" If a man and woman marry in order to be companions on the journey from earth to heaven, then their union will bring great joy to themselves and others." - St.John Chrysostom
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Thanks for this. My husband passed away in December. I mourn that life as I knew it is over, and our married life will never be again. This gives me hope. But whatever Christ has in store will be better than I can even comprehend. Jesus, I trust in You.
Before the fall, Adam and Eve lived as man and wife in the Garden of Eden. They were "one flesh" and would have lived that way forever. After all, they were joined together by an Eternal Being. And what God hath joined, no power on earth may put asunder. Only after the fall were Adam and Eve ever subjected to old age, sickness and death. Marriage therefore, is not just a "nice" thing to do, but a commandment of God and His plan for the procreation and replenishment of His world and His footstool. Scripture suggesting that everyone in the resurrection, are Angels, does not accurately describe the eternal heavens, only up to the resurrection, but not after Final Judgement. "God made man in His own image, males and female created He them.". What kind of heaven would include males and females but no marriage? The thought makes reason stare.
@Heresy Hunter D I think this statement: "Heaven isn’t the final destination, it’s the renewed earth," along with this one: "And if we believe the initial creation of man to be perfect, this is how God intended eternity to be," are problematic. Heaven actually is the final destination, and we are not going back to the original state of man before the fall.
@Heresy Hunter D I pray your interpretation is right. The idea that there’s no marriage in Heaven is the reason I left Catholicism originally. As Swedenborg says all romance cries out for eternity; all lovers believe instinctively they will love in the next world as they did on earth. I haven’t met a single Christian who was comfortable with the idea that romance terminates in this life. I hope the idea that romance is eternal gains greater currency in the Church, as a lot of people are being put off by this denial of it.
I suspect there are friends and companions in heaven. I suspect you will still have a relationship with your wife in heaven but it won't be a marriage relationship.
@@kwkw5711no, but it'll be deeper than it is now. There's no barriers to love in heaven like there is here. And I don't think it's wrong to have hope for that.
Whether married or part of a religious order, the journey to get to heaven is long and treacherous, and no one should attempt it alone, without guidance, support, friendship, and good company. Even in the beginning, the Father was with the Word and Holy Spirit. "Two are better off than one, because together they can work more effectively. If one of them falls down, the other can help him up. But if someone is alone and falls, it's just too bad, because there is no one to help him. If it is cold, two can sleep together and stay warm, but how can you keep warm by yourself? Two people can resist an attack that would defeat one person alone. A rope made of three cords is hard to break." (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)
Vezmus 1337 . See clearly, in Ecclesiastes 4, everything talks about 2 people and at the end it's says, a rope of three cords is hard to break . This third person is the Holy Spirit
If human relationships did not persist in some profound way in heaven, then it would make no sense for Mary to be the Queen of Heaven, since this grace is bestowed on her for being the human mother of the Incarnate Word. Similarly, we talk of the role that the Holy Family continues to play in the world (think of all the Marian apparitions where St. Joseph also appears). Their earthly relationship was not cast side but glorified and transformed. Into what, we cannot say exactly. But it was not erased.
It follows that young people should pray for discernment for marriage as it is very important in our walk with God and being in a bad marriage can derail one’s faith
We've been married for 54 years - with the usual up's and down's. I love my wife! I studied to become a priest for 5 years and when I discussed this with those in my class who had been ordained I was quoted the same Gospel reference. The Lord said that their is no 'marrying or giving in marriage in heaven', right? But He makes no mention of those who are married at death and want to remain so for eternity. I think sometimes what's NOT said is equally important.
@JoeBurch9515 and @LT-op4ii Thank you so much for such encouraging words. I have only been married to my husband for going on three years but I cannot imagine my life without him. It was a whirlwind romance filled with a lot of drama caused by outside influences and he brought me back to God and back to church but I cannot imagine being married to anyone but him. He’s already put in place safeguards so if one of us dies, we still have life insurance and a business so we won’t need to remarry for said practical reasons. We also have our Catholic friends, several married Catholic couples and family members. I was initially saddened upon hearing he and I would not be married in heaven, but you both offered words of comfort, encouragement and solace. Thank you!
My father always said, having children is the way most people work out their salvation (he was serious about that)-so he had 10 of us to make sure he got there. And all us kids would groan at the "dad joke".
@@kitt765 For sure, but you have to take some responsibility for your actions It is somewhat self-inflicted. Kind of like a man that drinks then the next morning wakes up with a hangover, It's hard to find sympathy lol
Hello, Father Mike! I would add that within marriage, you can experience God's love, which is unconditional. Even though I got divorced after 15 years, I wouldn't skip it for all the world. Hopefully, he and I both became better people, closer to Christ. Even if I had cancer and wasn't blessed with kids.
@@stoptalking85 Thank you, God bless you too. I have been cancer free for more than 30 years. Thanks be to God, I just have to deal with the long-term effects of radiation to my mouth and throat. Like a brainstem stroke that happened at random. God gives us tests to see how faithful we will be. Amen?
The thought of not being with my husband for all eternity makes me so sad. I love him so much and he shows his love to me every single day. I have the best husband in the world for me!
Yes iam with you on that it’s so hard to think I might be here on earth with out him or him with out me But we wouldn’t be the first lots of widows ,so I try not to worry about it and enjoy every moment we have together & TRUST IN JESUS 🙏🏻
@@windsongshf I like to think of Heaven as equal to or better than your best moment on Earth. You won't be desiring something more, even if that's what your present mind worries over.
Thank you, dear Fr. Mike!! My beloved husband died three years ago after a lifetime of MD suffering. He often spoke of his wishes for me to love again after he was gone. Your beautiful explanation has added to my peace in accepting his wish for me if God wills it. Thank you!!! God bless you abundantly, Fr. Mike!
You don’t need marriage in heaven because you will be with Jesus. I struggle with being single at 33. With each year of getting older it becomes more difficult to date because most men are married.
"This text [Matthew 22: 30] is often understood to imply that marriage is only an earthly institution and that its reality is dissolved by death. Such an understanding prevailed in the Western Church...[In the Eastern Church] The union between husband and wife...is an eternal union between two unique and eternal personalities which cannot be broken..." ~John Meyendorff
@Heresy Hunter D Marriage happens on earth. The vocations are for getting us to heaven. Whichever vocation God calls us to is the best for all involved. In heaven, we will be entirely fulfilled; the vocations get us there, as designed by God and sanctioned by the Church. God bless, thank you for your comment. Peace.
@Heresy Hunter D In heaven you will be married to Christ, the perfect Spouse. We will have no need of a flawed, earthly imitation because we will have the perfection of union.
@@gray_mara this sentiment is hard for me to grasp, I can’t imagine treating my future wife as essentially just a good friend rather than the partner we had a life together with. That just doesn’t seem pleasant to me. I don’t want to make it seem like Jesus isn’t sufficient to me but I would still want the unique bond I had with the person I married, along with the familial bonds I had with my family.
@Heresy Hunter D Are you certain you don't have a chance on earth? My friend is in his 70s and is active on Catholic Match and regularly goes on dates, for example. If there certainly is no hope in that department, there is always hope in God. No worries. God bless you always.
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Thank you, Father. I’ve been discerning religious life but also open to marriage, so this video clears up a lot of confusion and ignorances. Prayers to you
I know someday I will be united with my husband and together we will praise and thank God for His blessings. As He joined us on earth so we will be in EternityPraiseJesus
So good Fr. Mike! I have never got this question before but sooner or later one of our 7 kids would pose this one to us. The analogy to faith and hope being fulfilled and not necessary in heaven is truly best analogy to use here. God bless your ministry. Please pray for the Staples family. My husband Tim Staples is still on the road to recovery. Your prayers would be much appreciated.
In Luke 20:36 Jesus states one of the reasons for no more marrying is because the saved resurrected can’t die anymore but will be like the angels in heaven. The contrast to angels is not sexual desire, He contrasted mortality with immortality. Marry meant the male proposing for the woman to be his wife and being given in marriage meant the father giving her to the proposer. It’s customs to be married, not marriage itself. Adam and Eve were married without marrying or being given in marriage. The reason for the Sadducee's question was that the levirate law required a woman to marry the next oldest brother of her husband if he died without children. They thought if the woman hadn’t fulfilled the purpose of that law, she would still need to be married to all the brothers or they’d be sinning. If she did that, she and the men would commit polygamy which is also a sin, so to avoid sin, God wouldn’t resurrect everyone forever. They thought all of God's laws would be needed in a renewed world, not knowing that the reason for recreating is to restore creation to before those laws were needed. Keeping marriage does not contradict Jesus’s answer to the Sadducees because the woman they asked about is only required to marry any of those men with the levirate law. The law ending does not forbid her from being married to a different man. It's a false dilemma. Jesus’s mention of not being able to die would make no sense unless he only meant legal customs to marry because death is not a reason for marriage. It says in Revelation 20:6 that those who are awakened in the first resurrection won’t suffer for eternity. These are the same people in the prophecy in Isaiah 65:17-25. If Jesus said that those worthy to attain the age of the resurrection won’t marry or be given in marriage and are also said to continue being married and reproducing, that’s proof that Jesus only meant legal marriage customs will be gone. Would any of the people who heard Jesus answer been amazed at it if he meant sexuality would be eliminated? I’m pretty sure Jews had as much sexual desire as most other people, so would have despaired if that was the context. At the beginning of creation, God said for us to be fruitful and multiply with no indication it was to ever stop. There would need to be a bigger earth to fit all physical beings that have ever lived by the time of the resurrection. God expands the entire universe. Doing the same to any planet shouldn't conflict with his plans. Marriage was the only thing God said is not good to be without before creating it. After Eve was made and brought to Adam, it says for this reason shall people be united with a spouse to become one flesh. Jesus repeats this in Matthew 19:4-5 and Mark 10:6-7 and Paul does in Ephesians 5:31. “For this reason” means it’s the only reason. Reproduction and representing God’s relationship are not reasons stated anywhere in scripture. If gender remains, so does marriage. If Jesus’s answer meant no one will be married, then it contradicts us being male and female being the reason for marriage, and God's promise to restore all creation in Acts 3:21 and 24:15, 2 Peter 3:13, Romans 8:20-23 and 32 and other prophecies. After God made marriage, He called everything very good. The beginning conditions of the creation don't need improving because God doesn’t change. Many Christians have claimed that something unspecified would be needed to make life better forever and would also make sexuality useless, ignoring the fact that marriage was something needed for creation to not be missing anything good. It's contradictory and more akin to Buddhism than Christianity. If having something better is a reason to eliminate sex, it's a reason to eliminate everything God made, and we should all just feel God's presence, getting joy from that and never doing anything else for eternity. If simply having a sinless relationship with God makes marriage useless, then God would have had no reason to create gender and sex, because God had the kind of relationship with Adam and Eve that people will have with Him in the renewed creation. If God eliminated sexuality then the distinguishing shapes of the gender's faces, body shapes for sexual attraction, parts used for sexual pleasure, and reproduction would all be wasted. Gender having other functions is no reason to get rid of any of them. They're all part of what makes us the genders we are and God doesn’t create anything expendable. The human female figure is shaped the way it is to fit babies during birth, and sperm, egg cells, and wombs are used only for reproduction. If Jesus’s answer to the Sadducees meant no one will be married anymore, no one can be married to Jesus as a replacement. God is described as a husband to people in Hosea 2:7, Isaiah 45:5, Jeremiah 31:32, Ezekiel 16:8, and other Old Testament texts. That didn’t replace marriage either, because they’re analogies just as the wife of the lamb is in Revelation. They are different types of relationships that fulfill different desires. If marriage is a representation of Jesus’s relationship with the church, then people would have had to sin for Jesus to redeem us. God is not going to create something that requires what He hates. If you are made unable to care about something you love, it's manipulation of free will. Sin is a selfish way to try satisfying a desire that makes us less satisfied afterward. Removing sin doesn’t manipulate free will. That's not the same as removing a basic desire for any sensation. Many people think that since they don’t think of the joy that would be gone from losing that passion for eternity, that wanting to keep something God said wasn't good to be without is the problem. They're so obsessed simply with being eternally satisfied that they don't know it's only hopeful because it's by restoration of all God made, not a replacement for any of it. That would make anything God made for us irrelevant. There's a book all about the joy of sexuality: Song of Songs, and doesn’t imply that marriage is useless without reproduction. There’s no bible book devoted to the joy of any other creation. Heaven isn’t the final destination, it’s the renewed earth. The only thing that needs to be gone is what sin did.
Dear Eric, Thanks for your response. As I said previously, it doesn't matter that there is no indication in Genesis of marriage ending; Luke 20:35 and parallels make it clear that marriage will end. Jesus' argument against the Sadducees makes no sense otherwise. And abolishing an institution no longer needed has precedent in the Bible. For instance, the Mosaic sacrificial system was abolished when Christ fulfilled its purpose by being the perfect sacrifice (Hebrews 10:8-9). Marriage will have served its purpose when we reach eternity; it was meant to produce a family of the redeemed (Did God create man to be an eternal companion for His son Jesus Christ?). As such, marriage will be abolished. I suspect that it will also be abolished for the more practical reason that it avoids precisely the sorts of scenarios the Sadducees used to object to the resurrection. What of sexual desire and procreation? Technically, Luke 20:35 and parallels only talk about marriage ending; they don't mention sex or procreation. Nonetheless, given that sex and procreation are bundled up with marriage in Genesis 1-2, it's intuitive to infer that sex and procreation will end along with marriage. Moreover, Jesus says we will be like the holy angels, which may imply that we won't have sex (for procreation or any other reason), either. This is also the traditional view of the church. Nor does this contradict other passages that affirm the goodness of marriage, sex, and sexual desire. The Law is good, but that doesn't mean God's people would always be under the Law (cf. Romans 7:1-6). As such, affirming the goodness of marriage, sex, and sexual desire doesn't require us to believe that they will continue forever. But will taking away our sexual desire destroy our free will? I don't even see how that's possible. Since when is the power to want sex a necessary component of human freedom? Some people alive today don't want sex. At any rate, while there is continuity between our bodies now and our bodies in the resurrection, Paul also implies that there will be some discontinuity (1 Corinthians 15:42-44). The discontinuities include: perfect health, deathlessness, impeccability, and (per Luke 20:35) fitness for a life without marriage. If that includes a life without sex, then it will clearly include a life without sexual desire. But since our desires will be impacted in other ways by the transformation (e.g. we will no longer have any sinful desires), changing our bodies so that we no longer desire sex is not a problem. Kind regards, Shaun Doyle Creation Ministries International Me: Luke 20:35 is about a law, not marriage. Your interpretation contradicts the reason for marriage stated In Genesis: because we were made male and female, later quoted by Jesus when asked about divorce. Eternity can"t make it useless. It was made for its own joy and pleasure. The difference with the sacrificial laws and marriage is that marriage was part of God’s sinless creation. Mosaic law was because of sin and Jesus fulfilled what those laws were for. He does not fulfill what marriage is for. Jesus's contrast with Angels was with mortality and immortality, not sexuality. There is no indication by being told to fill earth that there would eventually be no more room. People not wanting sex is no reason to take that away from people who do want to keep it. Sin is trying to fulfill a desire in a way different than how God wants. It is not the same thing as having a desire wanting to be fulfilled to begin with. Our differences Will be restoration to Genesis 2 conditions, which were sexual. It’s ridiculous that he doesn’t understand that having a desire removed is manipulating free will simply because other people don’t have the same desire. The difference is they aren’t forced to not care and could still see someone they’re attracted to. If you can’t choose what to want or not, you’re being controlled by something else. Sin is a way of trying to satisfy a desire that leaves you less satisfied than how God intended. Removing that isn’t manipulation because you still desire the same things you tried to satisfy with sin. Without sin the temptations will have been removed so the desires can be fulfilled how God intended. The mosaic law was for regulating how to worship God in a sinful world. Jesus fulfilled it by taking the punishment we deserve to restore more of our relationship with God. That’s a different type of relationship than marriage. Marriage was something sin ruined that needs to be restored. Shaun is a lazy thinker. He kept mentioning traditional church beliefs, even though tradition doesn't determine accuracy. It was traditionally believed by Christians that Eve was responsible for corrupting creation and that being deceived by the serpent makes women more foolish and corruptible than men. They also believed that slavery was fine by God. They used the same selective text reading and opinions of the implications of what they read that this guy does. Most Christians don't believe the same things about women and slavery anymore. Marriage can’t be fulfilled by producing a family for the redeemed. If that was a reason for it then sin would have been necessary so there would need to be redemption for marriage to be fulfilled. God is not going to make something that requires what he hates. Marriage was made for companionship with the people married to each other. That's why it's stated after Adam and Eve meet that for this reason shall people be one flesh with a spouse, not for reproduction. That statement contradicts there being any other reason for marriage, later quoted by Jesus himself. That's why Song of Songs is about a passionate sexual relationship, not reproducing. Marriage has to exist for it to be fulfilled.
Dear Eric, All these arguments founder on the fact that Luke 20:35 and parallels are an explicit statement that there will be no more marriage in the resurrection. Otherwise, it makes no sense as an argument against the Sadducees. Marriage is an institution, not a fact of nature. God can change it, if He wants. Desires will be different in the resurrection; they will be sinless and fit for that age (sexual desire per se falls into the latter category, not the former). There is no contradiction. Kind regards, Shaun Doyle Creation Ministries International Hi Eric, This will be my last response on this topic. We're just repeating ourselves, now. You have not proven your case with regard to Luke 20:35 and parallels. You've provided no documentary evidence for your interpretation of the crucial phrase. And the Greek words literally refer to marriage, not to the bride price/dowry that customarily accompanied the marrying process. Most importantly, though, the Sadducees' objection is not answered if marriage still exists in the resurrection. Their question was: "Now then, at the resurrection whose wife will she be, since the seven were married to her?" (Luke 20:33) If she were married in the resurrection, in response to them Jesus should've identified whom she would be married to. Instead, He just says 'they will neither marry nor be given in marriage". He doesn't identify whom the woman would be married to. As such, the phrase 'marrying and being given in marriage' must be understood as an idiom referring to the institution of marriage per se. It cannot refer just to customs related to making a marriage, or merely the process of making a marriage (as if Jesus were merely saying that there will be no more marriages made in the resurrection, but the ones that exist now will persist into that era). Why? Under all these ways of reading the phrase, the Sadducees' question remains unanswered: who will the woman be married to in the resurrection? Therefore, Jesus is saying that since marriage will be abolished in the resurrection, the woman in the Sadducees' question wouldn't be married to anyone. His argument fails to address the Sadducees' question if this is not what He means. Thus, Jesus clearly teaches that marriage will be abolished in the resurrection. This renders your point about Genesis 1-2 moot. Marriage is a legal institution, not a fact of nature. God can thus change it, or even do away with it, even though it was an institution He set up before the Fall. That is why there is no contradiction between the traditional reading of Luke 20:35 and parallels and Genesis 1. A change in situation does not amount to a contradiction. As to sexual desire, humans can still be humans without sexual desire and activity (though I do think the gender binary is intrinsic to human nature). The resurrection body isn't merely the old body renewed, but is also transformed to be suitable to the eternal state. And note that doesn't mean sexual desire now is sinful! It just means it doesn't fit in the resurrection age. Anyway, that's the last of what I have to say. Feel free to have the last word, if you wish. Kind regards, Shaun Doyle Me: There is a contradiction. God already explicitly stated in Genesis 2 that for this reason shall people leave their parents and be one flesh with a spouse, referring to us having gender. Jesus repeats this when asked about divorce. He affirms the opposite of what you claim he does. The law is not the reason for marriage. Jesus' answer to the Sadducees is about legal actions, the context of which is what the Greek words were used for. You have to infer the opposite. Jesus wouldn't need to say she would be married to any of those men. Those laws have no relevance in a sinless, deathless world, but during those conditions is when God made marriage. That's the conditions that sin ruined and that God will restore in the resurrection. Joining Adam and Eve together was not a legal institution. There will be no difference from the desires he gave us before sin, including sexual. What sin did is the only thing that will change. Sexual desire and reproduction are all part of what makes us the genders we are. Sperm and egg cells and wombs are used exclusively for reproduction. I never claimed not being sexual makes someone less human. It's a manipulation of free will because it eliminates the ability to have that desire, whether someone wants to keep it or not. Your arguments are only believable by selective reading instead of accounting for all relevant verses to understand each individual one. You have no evidence and have simply ignored all of the texts I mentioned contradicting your opinions. What you teach is unbiblical utilitarian dogma. The law of levitate marriage that the Sadducees asked Jesus about is only needed if death occurs. She's only required to marry the other men by that law. Get rid of that law and her reason for marrying them goes away. "Who's wife will she be?" is still answered. It does not necessitate marriage itself end simply because it ends marriage to any specific person. You're arguing a false dilemma. Jesus's answer doesn’t require no marriage, just any laws that obligated her to marry anyone to not apply. That doesn’t forbid her from being married to a different man. He's arguing the fallacy that marriage continuing requires one to stay married to a previous spouse. Remarriage is allowed after a spouse's death. Paul said it’s being free from the law to compare it to being free from the mosaic law because of Jesus resurrection. The only way that comparison works is if marriage can continue, just with someone else, or it would be teaching that being free from the law eliminates sacrifice for sin too, but there remains a sacrifice for sin, just a different sacrifice. That means the law is not needed to be married or else Adam and Eve would have to have sinned for a law to be needed for marriage. Paul wrote that the law was only necessary because of sin. Shaun also argued the fallacy that changing God's original design is a change in condition only, so wouldn't contradict it not being good to be alone and the statement for why marriage exists. That's not simply a change of condition, that's a change of standard, and then more severely limits what people can hope to be restored since what God says is good and not isn’t eternal. Marriage not being part of nature is irrelevant because sexual desire is natural and only marriage fulfills that for people. Shaun claimed that God can change His mind about what’s good, but also that not being good to alone is resolved by there simply being more friends of the same race. If that’s true then it’s still not good to be alone, even by Shauns own logic. If God does change his standard for good and bad, then it wouldn’t matter anyway if there’s as many human friends as earth can fit, because it could be good to be alone in the future. The most significant contradiction, though, is that completing humanity with both genders is stated immediately after Adam and Eves first meeting to be the reason for marriage. Reproduction or anything else can’t be a reason. Animals reproduce without marriage: what makes marriage unique is the sexual intimacy. It’s purpose is itself: it has to exist to be fulfilled. God is not male and female, so Jesus being single is irrelevant. He’s self sufficient.
Thank you for writing this. It makes no sense to me why God would create a need for Eve in Adam, bring them together, design them for sex and reproduction, all before the fall, declare that they are one flesh and they are good. All to decide they will instead become like angels.. that makes no sense, we are image bearers. Make and female, God created the joining, and God is the same yesterday , today and forever, He also honours free will.
I think a lot of people take an adventure of missing the point of Jesus’s conversation with the Saduccees. If one takes Jesus’s saying at face value it contradicts his own teachings about Marriage, the vision of Marriage instituted in Genesis, and what the Jews and subsequently the Church have always taught about marriage as a indissoluble bond inasmuch as it is done in Christ. If you read the passages in the gospels carefully in their historical and cultural context Jesus was simply satirically poking fun at the holes in the logic of the Saduccees theology. By the Saduccees logic there would be no marriage at the resurrection because they didn’t believe in a resurrection and those people would be like “angels in heaven” as in the Saduccees believed the dead no longer existed just as they believed angels didn’t exist. The Church has always taught the indossubility of Christian marriage. Marriage is perfected in the new creation and is most certainly not eliminated.
My Fiance and I were at the March for Life and I really wish I could have met you. It would have been such an honor for you to bless our engagement as well! It's funny because my brother Thomas actually did end up kind of meeting you in the midst of all the other Liberty students. Thank you for this video, Fr.!
Iron sharpens Iron.......that said, choose your wife/Husband very carefully. The divorce rate is ridiculously high and most unions don't go the distance. Be very discerning and do not be blinded by lust. Make sure sex is not your master, if it is you'll make poor choices. A true Godly marriage is a beautiful thing as is a Godly family but being single is a joy that so many people fail to fully embrace and explore. That time you have for dedicating to knowing God and growing in wisdom is priceless. Dont forsake your singleness thinking that marriage is better. As a wise man once said: Don't let your food grow cold while you're looking at someone else's plate.
I was wondering about this the other day, and I'm glad you made a video on it. I'm a young widow and dedicated to Christ before anything right now. I had someone I was close to marrying, but I just don't know how I can love someone as much as God. This makes me reflect and think I shouldn't be as opposed as I have been.
I have read a few writings from early church fathers like St. Ambrose, as well as St. Paul’s writings in the New Testament. I think the traditional suggestion from these great and holy men was for widows and widowers to stay unmarried, so that they can dedicate the rest of their lives to God. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with getting remarried after the death of the first spouse, but it’s good to be open to that higher calling of service to God alone. My mother currently follows a similar path after her husband passed. Thanks for sharing your story! God Bless!
@@madelineliu1102 I remember reading St. Paul's take on remarrying, and I'm going to look up St. Ambrose shortly. Thank you so much for the suggestions!
According to the that had the experience of dying, visiting heaven and coming back, they often describe seeing their loved ones, that passed, together.
I often think of this topic and now view marriage as a vocation. I wish I knew or saw it like that 17 years ago. What a difference! However, during mass, priests recognize Joseph as Mary's spouse. We believe both are certainly in heaven. We still recognize their marriage at every mass. Are the two married in heaven? They are both obviously an exception to us, but are they an exception to marriage in heaven?
Thanks for this video! I have to be honest, I've been struggling/ confused about the fact that marriage doesn't exist in heaven. To me, how could a place be heaven if I don't have a special relationship with my beloved? This eased my heart a lot. Thank you Fr Mike!
I have been subscribed for half a month and this video caught my eye, very cool information being shared here. Definitely gonna have to listen to some more of these videos!
Fr. Mike, I've done a lot of reflecting on the big tech's push of the metaverse on humanity and have concluded that it is pretty much pure evil. We've seen the destruction of social media and how it has alienated/divided friends and family. The metaverse will be at least 100x worse. Please consider an episode on the metaverse and if you have never tried a VR headset, I advise you to try it for a half hour or so to get a better perspective on what I'm talking about. The metaverse will be a genie that you can't put back into the bottle. God bless!
We know we are spiritual beings, but we are also human. In Heaven we will be complete spiritual beings, therefore no need for the physical or sexual union had in Marriage, Thank you for explaining this Fr. Mike.
Definitely partly wrong. We are not purely spiritual beings in heaven. The resurrection is a real thing and We will have glorified bodies… not that well have male and female in Heaven, but we will have bodies. Marriage is a Sacrament, a channel for grace. There is no need for Sacraments in Heaven because we’ll be perfected.
So, if marriage is a vehicle/means (or vocation) of getting to Heaven and it ends in heaven, why does the status of priesthood still exist in Heaven if its also a vocation or means of getting to Heaven?
Because priests are espoused to the Church, not a particular human person. Same for religious sisters, they are espoused to Christ. The relationship is completely different so while the duties of people in religious life pass away, the call to be fully united to Christ doesn't.
Unfortunately, many Catholics dont understand the context with which our Lord Jesus Christ was asked the question about marriage in Heaven. The people who posed the question about marriage in the Afterlife were Pharisees and Scribes. They didn't believe in Life after death in the first place. Our Lord always spoke in parables and always compared Heaven to a Heavenly marriage. Eternal bliss with your dearly Beloved Soulmate. And you don't lose your masculine or feminine qualities in Spirit. The Angels are both Male and Female. As for the concept of marriage, Jesus was telling them the truth..insofar as their minds understood the concept of marriage. Marriages were arranged in those days and women were property. Marriages were based on wealth, social status, political gain etc. Everything but true Love. And remember what Our Lady of Fatima said about marriage. Back then, not all marriages are pleasing to God or of Heaven. There is no 50+ % Divorce rate in Heaven. *There is no "marriages" in Heaven but there is something else without the negative aspects we suffer on Earth.
Lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven. Loving relationships of all kind are a blessing when they are built on genuine love. If those relationships carry over to heaven then those relationships in themselves are treasures. Love someone for their sake and not your own. Even so, if you have a friend you are separated from in life then you will see them again in eternity. In addition, we all play small roles in other peoples lives and in some cases are part of God’s guidance of a person to salvation. In a lot of cases you may not know it. “Love never ends”. The love you show someone here on earth carries over. Just bare in mind this love isn’t a romantic or platonic.
So marriage is a tool, a process, a training mechanism, just like the old covenant was a tool, a process, a training mechanism. This is a new perspective to me. _Muchas gracias._ 👍
Inspired analogies to compare marriage on earth with faith and hope on earth, and how the precious Old Testament is fulfilled in Jesus. When we're one with God, face to face in heaven, love with him is forever; we won't need faith and hope anymore. When we're in heaven, we won't need marriage because hopefully we raised our children to be one with God, and spouses helped each other to be one with God too. In heaven, we, our spouses, and children will be one with God.
I always had this questing pertaining to the vocation and sacrament of marriage. Thank you Fr. Mike for having the time to explain this concern. God Bless.
What is the point in getting married, having babies and loving your spouse? NO POINT AT ALL, if it’s all over when we die. My husband passed 18 years ago and I believe we are still married and will be for eternity.❤
So in Heaven, we'll all just be asexual platonic friends? My wife and I will be... what, fishing buddies? No relationships, no special bond, no eros, no sex, no romance, we'll all just be like that Futurama episode where everyone's genitals get disappeared by a rock alien? What a depressing thought... spin it how you like, it still sounds like we'll be losing something good and joyful and important.
When we consummate our marriage (have sex with our spouse for the first time) aren’t the souls united/bonded eternally? How can marriage end at death? (Till death do us apart) Makes no sense to me
No, souls in marriage are not bonded eternally through consummation. If that were true, the couple would have no need to continue to have sex after they first consummated the marriage. And they would not be able to marry another after the death of the first spouse. Similarly, we continue to receive Holy Communion after our First Holy Communion because we continue to need the ongoing grace of receiving Jesus (not just once). We are on a journey and the sacraments are “signs” pointing us toward our destination, which is eternity with God.
Estimado Padre Mike he disfrutado mucho su programa de La Biblia en un año! Valoro mucho su esfuerzo,bendiciones! Extraordinario muchas gracias! Sería muy bueno traducirlo al español!
It's often said in Scriptures and throughout liturgy that the Church is fiancée of Christ and that there will be a wedding feast in heaven, and that's why I imagine our life now on Earth as being the time of engagements, preparations (as engaged couple prepare for their wedding) for the "marriage with God", aka the state of eternal love, joy and Union. When I put it like that, for me it facilitates finding not just the purpose of life, but finding a way to become closer to God and have an intimate relationship with Him, our Creator and Redeemer, who loves us so much, and wants to be with us. If I will be "married to God", aka united completely with Him in heaven, earthly spouse is not needed to be with me in union of "earthly" marriage in that sense anymore because the goal of our union is achieved (purpose of marriage is to sanctify each other and lead each other to God), but he will always be a part of my life in whole, as all people from my life should be, just a special one, of course.
I'm not going to lie when I heard that there's no marriage in heaven I was upset about that. I thought that something as beautiful as marriage would be in heaven. Having not only a best friend who loves you and would do anything for you. But also someone who completes you, you're other half. That special person who you feel you couldn't live without. I suppose I can see why "marriage" in the sense of a vessel wouldn't be required in heaven. But I don't see why that special romantic relationship you have with that person would end. I sincerely hope that we get to keep that relationship with our significant other in heaven because without that special someone who I shared my life with, I would feel as if I lost a part of me. Anyway thanks for your insight of this topic and God bless.
Father Mike my love, religion is soo hard to understand and live. Right now I’m listening to your podcast of the Bible in a year. So many questions and unanswered thoughts. Understanding the Bible and the stories told does not come easily. So much contradiction and misinformation about life is very sad and worrisome. I’m lost, praying every night that God will give me understanding. So many questions that have no answer. Father Mike I need the Holy Ghost to help me come to terms with all you say in the Bible reading. Take care my love, stay safe and beware of false prophets 🇺🇸🇺🇸😇😇🙏🙏🌹🌹🍺🍺❤️❤️👍👍🌞🌞🕊🕊
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My pastor at church today told us a story of this woman who desired to be a wife and have children and wanted that before the "end times". His(the pastor) response was basically saying there's no marriage in Heaven. Makes no sense!! Why give us the desire to marry and have a family when saying in the next life(Heaven) marriage isnt really a thing?! But God made a helper(a wife) for Adam and yes, the two of them subdued the earth. God created us for relationship, not just relationship with Him but for others in the body of Christ. So again, why create marriage then say marriage isnt a thing in Heaven?! This is just one of the many things I'm having the hardest time wrapping my head around! What's the point if it's basically going to end regardless?!
A lot of people seem to forget in the first 2 chapters of the Bible that Adam had a perfect relationship with God when Eve was created. One is not a replacement for the other, they are different types of relationships that fulfill different desires. You don’t need a foretaste of what you already have. All reasons anyone has ever thought of for why sexuality would be eliminated contradict other parts of the Bible and their own logic. The Bible tells us God will be restoring, not deleting us, the male + female relationship of God's original intent will be brought back, redeemed and restored. It be a grotesque and unbiblical reversal of God’s original creative design if the redeemed in the resurrection lived without that intense joy in sexual complementarity in the New Heaven and New Earth.
This. I feel this deeply with marriage and motherhood since I don’t think I’ll experience this on Earth. At least a long term partner. I’m 30 now and I have tried to seek a partner to get married to but all of them turned out to be narcissistic abusers. And I tried to lead them to God never worked.
Frankly it's not the job of anyone to lead anyone to God, it's the job of God because we will be lead astray with them for attempting to lead someone to God
I would just add that earthly marriage points directly to our eternal marriage to Christ in heaven. It is a precursor. It is a mirror of the Holy Trinity, a mysterious participation in the love between the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. It prefigures, in a sense, the love that awaits us in heaven. I don't think that love for our spouses will be diminished at all, but rather perfected in our union with Christ.
Where most Christians get it wrong. There is a difference between the rapture and the resurrection. Jesus said in the resurrection, not in heaven, not doing the rapture, but the resurrection. Know the difference know the word know the love and grace of God.
No marriage in heaven is biblical. Because marriage is a man made process that was based on legal principles LOL what god designed from the beginning, 2 becoming one flesh is gods eternal creation, Isaiah 65 also says on new earth infants shall no longer die prematurely, Matthew 22:30 is the only verse so called *Christians* have used to try and say *there’s no marriage* like the sadducees of that time, they fail to see whats in front of them.
5 “It was because your hearts were hard(F) that Moses wrote you this law,” Jesus replied. 6 “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’[a](G) 7 ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,[b] 8 and the two will become one flesh.’[c](H) So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” 10 When they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this. 11 He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her.(I) 12 And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.”(J) Only death can separate a man and woman that became one soul in marriage.
You don't get "divorced" when you die, you simply pass from the earthly realm leaving your spouse free to marry again if they choose since marriage is specifically defined for us as a covenant unto death. Death is not the equivalent of divorce, so you cannot create an argument based on that false comparison. They are two different things. Divorce is not "debated" in the Church, although many issues surrounding marriage, children, separation, divorce, remarriage, etc, can be difficult, confusing, complicated. Divorce (claiming to dissolve the marriage bond and/or remarrying without a declaration of nullity by the Church, is actually is the key issue) - for two validly married people - has never been allowed, per Christ's teaching. The state, in our age, is heavily involved in the legalities of marriage, and the Church has unfortunately ceded some territory to the state as a result, and so the legal definition and availability of divorce might be quite different than that of the Church. It is my understanding that one may be required to file for civil divorce nowadays before a declaration of nullity can be sought from the bishop's marriage tribunal in the local diocese. This makes it very confusing since you can be divorced in the eyes of the state and not in the eyes of the Church. The Church allows separation, and there is even some canonical mechanism for that (which seems to not be used currently), and the Church can/should help spouses to reconcile if at all possible, but people still find themselves in complicated and confusing situations. The annulment process is necessary to clear up such issues and is available if one or both people ask the Church for a finding on whether or not the marriage was valid in the first place.
The scripture can be interpreted as there are no marriages/the state of being married or there are no marriages/no weddings. The root Greek word 'gamos' could be interpreted either way. Personally the term "to be given in marriage" sounds like it us referring to weddings, not the state of being married.Why does everyone take the interpretation that is less in line with other scriptures? In answer to the Pharisees on the subject of divorce, Christ said, "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives, but from the beginning it was not so" (Matthew 19:7-9). He says it was not God's plan for marriage to end, we did that because of disobedience to God. Christ referred back to the first marriage of Adam and Eve (Genesis 2:24-25). They were married before the Fall, and were commanded to multiply and replenish the earth, which is to have sex (Genesis 1:28). In the perfect created state of the world marriage wasn't meant to end and sex was a thing. That means sex itself is not carnal nor sinful. It is only when done outside the bounds the Lord has set. Again, in the perfect created state of the world, God said it is not good that man should be alone, which could imply it is not good for man to be single (Genesis 2:18, 20-24). Man and wife are also to treat each other as heirs together in the grace of life (1 Peter 3:7), and they are to be one flesh. Eve was literally made with a piece of Adam's flesh which says you are the wife and the husband are incomplete without the other. God also said, "neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 11:11-12) In my opinion, interpreting Matthew 22:30 as meaning there is no marriage as opposed to there are no weddings, basically nullifies every other scripture I shared above. Just some examples: How is it Christ said that marriage wasn't meant to end but is being ended because of sin, then he goes on to end every single marriage in the next life? How can God say it is not good for man to be alone, but it's good for man to be alone for eternity in the next life? How is it to be said that man and woman are not without each other in the Lord, but they will all be without the other in the next life? Sex is in the perfect world in the beginning, but doesn't exist in the perfect world of the next life? That is why I believe Matthew 22:30 must be talking about weddings, not the state of being married. God will make all things right, but if we are single by the time if the final judgment it will ultimately be due to disobedience.
In My area people I have observed people are not marrying in the church yet. This is a powerful platform and the explanation is the same Manichaean tone . A nun gave me good advice . She said marriage is a holy thing . She said having multiple partners allows the passage of spiritual illnesses into people . Children are gifts to marry just to have children has caused much harm . Marriage is for strength of the spouses why do they not talk of ‘two together is better than one’ or ‘a cord of three strands is not easily broken ‘ . This is the kind of priest who would discriminate against older couples who fought against ignorance from their their families. environments and lack of guidance from their church members. But we made it . Young couples are all they are interested in and even they are given some sterile joyless talk . Discernment. I do not like that word it smacks of a horrible website called Catholic match full of people trying to stop others fulfilling their vocation to marriage. Discernment. Can you visualise this person at your funeral mass and vice versa should be the first question. Marrying for children . No you marry to support and strengthen each other and shadow or practice Christ’s love for us
Children are bonuses that come along. Marriage is the vocation for most people. But they only ask for vocation to the priesthood . All this dating and discerning is delaying God’s plans for our community. Stop going on Catholic match website it is full of evil behaviour trying to stop God’s plans and that word discernment is a key word . Ten years of discernment. Look only God can save us. Manichaeism is a heresy and the antidote is a quick read of Song of Songs.
What does it mean in the Book of Matthew what is bound on earth is bound in heaven? Your information on this video is very difficult for me. I just lost my husband. My hope is I will be with him in heaven side by side.
If anyone asks you that question, run! How could we possibly gain Heavens admittance without living for others, loving others, giving all for others? Children? How can you parent? They are the first to enter Heaven. Mary & Joesph married, was that useless? Christ committed unto death for us.
Metaphysics Contrast plus harmony creates an explosion of joy and wisdom whereby the joy and wisdom created is greater than the sum of the parts. Contrast plus ignorance (greed) does the exact opposite.
What about for those who never get married? Or get married but never have children? Or get married at an older age and never experience the beauty of young marriage? Do they miss out? Isn't that unfair for the disabled? If I never get married, will I at least have a close relationship with the girl that God had in mind for me, even if it's not marriage?
@@rodrigodiazdeleon8327 I know I DEFINITELY want mine to continue.. The "soul" and "love" never die.. They're eternal. I've studied Near death experiences and a HUGE common denominator is a man or woman being reunited with their "love" that passed away ... Is this just a temporary greeting? I hope not .. No matter what, God will take care of us!
This is devastating to me because all I wanted out of life was marriage and it just never happened for me I'm too old now so I was hoping to find my husband in heaven and now you're telling me I have to give up on the only thing I ever wanted forever?! Btw I know it says "til' death do us part" but I thought that was temporary until reunited in heaven
I’m sorry you weren’t give what you wanted 🩵 Just know that we all have the same calling - to know, love and serve God, to be saints and spread the Gospel! That should be our life’s focus, no matter which vocational road we are taken on!
with marriage we learn to be unselfish mainly caring for others day in day out. We learn to be the best compagnon of others in heaven. Otherwise we are not qualified for agapé unconditional love.
I know I’m going to die alone on earth. But I hope I have one romantic partner to be with for eternity in Heaven. And I believe everyone else will as well.
If God created paradise with humanity ordered in pairs, then paradise restored must also include this fundamental unit. A female for a male, and a male for a female. All created in the image and likeness of God. The Bible tells us God will be restoring, not deleting us, the male + female relationship of God's original intent will be brought back, redeemed and restored. It be a grotesque and unbiblical reversal of God’s original creative design if the redeemed in the resurrection lived without that intense joy in sexual complementarity in the New Heaven and New Earth.
Jesus/God is ur father not romantic interest There will be no sex, marriage, procreation in heaven. Everyone will be busy worshipping their father in heaven.
At its best, marriage is a foretaste of the joys of Heaven, and so by living a holy marriage we help build the Kingdom of God. Our marriages are a sign that directs others toward the Trinity, and when we live out our marriage vows with faith and love we are evangelizing. This is particularly true for the children that may result from a marriage. As a father, I'm teaching my children about the love of God the Father. So why bother with marriage? Because we have the unique opportunity to become co-creators with God and usher in the Kingdom of God as Jesus taught us to do. Why would I want to pass that up if that's what God is calling me to?
If marriage is a foretaste of the joys of heaven then that can only mean greater pleasure in this regard, greater sexual pleasure is to be had in eternity! Awesome... Can't wait for that, and to have a lot of children.
My question is, why does the Catholic church allow cohabiting people to marry #AskAscension ? When 50% of marriages end in divorce and when people are cohabiting they are more likely to engage in sexual activity. Most doctors and psychologists agree that sexual activity makes the bonding of two greater which would make it hard to determine if a couple is really in love or just in love for the feeling. According to "Explaining the Faith," Father Alair, says love is an action not a feeling. I believe when people are living together it's making it more difficult to see if this is a true relationship or not. Any thoughts?
I understand the call (albeit extremely rare) to singlehood but if marriage ultimately displays Christ and his Church to a watching world, why wouldn't Roman Catholic pastors be married? It seems that of all people ministers of the Gospel would want to make this declaration with their lives. I ask this question sincerely. Thanks Fr. Mike for posting.
Greetings Father Mike, Thanks with Kind insights about the Fruits and Enlightenment in Sacramental Marriage. Key Insights : SACRAMENTAL MARRIAGE MAKES TWO AS ONE AND COMPLETE ONE IN FRONT OF DEAR GOD. Kind Respect with Prayers, Be Safe and Stay Safe. - RanjithJoseph (R.J)
" If a man and woman marry in order to be companions on the journey from earth to heaven, then their union will bring great joy to themselves and others." - St.John Chrysostom
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When Blessed Karl of Austria was married, he said to his wife Zita, "Now let’s help each other get into heaven."
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Thanks for this. My husband passed away in December. I mourn that life as I knew it is over, and our married life will never be again. This gives me hope. But whatever Christ has in store will be better than I can even comprehend. Jesus, I trust in You.
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It’s not charging that’s the promise LOL heaven isn’t a *random better*
If you start listening at the 4:00 mark, Fr. Mike clearly explains. 😊
Before the fall, Adam and Eve lived as man and wife in the Garden of Eden. They were "one flesh" and would have lived that way forever. After all, they were joined together by an Eternal Being. And what God hath joined, no power on earth may put asunder. Only after the fall were Adam and Eve ever subjected to old age, sickness and death.
Marriage therefore, is not just a "nice" thing to do, but a commandment of God and His plan for the procreation and replenishment of His world and His footstool.
Scripture suggesting that everyone in the resurrection, are Angels, does not accurately describe the eternal heavens, only up to the resurrection, but not after Final Judgement.
"God made man in His own image, males and female created He them.".
What kind of heaven would include males and females but no marriage?
The thought makes reason stare.
@@Jade_902 At the 4:00 mark,he just says what he thinks Matthew 22:27 is saying and it's not so clear to me.
I have ruminated on this very topic multiple times. I've just wanted to stay eternally with the woman that God clearly gave to help me become a saint.
@Heresy Hunter D I think this statement: "Heaven isn’t the final destination, it’s the renewed earth," along with this one: "And if we believe the initial creation of man to be perfect, this is how God intended eternity to be," are problematic. Heaven actually is the final destination, and we are not going back to the original state of man before the fall.
@@MillionthUsername what do you mean when you say "Heaven is the final destination"?
@Heresy Hunter D I pray your interpretation is right. The idea that there’s no marriage in Heaven is the reason I left Catholicism originally. As Swedenborg says all romance cries out for eternity; all lovers believe instinctively they will love in the next world as they did on earth. I haven’t met a single Christian who was comfortable with the idea that romance terminates in this life. I hope the idea that romance is eternal gains greater currency in the Church, as a lot of people are being put off by this denial of it.
I suspect there are friends and companions in heaven. I suspect you will still have a relationship with your wife in heaven but it won't be a marriage relationship.
@@kwkw5711no, but it'll be deeper than it is now. There's no barriers to love in heaven like there is here. And I don't think it's wrong to have hope for that.
Whether married or part of a religious order, the journey to get to heaven is long and treacherous, and no one should attempt it alone, without guidance, support, friendship, and good company. Even in the beginning, the Father was with the Word and Holy Spirit.
"Two are better off than one, because together they can work more effectively. If one of them falls down, the other can help him up. But if someone is alone and falls, it's just too bad, because there is no one to help him. If it is cold, two can sleep together and stay warm, but how can you keep warm by yourself? Two people can resist an attack that would defeat one person alone. A rope made of three cords is hard to break." (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)
Vezmus 1337 . See clearly, in Ecclesiastes 4, everything talks about 2 people and at the end it's says, a rope of three cords is hard to break . This third person is the Holy Spirit
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The Bible says that we are saved by grace and not by works lest any man should boast please look up that scripture if you're interested
Except of course if you only have same sex attraction that you didn’t choose…then the Church wants you to just go at it single forever.
If human relationships did not persist in some profound way in heaven, then it would make no sense for Mary to be the Queen of Heaven, since this grace is bestowed on her for being the human mother of the Incarnate Word. Similarly, we talk of the role that the Holy Family continues to play in the world (think of all the Marian apparitions where St. Joseph also appears). Their earthly relationship was not cast side but glorified and transformed. Into what, we cannot say exactly. But it was not erased.
It follows that young people should pray for discernment for marriage as it is very important in our walk with God and being in a bad marriage can derail one’s faith
We've been married for 54 years - with the usual up's and down's. I love my wife! I studied to become a priest for 5 years and when I discussed this with those in my class who had been ordained I was quoted the same Gospel reference. The Lord said that their is no 'marrying or giving in marriage in heaven', right? But He makes no mention of those who are married at death and want to remain so for eternity. I think sometimes what's NOT said is equally important.
What made you to choose marriage?
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Thank you so much for such encouraging words. I have only been married to my husband for going on three years but I cannot imagine my life without him. It was a whirlwind romance filled with a lot of drama caused by outside influences and he brought me back to God and back to church but I cannot imagine being married to anyone but him. He’s already put in place safeguards so if one of us dies, we still have life insurance and a business so we won’t need to remarry for said practical reasons. We also have our Catholic friends, several married Catholic couples and family members. I was initially saddened upon hearing he and I would not be married in heaven, but you both offered words of comfort, encouragement and solace. Thank you!
That’s why I came hear to get some clarity.
Wow that is a long time. I want that
Marriage is a gift to us on Earth. I can't wait to get married and have children!
Yeah having to stay up all night and take care of screaming babies is the ritz !!
@@harlow743but it's gonna be worth it in the end, if they're raised right.
My father always said, having children is the way most people work out their salvation (he was serious about that)-so he had 10 of us to make sure he got there. And all us kids would groan at the "dad joke".
More like penance?
@@sitka49 You're right! Now as an adult I can appreciate the sacrifices & the ongoing lack of peace & quiet! No wonder he lost his hair!
@@kitt765 For sure, but you have to take some responsibility for your actions It is somewhat self-inflicted. Kind of like a man that drinks then the next morning wakes up with a hangover, It's hard to find sympathy lol
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Well, what's funny is that Salvation isn't earned but given, though this is a serious talk 😂.
Hello, Father Mike! I would add that within marriage, you can experience God's love, which is unconditional. Even though I got divorced after 15 years, I wouldn't skip it for all the world. Hopefully, he and I both became better people, closer to Christ. Even if I had cancer and wasn't blessed with kids.
God bless you Lisa. I hope you are well and cancer free.
@@stoptalking85 Thank you, God bless you too. I have been cancer free for more than 30 years. Thanks be to God, I just have to deal with the long-term effects of radiation to my mouth and throat. Like a brainstem stroke that happened at random. God gives us tests to see how faithful we will be. Amen?
@@LisaGemini Amen; you are very strong and independent 🙏🏽
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The thought of not being with my husband for all eternity makes me so sad. I love him so much and he shows his love to me every single day. I have the best husband in the world for me!
Yes iam with you on that it’s so hard to think I might be here on earth with out him or him with out me But we wouldn’t be the first lots of widows ,so I try not to worry about it and enjoy every moment we have together & TRUST IN JESUS 🙏🏻
Me too , I’m counting the days til I’m in my husbands arms again…. Cannot accept any other feeling .
I'm guessing he's not a believer?
@@KevvoLightswiftThe thought of no marriage in heaven regardless.
@@windsongshf I like to think of Heaven as equal to or better than your best moment on Earth. You won't be desiring something more, even if that's what your present mind worries over.
Thank you, dear Fr. Mike!! My beloved husband died three years ago after a lifetime of MD suffering. He often spoke of his wishes for me to love again after he was gone. Your beautiful explanation has added to my peace in accepting his wish for me if God wills it. Thank you!!! God bless you abundantly, Fr. Mike!
You don’t need marriage in heaven because you will be with Jesus. I struggle with being single at 33. With each year of getting older it becomes more difficult to date because most men are married.
We.really should have matchmakers to help young people get.paired up in a timely fashion
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"This text [Matthew 22: 30] is often understood to imply that marriage is only an earthly institution and that its reality is dissolved by death. Such an understanding prevailed in the Western Church...[In the Eastern Church] The union between husband and wife...is an eternal union between two unique and eternal personalities which cannot be broken..." ~John Meyendorff
@Heresy Hunter D Marriage happens on earth. The vocations are for getting us to heaven. Whichever vocation God calls us to is the best for all involved. In heaven, we will be entirely fulfilled; the vocations get us there, as designed by God and sanctioned by the Church. God bless, thank you for your comment. Peace.
@Heresy Hunter D In heaven you will be married to Christ, the perfect Spouse. We will have no need of a flawed, earthly imitation because we will have the perfection of union.
@@gray_mara this sentiment is hard for me to grasp, I can’t imagine treating my future wife as essentially just a good friend rather than the partner we had a life together with. That just doesn’t seem pleasant to me. I don’t want to make it seem like Jesus isn’t sufficient to me but I would still want the unique bond I had with the person I married, along with the familial bonds I had with my family.
@Heresy Hunter D Are you certain you don't have a chance on earth? My friend is in his 70s and is active on Catholic Match and regularly goes on dates, for example. If there certainly is no hope in that department, there is always hope in God. No worries. God bless you always.
@Heresy Hunter D God bless you, too. Sorry your original reply keeps getting deleted.😊
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Thank you, Father. I’ve been discerning religious life but also open to marriage, so this video clears up a lot of confusion and ignorances. Prayers to you
Jesus, Mary, I love you save souls!
Genesis 2:18 God said It’s not good that man should be alone.
I know someday I will be united with my husband and together we will praise and thank God for His blessings.
As He joined us on earth so we will be in EternityPraiseJesus
Makes sense, it’ll be different but being so close to God I think you will have all the love you need and will be truly completed on another level.
So good Fr. Mike! I have never got this question before but sooner or later one of our 7 kids would pose this one to us. The analogy to faith and hope being fulfilled and not necessary in heaven is truly best analogy to use here. God bless your ministry. Please pray for the Staples family. My husband Tim Staples is still on the road to recovery. Your prayers would be much appreciated.
In Luke 20:36 Jesus states one of the reasons for no more marrying is because the saved resurrected can’t die anymore but will be like the angels in heaven. The contrast to angels is not sexual desire, He contrasted mortality with immortality. Marry meant the male proposing for the woman to be his wife and being given in marriage meant the father giving her to the proposer. It’s customs to be married, not marriage itself. Adam and Eve were married without marrying or being given in marriage. The reason for the Sadducee's question was that the levirate law required a woman to marry the next oldest brother of her husband if he died without children. They thought if the woman hadn’t fulfilled the purpose of that law, she would still need to be married to all the brothers or they’d be sinning. If she did that, she and the men would commit polygamy which is also a sin, so to avoid sin, God wouldn’t resurrect everyone forever. They thought all of God's laws would be needed in a renewed world, not knowing that the reason for recreating is to restore creation to before those laws were needed. Keeping marriage does not contradict Jesus’s answer to the Sadducees because the woman they asked about is only required to marry any of those men with the levirate law. The law ending does not forbid her from being married to a different man. It's a false dilemma. Jesus’s mention of not being able to die would make no sense unless he only meant legal customs to marry because death is not a reason for marriage. It says in Revelation 20:6 that those who are awakened in the first resurrection won’t suffer for eternity. These are the same people in the prophecy in Isaiah 65:17-25. If Jesus said that those worthy to attain the age of the resurrection won’t marry or be given in marriage and are also said to continue being married and reproducing, that’s proof that Jesus only meant legal marriage customs will be gone. Would any of the people who heard Jesus answer been amazed at it if he meant sexuality would be eliminated? I’m pretty sure Jews had as much sexual desire as most other people, so would have despaired if that was the context.
At the beginning of creation, God said for us to be fruitful and multiply with no indication it was to ever stop. There would need to be a bigger earth to fit all physical beings that have ever lived by the time of the resurrection. God expands the entire universe. Doing the same to any planet shouldn't conflict with his plans. Marriage was the only thing God said is not good to be without before creating it. After Eve was made and brought to Adam, it says for this reason shall people be united with a spouse to become one flesh. Jesus repeats this in Matthew 19:4-5 and Mark 10:6-7 and Paul does in Ephesians 5:31. “For this reason” means it’s the only reason. Reproduction and representing God’s relationship are not reasons stated anywhere in scripture. If gender remains, so does marriage. If Jesus’s answer meant no one will be married, then it contradicts us being male and female being the reason for marriage, and God's promise to restore all creation in Acts 3:21 and 24:15, 2 Peter 3:13, Romans 8:20-23 and 32 and other prophecies. After God made marriage, He called everything very good. The beginning conditions of the creation don't need improving because God doesn’t change.
Many Christians have claimed that something unspecified would be needed to make life better forever and would also make sexuality useless, ignoring the fact that marriage was something needed for creation to not be missing anything good. It's contradictory and more akin to Buddhism than Christianity. If having something better is a reason to eliminate sex, it's a reason to eliminate everything God made, and we should all just feel God's presence, getting joy from that and never doing anything else for eternity. If simply having a sinless relationship with God makes marriage useless, then God would have had no reason to create gender and sex, because God had the kind of relationship with Adam and Eve that people will have with Him in the renewed creation. If God eliminated sexuality then the distinguishing shapes of the gender's faces, body shapes for sexual attraction, parts used for sexual pleasure, and reproduction would all be wasted. Gender having other functions is no reason to get rid of any of them. They're all part of what makes us the genders we are and God doesn’t create anything expendable. The human female figure is shaped the way it is to fit babies during birth, and sperm, egg cells, and wombs are used only for reproduction.
If Jesus’s answer to the Sadducees meant no one will be married anymore, no one can be married to Jesus as a replacement. God is described as a husband to people in Hosea 2:7, Isaiah 45:5, Jeremiah 31:32, Ezekiel 16:8, and other Old Testament texts. That didn’t replace marriage either, because they’re analogies just as the wife of the lamb is in Revelation. They are different types of relationships that fulfill different desires. If marriage is a representation of Jesus’s relationship with the church, then people would have had to sin for Jesus to redeem us. God is not going to create something that requires what He hates.
If you are made unable to care about something you love, it's manipulation of free will. Sin is a selfish way to try satisfying a desire that makes us less satisfied afterward. Removing sin doesn’t manipulate free will. That's not the same as removing a basic desire for any sensation. Many people think that since they don’t think of the joy that would be gone from losing that passion for eternity, that wanting to keep something God said wasn't good to be without is the problem. They're so obsessed simply with being eternally satisfied that they don't know it's only hopeful because it's by restoration of all God made, not a replacement for any of it. That would make anything God made for us irrelevant. There's a book all about the joy of sexuality: Song of Songs, and doesn’t imply that marriage is useless without reproduction. There’s no bible book devoted to the joy of any other creation. Heaven isn’t the final destination, it’s the renewed earth. The only thing that needs to be gone is what sin did.
Dear Eric,
Thanks for your response.
As I said previously, it doesn't matter that there is no indication in Genesis of marriage ending; Luke 20:35 and parallels make it clear that marriage will end. Jesus' argument against the Sadducees makes no sense otherwise. And abolishing an institution no longer needed has precedent in the Bible. For instance, the Mosaic sacrificial system was abolished when Christ fulfilled its purpose by being the perfect sacrifice (Hebrews 10:8-9). Marriage will have served its purpose when we reach eternity; it was meant to produce a family of the redeemed (Did God create man to be an eternal companion for His son Jesus Christ?). As such, marriage will be abolished. I suspect that it will also be abolished for the more practical reason that it avoids precisely the sorts of scenarios the Sadducees used to object to the resurrection.
What of sexual desire and procreation? Technically, Luke 20:35 and parallels only talk about marriage ending; they don't mention sex or procreation. Nonetheless, given that sex and procreation are bundled up with marriage in Genesis 1-2, it's intuitive to infer that sex and procreation will end along with marriage. Moreover, Jesus says we will be like the holy angels, which may imply that we won't have sex (for procreation or any other reason), either. This is also the traditional view of the church.
Nor does this contradict other passages that affirm the goodness of marriage, sex, and sexual desire. The Law is good, but that doesn't mean God's people would always be under the Law (cf. Romans 7:1-6). As such, affirming the goodness of marriage, sex, and sexual desire doesn't require us to believe that they will continue forever.
But will taking away our sexual desire destroy our free will? I don't even see how that's possible. Since when is the power to want sex a necessary component of human freedom? Some people alive today don't want sex. At any rate, while there is continuity between our bodies now and our bodies in the resurrection, Paul also implies that there will be some discontinuity (1 Corinthians 15:42-44). The discontinuities include: perfect health, deathlessness, impeccability, and (per Luke 20:35) fitness for a life without marriage. If that includes a life without sex, then it will clearly include a life without sexual desire. But since our desires will be impacted in other ways by the transformation (e.g. we will no longer have any sinful desires), changing our bodies so that we no longer desire sex is not a problem.
Kind regards,
Shaun Doyle
Creation Ministries International
Me: Luke 20:35 is about a law, not marriage. Your interpretation contradicts the reason for marriage stated In Genesis: because we were made male and female, later quoted by Jesus when asked about divorce. Eternity can"t make it useless. It was made for its own joy and pleasure. The difference with the sacrificial laws and marriage is that marriage was part of God’s sinless creation. Mosaic law was because of sin and Jesus fulfilled what those laws were for. He does not fulfill what marriage is for. Jesus's contrast with Angels was with mortality and immortality, not sexuality. There is no indication by being told to fill earth that there would eventually be no more room. People not wanting sex is no reason to take that away from people who do want to keep it. Sin is trying to fulfill a desire in a way different than how God wants. It is not the same thing as having a desire wanting to be fulfilled to begin with. Our differences Will be restoration to Genesis 2 conditions, which were sexual.
It’s ridiculous that he doesn’t understand that having a desire removed is manipulating free will simply because other people don’t have the same desire. The difference is they aren’t forced to not care and could still see someone they’re attracted to. If you can’t choose what to want or not, you’re being controlled by something else. Sin is a way of trying to satisfy a desire that leaves you less satisfied than how God intended. Removing that isn’t manipulation because you still desire the same things you tried to satisfy with sin. Without sin the temptations will have been removed so the desires can be fulfilled how God intended. The mosaic law was for regulating how to worship God in a sinful world. Jesus fulfilled it by taking the punishment we deserve to restore more of our relationship with God. That’s a different type of relationship than marriage. Marriage was something sin ruined that needs to be restored. Shaun is a lazy thinker. He kept mentioning traditional church beliefs, even though tradition doesn't determine accuracy. It was traditionally believed by Christians that Eve was responsible for corrupting creation and that being deceived by the serpent makes women more foolish and corruptible than men. They also believed that slavery was fine by God. They used the same selective text reading and opinions of the implications of what they read that this guy does. Most Christians don't believe the same things about women and slavery anymore. Marriage can’t be fulfilled by producing a family for the redeemed. If that was a reason for it then sin would have been necessary so there would need to be redemption for marriage to be fulfilled. God is not going to make something that requires what he hates. Marriage was made for companionship with the people married to each other. That's why it's stated after Adam and Eve meet that for this reason shall people be one flesh with a spouse, not for reproduction. That statement contradicts there being any other reason for marriage, later quoted by Jesus himself. That's why Song of Songs is about a passionate sexual relationship, not reproducing. Marriage has to exist for it to be fulfilled.
Dear Eric,
All these arguments founder on the fact that Luke 20:35 and parallels are an explicit statement that there will be no more marriage in the resurrection. Otherwise, it makes no sense as an argument against the Sadducees. Marriage is an institution, not a fact of nature. God can change it, if He wants. Desires will be different in the resurrection; they will be sinless and fit for that age (sexual desire per se falls into the latter category, not the former). There is no contradiction.
Kind regards,
Shaun Doyle
Creation Ministries International
Hi Eric,
This will be my last response on this topic. We're just repeating ourselves, now.
You have not proven your case with regard to Luke 20:35 and parallels. You've provided no documentary evidence for your interpretation of the crucial phrase. And the Greek words literally refer to marriage, not to the bride price/dowry that customarily accompanied the marrying process.
Most importantly, though, the Sadducees' objection is not answered if marriage still exists in the resurrection. Their question was: "Now then, at the resurrection whose wife will she be, since the seven were married to her?" (Luke 20:33) If she were married in the resurrection, in response to them Jesus should've identified whom she would be married to. Instead, He just says 'they will neither marry nor be given in marriage". He doesn't identify whom the woman would be married to. As such, the phrase 'marrying and being given in marriage' must be understood as an idiom referring to the institution of marriage per se. It cannot refer just to customs related to making a marriage, or merely the process of making a marriage (as if Jesus were merely saying that there will be no more marriages made in the resurrection, but the ones that exist now will persist into that era). Why? Under all these ways of reading the phrase, the Sadducees' question remains unanswered: who will the woman be married to in the resurrection? Therefore, Jesus is saying that since marriage will be abolished in the resurrection, the woman in the Sadducees' question wouldn't be married to anyone. His argument fails to address the Sadducees' question if this is not what He means. Thus, Jesus clearly teaches that marriage will be abolished in the resurrection.
This renders your point about Genesis 1-2 moot. Marriage is a legal institution, not a fact of nature. God can thus change it, or even do away with it, even though it was an institution He set up before the Fall. That is why there is no contradiction between the traditional reading of Luke 20:35 and parallels and Genesis 1. A change in situation does not amount to a contradiction.
As to sexual desire, humans can still be humans without sexual desire and activity (though I do think the gender binary is intrinsic to human nature). The resurrection body isn't merely the old body renewed, but is also transformed to be suitable to the eternal state. And note that doesn't mean sexual desire now is sinful! It just means it doesn't fit in the resurrection age.
Anyway, that's the last of what I have to say. Feel free to have the last word, if you wish.
Kind regards,
Shaun Doyle
Me: There is a contradiction. God already explicitly stated in Genesis 2 that for this reason shall people leave their parents and be one flesh with a spouse, referring to us having gender. Jesus repeats this when asked about divorce. He affirms the opposite of what you claim he does. The law is not the reason for marriage. Jesus' answer to the Sadducees is about legal actions, the context of which is what the Greek words were used for. You have to infer the opposite. Jesus wouldn't need to say she would be married to any of those men. Those laws have no relevance in a sinless, deathless world, but during those conditions is when God made marriage. That's the conditions that sin ruined and that God will restore in the resurrection. Joining Adam and Eve together was not a legal institution. There will be no difference from the desires he gave us before sin, including sexual. What sin did is the only thing that will change. Sexual desire and reproduction are all part of what makes us the genders we are. Sperm and egg cells and wombs are used exclusively for reproduction. I never claimed not being sexual makes someone less human. It's a manipulation of free will because it eliminates the ability to have that desire, whether someone wants to keep it or not. Your arguments are only believable by selective reading instead of accounting for all relevant verses to understand each individual one. You have no evidence and have simply ignored all of the texts I mentioned contradicting your opinions. What you teach is unbiblical utilitarian dogma.
The law of levitate marriage that the Sadducees asked Jesus about is only needed if death occurs. She's only required to marry the other men by that law. Get rid of that law and her reason for marrying them goes away. "Who's wife will she be?" is still answered. It does not necessitate marriage itself end simply because it ends marriage to any specific person. You're arguing a false dilemma.
Jesus's answer doesn’t require no marriage, just any laws that obligated her to marry anyone to not apply. That doesn’t forbid her from being married to a different man. He's arguing the fallacy that marriage continuing requires one to stay married to a previous spouse. Remarriage is allowed after a spouse's death. Paul said it’s being free from the law to compare it to being free from the mosaic law because of Jesus resurrection. The only way that comparison works is if marriage can continue, just with someone else, or it would be teaching that being free from the law eliminates sacrifice for sin too, but there remains a sacrifice for sin, just a different sacrifice. That means the law is not needed to be married or else Adam and Eve would have to have sinned for a law to be needed for marriage. Paul wrote that the law was only necessary because of sin. Shaun also argued the fallacy that changing God's original design is a change in condition only, so wouldn't contradict it not being good to be alone and the statement for why marriage exists. That's not simply a change of condition, that's a change of standard, and then more severely limits what people can hope to be restored since what God says is good and not isn’t eternal. Marriage not being part of nature is irrelevant because sexual desire is natural and only marriage fulfills that for people. Shaun claimed that God can change His mind about what’s good, but also that not being good to alone is resolved by there simply being more friends of the same race. If that’s true then it’s still not good to be alone, even by Shauns own logic. If God does change his standard for good and bad, then it wouldn’t matter anyway if there’s as many human friends as earth can fit, because it could be good to be alone in the future. The most significant contradiction, though, is that completing humanity with both genders is stated immediately after Adam and Eves first meeting to be the reason for marriage. Reproduction or anything else can’t be a reason. Animals reproduce without marriage: what makes marriage unique is the sexual intimacy. It’s purpose is itself: it has to exist to be fulfilled. God is not male and female, so Jesus being single is irrelevant. He’s self sufficient.
Thank you for writing this.
It makes no sense to me why God would create a need for Eve in Adam, bring them together, design them for sex and reproduction, all before the fall, declare that they are one flesh and they are good.
All to decide they will instead become like angels.. that makes no sense, we are image bearers. Make and female, God created the joining, and God is the same yesterday , today and forever,
He also honours free will.
What an elegant explanation without going into deep theology! Thank you, Fr Mike.
I think a lot of people take an adventure of missing the point of Jesus’s conversation with the Saduccees. If one takes Jesus’s saying at face value it contradicts his own teachings about Marriage, the vision of Marriage instituted in Genesis, and what the Jews and subsequently the Church have always taught about marriage as a indissoluble bond inasmuch as it is done in Christ. If you read the passages in the gospels carefully in their historical and cultural context Jesus was simply satirically poking fun at the holes in the logic of the Saduccees theology. By the Saduccees logic there would be no marriage at the resurrection because they didn’t believe in a resurrection and those people would be like “angels in heaven” as in the Saduccees believed the dead no longer existed just as they believed angels didn’t exist. The Church has always taught the indossubility of Christian marriage. Marriage is perfected in the new creation and is most certainly not eliminated.
My Fiance and I were at the March for Life and I really wish I could have met you. It would have been such an honor for you to bless our engagement as well!
It's funny because my brother Thomas actually did end up kind of meeting you in the midst of all the other Liberty students.
Thank you for this video, Fr.!
Iron sharpens Iron.......that said, choose your wife/Husband very carefully. The divorce rate is ridiculously high and most unions don't go the distance. Be very discerning and do not be blinded by lust. Make sure sex is not your master, if it is you'll make poor choices. A true Godly marriage is a beautiful thing as is a Godly family but being single is a joy that so many people fail to fully embrace and explore. That time you have for dedicating to knowing God and growing in wisdom is priceless. Dont forsake your singleness thinking that marriage is better. As a wise man once said: Don't let your food grow cold while you're looking at someone else's plate.
I was wondering about this the other day, and I'm glad you made a video on it. I'm a young widow and dedicated to Christ before anything right now. I had someone I was close to marrying, but I just don't know how I can love someone as much as God. This makes me reflect and think I shouldn't be as opposed as I have been.
Tiff. stick to God. He will never leave you . He is the best husband
I have read a few writings from early church fathers like St. Ambrose, as well as St. Paul’s writings in the New Testament. I think the traditional suggestion from these great and holy men was for widows and widowers to stay unmarried, so that they can dedicate the rest of their lives to God. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with getting remarried after the death of the first spouse, but it’s good to be open to that higher calling of service to God alone. My mother currently follows a similar path after her husband passed. Thanks for sharing your story! God Bless!
@@madelineliu1102 I remember reading St. Paul's take on remarrying, and I'm going to look up St. Ambrose shortly. Thank you so much for the suggestions!
There's a LOT of variables to that decision, don't take the advice of randos online, lol.
Prayers for your discernment. ❤
That's funny! I just spoke with my sister and we talked about this at lunch. I just opened UA-cam and this was at the top of my feed!
God bless you abundantly Father! 🙏
According to the that had the experience of dying, visiting heaven and coming back, they often describe seeing their loved ones, that passed, together.
I often think of this topic and now view marriage as a vocation. I wish I knew or saw it like that 17 years ago. What a difference!
However, during mass, priests recognize Joseph as Mary's spouse. We believe both are certainly in heaven. We still recognize their marriage at every mass.
Are the two married in heaven? They are both obviously an exception to us, but are they an exception to marriage in heaven?
good pick up
*Your spouse in heaven* 😇❤️
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We don’t really know, so, we make things up. God explains the unexplainable. We will find out when we get there.
Thanks for this video! I have to be honest, I've been struggling/ confused about the fact that marriage doesn't exist in heaven. To me, how could a place be heaven if I don't have a special relationship with my beloved? This eased my heart a lot. Thank you Fr Mike!
I believe that you can have a beloved person in heaven because my father is telling us limits God’s power in heaven
Hello from Boston! God bless you father!
Aww. I loved this. Thanks Fr Mike🙏❤️🔥✝️
I have been subscribed for half a month and this video caught my eye, very cool information being shared here. Definitely gonna have to listen to some more of these videos!
Fr. Mike, I've done a lot of reflecting on the big tech's push of the metaverse on humanity and have concluded that it is pretty much pure evil. We've seen the destruction of social media and how it has alienated/divided friends and family. The metaverse will be at least 100x worse. Please consider an episode on the metaverse and if you have never tried a VR headset, I advise you to try it for a half hour or so to get a better perspective on what I'm talking about. The metaverse will be a genie that you can't put back into the bottle. God bless!
Married 23 years and doubt if I would be on the right path without he trials and joys of marriage and the family
I’m 74 and I still don’t know what my vocation on this earth is, lol.
I’ve heard explained recently “ your very first vocation is always when you receive Jesus in your life!” 😊
We know we are spiritual beings, but we are also human. In Heaven we will be complete spiritual beings, therefore no need for the physical or sexual union had in Marriage, Thank you for explaining this Fr. Mike.
Definitely partly wrong. We are not purely spiritual beings in heaven. The resurrection is a real thing and We will have glorified bodies… not that well have male and female in Heaven, but we will have bodies.
Marriage is a Sacrament, a channel for grace. There is no need for Sacraments in Heaven because we’ll be perfected.
Yes a male will be a male for eternity and a woman will always be a woman, mother mary is still female and Jesus still is a man, for ever.
God bless❤
So, if marriage is a vehicle/means (or vocation) of getting to Heaven and it ends in heaven, why does the status of priesthood still exist in Heaven if its also a vocation or means of getting to Heaven?
Priesthood exists in Heaven? Are we not all Priests in Christ, according, to scripture?
Because priests are espoused to the Church, not a particular human person. Same for religious sisters, they are espoused to Christ. The relationship is completely different so while the duties of people in religious life pass away, the call to be fully united to Christ doesn't.
Unfortunately, many Catholics dont understand the context with which our Lord Jesus Christ was asked the question about marriage in Heaven. The people who posed the question about marriage in the Afterlife were Pharisees and Scribes. They didn't believe in Life after death in the first place. Our Lord always spoke in parables and always compared Heaven to a Heavenly marriage. Eternal bliss with your dearly Beloved Soulmate. And you don't lose your masculine or feminine qualities in Spirit. The Angels are both Male and Female. As for the concept of marriage, Jesus was telling them the truth..insofar as their minds understood the concept of marriage. Marriages were arranged in those days and women were property. Marriages were based on wealth, social status, political gain etc. Everything but true Love.
And remember what Our Lady of Fatima said about marriage. Back then, not all marriages are pleasing to God or of Heaven.
There is no 50+ % Divorce rate in Heaven. *There is no "marriages" in Heaven but there is something else without the negative aspects we suffer on Earth.
Lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven. Loving relationships of all kind are a blessing when they are built on genuine love. If those relationships carry over to heaven then those relationships in themselves are treasures. Love someone for their sake and not your own. Even so, if you have a friend you are separated from in life then you will see them again in eternity. In addition, we all play small roles in other peoples lives and in some cases are part of God’s guidance of a person to salvation. In a lot of cases you may not know it. “Love never ends”. The love you show someone here on earth carries over. Just bare in mind this love isn’t a romantic or platonic.
So marriage is a tool, a process, a training mechanism, just like the old covenant was a tool, a process, a training mechanism. This is a new perspective to me. _Muchas gracias._ 👍
Ever since I finished the BIAY I feel like me and father mike haven’t seen each other in a minute.
Thank you for this talk Father, as a newly wed this helps a lot. Blessings all the way from Trinidad and Tobago.
*Your spouse in heaven* 😇❤️
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Inspired analogies to compare marriage on earth with faith and hope on earth, and how the precious Old Testament is fulfilled in Jesus. When we're one with God, face to face in heaven, love with him is forever; we won't need faith and hope anymore. When we're in heaven, we won't need marriage because hopefully we raised our children to be one with God, and spouses helped each other to be one with God too. In heaven, we, our spouses, and children will be one with God.
Thanks for your teachings, Father
I always had this questing pertaining to the vocation and sacrament of marriage. Thank you Fr. Mike for having the time to explain this concern. God Bless.
I hope couples stay together.
What is the point in getting married, having babies and loving your spouse? NO POINT AT ALL, if it’s all over when we die. My husband passed 18 years ago and I believe we are still married and will be for eternity.❤
There is what you believe and there is what God says.
Thank You Father Mike for this teaching. God Bless You
So in Heaven, we'll all just be asexual platonic friends? My wife and I will be... what, fishing buddies? No relationships, no special bond, no eros, no sex, no romance, we'll all just be like that Futurama episode where everyone's genitals get disappeared by a rock alien? What a depressing thought... spin it how you like, it still sounds like we'll be losing something good and joyful and important.
It is a sin to complain.
When we consummate our marriage (have sex with our spouse for the first time) aren’t the souls united/bonded eternally? How can marriage end at death? (Till death do us apart) Makes no sense to me
No, souls in marriage are not bonded eternally through consummation. If that were true, the couple would have no need to continue to have sex after they first consummated the marriage. And they would not be able to marry another after the death of the first spouse. Similarly, we continue to receive Holy Communion after our First Holy Communion because we continue to need the ongoing grace of receiving Jesus (not just once). We are on a journey and the sacraments are “signs” pointing us toward our destination, which is eternity with God.
Estimado Padre Mike he disfrutado mucho su programa de La Biblia en un año! Valoro mucho su esfuerzo,bendiciones! Extraordinario muchas gracias! Sería muy bueno traducirlo al español!
Thank you for sharing this good message with us! God and Jesus are so good to us all and we love God and Jesus too :D
It's often said in Scriptures and throughout liturgy that the Church is fiancée of Christ and that there will be a wedding feast in heaven, and that's why I imagine our life now on Earth as being the time of engagements, preparations (as engaged couple prepare for their wedding) for the "marriage with God", aka the state of eternal love, joy and Union.
When I put it like that, for me it facilitates finding not just the purpose of life, but finding a way to become closer to God and have an intimate relationship with Him, our Creator and Redeemer, who loves us so much, and wants to be with us.
If I will be "married to God", aka united completely with Him in heaven, earthly spouse is not needed to be with me in union of "earthly" marriage in that sense anymore because the goal of our union is achieved (purpose of marriage is to sanctify each other and lead each other to God), but he will always be a part of my life in whole, as all people from my life should be, just a special one, of course.
I'm not going to lie when I heard that there's no marriage in heaven I was upset about that. I thought that something as beautiful as marriage would be in heaven. Having not only a best friend who loves you and would do anything for you. But also someone who completes you, you're other half. That special person who you feel you couldn't live without. I suppose I can see why "marriage" in the sense of a vessel wouldn't be required in heaven. But I don't see why that special romantic relationship you have with that person would end. I sincerely hope that we get to keep that relationship with our significant other in heaven because without that special someone who I shared my life with, I would feel as if I lost a part of me. Anyway thanks for your insight of this topic and God bless.
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My pastor at church today told us a story of this woman who desired to be a wife and have children and wanted that before the "end times". His(the pastor) response was basically saying there's no marriage in Heaven. Makes no sense!! Why give us the desire to marry and have a family when saying in the next life(Heaven) marriage isnt really a thing?! But God made a helper(a wife) for Adam and yes, the two of them subdued the earth. God created us for relationship, not just relationship with Him but for others in the body of Christ. So again, why create marriage then say marriage isnt a thing in Heaven?! This is just one of the many things I'm having the hardest time wrapping my head around! What's the point if it's basically going to end regardless?!
Without my Wife, I can´t imagine or think How could I be saved.
Well, sure OUR LORD would have found out.
Help each other get to heaven.
September 15, 2022
A lot of people seem to forget in the first 2 chapters of the Bible that Adam had a perfect relationship with God when Eve was created. One is not a replacement for the other, they are different types of relationships that fulfill different desires. You don’t need a foretaste of what you already have. All reasons anyone has ever thought of for why sexuality would be eliminated contradict other parts of the Bible and their own logic.
The Bible tells us God will be restoring, not deleting us, the male + female relationship of God's original intent will be brought back, redeemed and restored.
It be a grotesque and unbiblical reversal of God’s original creative design if the redeemed in the resurrection lived without that intense joy in sexual complementarity in the New Heaven and New Earth.
This. I feel this deeply with marriage and motherhood since I don’t think I’ll experience this on Earth. At least a long term partner. I’m 30 now and I have tried to seek a partner to get married to but all of them turned out to be narcissistic abusers. And I tried to lead them to God never worked.
Frankly it's not the job of anyone to lead anyone to God, it's the job of God because we will be lead astray with them for attempting to lead someone to God
Hey i feel this deeply as well :)
Wonderful video, Fr.
This was so great. Thank you so much for this.
Lord save a place for me in your kingdom, and please help me repent from these sins
I would just add that earthly marriage points directly to our eternal marriage to Christ in heaven. It is a precursor. It is a mirror of the Holy Trinity, a mysterious participation in the love between the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. It prefigures, in a sense, the love that awaits us in heaven. I don't think that love for our spouses will be diminished at all, but rather perfected in our union with Christ.
So, I will recognize and know my loved ones in heaven? Because, if not, that does not sound so great
Thank you Fr. Mike!
Where most Christians get it wrong. There is a difference between the rapture and the resurrection. Jesus said in the resurrection, not in heaven, not doing the rapture, but the resurrection. Know the difference know the word know the love and grace of God.
No marriage in heaven is biblical. Because marriage is a man made process that was based on legal principles LOL what god designed from the beginning, 2 becoming one flesh is gods eternal creation, Isaiah 65 also says on new earth infants shall no longer die prematurely, Matthew 22:30 is the only verse so called *Christians* have used to try and say *there’s no marriage* like the sadducees of that time, they fail to see whats in front of them.
You read it right and get the details of that verse.
Wow I love it! Well done Father Mike!
Really loved this! We’ll explained!
If we are not married in Heaven, why is divorce so debated in the church, if we are basically divorced upon death and enterance to heaven?
good question! and why must there be an annulment process for the divorced in the church - - it’s just not an option for me financially! 😖🤦🏽♀️
5 “It was because your hearts were hard(F) that Moses wrote you this law,” Jesus replied. 6 “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’[a](G) 7 ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,[b] 8 and the two will become one flesh.’[c](H) So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
10 When they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this. 11 He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her.(I) 12 And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.”(J)
Only death can separate a man and woman that became one soul in marriage.
@@grespinosa do we pay money for annulment of marriage in church ?.
@@benedicta7490 it does cost an indeterminate amount in my state. ☹️
You don't get "divorced" when you die, you simply pass from the earthly realm leaving your spouse free to marry again if they choose since marriage is specifically defined for us as a covenant unto death. Death is not the equivalent of divorce, so you cannot create an argument based on that false comparison. They are two different things.
Divorce is not "debated" in the Church, although many issues surrounding marriage, children, separation, divorce, remarriage, etc, can be difficult, confusing, complicated. Divorce (claiming to dissolve the marriage bond and/or remarrying without a declaration of nullity by the Church, is actually is the key issue) - for two validly married people - has never been allowed, per Christ's teaching. The state, in our age, is heavily involved in the legalities of marriage, and the Church has unfortunately ceded some territory to the state as a result, and so the legal definition and availability of divorce might be quite different than that of the Church. It is my understanding that one may be required to file for civil divorce nowadays before a declaration of nullity can be sought from the bishop's marriage tribunal in the local diocese. This makes it very confusing since you can be divorced in the eyes of the state and not in the eyes of the Church. The Church allows separation, and there is even some canonical mechanism for that (which seems to not be used currently), and the Church can/should help spouses to reconcile if at all possible, but people still find themselves in complicated and confusing situations. The annulment process is necessary to clear up such issues and is available if one or both people ask the Church for a finding on whether or not the marriage was valid in the first place.
The scripture can be interpreted as there are no marriages/the state of being married or there are no marriages/no weddings. The root Greek word 'gamos' could be interpreted either way. Personally the term "to be given in marriage" sounds like it us referring to weddings, not the state of being married.Why does everyone take the interpretation that is less in line with other scriptures?
In answer to the Pharisees on the subject of divorce, Christ said, "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives, but from the beginning it was not so" (Matthew 19:7-9). He says it was not God's plan for marriage to end, we did that because of disobedience to God. Christ referred back to the first marriage of Adam and Eve (Genesis 2:24-25). They were married before the Fall, and were commanded to multiply and replenish the earth, which is to have sex (Genesis 1:28). In the perfect created state of the world marriage wasn't meant to end and sex was a thing. That means sex itself is not carnal nor sinful. It is only when done outside the bounds the Lord has set. Again, in the perfect created state of the world, God said it is not good that man should be alone, which could imply it is not good for man to be single (Genesis 2:18, 20-24). Man and wife are also to treat each other as heirs together in the grace of life (1 Peter 3:7), and they are to be one flesh. Eve was literally made with a piece of Adam's flesh which says you are the wife and the husband are incomplete without the other. God also said, "neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 11:11-12)
In my opinion, interpreting Matthew 22:30 as meaning there is no marriage as opposed to there are no weddings, basically nullifies every other scripture I shared above.
Just some examples:
How is it Christ said that marriage wasn't meant to end but is being ended because of sin, then he goes on to end every single marriage in the next life?
How can God say it is not good for man to be alone, but it's good for man to be alone for eternity in the next life?
How is it to be said that man and woman are not without each other in the Lord, but they will all be without the other in the next life?
Sex is in the perfect world in the beginning, but doesn't exist in the perfect world of the next life?
That is why I believe Matthew 22:30 must be talking about weddings, not the state of being married. God will make all things right, but if we are single by the time if the final judgment it will ultimately be due to disobedience.
That makes me to ask the following question then: if marriage is a path for holiness then why priests don’t get married?
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My area people I have observed people are not marrying in the church yet. This is a powerful platform and the explanation is the same Manichaean tone . A nun gave me good advice . She said marriage is a holy thing . She said having multiple partners allows the passage of spiritual illnesses into people . Children are gifts to marry just to have children has caused much harm . Marriage is for strength of the spouses why do they not talk of ‘two together is better than one’ or ‘a cord of three strands is not easily broken ‘ . This is the kind of priest who would discriminate against older couples who fought against ignorance from their their families. environments and lack of guidance from their church members. But we made it . Young couples are all they are interested in and even they are given some sterile joyless talk . Discernment. I do not like that word it smacks of a horrible website called Catholic match full of people trying to stop others fulfilling their vocation to marriage. Discernment. Can you visualise this person at your funeral mass and vice versa should be the first question. Marrying for children . No you marry to support and strengthen each other and shadow or practice Christ’s love for us
Children are bonuses that come along. Marriage is the vocation for most people. But they only ask for vocation to the priesthood . All this dating and discerning is delaying God’s plans for our community. Stop going on Catholic match website it is full of evil behaviour trying to stop God’s plans and that word discernment is a key word . Ten years of discernment. Look only God can save us. Manichaeism is a heresy and the antidote is a quick read of Song of Songs.
Father Mike you are amazing and God Bless You
What does it mean in the Book of Matthew what is bound on earth is bound in heaven? Your information on this video is very difficult for me. I just lost my husband. My hope is I will be with him in heaven side by side.
There is indeed marriage in heaven
If anyone asks you that question, run! How could we possibly gain Heavens admittance without living for others, loving others, giving all for others? Children? How can you parent? They are the first to enter Heaven. Mary & Joesph married, was that useless? Christ committed unto death for us.
Metaphysics
Contrast plus harmony creates an explosion of joy and wisdom whereby the joy and wisdom created is greater than the sum of the parts.
Contrast plus ignorance (greed) does the exact opposite.
Hello father, is it okay if a catholic doesn’t get married.
Thank you for the way that was worded, appreciated.
You are very wise. Thanks for all you do!!
Love that Fr ! Thank you 🙏🏼
What about for those who never get married? Or get married but never have children? Or get married at an older age and never experience the beauty of young marriage? Do they miss out? Isn't that unfair for the disabled? If I never get married, will I at least have a close relationship with the girl that God had in mind for me, even if it's not marriage?
No marriage in heaven is a lie.
I love this video! You explained so many things I have wondered.
We're all supposed to have bodies again, aren't we? Why have bodies with defined sexes if marriage won't transcend death? ... Questions, questions...
Also, Adan and Eve were a couple in Paradise.. I think every couple would wish for their relationship to continue
@@rodrigodiazdeleon8327 I know I DEFINITELY want mine to continue.. The "soul" and "love" never die.. They're eternal. I've studied Near death experiences and a HUGE common denominator is a man or woman being reunited with their "love" that passed away ... Is this just a temporary greeting? I hope not .. No matter what, God will take care of us!
@@AConsumer999 you should research "near death experiences".... We are SEPARATE entities from God.... A soul is a SOUL
Just because you have genders doesn't mean you have to do anything with them.
Father Mike Schmitz? LIKE FROM FNAF?!?!?
Nah, to be serious now, good video!
This is devastating to me because all I wanted out of life was marriage and it just never happened for me I'm too old now so I was hoping to find my husband in heaven and now you're telling me I have to give up on the only thing I ever wanted forever?! Btw I know it says "til' death do us part" but I thought that was temporary until reunited in heaven
I’m sorry you weren’t give what you wanted 🩵 Just know that we all have the same calling - to know, love and serve God, to be saints and spread the Gospel! That should be our life’s focus, no matter which vocational road we are taken on!
You will.
I believe God showed me a man with a cap tilted and a flower to offer you.
God brings Eve to her Adam.
God bless you sister.
@@melissai4798 thank you
with marriage we learn to be unselfish mainly caring for others day in day out. We learn to be the best compagnon of others in heaven. Otherwise we are not qualified for agapé unconditional love.
I know I’m going to die alone on earth. But I hope I have one romantic partner to be with for eternity in Heaven. And I believe everyone else will as well.
If God created paradise with humanity ordered in pairs, then paradise restored must also include this fundamental unit. A female for a male, and a male for a female. All created in the image and likeness of God.
The Bible tells us God will be restoring, not deleting us, the male + female relationship of God's original intent will be brought back, redeemed and restored.
It be a grotesque and unbiblical reversal of God’s original creative design if the redeemed in the resurrection lived without that intense joy in sexual complementarity in the New Heaven and New Earth.
Jesus/God is ur father not romantic interest There will be no sex, marriage, procreation in heaven. Everyone will be busy worshipping their father in heaven.
At its best, marriage is a foretaste of the joys of Heaven, and so by living a holy marriage we help build the Kingdom of God. Our marriages are a sign that directs others toward the Trinity, and when we live out our marriage vows with faith and love we are evangelizing. This is particularly true for the children that may result from a marriage. As a father, I'm teaching my children about the love of God the Father. So why bother with marriage? Because we have the unique opportunity to become co-creators with God and usher in the Kingdom of God as Jesus taught us to do. Why would I want to pass that up if that's what God is calling me to?
If marriage is a foretaste of the joys of heaven then that can only mean greater pleasure in this regard, greater sexual pleasure is to be had in eternity! Awesome... Can't wait for that, and to have a lot of children.
My question is, why does the Catholic church allow cohabiting people to marry #AskAscension ? When 50% of marriages end in divorce and when people are cohabiting they are more likely to engage in sexual activity. Most doctors and psychologists agree that sexual activity makes the bonding of two greater which would make it hard to determine if a couple is really in love or just in love for the feeling. According to "Explaining the Faith," Father Alair, says love is an action not a feeling. I believe when people are living together it's making it more difficult to see if this is a true relationship or not. Any thoughts?
I understand the call (albeit extremely rare) to singlehood but if marriage ultimately displays Christ and his Church to a watching world, why wouldn't Roman Catholic pastors be married? It seems that of all people ministers of the Gospel would want to make this declaration with their lives. I ask this question sincerely. Thanks Fr. Mike for posting.
So can we not have partners in heaven? And why did God let Adam and Eve do it, if we can’t do it now
Greetings Father Mike,
Thanks with Kind insights about the Fruits and Enlightenment in Sacramental Marriage.
Key Insights :
SACRAMENTAL MARRIAGE MAKES TWO AS ONE AND COMPLETE ONE IN FRONT OF DEAR GOD.
Kind Respect with Prayers,
Be Safe and Stay Safe.
- RanjithJoseph (R.J)