I'm extremely competitive, but I think I've always had to be. Not because I grew up an athlete or anything, just because from a young age, I was on my own and had to fend for myself. It's why I started performing card magic tricks for money, creating + selling bookmarks, and flipping stuff on the weekends at flea market (because my mom sold stuff there each weekend for extra cash) from age 7. I was tired of rummaging in trash cans to find food, and I found a way to buy school lunch. And I found I was REALLY good at selling. I also knew nobody was going to come rescue me from the hell I lived through at home and I had to rescue myself, while also knowing I couldn't do it completely on my own because I was just a kid, so I equated "being the best" with "being safe." And because I was just naturally good at school and loved to learn, my competitiveness came out in getting the highest grades and doing extra work to get favor from teachers. (Definitely some people-pleaser tendencies there.) When I finally ran away at 17 and lived on the streets and had to find a way to survive, that competitiveness came out and propelled me as I walked into businesses in downtown Tampa, asked if they had a website (it was 2008, so it was necessary to ask) and if I could write blog posts for them, and typed all evening at the public library (because I didn't have a laptop). That fire kept me alive and got me to do things (cold outreach -- in person, no less -- and offering a service most people didn't see the value of at the time) that, if my life circumstances were different and I were born in a family who loved me, I otherwise may never had the courage to do. I'm 32, and I'm still fiercely competitive, but it (and my resourcefulness) is my biggest strength -- in both life and business. Last year, I started kickboxing, and it's been an excellent way to not just have another outlet to channel this competitiveness but also help with the rage from trauma. 10/10 would recommend. Anyway, I'm just a kid still, but if you're competitive, nurture it. So many messages out there tell us being competitive is bad and we should mellow out. Don't. Just direct it properly, and be in competition with yourself. That drive will take you -- us -- far. (It's also worth saying you can be fiercely competitive AND deeply value community. They're not mutually exclusive, and it's one of my biggest pet peeves when people say "community over competition." You can -- and should -- have both. Be the best at what you do. Master your craft. AND help others in the process.)
Hi! I’m exploring my competitive side but i’m scared that if I compete it would be about the other. I’m trying to comprehend what people mean with being healthily competitive. Does it mean competing with oneself like knowing one is in competition WITH others but mainly focusing on competing oneself?
So many times I try to listen to Gary V and He loses me with his concepts and wiffle waffle. I have to filter out lots of his stuff to pick out some of the good ideas etc.
I'm extremely competitive, but I think I've always had to be. Not because I grew up an athlete or anything, just because from a young age, I was on my own and had to fend for myself.
It's why I started performing card magic tricks for money, creating + selling bookmarks, and flipping stuff on the weekends at flea market (because my mom sold stuff there each weekend for extra cash) from age 7. I was tired of rummaging in trash cans to find food, and I found a way to buy school lunch.
And I found I was REALLY good at selling.
I also knew nobody was going to come rescue me from the hell I lived through at home and I had to rescue myself, while also knowing I couldn't do it completely on my own because I was just a kid, so I equated "being the best" with "being safe." And because I was just naturally good at school and loved to learn, my competitiveness came out in getting the highest grades and doing extra work to get favor from teachers. (Definitely some people-pleaser tendencies there.)
When I finally ran away at 17 and lived on the streets and had to find a way to survive, that competitiveness came out and propelled me as I walked into businesses in downtown Tampa, asked if they had a website (it was 2008, so it was necessary to ask) and if I could write blog posts for them, and typed all evening at the public library (because I didn't have a laptop). That fire kept me alive and got me to do things (cold outreach -- in person, no less -- and offering a service most people didn't see the value of at the time) that, if my life circumstances were different and I were born in a family who loved me, I otherwise may never had the courage to do.
I'm 32, and I'm still fiercely competitive, but it (and my resourcefulness) is my biggest strength -- in both life and business.
Last year, I started kickboxing, and it's been an excellent way to not just have another outlet to channel this competitiveness but also help with the rage from trauma. 10/10 would recommend.
Anyway, I'm just a kid still, but if you're competitive, nurture it. So many messages out there tell us being competitive is bad and we should mellow out. Don't. Just direct it properly, and be in competition with yourself. That drive will take you -- us -- far.
(It's also worth saying you can be fiercely competitive AND deeply value community. They're not mutually exclusive, and it's one of my biggest pet peeves when people say "community over competition." You can -- and should -- have both. Be the best at what you do. Master your craft. AND help others in the process.)
Hi! I’m exploring my competitive side but i’m scared that if I compete it would be about the other. I’m trying to comprehend what people mean with being healthily competitive. Does it mean competing with oneself like knowing one is in competition WITH others but mainly focusing on competing oneself?
80s till late 90s were awesome 😎
Hell yeah, run that shit back!
We grew up in NJ with Rocky underdog mindset
Hello guys, love from Brazil. Love you two. You are my motivation.
Your understanding of self esteem is pretty unusual and deep. Most of us struggle to find its real roots and quantum in our own selve
this was awesome sw thoughts from Gary what podcast was this from
I was same way Gary. I'm 47 now and not as bad.
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So many times I try to listen to Gary V and He loses me with his concepts and wiffle waffle. I have to filter out lots of his stuff to pick out some of the good ideas etc.
You have to fix that Mindset and get rid of Brain Fog
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