This is very true. What she is doing is testing to see if you will come after her, text her , call her. The minute you allow a woman to out-wait men, men lose. What they are trying to find out is if a man, "needs her", as opposed to want her in some way. If you need someone, your less in her eyes.
Wife? have you seen the divorce courts and how men are treated and how these so called 'wives' take them for all they have? He is talking about women overall . Over 80% of divorces are filed by women, they collect alimony and child support and go on vacations with their bfs
As a cat person (they adore me), you always need to show availability, but never chase them. Cat notices you, you are calm and relaxed, come down and call on them nicely. If they come to you, great, if not, try again later and they will slowly love you. Never chase them and never try to pick them up and cuddle them too soon. You have to show healthy amounts of interest. Unlike dogs, who come immediately and lick your face.
Problem is: For some men, cultivating their own confidence involves interacting with women. You need to get better at interacting with women, understanding women. That's how you gain true confidence.
Chris, you are the best advisor on UA-cam, thank you brother!! Gents, if you haven’t got the book & audiobook - then get it now - you will NEVER EVER be manipulated or disrespected by a woman ever again.
4:21 "The less kind you are to women... the more interested in you they become." These type of women are toxic and have unhealed trauma. You don't want to get involved with such a woman anyway, unless you yourself have unhealed trauma, toxic, and like emotional instability.
You have to reel then in so they know you exist and then detach. If she is the one who attracts the man she thinks she's the boss of the relationship. One thing I've done is ask her out early on after you talk to her. If she says no then detach and she'll be surprised and start wondering why you're not upset and she might start getting interested. If you wait too long to ask her out the man gets too emotionally invested because then she starts to become better than she is in your mind.
I had a question, you say not to give too much value to a woman, one thing i know for sure is that being needy and desperate kills attraction, does that mean i should keep ignoring her and dont give her any value? , isn't that going to make her think that i have taken her for granted, why would someone want to be in a relationship where they aren't valued and loved enough? Also in your book it is mentioned that a men should not follow a women's lead but what if what my partner knows more about a particular thing and I'm naieve in that, should i still ignore her advices?why would a woman want to be in a relationship where she is never heard and taken seriously
@DevelopAttraction too expensive when converted to INR, can't afford now, will try in the future, I do appreciate your work but I was confused regarding this topic, nvm
I have 3 girlfriends 2, i treat them not important and 1 i treat her like queen The results is that 2 treat me so good, and that 1 treat me like a doormat.. Just focus on ur self, stop caring woman and relationships, never change for her... Never give ur power to ur girlfriend..
I'm in this situation rn that I treat my girlfriend like a queen. And I feel that she started being cold with me. I'm too attached to her. What should I do?
You need to simply balance it. See if she is into you and match that. Tease her about it. If she is not into you, don't let your feelings fool you and step away.
She is either attracted to you or not. There's no two way about it. What Chris is saying is, you should also behave attractively or else a chick who was attracted to you, will lose attraction. You can very rarely make a girl who was not attracted to you, get attracted. That's a CAT analogy. You can only allow a Cat to come to you, there's no cat in the world, you can convince to like you by doing things. Try it. You'll understand. That's why the Universe truth about Love is. Only Men can truly Love. Women just selects their mate. However there are exceptions for some women , but that's like winning the lottery. 😅
@@kaberigomes2117 This is nonsense. The closer I get to animals, the closer they become to me. That's always been that way since I was a kid and had cats and dogs. Other family members that didn't try to get close to the animals, the animals never were close with either. Women also love, and if you think they only choose a mate, I feel sorry for the state of mind you are in, or where you live, or what girls you choose to surround yourself with. The number one thing with relationships, friendships, family, work, and everything in life, is to be genuine and be yourself. People can easily notice when you start being a chameleon that tries to adapt to who you are around... Nobody trusts a chameleon, as they always try to blend in and never truly have any strong opinion of personality of their own. Be genuine!
All the video says is true, and that is the reason why a lot of women end up with that particular type of guy (who doesn't seem to care much) and begin to regret after it's too late when he treats her like shit. Seen a lot of it happen, don't know whether to sympathize with the woman or to feel that she deserves it...
Yeah the dilemma is the reason why I'm not giving her my attention is because I'm not that interested in her :-/ The moment you do develop feelings and need her, is the moment she dismisses you on the grounds that you were taking her granted for so long. Uncertainty seems to be her attraction mechanism.
I understand... but what about the things i want? I want a woman that i can adore, that is worth it being put on that pedastel and that can deal with me being like that toward her in a grown up way, in a way that servs the both of us, that she like me being like that. A woman that accepts me the way i am, that wont use my weakness towards her against me, or feels bad about me because of it.
Chris, what would you do if a woman is perfect in all areas except she abandons you at times for her family? She puts her family first. We all want a family oriented girl but is it worth always coming 2nd to her family?
Interesting I agree for women, the cat thing though hard to believe, my cat is very close to me more than others and I know it’s because I’m more interested in her and attentive to her. Maybe it’s different if you live with the cat vs just one out on the street
That is actually exactly how cats and women are. Things will be different when you are together. But in the beginning, most cats will be careful about you.
I also agree regarding XXs, not so much regarding cats. I got cats all my life, when I entered my home just newborn there where already a kitty that was adopted by my parents few days before I was born, and that Kitty inmediatly became attached to me and was pretty much my brother as we grow up together. I couldn't tell how many cats I rescued, adopted, raised ... And there Is no pattern with them. Each one has it's own personality and preferences.
You could ask her out on dates and spend minimal time with her, nothing wrong with that, just have a life outside her, you don't need make her the center of your universe, bruh
Ive been married 30 years. Find a woman who likes being around you most of her non-working hours (butstill do your own hobbies, of course).. Anything less is crap.
What I'm realising is that excessive attention puts them under some kind of pressure to reciprocate and they resent this emotional obligation. Women like being around a man who makes no implied expectation of her through excessive attention. She relaxes and develops curiosity instead.
True. Even if one knows astrology saturn exalt in the libra the cosmic female saturn is slowest moving planet suggesting that female in general have a slower dynamic.. slow to build attention, attraction, even maturity so you have to be patient and unemotional with woman just like saturn the cold and dark planet.
This is generally true but only if she's interested in you will this work, if she isn't and you emotionally detach she won't even know you exist - but she's not interested in you anyway.
Its only about you so you aren't trying to make someone want you who doesn't. You don't eave her to make her want you. You forget her and leave to not have your time wasted because its about finding the one who will cooperate with you from the jump.
Be the man who gives very little to get what you want.....don't be the guy who gives too much only to find out she has given it to some other guy for free.
@@Noname-u5h9e Don't Give A Flying "F"! She will automatically submit!!!! Once she sees you're comfortable, in her mind, she has conquered you!!!! It's just nature!!!!!
Women want what they can't have Other women's men are prized for that reason I used to wear a wedding ring when I was single and drink at the bar ignoring women at COB in the city in corporate attire when I was broke, lol
Just find out what show or movie she loves to watch and you will immediately figure out the kind of guy she likes when she tells you of her favourite male actor in it 😎
Attraction grows in space. If she goes mysteriously quiet, become an invincible ghost. Stay focused my brothers.
This is very true. What she is doing is testing to see if you will come after her, text her , call her. The minute you allow a woman to out-wait men, men lose. What they are trying to find out is if a man, "needs her", as opposed to want her in some way. If you need someone, your less in her eyes.
Ngl i might need to read this everyday cause man my mind is all over the place about her and i said some mean things just trying to be strong man😔
@@brysonfarrington7338every day is a new day
Absolute facts!
*Women appreciate men who know their worth but don’t feel the need to prove it.*
True. Good one
Treat her like a celebrity she will treat you like a fan. Dont pedestalise no broad lol
Become the celebrity ✨
What if I treat her like a sperm dumpster
Attraction can be summed up in your first sentence. Once guys get that, they're on the way to success with women.
If she's not your wife don't invest anything in her and detach from anything especially women and 80% of your problem will be over.
Wife? have you seen the divorce courts and how men are treated and how these so called 'wives' take them for all they have? He is talking about women overall . Over 80% of divorces are filed by women, they collect alimony and child support and go on vacations with their bfs
Detach from your wife too and you'll have a happy marriage.
Is it okay to treat wife like that? What if she gets spoiled?
As a cat person (they adore me), you always need to show availability, but never chase them. Cat notices you, you are calm and relaxed, come down and call on them nicely. If they come to you, great, if not, try again later and they will slowly love you. Never chase them and never try to pick them up and cuddle them too soon. You have to show healthy amounts of interest. Unlike dogs, who come immediately and lick your face.
cats hate being mithered or forced in to something.
Gotta have them cat biscuits to throw at the woman
@@deathvalleybro9320 but cats also exist in male-female pair...so male cats acts like female cats...neither do men like being forced
He speakes the truth. Note importantly here is to always put your mission first, then her
not getting attached and being Emotionally unavailable is key, plain and simple
isn't it more accurate to use the word "emotionally INDEPENDENT" (instead of the callous "emot. unavailable) ?
I 'd think so.
@@mtlicqagreed.
This is the best content on the internet regarding Attraction
💯 spot on!!!
Chris is great. Dan Bacon is amazing too.
Bobby rio as well. Good content
Psyhacks allso
1) Chris Canwell 2) Orion Taraban 3) Rollo Tomassi 4) Myron Gaines 5) Tate 6) Eveybody else…
Cultivating your own confidence makes much more sense than chasing women.
Problem is: For some men, cultivating their own confidence involves interacting with women.
You need to get better at interacting with women, understanding women. That's how you gain true confidence.
THIS is the way, my brothas
Chris, you are the best advisor on UA-cam, thank you brother!! Gents, if you haven’t got the book & audiobook - then get it now - you will NEVER EVER be manipulated or disrespected by a woman ever again.
This is the kind of stuff that literally makes me nauseous when I think about dating again.
Thanks for another uplifting video
Fascinating paradox. Essential knowledge.
4:21 "The less kind you are to women... the more interested in you they become."
These type of women are toxic and have unhealed trauma. You don't want to get involved with such a woman anyway, unless you yourself have unhealed trauma, toxic, and like emotional instability.
yup
this guy gives great advice on how to deal with toxic women
INSTEAD I SAY
avoid toxic women in the first place, not all women are toxic
Mr Chris always drops salient points when it comes to relationship & attraction.
Great video Chris, keep dem coming.
Hi Sir Chris, I don't know how to say thanks to you, so I've just subscribed and liking your vids.
Awesome! I didn’t know you had a UA-cam channel. I’ve read your book Atomic Attractions multiple times!. I appreciate your work and all that you do. 😎
You have to reel then in so they know you exist and then detach. If she is the one who attracts the man she thinks she's the boss of the relationship. One thing I've done is ask her out early on after you talk to her. If she says no then detach and she'll be surprised and start wondering why you're not upset and she might start getting interested. If you wait too long to ask her out the man gets too emotionally invested because then she starts to become better than she is in your mind.
Good stuff
I had a question, you say not to give too much value to a woman, one thing i know for sure is that being needy and desperate kills attraction, does that mean i should keep ignoring her and dont give her any value? , isn't that going to make her think that i have taken her for granted, why would someone want to be in a relationship where they aren't valued and loved enough? Also in your book it is mentioned that a men should not follow a women's lead but what if what my partner knows more about a particular thing and I'm naieve in that, should i still ignore her advices?why would a woman want to be in a relationship where she is never heard and taken seriously
Email me
@DevelopAttraction too expensive when converted to INR, can't afford now, will try in the future, I do appreciate your work but I was confused regarding this topic, nvm
@@Kaambonnaimur no need to pay, just use the contact form
great channel. subbed. will be watching more.
Thank you, needed this
I have 3 girlfriends
2, i treat them not important and 1 i treat her like queen
The results is that 2 treat me so good, and that 1 treat me like a doormat..
Just focus on ur self, stop caring woman and relationships, never change for her... Never give ur power to ur girlfriend..
I'm in this situation rn that I treat my girlfriend like a queen. And I feel that she started being cold with me. I'm too attached to her. What should I do?
Detach from her,,Give her space to breath, find something productive to do outside of her,, you're smothering her, bruh
U are banging three😂😂
This is very good information. I hope all men watch this video.
Pre Selection is powerful my brothers. It works for me
Wdym?
But if you are distant and unavailable with an attractive woman she will simply forget about you so what's the point?
You need to simply balance it. See if she is into you and match that. Tease her about it. If she is not into you, don't let your feelings fool you and step away.
She is either attracted to you or not. There's no two way about it.
What Chris is saying is, you should also behave attractively or else a chick who was attracted to you, will lose attraction.
You can very rarely make a girl who was not attracted to you, get attracted. That's a CAT analogy.
You can only allow a Cat to come to you, there's no cat in the world, you can convince to like you by doing things.
Try it. You'll understand. That's why the Universe truth about Love is.
Only Men can truly Love. Women just selects their mate.
However there are exceptions for some women , but that's like winning the lottery. 😅
@@kaberigomes2117 This is nonsense. The closer I get to animals, the closer they become to me. That's always been that way since I was a kid and had cats and dogs. Other family members that didn't try to get close to the animals, the animals never were close with either. Women also love, and if you think they only choose a mate, I feel sorry for the state of mind you are in, or where you live, or what girls you choose to surround yourself with. The number one thing with relationships, friendships, family, work, and everything in life, is to be genuine and be yourself. People can easily notice when you start being a chameleon that tries to adapt to who you are around... Nobody trusts a chameleon, as they always try to blend in and never truly have any strong opinion of personality of their own. Be genuine!
All the video says is true, and that is the reason why a lot of women end up with that particular type of guy (who doesn't seem to care much) and begin to regret after it's too late when he treats her like shit. Seen a lot of it happen, don't know whether to sympathize with the woman or to feel that she deserves it...
Helpful thank you❤ Godbless
Yes
Very much true!
Imagine the powers this dude has in social settings.
dig that shirt. really cool.
I loves your book.
Yeah the dilemma is the reason why I'm not giving her my attention is because I'm not that interested in her :-/
The moment you do develop feelings and need her, is the moment she dismisses you on the grounds that you were taking her granted for so long.
Uncertainty seems to be her attraction mechanism.
I understand... but what about the things i want? I want a woman that i can adore, that is worth it being put on that pedastel and that can deal with me being like that toward her in a grown up way, in a way that servs the both of us, that she like me being like that. A woman that accepts me the way i am, that wont use my weakness towards her against me, or feels bad about me because of it.
Helpful information.❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉😊😊😊👏👏👏💯💯💯👍😎🙂
Chris, what would you do if a woman is perfect in all areas except she abandons you at times for her family? She puts her family first. We all want a family oriented girl but is it worth always coming 2nd to her family?
Guess it means she's not ready to start her own family with you and/or she is always going to put her family first.
Interesting I agree for women, the cat thing though hard to believe, my cat is very close to me more than others and I know it’s because I’m more interested in her and attentive to her. Maybe it’s different if you live with the cat vs just one out on the street
That is actually exactly how cats and women are. Things will be different when you are together. But in the beginning, most cats will be careful about you.
I also agree regarding XXs, not so much regarding cats. I got cats all my life, when I entered my home just newborn there where already a kitty that was adopted by my parents few days before I was born, and that Kitty inmediatly became attached to me and was pretty much my brother as we grow up together. I couldn't tell how many cats I rescued, adopted, raised ... And there Is no pattern with them. Each one has it's own personality and preferences.
so intially also we have to not chase them? like ask them for date have conversation etc
You could ask her out on dates and spend minimal time with her, nothing wrong with that, just have a life outside her, you don't need make her the center of your universe, bruh
@@oscargonza2748right 👍
Ive been married 30 years. Find a woman who likes being around you most of her non-working hours (butstill do your own hobbies, of course).. Anything less is crap.
Absolutely true, also 30 years here.
Exactly 👏👏👏👏👏
Great advice 👍
And how to get them to invest in us more ? Examples ?
Thank you boss 🫡
My cat is an acceptation to this study. She can’t get enough affection.
Oh, this is simple. A woman desires luxury, money, power and status. All on the sweat of a man’s hard work.
@@GD-tn3ez It’s true they desire that from low value men
@@DevelopAttraction yea sure bezos is low value sure
What I'm realising is that excessive attention puts them under some kind of pressure to reciprocate and they resent this emotional obligation. Women like being around a man who makes no implied expectation of her through excessive attention. She relaxes and develops curiosity instead.
True. Even if one knows astrology saturn exalt in the libra the cosmic female saturn is slowest moving planet suggesting that female in general have a slower dynamic.. slow to build attention, attraction, even maturity so you have to be patient and unemotional with woman just like saturn the cold and dark planet.
Isn't that how men are ?
Good point - their emotions/moods come and go arbitrarily - so it's best to stay neutral and observe. Nymphomaniacs are another matter.
my eyes adored you. - frankie valli (1974)
This is generally true but only if she's interested in you will this work, if she isn't and you emotionally detach she won't even know you exist - but she's not interested in you anyway.
Its only about you so you aren't trying to make someone want you who doesn't. You don't eave her to make her want you. You forget her and leave to not have your time wasted because its about finding the one who will cooperate with you from the jump.
I always ignore my cat, she loves me.
Be the man who gives very little to get what you want.....don't be the guy who gives too much only to find out she has given it to some other guy for free.
👏👏👏
Sooooooooo be an A$$hoLe cat 😂❤ 🐈 hah love it
"Less is Always more.......
How do you make her to invest in you tho?
By "NOT" Giving A F@ck!!!!!
By doing everything less, talk to her less, text her less, everything less etc
@@mystykalmn4434 What does a woman do when they invest on a man though?
@@kikimbrown Female tasks without request (cook, clean, serve, sex). Submission and compliance (arguments, annoyances, passive aggression, follow, listen). You’re welcome.
@@Noname-u5h9e Don't Give A Flying "F"! She will automatically submit!!!! Once she sees you're comfortable, in her mind, she has conquered you!!!! It's just nature!!!!!
❤
Women want what they can't have
Other women's men are prized for that reason
I used to wear a wedding ring when I was single and drink at the bar ignoring women at COB in the city in corporate attire when I was broke, lol
And what was result?
@supremeleader5516 the women make the approach. Being unavailable and looking high status attracts the competitive ones.
OK, but what's with women who like dogs? Are they different than those who like cats?
Just find out what show or movie she loves to watch and you will immediately figure out the kind of guy she likes when she tells you of her favourite male actor in it 😎
Good tip - my wife's favourite is Kevin Costner, haven't a clue what this means😅
Women are cats wow
😂😂😂😂
4:24 extra comma.
So how long have you been married?
😂😂😂😂😂😂 well, those PhD, doctors don't understand cats, for sure. 😂😂😂😂😂
Get 2 cats - make sure one is an orange one…
Hmm, women behave like cat, that's very interesting
😂😂😂😂
Dog reveals a man to
Women are cats men are wolf😂😂
@Jungle_boy123 men turned into wolf when he improves himself or life realization
Nope
Ah, women don't invest much in relationships.
Not laughing on farting.
There was a time i didn't listen to this guy....as a result faced the consequences😢😢
Can u tell me ur story, what went wrong
You're talking about 'How to be adored by her' but 'how about man's desire of adoring her?' I'm sure feminists can never think about that.
So she must pay for stuff aswell?
Yes that we she thinks she is invested in you
Yep cats don't like children
I need my wife to take me to the cleaners.
I have several shirts ready for pickup.
Womem are attracted to money...period
The ultimate redpill! Eventually money matters