It's always been hard to be monogamous, nothing has changed recently. The divorce rate has always been horrendous. So, claiming that monogamy is somehow great is just silly, obviously it's not better for all those victims of divorce. Not even counting those just in relationships and have broken up. Imagine if we were able to get the divorce rate down significantly? That would be astounding.
@@SusannaPowers pfft only corrupted people on a failed society who doesn't believe on loyalty and commitment for a marriage to work. Divorce rate are terrible people took advantage of the game of hook ups that damage their marriages.,60% of divorce rate are iniated by women and a lot of them have the confidence to do it because they have the comfort of another man awaiting for them after their divorce. People shouldn't blame monogamy,.it stood beyond time, blame people for their lack of morals. They threw away any pure chances that they had now they wanna cope up by shifting the blame to the default marriage system of the society.
@@kbanghart nope, monogamy has nothing to do with it..You people just wanna cope up with your lack of values toward marriage. You people build the society out of hookups now you earning cheatings on marriages. That's just the basic logic of it. You people never admitted that your society is flaws when it comes to moral committment. You just want things easy..easy marriage, easy money, easy life. That's why western people are spoiled, whenever something happens, they never blame themselves like they've never done wrong.
@@epickiller30 no, for anyone. It’s called commitment. And stay off those apps they mentioned, that’s not an excuse. You’re not single, don’t act like you are. Really that simple.
We are not built as humans to be monogamous, it is a biological fact. Monogamy is an outdated delusional idea. Everyone will cheat at some stage on their significant other, it's a fact.
I wish they'd covered these additional questions but then I suppose they'd have to make the video 3 hours longer (worth it, imho): 1) What are the male-male and female-female relationships like? Do they feel like siblings? Best friends? Roommates they put up with? 2) What are the break up contingencies? If one person wants to split, does their original partner also have to leave the arrangement? Or can a person break up with one lover but not the other? Do they have a prenup of sorts to address belongings and finances? 3) Do the original relationships take priority over the later relationships, or are they all considered equal? Who can have kids with whom, and do they have to get permission from the others first? What if one person wants to take on an additional lover, do they have to discuss it with everyone else first or do they have free agency? Does the quad make household decisions by vote or what? 4) What were the reactions of each set of parents and grandparents? Does the quad intend their extended families to accept their additional lovers as family? For example, does the husband expect his parents to come to his wife's boyfriend's birthday? How do holidays work? 5) Does the quad feel this is permanent arrangement or temporary situation? Are they open to introducing more people into the dynamic or is it a closed unit? 6) The video described the additional couple as "godparents" to the kids, but what is the day-to-day dynamic like? To what degree do the newcomers assume responsibility for the kids? If the girlfriend or boyfriend of the bio-parents split, are they still considered parental figures who have a lifelong role in the kids' lives or no? 7) How did the conversation about going poly originate with each couple, and how did the couples first discuss it with one another?
Exactly why children should be left out of this whole dynamic. If it’s confusing for us, think about it for the eyes of young children. Bull that these kids don’t know what’s going on, when your all over each other like a rash, they are going to know your relationship with their “Godparents”, is different than with other friends that come to the house. So irresponsible after only 8 months, this is going to go south, with all this jealousy.
@@lennyball3885 I made a comment and the wife reads the comments here. She got back to me. She said the relationship portrayed in this video, ended before the segment was even aired.
My wife died after 51 years of marriages last year! So hard to go on with life so I will never understand there love for each other my wife was love of my life and I was her too. I thank God everyday for her!
Your comment inspired me. I'm 19 and i didn't know that genuine love exists and will stay alive even after 51 yrs, even after she passed away 😟 You're a real man😉
I think those kids can perfectly understand what is going on at some point. It doesn't have to affect them in a bad way. And seems like it's a new thing for the parents too. Kids are very open and empathic. Is the adult's mind the one programmed.
I think they should of reconsidered everything because of the children it's just weird and whn they get older thts whn it all will get difficult for the kids. Whn u have kids ur life isn't just ur own anymore. I mean if they wanted to date thm they should of just did tht without moving the other couple in and did things differently, but who am I to judge just my thoughts not my kids or my family so with tht being said I hope the kids be ok with all tht mess going on around thm and not be confused or picked on because of it later in life kids can be cruel... P.S the guys are definitely getting it in also😂😂😂😂😂 it shows but not my business I'm just passing by👋👋
Well for one, how do you know the dudes don't talk to each other, just from this video? And jealousy can be found in pretty much most relationships, so...
@@kbanghart In this relationship jealousy is part of their everyday life as they're sharing their spouse. If I get married to a man why would I be jealous unless he flirts with other girls or cheats on me
@@palwashadurrani4551 plus I think it really depends, I like a little jealousy, personally. When my wife and I go out together, or she goes out with a friend, I get a touch of jealousy thinking the other guys will be checking her out.
@@theginimini thanks, I went back and watched. But did they expand on that at all? That's not really explaining anything, just to say that you're jealous.
@@claimyourbrain6586 yea, these comments allways acts like other relationships allways lasts.. Or that its wrong if they don't.. We met people to evolve as humens.. Worst thing is those who stick it out not matter what... And especialy if they say its for the kids, as if kids dont pick up and learn from unhappy parents. And its far worse to cheat then to live with an other couple if it lasts or not.
@@linaulnes8821 Agreed in part. Relationships are useful, but not necessary. Many people choose to have a relationship because they're incapable of being alone, and that dependence is what may destroy a relationship anyway. There are many ways a relationship can fail, and many ways one can succeed, and different ways still of deciding whether it was a success, or failure; there's not a one-size-fits-all solution, and those that believe there is are tremendously naive. Whilst I've been "cheated on" in the past, I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing. People do what they want, and I think they ought to. That's a better alternative than living a life of resentment, doing things because others want you to and not pursuing ones own desires. I see any relationship I've had (sexual or otherwise) as being successful, because each has helped me to evolve. Some taught me what doesn't matter to me, whilst others taught me what does.
@@claimyourbrain6586 where did I say they where nessecerly? I said we met people to evolve, in general. Even your parents affects your journey. Even if they hurt you. I just dont think its any diffrent if these people break up then if others break up. And I prefer to see people who are hoenst with eachother then people who lie to themselfs and others (and yes its a journey, and we learn and heal along the way) ✌️ much more healthy. Now, I dont like writing online, so my bad, wish you a nice year ✌️☀️
I'm certain that my child self wouldn't mind if my parents did that as long as I didn't have to hear them arguing or hear them talk negatively about each other. Children are pretty nonchalant in general, but if there is any sort of strain in the relationship, the children will feel it and be affected by it. However, that can happen in any relationship, so I don't see anything wrong with this.
@@debrapaulino918 that is a possibility, but that's just a guess, we have no idea. Also, the females can be badasses, like my wife who is working on her black belt.
Emily Kelbell well that’s unfair, it’s only disrespectful to them if that’s how they feel, ie they’re monogamous. If that’s the kind of relationship your OG spouse and you both want then it’s perfectly respectful to them
You could ask the same question to a monogamous couple: “If you get jealous then why do it?” See? Jealousy is part of life and part of human nature. If it becomes a problem then ofcourse that’s not good no matter if you’re in monogamous relationship or polygamorous relationship. They didn’t seem to have a problem with it tho, but rather they seemed to be transparent with their feelings.
@@rosinasalovaara319 True, but in my OPINION why add more to the already existing problems of relationship?! People can do whatever they want. I don't agree with it.
This eventually is gonna blow up in all their faces. You can tell the guys don't like eachother or something, and you can almost sense some underlying tension between everyone as good as they're trying to hide it.
@@carmenk3335 Yeah sure guys . No one believes that. C'mon we don't mind your show , just admit that you like to take fun but don't call it love . I saw people in the comments loosing hope about love . Thanks God you are not the mass. Thanks for the fun time, I laughed a lot . I wish you all good and be safe :)
But of course 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Don't take it so serious they make it for show and cause they are kind of confused and obviously unsatisfied in their lives . And I think actually the guys are homosexual 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@frisky 001 frisky 001 while there isn’t much research on the effects of polyamory on children, the majority of what is out there says that this relationship dynamic can very well have a positive impact on kids. There is nothing inherently unhealthy about ethical non-monogamy, just like there is nothing inherently healthy or virtuous about monogamy. It’s better for a family to have a functional group of parents instead of a dysfunctional pair
Exactly! Someone with some sense. The parents are selfish for sure I wouldn’t be able to trust a lot of people with my daughter. You never know a person
Just don’t understand why you’d want to put your emotions through this. On the outside it looks like some cool fantasy but on the inside it has to wreck all kinds of havoc on your feelings of jealousy and insecurities
You have to remember that not everyone's brain is wired the same way. I personally enjoy a little bit of jealousy. It's exciting for me, and enhances my relationship with my wife when we talk about having other men possibly join us in bed. Now mind you, it never used to be that way, things have changed with our relationship over many years.
As long as the kids aren't being abused in any way....having nore people who love them cant be bad? Only issue could be teasing from other kids as they age.
@@dimitrova2023 she isn't into women at all. But she's interested in a threesome w another guy. I asked her, what about another couple, she said maybe.
since you generalized, I too feel compelled to announce, WE here in India would call them a quad, because that's what they identify as. we're progressive like that.
The problem is that in our day and age is you don't accept this type of relationships or dare say something, you are crucified, and pretty much looked down upon. We are not accepting... I can make the same argument of you people not accepting of my views. It's a never ending cycle. I just wish we wouldn't normalize what isn't and that just as everyone wants the freedom without judgement to "be who they are" there would also be the same for those of us who don't agree with this and other lifestyles. I can be nice to all people but if I don't want to, I don't have to accept it or see as the norm and for that I, or anybody else should be judged so harshly by all you so called "accepting" people. Thus, making you not very accepting 🤷. The hypocrisy of that gets me.
@@madelynhernandez7453 I'm not sure what argument you are defending. Most of the comments below this video are extremely negative and ill-informed. Would you care to explain?
I mean, you can. The kind of "monogamous relationship is the only good one" mentality is how you get people who cheat on each others and get hurt - some people just like to experiment, and some like to imagine their partners with others. If you just talk about it with your partner its gonna be a lot better than just assuming youre gonna be monogamous. I'm not poly myself but my best friend is and I can tell you, the love she has for her boyfriend is real.
Yes, because the real love let the person be free to choose what she wants to do. This "love" that OWNS people is better called: possession or fear of being alone.
I HATE feeling jealous, so I find it hard to understand putting oneself in a situation that would bring on that ugly feeling. Also, who has time for all that extra relationship drama?! But hey, that’s just me.
You lose the same while you win the same, probably. Married life is pretty routine so they want excitement understandably. I mean I would never do it purely for logisitics and time-management
Same but I think sometimes polyamorous relationships can cause less drama like you don’t have to worry if the other person is not satisfied with you and wants to cheat. They probably have a relaxed attitude about dating and want to have fun
You know what's relationship drama? Cheating, wanting to cheat, getting bored with your ONE partner for the REST OF YOUR LIFE. Blah not for me. I prefer a healthy poly life thanks.
There is no jealousy because there is no love. This is not the kind of relationship they want you to think it is. This is a sick perversion, like the 2 above me are promoting. No polyamorous relationship lasts for long. Women (and sometimes men) quickly find out that heart doesn't work that way.
Different does not mean unethnical. Different from yours does not mean no love. It works for them, and it is not your place to judge their relationship.
I don’t like talking to other people much especially online or in a flirty or sexual manner. I’m monogamy material lol. I’m too jealous to be in an open relationship anyhow
That is hilarious, we rented a spare bedroom to a woman once, and some mornings when I would get up to let my dog out, she would have her in her room cuddling with it. Really pissed me off. She didn't stay long, she was a slob too.
I couldn't! I invest my whole self in a relationship and expect the same in return, if my man was looking elsewhere I'd leave. I can share many things, but my man, no way.
@@missjul8 Hmm, I believe that my comment was misconstrued. What I meant was that I give that person my sole attention, as in I don't look elsewhere. If you're truly invested in a relationship, in a person, for whom you have respect, you shouldn't feel the need to step out and find another person. If something in a relationship isn't working for either of you, then you need to communicate that and work on it. I'm neither controlling, nor loosing my sense of self while in a relationship, I'm offering respect and expecting that in return. If there isn't a mutual respect and open lines of communication, why bother?
@@stephanieduchesne8747 Your comment was completely true . Don't pay attention to that guy . Perhaps his parents were divorced or his mama is too obsessive that's why he doesn't want to get attached and reacts so sharply .
@@stephanieduchesne8747 I feel you on that I agree with you all the way poly relationship is an open relationship are wrong I wouldn’t even consider them relationships because you’re literally seeing a whole Lotta people you’re not gonna find any love out of poly or open relationships I am engaged to a Russian woman I’ve been with for two years I can’t imagine having to share her with anyone else she belongs to me and also my Russian queen definitely is against the idea of poly in open relationships and she’s right Because at the same time if you’re sharing your significant other with a bunch of people you’re not gonna find any love out of it so I know where you’re coming from💯
I see how this could work. Naturally both couples already have similar things in common, or they wouldn’t be close friends to begin with. By simply spending time w other monogamous couples you get to know them well and find yourself attracted to different aspects of their personalities that your own partner might not share w you. I like that they don’t switch off if the OGs are in an argument, that they wait until the couple is solid. That’s how a lot of cheating in monogamous relationships start. (Seeking someone outside the relationship that understands or sides w you rather than resolving it with your partner). This seems to me, to actually make sense more than just having an extra male or female in the relationship. Both of the sexes are having their needs met. It’s not just the man switching off (or woman) which would cause extreme jealousy and almost force a competition. Idk. It looks like they are all in a healthy open honest relationship. A lot healthier than many monogamous ones I’ve seen. Still... If I’m in love, I could never let him sleep e another woman. I’d break.
yeah good analyze Rozy, only problem that divorce would be very painfull or on otherside it would be imposiible, becasue 4 people create healthy rivality-competition, so they are not bored, problem is also that all they were not searching ideal one partner, but that is their problem. Anyway guys are very very propably .... - you know what i mean what they are? i dont write because girls can read it and i make them divorced.
What a weird thing that’s becoming more mainstream. What’s so bad about being exclusive with just one person? They even admitted they’ve all been jealous at some point! I’ll never understand it.
Aaron Blanding logically you can say that about polyamorous relationships too though. What’s so bad about being exclusive with more than one? You get jealous at some point in monogamous relationships. Jealousy will always happen at some point, but there is a line between normal jealousy, and obsessive jealousy. So long as you have a line of communication between your partner/partners and can talk it out, you can have a healthy relationship. Some people aren’t made to be in monogamous relationships, and that’s okay. If you can’t see yourself being with more than one partner, that’s fine. Just don’t do it, and no one will be upset with you for it.
BryOkami the thing is the brain gets used to “cheat” with something new all the time and 8 months aren’t enough to prove that their relationship would be stable
My first marriage ended because of this sort of thing. It worked for a while but in the end it tore us apart. Just saying... think long and hard. These couples on shows have been in a polyamorous relationship for a short while. There is a reason you dont hear them say "we have been a polyamorous couple for 20 years.....
It’s all fun until you want to be placed as priority. Polyamory only works for the childless and those who don’t mind being placed 2nd(a small percentage of the world).
Yeah at first I was like I respect this but I’m just so confused now you can’t even tell who is married together and who not cuz it seem like the married couple don’t interact at all or maybe it’s cuz I don’t even know who is married anymore
Love it!!!!! What people dont realise is, its not easy to start one of these, your relationship has to have trust and your partner has to have an open mind and understanding...its not all about sex , sometimes its just filling a void and finding someone who gets you ,you can love 2 people ,heck u can love 5 peopld or even 10, your soul grasps something in theirs...
I don't understand that statement "it's hard to be monogonous", I can honestly say I just don't want anyone else. There have been opportunities for me with some gorgeous men if that's what I wanted, but I've only ever wanted my soulmate since we've committed.
Also what is the outlet for this jealousy? In a monogamous relationship you don’t have to schedule, switch, swap or any of that. What if you never wanna switch lol idk I think I just don’t want monogamy to die
People forget that monogamy is pretty recent in human history, only in the last thousand years or so and only in certain countries. I personally couldn't do well in a non monogamous relationship because I've been conditioned to want monogamy, but I personally also am happiest alone. So who knows. But I just don't think this is appropriate in my life and I don't know that this is the answer for anyone or everyone or I don't know anymore
To each their own! However, this wouldn’t work for me at all! The thought of my husband loving another woman and being intimate with her just kills me! Touching her in all the ways he touches me? Oh, hell no! My husband is mine!
To me this is just a cringe way of cheating and being greedy .. The only love you should need is from ya partner of you truly love them then you wouldn't want or need to look anywhere else for love .why can't you be happy with just the one guy ? I don't get it sorry . But if it works for ya then fine but to me it makes no sense lol
You only think so because we’re all raised to belive in monogamous, heterosexual relationships. I’m not defending their choice, but that’s what it is: THEIR CHOICE. If it bothers you: ignore it and live on withoit spending unnecessery time hating on people you can’t change to fit the mold society raised you to belive in😊
Jennifer Lerntoft No that’s not true. Humans and every other species on earth, except for a couple exceptions perhaps, can only mate with another one of themselves. Not 3 or 4. One other one. That’s why jealousy is a thing. It’s a human trait and even animal trait that is bred in our brains that we are selfish and want what we love and admire to ourselves. Not clearly, if you can do that with other people, you don’t have as much love as you thought you did in the beginning
@@baileegeml1913 You need to read more about humanity. Monogamy and marriage are very recent concepts compared to being non-monogamous. The primal need of a man is to sow as many seeds as possible to further his legacy. The primal need of a woman is to find the best possible male for her to bear a strong child. Monogamy is mostly a religious concept to keep society in line for all the weaker males to be able to get some.
@@roshansharma2782 Buddy, not everyone is poly, you must understand that poly relationships is not everyone's cup of tea. Understand that not everyone will like to be in poly relationships, so, maybe it works on some people but it wont work in others.
If you are all in agreement, that's all that really matters. No matter what you do , there's always someone who disagree and judges. More power to the four of you.
Sure it is, you don’t get to dictate what is and what isn’t a relationship for other people. You can decide that for yourself sure, but keep your opinions to yourself, don’t try to force them on others who clearly don’t want or need your opinions.
I saw what happened with the last girl that had multiple partners living in the same quarters and one of the men harmed the baby. This is a big mistake ..children shouldnt be exposed to this
@@missjul8 imagine not loving your soulmate or yourself enough to just be with them. Imagine being that selfish and lacking all self control! No thanks. This is pure lust, plain and simple. Those poor kids will be made fun of and mocked for this😔
Lmao not how polyamory works. If i really loved someone why wouldn't i want others to experience how special that person is and for me to do the same? Love is endless. I want more love, not less.
@@missjul8 Is that really true love? You or your partner involving others means that you weren’t satisfied or enough for one another. To get rid of that dissatisfaction, you have fun with other people which is okay but that’s how it is.
Whatever else people might say, the kids are happy with more love around - that's all kids need - love and care from the adults around them. And two more people are helping give them that. (Speaking from experience of how I grew up)
Seems like Carmen and Keith are kind of way more in love than the other two (married girl and guy who’s dating the other girl originally). Does that seem weird to anyone else? They seem super loving and deep and it must make their partners feel uneasy since the other two have a lighter relationship together
That's a hell of an accusation after watching an 8 minute video with enough repeated footage to make it 6. We don't really know how any of these people feel about each other aside from the facts of them living together and being in a relationship together.
ok getting jealous a lot in a poly relationship is literally so ironic- yall agreed to this, if its so hard, then just break it off. it just seems like its so toxic 🤷🏻♀️
@@missjul8 no, monogamy is fullfilling and loving. There's no better experience than loving one person, and you know it. You just wanna lie to yourself. Have fun in hell
honestly they look happy, one of the healthier relationships i've seen on this channel. they seem to be all be friends and if it works for them that's great.
I think we as a society are evolving. We have the ability to design our own lives including relationships. As long as everyone is on the same page then go for it. It's really no one's business.
Until it falls apart. Nothing may be perfect but it can definitely become more complicated. Is it possible the institution of monogamous marriage is being deliberately eroded for reasons beyond what you think you know?
Until it falls apart. Nothing may be perfect but it can definitely become more complicated. Is it possible the institution of monogamous marriage is being deliberately eroded for reasons beyond what you think you know?
Me and my bf could never do poly, we are so mono and I'm so happy about that 😂 I don't share, I'm way too protective and jealous. But if they are happy with poly then good for them. I just never can understand poly I guess..😥
I think they are a cute quadruple? And applaud their decision to not tell the kids about the 'romantic' aspect bc its true, kids don't think about that stuff! You guys are awesome 👌
I agree! There are a lot of super judgy comments on this vid, and a lot of these "love don't judge" vids do have the vibe of people trying to validate what they have while secretly being unhappy. But these 4 in particular really do seem happy and seem like they have a good thing going!!!
I wonder if the kids are confuse or not? Also, what's the point of jealousy, if you're going to be in an open relationship? Oh Well!, to each their own💁🏽♀️
My parents actually had something pretty similar going on from as long as I can remember, they had two long term relationships with two other couples in the span of 20 years I was at home . So me and my brother just saw their partners as uncle and aunt (tho we did know we weren't blood related they were just good friends )when we were little and like as kids we honestly did not care about anything more only that there were more people to play and take care of us which was obv lovely and we knew who our parents are so we never had any problems, then growing up and just starting to understand it , it still wasn't a big deal just made kinda more sense and we are very attached to the parteners my parents had from when we were like 3 to 15 and are still in contact with them . Seeing that lil child there really reminded me of my childhood tho I must admit I never saw anyone kissing or even touching (outside my parents) till I was like 10 and talked with them about their relationships
Yes the imp part is that you never saw them kissing and all besides your parents. So happy your parents were considerate of the kids,coz I think tht is something that can mess the child besides its all good.
Guys.. it’s hard not to be hateful, but that’s only because you don’t understand. there isn’t anything wrong with loving who you love. you only live once.
at least they all look happy most of the time I see this kind of relationship on youtube, there's always one person that looks sad or forced... I'm so happy for them
Why do people assume they know the whole story by watching just one short UA-cam video? LOL just because someone happens to have a face they find curious or looks sad in one little part of a video, they think they know the whole story.
Tell me you aren’t happy with your life and partner and want to cheat all the time without telling me you aren’t happy with your life and partner and want to cheat all the time.
The amount of judgement and ignorance in the comments is mind boggling. Just know that not everyone will see this relationship that way. If they are safe and consenting adults who am I or anyone to say anything negative about it? It looks like a group of lovely individuals who make co-habitating work for love despite the societal pressure to conform. This is nothing new but I'm glad the healthy poly relationships are getting shared so that hopefully a positive change can occur. I'm not poly myself but I have a few friends who are and I hope to see a world where they can love and be loved without a response similar to this comment section. Thank you for sharing this video!
This is the attitude that is needed to approach this situation. I think the concept and dynamics of love and relationships are changing. This is the age of Aquarius....
A mess as compared to the many abusive or broken monogamous households? Also how is it a mess if they love each other and provide a harmonious environment for the kids?
It obviously makes each of you happy. My opinion counts for nothing - but as a mom to three adult daughters - the happier they are, the happier I am. Period. Blessings to your family!
So if your daughters want to go and be hookers and are happy with that, you'll be happy too? Grow up and have some backbone woman. Do you have any sense of what you think it's right and not so right, or even wrong? Or do you just accept whatever, because you have no criteria of anything?
Even organizing the simplest stuff is hell. What laundry detergent to buy? One only buys organic-vegan, the other one is allergic to coconut, the third needs delicate for baby cloths the fourth wants levander scented, and they all have a saying in the topic. Who picks up each kid on which day? Where to go on vacation on what couple combination?
this couple really just said "copy and paste"
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😂 yea they both defiantly have a type.
No way
Reminds me of Roblox
@@malinachainey1564 DEFINITELY
Okay but they all look like the same person
Right!!!! Lol
Yea😆
NPCs
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I kept going back to see who was originally with whom.....yeah they look alike🤗
I feel like studying math is more easier then understanding this
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Not hard. You know what is hard though? Monogamy.
i was thinking the exact same thing
Literally 😂😂
they all look like brothers and sisters
Plot twist?
sweet home Alabama
Probably that's why they are into each other, people are attracted to others look a like.
@jayp your profile pic really matches that comment 😂😂😂😂
They really do!
The things people will do to save on rent
Lol😂
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Exactly they not fooling anyone😁😁😁😁
Lol
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"It's hard to be monogamous in today's society..." yeah, that's called loyalty and commitment. Anything worth anything takes work.
It's always been hard to be monogamous, nothing has changed recently. The divorce rate has always been horrendous. So, claiming that monogamy is somehow great is just silly, obviously it's not better for all those victims of divorce. Not even counting those just in relationships and have broken up.
Imagine if we were able to get the divorce rate down significantly? That would be astounding.
Loyalty and commitment ≠ monogamy. You can be loyal and dedicated to best friends and family, what makes romantic partnerships any different?
@@SusannaPowers pfft only corrupted people on a failed society who doesn't believe on loyalty and commitment for a marriage to work. Divorce rate are terrible people took advantage of the game of hook ups that damage their marriages.,60% of divorce rate are iniated by women and a lot of them have the confidence to do it because they have the comfort of another man awaiting for them after their divorce. People shouldn't blame monogamy,.it stood beyond time, blame people for their lack of morals. They threw away any pure chances that they had now they wanna cope up by shifting the blame to the default marriage system of the society.
@@kbanghart nope, monogamy has nothing to do with it..You people just wanna cope up with your lack of values toward marriage. You people build the society out of hookups now you earning cheatings on marriages.
That's just the basic logic of it. You people never admitted that your society is flaws when it comes to moral committment. You just want things easy..easy marriage, easy money, easy life. That's why western people are spoiled, whenever something happens, they never blame themselves like they've never done wrong.
@@naknampucha5236 no idea what you're talking about. I never claimed anything like what you said. Try again.
Do they all share a bed like Charlie's grandparents from Charlie and the chocolate factory?
Dani Xoxo best comment award goes to....!!
Lol , good thinking 🤔
Lmao
Best comment goes to you 😆😆
this comment deserves more likes! best comment i’ve seen!!
Theyre probably all in a relationship together because they keep mixing each other up
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Jamaican gyal I don’t know what to even say😂😂😂😂
Mad world. the beautiful of this they're happy for this confusing life.
HAHAHAHA!!!!! You win the comment game!!! 🤣
“It’s hard to be monogamous in this day and age.”
It’s really not. Like, at all.
Truth
I'd say for women and low desired men that's true
@@epickiller30 no, for anyone. It’s called commitment. And stay off those apps they mentioned, that’s not an excuse. You’re not single, don’t act like you are. Really that simple.
@@GratiaPrima_ try to empathize with high level men being tempted all the time.
We are not built as humans to be monogamous, it is a biological fact. Monogamy is an outdated delusional idea. Everyone will cheat at some stage on their significant other, it's a fact.
I can’t even find one person and look at these people here
I know right? They greedy🤣🤣🤣🤣
Haha that's funny but true
That's EXACTLY what I just thought! 😂😂
I mean... They are all attractive
LOL. I know right? I can't even get one person to look my way.
I wish they'd covered these additional questions but then I suppose they'd have to make the video 3 hours longer (worth it, imho):
1) What are the male-male and female-female relationships like? Do they feel like siblings? Best friends? Roommates they put up with?
2) What are the break up contingencies? If one person wants to split, does their original partner also have to leave the arrangement? Or can a person break up with one lover but not the other? Do they have a prenup of sorts to address belongings and finances?
3) Do the original relationships take priority over the later relationships, or are they all considered equal? Who can have kids with whom, and do they have to get permission from the others first? What if one person wants to take on an additional lover, do they have to discuss it with everyone else first or do they have free agency? Does the quad make household decisions by vote or what?
4) What were the reactions of each set of parents and grandparents? Does the quad intend their extended families to accept their additional lovers as family? For example, does the husband expect his parents to come to his wife's boyfriend's birthday? How do holidays work?
5) Does the quad feel this is permanent arrangement or temporary situation? Are they open to introducing more people into the dynamic or is it a closed unit?
6) The video described the additional couple as "godparents" to the kids, but what is the day-to-day dynamic like? To what degree do the newcomers assume responsibility for the kids? If the girlfriend or boyfriend of the bio-parents split, are they still considered parental figures who have a lifelong role in the kids' lives or no?
7) How did the conversation about going poly originate with each couple, and how did the couples first discuss it with one another?
Good questions. You should've been hired for this segment.
Yes! Wow!🙌
Exactly why children should be left out of this whole dynamic. If it’s confusing for us, think about it for the eyes of young children. Bull that these kids don’t know what’s going on, when your all over each other like a rash, they are going to know your relationship with their “Godparents”, is different than with other friends that come to the house. So irresponsible after only 8 months, this is going to go south, with all this jealousy.
Yes, these questions need to be answered! 💯💯👌👌 Great thoughts by the way!
@@lennyball3885 I made a comment and the wife reads the comments here. She got back to me. She said the relationship portrayed in this video, ended before the segment was even aired.
My wife died after 51 years of marriages last year! So hard to go on with life so I will never understand there love for each other my wife was love of my life and I was her too. I thank God everyday for her!
Your comment inspired me. I'm 19 and i didn't know that genuine love exists and will stay alive even after 51 yrs, even after she passed away 😟
You're a real man😉
Sorry for your loss. You were very lucky to have found each other, you must have many wonderful memories
Your comment made me cry
I'm so sorry for your loss. Your comment is beautiful ❤️😢❤️
❤
are the dudes even FRIENDS?? the vibes i'm getting off those two are...strained to say the least?
fr they seem really awkward with each other
The dudes probably can't seem to quit each other low key 😂😄
They beta males
Ms.Boston LOL
@@Sweetmelissaaah They Alphas, only betas stay with one person
If there weren’t children involved I’d say who cares but having kids there makes things way more complicated.
at the end of the day it's the biological parent's responsibility. those kids were not made with all 4 of them together.
I think those kids can perfectly understand what is going on at some point. It doesn't have to affect them in a bad way. And seems like it's a new thing for the parents too. Kids are very open and empathic. Is the adult's mind the one programmed.
I think it would make life with kids easier tbh. Everyone has a role and can take turns and fulfill different needs.
Remember the saying it takes a village to raise a child? Children benefit from love
I think they should of reconsidered everything because of the children it's just weird and whn they get older thts whn it all will get difficult for the kids. Whn u have kids ur life isn't just ur own anymore. I mean if they wanted to date thm they should of just did tht without moving the other couple in and did things differently, but who am I to judge just my thoughts not my kids or my family so with tht being said I hope the kids be ok with all tht mess going on around thm and not be confused or picked on because of it later in life kids can be cruel... P.S the guys are definitely getting it in also😂😂😂😂😂 it shows but not my business I'm just passing by👋👋
Truly: I married my cat's husband. Love don't judge.
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They are all jealous and the dudes dont even Really Talk to each other. Kinda weird...
Well for one, how do you know the dudes don't talk to each other, just from this video? And jealousy can be found in pretty much most relationships, so...
@@kbanghart In this relationship jealousy is part of their everyday life as they're sharing their spouse. If I get married to a man why would I be jealous unless he flirts with other girls or cheats on me
@@palwashadurrani4551 how do you know jealousy is a part of life for these couples, did it mention that in the video?
@@palwashadurrani4551 plus I think it really depends, I like a little jealousy, personally. When my wife and I go out together, or she goes out with a friend, I get a touch of jealousy thinking the other guys will be checking her out.
@@theginimini thanks, I went back and watched. But did they expand on that at all? That's not really explaining anything, just to say that you're jealous.
I dont see this ending well SOMEONE is going to get fed up
Sounds like most relationships then :D
@@claimyourbrain6586 yea, these comments allways acts like other relationships allways lasts.. Or that its wrong if they don't.. We met people to evolve as humens.. Worst thing is those who stick it out not matter what... And especialy if they say its for the kids, as if kids dont pick up and learn from unhappy parents. And its far worse to cheat then to live with an other couple if it lasts or not.
I agree
@@linaulnes8821 Agreed in part. Relationships are useful, but not necessary. Many people choose to have a relationship because they're incapable of being alone, and that dependence is what may destroy a relationship anyway.
There are many ways a relationship can fail, and many ways one can succeed, and different ways still of deciding whether it was a success, or failure; there's not a one-size-fits-all solution, and those that believe there is are tremendously naive.
Whilst I've been "cheated on" in the past, I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing. People do what they want, and I think they ought to. That's a better alternative than living a life of resentment, doing things because others want you to and not pursuing ones own desires.
I see any relationship I've had (sexual or otherwise) as being successful, because each has helped me to evolve. Some taught me what doesn't matter to me, whilst others taught me what does.
@@claimyourbrain6586 where did I say they where nessecerly? I said we met people to evolve, in general. Even your parents affects your journey. Even if they hurt you. I just dont think its any diffrent if these people break up then if others break up. And I prefer to see people who are hoenst with eachother then people who lie to themselfs and others (and yes its a journey, and we learn and heal along the way) ✌️ much more healthy. Now, I dont like writing online, so my bad, wish you a nice year ✌️☀️
I can't imagine having to share my space with one person, let alone 4
They share people and beds and give others space 😆
DAMN....SO TRUE
Yess!!!
😆😆😆 its better to be alone forever
Well thats you. Its easy for polyamorous people who areable to love more than one and live together happily.
I'm pretty open-minded but imagine being a kid on that household.
pervert-hell
Well i mean love is love, right???
@DANIMADRID ur profile pic scared me i thought there was a fly on my computer... LOL i letarlly screamed.....
I'm certain that my child self wouldn't mind if my parents did that as long as I didn't have to hear them arguing or hear them talk negatively about each other. Children are pretty nonchalant in general, but if there is any sort of strain in the relationship, the children will feel it and be affected by it. However, that can happen in any relationship, so I don't see anything wrong with this.
That is so good that kids are so lucky
All I know is I couldn’t do it
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I agree.. Godly 4bidden...hmmm wat a thing
Me neither 🤦🏽♀️
Me either no way I’m stingy I want my husband to my self only
Same 😂
Kids bully: I'll get my daddy to fight you
The kid: I'll get **two** daddys
Another possibility is the daddy / daddies do not identify as male and do not want to be the one to physically protect.
Or moms
@@debrapaulino918 that is a possibility, but that's just a guess, we have no idea. Also, the females can be badasses, like my wife who is working on her black belt.
I can barely schedule time for my marriage let alone find time for a marriage and another relationship on top of it. What?! This sounds exhausting.
Midwest Badger it can be a lot!
Emily Kelbell well that’s unfair, it’s only disrespectful to them if that’s how they feel, ie they’re monogamous. If that’s the kind of relationship your OG spouse and you both want then it’s perfectly respectful to them
So don't do it. If they didn't find it worth the effort, they wouldn't do it either.
I can barely study
Whatagaonkar yep
If u get "jealous" then WHY do it!? That is not a positive trait.
Its the first sign of madness..
They laughing like its a joke..
Let them stay.. who laugh last, laugh the best.
You could ask the same question to a monogamous couple: “If you get jealous then why do it?” See? Jealousy is part of life and part of human nature. If it becomes a problem then ofcourse that’s not good no matter if you’re in monogamous relationship or polygamorous relationship. They didn’t seem to have a problem with it tho, but rather they seemed to be transparent with their feelings.
@@rosinasalovaara319 True, but in my OPINION why add more to the already existing problems of relationship?! People can do whatever they want. I don't agree with it.
Being jealous is a normal emotion for sure! It’s all about how you deal with and express it!
Being jealous is actually normal and healthy at a level
This eventually is gonna blow up in all their faces. You can tell the guys don't like eachother or something, and you can almost sense some underlying tension between everyone as good as they're trying to hide it.
We hadn’t slept at all the night before!
It would be quiet confronting to publicise this and have a TV crew etc... that has to be contextualised.
I don't know. Maybe you read to much into this.
@@carmenk3335 Yeah sure guys . No one believes that. C'mon we don't mind your show , just admit that you like to take fun but don't call it love . I saw people in the comments loosing hope about love . Thanks God you are not the mass. Thanks for the fun time, I laughed a lot . I wish you all good and be safe :)
But of course 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Don't take it so serious they make it for show and cause they are kind of confused and obviously unsatisfied in their lives . And I think actually the guys are homosexual 🤣🤣🤣🤣
hard to be monogamous no hun its hard for you ..but to each their own
Exactly what i said!
louder! 👏👏 sounds like an excuse to cheat to me.
@@bt-jz7ki not cheating if its consensual.
Thank you! Exactly!
LOL
They took swinging to a whole new level ... doesn't get any more perfect than swing dancing swingers lol
How did I not even see that hahaaa
Lol 😂
It's super hot and loving
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This won’t end well
I can feel it🥺🥺
@frisky 001 frisky 001 Add to this is the inevitable breakup, then parental alienation and single motherhood. These kids won't have a chance.
@frisky 001 frisky 001 while there isn’t much research on the effects of polyamory on children, the majority of what is out there says that this relationship dynamic can very well have a positive impact on kids.
There is nothing inherently unhealthy about ethical non-monogamy, just like there is nothing inherently healthy or virtuous about monogamy. It’s better for a family to have a functional group of parents instead of a dysfunctional pair
@@SusannaPowers you dropped this 🧢
@frisky 001 frisky 001 being poly isn't nasty and I doubt the kids care...they have two extra parents that'll spoil them, lol.
like that other poly group couple they covered, that ended in child ab*se or m*rder if I'm not mistaken
When you have kids, you shouldn’t move people in that fast.
Rachael Stanford moving in was just a temporary situation!
Exactly! Someone with some sense. The parents are selfish for sure I wouldn’t be able to trust a lot of people with my daughter. You never know a person
True, obviously these so called parents didn’t vet the couple in terms of child endangerment risk just for their own selfish pleasures I bet
Carmen K but it became permanent?
Not sure how fast they did this but it sounds pretty stable and the kids are happy and connected to all of them.
I bet they all each secretly have their preferred partner, it’s such a mess but I am here for it
They're human ofc
Yep, Keith & Carmen are a swap couple and they keep talking about their connection being deeper.
😂😂😂
monogamous people really don’t understand that love isn’t finite
so do the women date and do the men date too? makes me wonder
Just don’t understand why you’d want to put your emotions through this. On the outside it looks like some cool fantasy but on the inside it has to wreck all kinds of havoc on your feelings of jealousy and insecurities
You have to remember that not everyone's brain is wired the same way. I personally enjoy a little bit of jealousy. It's exciting for me, and enhances my relationship with my wife when we talk about having other men possibly join us in bed.
Now mind you, it never used to be that way, things have changed with our relationship over many years.
When there's kids involved, it's a whole another type of dynamic, and its not good.
Why would it if they're all loved and happy?
@@CUSTARDcustardy Read the book: "Libido Dominandi" and you will understand why this don't work and also que be very bad for the kids.
Totally agree. If there wasn't kids involved, I think that's fine but when they involve kids it's just not good
As long as the kids aren't being abused in any way....having nore people who love them cant be bad?
Only issue could be teasing from other kids as they age.
Exactly. The parents are being selfish and irresponsible.
So each couple just got a different version of their spouse
That's hot. I would love to be with someone who looked like my spouse
@@kbanghart Why don't you ask your spouse about opinion, curious to hear what they have to say about it 🤣🤣🤣
@@dimitrova2023 she isn't into women at all. But she's interested in a threesome w another guy. I asked her, what about another couple, she said maybe.
Quad? We here in India would call them ' swingers who moved in together' .
Ok
Swingers are different then this.
Nope
since you generalized, I too feel compelled to announce, WE here in India would call them a quad, because that's what they identify as. we're progressive like that.
@@himagnamukherjee9382 India isn't woke and that's a good thing.
They look like those couples in highschool that hang out in the "couples corner"
Fast forward two years: none of them are talking and there was a bitter divorce. And the kids pay the price.
100%
Also has the abused danger for the kids...
Can you explain now how that happens less in monogamous relationships?
The problem is that in our day and age is you don't accept this type of relationships or dare say something, you are crucified, and pretty much looked down upon. We are not accepting... I can make the same argument of you people not accepting of my views. It's a never ending cycle. I just wish we wouldn't normalize what isn't and that just as everyone wants the freedom without judgement to "be who they are" there would also be the same for those of us who don't agree with this and other lifestyles. I can be nice to all people but if I don't want to, I don't have to accept it or see as the norm and for that I, or anybody else should be judged so harshly by all you so called "accepting" people. Thus, making you not very accepting 🤷. The hypocrisy of that gets me.
@@madelynhernandez7453 I'm not sure what argument you are defending. Most of the comments below this video are extremely negative and ill-informed. Would you care to explain?
They don’t love each other, you can’t be in love with someone and see them in the arms of someone else.🤥🤔
They're just enjoying everything double, there is no love.
I mean, you can. The kind of "monogamous relationship is the only good one" mentality is how you get people who cheat on each others and get hurt - some people just like to experiment, and some like to imagine their partners with others. If you just talk about it with your partner its gonna be a lot better than just assuming youre gonna be monogamous. I'm not poly myself but my best friend is and I can tell you, the love she has for her boyfriend is real.
Yes, because the real love let the person be free to choose what she wants to do. This "love" that OWNS people is better called: possession or fear of being alone.
Big facts
Yeah, i agrre
I HATE feeling jealous, so I find it hard to understand putting oneself in a situation that would bring on that ugly feeling. Also, who has time for all that extra relationship drama?! But hey, that’s just me.
Major Trauma exactly, like this is putting unnecessary pressure on a relationship that may already be burden.
You lose the same while you win the same, probably. Married life is pretty routine so they want excitement understandably. I mean I would never do it purely for logisitics and time-management
Same but I think sometimes polyamorous relationships can cause less drama like you don’t have to worry if the other person is not satisfied with you and wants to cheat. They probably have a relaxed attitude about dating and want to have fun
You know what's relationship drama? Cheating, wanting to cheat, getting bored with your ONE partner for the REST OF YOUR LIFE. Blah not for me. I prefer a healthy poly life thanks.
There is no jealousy because there is no love. This is not the kind of relationship they want you to think it is. This is a sick perversion, like the 2 above me are promoting. No polyamorous relationship lasts for long. Women (and sometimes men) quickly find out that heart doesn't work that way.
If my husband asked to be ina poly relationship I’d say heck no because that means you aren’t happy with everything of me I’m giving you.
It’s a “them” thing, not a “you” thing.
@@Mjl449 marriage is a BOTH thing, both people make decisions like this.
and person that is asked smthn like this, is allowed to feel certain way! Because that is not how they pictured their married life.
Natt you totally don’t get the phrase I posted 🤦♀️
What I meant was, it’s not that they aren’t happy with you, they have issues within themselves that they need to deal with, not you.
There is no love or ethics in this relationship. I feel sorry for the kids
100% agree!
were kids are involved this is wrong... it's like a cult ...
How is there no love or ethics?
Just because they are different don't necessarily mean they have no ethics though...
Different does not mean unethnical. Different from yours does not mean no love. It works for them, and it is not your place to judge their relationship.
It’s easy for me to be monogamous because I’m pretty antisocial lol.
Same!
Same here!
I don’t like talking to other people much especially online or in a flirty or sexual manner. I’m monogamy material lol. I’m too jealous to be in an open relationship anyhow
Same here🙋
a polyamorous relationship would be considered antisocial, but I get what you mean because I'm very asocial as well!
God I get jealous when someone strokes my dog ! So this is a no from me 😧
Same lmao
Is that a thing? 😂😭
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Same! I'm way too jealous for this if someone were to even look at my man in that way.
That is hilarious, we rented a spare bedroom to a woman once, and some mornings when I would get up to let my dog out, she would have her in her room cuddling with it. Really pissed me off. She didn't stay long, she was a slob too.
I couldn't! I invest my whole self in a relationship and expect the same in return, if my man was looking elsewhere I'd leave. I can share many things, but my man, no way.
Wow, maybe don't invest your WHOLE SELF into someone else? Be your own person. And stop being so controlling, you don't own your partner(s).
@@missjul8 Hmm, I believe that my comment was misconstrued. What I meant was that I give that person my sole attention, as in I don't look elsewhere. If you're truly invested in a relationship, in a person, for whom you have respect, you shouldn't feel the need to step out and find another person. If something in a relationship isn't working for either of you, then you need to communicate that and work on it. I'm neither controlling, nor loosing my sense of self while in a relationship, I'm offering respect and expecting that in return. If there isn't a mutual respect and open lines of communication, why bother?
@justJ8 ya keep commenting on everyone here. They have their own opinion. Ay seg buot
@@stephanieduchesne8747 Your comment was completely true . Don't pay attention to that guy . Perhaps his parents were divorced or his mama is too obsessive that's why he doesn't want to get attached and reacts so sharply .
@@stephanieduchesne8747 I feel you on that I agree with you all the way poly relationship is an open relationship are wrong I wouldn’t even consider them relationships because you’re literally seeing a whole Lotta people you’re not gonna find any love out of poly or open relationships I am engaged to a Russian woman I’ve been with for two years I can’t imagine having to share her with anyone else she belongs to me and also my Russian queen definitely is against the idea of poly in open relationships and she’s right Because at the same time if you’re sharing your significant other with a bunch of people you’re not gonna find any love out of it so I know where you’re coming from💯
UMMM I HAVE A NAME FOR THIS..... ITS CALLED “WIFE SWAP”...
Hii baby hw r u
Totally agree
that’s already a show hahaha
@@mar.s4022 hello
They are swingers
How about “Poly Doppelgängers” 😭
Lol good one
IM DEAD
The way that some people always seem to get together with people who look just like their ex. Or like their parents.
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They're"Doublebangers"
@@therasprince yummy
Less than a year even knowing eachother? I NEED an update on this one :O
And they moved them in with their children! Creepy. I really think their children will resent them for this one day.
Only 8months..... come back to them when the (novelty) wears off.
LSP Beau TAY Princess YES!!
LSP Beau TAY Princess lol ok but that happens with a lot of monogamous relationship too.
@@miss.shrewd424 also true
ikr! i was like 8 months? they should’ve waiting till atleast a year to do this interview!
Lol
Me: Can I Copy your Homework?
Person: Yeah but dont make it obvious.
The homework:
I see how this could work. Naturally both couples already have similar things in common, or they wouldn’t be close friends to begin with. By simply spending time w other monogamous couples you get to know them well and find yourself attracted to different aspects of their personalities that your own partner might not share w you. I like that they don’t switch off if the OGs are in an argument, that they wait until the couple is solid. That’s how a lot of cheating in monogamous relationships start. (Seeking someone outside the relationship that understands or sides w you rather than resolving it with your partner).
This seems to me, to actually make sense more than just having an extra male or female in the relationship. Both of the sexes are having their needs met. It’s not just the man switching off (or woman) which would cause extreme jealousy and almost force a competition. Idk. It looks like they are all in a healthy open honest relationship. A lot healthier than many monogamous ones I’ve seen. Still... If I’m in love, I could never let him sleep e another woman. I’d break.
yeah good analyze Rozy, only problem that divorce would be very painfull or on otherside it would be imposiible, becasue 4 people create healthy rivality-competition, so they are not bored, problem is also that all they were not searching ideal one partner, but that is their problem. Anyway guys are very very propably .... - you know what i mean what they are? i dont write because girls can read it and i make them divorced.
What a weird thing that’s becoming more mainstream. What’s so bad about being exclusive with just one person? They even admitted they’ve all been jealous at some point! I’ll never understand it.
Aaron Blanding logically you can say that about polyamorous relationships too though. What’s so bad about being exclusive with more than one? You get jealous at some point in monogamous relationships. Jealousy will always happen at some point, but there is a line between normal jealousy, and obsessive jealousy. So long as you have a line of communication between your partner/partners and can talk it out, you can have a healthy relationship. Some people aren’t made to be in monogamous relationships, and that’s okay. If you can’t see yourself being with more than one partner, that’s fine. Just don’t do it, and no one will be upset with you for it.
Aaron Blanding yep I agree!
BryOkami the thing is the brain gets used to “cheat” with something new all the time and 8 months aren’t enough to prove that their relationship would be stable
Being exclusive to one person is the best no matter how much trash they promote nowadays.
Time and people are getting so twisted, just like those days of Noah, it is, what can you say with these things we are seeing now.
Wow, my head hurts
Yea same
These types of relationships do NOT last.
Sad that there are kids brought into it.
Assuming you've been in one yourself?
@@centeguahan3760 and you have???
shutup, they last longer than monogomous relationships. do research before you assume lady
"it's hard to be monogamous nowadays".girl, no one's pushing you, it's a choice!
Classical mono. It's a construct really.
@@rnbsteenstar i rather being a classic mono than a classic swinger/cheater
@@miumithea Poly vs. cheating is highly nuanced. But if you'd rather be mono, then go right ahead.
@@rnbsteenstar naaah it’s just justifying cheating and poly is all about manipulation and gaslighting sooo 💛✌🏻😌
@@miumithea That's a stereotype based on the bad seeds who DO use it for such, but you're gonna think what you think.
My first marriage ended because of this sort of thing. It worked for a while but in the end it tore us apart. Just saying... think long and hard. These couples on shows have been in a polyamorous relationship for a short while. There is a reason you dont hear them say "we have been a polyamorous couple for 20 years.....
Amanda stone I’m sorry that happened to you!
This way of life isn't for my wife and I but I'm not critical of these people doing their thing.
It’s all fun until you want to be placed as priority. Polyamory only works for the childless and those who don’t mind being placed 2nd(a small percentage of the world).
Claire Haire thank you for your thoughts!
Pray tell us about your experiences with polyamorous relationships. Enlighten us, please!
Did you know that polyamory comes in multiple well flavors?
Wrong.
Yeah at first I was like I respect this but I’m just so confused now you can’t even tell who is married together and who not cuz it seem like the married couple don’t interact at all or maybe it’s cuz I don’t even know who is married anymore
In jamaica we call them "dutty bundle"
Kayla_Shawtt you’re right, we never interact 😂😂
Yaaa it's so confusing. 😶
Carmen K are you the Carmen from the video??
Andia Forbes 😂😂😂😂😂
Love it!!!!! What people dont realise is, its not easy to start one of these, your relationship has to have trust and your partner has to have an open mind and understanding...its not all about sex , sometimes its just filling a void and finding someone who gets you ,you can love 2 people ,heck u can love 5 peopld or even 10, your soul grasps something in theirs...
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This gets a solid no from me 😂
Anna Rocha you do you! 😊
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Good. Don't do it then.
@@daddydoodle Great advice!
Yes I agree.
“Hey kids, I know we told you that they’re your god parents but the truth is we’re all in one big relationship.......”
"Hey kids, we're all in one big relationship and we love and support each other. And more people love and care for you too." How about that?
@@roshansharma2782 Love this.
I don't understand that statement "it's hard to be monogonous", I can honestly say I just don't want anyone else.
There have been opportunities for me with some gorgeous men if that's what I wanted, but I've only ever wanted my soulmate since we've committed.
When the lockdown takes too long....
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Exactly
Also what is the outlet for this jealousy? In a monogamous relationship you don’t have to schedule, switch, swap or any of that. What if you never wanna switch lol idk I think I just don’t want monogamy to die
It won't as it works for some people.
People forget that monogamy is pretty recent in human history, only in the last thousand years or so and only in certain countries. I personally couldn't do well in a non monogamous relationship because I've been conditioned to want monogamy, but I personally also am happiest alone. So who knows. But I just don't think this is appropriate in my life and I don't know that this is the answer for anyone or everyone or I don't know anymore
To each their own!
However, this wouldn’t work for me at all! The thought of my husband loving another woman and being intimate with her just kills me! Touching her in all the ways he touches me? Oh, hell no! My husband is mine!
Hii baby hw r u
I'm single and you
Exactly
@T Erhhh ok fine sir
Controllingggggggggggggggggggggggg
To me this is just a cringe way of cheating and being greedy .. The only love you should need is from ya partner of you truly love them then you wouldn't want or need to look anywhere else for love .why can't you be happy with just the one guy ? I don't get it sorry . But if it works for ya then fine but to me it makes no sense lol
You only think so because we’re all raised to belive in monogamous, heterosexual relationships. I’m not defending their choice, but that’s what it is: THEIR CHOICE. If it bothers you: ignore it and live on withoit spending unnecessery time hating on people you can’t change to fit the mold society raised you to belive in😊
Jennifer Lerntoft No that’s not true. Humans and every other species on earth, except for a couple exceptions perhaps, can only mate with another one of themselves. Not 3 or 4. One other one. That’s why jealousy is a thing. It’s a human trait and even animal trait that is bred in our brains that we are selfish and want what we love and admire to ourselves. Not clearly, if you can do that with other people, you don’t have as much love as you thought you did in the beginning
I totally agree 💯
@@baileegeml1913 You need to read more about humanity. Monogamy and marriage are very recent concepts compared to being non-monogamous. The primal need of a man is to sow as many seeds as possible to further his legacy. The primal need of a woman is to find the best possible male for her to bear a strong child. Monogamy is mostly a religious concept to keep society in line for all the weaker males to be able to get some.
@@roshansharma2782 Buddy, not everyone is poly, you must understand that poly relationships is not everyone's cup of tea. Understand that not everyone will like to be in poly relationships, so, maybe it works on some people but it wont work in others.
If you are all in agreement, that's all that really matters. No matter what you do , there's always someone who disagree and judges. More power to the four of you.
If it's open it's not a RELATIONSHIP.
Thank you !
Exactly my point!
I agree!!!
So you don't have relationships with friends? Family? Bosses? Coworkers?
Sure it is, you don’t get to dictate what is and what isn’t a relationship for other people. You can decide that for yourself sure, but keep your opinions to yourself, don’t try to force them on others who clearly don’t want or need your opinions.
When you seek out "extra love" from outside relationships its because you don't feel secure enough in your own.
There's gonna be tears!
The way the married guy is looked at by his lover, tells a story !
Meaning what?
I don't know what to say ,media just trying to show everything look cool and ok while it's not at all
yall missing some color in this relationship, get a 5th person who can be your mocha swirl in your vanilla ice cream.
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Lmao 😂
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If you wanna be poly, be poly but it is 100% not hard to monogamous. It's about making a commitment and staying strong.
I saw what happened with the last girl that had multiple partners living in the same quarters and one of the men harmed the baby. This is a big mistake ..children shouldnt be exposed to this
Oh my, which one was? Can you give me the link?
I know exactly what you are referring too!
@@streetlightr4595 the original video are deleted, but her name tory
@@streetlightr4595 ua-cam.com/video/Odv5deQxcGs/v-deo.html not the original video but a reaction video
@@alicelacy2279 Thanks!
I wouldn't want to date someone else and if I saw my partner with someone else I'd flip. this is too strange.
You're a controlling, sad individual. Imagine being that closed off to love.
@@missjul8 imagine not loving your soulmate or yourself enough to just be with them. Imagine being that selfish and lacking all self control! No thanks. This is pure lust, plain and simple. Those poor kids will be made fun of and mocked for this😔
LOL the body language of the guys says it all
Oh dear quarantine. Look where you brought me!
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Lol
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If I really loved someone I'd be dammed if I shared that person.
Lmao not how polyamory works. If i really loved someone why wouldn't i want others to experience how special that person is and for me to do the same? Love is endless. I want more love, not less.
@@missjul8 Is that really true love? You or your partner involving others means that you weren’t satisfied or enough for one another. To get rid of that dissatisfaction, you have fun with other people which is okay but that’s how it is.
@@missjul8 and how exactly is it you would receive more love by sharing them around?
They don’t really love each other- that’s the point. This is called USING. 👍🏻
@@missjul8 clown 🤡
Whatever else people might say, the kids are happy with more love around - that's all kids need - love and care from the adults around them. And two more people are helping give them that. (Speaking from experience of how I grew up)
They are just swingers that’s all there is to it!!😂😂
They're
@@ClearwaterKB You know "They're" is short for "They are"? ...
Except they’re swinging with their kids. 🙁
alexxC37 lmao 😂
Fr My cousin been doin it for years 🌈🤐😂🐸
Seems like Carmen and Keith are kind of way more in love than the other two (married girl and guy who’s dating the other girl originally). Does that seem weird to anyone else? They seem super loving and deep and it must make their partners feel uneasy since the other two have a lighter relationship together
my thoughts exactly.
That's a hell of an accusation after watching an 8 minute video with enough repeated footage to make it 6. We don't really know how any of these people feel about each other aside from the facts of them living together and being in a relationship together.
@@morgansmith3173 lots you can tell by the way they describe their relationships 🤷♀️
You would think the one with the kids are closer, wouldn't you? Anyway I don't understand which is which
Everyone has different dynamics.
ok getting jealous a lot in a poly relationship is literally so ironic- yall agreed to this, if its so hard, then just break it off. it just seems like its so toxic 🤷🏻♀️
Well said
Just dont get pregnant then you wont know the father 🤣🤣😅
Emily Nicole. ua-cam.com/video/Tfn04QHG8xY/v-deo.html
DNA test 🎯
That's wat I wanna say too🤣🤣🤣
Yikes
I don't like to live in the house with too many people!! I barely accept my husband and my children😆😆😆 !
We certainly have a full house at the moment! 😂
Nice ....
That's because monogamy is suffocating.
🤣 same
@@missjul8 no, monogamy is fullfilling and loving. There's no better experience than loving one person, and you know it. You just wanna lie to yourself. Have fun in hell
honestly they look happy, one of the healthier relationships i've seen on this channel. they seem to be all be friends and if it works for them that's great.
lol that is healthy to you ?
This is the meme. My wife’s boyfriend said it’s my turn on the Xbox.
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Matt clearly wants Brooklyn all to himself, and isn't feeling the spark with Carmen anymore, after 11 years together. Maybe they should partner swap?
I'm single and you
Nope.
I think we as a society are evolving. We have the ability to design our own lives including relationships. As long as everyone is on the same page then go for it. It's really no one's business.
Yes!
Until it falls apart. Nothing may be perfect but it can definitely become more complicated. Is it possible the institution of monogamous marriage is being deliberately eroded for reasons beyond what you think you know?
Until it falls apart. Nothing may be perfect but it can definitely become more complicated. Is it possible the institution of monogamous marriage is being deliberately eroded for reasons beyond what you think you know?
I believe Brooklyn and Matt do not have any option because other 2 are in love. 😅
Hummm the way she looks at him... Like at 3:00
@@carlastn1836 and at 8:03
Me and my bf could never do poly, we are so mono and I'm so happy about that 😂 I don't share, I'm way too protective and jealous. But if they are happy with poly then good for them. I just never can understand poly I guess..😥
You don't have to understand. You're doing what works for you, and you accept others doing what works for them. That is plenty. :)
Dana Vos “protective” what do you mean by that?
Monogamy is boring as hell.
"Way too protective and jealous"... Ya, problematic.
Do better research on polyamory, my friend.
I think they are a cute quadruple? And applaud their decision to not tell the kids about the 'romantic' aspect bc its true, kids don't think about that stuff! You guys are awesome 👌
I agree! There are a lot of super judgy comments on this vid, and a lot of these "love don't judge" vids do have the vibe of people trying to validate what they have while secretly being unhappy. But these 4 in particular really do seem happy and seem like they have a good thing going!!!
I wonder if the kids are confuse or not? Also, what's the point of jealousy, if you're going to be in an open relationship? Oh Well!, to each their own💁🏽♀️
Clearly not? They interviewed them.
And because as a society, we are taught jealously is normal, so it takes work to get through it.
My parents actually had something pretty similar going on from as long as I can remember, they had two long term relationships with two other couples in the span of 20 years I was at home . So me and my brother just saw their partners as uncle and aunt (tho we did know we weren't blood related they were just good friends )when we were little and like as kids we honestly did not care about anything more only that there were more people to play and take care of us which was obv lovely and we knew who our parents are so we never had any problems, then growing up and just starting to understand it , it still wasn't a big deal just made kinda more sense and we are very attached to the parteners my parents had from when we were like 3 to 15 and are still in contact with them . Seeing that lil child there really reminded me of my childhood tho I must admit I never saw anyone kissing or even touching (outside my parents) till I was like 10 and talked with them about their relationships
Is it still working out ?
WOW
Yes the imp part is that you never saw them kissing and all besides your parents. So happy your parents were considerate of the kids,coz I think tht is something that can mess the child besides its all good.
Wow
Guys.. it’s hard not to be hateful, but that’s only because you don’t understand. there isn’t anything wrong with loving who you love. you only live once.
at least they all look happy
most of the time I see this kind of relationship on youtube, there's always one person that looks sad or forced...
I'm so happy for them
Misinformation. The true (healthy) poly people are never interviewed.
@@missjul8 no true Scotsmen ...
Why do people assume they know the whole story by watching just one short UA-cam video? LOL just because someone happens to have a face they find curious or looks sad in one little part of a video, they think they know the whole story.
I guess their current partner only 50% satisfies them? Go find someone you like better and wouldnt let someone else screw
Tell me you aren’t happy with your life and partner and want to cheat all the time without telling me you aren’t happy with your life and partner and want to cheat all the time.
The amount of judgement and ignorance in the comments is mind boggling. Just know that not everyone will see this relationship that way. If they are safe and consenting adults who am I or anyone to say anything negative about it? It looks like a group of lovely individuals who make co-habitating work for love despite the societal pressure to conform. This is nothing new but I'm glad the healthy poly relationships are getting shared so that hopefully a positive change can occur. I'm not poly myself but I have a few friends who are and I hope to see a world where they can love and be loved without a response similar to this comment section. Thank you for sharing this video!
This is the attitude that is needed to approach this situation. I think the concept and dynamics of love and relationships are changing. This is the age of Aquarius....
Chelsea Kuwahara thank you! 😘
I cant be poly either but each person to their own. What works for some people doesn't work on others.
they shouldn't have brought kids in to this mess
A mess as compared to the many abusive or broken monogamous households? Also how is it a mess if they love each other and provide a harmonious environment for the kids?
It obviously makes each of you happy. My opinion counts for nothing - but as a mom to three adult daughters - the happier they are, the happier I am. Period. Blessings to your family!
So if your daughters want to go and be hookers and are happy with that, you'll be happy too? Grow up and have some backbone woman. Do you have any sense of what you think it's right and not so right, or even wrong? Or do you just accept whatever, because you have no criteria of anything?
My jealous self could never. Kudos to them though
Even organizing the simplest stuff is hell. What laundry detergent to buy? One only buys organic-vegan, the other one is allergic to coconut, the third needs delicate for baby cloths the fourth wants levander scented, and they all have a saying in the topic. Who picks up each kid on which day? Where to go on vacation on what couple combination?
@@Niphredyl fortunately we now have these things called smartphones, where all this can be organized.