering for YOU. YOU are wonderful and kind and important. Don’t forget that ❤
You are so beautiful and wonderful and I’m so sorry you were in that position! So hurtful. You suited up and showed up to help family- a rare find and a good big brother. You deserve to be appreciated and your mom. We love you. You’re brilliant and gifted intuitively. And the luggage!! Argh! Mercury retrograde for sure. Sorry Buddy! ❤
She doesn't accept you for who you are, your a multi-talented young man ,who is intuitive,a beautiful person inside and out, i wish i can give you a big hug to make your day better❤❤❤ i love Chandler just the way you are
Absolutely!!
Mercury Retrograde is in full swing.
Again?? Explains a lot
Oh my goodness! "Dont dress gay" Im so sorry, Chan! Sending you love ❤❤❤
Gosh. Your siblings doesn't appreciate you. Boundaries. And distance both for your brother and sister. You are a healer and the breaker of the trauma in the family.
Right! Ppl need to learn the hard way. If they want help, hire help! Ask their friends!
I'm so so sorry Chan for what you went through, what your Mom went through. That's awful. I can't explain why you're siblings did that, took advantage, showed disrespect and little regard. It's garbage. It's a reflection of immaturity and entitlement. Takers do that and when you don't give, it's your fault and when you do give, it's never enough. It's an ugly cycle that keeps repeating itself. Givers give and give, even at the expense of themselves and their health. Please take care of you.
You don't owe anyone anything, even if it's family. Never let any person try and make you feel ashamed of who you are. Ever. You don't need that type of treatment. I think boundaries need to be in place for your own well-being. This is my opinion and you do whatever is best for you in the end, but I would stay far away from them. It makes me sad anyone would do that to you. You're an incredibly special man, Chandler. You deserve the best in life, and that includes people. I wish I could give you a big hug. I'll send one to you in spirit.🤗 I hope your luggage is found too. I love you. Everyone here loves you, just the way YOU are. Thank you for sharing your hurt with us. We see and validate you.🙏🏻♥️♥️♥️🪽
Let people who don't care about you go so you can make room for people who do.💗
I hope your luggage is found ❤
If it’s any consolation to you, most young people nowadays are the same way… and have gone thru this a couple of times myself! 🤮
Your mother appreciates you being there. 🙏🏼 As a mother that just moved her son to college, every ounce of support is so deeply appreciated.
I hope lovely surprises roll in soon - unexpectedly wonderful blessings to lift your spirit and answer your kindness. Life has ways of rewarding your generosity. ✨
Entitlement is so frustrating. You both are so very kind and generous for giving your time and resources to her. I would feel the same way. Just know we appreciate you exactly as you are. I hope your luggage is found ASAP!
I’ve pretty much have cut off everyone that’s not awoken & healed. They don’t know how their actions hurts others. I’ve had enough instances since I heal myself fully 4 years go, where being around/ connected to people that are not healed or awoken, has caused me to get hurt/ close heart chakra etc. Then I Have to Heal All Over Again!
As healed And Aware Beings it’s coming are time to separate from the unhealed. EVEN FAMILY. The people you think you should be receiving love & care from, ARE THE ONES That Can Hurt You The Most. Find your Soul Tribe Family Now! You don’t actually belong to the family you came from if You Have Already Broken SO Many Ancestral Patterns. You’re free from that family. Yes you love them. But your happiness & respecting yourself & healing work is to PROTECT IT.
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I walked away from that. Not even blood gets to use and abuse me. Very abusive behavior. You may get your luggage back when Mercury stations direct and afterward.
The amount of ingratitude... The lack of empathy/consideration...
Show them what not having you guys is like. Boundaries are a great thing for this kind of situation. Say no and mean it.
I'll take a toddler over a teenager ANY day.
@@silververnallbells191 I'm working with toddlers currently so I definitely get where you're coming from.
Please never let friends or family ever diminish your kindness and dictate who or what your wear or date..You can't choose your family sadly..Love and Peace from the UK..💋
Try not to people please Chandler, especially when it has to do with family. Don’t worry you got this.
I am sorry your sister and brother don't appreciate what a kind and loving person you are. Focus on the love from your mom. Sounds like some people need to mature emotionally. We love you, Chandler!
That’s some family stuff right there - totally recognize and relate how some family members just think they can talk to you any type of way and you just have to deal with it. No I don’t! You don’t get to shit on people just because they’re related to you!
It ALWAYS happens with us VIRGOS, isn't it?
U have THE WORLD out here who LOVE YOU CHAN ❤❤❤❤❤
*Virgos R NEVER APPRECIATED ANYWAY* 🤷♀️
So LET GO sweets!!!
WE LOVE U
WE ADMIRE U
WE CARE when ur hurt...
Now you know not to ever help her again. Their actions are a reflection of how your mom has raised them. It has nothing to do with you. I hope you find peace and your luggage is found. Sorry you went through that. I cut off family because of this. It hurts but it’s worth it.
Theyre just jealous of your sass. You got great energy, dont let the haters bring you to their level and stress tolerance, forgiveness. And proper communication
WOW! Thats such a shitty situation. Dealing with bullshit from siblings is always soooo uncomfortable and unnecessary its like why do you have to be so disrespectful AND difficult for no reason AND THEN think im supposed to cater to your feelings and do what you want. Ugh God bless
You are a good brother and son . Some people are selfish
The only loss you should care and feel sorry for is your luggage. As for the rest, they'll get theirs. Be blessed, Chandler dear. ❤
Retrograde shining a spotlight on emotional triggers for you. Always uncomfortable but always enlightening. I've watched enough of you to know that you don't need me to tell you how beautiful and wise you are. Some family is here to guide us and some others to grow us. Sending love and high vibes. 🫶
Oh, honey...I'm so sorry all of this happened to you.
I have some siblings that sound like this, the acting like im just somehow automatically obligated to do stuff for them. Ugh. Im so, so sorry about your luggage! ❤
Chan just remember the universe will give them both what they truly deserve for being selfish cold hearted siblings. Sending hugs!💫🦋🩵
As they say "you can choose your friends but you can't choose your family" be yourself it wouldn't do to be all the same ❤ x
This is pretty much why I will never, ever have children and only talk to my mom and dad 😎
Chandler, you are too good for this. Blood is not thicker than water. You deserve more than this. It's ok to cut ties anytime for any reason with anybody. Much luck and success to you!! Can't wait for my next read. Your fans and clients respect and value you!! Thank you for all you do. You were instrumental in my growth this year and help with my situation with my ex-person 🎉🎉
Everything you lost will be multiplied back to you! 🙌🏽 Asè! Both of them will mature one day and tell you both how stupid they were for not realizing sooner how you all are the best to and for them and the family. Peace, love, and light! 🙏🏽💕
You’re so adorable. Just ignore those who don’t like you. We all love you!
I’m 10 years older than you. When I was 28, in the course of just a few months, I stopped talking to both my mum and my sister. This was after I had communicated to them ( individually as it was for individual reasons) how and why the way they dealt with me was no longer tolerable for my wellbeing. It was hard the first years. I never regretted it though. I never saw my mother again and she passed a couple of years after our break-up, aged 57. For me she had died somewhere around those days when she refused to acknowledge what was wrong and even harmful in her behaviour towards me and why. My sister was her golden child, so I was bad ( she used to tell me sometimes, no doubt here). I felt relief when she died because the days when I should and could have a loving mother but didn’t experience that came to an end. Obviously that was completely impossible now she was dead. I felt sad that she didn’t get to be happier in her life, but this was something I felt for decades before she died, so no difference there. I know my heart. I know how I care for and about others. I don’t feel selfish or cold for feeling relief although I was surprised how good it felt. Finally. It is a relief to not share life with my sister. It is a relief my own mother has exited my life. That’s what she has accomplished between us. BUT: I started feeling her energy and presence some time after her passing around me. If I got it right, she understood so much more from the other side and wanted to let me know. It’s hard to tell when you are not exactly used to being telepathically gifted, haha. Meanwhile she hasn’t been around in a while and I feel like she’s gone for good. I wonder why she made herself noticed to me - for my sake or hers? Either way it’s fine by me. I carry peace. All I want to say is, I have learnt: be kind, but kind and firm so you leave unkind people behind. That’s the best peace you can achieve …
😳 My ears fell of and my heart was broken when I listen to what's happend those days for You 😢 💔
Your siblings seems to be VERY immature and really spioled brats 😤 The most disgusting thing was their rude and hurtful behavier to both You and too Your mother I have heard for a very long time 😱 😡
All Your work You did for them was obviesly NOT appreciated and I'm SO sorry for You and Your mother to be so badly treated by them.
I'm 65 year old woman with 2 grown up boys (37 & 32 years old) born and living in Sweden and if that same situation has accourd in my family I should have been both very hurt BUT I should also get furious of those (aka mine) kids and told them: This is NOT a deacent behavior and if You wan't any more Birthday Party in my house or help with moving anywhere else on the future You (my kids!) are going to bee respectful to Your family. If they don't understand how disrespectful they where and apologize to You and Your mother... I should really thinking of don't going to help them further nor talking or visit them either. Except Your mother.
My Holy 😖
PS Sorry but THIS get my brain to explode 💥🤯 and I completely understand that Your feelings are both anger and sad over what's happend DS
Sending You BIG HUGS and LOVE to both You and Your Mother 🙏🌹💞
Go no contact… I did it with my siblings that a horrible to me. Best choice I’ve ever made. I wish you all the best💚
I'm so sorry, Chandler 😔 My family is similar, and I've learned not to throw my pearls to swine 🐖 Sending you so much love and compassion ❤️
Sometimes saying no and staying home is best. Im sorry ❤
Oh honey ... praying for you !
We appreciate you 💖💖💖
I'm sorry you got treated that way. I think I'm a pretty good judge of character and your top notch in my book!
Ugh I'm so sorry. My sibling is a narcissist and I've had similar interactions. Sucks when I had to realize there's no hope for a connection without sacrificing my own wellbeing
OMG dude your sis and bro are both out of line. They need tough love... sending a virtual hug... God I hope you and your suitcase!!!!! 😢😢😢
Mercury retrograde has had it out for me too. Mostly at the tail end. It’s rude honestly, especially since it’s our Virgo ruler.
People are not obligated to treat you with respect but you are also NOT OBLIGATED to TAKE ANY disrespect from anyone. Might be best to go NO CONTACT with the ones that hurt you. I learned my lesson the hard way that family is NOT ALWAYS FAMILY!!!! Good luck to you and I hope your luggage will be found.
Wow, Chan! That’s a lot! I am so sorry!! Bless her. Change me. That prayer works for me over and over until I have peace again. Sending much love and light. Hmu next time you need Tulsa coffee support!! Love you!
comments section bringing in the balance, aw yeah! ❤ we love & accept you, Fam! 🤗
Yes Chan, I can feel you're deeply hurt. But, let me tell you, you're such a pure soul. And we love you so much 😊❤
I swear sometimes family members can be your biggest enemies. Wow they sound rather ungrateful your sister and brother. If I were you and your mother I probably wouldn’t be available for them next time!
I... Am appalled & so sorry that they were so inconsiderate. I genuinely hope things get better love. Show up for community that adores you.
I am so sorry that your family says these horrible things to you. Families should be loving and excepting of their children and you are not an inconvenience because you are queer. I will say that again you are not an inconvenience. Please always be who you are because you are absolutely amazing regardless of your gender or sexuality. I am actually really happy that you posted this vulnerable family story because I have run into a lot of family drama this week as well. I am a trans man and my family does not one 100% except me, and two understand. I have tried so many times tocommunicate and a half of me was hoping that they would do their own research on how others have transitioned as I am not talking to them at the moment. My family for years has verbally and mentally abused me to make themselves feel more comfortable because they were scared scared to get to know me instead.
You're a sweet. caring, young man. Never change! Not for anyone! ❤❤
Boundaries are needed right now baby ❤
You angelic soul…please BE YOU!!! What I would give to have you as a brother! You are absolutely amazing, fabulous and you have “THE Light!” I am extremely sad to hear you and your mother went through all that stress and drama! You are in my positive, loving, peaceful thoughts and my prayers. Thank you for being YOU…I wouldn’t change a thing! ☮️💜😊✝️🙏🏻✨✨✨✨✨✨
I’m sorry you went through this. Sending you love and appreciation.
I would say how embarrassed you are by her entitled behavior. And cut ties
Ugh no I’m so sorry, Chandler! Love you and appreciate you. ❤
Awwww Chan, sounds like you are ready for your chosen family. Britany the cosmic intuitive wifey channel would be great for you to watch right now. ❤ it’s time to start saying no to anything not aligned with your highest timeline.
I'm so sorry, Chandler! 😢 I know how it feels to be treated so unkindly and inconsiderately by family. It can be so painful! 😣 💔And I'm sorry about your luggage too! It seems so often that when it rains, it pours. You deserve so much better than that kind of treatment, and I hope that your life will soon be filled with relationships that give you the love, respect, and kindness that someone with your lovely, generous heart should have. 💖💞 Sending you love! 💖
I am so sorry this happened to you and your mom. Sending you lots of love, compassion, and healing energy. So many people love you. Remember this!
So sorry that you have to go through this. Hope you find your luggage soon. It's hard when your own family doesn't like you. Hope your brother and sister realize their mistakes soon.
I just CANNOT even imagine your own family treating you like shit! That's bullshit and your mom and you deserve soo much more !!! My older brother hates me too?? They're assholes try to forget about how they are, it's ultimately their loss ❤❤❤ love you Chandler
Your feelings are completely valid. I am so sorry you had to deal with that. Your siblings are immature, and that's no excuse but they are selfish. You deserve love and acceptance for all the amazing things about you. We don't pick our families but they are great teachers. I hope your luggage shows up. Vent any time you need to, we love you, you are amazing.
Prayers 🙏🙏🙏 To Your ❤. Dealing With Difficult Family.
Ahhh Chandler family..... We all love you ❤ hope your luggage turns up .
I'm so sorry Chan. What a horrible trip. Hope you get 🙏 your luggage back. Sometimes it takes a while for them to find it
Wish you every happiness. Families are fun. Love ❤ ya 😘 Chan
I'm SO glad my family isn't like that. I live in Tulsa BTW I was surprised when you said Tulsa lol love your vids keep em coming...(even if ya need to vent a little every now and then)😊
Firstly, thank you Chandler for sharing what your going through because it isn't easy to talk about personal things on the Internet. I so understand how you must be feeling and how siblings can be. I have many in my family & oh they are ungrateful to the core. I hope and pray that things get better for you. You are so amazing and such a beautiful soul. I love you. We all love you. ❤️❤️❤️
I’m so sorry Chan. Sending you so much love and hugs and prayers for healing 🙏🏾🩷 And I pray they find your luggage with everything intact, and that an extra wonderful blessing comes your way because you are amazing!
I understand why. Sounds like next time she might need nudging to help her own self and you can spend your own sweet time, space and MONEY on YOU. Just because they are family does not mean thye are entitled to your peace of mind. Next time choose you and politely point out their bad manners if they want your help again. Rude! Sending smooth, relaxing rose gold breezes to soothe and drift the bad feelings away✨️🏵🌸✨️🦋🌸
Family can be a lot sometimes, what I learned is to be apologetic about who you are, what love and what you want. Set firm boundaries, expecially with yourself, if you know that you don't want to go x date, don't go, be faithful to you first, tou know deep down what's best for you. I can't believed she asked you to not act gay wtf I know tons of people that act "gay" that are not and the other way around, and even If you get a boyfriend, so what, that should be beautiful, not something to be ashamed about! Don't ever think that way! Don't let others think that way! Be yourself! always, there's tons of people, the right people, that will LOVE you to death for it
Much love! I hope to book a reading with you someday, I can see you have the biggest heart
I hope they see this and hope you get your luggage back asap! If you have travel insurance it should cover for belongings as stand depending on what insurance you have.
Lost my luggage once with all my sisters clothes 😅 didn’t receive until day four of holiday
I just don't understand how anyone could say such hurtful things to those that help you. Your siblings are the embarrassing ones.
I think it’s great you feel comfortable enough to share the importance of maintaining a high self-esteem and self-worth even when doing so irritates those we love. Just because the family and friends we were raised with don’t believe in us doesn’t mean we aren’t worthy.❤
Oh Chan, I am so sorry 😢❤ you are literally the most amazing person to exist and I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through this. Please know you are SO appreciated and loved. I hope you find your luggage ASAP. Sending love, Roma xxx
If I could I would cuddle the hurt away from you darling ,your the same as myself ,I never learn my lesson and just end up doing the same things over and over ,karma will pay them a visit my sweetheart x x x
Forgiveness is the only thing that will get us through. Unfortunately, people are less than tolerable a lot of the time.
I have watched youre content for awhile. ❤ The very beginning is always most helpful to me so here it goes.. Lets take a deep breath and exhale. Okay. Some people grow slower than others like plants. Your sister's complaints about you are her own insecurities. She might be repressing her own feeling that people are judging her so she isn't her true self. Hurt people hurt people. I Imagine ypu lost your luggage could be a sign to let the family luggage of past hurt feelings and bad relationship with your brother and sister go. Leave the luggage. you don't need to carry it around anymore. The good news about lost luggage...is.. you get to go shopping. Yeah!!!
Ugh family seriously sucks ass sometimes. I feel you Chan. You’re an amazing person inside and out, sometimes our closest people don’t even see or appreciate that. Sending you all my love 💜 don’t let that shit get to you (although I know it’s the hardest when it comes to family)
Hi sweet Chandler❤
I am so sorry for your disappointment and hurt. The treatment you received was not ok.
Feel good knowing you helped. Just know God gave you blunt clarity about your relationship with your sister. God will return to you what has been lost and tenfold.
Sending a big beautiful hug to you❤
Chandler you go on being you release your sister and your brother take care of your mom and I believe that she will pay sooner or later for being an inconsiderate human being so don’t worry spirit has you don’t forget all the good you do will come back to you and they will get the negative end of things sooner or later so glad you’re here💕
Thank You for sharing your personal experience with us. You did nothing wrong. You only wanted to help your sister and being a good person😊😊😊😊 As for your siblings, especially your sister it's not 🚫🚫🚫 your fault or mother for the way they are. You are being True 💯 to yourself and to who you are and your mother loves her children very much and I believe that she just can't say NO to them and accepts bring mistreated like this - but she should put strong boundaries. Both your sister and brother are grown adults and Nobody has an obligation towards them!!! Take back your power and Energy!!!! So your mother! Stop giving them time and Energy and put High boundaries!
Sending hugs & I hope you find your luggage your sister doesn’t deserve a brother like you.❤coming from me who has shitty older brothers that never help .
This is why my kids and I stick to ourselves. So sorry you were going through this and as far as being embarrassed because you are gay, you act gay or you dress gay you do you don’t worry about what others think.❤
❤ you are much loved, Chan ❤ I hope that the lost luggage will turn out to be a blessing in disguise or something better
I'm so sorry sweetheart. My family and I happen to love you, so if you ever go to Maine, you can hang out with people who value you
Be who you are and be proud. I know what it feels like to not have the same romantic interests as those around you and to be judged for that or treated differently just because of how you want to express yourself and wanting to embody to their desires. It’s pure misery living for others and not being true to yourself and your expression. Those who really rock with you will stand by you. They are coming off self loathing and selfish on the low. I’m wishing the best for you and your family and may they heal from what truly hurts them. May you also heal from your past and hopefully these losses means something better will make up for it in your future. May you find more courage and support from those who love you for expressing yourself
Firstly i love you for who you are, you have such a pure soul and always giving and loving person, never listen to people who say otherwise or don't appreciate your energy and your presence. and yes unfortunately god always puts us in unbalanced family i really don't understand why??!! not being ungrateful but yes similar situation and family members are in my life, had been a caregiver for my elder sister and helping every sibling and my parents niece, nephew literally everyone and i end up with nothing and i still never get appreciated instead i get blamed for my failure which happened because i was not doing my work and helping everyone out . i really understand your pain. but please never tone down for anyone, you are amazing!!!!
I'm just reading a book from rodrigues smthg called 4 promise and one promise is to not take anything personally ever. When people act out like they do, it's their shit, it has nothing to Do with you ore anybody Else. Everyone lives in their own Personal bubble. Just send IT back to her, it's all her crapp. Focus on your own feelings and your truth.
Bless you and I would give the World to have such a cool, sweet and great brother like you ❤️💎🦄
Wow so sorry this happened! Focus on yourself and let your sister get someone else to help her next time. Hope you get your luggage back!
I'm sorry Chan that you & your mom went thru that...plus losing your luggage. You are an amazing person dont let your siblings get you down. 🥰
You are a cute boy,Chan!
He “hate you” because you have something he don’t wanna accept ! You have a beautiful gift to understand people!So u know he is not outgrowing some thing in life spiritually! Send u love because u help us so much and you deserve love!❤️
Its the first day into ♍️ Virgo Season. And one of the best self awareness lessons, is on the EXPECTATIONS we have on others..When we have high expectations of some one, and they do not meet those expectations it can be hurtful. When there is already intuition in a situation, especially as an empath, it is important to remember to PROTECT your spirit before going, what was put up into the air manifested fast, Sometimes we put things into the air and it happens so fast that we can't even take it back...so with that i would just like to add that you are an INSPIRATION to me and i sure you are to many other people as well♡☆
Have you ever heard of a medicine bag?
I’m sorry you’re going through this Chandler but honestly? FAMILY SUCKS! And it doesn’t always get better with age. I’m almost 60 and have NEVER gotten along with my older brother. He’s been extremely jealous of me since the day I came home from the hospital! 🤷🏼♀️
Sorry you have to go through this. I love your energy and I am here for you in a lil digital hug 🫂
Wow Chandler, You are loved beyond comprehension. You stay and always realize you are perfect just the way you are. I have family members very similar and I realized recently just to "let them" because they will do what they do no matter what. We need to live the way we want and " let them" do what they do and not pay attention to them, is what I've learned. I realized I can do my best and it's never good enough ,but I know it is. Sending you all my love Chan🥰 from Chicagoland
She’ll learn eventually what a jerk she’s being.
You have been heard and oh my goooooodnesssss??? You deserve so so much MORE. You’ve touched so many lives online , I hope you can feel the love here in the space bc we’re all cheering for YOU. YOU are wonderful and kind and important. Don’t forget that ❤
I wish i had a brother like you ❤
You are so beautiful and wonderful and I’m so sorry you were in that position! So hurtful. You suited up and showed up to help family- a rare find and a good big brother. You deserve to be appreciated and your mom. We love you. You’re brilliant and gifted intuitively. And the luggage!! Argh! Mercury retrograde for sure. Sorry Buddy! ❤
Sorry for the way you were treated ,just be yourself always, hope you get luggage back ,your siblings are so cruel x
Some of the hardest lessons I've had to learn have been distancing myself from family. Sending you positive vibes. I appreciate you.