Stephanie Buttermore Got Plastic Surgery (and Fans Lost Their $h*t)
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Hey everyone I’m Abbey Sharp welcome to Abbey’s Kitchen. Today I’m going to pulling up an older video from Stephanie Buttermore that recently resurfaced when she made a really honest and authentic post on Instagram about plastic surgery and body positivity.
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As a mother and medical professional, don’t you think the colostrum should go to the calf?
@moder_nord2475 it should. But cows produce much more colostrum than the calf even needs, plus it's best practice to feed calves the collostrum from older cows because it's better quality - so they could just send the colostrum from younger cows to make "supplements" and it's not going to affect the calves getting quality colostrum.
However, they're also not allowed to allow colostrum into the milk supply to be sent for human consumption under food health and safety laws. So take that as you will.
"...decision made without external pressure..." This is not possible in our present society. Women are expected to look a certain way by society. The pressure is real.
That’s my issue as well. No decision we make isn’t influenced by society, and especially women’s appearances are under so much scrutiny, that these decisions cannot really be solely “my own decision for myself”…
So are men. There are ideals for everyone and every single decision we make is influenced by other people, no matter which kind of decision.
exactly this
still not your buisness.
@@Diana-qp2rwnot the point
I legit don’t give a rats ass if someone gets plastic surgery. It’s not something I wanna do but everyone’s body is their own. . I just don’t like when people get it and hide it then use it their new body to sell something or use it as unrealistic expectations.. if you are online and have a platform jsut own up to your plastic surgery . Because we know anyways . Also don’t get filler and then tell me your face cream your selling is going to help my wrinkles etc .. that also bothers me .
I get it, thanks for sharing!
trueee, BUT this might just be a me thing: the other problem I see is body dismorphia leading to wanting to do these types of surgeries in most cases which I dont think is always healthy.
We always encourage to accept the way someone is, but if you really feel like the change will make your world then by all means. The thing is, Stefanie never stuck out to me as someone who genuinly needs done anything, she was basically perfect. Of course this is my subjective view, but lets be honest, this surgery was only to become closer to perfection and thats whats bugging me. Hhe fact that she still saw the need to do anything makes it just look me like it was done due to body dismorphia and pressure from social media 🤷♀️
So long as they get it done by a doctor who knows what they’re doing I couldn’t care less (I’ve seen one too many documentaries where stuff has…happened b/c the ‘plastic surgeons’ didn’t do their job properly, those docs are usually chosen for monetary reasons but it’s still not worth the risk imo)
So? Should we add to the pressure? One side saying that you should be perfect and do everything. The other side now is saying that if you do anything it’s “just because you wanna be perfect”? Are we not adding to the shame?
@@reflectlight1368 I agree with you .. why did she feel the need for it because I agree she was perfect before ! It’s like Megan fox . We can all agree before any of her surgeries and procedures she was beautiful ! But she was like 20 and getting her boobs done .. 23 and changing her nose ( which was a perfect nose to me before ) then came the lips and the Botox before two kore boob jobs !? But why !? The fact that seemingly gorgeous perfect beautiful women are constantly changing themselves to be “perfect” .. like I said it’s not my body it’s theirs but I really want to know when is perfect !? Perfect enough and I wonder now is this boob job going to make Stephanie happy or is there more coming !? Sometimes i feel it’s the beginning of wanting more .
I'm glad she was transparent about her surgery. I still haven't fully come to a conclusion on elective augmentation surgeries but I have definitely decided I hate when public figures who use their body for content lie about plastic surgery
I wish she was more transparent about all of the other cosmetic stuff she’s done for that exact reason!
Totally understandable
@@abbielindellwhy? What does it matter to you, how you live your life? I don't understand why anyone cares what anyone else does to their own bodies. It's weird to expect someone to report everything and anything they do to THEMSELVES.
@@Mikaboba100it’s weird to me to pick and choose when not to share. In real life my friends/ coworkers/ strangers share these things with each other. Influencers pick and choose when they want to be honest and up front and that’s weird to me.
Example used in the video is the Kardashian’s who recently decided to disclaim obvious things they’ve had done that they’ve been actively denying and contributing to working out and eating healthy. These people want to be praised/ credited for being up front and honest because that is where the internet is heading these days is transparency.
Coming forward about one cosmetic surgery implies you’ve had one surgery. If it was for you and not because society made you feel you needed this surgery, people should be proud to have finally purchased something to make them happy.. there wouldn’t be the shame/ secrecy.
@@Mikaboba100It matters as soon as people give advice on how to achieve a certain look, especially when they’re selling a product.
Don’t you think a fitness influencer who has a flat stomach because she had liposuction should disclaim that? Otherwise, many people will believe that she achieved this by following routines or programs she shares and sells.
Same goes for people you know privately, if they have had work done or taken medication or even illegal drugs to achieve a certain result, I do believe they should be transparent about that instead of claiming they achieved this completely on their own by eating less, just training, etc. (or just don’t talk about it at all, they aren’t trying to sell you something after all).
But don’t lie and feed into the illusion that something that can’t be achieved naturally can be achieved naturally. Just say you don’t want to talk about it if you don’t want to tell everyone what you have done instead of lying. And if you’re selling something, be transparent.
Now, this isn’t about Stephanie, just ,y general thoughts on this topic.
"...and for the criticism that this is *off-brand*, or hypocritical of her..."
THIS. This was the line that got me. Regardless of my personal opinion on plastic surgery and the beauty industry, or my speculations about Stephanie's mental health and private life, this is where my problem lies.
Stephanie Buttermore is an individual. A person with a right to do WHATEVER she wants to herself. Not a brand. Not a concept. Not a product sample from the line called "influencer". She does not have to hold herself to any "guidelines" in her health and appearance.
She does not owe anyone an "on-brand" personality.
Unfortunately, once you become an influencer you’re a brand in the eyes of most viewers. People think they own you. 🫣
I agree with you Abbey that wanting to augment your body doesn’t mean you don’t love and respect it. For all we know Stephanie had a breast deformity she wanted to fix and just doesn’t feel comfortable talking about it. There are several breast deformities out there, I had one myself and got implants to correct it. Everyone has the right to do things like that. People need to mind their own business and let her live.
Thanks for sharing your story!
I just rewatched stephanie's video and it jumped out at me when she mentioned not being comfortable sharing the reason for getting the procedure. I figure that the most common reason someone would do it would be simply aesthetics and probably wouldn't need to be brought up unless there was something more to it, maybe health-wise or a particular insecurity.
Same! Best decision I ever made.
@@AbbeysKitchen aw of course! Thanks for posting! :) Loved your videos!
@@lmsk5178 Aw I'm so glad you've had the same experience! :)
I doubt women would want to get breast implants if there wasn't societal pressure to have a particular body shape. I appreciate stephanie being honest but I did unfollow her around that time because her content just isn't what I'm interested in anymore. I don't think getting cosmetic surgery aligns with body acceptance. I do believe in bodily autonomy and obviously she has the right to do whatever she wants with her body but it doesn't make sense to make a bunch of videos about accepting your body as it is and then going and getting plastic surgery. Nobody HAS to accept their body, people have the right to change whatever they want about their appearance but if you have profited off preaching accepting what your body looks like, it makes no sense to get surgery to alter it.
Breast implants aren't a small aesthetic choice. It is a clear attempt at fitting into what society demands women's bodies look like. I can't blame her for wanting them. I've considered implants several times, however I had to make a decision between accepting whatever my body looks like and trying to fit into societal beauty standards. Again, she has the right to do whatever she wants but I will not be following someone who profits off of messaging about body acceptance but then gets surgery to fit into the profitable body shape.
@RoastedSaltedPeanut A very self-righteous admonition, I must say (easy there, sheriff).
Self-acceptance? That's a slogan; the palaver we tell us ourselves to feel better about not measuring up to society's standards. But not what we tell ourselves in private when no one is about to see or hear us. It's one thing to talk a good game that one accepts oneself and quite another to actually stop being self-critical (to silence that little derisive voice in one's head that says you're not quite good enough because basically what woman doesn't hear it being said about women all the time). She's just a woman like the rest of us who is subject to the same neuroses about their looks, appearance, and image.
Yes, she's trying to fit "into what society demands women's bodies look like". But, so what? We go to school to fit into what society demands is intelligence. Beauty is like IQ--a fabricated myth, but one that has life consequences if we don't fulfill it. Things are a lot more complicated than you make it.
Why are the powerless being blamed for what the powerful impose on them? Rich white men make the rules. Stop flogging her and come up with a resolution besides reprimanding women who conform. You conform too but in different ways.
Of course, without the pressure from society and just the current beauty trend, women would never have any material surgically placed inside their bodies. Cosmetic surgery does not align with body acceptance. I agree with you. Everyone has the right to do these things with their body. And everybody also has the right to say "your messages or actions are not supporting my own personal development", everyone has the right to unfollow a person because their message/actions are triggering you, everyone has the right to mention that someone's actions don't allign with their message (like in the case of Stephanie).
While I would never judge someone who gets plastic surgery, it sometimes makes me sad. Seeing so many women be sick from their implants that they thought they “needed” was very heartbreaking to me. I worry about the risks, but it’s not my body. Ultimately, whatever makes you feel like you are able to live a life you are super happy with, then go you.
I just think that we have to realize that many plastic surgeries only exist because of societal presssure and especially as women, we cannot really escape that pressure. So while I do think everyone can do what they want, we should also keep critizing the pressure on women to have perfect boobs, noses, hair, lips etc. I definitely hope there’s less demand for (this kind of) plastic surgery in the future because the pressure is lifted!
I work with a plastic surgeon and I wish there was way more nuance and less judgement when it comes to elective procedures. There is a very stereotypical view of what the types of patients who come to our office are, and it's largely untrue. We work with patients who have lost their breasts or other body parts to cancer and want to feel whole again/not be reminded of their illness every time they look in the mirror. We work with transgender patients who want to feel like their body reflects who they are. We work with patients who have disfiguring scars they don't want people looking at. We work with patients who no longer recognize their body after having children and want to feel more in control of their lives. And that's all okay! People have broken down in our office from the sheer shame of going to a consultation with a plastic surgeon, which is an absolute tragedy. People -- even those who choose to share some of their life on social media, even those who simply want to "be more beautiful" -- have complex, private relationships with their bodies that they deserve complete autonomy over. I really wish elective cosmetic procedures were seen more as a helpful aide to other types of mental health treatment, which in my experience they absolutely are. [Edit: of course it's not black and white, of course societal expectations of beauty go into it, of course there are slimy surgeons out there. But let's let people live! Let's trust that Stephanie is an intelligent individual who made an informed decision that made her happy in her body].
In my opinion body positivity and cosmetic surgeries can not go hand in hand. Every surgery is a huge risk for your body and health.
finally someone said it
I do think elective cosmetic surgeries are harmful for a myriad of reasons that I don’t feel like getting into in typing this comment. It is an opinion I’ve carefully formed over the past decade. But - when people choose to do it, if they are transparent about it that absolutely mitigates some of those harms.
Genuine body positivity to me is radical self acceptance… BUT honesty is always better than lying.
side note: elective cosmetic surgeries after injury or disfigurement are different to me than something that is purely about chasing perfection/vanity.
@@koalatea8126If people didn't have a notion of bodily perfection, or an ideal of what the perfect body is, they would remain disfigured (which could be anything from a deviated caudal septum to burns to 50 per cent of one's body). Besides, pretty privilege makes everyone feel inadequate. It is this inadequacy, and not "vanity" (that old misogynistic chestnut men use against women, yet no one is vainer than men), that makes people want to look better.
@@Dory8exactly. “Radical self acceptance” would imply that even after an accident I accept the appearance of my body.
As someone who had breast augmentation surgery, I loved my body before and I love it more now. It’s totally possible to want change even if you love yourself. For me clothes fit better, I have a shape that is more balanced to my eye and because of those items I’ve become more confident in my clothes. If these had to come out, it would suck but it wouldn’t be a big deal. I’d still be a baddie in my eyes lol.
I am very sad to see how creators are ripped apart for being themselves. The fact that people feel like they have authority to complain or dictate people's lives because they share content online is upsetting. People can have different opinions on surgery, but this doesn't give them the right to shame others about it. The way you commented on her video with a compassionate and non-judgemental pow is refreshing
Fellow RD here, to see you recommend a colostrum supplement is so disappointing. As Dietitians we are held to a higher standard and should know better.
I don’t think it was the plastic surgery that followers were upset about. Stephanie went “all in” and gained quite a bit of weight, and then lost a lot of it, if not all of it, becoming thin again. I think viewers were confused by this, like is she relapsing, restricting, etc. again? It would be frustrating for people who went all in too and weren’t seeing the same outcome.
I actually completely agree with your point of view.. I had to unfollower her a while ago because she was getting kind of triggering 😞
@@rebekahpetty9997 right?? I feel like I saw hardly anyone commenting on the plastic surgery, unless I just missed that lol
She lost weight but she is healthy. She is comfortable. She is still fit. Her previous skinny before ‘all in’ was not healthy. She says that in all her ‘all in’ videos
I went "all in" and after my weight peaked, it started to fall by itself, without active restriction. I have an anorexia history
I love that you emphasized that healthiness is subjective. I learned from Hannah Witton (amazing UA-camr, please go check her out) that for people who have undergone ileostomy, it’s actually UNHEALTHY to eat a bunch of high-fiber or whole grain foods. Their bodies can’t digest it properly and eating them could result in life-threatening blockages. So in their case, white bread IS the healthy option! Just goes to show that health and nutrition is so personal and ultimately it needs to be about what works for you, not what the ads on social media are trying to sell you. Thank you Abbey!
We live in a society. THERE IS NOTHING (COSMETIC) YOU CHANGE ON YOUR BODY BECAUSE OF YOU.
Super interesting food for thought here!
Amen. If she was completely asexual and/or lived on a desert island she would absolutely not get surgery. She's doing it to impress other people.
I think that if you opt into an elective procedure, what’s important is that YOU feel comfortable and happy with. Maybe unintentionally societal expectations influence a decision but to say that there is “nothing cosmetic you change on your body because of you” attempts to takes a lot of the choosing persons autonomy away. She made a choice that she is happy with and that she felt was right for her. Comments saying that society pressured her or other people who opt into these procedures really aren’t productive. Let people make their choices & feel how they’d like about those choices without your external opinion on how or why they made that choice.
@@mikaylaswanson8989I think we had different perceptions of this comment. yes, NOTHING YOU CHANGE ON YOUR BODY (cosmetic) YOU CHANGE BECAUSE OF YOU, meaning like even brushing your hair many days or losing weight or painting your nails or lifting weights in specific ways for aesthetics … we are all social animals and the reason any of us value almost anything not inherent to survival and reproduction is because we were socially trained to value it (apart from behaviors inherent to pleasure that do not improve survival or reproduction, like drugs). It’s the basis of human behavior and connection, so being overly critical about a boob job and not other extremely common routines done for cosmetic purposes is inconsistent. Or at least that’s how I took it lol.
And this doesn’t “take away autonomy” to realize that the reason body mods or many ways of behaving even make anybody feel “comfortable and happy” are because somewhere along the way we have learned from other humans that that thing is good.
I can’t get over the fact some people compare breast augmentation (not reconstruction etc) to a cleft palate correction..
I don’t care what she does with her body, but I do agree that I don’t have to look up to or support a public figure talking about loving their body and then getting cosmetic surgery for pure aesthetic reasons
I haven't followed everything she's said, but hasn't she at least implied that "living her body" is an ongoing issue?
I also absolutely think she's ASD, and as a fellow ASD'er, I've got to say living in a body AT ALL can be freakin hard. Under stress, the nerves and pain that shoot off with anxiety, the feeling that your skin is suffocating you, the freezing cold blood that you feel run through your veins and to your heart, the feeling of being punched in the stomach... it's hard. No one talks about the very physical issues with ASD on the central nervous system. It's not always unbearable - but under stress it certainly is.
Oh and incase you're wondering why I think she's ASD, she has a PhD in science and her "special interest" is physically controlling her body. She's not the only one on UA-cam.
you dont know if it was purely for aesthetic reasons or not, she didnt say why she did it. youre assuming
How is that ASD? just wondering :) @@Mikaboba100
Thanks for this. I support her doing what she wants! It’s her life, and her body.
I decided to go on a journey with intuitive eating after I saw Stephanie going through her own journey, and you know what? I feel so much better after having given my body the time to heal and develop how it was supposed to. Maybe I'd never have done that if it wasn't for her, so I'll be forever grateful.
This was a brave and transparent video for you to post. Thank you! Great food for thought
Doucette was and is abusive and harassing to people, especially Stephanie. I don't understand how everyone is just kind of okay with this now because he occasionally has a correct fact in there somewhere.
I look at plastic surgery in the same way i look at tattoos, piercings, fashion and hairstyles. Getting work done doesnt inherently mean you dont love yourself or the way you look. Sometimes its literally as simple as, "i like the way big boobs look". And even if she got them because of an insecurity, why are we blaming her and not the culture that made her feel that way?
Great points
Except none of those things are nearly as dangerous and expensive as plastic surgery. Fashion trends come and go. Your body is not a trend. So many women have complications after breast implant surgery and now we know breast implant illness is a thing. Pretty hard to say you respect your body if you are doing something unecessary that could endager your health.
@@anikaclay5100except sometimes people were bullied so much that their mental health is awful. People literally end their own lives over crappy comments that strangers make about them. Who are we to deem what is safe, appropriate or healthy for anyone who is outside of our own bodies?
Tattoos are pretty dangerous too. Piercings too. A lot of horrible stuff can happen. So are we going to say that everybody that puts piercings and tattoos don’t love themselves? Are we supporting people or are we adding to the pressure? Sounds like we are adding to the pressure.
Doctors are literally experts on what is healthy and unhealthy for your body. Spending tons of money on vanity and your appearence instead of fixing your mental health with therapy or helping others is a very selfish, privileged thing to do. But that's how many Americans are and don't even realize how they look to everyone else. @@nicolepayer1931
I agree with your take, Abbey. Thank you for another great video.
MAybe I'm just sensitive about this because my ED was sparked by having small boobs (I was like if I can't have big boobs then you should at least be able to see my ribs through my back so its proportional), but at 14:39 you say that you think surgery is fine "as long as plastic surgery isn't done with external pressure", I don't think any plastic surgery can be done wo outside pressures if it helps the recipient conform better to the narrow and high standard. I think the most dangerous part about social media, cosmetic procedures, and surgery is not the expectations being placed on noncelebrities, but the narrowing of beauty standards to one ideal. Appreciating that everyone looks different and not putting a beauty judgement on how close to or how far my body is from the ideal has helped me with my relationship.
I get that Buttermore never claimed to be always body positive and everyone has things they wish were different about themselves even if they have an overall healthy relationship w their body, but I get how it feels like a betrayal to her fans.
I am a little concerned with people starting drink cow's colostrum, particularly if a company produces that in an industrial scale. Is the calf then just slaughtered on site? In wellness, there is a continuos search for the new and exclusive thing, often at the expense of animals and the expense of people's pockets. I am also not really sure there is any research showing any improvement in any condition when drinking colostrum for a long period of time. Sorry, but hard pass. Truly saddened to see this here
@@foolishlyfoolhardy6004 agreed.
Abbey does a video on Stephanie Buttermore the same day Will Tennyson releases a video with Jeff Nippard - what a fantastic day! Four UA-camrs I find so important to my body/food recovery journey. Thank you for all your excellent, intelligent, and well researched, content. Always love your two cents.
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As a mother, don’t you think colostrum should go to the CALF??
Eating nachos for dinner. Mozzarella, cheddar and BBQ sauce on blue corn chips. Dont have chicken but honestly just want the nachos just like this. i struggle with hunger cues on most days, so i really appreciate this video !❤
I think it's a lot of pressure to say that just because someone advocates body positivity, they're not allowed to ever make choices that might stem from insecurity. No, it's probably not ideal, but we all live in a society that wants us to look a certain way, and it doesn't feel very compassionate to shame other people for sometimes caving to those expectations.
It's freakin' difficult to love every aspect of yourself (ESPECIALLY when it comes to your own body), and the road to unconditional self-acceptance can be so painful and complex, no matter what principles you adhere to. I don't think we need to make individuals feel bad for not being able to handle that struggle all the time.
Also, and this isn't completely comparable, but I often go months without shaving or otherwise removing hair from any part of my body. I can wear shorts and tank tops in the summer without feeling shame about my furry body parts, and I can shower without ever feeling compelled to grab a razor.
And then sometimes, I want to shave my legs or armpits, and when I do, it's not because I hate my body hair, I just feel like switching things up a bit.
It might be a little different when it's a more permanent change like a breast augmentation, but I still don't necessarily think the choice to alter something about your body means you automatically hated or even disliked it the way it was before. I think the important thing is to have some honest conversations with yourself about why you want that change and whether it's a sign that maybe you have some deeper insecurities that might be worth exploring, whether or not you decide to go through with the alteration.
I agree, it’s nearly impossible to love everything about your body (or yourself).
We are allowed to try to change ourselves and become a better person, we are even encouraged to do so, and rightfully so. But when it comes to our body, why should we not be allowed to change something about if it makes us feel better?
I’m not saying we should all get plastic surgery to change every little thing we don’t like. But if there’s something truly bothers us and we feel much better and more comfortable in our own body afterwards, it might be the right choice for someone. No, you’re probably not body positive about this one thing about your body you choose to change, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be positive overall or advocate for accepting your flaws.
I, for example, don’t like my body hair and I remove it, but that doesn’t mean I don’t feel good about my appearance in general or feel ashamed of my body hair, I just prefer my body without it. I also bleached my hair, but not because I hate my real hair color, not even because I like it less than blonde hair, but because I feel like this is what I want to look like right now. Same goes for painting my nails or lips, I do it because I like it, not because I hate my natural look.
Now, I wouldn’t call myself body positive, I’m not a big fan of such labels, but I’m certainly happy with my looks, even though there are things I change about my appearance. I believe the same can apply to people who get surgery, just that they don’t feel good about one single thing and feel much better after changing it.
To be fair, carbonara does have protein 😁 the egg, the bacon and the cheese are all protein sources :)
I don't know this lady but I can completely understand why people in her audience would feel betrayed. Nobody is arguing here that people can't do what they want w/their bodies but in this case her viewers pointed out that SHE SHAMED another woman for this same decision and perhaps was NOT preaching a "body respect" message but more of a "i love my body the way it is now" message so to do that with a large audience and then go under anesthesia to get a permanently altering surgery on a body part that is ONLY for aesthetic purposes does seem pretty disingenuine and she can absolutely be judged for that b/c for all the work she might do in one space with her personal gains with eating addiction recovery she can also be sending a harmful message to the people who ARE on a slippery slope with their body image issues. Everybody who doesn't agree with her decision isn't a hater- some people can be really disappointed. Not that it should matter if it's a decision about your body- but if you're a public figure making a living by sharing intimate details about your body- it's par for the course. I hate when people want us to applaud them for what THEY DID FOR THEMSELVES but get upset when the same people criticize them- also for a decision they made for themselves. 🫠
Why do you only make critical commentary about peoples diets when they’re skinny or fit, but never criticize plus sized peoples diets? I’m genuinely just curious.
I always assumed it was because most people look up to/try to emulate skinny/fit looking people, and she wants people to be aware of what exactly it is that they're doing.
And notice how she never makes critical videos about men either, it’s always skinny white women
@@aileenbastos2750 a lot of plus sized people look up to plus size influencers and want to emulate their looks. So why wouldn’t that be said about them as well? Why only ever call out more fit or skinny people’s eating?
@@mandyrules4life bc there’s ample content out there like that
While she does address a lot of content about nutrition in general, she tends to have a specific focus on eating disorder recovery. And for people who are recovering from an eating disorder, the videos that are put out by thin wellness influencers can be difficult to recognize as potentially unhealthy. It can be a lot easier for a person in ED recovery to recognize the unhealthy habits of an overweight UA-camr, but the habits of a thin influencer can be harder to recognize when they are unhealthy, Because, due to society's tendency to equate thinness with health, the very fact that they are coming from a thin influencer gives the impression that habits are healthy, even if they are not. So I think Abbey is trying to shed some light specifically in an area that can be confusing for people recovering from an eating disorder.
Just wanted to say that yesterday I went to a restaurant and ate a full piece of cake! While I am trying to loose weight for health reasons. I mostly eat super well now and reasonable portions. I exercise and do muscle training. I didn’t even count calories for that meal or felt bad. I try to fallow your advices (except for calorie counting because I feel it helps me to have a general idea of what I eat). Thank you for posting such helpful vids!
And for something completely different - wondering Abbey what your take is on niacin and inflamation of the arteries, and also the new data that IF is correlated to higher incidence of death from cardiovascular disease!
Saying that plastic surgery can't be body positive excludes transgender people from body positivity in my opinion as a transgender person
This is an important perspective too
Facts
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I agree! I think gender affirming plastic surgery should be destigmatised for cis and trans people. Trans women & cis women get implants for the same reason.
@@Nadia-jk5jw you have put this perfectly
I’m a fan of Stephanie & I legit forgot about this lol. I don’t really care tbh but I appreciated her honesty. I think it’s good to have more dialogue about both the pros & cons of plastic surgery tbh.
Don't people have other problems. If it's her thing, if she feels better after surgery I'm glad for her and that's it.
as someone who got implants very young and removed them later, let me tell you, yes you think you are doing it "for yourself" but you don't. I also thought I do it for myself. But let's be honest, we do it to look better for the outside world; and that is okey. We want to look good for ourselves, yes. But why? So we feel more comfortable in this word.
No matter if it is about dressing up nicely, wearing nice make up or hairstyles,Fillers, Botox .... yes it is for ourselves, but ultimately it is also for the sake of perception of others. We want to be liked. That is in our biology. We all do it and it is okey.
But let's be honest with ourselves and stop pretending. But let's be honest with ourselves and stop pretending.
Hi Abbey, can you do a review of Kalel's newest video 'REALISTIC what I ate today'? You did a video on her four years ago - she's that ex-vegan that kept spouting bad diet/weight advice and was promoting skinny teas in her video. She goes on a rant in the beginning of her newest video about how all 'what I eat in a day' videos are fake because "none of those size 00 influencers eat like that everyday" and then goes on to show her daily meals which seems to promote the idea that people need to eat a dangerously low amount of calories like she did if they want to be skinny
Would love to see you do a vid w/ tons of HCC snack ideas!
I have struggled on and off with body issues my whole life. Right now I am currently the healthiest and strongest I have ever been. I feel amazing but recently the nagging voice of it’s not enough has been creeping back in. I was beating myself up this morning for being too tired to do my original workout plan, instead opting for yoga and a walk, and feeling like I HAVE to get a lift in later to make up for it. This video is a good reminder, I need to focus on feeling healthy, not arbitrary numbers.
Good on her for feeling comfortable enough to share with her audience. I hope she doesn’t come to regret sharing or the surgery. I think plastic surgeries should be talked about more, in an informative and factual manner rather than a judgmental manner. Having an augmented surgery like hers is a decision that will affect her body long-term and most people don’t understand that, they just care about the aesthetic. People in the public eye, that use plastic surgery to stay relevant/famous/profit, should be more open about their surgeries. I think it’s amazing that Stephanie did!
Far too many women in my family had or died of breats cancer. I went to a specialist and got myself tested to see if I had what they call the Angelina Jolie gene which would mean preventative complete breast tissue removal followed by breast augmentation covered by insurance. Many people would think "cool, free boob job". I'm not too excited about it, it brings a lot of complications I'd rather not face. The alternative is just way worse. I don't have the results yet, I might pass, but for this reason, I am absolutely the team "mind your own business". Our body, our choice, always.
2 things can be true at the same time. You can love your body and still want to alter it.
When is the ozempic update coming? I’m curious to hear how ginger is doing 😌
I hate that they'e coming after her with with all that she has been through.
Is there somethin cooking in the background while she records? From the beginning I was hearing this sticky crackling noise, but you can hear it more succinctly at 8:11 going from a clip and then back to filming. Just wanted to help troubleshoot 💕🌸 is all !!
Yes to all of this❤
Will all due respect, this is not a "better message anyway". I kind of agree with this guy, who said it is hypocrisy to preach how much you love your body and then get surgery to change it. Why didn't she talk about hating her breasts then? Oh it is personal - LOL, while sharing everything else online. The thing is that everyone wants a piece of the influencer pie on the body positivity topic - meanwhile social media makes you totally hate your body flaws. But these people can't really influence on anything else, because their lives revolves around their bodies.
@esikkazemese We used to say about people who loved themselves (and meaning their looks and body) love me do. You don't love your body (that would be shallow); you love your mum or your spouse or your dog. C'mon! It's just a feel-good sentiment, a bromide, a piece of uplift that we had to come up with because our rotten society does it's best to make us feel so bad about our bodies (appearance etc.) to fend ourselves from it. The best way, however, of fighting it is via activism (feminism).
Yeah, influencers are the last place to look for help. Their job is to create content and they are the most affected by the standards. The only thing that helps is to stay as far from social media as possible and stop following people for their bodies. Just stop thinking about it, make the body feel good and that's all. Nothing external will ever help you accept your body. @@Dory8
Same reason you can love your house but still paint it a different color…. Love doesn’t mean you don’t ever change anything
Except that painting my house doesn't mean I risk my life to look a certain way.@@realSimoneCherie
How about we talk how Abbey once again proved to us that she is the best ❤
If anyone is considering buying Abbey's protein powder, Unnatural Vegan created a really good video dissecting her claims.
My boyfriend brought me one of her workout routines and it’s been tough but well worth it so far.
I don’t really care if people get plastic surgery. It’s whatever, so long as they’re being honest about it
I've read conflicting information on Armra colostrum (and colostrum supps in general). Do you have research links to support efficacy of over the counter supplementation specifically (not just in lab, high dose, etc.)? I looked in your caption but only saw research links for the discussion in today's video re: plastic surgery. Thanks if you have it!
Woww I didn't even realize I still have so much food rules until I saw the part about the pasta😅
Not saying this is her case but we don’t see many people in the west who develop oddly due to nutrition or environmental damage. Also, there are people who benefit from surgery to look more harmonious, eg if their overall physique is super masculine but they are femme identifying (cis or trans), sometimes YES, get that surgery is good for them and who am I to say if they need it or don’t. It’s a more extreme form of hair dying I guess, so that’s fine by me.
Super off-topic, but does anybody know where Abbey's yellow sweater is from? (It looks so good on you, Abbey; I want one for myself!)
Wait! Minute 4:02…. She says she has learnt to not skip meals because she’s not hungry 🤔 foreign concept to me 🤣 I struggle the other way around hahaha
I always find your channel, very interesting and insightful. I’m unsure if some of the products you discuss regarding GUT health are good for me as i don’t have a large bowel but instead have a J-Pouch, if possible would you be able to reply whether this product would be helpful or not. Thanks so much.
I'm actually really glad you brought her up. I miss her UA-cam presence deeply. She's HUMAN. People seem to forget that. She's just a women with insecurities like anyone else..& most people would if they could. I think it's really sad that people ran her outta her over it. :(
I stand for the point - Do what makes you happy.
If it makes her happy and she feels better with this approach to food (which is great, Stephanie had a long journey) its her decision, wants a plastic surgery - her decision, wants cosmetic treatment - her decision. And NOBODY can tell me, that they did not think about changing something on themselves. Whether its loosing weight, cosmetic tweaks, plastic surgery, face massages, body treatments etc. All of those, are changing your body, because you want to change something on yourself and you want to feel good. Everyone though about it, everyone has insecurities, even people who TRY to be body positive. But even those people are not immune against the society and the influence that we see all around us.
So these reactions - OMG she done her breasts... so? if I had the money I would do it also, even though I love myself, but I still want to look and feel the best I want. And that's it. You cannot blame anybody for wanting them to feel and be the best version of themselves.
Simple as that.
Colostrum for human consumption makes me SO uncomfortable. Like, we were already taking baby's milk for our cereal, but now we're taking literally their most vital nutrients that they NEED in the first few days of their life. You even said it yourself. That's so incredibly sad.
You have a lot of sponsors! The first part of the video though. 😂
Big difference in adding art on your body like tattoos/haircolour etc. and making a part of your body into a certain shape and size, that's for some reason deemed the ideal by some group of people.
One is drawing/colouring on your body/hair because you like the picture/colour vs. something that basically wouldn't exist without the p*rn industry/men (not all men! inb4 I get attacked for that) pushed it on women.
After all, having big melon shaped boobs, full lips etc. is the male gaze.
Imo, plastic surgery should only be for medical reasons such as reconstruction, breast cancer survivors etc. And of course for trans people.
I'm 36, and this is an opinion I've formed through lots of reading scientific journals, and I'm still waiting for science that says people who get these done isn't due to the influence of some outside opinion that a body part sould look a certain way. 😅 understand it a bit more if f.ex. everyone who got breast auguementations got a natural tear drop shape in a size that matches their body. But most get them as two half melons on their chest. 😅
@christinelindberg-gihus1590 Are you living on a mountain top? What isn't influenced by one's society? There's a reason we here in the west drive cars rather than ride camels everyday to work. Try a camel and see if people don't stare at you and deem you crazy. I shave my legs because no one would employ me if I showed up with hairy legs. Okay, I don't have that much hair but you get my point. The reason you don't wear your bikini to church is because you know society would disapprove. Get real.
The colostrum is so expensive is there an alternative that is economically accessible?
Original recipe carbonara has actually a lot of proteine from egg, cheese (pecorino and parmigiano) and "guanciale" , but yes no veggies and it makes you feel guilty for all the carbs and fat... it can be a good plate for after hard workout.
It legitimately sucks that people can’t live their authentic selves without having to come to the Internet and explain all the changes they’ve made to their body. It’s none of our business, and also frankly why we care so much?
I’m genuinely confused why you pulled an almost year old video from someone you specifically say you had a falling out with, for a video in relation to plastic surgery which isn’t even the focus of your channel?
i know this is not the point of the video, but does anyone know where those pants are from? they are so cute!
You know, there are many reasons for cosmetic surgery. I personally went for a breast reduction and you know what? Part of it WAS for cosmetic reasons but part of it wasnt. I had back pain and low body confidence and having that procedure helped both physically and emotionally.I mean at least now I can exercise without being slapped in the face now ijs.
I think it’s a brilliant point that if you criticise people for changing the way their body looks through cosmetic surgery but not through injectables/piercings/tattoos ect then you probably need to take a step back and have another think about it
Idk to me piercings and tattoos are examples of individual expression most of the time and just a way of adorning ourselves. Cosmetic surgery- injectables included- is a done from a place of insecurity, and as a means of fitting into a toxic, unreasonable beauty standard. Two very different things in my opinion.
I do also believe that everyone can do with their body as they want.. I just also woud consider that medical ressources are used to get "pretty" if its for themselves or because of society . Plus every surgery has health risks & causes stress to their own body - even when you have a knee trauma would think about getting a surgery twice.... Plus we cant ignore that people compare themselves (also children)to the people around us
Plus if we dont "need" to do something like botox, make up ... to be able to live a normal life is probably the only way to really do it freely.. so when we dont have to do it but like to do it it might be a sign that we really do it for ourselves?
Wait i gotta go watch her video first brb
I want to know what you think about xiaomanyc’s weight loss video
I truly don’t think it is anyone’s business what you do to your body. This is ridiculous. 😂 people really think the strangers they follow online OWE them everything.
Abbey, loved this video. I’m curious to hear what you think about lovesweatfitness. As a follower of hers for years, I was heartbroken when she got BA because I did feel like everything about ‘love yourself’ that she preached to us, was a lie because she wasn’t taking her own advice. I do find it hard to follow someone who doesn’t believe in what they are saying. And I do think that going under the knife and getting a surgery that’s purely for cosmetic reasons that literally makes you unable to workout for weeks and something you have to maintain for the rest of your life, is not truly loving your body. Would you do a video about lovesweatfitness? Her reasoning to me makes no sense and I just feel it’s an excuse. I would have actually been happier as a follower if she just came out and said, hey I love most of me, but I am insecure about my breasts and I got a BA. I really enjoy your videos because you always give, I think, a very unbiased opinion. If you see this, thanks! 😊
Good video
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What if you have a health condition like osteoporosis where you're better off having protein at every meal? Would it still be fine to skip protein then?
This is probably a trial and error thing on a case by case basis.
That’s her last video posted. Sad. People are so cruel.
I still don’t understand why people need to know everything about the content creators they follow. They have a right to keep private whatever they want. I don’t understand, either, why people think they have a say on what these creators do with their bodies. It’s THEIR bodies, not ours. And I fail to comprehend why people get so angry and mean towards these creators if they do something with their bodies that people don’t like or understand. Creators don’t owe us an explanation for everything, and just because they choose to do something we don’t understand, doesn’t mean they’re betraying a cause. I think that we have plenty of reasons to demand accountability from a creator if they’re hiding endorsements or lying about their successes, because it lead us to believe it’s our fault we’re not achieving the same results by doing the same thing the creators are supposedly doing. Those actions are fraudulent in my opinion. Everything else is for them to decide what’s best.
What if your set weight is obese for your height?
Having a breast augmentation doesn’t mean you don’t love your body. Hats off to women for being brave enough to face the backlash of weak minded people when they tell people they have had surgery
I have the same experience. Even some of my closest friends ki nda changed their approach because I had a BA. Like I didn't get a brain altering surgery FYI, I got a boob job. For myself. Paid it myself. Why does this happen, I truly don't understand?
Who's that client of Greg's that is on the obese side? He looks familiar!
We don't get to make videos and comments and opinions and criticisms for years about a woman's body and watch her suffer and struggle to make it through for our entertainment and then be shocked and surprised when she makes a change in her appearance?? I don't effing get it. She doesn't owe us anything, we don't know her, she's not our friend. She is a stranger who we have a tiny sliver of information about and she exists in the body she has, her brain is in her head, and we have no right to tell her that she can't do anything to HER body to make it easier, make her feel good, etc etc. As far as I'm aware she's not shilling a discount code for a plastic surgeon so what right do people have to fling their disgust her way. It's just more harassment. Putting someone on a pedistal is still dehumanizing, and women have enough of that to deal with already .
I disagree with this because dysphoria exists 🤷💁
Never heard of her but she gives me Kardashian vibes ;-)
intro is waaaay too long. 4 minutes is waaaay too long
Abby can we go over your Botox regime . You have less wrinkles and facial expressions as you did in your older videos. All good but it should be addressed.
I can love my house and still renovate my kitchen.
We need to stop with the "plastic surgery bad" ideology, especially when it comes to children. Plastic surgery is necessary to correct cleft pallets/ulcerated birth marks or repair scarring. Im not saying anyone should feel like they need to get a butt ton of surgery to fit a trendy shape, but just getting a boob job isn't outrageous.
100% agree-it is personal choice!
Necessary?? Do you know how many people I know with cleft palettes who don't give a fuck? I have an ulcerated birthmark, and I've never even thought to have it removed. You are a sad and weak-willed person if you think cosmetic divergences "require" surgical correction. I used to resemble a gremlin as a child, but with NO plastic surgeries, nips or tucks, or external work of any sort, one day turned into a victoria's secret model. Who you are at any given stage of your life doesn't limit you and hem you in as your ultimate destination for the rest of your life. Anything is possible with hard work, a positive attitude, love towards others, and dedication towards your goals. Imagine if I let people's criticisms of my appearance push me to get a nose-job for my then, crazy-looking nose? One day, all my features gained harmony with one another, and I became conventionally "beautiful." No ear-pinnings necessary asa 12-year-old. Had I changed my looks early on, I may have never become a ultimately naturally attractive person. Beauty isn't the point. Beauty is the thing that one day shines through when you're living your life with alignment.
Love this! Spending the remaining days of my career helping those with ED. I do wonder what was said to her that negated her choice- if she wanted to change her body for herself, that is way different. In my experience, it’s been a comparison comment that the woman couldn’t shake 😢 ugh…
Love your take on this Abbey, I think she was being very up front and vulnerable with her followers & the backlash was unjustified.