My Grandma was 94 when I came out as trans to her. She said (in a thick Irish accent) "well I guess you always did act like a boy didn't ya?" then nodded and said "well if you're happy, then I'm happy". She's 99 now and my biggest fan. If people misgender or deadname me she yells at them and says "that's me grandson!"
I’m so happy for you. And I love how old people can surprise us. I guess we tend to forget that they lived so long that they have probably seen all kinds of things and there isn’t a lot that can surprise them anymore
This warms my trans mama bear heart! Please hug your grandma for me and then hug her again and tell her she's an amazing human being! She sounds like an absolute treasure 💖
My grandpa is 84 years old and the only person I know who has never once messed up my chosen name and pronouns. The look on his face when I told him I was choosing his name as my middle one was adorable.
I'm not religious at all, but I heard this very Christian-y quote earlier: "God made me transgender for the same reason he made wheat but not bread, and fruit but not wine. So that humanity may share in the act of creation" I thought it was pretty badass. Edited to add: it's by Julian K. Jarboe!
@@greyflannelsuit Makes a lot of sense, I knew it was one of three monotheistic religions. I didn't know who it was by though, so couldn't look it up. Thanks dude!
My sister I know exactly what you mean. I went in for laser hair removal on my chest, and let me tell you, I *did not know how to feel about being bare chested*...
I (mtf) was a shirtless kid. My dad hated it and always demanded I put one on. Now I wear one to cover my boobs, so he got his wish in some twisted way 😂. And if anything I love being shirtless even more now, too bad it’s not “appropriate”.
My coming out as NB to my trans friend was met with "And I was just thinking the other day that you're my only cis friend". We had a good laugh at that.
I was the first one in my friend group to come out sophomore year of high school, and before we graduated 2 years later, everyone else (like 9 other people) had all also come out except one person. They later came out as NB about 3 years later when they moved out from their controlling parents' home. So now I have no straight and/or cis friends from high school
Remember ya'll. You are NOT a woman/man in the body of a man/woman. You are a woman/man in A body with wrong parts installed, but that body is still yours, a body of a woman for transwomen and a body of a man for transmen. It's the fault of a tired production line worker getting the order a little wrong, it's not your fault as a customer. Please contact your local product support to retrofit appropriate parts. Also please keep in mind that this is not a fraud. If you're unhappy with your chassis then that is the correct and appropriate stance as customer satisfaction is all we have. It is objectively impossible to fake this, so don't feel bad about wanting something better for yourself. You deserve to be and are entitled to being happy with the vessel you inhabit.
I keep telling my mother that the reason I was breech was because I was presenting the bits that were problematic. They just yeeted me out without addressing my complaints. (For context, every year for 43 years she recounts my breech birth.)
I accidentally came out to my grandad when I loudly talked about something to do with being a trans man without knowing that my mum was on a call with him. He was very accepting of it but he said when I fully transitioned and visited him that he would introduce me as his granddaughter and watch as people would lose their minds over it and I was fully on board with that as it would have been very funny. Unfortunately he passed away not long after that conversation but I was glad that our last conversation was him accepting me as a trans man and thinking of ways we could make fun of people
When I came out to my 72 year old grandma, she was super supportive and said we'd figure out the pronouns together. When I told my grandpa, he was basically like "I know." Very different but very positive reactions.
I'm so glad you had such positive reactions and support in your life! Thank you for sharing your story! You are amazing, and I hope others in your life have been as affirming in your journey! 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🦕🦖
When I was pre-transition in the Charing Cross waiting room years ago someone said to me... "You have two choices... You can stay as you are and stay unhappy but keep everyone else happy.. Or you can change sex and they become unhappy but you become really happy".. I've always remembered those heartwarming words.
This is what i eventually had to tell myself honestly. When i was little (about 5th grade) I started to question why i got so uncomfortable and unhappy when i was called “she/her” and how even if i was being complemented i still felt bad about being called that, and at the time I really wanted to ask my mom about why i felt that way but stopped myself because I could see that stuff made HER happy and I felt she was going to get upset with me for saying it felt wrong so I decided to keep her happy and shelf my discomfort to keep her happy. Then it wouldn’t be until i was in the 10th grade that i was able to figure out what made me happy and come to the conclusion that I couldn’t keep only trying to make other people comfortable. Its a tough pill to swallow but very important to acknowledge
Thank you for sharing! That's an enlightening thought, and I am sure that it'll help so many. I'm glad you had someone who was able to help you follow your heart and be happy! I hope you have managed to find others who are also happy for you! You are incredible! 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵
Were you having a conversation with this person or did they just say it out of the blue? I have an image in my head of a character in a film who just walks past and says something seemingly odd that later turns out to be wise. 😂
When my nephew came out as trans, he was worried that my mom wouldn't understand as she is starting to show signs of dementia. But the opposite has happened! She not only remembers to call him by his preferred pronouns and new name, she yells at my sister (his mom) when she doesn't. My family seemed to forget that our mom lived in a hippie commune in the late 60's early 70's between kids. She very much has always believed that you are who you say you are and you love who you want to love. How my older siblings could forget that is beyond me. Us younger ones; however, have never forgotten.
I recently found out that shortly after breaking up, my ex and I both came out as trans. Prior to mutually agreeing to break up we had a discussion that makes SO MUCH MORE SENSE now that I know we're both trans. I'm glad she found who she is. It's wild how trans eggs will find each other without ever knowing it. We may have fallen out of contact, but I hope she's doing well.
My ex, who is like the sweetest person ever... told me when I finally came out to them as a trans man that apparently every fem presenting person they've ever dated seriously ended up being trans. Like... boo... you got trans-dar up in there or something???
hey, this happened to me, too! after i broke up with the last person i dated, we both ended up coming out as trans a few years later 😂 fast forward a little more and she's been on e for a year now and looks amazing and i've been on t for a little more than 4 months!
For me it was friendships, but I had a longtime friend who came out as a trans man several years after I met him. Years later when I came out as nonbinary myself, I found out that another longtime friend was genderqueer, and a friend I'd recently made was nonbinary as well. People with similar lived experiences tend to gravitate towards each other, even if they're not aware of the exact reasons why.
I am a closeted transguy and i always feel like i don't really pass. Yesterday 3 of my classmates told me about how they didn't realise i wasn't a guy until i went into the girls locker room. They also call me he instead of she almost every time and i am soooo happy with that.
Omg yeah ik the feeling! It’s weird a third of my school think I’m a cis guy, a third think I’m a cis girl/ non binary and the last third know I’m transmasc
My mom was very iffy when I first came out, she wasn't entirely supportive but didn't vocalize anything I could just tell by the way she was acting. But over time she adjusted and got used to it. Today my mom is the biggest mama bear ever for all trans kids and will defend people she doesn't even know. I'm so proud of her.
Sometimes people need a little time to adjust to new things/ideas. Not everyone is able to adjust immediately, doesn't necessarily mean they're not supportive. Could be, they're unsure of how to act.
My mom still has some doubts about my transition (and transition in general) but she's become very loving and supportive of my identity. Studies have shown that just knowing someone who is LGBTQ can make people less hateful of them, and our moms are living proof of that!! To clarify, her doubts mostly revolve around women transitioning to a different gender identity. She's concerned that those people are allowing stereotypes about what a woman is to affect them to the point that they decided to change their identities, when they could be a woman and still defy those stereotypes. She's also concerned about losing women that support feminism. I think she's starting to get it now that I've transitioned to genderfluid. Her points are valid, she's just misunderstanding why people transition in the first place. I wonder if that's what your mom was thinking before?
@@catdownthestreeti'm in the exact same situation, only thing is that it's my dad, not my mom. He's not against me being trans per se, but he's said the "maybe it's a phase" line multiple times. It's not meant in an actual harming way, he's just worried I'll 'grow out of it' and'll regret stuff. I don't blame him, even through his phrasing is kind of... eh.
I went to a ribfest recently and they weren't going to give me a chip to vote on people's choice because "only adults get to vote on it" 💀 I am 28. My husband was about ready to throw down.
If it makes you feel any better I'm a cis fem who once got carded for a balloon. They were only giving them out to people who were with their parents. I was 19...
"Never apologize for crying" is a line in a poem I hope to finish someday. I'm cis male, but remember a joyful moment with our trans friend Robyn, who publicly transitioned on Facebook. It wasn't long after her top surgery when she suddenly realized that being a trans woman who's attracted to women means she's also a lesbian. Her delight was infectious.
Fun story about a sort-of-coming-out-but-not-really to a grandma. She has dementia and didn't remember who myself and my sibling are, so we were always reminding her in conversation. My sibling goes by a new name while I kept mine (also trans) and both AFAB. My grandma would try and remember us by saying "so there was the girl [my name] and the boy..." and wouldn't remember my siblings name. We would remind her using my siblings deadname for clarity. She said "ah yes, [deadname]. I always thought that was a strange name for a boy." It was delightful.
I am a trans man and I work as a cashier at a grocery store. I don't pass but my name tag says my preferred name and pronouns. I had a customer I'd never seen before come through my line, whispering asked if I was trans, and give me a trans flag bracelet. That was back in December and I've been wearing it ever since.
My wife went to a very highly recommended endo for her hormones, and he had to do some paperwork for insurance purposes that included some rude, invasive and unnecessary questions, with which he tried very hard to be delicate. One of them was our sexuality, and we're both pan. This is government paperwork in a country that has barely accepted gay marriage, there is no bi box if you're trans, and someone in an office somewhere would scream if they were told there's more than 4 options. After a bit of confusion, the doctor decided "well, you are both women and you're in a devoted marriage, so I guess I can put you're practicing lesbians." Afterwards, I found myself giggling, and my wife asked why. I pointed out, we'd been married for nearly 9 years. We weren't practicing lesbians, we were *certified* lesbians.
It isn't just trans men, women like myself also get to de-age lol. I'm 31... 31! And only on hrt for 4ish months and have been carded and told I look 16?! That's a win right? I feel like thats a win.
Omg, that’s amazing 🤣 when I was in college and still thought I was a cis girl, someone thought I was in my mid-40s. I was 22 at that time. Now I’m 34 and I’ll hopefully go on T soon and I’m really curious how that’ll affect how old I look 🤣
you've helped me immensely. I'm not trans or lgbtq+, but I've always thought of myself as an ally. BUT I'm a socially awkward as well. Your vids have helped me understand your pov & I can now better relate to the obstacles facing the community.
A few years after being out to some friends and family as non-binary, I got a message from my grandmother about a documentary she watched on ABC (Australia) about non-binary people. I hadn't come out to her at this point, I wasn't sure if I was going to, but she said that these people in the documentary sounded a lot like me, so I should check it out. She essentially came out for me to herself 😂😂
As someone who is still figuring out their gender, AND made a whole poster project on Schrödinger’s cat in high school (and was quite proud about it), I can’t help but smile at Schrödinger’s gender. But completely understandable that it would make some people feel awkward 😂
Over the last couple of months I've been called ma'am a few times by strangers. I'm non-binary but I'm a trans fem non-binary person and I'm more than happy with being percieved as female so that's been a source of warm fuzzies. 🥰🥰
I have gotten the " mame Sir mame" and also the " dude?". If I am in sweats or have a suit jacket on and shirt hair, people get confused. I am non-binary AFAB.
Last winter on the bus when I was in thick winter clothes and wore a covid mask an elderly man had a question about the bus schedule and called me “young man” and it made me so happy. I didn’t even know I was trans back then, but still. And then I was sure he’d “correct” himself once he heard my voice, but he didn’t. That was amazing 😁
@@Pa5an1 as a kid I had moments like that. I tended to let my hair grow long and wear clothes that obscured my body and got called sweetie and other things boys just didn't get called. I was pretty great.
I'm trans-masc enby and I definitely get the warm fuzzies when someone addresses me as sir! Also, funny story- picking up some guy after an OD and he was awake when we got there but super hyped and shouting and flaily and as I was trying to talk him down a bit to calm him down he's like "Ok. I know. I'm sorry sir....ma'am? Sir? I'm sorry, I can't tell." Then went right back to being loud and flaily. Kind of a hilarious moment to get the warm fuzzies when I'm giving someone Versed to calm down so we can get an IV established.
My grandma, whom my family doesn’t really get along with very well, was very accepting of me being trans. I never came out to her, but out of the blue one day she texted me saying how much she loved and supported me, along with my boyfriend at the time. It really took me by surprise, but felt great nonetheless. Since then, she’s been openly defensive of me towards her transphobic friends and family, and it’s really heartwarming to see.
I'm 42 and just started transitioning 2-3 years ago. I would LOVE to go back to 14 if it allowed me to live my life as the girl I should have been the whole time instead of wasting my time trying to live the way the "others" wanted me to live.
You've been that girl the whole time and I'm glad you're finally getting to show it. I'm a mom of a teenage trans girl and I'm sending mom hugs and best wishes to you and your transition! 💖🏳️⚧️
I'm a similar age, and similarly did not realize I was trans until a couple years ago. There will always be a part of me that wishes I could have known sooner, so I could have started transitioning earlier. However, the language and tools simply did not exist when I was growing up, and I don't know if I would have been mature or informed enough to figure things out at the time. Everyone grows at their own pace, and you're ready when you're ready. It's never too late, and you're never too old to be who you were meant to be.
I know exactly what you mean! I'm 48 and my egg just cracked a year ago. I had gotten so close to figuring it out in college, but the people I turned to for help back then didn't point me in the right direction. I wish I could go back to 14, so I could have the experience of going through high school and college as a girl. (Sure, technically "I was a girl the whole time", but I didn't get the experience of it, because that's not how people saw me, and I didn't even fully realize it myself.) Actually, I wish I could go back to age 5 or so, because at that age, I really wanted to be a Girl Scout. I still feel like I missed out on something.
I’m 34 and only figured out a few months ago that I’m a guy. It’s always so affirming to find other people whose egg cracked late, cause you see trans people who have always known so often. That was probably one of the reasons I figured myself out so late, cause “if I was really trans, I would’ve known as a kid already”. I wish you folks all the best. We got this! 😁
❤️🧡💕🪷🫡 Me, too! Even if a hystetectomy doesn't happen (though it did for me) 60 years of living can happen...(did for me). To everything there is a Season...😉🙃🌱🌷🌿🌹🪷🌾🌻🍁🍂❄️
Mt grandmother was the first to accept me. Turns out she worked for a small island newspaper back when she was younger and her husband was station there during Korea. She got to interview Christine Jorganson for a fluff piece because Christine was doing a tour to entertain the soldiers and my grandma said she got to learn a lot about being trans from her.
My grandmother is almost 90 and has dementia, more good days than bad right now. We went to visit her after not seeing her for a few months. The first thing she said to my son, who is a trans man, was “There’s my guy!” It made me cry. Since the first day he told her who he was, she’s never accidentally misgendered or deadnamed him.
A more so annoying moment for me was when my mom called me masculine versions of words (correctly gendering me) then corrected herself to the wrong stuff. I was upset as it told me she actually sees gendering me correctly as natural but refuses to accept it
To share my own, I actually didn't discover this channel through trans stuff. I found this channel when I realised that I was bisexual and came to the internet for support. My time in the closet and sexuality crisis was relatively short-lived. I thought I was straight because I'd only ever liked guys and then suddenly, I liked a girl and I didn't know what to do with it. I had just a few days coming to terms with it where I just stayed at home, didn't talk to anyone, and I spent that time watching Jamie's videos on bi memes and things like that. It really, really helped me to come to terms with this new thing that I'd discovered about myself. You helped me a lot as well, Jamie. Thank you. Fun fact to add: it was also in the comments section of a Jammidodger video where I first came across the gender label that I currently identify with.
Can’t wait until the day where i can watch Jamie and know that I can feel like him, a beard, flat chest, happy. I hate cheesy comments, but Jamie, you’re an amazing guy who’s helped me so much. I hope you don’t stop making videos anytime soon.
The miscommunication about binders had me laughing because it reminded me of time I was talking with my mom about my trans auntie, kind of fielding her questions on my aunt's behalf (we're pretty close and I was one of the first people in the family she came out to). We had a miscommunication that resulted in my mom thinking my aunt had an onlyfans, when in reality, she's an extremely shy, low-self-esteem recluse. Edit: The hilarious part was that my mom was confused, but supportive.
I dropped a pad in the high school cafeteria once and noticed a few minutes later by which time a table of jocks (American footballers) had opened it, stuck it to their table, and we're pouring chocolate milk into it like they were mad scientists. It was hilarious and I haven't been embarrassed about carrying menstrual products ever since.
Hey Jamie! I doubt you'll see this, but I got a PragerU ad on this video. I know most UA-camrs have thought this was impossible to stop, but a recent video by Council of Geeks shows the (very well hidden) solution. There was a big push to get the video to OT, but I want to point it out to you too.
Does Jamie have a reddit, that's how we pushed it to OT? Also, anyone that wants to copy paste this to get attention to it, please do. I just want it seen.
I love the grandmother saying "everyone's coming out nowadays" instead of "everyone's queer/trans" nowadays". Like, she knows all these people have always been queer, they just feel safe enough to be open about it now. That's beautiful.
my trans sister (M2f) knew I was non-binary before I did, so when I came out to her, she was like "effing finally! I've been biting my tongue so much for years that I've nearly bit the tip off." It's such a good memory for me. Love my sis
I think you, Click, and OT are the best queer UA-camrs on the platform. Your community is always sweet and wholesome, and there's never been a day where I've felt excluded or unwanted. Thank you so much, Jamie!!! Also, funny thing, I genuinely thought you were a cis guy when I first discovered your channel. It took me so long to realize that you're trans! I've never seen you as anything but a man, and an amazing one at that- it's just neat to know that you're like me.
I came out to my therapist a few days ago as a trans guy and she’s going to help me come out to my parents. Love your videos Jamie, they remind me I’m not alone
I would love to share a recent encounter with my new maths teacher. There was one of those comprehension questions where it rambled on about boys and girls who played tennis. When he was putting the info into a table he said, "Now um, we are going to put some uh genders into the table, boys and girls, now I know that there are more than two genders but it's, uh just uh for the uh questionnn" or something like that, it was so funny, me and my trans friend laugh about it all the time it was actually really sweet but it was cool unnecessary clarification 😅
Absolutely! we need to appropriate gender reveal parties from the expecting parents... without the forest fires. Just a coming out party full of supporting people
lol makes me think of one of my friends, a trans guy, who is carrying his first child and thinking of planning a fakeout "gender reveal" party. as in, go through all the motions like a simple one, but have the reveal color be yellow (I also suggested the trans flag, which he thought would be funny too) just to spite their more conservative family XD
One thing that my friend said to me to help me, for some context, they’re into programming and video games, they told me that “Trans people were into the middle of downloading and the file corrupted which put them into the opposite body.” Just something cool that my friend said.
when I outed myself as trans (2015) my sister found you online and showed me your "1 year on T" video with a picture every day so that I could imagine what kind of changes I'll live through... it was really !!POSITIV!! shocking for me when I found you again, around 2 month ago on OT's channel! never hit a follow button so aggressively fast X'D
i have a little bit of a wholesome story of my own. so a little background in a 17 year old trans--bisexual and I've only recently started to present female in public. i was looking for heels in damaged society and a group of friends were looking around as well and happend to clock me and came over to hello and compliment me on the heels, i though it was an incredibly nice thing to do, especially for someone in my position
❤❤🍅🥰 Thank you for sharing your "I rejoiced in learning I had truly PAID IT FORWARD" story, Jamie. I am tickled that this happened in the Tomato Sauce aisle in the grocery store! 🍅🍅🍅🍅🍅😇🍅🍅🍅
Wholesome story time! So I got top surgery on my 24th birthday two years ago, and of course I wasn't able to celebrate the day of, being off my ass on pain meds. So my grandparents helped me make it more a birthday "month" to celebrate this momentous occasion. At one point my grandma helped me make a four-layered cake from scratch with the nonbinary flag colors. ^^ Would also like to point out my grandparents drove me four hours up to Cleveland, OH for my surgery and helped me with my drains. They struggle with the pronouns, but they're the most amazing support system I could’ve asked for.
Happy to hear people make you feel that you made it. You have made it my good sir and you will keep on achieving it so long as you keep going. That "brain hearing but lagging thing" you mentioned is usually auditory processing issues, often connected with things like ADHD, but not necessarily.
I get the same thing now where people assume I'm way younger after transition. People used to assume I was like 30 when I was in my early 20s, now I'm almost 30 and post transition, and people tend to think I'm 18-20. I get ID checked so much more often than I used to. It's annoying, but I'm flattered lol.
Hi Jamie! Here’s a confession: I had top surgery 2 days ago (I’m still in the hospital, I actually get discharged in about an hour) and a few hours after my surgery I was sleeping off the anaesthetic and woke up to find my mum sat reading your book that I had brought with me. It made me feel really good because even though she’s supportive enough to be here with me for my surgery, she’s still trying to learn more and actively take an interest in trans things :)
Here's my funny trans story: I was getting an injection in school and my legal name was on it. The nurse accidentally called me by the masculine version of my deadname as she clarified details about me. I trans masced too close to the sun
This happens to me a lot lol, also, ANOTHER NIRVANA FAN! What’s your favorite song, mine is aneurysm. Sorry it’s been a long time since I’ve met an actual Nirvana fan and not someone who just wears the shirt 😅
here’s my little goofy trans story. 2 kids at my school came up to me ,sorta laughing to themselves , one said “[deadname], is your name Cole now” i said “yes?” knowing they where gonna start asking intrusive questions. one said to the other “i told you so”, other said”why?” “because i’m non binary” wanting them to go away one, with the most misplaced confidence iv ever seen said “is that why your so flat!” and both started laughing and walked away, as if they had just did something hilarious to bully me, i just smiled knowing they had accidentally affirmed my gender, it still makes me laugh to this day
Back in 2019 when I figured my gender. I found your channel. I was so jealous of your transition and now in less than a week I start T myself. Thanks for being out their
Congratulations on starting T! The day my trans daughter started her HRT was a big day and being with her during her transition has been so joyful. We get to celebrate her first "girl birthday" in a couple of months! Mom hugs to you!!
I watched Love, Simon a couple of weeks before my oldest went off to college. There's a bit in it about reinventing/coming out when going to college, and when the movie was done, they looked at me and said, well, I almost made it to college first. At that point they then identified as a lesbian...after a couple of years that expanded to another term I don't remember, it doesn't matter, but when they came home that year with a boyfriend they were nonbinary. They (and that boyfriend) got married earlier this year. The name change I'm solid with, I occasionally flub up the pronouns but I'm as happy for them as I could possibly be, they're doing great!
While talking with my dad about a family problem he said 'the way your so strong, its like you should have been a boy' i was quiet for a while after. Then on a school function i was watching my dad play soccer with other dads and some of their sons. It gave me a weird feeling.
OMG I love Jamie talking about how much he loves us. It's really sweet. Don't change Jamie. You're the reason you have a million followers! You're adorable and so kind. We need more people like you in this world.
I had a great gender affirming moment few days back when I was walking to my counselor's office. For context I'm trans non-binary, pronouns they/them/he/him; I was walking and this older gentleman was walking in my direction and he said "good morning young lady" and I said back "not lady". I was expecting that he may come off transphoic or be grossed out because that's what normally happens but instead he surprised me and said "oh, good morning young boy"! I was shocked and so happy and said thank you. I don't think that person knows how gender affirming that was 💖🥰💖
Your videos helped me get comfortable and accept that i was bisexsual and even being brave enough to go to my first pride with my sister. Edit : i Also want to add that She knew that I was bi as I had already told her on accident that I married Leah in standew valley without even noticing 😂😅
Yep, it sure is and I love that the bigot was left confused and hopefully annoyed while the person who left the message got joy out of it. p.s. yeah having it can be super annoying
as a straight cis person who is a full ally who gets upset seeing homophobic and transphobic stuff online it really is heartwarming seeing some positive experiences here
I never really came out to my extended family but my parents probably told them (which I’m fine with) but one of my uncles is a vicar and lawyer and he was the one I was most scared of seeing after being out because of religion and stuff, then recently he helped me change my name! Good to know there will be at least 6 churches with a supportive vicar!!
I'm cishet, and you've helped me immensely. I consider a central aspect of my allyship to be to educate myself as much as possible. You've answered questions that I didn't know enough to wonder about. I appreciate all of the interests and formats that you explore in these videos. Sometimes I need a bit of laughter with my lesson; sometimes, I prefer a scholarly approach, with sources referenced; the personal stories that you and others share are a true gift of insight. I cannot thank you enough for your knowledge, your thoughtfulness, your ability to listen and try to understand people who are often just bigots, and your sense of humor. There's more, but I'm in the early stages of a migraine, and can't think .
I'm happy with my assigned gender, even though I don't fit into the stereotype of what society says I should look/sound like. I'm a bit hairy, my voice is low, and I lean more towards masculine traits despite my identity as female. I'm saying this because I want people to know that if you feel gender dysphoria, it's absolutely valid. Don't let people gaslight you into thinking you're just a confused tomboy/femboy or anything like that. I'm 100% a tomboy and I don't feel any dysphoria at all. So if you're questioning yourself today, asking if you're REALLY trans, don't worry, you almost certainly are. In my experience, a cis person doesn't question their cis-ness, even if they act or appear more like the opposite gender.
I feel the same way! … kinda… there *are* times I wonder… but then I think about being referred to as a different gender, and I get this weirdly adverse reaction that makes me feel like what I think dysphoria might feel like…? It’s a curious thing, but I’m a cis woman for sure. With that in mind, I have a best friend from when I was literally still a toddler in preschool, and he and I grew up thinking we were both cis, just happened to be tomboys. Mainly because that was the only term we had. Once we were older and had the term trans, he figured himself out, and came out to me. After that I wondered a bit, and eventually settled on being cis after an interaction where someone online called me sir, and my immediate reaction was to correct them, even though at the time I was testing out nonbinary/gender fluid online, and felt really uncomfortable when I didn’t correct them… and in that moment I knew I was cis. All this to say, both my best friend and I were “tomboys” growing up, but, after having the term trans, only one of us turned out to be an actual boy all along. Proof that telling someone about trans people won’t make someone trans. It’s innate and something you know. It’s just hard to figure out until you try to go by different pronouns and learn if you like them or not.
That’s actually really good to know. I figured out I’m a trans guy super late and just a few months ago. I was a “tomboy” too, absolutely hated what puberty did to me but I didn’t even know about trans people until I was an adult, I just thought all afab people hated being afab cause patriarchy or whatever. And I always loved when someone thought I was a boy/man. It only happened a handful of times in my life, but I remember each of them fondly
I (mtf) lost some bra straps in the wash and my mom found them. 😱 She started on my father about having an affair, so I tried to defend him by saying they were mine but she wouldn’t listen. It remained an unsolved mystery for 5yrs 😅
My mom has been saying since before I remember that she didn't name me and my brother, but while she was pregnant we "told" her what our names are. I am a trans man and I have a very masculine name, which is the one I've had my whole life. When I came out at the age of 32, she couldn't help herself. "See? You told me who you were all along! I wasn't making it up!" Thanks, mom. I do love my name and it's always been the right one for me. Love you ❤️
I haven't had the best experience when it comes to showing those close to me the LGBTQ+ community and talking about experiences related to that, and it was such a heartwarming, nerve-wracking experience when I mentioned you to my epic straight ally friend and she asked to watch some of your videos with me. I kept glancing at her to gauge her reaction the entire time, but she was actually really interested and told me that she liked it because she didn't really hear from this perspective much. Gave me hope that maybe not everyone is inevitably just going to get tired of me being LGBTQ+ and wish I would just be straight :)
If your goal was to help at least one person understand their (or a loved one’s) identity, you’ve certainly surpassed that by a lot. Good on you for helping so many people feel seen, heard and understood as well as helping others understand trans people ❤
I have a fun Trans 'confession'. My mom's really transphobic, but my dad just struggles with calling people by correct pronouns and names. He mostly calls me by my nickname instead because it's easier. My dad lives in another state, but he visits for my birthday, and this year, for my 18th, I had to most people I ever did. Apparently he was trying to get my attention by calling my nickname but I was distracted by my group of friends, so he called me by my chosen name. Apparently my mom gave him a weird look, but it did get my attention.
About the one with the switching genders, I have a similar story. A close friend of mine came out to me as bi, and my reaction was pretty much "oh cool, I'm trans." Not as funny as with both people being trans, but still made for a memorable moment 💜
I've been out as non-binary for 7 years and went home for Rosh Hashanah, as I'm Jewish. We had a lunch before we did Tashlich (where you throw lint/crumbs into water as a representation of your sins so you can start the year on a fresh slate), where my mom admitted she was still hung up on my deadname and reclaiming it in front of my extended family. I told her that I had already thrown it out with my Tashlich sins years ago.
The grandpa story reminded of talking to my dad again for the first time in over 20 years and hearing him repeatedly and firmly correcting my step mother every time she misgendered me.
I am always scared of period things falling or poking out of my pockets. I kind of pass most of the time so long as I don’t speak, and I remember using the men’s restroom at school once and thinking it was empty, I always checked for feet under the stall doors, then opening a pad kinda loudly because I was trying to do it quickly. Thing is, my school removed the doors to the men’s restrooms and I forgot they’d done that, so another guy walked in and heard everything. He just kinda nodded at me and smiled. Turns out he was also trans.
Hello I am aro ace and when my parents are like “ when you’re older and you find the one you are absolutely smitten for (BLEH) you will be thankful that I tought you how to use your manners “ I WONT GO ON A DATE WITH ANYONE EVER I CAN EAT LIKE A WILD ANIMAL AT MY HOUSE WHENEVER I WANT OR WITH MY HANDS
I call the thing with hearing what was said but taking a moment to understand it "hearing lag." My partner took a liking to the term because it perfectly describes the struggle. We both experience it, but we were the only ones at the place we used to work. I don't know about my current coworkers, but my partner's current coworkers all have it
Years ago, I was gently teasing a (not-out) friend by using a diminutive of her name (e.g. if you have a friend named Jack, saying something like “Aw, is little Jackie mad?”) It went even better than I imagined: she loved the name, thought it was adorable, and has gone by it ever since. It’s pretty much her new name now, especially since she came out as trans. People who have known her much longer than I have call her that now. I’m actually really proud of that.
I’m another person you’ve helped learned how to be supportive! I’m a cis teacher who runs a GSA (and teaches drama - my students joke that GSA/drama at our school in a Venn diagram is essentially a circle) and I’ve been watching you and Shaaba for AGES. Since I’ve been watching I’ve also learned my nephew is a trans boy and good friend is a trans man. I’ve recommended your channel to my friend a couple times. 💙
I'm not trans, but I am bi. I have mentioned this in another of Jammi's videos before. But I do struggle with questioning whether or not my mom would have accepted me for who I am. She was so sweet and an amazing influence in my life and how I turned out. But she passed in my early twenties, before I really even knew myself. And there were some antequated ideas about homosexuality and a few bigoted anecdotes passed around from the older generations and some bi erasure type comments. And I know where they come from. I'm not trying to justify it. But I loved her and I know she loved me. But we never really had that talk and now we never can. It still makes me sad and I still think about it sometimes. I can never really know for certain if she'd have loved me for me, you know?
All those cute stories about accepting grandparents always almost make me cry because my grandma was also really, really accepting. And it’s always so nice to have someone by your side
My Grandma was 94 when I came out as trans to her. She said (in a thick Irish accent) "well I guess you always did act like a boy didn't ya?" then nodded and said "well if you're happy, then I'm happy". She's 99 now and my biggest fan. If people misgender or deadname me she yells at them and says "that's me grandson!"
I’m so happy for you. And I love how old people can surprise us. I guess we tend to forget that they lived so long that they have probably seen all kinds of things and there isn’t a lot that can surprise them anymore
Picturing an old Irish lady berating those who misgender you is the heartwarming image I needed today !
Your grandma sounds awesome!
This warms my trans mama bear heart! Please hug your grandma for me and then hug her again and tell her she's an amazing human being! She sounds like an absolute treasure 💖
@@lalas181 Thank you! I certainly think so 😊
my grandma is great and very accepting, she's over 80 and whenever she sees a trans person on tv she tells me about it
Aww that is so endearing❤
That’s adorable
YOUR ACCOUNTNAME THO LMAO 🤣
AWWW
that's like my grandpa whenever he hears of anything metal music related as i'm a massive metalhead - love supportive grandparents
My grandpa is 84 years old and the only person I know who has never once messed up my chosen name and pronouns. The look on his face when I told him I was choosing his name as my middle one was adorable.
Your grandpa is a treasure! Take care of him ❤
Your grandpa sounds so wonderful!
@@momamiandkiddokelsi9027he really is, I love him so much
@@sovietdoge.7369he’s really great.
He's probably senile & couldn't be bothered
I'm not religious at all, but I heard this very Christian-y quote earlier:
"God made me transgender for the same reason he made wheat but not bread, and fruit but not wine.
So that humanity may share in the act of creation"
I thought it was pretty badass.
Edited to add: it's by Julian K. Jarboe!
That’s a quote from Julian K Jarboe, who, if I remember correctly, is Jewish
@@greyflannelsuit Makes a lot of sense, I knew it was one of three monotheistic religions. I didn't know who it was by though, so couldn't look it up. Thanks dude!
I love this quote so much ❤❤. I 100% agree with this theology, as a Christian pastor
I love that
“God made me trans because he knew if I was cis I would rule the world”
as a trans woman, going from not having boobs to having boobs is so weird. its good, but its weird because suddenly my privates are also up here.
Trans person with unwanted boobs here- Do you want mine? Because i don’t!
lol so true
My sister I know exactly what you mean. I went in for laser hair removal on my chest, and let me tell you, I *did not know how to feel about being bare chested*...
Honestly, for me that was puberty in a nutshell. Boobs grow = not allowed anymore to even accidentally show your nipples. So weird really.
I (mtf) was a shirtless kid. My dad hated it and always demanded I put one on. Now I wear one to cover my boobs, so he got his wish in some twisted way 😂. And if anything I love being shirtless even more now, too bad it’s not “appropriate”.
My coming out as NB to my trans friend was met with "And I was just thinking the other day that you're my only cis friend". We had a good laugh at that.
Most of my friends are trans/enby as well, I literally only know one person who's cis and it's hilarious now that I think about it 🤭
That is like when my best friend came out to me as bi. I told her that I no longer had a straight friend
That happened to me too!!
I was the first one in my friend group to come out sophomore year of high school, and before we graduated 2 years later, everyone else (like 9 other people) had all also come out except one person. They later came out as NB about 3 years later when they moved out from their controlling parents' home. So now I have no straight and/or cis friends from high school
😂 Thank you for sharing your story! I hope yor and your friend have a wonderful day! You both are amazing!
Remember ya'll.
You are NOT a woman/man in the body of a man/woman. You are a woman/man in A body with wrong parts installed, but that body is still yours, a body of a woman for transwomen and a body of a man for transmen.
It's the fault of a tired production line worker getting the order a little wrong, it's not your fault as a customer.
Please contact your local product support to retrofit appropriate parts.
Also please keep in mind that this is not a fraud. If you're unhappy with your chassis then that is the correct and appropriate stance as customer satisfaction is all we have.
It is objectively impossible to fake this, so don't feel bad about wanting something better for yourself. You deserve to be and are entitled to being happy with the vessel you inhabit.
I keep telling my mother that the reason I was breech was because I was presenting the bits that were problematic. They just yeeted me out without addressing my complaints. (For context, every year for 43 years she recounts my breech birth.)
I'm running man software on woman hardware 🤣
@@KateSW1997oh boy it’s back
I can debunk your whole ideology in one sentence.
"No. It's not about being who you are, it's about being who you AREN'T"
@@John-nk3ej idk if you're here to troll or what but i can say that i hope you learn and grow 🤷
I accidentally came out to my grandad when I loudly talked about something to do with being a trans man without knowing that my mum was on a call with him. He was very accepting of it but he said when I fully transitioned and visited him that he would introduce me as his granddaughter and watch as people would lose their minds over it and I was fully on board with that as it would have been very funny. Unfortunately he passed away not long after that conversation but I was glad that our last conversation was him accepting me as a trans man and thinking of ways we could make fun of people
Aw. I hope you meet your grandad again someday, he sounds like a lot of fun.
Sounds like he was an absolute delight!
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When I came out to my 72 year old grandma, she was super supportive and said we'd figure out the pronouns together. When I told my grandpa, he was basically like "I know." Very different but very positive reactions.
That's so cool, my grandfather was a piece of Porcilin Thorne fodder.
That's so sweet! I'm glad you have supportive grandparents, it's so important to have people who love you as you grow and change
I'm so glad you had such positive reactions and support in your life! Thank you for sharing your story! You are amazing, and I hope others in your life have been as affirming in your journey! 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🦕🦖
When I was pre-transition in the Charing Cross waiting room years ago someone said to me... "You have two choices... You can stay as you are and stay unhappy but keep everyone else happy.. Or you can change sex and they become unhappy but you become really happy".. I've always remembered those heartwarming words.
That's basically what my therapist told me. She was like... you need to stop living for other people
This is what i eventually had to tell myself honestly. When i was little (about 5th grade) I started to question why i got so uncomfortable and unhappy when i was called “she/her” and how even if i was being complemented i still felt bad about being called that, and at the time I really wanted to ask my mom about why i felt that way but stopped myself because I could see that stuff made HER happy and I felt she was going to get upset with me for saying it felt wrong so I decided to keep her happy and shelf my discomfort to keep her happy. Then it wouldn’t be until i was in the 10th grade that i was able to figure out what made me happy and come to the conclusion that I couldn’t keep only trying to make other people comfortable. Its a tough pill to swallow but very important to acknowledge
that ultimately was what pushed me to transition. live as myself or die as what everyone else wanted.
Thank you for sharing! That's an enlightening thought, and I am sure that it'll help so many. I'm glad you had someone who was able to help you follow your heart and be happy! I hope you have managed to find others who are also happy for you! You are incredible! 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵
Were you having a conversation with this person or did they just say it out of the blue? I have an image in my head of a character in a film who just walks past and says something seemingly odd that later turns out to be wise. 😂
When my nephew came out as trans, he was worried that my mom wouldn't understand as she is starting to show signs of dementia. But the opposite has happened! She not only remembers to call him by his preferred pronouns and new name, she yells at my sister (his mom) when she doesn't. My family seemed to forget that our mom lived in a hippie commune in the late 60's early 70's between kids. She very much has always believed that you are who you say you are and you love who you want to love. How my older siblings could forget that is beyond me. Us younger ones; however, have never forgotten.
Best grandpa
I recently found out that shortly after breaking up, my ex and I both came out as trans. Prior to mutually agreeing to break up we had a discussion that makes SO MUCH MORE SENSE now that I know we're both trans. I'm glad she found who she is. It's wild how trans eggs will find each other without ever knowing it. We may have fallen out of contact, but I hope she's doing well.
My ex, who is like the sweetest person ever... told me when I finally came out to them as a trans man that apparently every fem presenting person they've ever dated seriously ended up being trans. Like... boo... you got trans-dar up in there or something???
hey, this happened to me, too! after i broke up with the last person i dated, we both ended up coming out as trans a few years later 😂 fast forward a little more and she's been on e for a year now and looks amazing and i've been on t for a little more than 4 months!
Me when that one friend from childhood that I'm still friends with turns out to also be an aroace egg
For me it was friendships, but I had a longtime friend who came out as a trans man several years after I met him. Years later when I came out as nonbinary myself, I found out that another longtime friend was genderqueer, and a friend I'd recently made was nonbinary as well. People with similar lived experiences tend to gravitate towards each other, even if they're not aware of the exact reasons why.
“For some reason, Trans eggs are subconsciously drawn to each other, even if they’ve never met.”
I am a closeted transguy and i always feel like i don't really pass.
Yesterday 3 of my classmates told me about how they didn't realise i wasn't a guy until i went into the girls locker room.
They also call me he instead of she almost every time and i am soooo happy with that.
Omg yeah ik the feeling! It’s weird a third of my school think I’m a cis guy, a third think I’m a cis girl/ non binary and the last third know I’m transmasc
hey have some positive affirmations, u are a guy, just born with the wrong body
LOLLL that's funny. I hope it wasn't too uncomfortable for you.
@@ArtsyKnox25 nah, it actually made me feel rlly happy.
Correction: they didn't realize you weren't a _cis_ guy
My mom was very iffy when I first came out, she wasn't entirely supportive but didn't vocalize anything I could just tell by the way she was acting. But over time she adjusted and got used to it. Today my mom is the biggest mama bear ever for all trans kids and will defend people she doesn't even know. I'm so proud of her.
Sometimes people need a little time to adjust to new things/ideas. Not everyone is able to adjust immediately, doesn't necessarily mean they're not supportive. Could be, they're unsure of how to act.
I'm glad she's supportive now! Also love the Toothless pfp :]
I'm so glad that your mama came around! We trans mama bears are fierce, though I think I knew my daughter was trans before she did 🏳️⚧️
My mom still has some doubts about my transition (and transition in general) but she's become very loving and supportive of my identity. Studies have shown that just knowing someone who is LGBTQ can make people less hateful of them, and our moms are living proof of that!!
To clarify, her doubts mostly revolve around women transitioning to a different gender identity. She's concerned that those people are allowing stereotypes about what a woman is to affect them to the point that they decided to change their identities, when they could be a woman and still defy those stereotypes. She's also concerned about losing women that support feminism. I think she's starting to get it now that I've transitioned to genderfluid. Her points are valid, she's just misunderstanding why people transition in the first place. I wonder if that's what your mom was thinking before?
@@catdownthestreeti'm in the exact same situation, only thing is that it's my dad, not my mom. He's not against me being trans per se, but he's said the "maybe it's a phase" line multiple times. It's not meant in an actual harming way, he's just worried I'll 'grow out of it' and'll regret stuff. I don't blame him, even through his phrasing is kind of... eh.
Dinosaurs are cool! Transphobia is not!
Love you all! You are all amazing, and I am proud of you!
🦕🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵🦖
I very much second this statement!
WOMP WOMP
@@MrphantomMrphantomno one cares
@@ArtsyKnox25 Then why did you reply? Lmao 🤣
@@ArtsyKnox25 Womp womp
I went to a ribfest recently and they weren't going to give me a chip to vote on people's choice because "only adults get to vote on it" 💀 I am 28. My husband was about ready to throw down.
You must be a very young looking 28 😸
@@silverghostcat1924some transmascs look younger than they are, lol. Means they’ll age great though
If it makes you feel any better I'm a cis fem who once got carded for a balloon. They were only giving them out to people who were with their parents. I was 19...
@@dragonshadow4145 it has been interesting how I've come to view aging as "being in my favor" -- love that.
@@silverghostcat1924 I'm yet to start T, but some say I already pass long as I don't say a word 😂
"Never apologize for crying" is a line in a poem I hope to finish someday.
I'm cis male, but remember a joyful moment with our trans friend Robyn, who publicly transitioned on Facebook. It wasn't long after her top surgery when she suddenly realized that being a trans woman who's attracted to women means she's also a lesbian. Her delight was infectious.
Fun story about a sort-of-coming-out-but-not-really to a grandma. She has dementia and didn't remember who myself and my sibling are, so we were always reminding her in conversation. My sibling goes by a new name while I kept mine (also trans) and both AFAB. My grandma would try and remember us by saying "so there was the girl [my name] and the boy..." and wouldn't remember my siblings name. We would remind her using my siblings deadname for clarity. She said "ah yes, [deadname]. I always thought that was a strange name for a boy." It was delightful.
I am a trans man and I work as a cashier at a grocery store. I don't pass but my name tag says my preferred name and pronouns. I had a customer I'd never seen before come through my line, whispering asked if I was trans, and give me a trans flag bracelet. That was back in December and I've been wearing it ever since.
My wife went to a very highly recommended endo for her hormones, and he had to do some paperwork for insurance purposes that included some rude, invasive and unnecessary questions, with which he tried very hard to be delicate. One of them was our sexuality, and we're both pan. This is government paperwork in a country that has barely accepted gay marriage, there is no bi box if you're trans, and someone in an office somewhere would scream if they were told there's more than 4 options. After a bit of confusion, the doctor decided "well, you are both women and you're in a devoted marriage, so I guess I can put you're practicing lesbians."
Afterwards, I found myself giggling, and my wife asked why. I pointed out, we'd been married for nearly 9 years. We weren't practicing lesbians, we were *certified* lesbians.
It isn't just trans men, women like myself also get to de-age lol.
I'm 31... 31! And only on hrt for 4ish months and have been carded and told I look 16?!
That's a win right? I feel like thats a win.
I'd suspect people can just instinctively tell someone's in puberty (even if that's their second) and just connect that with teenage years.
Omg, that’s amazing 🤣 when I was in college and still thought I was a cis girl, someone thought I was in my mid-40s. I was 22 at that time. Now I’m 34 and I’ll hopefully go on T soon and I’m really curious how that’ll affect how old I look 🤣
you've helped me immensely. I'm not trans or lgbtq+, but I've always thought of myself as an ally. BUT I'm a socially awkward as well. Your vids have helped me understand your pov & I can now better relate to the obstacles facing the community.
A few years after being out to some friends and family as non-binary, I got a message from my grandmother about a documentary she watched on ABC (Australia) about non-binary people. I hadn't come out to her at this point, I wasn't sure if I was going to, but she said that these people in the documentary sounded a lot like me, so I should check it out. She essentially came out for me to herself 😂😂
As someone who is still figuring out their gender, AND made a whole poster project on Schrödinger’s cat in high school (and was quite proud about it), I can’t help but smile at Schrödinger’s gender. But completely understandable that it would make some people feel awkward 😂
It's a good joke, just really bad timing
You are male or female
Very little to figure out.If you are having other mental health issues go see a professional
Over the last couple of months I've been called ma'am a few times by strangers. I'm non-binary but I'm a trans fem non-binary person and I'm more than happy with being percieved as female so that's been a source of warm fuzzies. 🥰🥰
I have gotten the " mame Sir mame" and also the " dude?". If I am in sweats or have a suit jacket on and shirt hair, people get confused. I am non-binary AFAB.
Last winter on the bus when I was in thick winter clothes and wore a covid mask an elderly man had a question about the bus schedule and called me “young man” and it made me so happy. I didn’t even know I was trans back then, but still. And then I was sure he’d “correct” himself once he heard my voice, but he didn’t. That was amazing 😁
@@Pa5an1 as a kid I had moments like that. I tended to let my hair grow long and wear clothes that obscured my body and got called sweetie and other things boys just didn't get called. I was pretty great.
You are a man
Non binary is a made up term
I'm trans-masc enby and I definitely get the warm fuzzies when someone addresses me as sir!
Also, funny story- picking up some guy after an OD and he was awake when we got there but super hyped and shouting and flaily and as I was trying to talk him down a bit to calm him down he's like "Ok. I know. I'm sorry sir....ma'am? Sir? I'm sorry, I can't tell." Then went right back to being loud and flaily. Kind of a hilarious moment to get the warm fuzzies when I'm giving someone Versed to calm down so we can get an IV established.
My grandma, whom my family doesn’t really get along with very well, was very accepting of me being trans. I never came out to her, but out of the blue one day she texted me saying how much she loved and supported me, along with my boyfriend at the time. It really took me by surprise, but felt great nonetheless.
Since then, she’s been openly defensive of me towards her transphobic friends and family, and it’s really heartwarming to see.
I'm 42 and just started transitioning 2-3 years ago. I would LOVE to go back to 14 if it allowed me to live my life as the girl I should have been the whole time instead of wasting my time trying to live the way the "others" wanted me to live.
You've been that girl the whole time and I'm glad you're finally getting to show it. I'm a mom of a teenage trans girl and I'm sending mom hugs and best wishes to you and your transition! 💖🏳️⚧️
I'm a similar age, and similarly did not realize I was trans until a couple years ago. There will always be a part of me that wishes I could have known sooner, so I could have started transitioning earlier. However, the language and tools simply did not exist when I was growing up, and I don't know if I would have been mature or informed enough to figure things out at the time. Everyone grows at their own pace, and you're ready when you're ready. It's never too late, and you're never too old to be who you were meant to be.
I know exactly what you mean! I'm 48 and my egg just cracked a year ago. I had gotten so close to figuring it out in college, but the people I turned to for help back then didn't point me in the right direction.
I wish I could go back to 14, so I could have the experience of going through high school and college as a girl. (Sure, technically "I was a girl the whole time", but I didn't get the experience of it, because that's not how people saw me, and I didn't even fully realize it myself.)
Actually, I wish I could go back to age 5 or so, because at that age, I really wanted to be a Girl Scout. I still feel like I missed out on something.
I’m 34 and only figured out a few months ago that I’m a guy. It’s always so affirming to find other people whose egg cracked late, cause you see trans people who have always known so often. That was probably one of the reasons I figured myself out so late, cause “if I was really trans, I would’ve known as a kid already”. I wish you folks all the best. We got this! 😁
You are not born in the wrong body, you just have autism.
I have such a big grin on my face! Yay gender euphoria! Also, I'm a cis woman who doesn't have periods, so there!
❤️🧡💕🪷🫡 Me, too! Even if a hystetectomy doesn't happen (though it did for me) 60 years of living can happen...(did for me). To everything there is a Season...😉🙃🌱🌷🌿🌹🪷🌾🌻🍁🍂❄️
Mt grandmother was the first to accept me. Turns out she worked for a small island newspaper back when she was younger and her husband was station there during Korea. She got to interview Christine Jorganson for a fluff piece because Christine was doing a tour to entertain the soldiers and my grandma said she got to learn a lot about being trans from her.
My grandmother is almost 90 and has dementia, more good days than bad right now. We went to visit her after not seeing her for a few months. The first thing she said to my son, who is a trans man, was “There’s my guy!” It made me cry. Since the first day he told her who he was, she’s never accidentally misgendered or deadnamed him.
I came out as trans to my friends by quoting the puss on boots 2 "i am death" speech but replacing death with trans
A more so annoying moment for me was when my mom called me masculine versions of words (correctly gendering me) then corrected herself to the wrong stuff. I was upset as it told me she actually sees gendering me correctly as natural but refuses to accept it
On the positive side, she's like halfway there!
Maybe sitting her down and having a talk why she feels she needs to 'correct' herself could help?
Some parents (I am one) are a bit slow. Hopefully she'll get over herself sooner than later. Please accept some mama hugs.
💙💗🤍💗💙
To share my own, I actually didn't discover this channel through trans stuff. I found this channel when I realised that I was bisexual and came to the internet for support. My time in the closet and sexuality crisis was relatively short-lived. I thought I was straight because I'd only ever liked guys and then suddenly, I liked a girl and I didn't know what to do with it. I had just a few days coming to terms with it where I just stayed at home, didn't talk to anyone, and I spent that time watching Jamie's videos on bi memes and things like that. It really, really helped me to come to terms with this new thing that I'd discovered about myself.
You helped me a lot as well, Jamie. Thank you.
Fun fact to add: it was also in the comments section of a Jammidodger video where I first came across the gender label that I currently identify with.
Can’t wait until the day where i can watch Jamie and know that I can feel like him, a beard, flat chest, happy. I hate cheesy comments, but Jamie, you’re an amazing guy who’s helped me so much. I hope you don’t stop making videos anytime soon.
I look forward to this day for you, my friend. Sending trans mama bear hugs and best wishes to you! 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵
you'll get there. if I could swap you, I'd give you the beard I don't want.
Best of luck on your journey!
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Don't be influenced by him...get some therapy..there are better ways to live your life. He does this for money
@@MikeSteele-gt7td I don’t care- leave my comment alone
Thank you to all the people who submitted their anecdotes and provided us with pure joy.
The miscommunication about binders had me laughing because it reminded me of time I was talking with my mom about my trans auntie, kind of fielding her questions on my aunt's behalf (we're pretty close and I was one of the first people in the family she came out to). We had a miscommunication that resulted in my mom thinking my aunt had an onlyfans, when in reality, she's an extremely shy, low-self-esteem recluse.
Edit: The hilarious part was that my mom was confused, but supportive.
I dropped a pad in the high school cafeteria once and noticed a few minutes later by which time a table of jocks (American footballers) had opened it, stuck it to their table, and we're pouring chocolate milk into it like they were mad scientists. It was hilarious and I haven't been embarrassed about carrying menstrual products ever since.
Hey Jamie! I doubt you'll see this, but I got a PragerU ad on this video. I know most UA-camrs have thought this was impossible to stop, but a recent video by Council of Geeks shows the (very well hidden) solution. There was a big push to get the video to OT, but I want to point it out to you too.
Thanks for letting us know!! Prageru is evil and gross.
I'm glad there's a fix! I thought I was gonna have to watch that bull before great videos all the time!
@@sovietdoge.7369 Me too!
Does Jamie have a reddit, that's how we pushed it to OT? Also, anyone that wants to copy paste this to get attention to it, please do. I just want it seen.
Panic blocking relatives should be treated as normal behaviour lol
I love the grandmother saying "everyone's coming out nowadays" instead of "everyone's queer/trans" nowadays". Like, she knows all these people have always been queer, they just feel safe enough to be open about it now. That's beautiful.
my trans sister (M2f) knew I was non-binary before I did, so when I came out to her, she was like "effing finally! I've been biting my tongue so much for years that I've nearly bit the tip off." It's such a good memory for me. Love my sis
I think you, Click, and OT are the best queer UA-camrs on the platform. Your community is always sweet and wholesome, and there's never been a day where I've felt excluded or unwanted. Thank you so much, Jamie!!!
Also, funny thing, I genuinely thought you were a cis guy when I first discovered your channel. It took me so long to realize that you're trans! I've never seen you as anything but a man, and an amazing one at that- it's just neat to know that you're like me.
Aye fellow Jamie, Click, OT watcher that's a trans guy! Solidarity🤝
@@Bunny_Bill Trans, yes, guy, no. I do however have a case of Schrödinger's gender 🌚
@@catdownthestreet I see😨 you're too powerful, breaking the concrete of gender to the point that you can mould it like fluid😦💥
@@Bunny_Bill I am a being beyond my own understanding!
@@Bunny_Bill LMAO, gender is a non-Newtonian solid. solid when pressure is applied, fluid when at rest.
I came out to my therapist a few days ago as a trans guy and she’s going to help me come out to my parents. Love your videos Jamie, they remind me I’m not alone
I would love to share a recent encounter with my new maths teacher. There was one of those comprehension questions where it rambled on about boys and girls who played tennis. When he was putting the info into a table he said, "Now um, we are going to put some uh genders into the table, boys and girls, now I know that there are more than two genders but it's, uh just uh for the uh questionnn" or something like that, it was so funny, me and my trans friend laugh about it all the time it was actually really sweet but it was cool unnecessary clarification 😅
That's so precious!!
Ah, looking forward to the positive trans vibes
Absolutely! we need to appropriate gender reveal parties from the expecting parents... without the forest fires. Just a coming out party full of supporting people
Yes! I've been saying this for years!
lol makes me think of one of my friends, a trans guy, who is carrying his first child and thinking of planning a fakeout "gender reveal" party. as in, go through all the motions like a simple one, but have the reveal color be yellow (I also suggested the trans flag, which he thought would be funny too) just to spite their more conservative family XD
@@Mangaka718 only women can get pregnant
One thing that my friend said to me to help me, for some context, they’re into programming and video games, they told me that “Trans people were into the middle of downloading and the file corrupted which put them into the opposite body.” Just something cool that my friend said.
when I outed myself as trans (2015) my sister found you online and showed me your "1 year on T" video with a picture every day so that I could imagine what kind of changes I'll live through... it was really !!POSITIV!! shocking for me when I found you again, around 2 month ago on OT's channel! never hit a follow button so aggressively fast X'D
i have a little bit of a wholesome story of my own. so a little background in a 17 year old trans--bisexual and I've only recently started to present female in public. i was looking for heels in damaged society and a group of friends were looking around as well and happend to clock me and came over to hello and compliment me on the heels, i though it was an incredibly nice thing to do, especially for someone in my position
❤❤🍅🥰 Thank you for sharing your "I rejoiced in learning I had truly PAID IT FORWARD" story, Jamie. I am tickled that this happened in the Tomato Sauce aisle in the grocery store! 🍅🍅🍅🍅🍅😇🍅🍅🍅
Wholesome story time!
So I got top surgery on my 24th birthday two years ago, and of course I wasn't able to celebrate the day of, being off my ass on pain meds. So my grandparents helped me make it more a birthday "month" to celebrate this momentous occasion. At one point my grandma helped me make a four-layered cake from scratch with the nonbinary flag colors. ^^
Would also like to point out my grandparents drove me four hours up to Cleveland, OH for my surgery and helped me with my drains. They struggle with the pronouns, but they're the most amazing support system I could’ve asked for.
Happy to hear people make you feel that you made it. You have made it my good sir and you will keep on achieving it so long as you keep going.
That "brain hearing but lagging thing" you mentioned is usually auditory processing issues, often connected with things like ADHD, but not necessarily.
Also happens with Autism.
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Daily reminder; You are valid and amazing just the way you are!
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Thank you
You too friend :3 thanks for being so nice! :D
So are ye, my friend
Thank you!!!!!
WOMP WOMP
I get the same thing now where people assume I'm way younger after transition. People used to assume I was like 30 when I was in my early 20s, now I'm almost 30 and post transition, and people tend to think I'm 18-20. I get ID checked so much more often than I used to. It's annoying, but I'm flattered lol.
Hi Jamie! Here’s a confession: I had top surgery 2 days ago (I’m still in the hospital, I actually get discharged in about an hour) and a few hours after my surgery I was sleeping off the anaesthetic and woke up to find my mum sat reading your book that I had brought with me. It made me feel really good because even though she’s supportive enough to be here with me for my surgery, she’s still trying to learn more and actively take an interest in trans things :)
Your silly little “woo” in this video made me laugh on a day I didn’t think I had it in me. Thank you, once again.
Here's my funny trans story: I was getting an injection in school and my legal name was on it. The nurse accidentally called me by the masculine version of my deadname as she clarified details about me. I trans masced too close to the sun
This happens to me a lot lol, also, ANOTHER NIRVANA FAN! What’s your favorite song, mine is aneurysm. Sorry it’s been a long time since I’ve met an actual Nirvana fan and not someone who just wears the shirt 😅
@@Dino.Nuggetsart OMG ANEURYSM IS MY FAVOURITE TOO! Sorry I just got really excited lmao. I also really like Blew and Swap Meet!!
@@YourLocalNirvanaFan yessss!! Theyre soo good
here’s my little goofy trans story.
2 kids at my school came up to me ,sorta laughing to themselves , one said “[deadname], is your name Cole now”
i said “yes?” knowing they where gonna start asking intrusive questions.
one said to the other “i told you so”, other said”why?”
“because i’m non binary” wanting them to go away
one, with the most misplaced confidence iv ever seen said “is that why your so flat!” and both started laughing and walked away, as if they had just did something hilarious to bully me, i just smiled knowing they had accidentally affirmed my gender, it still makes me laugh to this day
Back in 2019 when I figured my gender. I found your channel. I was so jealous of your transition and now in less than a week I start T myself. Thanks for being out their
Congratulations on starting T! The day my trans daughter started her HRT was a big day and being with her during her transition has been so joyful. We get to celebrate her first "girl birthday" in a couple of months! Mom hugs to you!!
I watched Love, Simon a couple of weeks before my oldest went off to college. There's a bit in it about reinventing/coming out when going to college, and when the movie was done, they looked at me and said, well, I almost made it to college first. At that point they then identified as a lesbian...after a couple of years that expanded to another term I don't remember, it doesn't matter, but when they came home that year with a boyfriend they were nonbinary. They (and that boyfriend) got married earlier this year. The name change I'm solid with, I occasionally flub up the pronouns but I'm as happy for them as I could possibly be, they're doing great!
You helped this transphobe go from this extreme into an ally going out of my way to support trans people.❤
watching your videos has definitely helped me as the mother of a trans man
Wait you're trans? You're TRANS? I seriously couldn't have guessed my dude! 🎉
While talking with my dad about a family problem he said 'the way your so strong, its like you should have been a boy' i was quiet for a while after. Then on a school function i was watching my dad play soccer with other dads and some of their sons. It gave me a weird feeling.
Hi Jamie, I'm a pansexual, polyamorous, non-binary b*tch and I just started watching your videos and I love them so much! Keep creating!
You mean confused and attention seeker
OMG I love Jamie talking about how much he loves us. It's really sweet. Don't change Jamie. You're the reason you have a million followers! You're adorable and so kind. We need more people like you in this world.
I had a great gender affirming moment few days back when I was walking to my counselor's office. For context I'm trans non-binary, pronouns they/them/he/him; I was walking and this older gentleman was walking in my direction and he said "good morning young lady" and I said back "not lady". I was expecting that he may come off transphoic or be grossed out because that's what normally happens but instead he surprised me and said "oh, good morning young boy"! I was shocked and so happy and said thank you. I don't think that person knows how gender affirming that was 💖🥰💖
Your videos helped me get comfortable and accept that i was bisexsual and even being brave enough to go to my first pride with my sister.
Edit : i Also want to add that She knew that I was bi as I had already told her on accident that I married Leah in standew valley without even noticing 😂😅
14:54 that's auditory processing disorder and it's more annoying to have than to deal with someone who has it 🤣😭
Yep, it sure is and I love that the bigot was left confused and hopefully annoyed while the person who left the message got joy out of it.
p.s. yeah having it can be super annoying
as a straight cis person who is a full ally who gets upset seeing homophobic and transphobic stuff online it really is heartwarming seeing some positive experiences here
I never really came out to my extended family but my parents probably told them (which I’m fine with) but one of my uncles is a vicar and lawyer and he was the one I was most scared of seeing after being out because of religion and stuff, then recently he helped me change my name! Good to know there will be at least 6 churches with a supportive vicar!!
I'm cishet, and you've helped me immensely.
I consider a central aspect of my allyship to be to educate myself as much as possible. You've answered questions that I didn't know enough to wonder about. I appreciate all of the interests and formats that you explore in these videos. Sometimes I need a bit of laughter with my lesson; sometimes, I prefer a scholarly approach, with sources referenced; the personal stories that you and others share are a true gift of insight.
I cannot thank you enough for your knowledge, your thoughtfulness, your ability to listen and try to understand people who are often just bigots, and your sense of humor. There's more, but I'm in the early stages of a migraine, and can't think .
I'm happy with my assigned gender, even though I don't fit into the stereotype of what society says I should look/sound like. I'm a bit hairy, my voice is low, and I lean more towards masculine traits despite my identity as female. I'm saying this because I want people to know that if you feel gender dysphoria, it's absolutely valid. Don't let people gaslight you into thinking you're just a confused tomboy/femboy or anything like that. I'm 100% a tomboy and I don't feel any dysphoria at all. So if you're questioning yourself today, asking if you're REALLY trans, don't worry, you almost certainly are. In my experience, a cis person doesn't question their cis-ness, even if they act or appear more like the opposite gender.
I feel the same way! … kinda… there *are* times I wonder… but then I think about being referred to as a different gender, and I get this weirdly adverse reaction that makes me feel like what I think dysphoria might feel like…? It’s a curious thing, but I’m a cis woman for sure. With that in mind, I have a best friend from when I was literally still a toddler in preschool, and he and I grew up thinking we were both cis, just happened to be tomboys. Mainly because that was the only term we had. Once we were older and had the term trans, he figured himself out, and came out to me. After that I wondered a bit, and eventually settled on being cis after an interaction where someone online called me sir, and my immediate reaction was to correct them, even though at the time I was testing out nonbinary/gender fluid online, and felt really uncomfortable when I didn’t correct them… and in that moment I knew I was cis. All this to say, both my best friend and I were “tomboys” growing up, but, after having the term trans, only one of us turned out to be an actual boy all along. Proof that telling someone about trans people won’t make someone trans. It’s innate and something you know. It’s just hard to figure out until you try to go by different pronouns and learn if you like them or not.
That’s actually really good to know. I figured out I’m a trans guy super late and just a few months ago. I was a “tomboy” too, absolutely hated what puberty did to me but I didn’t even know about trans people until I was an adult, I just thought all afab people hated being afab cause patriarchy or whatever. And I always loved when someone thought I was a boy/man. It only happened a handful of times in my life, but I remember each of them fondly
Omg you posted this 15 minutes ago
I just want to tell you that I really love your stuff and you’re great
I'm pretty sure I'm cis but I'm here because I just love this channel. LGBTQ+ pride is something I need more of
I (mtf) lost some bra straps in the wash and my mom found them. 😱 She started on my father about having an affair, so I tried to defend him by saying they were mine but she wouldn’t listen. It remained an unsolved mystery for 5yrs 😅
LMAO 😂
My mom has been saying since before I remember that she didn't name me and my brother, but while she was pregnant we "told" her what our names are.
I am a trans man and I have a very masculine name, which is the one I've had my whole life. When I came out at the age of 32, she couldn't help herself. "See? You told me who you were all along! I wasn't making it up!"
Thanks, mom. I do love my name and it's always been the right one for me. Love you ❤️
I haven't had the best experience when it comes to showing those close to me the LGBTQ+ community and talking about experiences related to that, and it was such a heartwarming, nerve-wracking experience when I mentioned you to my epic straight ally friend and she asked to watch some of your videos with me. I kept glancing at her to gauge her reaction the entire time, but she was actually really interested and told me that she liked it because she didn't really hear from this perspective much. Gave me hope that maybe not everyone is inevitably just going to get tired of me being LGBTQ+ and wish I would just be straight :)
I’m sure there are many who don’t care or actively think of you as a more interesting person because of it
If your goal was to help at least one person understand their (or a loved one’s) identity, you’ve certainly surpassed that by a lot. Good on you for helping so many people feel seen, heard and understood as well as helping others understand trans people ❤
I have a fun Trans 'confession'. My mom's really transphobic, but my dad just struggles with calling people by correct pronouns and names. He mostly calls me by my nickname instead because it's easier. My dad lives in another state, but he visits for my birthday, and this year, for my 18th, I had to most people I ever did. Apparently he was trying to get my attention by calling my nickname but I was distracted by my group of friends, so he called me by my chosen name. Apparently my mom gave him a weird look, but it did get my attention.
Jamie, the waffling is endearing. Keep being you!
"phantom boobs" is Something that i did not expected to hear today, but i am all for it
15:01 I’d say it’s the loud music which the ears were adjusting to. Also, confusing bullies sounds awesome 😂
About the one with the switching genders, I have a similar story. A close friend of mine came out to me as bi, and my reaction was pretty much "oh cool, I'm trans." Not as funny as with both people being trans, but still made for a memorable moment 💜
I've been out as non-binary for 7 years and went home for Rosh Hashanah, as I'm Jewish. We had a lunch before we did Tashlich (where you throw lint/crumbs into water as a representation of your sins so you can start the year on a fresh slate), where my mom admitted she was still hung up on my deadname and reclaiming it in front of my extended family. I told her that I had already thrown it out with my Tashlich sins years ago.
I just came out as ftm to my extended family yesterday and it went so well I’m so happy
Congratulations on coming out and on having a kick-ass, supportive family!! 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵
Thank you!!
That's so awesome dude! Good luck man ❤
Congratulations
You literally got me through 6th grade 😭 ily man
The grandpa story reminded of talking to my dad again for the first time in over 20 years and hearing him repeatedly and firmly correcting my step mother every time she misgendered me.
I am always scared of period things falling or poking out of my pockets. I kind of pass most of the time so long as I don’t speak, and I remember using the men’s restroom at school once and thinking it was empty, I always checked for feet under the stall doors, then opening a pad kinda loudly because I was trying to do it quickly. Thing is, my school removed the doors to the men’s restrooms and I forgot they’d done that, so another guy walked in and heard everything. He just kinda nodded at me and smiled. Turns out he was also trans.
That's a lucky coincidence
@@ninjoshday Fr
I would have said you're 26 Jamie, so not far off.
And your content is really helping me with coming to grips with being a trans woman.
Best wishes and trans mama hugs to you for a smooth transition!! 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵
@@hellokristi Thank you so much.
I have found myself feeling happier since I figured myself out.
Good job on getting sponsored by *UA-cam*
might even check them out lol
Hello I am aro ace and when my parents are like “ when you’re older and you find the one you are absolutely smitten for (BLEH) you will be thankful that I tought you how to use your manners “ I WONT GO ON A DATE WITH ANYONE EVER I CAN EAT LIKE A WILD ANIMAL AT MY HOUSE WHENEVER I WANT OR WITH MY HANDS
You go wild, you beast! /pos
Sincerely, not Jammidodger
nothing more satisfying than going full goblin-mode on some snacks, fr fr
you live your best goblin life! 💜🤍🖤🤍💚
Okay, I hear you. But counterpoint: [photo of a cat]
@@ninjoshday I will eat with my hands whith that cat
@@ninjoshday also give the cat a napkin snd fancy cat friendly versions of normal food but go goblin mode
I call the thing with hearing what was said but taking a moment to understand it "hearing lag." My partner took a liking to the term because it perfectly describes the struggle. We both experience it, but we were the only ones at the place we used to work. I don't know about my current coworkers, but my partner's current coworkers all have it
Years ago, I was gently teasing a (not-out) friend by using a diminutive of her name (e.g. if you have a friend named Jack, saying something like “Aw, is little Jackie mad?”)
It went even better than I imagined: she loved the name, thought it was adorable, and has gone by it ever since. It’s pretty much her new name now, especially since she came out as trans.
People who have known her much longer than I have call her that now.
I’m actually really proud of that.
I’m another person you’ve helped learned how to be supportive! I’m a cis teacher who runs a GSA (and teaches drama - my students joke that GSA/drama at our school in a Venn diagram is essentially a circle) and I’ve been watching you and Shaaba for AGES. Since I’ve been watching I’ve also learned my nephew is a trans boy and good friend is a trans man. I’ve recommended your channel to my friend a couple times. 💙
I'm not trans, but I am bi. I have mentioned this in another of Jammi's videos before. But I do struggle with questioning whether or not my mom would have accepted me for who I am. She was so sweet and an amazing influence in my life and how I turned out. But she passed in my early twenties, before I really even knew myself. And there were some antequated ideas about homosexuality and a few bigoted anecdotes passed around from the older generations and some bi erasure type comments. And I know where they come from. I'm not trying to justify it. But I loved her and I know she loved me. But we never really had that talk and now we never can. It still makes me sad and I still think about it sometimes. I can never really know for certain if she'd have loved me for me, you know?
please do more of these they’re so much fun to watch!
The fact Jamie says ‘could HAVE’ and not ‘could OF’ >>>>>>>
Oh my goodness. There were more genderfluid folk here than I expected. 🧡 I love all of you guys!!!
I'm not surprised given how hot it's been lately. Lotta folks melting out here
All those cute stories about accepting grandparents always almost make me cry because my grandma was also really, really accepting. And it’s always so nice to have someone by your side