Is Alador Blight Still a Bad Parent? (The Owl House Video Essay) (Sequel Video)
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He’s still a bad parent but at least he’s trying to fix his mistakes. Not easy to undo 14 years of being mostly neglectful towards his daughter (not sure how different his relationship with Ed and Em is compared to Amity. It’s probably not too much different).
Edit after watching recent episode: No wonder he’s neglectful. Odalia literally abuses and threatens him into submission (by saying she’ll make the kids part of the business). Not an excuse for him being a bad parent but at least there’s a reason
Make that 16 or years to include Ed and Em too. I'm pretty sure both him and Odalia neglected the twins badly while they controlled and Manipulated Amity.
I don't think it was all neglect? I mean, Amity said 'You don't talk to us anymore'. I mean, it was still neglect but it feels like their relationship were better. So Amity tries to connect back to her dad.
checking the newest episode u can see he's getting better, and how he reacts. he finally stood up to odalia
@@cosmicestrellas Yea he seems to also be a victim to Odalia’s abuse whether it’s threatening him or his children.
@@DeathKitta She felt there was a chance to him, while her mom... it would be better talking to a stone wall.
If you want a really terrible dad to hate on. Look no further than Gabriel Agreste from miraculous tales of ladybug and Cat Noir. Alador is definitely not good. But I'll give him this. He's making progress. Gabriel Agreste however. Oh boy. He's only gotten worse and worse.
THERE IS ALSO SIR REGINALD HARGREEVES FROM THE UMBRELLA ACADEMY! He straight up only used his kids as weapons and alienated/neglected the one without powers (Number 6) bc he thought she was useless!
It'd be nice if they showed Gabriel actually spiraling instead of just, like, what they did. They needed to add a time limit to when Emilie could be brought back.
Yeah... that's true.
Gabriel's not a sympathetic, compelling or competent villain. Unsympathetic, he repeatedly torments his kid while the writing has him flip-flop from loving father to controlling jerk in a heartbeat. To follow off my last point, if they wanted him to be compelling they should've shown how he became this way and that trying to gather the Ladybug and Cat Miraculous have fractured his relationship with his son and how it's ruining their relationship but still not redeem him, but Wishmaker demonstrated that the relationship was always terrible. (Heck you want to see Gabriel done right, Castlevania on Netflix). He does the same thing in every episode (occasionally throwing in a Sentimonster for variety). He didn't even with in Strikeback, Felix gave him pity Miraculous to get the Peacock which is just a stupid move. Sure Felix hates Ladybug, but Gabriel threatened to kill him in 'Gabriel Agreste' why would Felix help him in any way. Also yeah he's free from the Peacock Miraculous but now if Gabriel wanted to he has 15 new ways to attack him, that Felix gave him. That finale was so stupid once you start thinking about it. Why not have him join up with Ladybug, manipulating both Marinette's stalker crush on Adrien and Adrien's self-entitled crush on Ladybug to join the team? He helps them defeat Hawkmoth then swipes a few Miraculous and maybe joins up with Lila, or Mayura does literally anything because she really is just Gabriel's sidekick, like how Cat is Ladybug's sidekick but the plot wants to pretend he's her equal.
Honestly none of the main heroes are good people. Marinette's a stalker, nice-girl who feels entitled to Adrien and enjoys him being sad (and honestly the Guardian thing only happened because this show hates her, she has to learn a lesson even if she's right (she wasn't hogging the ball in 'Penalteam', she had every reason not to trust Chloe in 'Antibug' because Chloe intentionally withheld important information that would've helped understand Vanisher's motives, and this show constantly has Adrien getting brainwashed, taken out and getting akumatised to the point where giving him any information about Miraculous-users would be reckless, if Hawkmoth were consistently competent he would've had a villain brainwash Cat Noir into giving him information about who wields Miraculouses) , Adrien's an entitled creep who can't hear no and continually harasses Ladybug rather than make a significant change in himself, he repeatedly endangers others for his feelings for Ladybug, he even picks a fight with her about the hypocrisy of her knowing the temp heroes identities but considering he willingly threw Plagg away because Ladybug wasn't paying attention to him (even though he didn't show up to fights without an explanation, yeah he really doesn't deserve to be called a hero). (seriously if they wanted to have him argue about the Guardian why not have it be about recognizing the stress Ladybug's putting on herself and genuinely wanting to help, not just to learn her identity), Alya supports stalking (also she's only written to be smart when the plot needs her to be, even in the season where she knows who Ladybug is, she still doesn't believe Marinette about Lila). Nino is very controlling thanks 'Rocketear', you made a character I tolerated into one I dislike. Chloe forces herself on Adrien, bullies everyone and honestly this show just wants her to be Hawkmoth so bad, (I wouldn't be surprised if they revealed she became the Hawkmoth of the future, just to spite Ladybug, and because the writers want to have a twist for the sake of having a twist). She had potential if they acknowledged what she did wrong and had her apologize and meaningfully changed including apologizing to Marinette's uncle, and especially Sabrina) and getting information on Hawkmoth from Lila without expecting a reward. (I could be fine with her being racist if they did something with it beyond her just being the worst). They really can't write her in Season 4, so now she's just a pure evil queen of the school, but she's not a main villain, even though they keep trying to make her worse than Hawkmoth. (Oh no Chloe's a climate change denier, sure Gabriel financially supported the project that still would've ruined the environment, helped the person running the project, forced his abused son to model for the project and gave the person running the project the ability to mind-control people into supporting him kill the environment, but a rich teenage girl with neglectful/abusive parents is infinitely worse than a father who abuses and manipulates his child because he's sad about his wife). Zoe has no personality outside of being nice, so there's no character there, like you can have a nice character with flaws, like maybe she's got a temper, or she's self-destructive with how much she does, something). Luka is also perfect, seriously think about his relationship with Marinette, he willingly waits for her to be ready, even though he knows he has no chance with her, due to her feelings for Adrien, his first akumatization has him try to get justice for her and his friends and confess his love for her in a way that moves Tikki, a being that has been alive for millennia, and his second akumatization has him trying to keep Marinette away and while he does try to invade her privacy, he never seems like he's trying to attack Marinette, even having moved on in 'Wishmaker'. Kagami is more proof this show hates teenage girls, she tries to force Adrien to kiss her, most of her dialogue with Marinette is "I'm going to steal your man, because you suck," and her second akumatization is her trying to control Adrien (something Marinette and Gabriel do, but one's his true love interest and the other's a 'sympathetic villain', her third akumatization is just her taking out her breakup-rage on Paris, and I'm supposed to sympathize with Adrien for making no attempts to commit to his girlfriend and wanting someone to be akumatized to see Ladybug, but apparently Kagami's wrong to be mad about the breakup (she still deserves all the hate she gets for the forced kiss).
Honestly I get not making Adrien the Guardian because this show wants to be about 'girl power' but doesn't let Adrien give a chance to prove himself, and yes, white people taking over Asian cultures is a trope that can die, but Marinette's just a biracial version of that, seriously they almost never give her any motive beyond Adrien, hell why not make them both Asian, have Adrien be Gabriel's adopted son and have him fail the Aqua power test because he's too focused on simple solutions that won't work in the long term, or have it be that they both come together to win by recognizing their strengths (quick-thinking, creativity, resourcefulness, focus, straightforwardness) and overcoming their weaknesses (lack of confidence, entitlement, recklessness, selfishness, and their unhealthy levels of self-sacrifice)
After the latest episode it’s clear that he was a bad parent he let his wife’s abuse affect his relationship with his kids but at least he is actively fixing his relationship with his kids
Unfortunately, we don't know what could've happened if Alador stood up to Odalia sooner. She was already threatening to force the kids to join her business, and she didn't hesitate to throw her husband aside when he finally made his choice. But what if she intended to do worse? Like cutting Alador off from all three of his children entirely, torturing him with her Oracle necklace, maybe even straight-up killing him with an Abomaton to play it off like an accident. Alador may have neglected his kids, but he was forced to because Odalia would've done a lot worse without him.
He’s oblivious at best and neglectful at worst
But he is willing to do better which is a good
He is neglectful at best and abusive at worst.
I can't imagine how annoying it would be for content creators if you make an analysis of a character and then next episode they go through a bunch of character development. But it's still fun to see an analysis before said development
Yup, worst timing
@@Skyboi29 lol facts
Funny enough this episode recontextualizes things with Alador a lot more, and we get to see Odalia isn’t just a bad parent, but a bad spouse as well.
As someone who grew up with a not a straight-up abusive, but a neglectful/absent father, I appreciated what they did with Alador in Reaching Out.
My story is different, I have a great mum, who left my dad, who continued to forget more and more that he has a daughter and who, in addition to being neglectful, was also manipulative in that "I'll always find an excuse for not being around and, if all else fails, make you feel bad for making me feel bad for not being around" way. And, we never fixed our relationship. I was 16 when I decided to cut it and, 9 years later, I'm still proud of my former self for making that decision. I haven't regretted it for a moment.
But, back when I was 14, when I was still willing to give him a chance, I had the EXACT type of moment where he went in for a hug while I slipped away and went for a handshake. Hell, similarities continue because my dad and I share interests, we're both creative types. So that scene of them having a tiny bonding moment over a shared interest and then Amity being like "It's a start, but i need more to forgive you", really hit home.
I wouldn't mind if they redeemed Alador, but they have to show him putting in the work. The reason why I cut my dad out of my life is that I never saw him put in the work, not really. He never even had the gall to look guilty when called out, as Alador did.
I would actually love to see it portrayed, not Amity just forgiving him "because he is her dad", but because he took the right steps to make things right.
You're a strong person. Not many people have the courage to cut off parents, mostly due to familial and societal pressure and loyalty toward said parents. I'm glad you cut him off when you did. Not being cut out for parenthood is one thing, but being so neglectful of your child as manipulative and not putting the work in to better your relationship with your children just screams shitty individual.
I can relate ;-;
I spent 18 years of life giving my sperm donor a chance to change,
As of the end of last year's December, he betrayed my trust to a point where I don't see him human anymore.
Turning 19 soon,
Proud of you for being so strong
@@thatgrumpyangelboy Thank you! And yeah, many people consider me cruel or coldhearted. But, I was 8 when I realized my dad was not keeping promises. Ever.
@@elenanojkovic2554 well, those people certainly haven't experienced having an absent and/or asshole parent. In fact, they should be more critical of your father due to the fact that he happily abandoned his own child.
Your comment is giving me courage, my dad is and alcoholic and got back into his ways, hes neglectful and when he decides to stop he expects it to be normal,with no consequencesAnd im planning to cut him off. Im tired of it. And its hard cause we live under the same roof y'know?but im looking for ways to leave as soon as i can.Thanks alot for your comment again.
The timing of this video lmfao how unfortunate
I know.
The way I see it. Alador isn’t as bad as Odalia. It seems like he went with whatever she wanted. Now since he actually talked to his children he seems to be aware of what they actually want and he seems to be supportive of that. He is way more open minded than Odalia and not as controlling. He still has a long way to go to being a good parent, but he is trying to put effort.
this!
Imagine making a video on a situation that changes exactly ONE DAY after you upload it. Girl I am so sorry for you 😭
The day after this is uploaded we get more parent moments man that’s some unlucky timing
He’s not a good parent. But he’s working on it. And after today’s episode, he’s really trying. He’s choosing to make an effort, and eventually, he’ll get to a level where we can consider him good. And I’m excited to see his character continue to develop
I love how this video came out then the most recent owl house episode came out
this is SUCH an unfortunate time for this video to come out
It all comes down to what Amity says at the end, I think. "It's a start." She's not going to forgive 14 years of neglect just like that, but Alador is at least capable of understanding and is apparently going to try to be better, so she's willing to give him a chance. He's going to have to put in a lot of effort and make a noticeable change before she returns that hug. And with how well The Owl House handles its heavier topics, I have no doubt that Amity would turn her back on her father if he doesn't put in the work to fix things.
As for Edric and Emira, I feel like there was at least a moment with Alador _planned_ at some point. The scraps of interaction they get in Reaching Out prove the writers do remember that there's a relationship there, one that needs to be worked on. But with the show getting cancelled I wouldn't be surprised if that idea was bumped down on the list of priorities. I'm just hoping that if they commit to Alador trying to be a better father, they throw a few lines or a background scene into an episode somewhere, just to acknowledge that his relationship with Ed and Em needs mending too.
Ok, guess there’s gonna be a Part 3, or maybe even a Part 4 depending on the specials.
First character to get that honor ;)
Edit: it’s hilarious, I’ve never had a video get outdated this fast before 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
LOL
Whoopsies
still enjoyed this whole video and def look forward to part 3
The Key problem with Odelia is that just because you have good intentions doesn't mean that you have a good execution of, and ways to achieve those good intentions.
This is literally the phrase "The Road to Hell is sometimes paved by or with good intentions".
5:13 this point aged like milk in span of 24 hours lmao
Speedrun
THIS AGED WELL
I would say he is starting to turn over a new leaf yes in the beginning he was a bad father but after that one episode he saw that he was wrong and realised and he wanted to made amends with his daughter amity
Based off the beginning of the latest episode where Odalia said something along the lines of “Unless you want the kids to have a role in Blight Industries” making it seem like she was using the kids to blackmail Alador to some extent, and gets no time off
Exactly. He’s basically overworking and breaking his back trying to keep the Twins and Amity from being sweat shop workers. If him being abused by Odalia wasn’t enough of an excuse, this surely must be for him being out of the picture
@@zachtemoro2116 That would explain why there are physical signs of him being completely exhausted.
@@zachtemoro2116 She is definitely pushing him out of parenting only having him there as backup to parrot her like in amity's flash back. probably the reason she forces him to work weekends as well to further keep him away from the kids when they would have school.
5:10 "odalia is abusing him too, but we dont know that for certain!" ahhhh dang girl you should have waited till seasn 2 was over XD litterally a day after that was adress
Well, looks like you're going to be working on a Part 3 to this topic...
This video coming out now is kinda ironic considering the newest episode
Yeah
I find it funny how you talked about wanting to wait so that you aren't contradicted by the next episode, only to have an episode focusing on Odalia and Alador literally the next day.
Also, I think the episode did a great job of showing that Alador always just followed Odalia's lead, because he thought she knew what was best. But yesterday's episode was him finally seeing that she actually didn't, and was justing trying to advance her own career.
Also, I think the new episode kinda refutes the "Alador is autistic, so he didn't know any better" claim. He didn't know any better because he was strung along by Odalia to believe that her way of raising their kids was the correct way, not because of any disability he may or may not have.
I love how this came out a couple days before an episode for his redemption
......I get the feeling she's gonna need to make a 3rd vid lol
After watching the most recent episode, I don't think he's a good parent, but he also isn't a bad person. He was absent as a parent, but he was also a victim of Odalia's abuse and manipulation. She uses their own children against him to keep him in line, she made him believe the best thing he could do for his kids was to not get involved, because otherwise she would overwork them and treat them the way she treated him. He was also being overworked by her so he literally never had time to do ANYTHING besides work. He wants to be a better parent and he wants to change things.
I don't think it's entirely fair to say "but he should have done more to stand up to her" because he was also being abused by her. There's more information we're missing, but the recent episode revealed a lot about him.
It was also implied that he wasn't always that way, when Amity said, "you don't talk to us anymore." She said _anymore_ which implied he at least used to be more involved.
It's nice that he's recognizing his errors and he's wanting to try to improve things, that he wants to be a better parent and be there for his children.
I love that you talk about your episodes getting dated, in an episode that got dated ten hours after it was posted.
Man its like we needed another full season to develop this
Well, we could if we had time for 20 more adventures.
In the new episode clouds on the horizon or smth like that alador is turning into an amazing dad and character
I think that moment in "Reaching Out" is Alador *trying* to be a good dad, in the way like, parents tell their kids they can't go to a concert because there's like, an SAT practice exam that night at the school even though there's probably going to be another practice exam, but going to that first one shows a stronger drive to succeed, even though it actually proves *nothing* because nobody is paying attention to that.
Overall I think Alador is like.... generally well-meaning but very misguided? At least towards Amity. I really do think he believes he's doing what's best for Amity and her future, but due to his focus being on his job, he doesn't realise until she tells him that Amity isn't the same child she was at the start of the series.
I think he is kind of pushed around by Odalia, but in a way that preys on the fact he's an absent parent. Odalia I think generally calls a lot of the shots and he goes with them because he assumes she knows what's best for the kids as she has more time to spend than he does with them. Alador is a very distant parent. When he sees Odalia is wrong, he does intervene. But when he doesn't have a reason to doubt her, he doesn't question her. I hope this is proven to be true.
I don't think he's a good parent by any means, but I do think like, he has always been trying but with the wrong goal in mind.
I think that is a very good way of putting it.
I agree that Odalia does influence Alador. I think Alador wasn't really ready to balance having kids and running a company, and he didn't really manage to do it. I think Alador could have been more assertive, but either way I think he's going to try to be a better dad. Hopefully he can do good with it, but who knows.
I have a feeling there is going to be a part 3 to this
Oh this video came out before Clouds on the Horizon. Babe, I'm so sorry, this is the worst timing possible. but also congrats to Alador on the divorce
After I watched CotH I was like “oh kitty is gonna be so mad” lol
He’s definitely a bad parent
But he got to the point where he could become a good farther
The episode showed us that he mostly ignored Amity and probably also the twins (that would back up the *the twins are being ignored* theory*)
Also I would like to see a video about Rasticore and/or the Magic Realm in svtfoe
I know that this episode was made before Clouds on the Horizon, but I will say. I am SO HAPPY that alador got more depth into the situation. Its true that alador is neglectful and such, but the fact he is taking the steps towards recovery with amity enough that in the Amity believes and trusts him to be the one to talk to odalia about the plans of belos. (Alador is still a neglectful father when it comes to the twins, but Im happy he said that he is going to change things and start spending more time with his KIDS(which means including the twins). Also he said he hasnt had a day off in 6 years, which probably means that their relationship wasnt always distant towards his children and instead just developed after their company grew larger and larger which means he had no time with his kids and instead he spent it working. Its just some nice added depth to his situation that I really like.(he might have been a bad parent and still bad in ways still, but he has got to be one of my favorite characters just because of his interesting his situation is in the perspective of the neglectful parent. Just kinda reminds me of my parents at times)
Oh boy. New episode has alador getting some development
After seeing the most recent episode, he has gotten slightly better and is seemingly going to start taking steps to become a better father. but obviously it doesnt make him a good parent now automatically (you can just undo 14 years of neglect by saying "Good job sweetie!")
seeing him try to become better is nice tho! i truely hope he mends his relationship with his kids
With the amount of screen time they gave to Edric and Emira in this episode and the episodes after, I am mad that they were left out of the season finale.
last episode this weekend change a lot of my views on Alador he IS A VICTIM of Odalia too, and odalia is way worse than we expected, she knew belos plans all along and went full with his mad plan
I defended Alador from the beginning because of his inactivity.
Not because of what he did, but because of what he had the CHANCE to do. Odalia is actively a terrible parent, while Alador had more potential to grow.
Aladors actions aren’t forgivable but its good that hes making progress, and with the most recent episode it shows he is trying and growing
Beast keeping+ilusión+potions=beast therapy
was a bad parent, i hesitate to call a improving parent a bad parent in fear of disregarding their progress and belittling their motivation. but I'll say Alador specifically is trying to fix his mistakes and it's honorable.
It's really unfortunate this doesn't have the context of clouds on the horizon
Is he a good parent? No
Is he a bad parent? neglectful. But it does seem with the most recent episode,Odalia had placed him on non stop work as he said "I haven't had a day off in 5 years" and mentioning how she cut the workforce in half. He does seem to be an introvert, and Odalia has the stronger outward personality, probably convincing him that the children are fine, and more or less putting some pressure to keep working. So it's not hard to see why he has been absent. 5years from your kids is hard. My parents worked nonstop when I was a kid. Maybe only really seeing them if I got in trouble, if I was sick, or on a rare holiday--They worked on most holidays too. Now that my dad retired he's playing catch-up which is hard for him.
Alador does show interest in his kids., albeit running off of old information. Even at his first appearance, he shows his curiosity about the world around him and tries to interject but Odalia speaks over him.
Newest episode, Odalia speaks as though her pursuits are for the family but takes no interest in their concerns. And doesn't consider the threat of losing everyone who their kids find important. But Alador hears about the day of unity, not only does he fight for his kids, but also for the connections his kids have. He's not good at parenting, but he can play catch-up. The fact that Amity still looks up to him is a good sign that their bond can be mended.
After yesterday's episode, he's really trying to be a better parent to Amity, Emira and Edric. If anything Odalia was the worst kind of parent and is a Karen in animated form and the reason why I'm saying this now was because of recent Amity episodes that showed this kind of toxic parenting and even worse her being a toxic partner to Alador. We all assumed Alador Blight would be the same type of character as Odalia from the episode Understanding Willow but boy howdy we were wrong on that when he made his official debut in Escaping Expulsion, along with Reaching Out, and Clouds on the Horizon where we see the current unhealthy family dynamic of the Blight Family.
Reaching Out showed us how much of a perfectionist and how controlling Odalia is to not only Amity but to Emira and Edric as well as we now know that they use concealment stones to mask their appearances and how oblivious Alador is when it comes to their family an that he followed Odalia's lead believing it would be best for the whole family. Heck Amity even pointed out that he didn't know that she was dating Luz but I'm getting off topic when we finally know the real reason WHY Alador follows Odalia thanks to Clouds on the Horizon.
Odalia threatened Alador with having him be replaced and force their own children to be part of the family business when he had come to the realization that something wasn't right especially when it concerned the Day of Unity and to make matter worse she fired their staff an had him create more of those monstrosities for the Emperor and he never even had a weekend off in 5 YEARS. He was in an abusive relationship but Odalia was the abuser who forced not only him but also their kids to fall in line expecting things to go HER way and expected nothing but results an perfection heck this woman tried to kill Luz with their death machines and didn't bat an eye! Luckily thanks to King, Alador stood up to Odalia and shut down production in Blight Industries and decided to be a better parent an support his kids something that he hasn't done in years!
In Clouds on the Horizon, Alador say "What best for the family is ending this!" as he destroy he factory that Odalia called their life work. Deep down he knows that his job and his wife is bad for his family, the breaking point is when he learns that his life works is being used to murder everyone and his wife is ok with it.
NOT ANYMORE BABY
WOOOOOOOOO
he got better in ep 20
this video aged so fast
literally within a few hours lol
Agreed. Lol
@@MeowLorrrd lol
@@MeowLorrrd this video aged like grapejuice in the sun
Tmw today's episode exists 😳
I still think Alador was a bad parent, but hes clearly trying to change, and we got an inside view on his.. 'relationship' with Odalia. She's abusive. She uses and overworks him, and doesn't see him as a husband.. just another puzzle piece in her perfect family, her dream life. Something to control. Alador was a bad parent, but hes trying his best to change. And i'm all here for it, I figured this is what the show would do with him.
For those confused on what the Bechedel test is:
1. Is there more than 1 female character?
2. Do two of them talk to each other?
3. Do they talk about anything other than a guy?
Also, Willow and Amity do talk about something other than Luz in ep 18. About how Amity wants to protect willow and Willow can protect herself.
Phew, they passed!
Some versions of the Bechdel Test add the requirement of the two female characters having names. Luckily, this show would even pass under those rules.
@@c0mf0rta61ynum6 This show passed the bechdel test in like the first few minutes.
Kitty....you spoke too soon.
It's kinda ironic that you made this video right before another episode with Alador development
Wait until Clouds on the Horizon
After the newest episode, this entire take aged like milk. We stan Alador in this house now
I don’t think he’s still a bad parent. Still would mean that he hadn’t or refuses to acknowledge his behavior. But he did acknowledge it and will possibly try to fix it as time goes on. So he was a bad parent. Not still. At least that’s my opinion.
I agree, especially with the Clouds on the Horizon episode
Chaotic neutral dad
Honestly he is a neglectful parent in a sense I'm somewhat familiar with.
As a person he's good. As a parent, he's not the worse (not saying hes the best either) since at least he's will to admit his mistakes and try.
He kinda reminds me of my dad though my dads more in my life than Alador is for amity and co. My mom took over everything in the family and what she says goes. Says she is the only person keeping the house running and we should thank only her, while in reality I always knew at a young age it was a teach effort where most of the role went to my dad.
My dad let's her walk all over him and tells me to go along with it to make things easier. Problem is I inherited his stubbornness and know my worth. Without her around even just for an hour or a day, the real him seeps through which is why I still respect him and see him as my dad. He's happier and not as exhausted looking. Every one of his friends who are still around have nothing but good things to say about him and theres evidence for it in his actions. Even my fiance can vouch for him since they work the same job together (my dad gave him a job early in me and my fiances relationship) and he's the type of point things out as it is bluntly.
My mom has done and mainly said done stuff I can never forgive but while I do wish my dad stood up to her by now (and at least for my sake, not take her side all the time when shes clearly in the wrong), at least he's trying to be a dad for making sure I'm safe and well, approving of my fiance, and the times we do have together without her around, he tries to make worth while. Even those ar every few due to him working or managing my moms craziness.
He's a prideful and stubborn man in some regards but lately he's been opening up to me as I've been opening up to him with how things have been. When my moms not around of course. He wears his heart on his sleeve regardless of the front he puts up. He's just a giant teddy bear and I honestly hope he finds someone better for him since it's been heavily hinted by him that when I leave the house and go out on my own, he's gonna try to get a divorce. Whatever happens, I've made clear to him that as long as he's not doing anything stupid (as in getting involved in drugs, a cult or murder) I'll always have his back.
Most of my morals come from him and I know the habits I never want to incorporate like being beat down by someone who's clearly a insecure narcissist (my mom). I think the main reason why I'm the kind of person I am is because of him and other people in my life, regardless of how much my mom wanted me to become the perfect version of her.
Idk I might be bias but just stating how this reminds me of my situation (though leaving out a lot of details due to privacy and the sake of my fingers typing this). It's a bit off topic as well but eh might as well put it out there.
It kinda proves the progress I've made over the years to actually talk about it (also not being like most people who try to make themselves a victim and obsess over it) and kinda understand the situation in a somewhat mature lense.
The owl house is honestly a show that I never expected these sort of issues being acknowledged. Especially the panic attacks hunter and Gus were having in Labyrinth Runners. As someone who has experienced them, it's nice to know the show might expose people to that sort of knowledge and how to possibly deal with them.
Media is or should be a good balance of knowledge and entertainment. Never one over the other since too much of one can make the audience uninterested or belittled.
Alador has a LOT of work to do but it's nice to see him try. Most of those type of parents even if they want to never go that far without something horrible happening first. Unfortunately sometimes it's at the expense of the kids.
Me in the future after “clouds on the horizon”. *He made progress!!!*
"Clouds on the Horizon" airing like immediately after this video is kinda funny
i definitely think alador was being emotionally abused by odalia, we see her manipulation tactics and emotional abuse in the latest episode. I don’t think he is a good dad but he is definitely trying and is going to become one and i’m so excited
...so...anyone want to talk about the progress that happened at today's episode?
I have seen the new ep but here are some thoughts I had prior because my opinions of Alador did not change. They were actually validated.
RE Escaping Expulsion: The part where Alador tells Odalia that "Blights uphold their part of the bargin" and "Amity is getting stronger" comes off more as pacifying her to keep her from doing anything rash. The way he quickly shifts his personality tells me he was trying to either protect Amity and her friends OR that he knows what to look for in a potential outburst from Odalia.
I feel you with hating how quickly some toxic parents in cartoons are forgiven really quickly especially moms from what I’ve noticed. It’s why Sheryl Goodspeed is not only my least favorite Final Space character but my least favorite aspect of the entire show. I like how this episode calls out Alador for what he did (or more like what he didn’t do) and he actually began to make efforts to improve. Like Amity said it’s not enough yet but it’s a start. With tomorrow’s episode supposedly featuring the blight parents again hopefully we could see him keep his word.
Dude you literally just released this before an episode with development!
“Clouds on Horizon” helps his development greatly. He still has a long way to go.
I think he's a relatively bad parent, at least he's definitely not one of the good ones, but he's not a bad person. At least he is trying to fix something and admits his mistakes. For a person with daddy issues and an absolutely emotionless father, whom I see once a year… Yes, it's enough to melt my heart)
Oh after today, we’re DEFINITELY getting an Alador part 3! 🤩
Keep up the awesome work! 🙌🏾
I would still consider him a bad parent (not irredeemable bad tho) and honestly kind of a shady person. While yes him paying *some* attention and make a supposed first step to being better is nice, only seeing it once doesn't make up what I'm guessing is years of negligence and helicopter behaviors.
Need to see more both in public eyes but also behind doors at home.
Welp, what are the odds that this video would actually be followed by some important development for Alador's character and family situation! o_o
I hope we'll get more of "better Alador" in the next ep, which is confirmed to focus on the Blights.
Edit: what do you know, I was right!
omgomgomg! with the new one in mind, maybe he's been threated by odalia to go along with things?!?!
considering the new episode that just came out and it pretty much being confirmed Odilia is/was being controlling and possessive over Alador too, maybe when he said "she's getting stronger" maybe it was to calm Odilia down? Or to keep her from being mad ( because i mean that is what Odilia wants. no?) honesty that whole episode really showed how much the Blight family is a mess. like woof. but at least now he's trying to get involved in his kids life. something i look forward to
sounds to me like he's getting the arc you wanted for skara
Daaamn it’s too bad this latest episode came out right when you posted this video, with so much new development on the dynamic between Odalia & Alador lmao. Maybe you can make an update to this.
I still think Alador has a lot of work to do, and there’s no excuse to how complicit he was towards the abuse & manipulation Odalia put her children through. But it seems like he was also manipulated to an extent and very passive, after watching how Odalia interacts with him & says “that’s why I never tell you anything” or threatens to have the children start working for the company if he doesn’t listen to her. I’m really happy he finally woke up in this latest episode though. I also like that they kept Odalia as a stuck up lil bitch, just makes their character feel more real? Sometimes people are just shitty and stubborn and no matter how much you make them see, they will never change.
Perfect timing! I think this most recent episode conforms he was a bad parent but not a bad person. And had kind of a willful ignorance going on
this video aged like grapejuice in the sun
Man this video hits different after clouds on the horizon
I feel like the point of alador is that he can't be as interventionist as you'd thing. He has to be tactical with when he intervens so that his wife doesn't blow a gasket.
They are also probably the last of the generation that saw devorce as the last option and the mom seems like the kind of woman who if alador wasn't tactical with his intervention she'd take the kids, the company, his magic (somehow) and then without his subtle influence she'd make the kids lives even worse...it's one of those necessary evils. And I could read some of the subtext from his side as "shit they're more upset about this then I thought...."
Today is my birthday, and I love that this topic is going to be discussed today, as it is one very close to me. And kitty monk is one of my favorite UA-cam creators.
Also, if kitty sees this: hi, I really like what you do. :)
While I definitely agree that Alador still has *a lot* of work ahead of him if he truly wants redemption, I do have a theory that could potentially explain his behavior in the flashback seen in “Understanding Willow”.
Bear in mind that the flashback is shown through one of Amity’s memories, and memories can easily shift as time goes on to the point that the memory of a certain event will not even be close to what actually happened. With this in mind, I think it’s very likely that the reason for why Alador is shown being just as controlling as Odalia when they’re forcing the breakup is that it’s how Amity *views* him as now because of her feeling like Alador is just as controlling as Odalia, even though he most likely didn’t really have much of a say at all and just went along with it in reality, based on what we’ve learned about his character.
Again, he’s not blameless, but I feel like with Amity being warped into the mindset that both parents have dominance that this mindset could’ve just poisoned past memories via the Mandela Effect.
Well, after clouds on the horizon, I can certainly say he’s getting a divorce with odalia for sure, AND he’s definitely on the road to redemption. He might not be fully redeemed, but he’s getting there.
2:53 an apology for Kiki? I don't remember the video on kiki that well but I remember it being fine, why would you need to apologize?
This is a legitimate question. I don't get it
Nyhehehe the new episode must have put a smile on your face.
Well how unfortunate that this video is definitely outdated now...
I knew I was going to like her father!!!
LETS GOOO PAPA
Context clues (watch the new episode something with clouds?)
I want part three because the new episode just makes him look so much better
this video: comes out
clouds over the horizon: comes out
this video: well now dont i look dumb
seriously tho kitty whens the Alador apology video coming out?
Probably end of the season. Next week is probably gonna be Tomstar or Stolas
Welp, maybe you should have waited for today’s vid
I thought I was the only one who found the "golden scarab" joke eyeroll-worthy. High five!
He falls more into a grey area. Yes he is bad in the beginning, but now he's making an effort to change and does show he cares about his kids. He's got a ways to go, but he's making progress.
Grey area. I like that. Alador is certainly not a black and white character (but then, not many of the characters in this show are, excluding maybe Kiki, Terra, and Adrian), but I like the progress he’s made so far. He’s come a long way, and it’s easier to feel bad for him when it’s obvious that he was manipulated by Odalia, but it’s excellent that he’s actively trying to be better, not that that makes up for his mistakes in itself , but like Amity said, it’s a start.
@@Layla-tg2qe It's a start. Kida of like Amity and Willow's friendship. Willow didn't immediately forgive Amity, but we see that they are making progress. Alador is going through the same steps.
I have a feeling that Odalia probably enabled Alador's neglect though probably not intentionally, throgh stuff like probably telling Edric, Emera and Amity not to bother Alador while he's working and with Blight Industries pretty much having Alador do most of the work making abominations and abomination based tools with Odalia networking/managing the business Alador would likely be bogged down with working often likely taking up any free time he could spend with Edric, Emera and Amity plus his somewhat distractible personality likely made him unaware of how this effected his kids which is not an excuse but unlike Odalia who doesn't care what her family thinks if she's decided otherwise Alador does seem to want to patch things up and accept and fix his mistakes.
First appearance (in form of flashback): Controlling
Second appearance (first physical appearance): Enabler of an abusive parent.
This episode: First step towards redemption.
And after this video's upload, we have two more episodes with Alador;
Episode 20: Alador and Odalia's Divorce. Redemption arc taken the next step.
Episode 21: We learn why Amity is called Mittens. More relationship mending between Alador and Amity. I still would not say the redemption arc is complete. It'll take a lot more for him to be fully redeemed, but what he has done, would at least earn him quality time with grandchildren, if any.
after episode 20 i'd say hes a good parent "better late then never" i wount say everything that happened bc its a spoiler but you'll see
Alador doesn't even have that much in common with Bojack's mom
this episode is so good to watch after s2 ep.20
I like how they're really making a redeeming arc for him. Now I wonder what was the "deal" he had with his wife involving Blight industries that he made with her to protect them. So this makes me think he must've been trying to protect them from a worser evil that his wife wanted to do with them. Then how he protected and supported Amity in the most recent episode. He's beginning to break free, realizing that he needs to get his kids away from their abusive mother instead of trying to keep the family together. Some people DO have the idea that keeping the family together instead of divorcing is better for the child but it's not. He's not faultless but maybe he also didn't know what he was doing as a parent since yea parenting can be confusing. You don't always know what's best for your kids.
The human world version of this: It's like sending your kids to the best boarding school with super strict rules and keeping high expectations on them to become a senator, a doctor, or a judge and constantly pushing hard on it when your kids want to become artists, zoo keepers, and small town pediatricians. They think it's right for them because they'll be rich and successful but then ignore their emotions.
This video came out moments before Clouds on the Horizon. Or was it Clouds on a Horizon?
lol, it was before it came out
You posted this right before the Alador episode
Hes a bad parent, he acknowledged that.
I swear on my soul I was genuinely expecting 17:30 to turn out to be a skillshare ad read