S05 Ep09: A Root of Rejection & Mental Health
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- Опубліковано 9 лют 2025
- One of my great passions is to equip believers to live in mental and emotional health. I believe it is important that we heal, grow and experience transformation in a way that strengthens the health of our minds and hearts.
This subject hits close to home, as I have had to learn first hand how to heal and overcoming in areas of mental health. From anxiety, panic attacks, OCD and more, I am deeply passionate about seeing people overcome and regain their mental health.
I believe that mental health is not a subject left for those who are clinically diagnosed.It is a lifestyle subject we all need to be a part of. Maybe you have some battles in your thoughts that are hindering your daily life. Maybe you have a loved one who is struggling.
Either way, it’s becoming clear that we live in a culture that is showing a growing number of mental health battlegrounds.
In this episode, I want to help you realize that a root of rejection is a core issues that needs to be addressed.
Exposing the Rejection Mindset: markdejesus.co...
People need to watch this guy who needs inner healing and just can't get a grip on inter-relational issues, anxiety and the rest. Google, bump up this guys volume! Thank you Mark. Truly effective. Praise God and bless you.
Mark: "I hope this is making sense" Me: ABSOLUTELY!
Thank you ! God has led me to your messages. This is what I have been weeping over for a while now, and I am now 48 years old. A lot of wasted money in counseling that has done zero to help me. The verse Perfect Love cast Out fear alwsy filled my mind bc Ive been full of fear and rejection that has plagued my life. Even the church can heap unrealistic expectations on people and fail to bring the understanding of God's love to our souls. I hope this can help me move past my fear and.emptiness in my soul.❤❤❤
You're not alone. I also spent a ton of money and effort in professional counselling and didn't get to the root issues. Church also doesn't want to talk about this stuff too deeply as it doesn't appeal to the masses and wants everyone to serve and give. And when they do talk about it, it's relatively superficial and inaccurate. Marks messages are a real blessing.
Wow i just cant believe this...i cant believe you get it...u understand what was going on with me my whole life...i never had a preacher discuss this with me.....it makes sense i had a rejection problem not a drug problem, i had a love problem im going to keep digging into your videos thank you praise God
I relate to your comment, how are you doing atm? Is it still hard? are u doing better thanks for answering as I am also in the hard place
@@Mia15239 I'm having some issues at the moment too.
@@luketrim2710Are you doing better now?
How are you now?@@luketrim2710
Long journey for me, too! But it is the journey God chose for us to learn. If you are depressed and anxious, Ketamine treatment works!!!!
This is so relevant, true, & astute! When the Holy Spirit comes in during prayer, I sob like a baby. Didn’t get the love I needed as a child. God is healing me & showing me his unconditional love. I’m on a healing journey!
Thank you Mark!! You are a God sent! I have suffered with rejection for all my life. And now I understand…. You are a blessing. Please keep inspiring. Hallelujah !!✝️
Great to hear acknowledgment that the root of metal illness.
(I would say the root of addiction and complex ptsd as well).
Rejected and not welcomed into the world the child concludes it is his fault because of who he is, that he is rejected and scorned.
The child feels SHAME about who he is. Who God made him to be.
Consequently he rejects himself and resolves never to reveal his true self to anyone ever again. He then starts on the exhausting road of making himself what he thinks other people want him to be.
Love you mark!... Thanks for your cooperation with God and for letting him use you to unpack so many hurting tormented and enslaved people of which I am one!... The Light of Hope is such a beautiful thing to those who sit in the deepest darkness
People don't make time for one another. Texting is not a replacement for conversations
I am right there with you.
The body of Christ needs to be a safe place for us
I think maybe my worst rejection is self rejection. I hate myself terribly. I need help! I want so bad to be close to God.
I feel overwhelmed by the state of my mental health and the mountain of emotional and psychological and Spiritual debris that I have to dig into to even just get to some of the deep wounds that are festering. I am starting to wonder after so many years of of trying if there is a way out from under this blanket of rejection and depression and despair scrupulosity and general feeling of being empty devoid of Love. It would take months of non stop counselling 24-7 just to scratch the surface. I still somehow hope that God ie there and cares for me and restores me. I am trying again for the hundredth time in hope of finding more joy and peace in Him again.
I hear you :(
“You will find Me, when you seek Me all your heart.”
Let’s not give up or be weary of seeking Him. Every day let’s keep confessing our sins to Him and move closer to know Him.
“Come unto Me all you who are weary and heavy laden and I will give you rest.”
Dear Father, please create in us a clean heart and put a new and right and willing spirit within us. Amen
Counselling helps to some degree but having done it for multiple years, there's some key things that weren't able to be revealed or healed. Even the counsellor admitted he could only diagnose or understand the problem, but not medicate and only God can heal. By all means continue counselling if it's helping you but now I understand God's love is what I've been needing all along. Mark's videos have been very helpful and a game changer for me, and I believe it will be for you too.
I have no words. This uncovers so much in my life...it's the solution to all of my mental health challenges. Mark you are a Godsend.
I can't believe how spot on the content is!
Dear Mark...I have struggled with Scrupulosity OCD for over most of my life..I have held onto the promise that " you will overcome your enemies little by little." I believe God is using you and your ministry to help set people like me FREE indeed.Thank You Lord ! All praise and glory to Jesus! Thank you Mark for being obedient to the Holy Spirit ..I don't believe in accidents.I have been crying out my whole life for messages that you share from the Father heart of God.Praise Him!⚓Hope our anchor..Jesus💜🙏
Church hurt is the most damaging!
I agree.
It is the worst. Brother DeJesus helped me see they aren’t real Christians if they wound you intentionally. Pray for them. Watch God move.
We expect people to be perfect even though we arent
Because it damages our perception of God
This was so good. Thank you so very much for sharing the truth with us. I was struggling with how to care for my younger child and I carry the weight of shame and fear of not being a good parent. I had been desperately looking for someone (therapy) to help me fix him but all have been unsuccessful/inconsistent which I believe creates confusion in our lives. Therapy hasn't helped us so far but that's because I mistakingly thought therapy was the solution to "fix-all." You're right, God has given me the power to help and to pray over him. It's my job as a parent to create a loving atmosphere through God's power to help my baby get through this war on his mind, coupled with the therapy. I'm now trusting God for the solution because He will never leave us nor forsake us. He has equipped us with everything we need. Praise God!
Spot on. Thankful for how your past has purposed a very helpful ministry. Healing rejection, OCD, effort by works, etc. Revealing true freedom in Christ and trusting God. Your book on rejection has also been very beneficial.
So glad Clint, thank you!
I’ve been experiencing this in my life at this moment. It really has crippled my life but God is working on it. Thank you, Mark.
Mark! You are ministering the truth! Grateful you were somehow in my feed. Keep teaching. Don't stop.
Your story is exactly what I’ve been going through. I am so grateful I found your videos mark. Thank you
Unbelievable, I’m also taking the Rejection Mindset training course. I’m excited about all of this and excited about my journey to wholeness. Thank you so much 😊 Mark and Melissa for your ministry. It’s amazing, the story of my life.
Wow, Mark. This has hit home in a major way. Thank you for this. Love you, man!
So glad @mighty men of valor it hits home for me too. Glad God used it to bless you!
@marktdejesus I had no idea. Jesus is helping me through the hurts of my spiritual heart. I asked Him to show me and help me thru this and I looked up Mark 5 mental health heart hurts and you popped up. I didn't think I had mental health. I looked it up and it's linked to the hurts and pains of the heart in my soul. I really had no clue. This is my second time listening to this video. It explains so much. I've also learned about the marine kingdom and python spirit and how they work together. But how can this be if I accepted Christ? Because I accidentally accepted these faults or that they stayed? Anyhow thank you thank you thank you, praise Jesus for you.
People are Broken .
Since this lockdown
I see God is bringing inner healing me, its hard The places went to please keep going Brother sister De Yeshua it helpings me to help people thankyou may God bless you
Mark DeJesus, I am so glad that I re-found you! I guess I just wasn't ready for your message when I came across you earlier. Thanks for all that you do.
I need help with this. I forgave my mom and dad. I didn't knows my dad until I was thirty years. My mom is an alcoholic. She never hugged me or said I love you. I have 4 kids & I do the opposite. But I have isolated myself & I want to be strong in the Lord. Or I'll spiritually die. God showed me your channel. I'm scared & nervous on this journey. I can't deal with feeling so I numb witb drugs. Thank you brother. I need this
Thank you 😊 Mark, whenever I listen to you I can feel hope again. I was not nurtured as a child 👧 even though my parents always told me that they loved me. I now know that my father had OCD but I didn’t know about it back then. I believe that this is how I got it. It is definitely hereditary. I sometimes still think I am hopeless, but I am on my journey to learning the Fathers love for me❤️.
Thank you for your ministry and your inspiration for all of us who suffer with OCD.
Yes the church needs to definitely be aware of mental health
😮😢 So I just literally watched this and this was for years ago. I'm in a real dark unhappy place at the moment and I'm working on hoping it changes but this is exactly what is happening. I hope someone prays for me to get out of this deep dark whole. It has to be possible for me although it's already been a very long time and I've just lost my son 4mos ago 😢
I'm so sorry about the loss of your son. Praying for you. ❤
Praying for comfort ❤
Praying… ❤
This is so powerful!
Ok, I need to listen to this SEVERAL times. There are some tasty nuggets here! Safety!!!
My biggest challenge was forgiving me self! Thank mark for this video .
glory to God for wisdom upon his servant Mark. there is no health without mental health. church has been casting demons instead teaching of reality to the body of Christ
This is excellent....brings so much understanding.. thanks Lord.and bless you Pastor Mark.
I have religious OCD, legalism and I thought that pride, perfectionism, bad thoughts, self condemnation and not being able to receive GODS love.. And I thought that that were the roots but now I see those were branches and the root is rejection
My parents may not of said they loved me but they showed it the best they could,I will not ever blame my parents.
This is AMAZING and exactly what I’m working on- so glad I found you and your work at this time in my life! ❤️❤️❤️🔥🔥🔥🙏🙏🙏
Sad, this describes my story perfectly. Good to know we can be freed from the destruction.
Mark God has sent you to me today. Thank you! I listened to you reluctantly to start with but I ended up agreeing with you because it makes absolute sense. Lack of love and rejection. I respect your work and gifts. Thanks so much. I look forward to reading your book
I feel like you just read through my life so with that said no more self pitty!
I'm grateful for what God has brought you through for your own benefit and to be able to do what you are doing now.... There is such a profound need for openness and understanding on this topic.. dealing with the inner workings of man has been a complex undertaking.. and then you have those who are supposed to be as pastors spiritual agents of healing and through their own understanding of the scriptures that cause more damage talking about hell all the time and instilling more fear of God to those that are hungry for love and comfort of the Holy Spirit and healing... They really don't know how to give nourishment to the sheep you can't give what you don't have I guess... Thanks for being what a true pastor should be..
This is so valid at this time
19:45 - I love you my brother Mark, and am so blessed by finding you - seriously I am, but respectfully I disagree with what you are saying here in this section. Without any hate or defensiveness in my heart I say to you that you are just flatly wrong about this.
I could say a million things, but won't.
Nonetheless, you are a great blessing sir. Glad I found you - and love listening to you.
Thank you Mark, keep it up brother, keep it up bro
This is spot on, it describes me to a tee. Wow.
I have never realized how much rejection I had listening to this. But I feel still rejection having epilepsy
You are loved just as you are!!!❤
Amazing Mark.
Wow praise God and thanks to God i was led to your channel
I really need to re-work your rejection course and rejection mindset book. Thanks brother. Agape
Go for it! Let me know what questions you may have. mark@markdejesus.com
I will be contacting you soon to do a counseling a session. I am in school and praying for the finances very soon. Yay 2020 change is coming. God bless your ministry brother DeJesus and bless you Melissa agape
@@Morrisneuro83 Awesome!
Oh. Wow. You described my sick life from my earliest memories until now. I'm sixty five. It seems it's too late for help.
It’s never to late for help. Go to God first. Remember Abraham and Sarah got their first child in old age. God is never has an age limit to work
I'm 55 and I've been struggling with this issue myself all my life I've been suicidal so often and in addiction longing to know how to have peace and to love and accept myself and to be able to function in a healthy way in this world.. but I believe God wants to heal people like you and me and that all our pain will not be in vain but we cannot give up hope
no it’s never too late honestly. Even as a 22 year old I think it’s not too late for you. My great grandma is 94 and still thriving. If you haven’t yet started getting help PLEASE do. You won’t regret it. Imagine if God helps you and you transform into an even better version of yourself!! You’ll be a living example of a living God and help others your age and show them it’s so worth it getting help. You’re very strong for making it to 65 and very amazing I’m sure.
@@alicac232You are an amazing spirit of love
This was really good to me.
You are good at helping me identify my issues but I’m not able to understand the road map on HOW TO RECEIVE THE LOVE. 💕 Thank you for what you do.
I relate to what you r saying thankyou
Thank you. I really need to get over being rejection
I experienced the spirit of adoption but because of church hurt he turned into an abusive father to me, an unjust, unfair, selfish, untrustworthy father, who allowed me to stay among people who were mean and hurt me all the time and he always had me treat them with love,kindness and forgiveness, it was helping there stony hearts,but I would feed them love and never received anything from them but rejection, it went to far and I broke, after 7 years of living among people who were cold hearted Christians,and a husband who was beating me. This caused me to go from knowing how Great my Father Loved me, to, why dose my Father keep allowing people to hurt me, losing trust completely and why dose my Father love them more than me and many other painful things. Why would my Father keep me around people who are mean to me after I had been abused as a child, rejected by all other children than in one abusive relationship after another, until I found Jesus and was adopted, than I was still rejected and abused all over again, just by different people this time. How was I saposed to fight of the thought that my Father never Loved me, that I'm the one born only for a bad purpose, than thrown away. Hay guys I made it for 7 years with an amazing understanding of God's Love for me all while my husband beating me and being hated unwanted by my new church family, I think I held up good considering my life. I really do pray and hope I can believe and trust again. I have been in darkness for a couple of years now with nothing but torments, no different than most my life all except the 7 years I believe my Father Loved me. I wasn't strong enough,good enough to make it through God's test. I'm a very Loving person when I know I'm loved, I was very kind and genital a all together different person, like a little child inside but now after i broke, I hurt the people who were hurting me, I know longer was kind and put all of them in there place and now they don't hurt me in the natural any more. Now I'm trying to put back the pieces without allowing any one to take advantage of me again. I have a long way to go and because of lack of trust It's just me and my husband now, who is annoying and exhausting but he is no longer abusive and more supportive. I don't want another congregation to treat me as a black sheep step child, I don't need to be around bad people no more, I'll never be strong enough to step back into another church.
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Sounds like you've had a terrible experience. Maybe Soul Survivor by Phillip Yancey would be helpful?
I'm so sorry for the way you were treated. God's people are not perfect, and some will go out of their way to hurt others. I hope you don't believe this is how God wants them to treat you, because it isn't.
I so appreciate you guys!
Good stuff.
Please watch this my friend you need faith
Thanks 😊
😢 I have struggled with anxiety and panic attacks since childhood! I'm born again! I take medication which I never knew would be so addictive! I feel guilty for fearing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't control it! I need a miracle!!!! I'm so fed up 😢
Ketamine works! Go to a psychiatrist who will give you the nasal spray in office. While you experience the "trip", listen to Mark DeJesus on Unconditional Love for Trauma and Depression and Anxiety. You will jump all the way down the road to healing!!!!!!!
Insurance pays for the sprays usually. RUN TO IT!!!!! The receptors in your brain are open and able to finally grasp knowledge.if you listen to these videos during treatment, all the words on Mark's videos and God's love is able to be felt and understood!!! It's amazing.❤
So good!
Thank you!
What if there are no safe relationships?
..and what does it look like to “receive love”?
Ive been hospitalized like 7 times for ocd. Didn't know that's what it was, but now I do. I've been addicted to pornography most of my life. This bred anger and rejection on a deep level. I am currently battling to end forever this addiction, but doing it i. The dark is hard. Lord send me help I pray. For me and my brothers and sisters.
So, you explain the problems. Where's the solution? I can't get the nurturing love I need from parents, wife. God feels so distant. What could possibly fix any of that? My 13 yo daughter thinks I'm a monster (not my heart at all) and my two boys are hot and cold. I truly have nobody. I feel more unloved and alone when with my family than I do when physically alone. I'm almost 50, I don't believe people change for the better. Tigers don't change their stripes. My dysfunctional parents curse is apparently also on me. I spoil everyone, great provider (through God) and it seems to never be enough. I'm completely taken for granted.
@@sdichampion think of this video as basics 101. There’s more videos and books that do have solutions but this one helps gain basic understanding
Please pray for my friend Chris who needs to know Jesus’s love. I know that he must have felt a lot of rejection from his mom growing up, and lost his dad in his young adult life. He’s unaware and emotionally cut off with others as a result. Please pray for him to be adopted by the Father’s love.
I pray your friend Chris finds the love of Christ and he just takes over his heart overwhelmingly and blesses him fully from the top of head to the bottom of his feet 🐾 Glory in Jesus name
I've been trying to figure out what I did if there was something in my spiritual life that repealed them and prevented them from loving me prevented them from giving me equally the sacrifices I gave to them why didn't they stay for mom's funeral, why they weren't there for my sister while I was trying to get closer to God why didn't I get the same courtesy I gave them I need god but does God not want me
Wouldn’t you agree that love wouldn’t say “you embarrass me”.I heard that a lot when young .I have never been embarrassed by the way someone else acted.although there has been many people I didn’t want to be with Usually because they were too intense and triggered fight or flight mode
I have autistic sensory issues
How to get rid of this fear I'm struggling with so much? How to let love free me and strengthen my spirit of love and adoption?
We’ll put at 29:07. “What you need over time is a journey of reestablishing the safety of what love means”. This is a profound statement that could easily be missed. At least for me personally.
On another note (although I listened from the beginning), I didn’t actually hear anything you said until 5:27
When someone has a root of rejection the first thing they need is help, not how to give money or who they’ve helped over the years. When someone’s life has profoundly changed by a pastor, ministry, or church, they will give, and don’t have to be asked.
I have a hard time believing anybody really loves me. I don't know why that is..
What about when you find rejection in the church?
Mark De Jesús I come from a Hispanic family and some family members can really benefit from your videos,, by any chance do you speak Spanish or are you able to add subtitles in Spanish? Thank you.
So how?
Do you get this love operating operating in your life
Mark, you ought to be a Counselor.
Do you offer Bible studies or classes?
Sadly its been my life at age 37 i realized it, all my life i was lied its "cheical inbalance" but i was then non beliver of Christ
I was curious. In bipolar, it seems an inability to receive love for yourself from God, can itself set up the inability to receive love from anyone else. Someone close to me. Probably loves God from a place of desperation . Almost lives in two worlds. What they believe about God and others, but rejects it as truth applies to themselves. I didn’t personally struggle to the same extent, but even as I type it, I remember, my mom asking me, what would you tell one of your campers about that belief. Why do these things become automatically passed down. This hurts.
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All our thoughts are our own. Even the Bible says this. Take ownership over your thoughts and their impact. Jesus did... even on the cross! Blaming others is what Adam and Eve did
Um..... what? Lol. Tell that to a schizophrenic or someone struggling with OCD. Oh wait, you did. 😆 sorry but your response has no weight as it is a quick judgment. And the bible says we wrestle against wicked spiritual principalities. The prince of the air. Take responsibility by not allowing the imaginations that exalt themselves against God to flourish. Praise be to God for wisdom. Be blessed my friend.
I desperately need help Mark. I am living in a hell of fear of the unpardonable sin and a sound mind.
Check out the OCD resources. The problem is not the problem. markdejesus.com/ocdhelp/
I want to be loved by God so bad 😢
Amen
Im classic BPD and I'm told I'm filled w demons. It's really hard to distinguish between the spiritual and the natural. Any thoughts on the demonic in mi
Everyone is
I need to know how to help someone close to me who is suffering from a root of rejection.
We can only be a help to people when they want it. If there is an open door in conversation, I would highly recommend the book Exposing the Rejection Mindset, which you can get in the link.
Or concern about my mind being sound.
Then where do our hearts factor in if it's all about our heads? I don't believe the Bible means our heart is really our head.
How do u receive
Can I talk to you mark de Jesus?
And don't get angry at the kid either.
I am single and in pain from my son getting married to a non Christian who totally rejects me and wanted to hear about loving yourself all I could hear about is marriage stuff with your wonderful wife now I want to hear about rejection all I hear is that you are going to talk about this and what you will do… and what you do and about yourself when are you gonna stop talking about yourself?
Mark I appreciate what your doing but why do I sense an under current of anger coming from you.I detect very little softness flowing. Not that it needs to be full of pillows, you are a man after all. BUT, I feel you should take a look at your anger level. A little empathy in your tone would come across much better. Juss sayin.
Thank you🙏🏻