ENTJ: I’m not good enough.
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As an entj, i always tell myself "you cant help those who dont want to help themselves". Works everytime
so true..
Couldn’t agree more with this statement. I was lucky enough to realise this from a young age... not to say I don’t fall into the trap every now and again. My motto in life is “you can’t change people but you can change the way you react to them”.
it takes me almost two years to accept this shit!!! Hope won't be distracting by this shit again in the future
Special Z for me it’s more like “how can I help others if I can’t even help myself?”
yea then i tell myself you can do anything you put your mind to
ENTJ at work: "I am the alpha and omega! A god amongst men!"
ENTJ at home: "I'm so useless."
HAHA I was the general in my home and feeling useless at work
Feel like someone call me out 🤣
exactly
@@maryestheraustin2505 you are mistyped
Literally me…..
You actually could 'think' that you are spending lots of time alone, but in reality, you could be twiddling your thumbs, thinking about the next strategy to focus on, the next person to help, or the next way to make an impact. You could be doing that alone for hours (days/months/years) on end.....but that alone will NOT engage your Fi. What it takes is literally a ton of self-care. A ton of putting yourself and your needs as #1. Anything less than that will lead you, over and over again, to the identical unresolved outcome.
Thank you for this. You have no idea how much I needed to hear/read these words.
That hit too close to home
That makes sense
Good word...seems true of me
Thanks for clarifying this. As an ENTJ I been mad to figure my self out to make the most of it and I hate struggling with things so I’ve found clever ways sound them. But if I were better balanced they can be better handled and get even better results and not me feeling like wtf. I have found everything out the hard way till I found MBTI this comment helped me straighten out my train of thought. Appreciate the help!
...so there is a reason for the monthly bouts of “I should just kill myself because no one needs me anyways”
I always feel like the best way to solve that problem is to become so objectively useful that it’s an undeniable fact that I am not in fact worthless.
But the downside is that anytime you make a mistake, all your self worth comes crumbling down.
I feel you.
Here's my Fi rant for all you care.
I know that 90% percent of my 'friends' befriended me because I am smarter than everyone there, and they want only my knowledge and time. I do care about them, especially their future and their goal. However, what if I weren't a smart guy? Of course I will have nothing. They will leave me eventually. And that's why I strive to be the smartest or even intellectual, so I can have place where I belong to in society.
But thank God I have matured. The only solution is to be selfish for a while, and know my limit on others so I won't force them any further. They will leave, but I am relieved to know that I can't please everyone.
PS : ENTJs also have feeling. ENTJs also human who need loves.
Can't please everyone
Man I felt that strong and hard.
@@hirumakazeko i feel you hard and dead on. Its also fun picking out friends though seeing them thinking you valued them but in reality you just used them as conversation material. Revenge is so sweet
Taking concur because sometimes this literally feels like my reality
Great video. ENTJs always seemed so strong and confident in my eyes, I never realized that's what they usually struggle with.
We are in strugle for emotionals but we always hidden it cause its such an essential of weakness
@@mitysaprimita5754 Fact
We're also hiding it because our ego doesn't want to acknowledge it 😹
Well, that what we feel pretty much all the time,
Omg your profile picture
I'm an ENTP. My little sister is a ENTJ....I think she spends 90 percent of her life organizing mine because she knows I can't. She needs rest.
As an ENTJ that what I do with my younger sister
I guess I need to rest but I can't let her being not organised
But istg it's hard sometimes
Get your shit together if you really believe she needs rest
Ash, I think I should clarify. :-) I have it together, just not in her perspective. I can't make a decision without her thinking she has a better idea of what I need. Everything from choosing a meal at a restaurant, to the floor plan of my house. She is who she is. I stopped going against her flow when we were teens. Just not worth the fight.
OMG 🤣 this is gold a little late but frickin gold~also n Entp
PS we're not lazy jus good at making sure others get stuff done...for us that is
You have no idea how much this resonated. I'm an ENTJ, and I have ZERO sense of worth. I'm not performing and succeeding, I'm worth less than nothing. Friends tell me I need to work on me. I don't know how to explain that there is no "Me". I don't even know where to start. Any tips on where I'm supposed to start? Anything that isn't accomplishing something feels like a sin.
Joel Rankin Sit and think about how you feel. Bringing your subconscious feelings to the surface and analyzing them makes them have less power over you. They aren't running around in the background causing havoc.
So od i. but i found out that when i plan my day, do all the chores that have to be done, spend some time on selfeducation then at the end of the day i can spend some times with friends/chilling etc without regrets. The knowleadge that my brain isnt so productive at the end of the day helps me to have no regrets about it so i can enjoy doing nothing usefull ;p but still most of the time i torture myself that i dont have enought time to spend it on myself and fell totally wasted at the end of the week
You gotta do a spiritual retreat or some shit. Fuck all physical reality.
good luck man, hope things work out for you. can relate
Yeah, out of work since March. Even though I have a financial cushion, deep down I feel like I should be doing something.
I love that you revealed this aspect about the ENTJ. Finally, someone needed to say it. I have ENTJ and ESTJ uncles who are always trying to fix something for me, running off to do something else for someone else, or hosting get togethers.
The amount of EFFORT they put into other people gives this ENFJ a run for her money. I rarely get off my ass to drive across town for someone else but I might text are call “omgggg are you ok?? How can I help” but Te dominants actually DO something (if they do care, that is)
love your channel1
As for my case, being a sleepover host... . X,D
I’ve been working on identifying my type. This information makes me understand why I could type as a feeler. I have to watch it again though. I need validation too much. I’m coming to understand that I’m an ENTJ. I definitely would hop in the car to go get a friend in need. Any time.
We usually do something even if we don't care or actively dislike the person. The Good Samaritan is probably an ENXJ
Oh wow! Tests often suggested that I'm ENTJ but I just didn't really believe it because I sometimes have these "Wow, I'm not good enough" crises that feel exactly like you described - and the description of ENTJs always portrays them as extremely secure. Now I'll look into this type again with this new insight! Maybe I've found my match after all!
exactly what I felt
ENTJs r misunderstood/or can appear in many different ways. When I found out I was ENTJ, I was surprised bc they r portrayed as bossy and I’m always being told how nice I am. Maybe this is the case for u!
Any type can have insecurities tho
I had a similar experience. I saw the descriptions of ENTJs as power hungry, non-caring, workaholics who freaked if they went off schedule and that is basically 100% not me. Though, I do tend to work a lot and I would love to HAVE a schedule.
I’m an ENTJ. This is true. I’ve been doing things for myself, improving my self, working and loving my self, do things you love for you. It will change your life. Stop doing things for other for the sake for the “likes”, do things for others when others need and ask for it. The best is to do things for the world where people needed it and ask for it from you.
I have never done things for others just for the "likes". I have, however, done things for people that darned well didn't deserve it and to a ridiculous point. (sigh)
It's crazy, it's like you're describing me. I could help someone achieve greatness and/or see so many work on themselves rather than others, and that's where I go, "wtf, why don't I love myself and take care of myself and my health like they do, just like the rest of these people?" People take such good care of themselves, their body for example, and I don't give 2 craps about my body but care about my future and knowing and planning out a future with a wife and kids and building a legacy, a conglomerate company, all sorts of things but when it really comes to me, I'm like settled in my mind, i don't care nor need anything really, I don't truly see the purpose behind it all. Then I start doubting myself, and when that happens with time it pressurizes into fears of failure and then depression comes knocking the door down with suicidal thoughts, 24 hours later I'd pat my shoulder telling myself "good job you passed the darkness tsunami phase, see you again in 2 weeks..."
7 months later and only now realize i want to take more care of myself because I started having physical illnesses that scare the living shit out of me... If you have this issue of no caring about yourself enough, don't wait until its too late and digging yourself a hole so deep you have trouble getting out of. Be really careful you beautiful, sophisticated, but dehydrated bitch 😘
I have to say as an ENTJ myself I appreciate your more logical/visual approach to analysing MBTI types. Sacrificing ‘‘tis for tat, picturing your brain as a limited thinking space that needs a balanced allocation.
Much better than the stereotype crap I see on other channels.
BCCAPZ hope you'll feel better for yourself, the tribe will not hate you for long if you prioritize yourself once in a while.
-ENTP
I can't believe you addressed that , i used to think something is wrong with me , i always had this emotional outburst once every 1 or 2 weeks and ppl were always advising me stuff to fix and i would be like, Its normal for me i have this every once in a while and the next hour ill be fine again
same!
Me too
I thought it was a mental health condition but also concerned it's just my personality. Turns out it's my personality. But learning to strengthen the opposite muscle is a hopeful idea. The idea of having to do more self care makes me gag a little, frankly. Took me years to realize self love is not 100% a joke, that people actually feel that.
I'm moving towards that slowly, because desire to survive. But fuck me if it isn't painful. No idea if I'll figure this out. Trying.
@@y04a I'm with you. That self-love thing is weird.
I super super needed this coz my 'I feel worthless' mental reruns was starting to play out like 3-4 times a week which is a lot to handle. Now I understand what to do as an ENTJ. Thank you so much!!
INTP here. Can't really relate to any of this but admire ENTJs regardless. Hard workers, can be brilliant in their own way. Rare type!
I like the last line "you have to starve that first function." That is really what it feels like!
I'm starving my dominant function (Ne) for good of my (Si).
-ENTP
I was like "WOW", this guy hits the spot. It's like a cycle - boosting yourself for a while, coming out feeling worn out and f*cking workthless after a little while. Then comes isolation, because you're not feeling valuable and worthy of the tribe. You isolate yourself further, try to reinvent yourself, get a little boost - things are good for a while again. Then the tribe doesn't even care. You're crashed. It fuc*ing crushes me.
I don't know how I should fix this worthless feeling! I mean I really spend some time for myself every day, I read books to improve, to know more things and solve my big big questions in life. It doesn't help. Doing yoga, eating good meals, watching vlogs that motivate me, reading about questions I actually have and all that... Just doesn't give me an answer.
And of course the fact that I'm an alone person, and can't make worthy friends, and get along with some one other than my family, makes this worthless feeling feel harder!
For me it's religion and music. (infp over here btw, so basically an expert at this :D) jk but just try to find not only the meaning, but also the beauty in life.
@@eglelt219 the last sentence hit me
I truly don't think about the beauty in life
Just about the reason and why I'm here living on the earth
And then again I feek so worthless
It's less doing and more just being. EJs tend to "do" self care but it's less of a thing that you'd do.
The ExxJ's I know are so inspiring, nice, caring and charismatic. Don't think you're worthless I'm pretty sure you are full of worth you just don't realize it. I just feel really sad that ExxJ ik they spend so much time trying to do a lot for others and are so harsh on themselves to the point that they're neglecting themselves and not sleeping enough. They also take on a lot of burden more than they can handle. I agree with spending more time on themselves. Helping others is great ofc but not to the point neglecting themselves. It's ok to pamper yourselves once in a while. Self care is important. You need to take care of yourselves. Also make a judgment to choose help others or refuse helping others. It's not a bad thing to refuse them if choosing others would cost your own health. Chances if they can do it themselves, just give them instructions or advice and they do the physical work. Sometimes people ask for help bc they're lazy doing it themselves. All of these are not just applied to ExxJ. I'm not sure if I'm putting this whole thing in the right words.
Yep, I've noticed this in ExTJ. Drives me nuts. Action/planning all day non-stop.. Thank you.
My Dad and Sister are ENTJ and I (I'm ISFJ) understand this a lot. My Dad does his best to make sure everything is perfect. The past couple of weeks, he's been involved in a project and because of that, he's lost so much weight and he's always drained and tired. I always make him feel loved and appreciated the most I can. He just wants to solve everything. My sister is that way too but because she's younger, I try to be there for her as much as I can.
This explains everything about the ENTJs I know. I had no idea but it's completely true. Brilliant video.
I thought I was an enfp but turns out I'm a pretty underdeveloped entj. Huh. Time to start building myself up. Pray for me guys.
Prayers to you and for all of us friend
As an Enfp, I have this theory that Enfps road for growth is being an ENTJ in terms of execution✌️🤟, good luck mate
@@renierbelarma4770Just be with an ENTJ or have them as a bessie
Impostor syndrome runs rampant for this TeNi individual
Very true. I struggle with it every day.
Wow! My post is so ironic in retrospect (due to being typed differently as of now), lol. However, EJ issues still affect me in this regard. This part remains a constant.
WOW yes!!!!
A great distinction to make here is that you may not necessarily be outright doing many TASKS for people, but still doing things for the SAKE of others. You can be alone all day, doing things for 'yourself', but they're actually for the sake of helping or pleasing OTHERS.
That's the rub. Right there. That's such a fact.
I'm an ENTJ-T
At school, I constantly seek the opportunities to help my friends or entertain them in anyway possible, whether it is lending something, helping them with academic subjects they can't understand, be their venting partner, be their shitposting partner, or just do pda like tracing lines on their back, keep my palm on their shoulder, touch their hair, fix their appearances.
When I'm not with them, I watch anime and UA-cam, I read novels, mangas, manhwas, manhuas, draw stuff, creating plots for my novels that I won't be publishing lol, and listen to narrated stories. But even though I have this much activities at home, I just feel empty somehow. I know, acknowledge and admit that I conditioned my happiness to flare up if I am with them and if I can make them feel happy. I mean, I don't really see any point for me to be happy, most of the time my feelings don't really bother my work.
When I feel like shit, I'll usually just be in a daze and think "I feel like shit... I feel shitty.... Ugh what the shit.... I feel like shit... AH SHIT MY WORK" then I'd spring up in to action and continue my work and completely forget my feelings. If I ignore it enough, I'll eventually forget what I was feeling and what it felt like.
Test same as you. ENTJ-T
For comparison:
I love to study and research as much as be around people. Probably more fulfilling because I can stimulate my mind more than most conversations with people.
- High standards and have already thought out every possible solution. And come to the best one.
- internal locus of control.
- I do not doubt myself or my abilities. I know I’ve done the work and have a solid plan in all areas of life.
- I do not Exert power over others, no desire to. Just myself. Why? Getting others to come up to my standard is a futile effort.
- As an ENTJ man, I typically do not get along with the strong independent female types. Or ENTJ/ESTJ women. This has been a problem with females trying to control a relationship or me.
I’m an ENTJ and this is completely true.
As a self-identified ENTJ I personally do not identify with the "not good enough" syndrome. This sounds more like a self-esteem issue than Fi demon. My interpretation of Fi demon is more on the lines of I do not give enough credit to what I want and my personal like and dislikes, because to me they are not important and should give way to objective facts and logic. Even if I feel strongly about a certain thing, if it is not what is considered objectively good, I will give priority to the latter. This does not necessarily mean that I feel like crap about myself the whole time. In fact I don't think about it much at all (I'm generally confident person and I wouldn't call my self-esteem fragile) unless I have nothing to do and have to sit there, be with myself and finding in horror that there's not much there inside.
Man learning to not help everyone was key for me. But it hurt at first because I felt bad for not helping people... Its a hard balance that is for sure.
To be honest, i was didnt care much about people during ny childhood. But people around me told that i need have a bit more care about other, give help to other, think what people thought about you if you do something they didint like...I grew up listen to these words now i feel guilty if i use my Ti and Fi, but is not bad if you help people is a good thing just remember to help yourself too 😊
This is truly intriguing. As an INTP, I feel like my issues are similar, yet different. I have two reoccurring concerns that I struggle with the most. The first is that I'm not contributing enough to mankind, the animals, and the planet. I haven't quite honed in on my purpose and the sense that I am truly making a monumental impact. I feel like I need to find it. The second issue is that I've always felt like an outsider, an alien observing the events of Earth from my spaceship. I've always been eccentric and detached in my thinking. This has resulted in many strange looks, dismissive comments, and the tendency of others to consider many of my ideas as too unrealistic or theoretical.
This was very insightful, you have just told my story - ENTJ.
Starting to think I might be tribe above self but I don't help people, like at all, not unless it's convenient. But I do care about tribe validation, I try to live up to the tribe's expectations (or what I think their expectations are) and that's more what burns me out rather than helping everyone and putting them before me. It's trying so desperately to push myself into a mold I just can't fit. I'm a mess that needs a lot of help lol so I tend to focus on helping myself and I fucking hate people. But I don't have the self-confidence (for lack of a better word) of a self type either. I have no self-authority but I instead ping off the tribe for social norms.
It would be nice to see who Dave thinks is a typical ENTJ and go on to explaining the why from there.
I’m a high performer at work that smashes any and every quota i get, I always go above and beyond and I inspire others both with their work but also their wellbeing.
Yet at home i will have moments where i literally cry myself to sleep wondering what i’m doing wrong and why i feel useless.
🥺 inner child healing?
I love how quick you are!
My family's pastor basically told me this, that I needed to stop trying to father my father's children (my siblings). It was ultimately the catalyst to my recovery, mental, physical, and psychological. But it seems that complete detachment from the world (in terms of the feelings of others and a greater moral good) is the only way for this to happen. How, then, do I live with perpetually feeling like a selfish, solipsistic scum?
I come back to this vid every three months or so
Back again
Back again
After studying mbti for over a year, I think I found my type. I thought I was an introverted type, but now I think I was just afraid people didn't like me, so I kept my opinions to myself. I have had people point this out to my face that I lack any unique personal characteristics. That hurt to hear. I then realized that no matter how productive of a person I was, People would still not value me because I didn't value myself. To me this sounds like the ENTJ's struggle.
Id be glad to hear anyone's thought on this, or any corrections if you think what I've stated is not accurate.
I feel the same. I was an INTJ a year ago. It was the opposite. Before, I was living a don't-fuck-with-me attitude, but now I have become an Extroverted.
Truthfully, I realized I was trying *hard to engage myself to other people just to gain connection and all. But whenever I do help others or entertain them, I always contemplate when I'm left alone. Thinking that do I deserve them? Do they deserve me?
But they also help me in some way so I'm still considering them.
Its more like ‘’I can always be better’’.
Its hard and tiring to work on myself - ENTJ
Wow, I thought I was an intj, nope, I'm definetly a entj
This so weird, I feel truly understood, I do just go arround solving everyone's problems, then every few months I just have a massive break down of selfishness.
The false threats and pathetic attempts to stop me when i was small are just what the world does because of complacency.
It doesn't want to change, so as a very rare entj, you're like, "this isn't functioning that well lets try to change it."
Then they say, your insane and crazy for thinking we need to change anything.
Your entire reason for living has just become smashed. I became an alcoholic for three years because of that. Then I started shedding bullshit beliefs and exercising, and working hard, and eating healthy. Now i own my own business and i never get discouraged any more. My sensing characteristic has fully developed and im an incredibly observant. more than supposed observant types. I base everything i do on what i have proven to be true with only my personal experiences. Which, people do not like very much. But i focus on my goals and get there every time.
I have a full time Night Shift job and am building 2 businesses, one is a very well paying construction biz, and finding time to be in a band and training a service dog... ENTJ
Almost no sense of worthiness
But work cannot compensate for it so I have to force myself to get over the self pity, and relax. I almost don't care what other people think anymore.
Just remember: self importance and self pity are the same exact thing. If you're miserable you're still egotistically focused on #1.
This feeling worthless goes both ways. I'm INTP and I spend way too much time in my head I feel worthless at the end of the day. Any imbalance can cause that feeling I suspect.
Never stop making videos!!!
As ENTJ, I just don't have time for that. Sometimes I just feel hollow on the inside. Like, "Well, you get the stuff done. But, what for? Who am I except for that?" And, I just can't answer. I just run to some work to do. Just not to face this emptiness.
Thank you so much for this. I wondered why my life was crashing, and I definitely spent so much time for my clients, colleagues, and partners rather than investing time for myself.
If abusive people are abusing you it’s your responsibility to give them boundaries until they apologize to hold them accountable so you don’t enable them. Tough love is still love. If they love you they’ll apologize (SINCERELY) and if they don’t then you just wait until they do before reconciling again.
My issue isn`t as much only doing things for others as it is I spend all of my time studying and trying to be better in everything I can get my hands on. The only self care I indulge in is the bare minimum so that I can continue to work. Whenever I try to take a break, I´m thinking ´you could be studying´. My sense of worth goes down the garbage when I´m not working as hard as I could be. Not fun.
this could the most important video I saw in my whole life
ENTJ here. So helpful, I am totally like this. Coming out of a horrible time:lost my job of 20 years then my new relationship left me shortly afterwards. Still looking for work as resume looks like I'm over qualified for most jobs where I live.
I am floored. I've recently come to the conclusion that I don't do certain things I'd like to do because I feel like I should get permission from the world, from society, other people or life itself... in order to be me, the real me. So I have started telling myself I don't need permission. I am good enough. I am worthy. And now I see this video. Synchronicity.
This video made me tear up, nobody ever talks about this. Everyone always talks about how we are always confident and organized and efficient. People always say the outside factors of 'ENTJs would rather die than procrastinate or be unorganized' which is true. That's why internal battles are so hard to get out of since we are already at a low point and still keep beating ourselves up automatically with 'I'm stupid' 'I'm useless' etc. because we're not being productive. It's like trying to get up and being punched to the ground over and over again, except it's by ourselves. An endless loop of not doing anything for the fear of failing and being useless and then feeling horrible and beating ourselves up for not doing anything.. Any tips on how to get out of this?
I really think I'm an ENTJ, having been scored as one on the test and connecting with the type, but the issue is that I wouldn't quite describe myself as "assertive" 100% of the time and didn't really connect with this video. I have learned to take a more selfish approach to life and focus on my own improvement instead of wasting too much time on others, and I've always been more of a loner unless I see an opportunity to take charge (which I live for). I also feel like I have a deep understanding of my own emotions, even if I feel some of them less than others seem to. Am I just a well developed ENTJ or not one at all?
Kinda asking the same thing
i'm so glad i found this video cause this finally made me believe what my therapist told me... so he was telling me the truth... and i think i have a plan for where to start from
i am thinking
To all my fellow ENTJ's out there struggling...find the highest goal/passion in life for your self. I've haven't had to deal too much with feeling worthless/aimless in life because as soon as you realize what your ultimate desire it's like a reunion point in your mind when everything is out of place. A place to re-gather your thoughts and emotions and then execute the plan...again..and again.
Nothing better we do than make siht happen! it's quite fulfilling to see your dreams/ideas come to life.
Odd, I literally never felt this way... ya gotta help yourself first before you're capable of helping the world... and if you aint investing in yourself as you build something (whatever it is you're building), if you're not insuring that you are evolving and growing, then of course nothing is going to work out. Work on your health, work on your mind, work on you emotional fulfillment as you work in the world...
Appreciate that this showed up in my feed. I have a ENTJ friend who's having this exact issue (he has no idea I have observed this), and I couldn't pinpoint how to help him. But this is giving me some insight.
My family used to always tell me that I needed to focus on me and not others. They kept using the plane crash scenario and it never really worked as a child and I'm still in the process of fighting for myself...
me too
1:30 as a former ENFJ and current ENTJ, this is so real. Wow, it definitely feels like I need permission to take care of myself. It seems like I'm doing wrong even when I take time away for myself. This was a helpful perspective to help me realize this
I always get my things done. Still, I can’t help asking myself ‘Am I being less productive than expected?’
Guess that’s what keeps pushing me further.
I like to get far away from people so I won’t have to deal with them taking all the time I need for myself
Soo this can be applied in reverse for IxxP’s? In spending all our time feeding ourselves (Fi/Ti), feelings of worthlessness come from not feeling accepted by the tribe because we neglect the Fe/Te? Hmmm....
Rebekah Parkhurst That is quite interesting it might very well be true
Until you realise that it's this so-called tribe that needs to get on your level. 🤔
YES!!!!
@confidence no. Lol.
INTP here. I have to agree with what the tribe values or it has little to no effect on my sense of self worth. For example, it's easy to reason out of using makeup or wearing high heels without harm to self worth because I don't value them, but it's difficult to do that with school grades. Fe/Te has to match my Ti/Fi? Classic self over tribe, I think.
Why I saw in this video my life in 4 minutes...
Really helpful, and well explained. I have all these achievements, real estate, car, education but it doesn't help the fact that I feel useless on the inside. Others see the exterior which come so easy for me, but they just can't relate how it is to feel worthless despite doing pretty well in life.
Very insightful. I knew someone like this and while I found them incredibly annoying I couldn't help but admire their positive traits: dedication, discipline, and insight. But it was clear they were not taking care of themselves, and their need for approval was a huge issue, so much so that I actually thought they were a narcissist.
I did this, I literally put myself now on the to do list. First I had this guilt but now Im just annoyed both at myself and at my surroundings. If everything goes well I need one more week to come back to myself, I have no idea if this is harder on me or those around me as they cant depend as much on me now. Either way I still think very bad of myself now because of this crisis, but I just know that if I dont work on it now it will get worse later. This is the only solution.
Dude! You’re like a Tony Robbins + MBTI speaker. Thank you bro. Wow!
Thank you for this video! It helped so much, love the visuals to make it simple and direct to see the issue.
Would be nice to, at some point, get a video guiding us on how to find exactly what our demon is
I don't even know if I can do that. I have so much work to do. I'm scared.
the anxiety this video is giving me
As I was listening and thinking to myself about when I take time to myself, I thought guiltily “I do take long showers”, just seconds before you give the example of “well I have a little time in the shower” hahahahahaha
Dude that Fk bomb hahahaha that’s no kidding you’re like hey you’re amazing and I am so appreciative of you and grateful for all you do. You do soo much. I value you so much. And they don’t fkn believe you 😂
ENTJ here, I'm wondering if instead of saying stop helping people and start taking care of yourself more, which is hard for an ExxJ to hear, instead if we aim to pierce it through the middle, so cultivate your internal feelings and know what those are, and then find something where you like it and also it's helping the tribe. The tricky distinction is to like it because you like it, as opposed to liking it because the tribe needs it, but if you can find something you genuinely like for its own sake and it just so happens it valuable to the tribe, then you get best of both worlds.
I'm just mentioning this because the thought of stopping helping other people and caring more for myself makes me think of this scale where one goes up the other goes down as if I can't have both, but I think I can, I think one can be balanced, and so it's feels better for me thinking out loud to aim for what both I like and the tribe likes at the same time
I think this has a lot to do with enneagram 3s
For sure. As far as I can tell, ENTJs seem to be either Type 3 or Type 8. One of my ENTJ friends is a Type 3. I am a Type 8 ENTJ, but Type 3 is a high second in my type stack. And there are a fair bit of similarities between 3s and 8s, one of them being that 3s refuse to lose/fail and 8s refuse to give up. Both are heavily goal-oriented. It can be downright painful trying to step away from my goals to allow myself to fully relax or reflect on how I feel, and I think the same is true for my friend.
Ok I watched this to make sure I wasn’t mistyping myself by peacocking my shadow. Nope. Pretty sure this isn’t me. I am the opposite. If you guys break down, you can’t help anyone else. Maybe you need to take a break to meditate or journal or scrapbook or pintrest or something
What?!?! Ok. As an ENTJ I've had to learn this life lesson several times to finally understand the pattern I was unknowingly repeating.
ENTJ's take the alone time to recharge your batteries and learn the simplest term on this planet to use "No."
Omg i seriously have just learned to say "no" in my 30's
Still some people think ENTJ is bad 🥲
Damn, man...
I really needed this
Thanks a lot
Solid advice 👌🏻
I feel like sitting there is a waste of time
The Myers-Briggs type indicator's efficacy?
On par with Astrology's "What's your sign?"
I personally hate being an ENTJ. We need validation and I have read so many books on the subject validation is not love, still we need to be externally validated. I struggle in relationships due to this issue, intimacy is also a problem.
Thank you so much, it does make absolute sense. I will try to do that
As an ENTJ i surprisingly resonate with none of this. It may be because i have gotten into the habit of meditating and introspecting/course correcting daily, then actively incorporating things that will make me feel good about myself, daily. Something to think about if you are feeling if you are having the issues delineated in this vid
This is so fucking real
Wow i used to be like that, until i just focus on myself a year ago
I know it may be repetitive for you, but PLEASE do this type of video for other types. I desperately need it for my type, INTP.
I am not 100% sure I'm INTP. I care more about the tribe and spend more of my alone time concerned with the tribe.
Maybe you are an ENTP so ;)
Maybe you’re an ENTJ lots of them think they are INTPs cause they are smart and nerdy and stuff lol stereotypes hurt a lot of people when it comes to knowing their actual type
That's a real possibility.
Yes that's true. I've always been confused as whether I'm INTP or ENTJ. I have reasons to see myself as ENTJ, so it's a real possibility. I just do not know.
PixelArt01 I don’t want to speak for him but based on these recent videos I would guess that Dave would say the big give away between a Te dom (ENTJ) and a Ti dom (INTP), would be a question of tribe vs the self. ENTJs have much more concern for the tribe and are more willing to take in the reasoning that the tribe subscribes to. Not that ENTJs can’t think for themselves, however they utilize reasoning beyond themselves and care more for the tribe’s input in general. INTPs and ISTPs trust their own reasoning and logical systems before that of the tribe’s even to the point of isolating themselves . This is probably why INTPs are seen as quirky and perhaps even outsiders that may go as far as to ostracize themselves from society. But I could be wrong on this. It’s just the impression I have gotten to thus far.
I need to watch this at least once a week ugh
Female ENTJ here. Which type is the best match for my husband? Would INTJ male be compatible? Or are there better fits?
I felt this! Thank you!
Just took the personality test truthfully, turns out im an ENTJ whos an extrovert. Which i never knew i was.
It's weird, people tell me I'm super accommodating and always willing to help, but I feel like it weakens me a lot
The fact that people tell me "It's not all about you!" and "Why do things have to be done your way?" and "You never do anything for anyone." - which is all outrageous b.s.- doesn't help.
So feeling worthless is not exclusive to my type the INFP but the all mighty ENTJ feels like this too? huh...
make more on ENTJs pls!!
If I'm not constantly improving, I feel like nothing, and even if I am, I'm still not good enough.
As an ENTJ I don't feel worthless from a human perspective. But I'm not living up to my deific nature. That's the only area.
And pleasing everyone? How is that an ENTJ desire? We don't value every single person. Why would we want to please them?
This is me. But now, when it gets too much, I take a little CBD oil and the goblin in my head shuts right up!