I am here to learn about the ENTJ. My daughter is 9 and I have come to realize this is her without a doubt. I would love any and all tips on what I can do to be the best parent I can for her and to allow her to grow into a healthy ENTJ adult. I am an INFJ so this personality type has proven difficult for me to understand, in particular the Fi and Te, because both those functions are ones I cannot relate to. Any advice is sooo welcomed.
So cool that you're starting early! What has made you convinced she is an ENTJ? I'd say the Te aspect at that age might be evident, but not always the Ni :) - she could be ESTJ also. Either way, Te is about efficiency and 'the best way'. Ni is about the core/fundamental reasons. Combine the two and you get 'what are the core/fundamental reasons behind the best way'. You will need to constantly explain the deeper reasons behind your decisions and don't be upset with she challenges you (she's just asking for the deeper reasons, or perhaps she actually has (Ni) perceived a better way, but can't articulate it yet). Fi is hard to develop. I had a strong religious upbringing which really helped my Fi. If you want her to get along better with others it won't be in an 'Fe way' - ENTJs don't realy care about 'harmony' if it's at the expense of the (Te) 'best' option, and perhaps never will. What DOES work is if they have a moral framework (Fi) that they can double check their (Te) decision against. Fi values can include being kind/generous/caring to others, so it ends up having a similar result to Fe (the group does feel valued etc).
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowthI’m 17 and I identify with ENTJ and the functions deeply. Is there a chance this will change or should I assume that this will remain constant?
Introverted feeling is not just about emotions and awareness of having them it is a judging function that is related to Te in a sense of values and moral codex. For example, I know how to do this or get there but is this who I am or part of my inner being, and is this way according to my personal values. I'm a friend with an INTJ and I see his Fi as protection from being an amoral or nonauthentic person. I see Fi as an emotional filter that is defining who you really are vs. what is expected from you to be. Fi is something that can make you more valuable because it holds a lot of depth to you as a human being and your decision-making.
As an ENTJ I really appreciate this video and I LOVED the suggested music. I like how there's limited vocals so I can focus on tasks while listening. And the music is so interesting to me and reminds me of my beloved Radiohead and Tame Impala.
ENTJ here. Very nice, I am quite similar to you. Art for me is interior design, and I do use music for positive energy. What helped my Fi was actually taking the MBTI personality test and learning and study all the other personalities. I can now recognize patterns in people that tell me if I need to tone down my Te. I need to stat journaling, I only do it when I get hurt badly but not as a Fi improvement. Appreciate the content.
UA-cam algorithm got it right. I have recently developed a high interest in psychology and in Carl Jung especially. Somehow did the 16personalities test a while ago and remembered I am an ENTJ(-A). And now I saw your channel based precisely on this. Just amazing! Keep uploading, mate. P.S.: Hope you enjoyed Transylvania/Romania.
This is true. The same has happened with me and Fe; the more I accepted the emotional moment authentically and let them go, the more I could think without my thoughts being colored by the emoticon.
Wow! Its great that you are so open and determined to develope your other functions and become more well-rounded! Its really nice to see! I'm an INFP and I have also spent a lot of time developing Te. You're right. Te is a really great function to have and it would be nice to see more Fis develope it. But I like your humility that you can say maybe I should tone it down sometimes. And the act of sheathing the sword is humble as well. I found it interesting how you use the word "qualify" as in to qualify your opinions. You use the example of using thoughts or feelings. Though I am an fi, I also use Te and the way I think of "qualify" is actually to not use thoughts or feelings at all. Instead, for example, I would say " hey there's this great restaurant, its got X,Y and Z. Do you want to check it out?" Or "what do you think?" If people are standing around not making up their mind I would say " I think this is our best bet". So now it makes me wonder is this more Fi or Te? I mean, what does it take to quality, I guess? Anyway, love the Jesus example.
Um, day-um! You are one sexy speaker! As a fellow-ENTJ, I have to say that I felt like I was listening to my twin. I wish I knew your name. I'm Steven. I think I need to take a trip to Sweden! Woof!
intp female here...being faced with entj's is alarming mostly because in everything I've ever been attracted to in people they're all qualities that the entj embodies. When I first learned about typing I was really turned off at first by the stereotype of the entj--that for some reason male entj's tend to be these stallions, which tbh intimidated me...cause I have to actually work on my Se. I quickly liked that the energy from an entj man can make the more low simmer vibe of an aloof intp submit to his presence.... now that I have learned so much more about entj men I've found that they're perfect for what is natural to me in every way and it's hot! 🤓 This video was gold. So much good insight
Thanks for this! I love INTPs also, one of my best friends is an INTP, our dynamic is perfect. A weird comment: for some reason though (low Se probably), I find the dress style of the INTP a little lacking haha (I'm sure there's exceptions though!)
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth it is lacking! Lol until there is self awareness on this and an attempt to correct it , this will probably be a problem into adulthood. It isn't always the case for sure and how they grew up can definitely shape this. Personally, i was made fun of as a kid so it was a quick lesson. Also, females tend to learn quicker on this if it matters to them because we tend to have societal pressures to look a certain way. Give us a chance to channel our ENTJ shadow with maturity and turn our demon into an angel and we're quite stylish and structured and the best of both 🥰
Oh gosh... I needed this. I'm pretty sure I'm TeSe though. My introverted mode is a shut off and shut out kinda vibe, and it takes a lot of time to rebuild but I always feel so much more grounded afterwards.
Awesome video - as an ENTJ in my 20s, where weaknesses start to become more and more apparent, this video has helped a lot actually! Thanks for sharing your experience!
Very good advice. It is very helpful as a leader. Thanks. We now have a weekly meeting where two of my staff, an INFj and INFP sit me down and teach me what I am feeling and how to connect with others. It is amazing how they can tell what another person is feeling. People love them. Its a learning curve but very effective. I appreciate the videos. It's all very new to me.
Wonderful video. I'm an ENTJ who uses playing his own music to connect to how he feels. In being able to play what naturally came to me and intuitively felt right through guitar/piano, I was led to understand through the sound I made what mood I was in, where I sat emotionally on something while it even helped me loosen a bottleneck on feelings I needed to empty. Would recommend they pick up an instrument in their free time. Thanks for the vid. Realizing personally that my entire life growth arc has been summed up in your 5 tips LOL.
"Realising personally that my entire life growth arc has been summed up in your 5 tips LOL" Haha this is my fav comment of all time. Cheers mate. Definitely motivates me to get back out there and create more content!
Great video, I really appreciate the first tip you gave of really trying to understanding and study emotions through a sort of TE lens. I think that’s a genius way for someone like an ENTJ to learn about their emotions.
I had a hard time typing myself as i grew up in a feeler family and naturally developed my Fi more to keep up. I did many Fi activities like Writing, reading fantasy, playing piano and making music. I loved them all and many stuck with me. I think they help keep me quite balanced. Though i still struggle with many of the Fi inferior problems (Lack of identity, pushing aside emotions) etc etc, having such activities helped me a lot.
very educational video, thanks! the emotion chart is the best way for me to understand how Fi works. and also as a fellow ENTJ me using "I think" and "i sense/found" before my opinion is a habit to appear more objective and precise ie my decision comes from rational Te analysis rather than feely touchy emotions(lol), rather than decreasing the intensity of my speech. thus I rarely use "I feel" to refer my opinions, unless they're directly asking me how I feel, because honestly, i didn't feel. I try to analyse my emotions thru Te as well, along with Se cues: identify-> analysis the cause and potential real world consequences->what to do about it. I can't bring out my Fi thru Ni "dopamine detox", for I find if I dive too deep into my Ni I become paranoid and stuck in my head like an unhealthy INTJ and doesn't helps me to identify my emotions at all. to me there must be Se cues present in order for me to reflect on Fi. ps: I think you can do a video on developing our Se or the TeSe loop in the future.
Hey Natural Instinct! Thanks again for your quality comment! A little hard to read as always lol (perhaps you could improve your grammar!) but once I get past that, there's some real gold in here! Before I knew about MBTI, I used to have a 'name' for my TeSe loop at parties... - 'party Dan' (super lame, I know!)... That guy was way too wild haha. I know what you mean by getting stuck on your head if you dive into Ni... You've gotta be super careful... that's why I journal - to give me an Se anchor-point. Actually - if you want to be really effective, listen to positive music AS you dopamine detox :) How have you experienced your Te-Se loop?
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth i mainly use it in sports. TeSe gives me more spontaneity and adaptability, and more body awareness so that I have better coordination. it has the potential to improve my Fi as well, for I mentioned I understand my Fi when I dive into Se. Anyway I play combat sports and I find Fi can improve your endurance(being in touch with how your body feels) and give you that "killer instinct"(better at knowing how your opponent feels so that i know exactly when to take them down, Connor McGregor, an ESFP, really mastered that). however Fi can potentially hinder my Te performance so I have to find a sweetspot. Overall, I consider TeSe loop as a tool that can be used for both "good" and "bad". although the general public consider this "primary-tertiary" loop as purely negative. also, the reason why my comment can be hard to read is that I try to cram as much ideas into one sentence as possible, without using a comma or a period. so that I need the least word possible to demonstrate my point. thats really a Te thing, almost compulsory.
As an ENTJ, I’m having so much in common with you wow. It was as if I was the only one. I journal all the time to reflect with my Ni parent, although I find it to be quite mentally and emotionally exhausting. I was known for being a really good artist in high school. I think it has to do with the ISFP subconscious that we have. Kinda addressed by C.S Joseph You’re right, there is almost nothing “meek” about my personality type 😂
I recommend reading your Bible daily . I would say I’m at the same growth point and I’m 21 , from learning bible principles :-) 👍🏼 love your content ! mostly to validate me haha .
Very well done. I saw that the video was 10 minutes long, and thought you’d drone on with unnecessary content, but everything you said was useful. Thank you :)
The term “meek” in the sermon on the mount does not mean “weak”. It means “power under control”. Love your comparison as the sword in the sheath though.
Writing is such a deep need for Fi. Bc its introverted, it needs focused attention to come up and it needs an outlet so writing is perfect. And, of course, art. Anyway you can get it, however you want to express it. Again Fi needs an outlet but it also needs to feel connected and integrated with the rest of the self - the other functions. So thats why art is so unique because each individual is going to produce something personal based on their own make-up. But its usually Fi thats going to rally the functions and demand a voice in this arena. You just have to give him one. So if you don't feel very creative or artistic or this is awkward at first then just start with art appreciation. Te is great at this bc you want to go out and take in information. So go to museums, Art galleries, the ballet, whatever. You can just listen to more music and CONSCIOUSLY DECIDE what you like or don't. Can you answe why? Pay more attention to your feelings, likes and dislikes. What offends you about society and why? Its hard to find an Fi that can't answer that question 😆 Anyway, I don't want to tell anyone how to think or feel. Just hope to shed some light on the curiosities here. I'm surprised how happy I am that you are doing this. Most people have bad things to say about Fi bc they think its selfish. But not only will you have more understanding of Fi's but you are purposely developing yourself. Its always nice to see 🌞
I must admit, I was interested and very skeptical when I first read the title of the video. But I really loved the fact that your ideas resonate with the way I see and understand the world. What you're saying is something that I would actually do because it does make sense. Anyway, thanks for sharing this, it was completely worth it, and I appreciate it:)
as an ENTJ, i struggle with emotions all my life. i would say seeing psy definitely helps me a lot. reading psychology books too. i still use my head to make a decision rather than my heart. but to better communicate with others and to understand my own emotions, i ask myself to directly deal with them.
As an ENTJ this was very useful. So many people just talk about fucking theory. Practical steps and systems built from legit facts to cause change or the byproduct of success in the real world is the absolute best. Thank you for this. Newly subscribed... still watched this at 2x speed haha
I recently found out I’m the turbulent entj. Was kinda bummed out about it,but there’s some positives to it and now I get to attack my weaknesses so that’s good. Great video btw. New subscriber here
Hey man your channel is fantastic i would like to see a video of how Te+Ni vs Ni+Te manifests since i know this 2 functions are my primary but unsure which one is the dominant. Thank you very much!
I really needed this, I rushed into a decision too fast without thinking and I'm currenty taking time to reflect on what i need to do better. 👍 Thanks a lot for this video, i hope this advice will work for my goals in the future.
Loving this commentary. Very helpful. To corroborate some of your concepts - personal couples therapy brought up expanding use of “F” words (F = feeling) via emotion wheel which has had a tremendous impact on mitigating the “steamroller” TE syndrome. It’s amazing how much these simple adjustments improve life quality. The dopamine commentary is interesting - the biochemistry behind it is nuts - have you drawn connections to TE? My review of nootropics drew me to l-tyrosine,and phenylalanine (amino acids) which definitely seems to modulate drive.
What a great vacation! Thank you for the excellent suggestions on how we can improve. I am in my 40s and recently started to understand better my personality, having an understanding of my cognitive functions has made a huge difference in my life. I hope all the professionals that share all this helpful information would allow translation into other languages, like Spanish, almost no information in Spanish can be found , I believe allowing captions in Spanish for example it would increase your followers 😃 thank you again for your very informative videos, I love they are short and straight to the point!
Thanks, so useful. I love the great energy you have. I really appreciate how you get to the point quickly in this video. It is refreshing, most UA-cam videos I watch stretch so much. Thanks again! Wishing you success and positive energy!
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth :) I always wondered about how we ENTJ's usually communicate and think. Sometimes my Te goes overboard and all the thoughts come out before facts/my Se can catch up/check up viability. Maybe a video on optimizing Te-Se would be cool too. :) The feelings naming part is something I tried doing before, really helped (but not so organized, thanks for the sheet). The songs are awesome, really my specific type of music to get productive/focused and relaxed at the same time. Neovaii's music is quite similar, maybe a bit more Fi though. Awesome job, hope you keep coming with more videos. :) You really capture our type I think.
Thanks for the feedback - I'm excited to do more videos soon! Yes - an ENTJ can operate by 'trusting'/step out with what your Ni brings up to your Te... without your Se actually comprehending it! Maybe that would be 'acting before thinking'! I can relate! A future video for sure :)
Damn, great video, please keep uploading more stuff. As a ENTJ myself I would love to learn how to control/channel my emotions, I make poor choices when emotions are high(high on the negative side). You have one more subscriber BTW.
What's your enneagram if you don't mind sharing? I feel like your videos should talk to me but they don't and i think it may because we've got different enneagram types.
Hi, please talk about how to actually start doing things that you know you should be doing but are not doing because you think you will manage it somehow later. Thanks and have a nice day.
Hi, just found your channel, like it. I have been typed MF-TeNi-BSPC by the objective personality. They separate all entj into 32 subtypes of which 16 are TeSe and 16 TeNi like us. I have not yet found an exact type twin, that is I am the only ome of my subtype that I know about. Until I found your channel that is. I think you and I are the exact type twins. Any way to get in contact?
Hi, can you please elaborate) how Jung said to not directly develop the function but rather through auxiliary. How does this work? Where is the place in his book i could read about it for myself? Thanks in advance, looking forward to your replies>>>
I feel like what people are THINKING (Te) is very obvious to me... which is not emotional intelligence per-say, but connected... it's a bit weird seeing the world hide this all the time when it's pretty obvious. Perhaps that's why ENTJs tend to be blunt... they know what you are thinking, so they don't wait around for you to say it. On the flip side, I can miss the emotional connotations to what I say very easily, so in that sense emotional intelligence is low (Fe/Fi)
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth thank you for your good answer. But i dont wanna believe that eq is low with us. If i will talk about for my self its about the time. Forexample live the life with people like emotionles for a bit(1-6month, 1-2year) then emotions come and strong and intense from everyone around you. Even so strong for your body and mind. Because of that we are escaping from our emotions as far as i see. And from your perspective knowing what people thinks makes me anxietic.
Do you think it's possible to have HIGH levels of Fi as an ENTJ? I recently scored it as my second highest function, following Te. It's contradicting and I'm rather conflicted.
More insight to me (if it helps): - I'm a queer teenage girl - I have quite a deep interest for self-development (like learning and researching about mbti and enneagrams) Questions: - How will this affect my stack? (Te, Ni, and Se) - Is it really Fi? - Are there more ways to measure our functions objectively?
Hey there - a curious one! A few points to consider 1: What site/test gave this result? It’s often best to create a larger sample size (many different tests) and exclude outliers - many bad test websites out there! 2: Perhaps the MBTI of interpretation does not fit you directly (two or three types might have elements of who you are), but the language of the cognitive functions is helpful. 3: Perhaps Te is your parent function (second) that you are aspire to - so you were biased in your answers to favour it (this would make you an ISTJ or INTJ) 4: Generally, at your age, your top function is developed at the expense of it’s opposite, so you are right - it is quite surprising!
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth Hello! An update from me: for the past several months, I've been working non-stop. I have an organisation to run while being mistreated by my colleagues. Constantly getting the same feedback, my words nitpicked, and getting misinterpreted for the worst. Repetitively backed up to a corner every conflict we face and my emotions being up for debate were clear signs that my Te getting strained to its breaking point. I've noticed my functions flipped upside down the past couple of weeks. I'd zone out in class when it's revision week to our final exams. I couldn't bring myself to catch up with every lesson I missed. All of this masked under the reason that "I deserve a break" which was something I wasn't given for half a year. I have been feeling dysfunctional. I can't tell if I was overusing my Te as an ENTJ causing me to fall into a grip or an ISFP overexerting my Te from the start and finally letting my Fi make the decisions.
I'm now just trying to pick myself back up and revise like its the last thing i'll do, stumbled across this comment when procrastinating and seeking answers for how I've been acting recently.
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth Hiya! not sure if you still remember this case: I typed myself as ESFP and now it made a lot of sense! The Se-Te can really be misinterpreted as ENTJ. I realised that I was most likely peacocking my Te and Ni then ending up mistyping myself. I take comments very personally, I feel overly suffocated by generalisations, I never fail to bright up a room. And once I got over the "party animal" stereotype of ESFPs, I started to really live up to the characteristics of my type. It's been giving me a lot of peace of mind knowing I've found my type, learning more of myself in the process.
Hey :) What’s your personality type? My advice: Get a personal trainer. If you can’t motivate yourself to do it, then pay someone to motivate you haha. It also optimises your time at the gym - more efficient use. That’s actually what I did when I set a goal of getting in shape!
@@marisabond2006 ideas on how to mature as an ENTJ; how to improve your Fi! Yes, I’m very interested in your ideas! I think it’d be awesome if we could get a discussion happening and share ideas. Anything that’s worked for you?
Great video but you should really credit Jordan Peterson for the interpretation of ‘blessed are the meek...’ otherwise that wouldn’t be very meek of you :)
Yes! I really should've done that! I'm a huge JP fan... though a little worried about any controversy his name might bring to this channel (sadly!) Let me give you the full story on this one - It was my Dad who first gave me this advice - I'd been talking to him about some conflict I'd had at work and (although successful) he commented on the collateral damage I was incurring . He gave me some advice for when he'd been in politics - even though you might have a 'gun' (Te strength) you don't have to wield it - sometimes it's just enough to show people that you have the gun, sit back and observe... only 'fire' it when it's really needed. Similar analogy to JPs... but his is more elegant I think!
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth Hey. I’m an ENTJ too so I’m just trolling you. You are right in what you are saying. Interestingly enough my dad said something similar as I keep falling out with people due to conflicts.
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth I can relate with the conflict at work. But the just sitting back and observe while showing confidence is such a tricky thing. I really have a problem with balance. Either I am too passive and people think they can walk over/take me for granted or I keep wielding 'Te' left and right without caring about conflict. It is really hard art to master. Thanks !
I am here to learn about the ENTJ. My daughter is 9 and I have come to realize this is her without a doubt. I would love any and all tips on what I can do to be the best parent I can for her and to allow her to grow into a healthy ENTJ adult. I am an INFJ so this personality type has proven difficult for me to understand, in particular the Fi and Te, because both those functions are ones I cannot relate to. Any advice is sooo welcomed.
So cool that you're starting early! What has made you convinced she is an ENTJ? I'd say the Te aspect at that age might be evident, but not always the Ni :) - she could be ESTJ also.
Either way, Te is about efficiency and 'the best way'. Ni is about the core/fundamental reasons. Combine the two and you get 'what are the core/fundamental reasons behind the best way'. You will need to constantly explain the deeper reasons behind your decisions and don't be upset with she challenges you (she's just asking for the deeper reasons, or perhaps she actually has (Ni) perceived a better way, but can't articulate it yet).
Fi is hard to develop. I had a strong religious upbringing which really helped my Fi. If you want her to get along better with others it won't be in an 'Fe way' - ENTJs don't realy care about 'harmony' if it's at the expense of the (Te) 'best' option, and perhaps never will. What DOES work is if they have a moral framework (Fi) that they can double check their (Te) decision against. Fi values can include being kind/generous/caring to others, so it ends up having a similar result to Fe (the group does feel valued etc).
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth Very good explanation. This validates my thoughts.
i don't think that people can be typed at an age like this
just here to say that u r a fantastic parent. - ENTJ
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowthI’m 17 and I identify with ENTJ and the functions deeply. Is there a chance this will change or should I assume that this will remain constant?
I am an ENTJ, I'm 16 almost 17 and somehow I've attested to art as something that unlocks emotion for years
Nice work mate! If you've got any more ideas, feel free to share :)
Introverted feeling is not just about emotions and awareness of having them it is a judging function that is related to Te in a sense of values and moral codex. For example, I know how to do this or get there but is this who I am or part of my inner being, and is this way according to my personal values. I'm a friend with an INTJ and I see his Fi as protection from being an amoral or nonauthentic person. I see Fi as an emotional filter that is defining who you really are vs. what is expected from you to be. Fi is something that can make you more valuable because it holds a lot of depth to you as a human being and your decision-making.
As an ENTJ I really appreciate this video and I LOVED the suggested music. I like how there's limited vocals so I can focus on tasks while listening. And the music is so interesting to me and reminds me of my beloved Radiohead and Tame Impala.
ENTJ here. Very nice, I am quite similar to you. Art for me is interior design, and I do use music for positive energy. What helped my Fi was actually taking the MBTI personality test and learning and study all the other personalities. I can now recognize patterns in people that tell me if I need to tone down my Te. I need to stat journaling, I only do it when I get hurt badly but not as a Fi improvement.
Appreciate the content.
I cry everytime I draw or paint something. feels like waste of time but helps
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UA-cam algorithm got it right. I have recently developed a high interest in psychology and in Carl Jung especially. Somehow did the 16personalities test a while ago and remembered I am an ENTJ(-A). And now I saw your channel based precisely on this. Just amazing! Keep uploading, mate. P.S.: Hope you enjoyed Transylvania/Romania.
This is true. The same has happened with me and Fe; the more I accepted the emotional moment authentically and let them go, the more I could think without my thoughts being colored by the emoticon.
Ahh - so the reverse of this video?
Wow! Its great that you are so open and determined to develope your other functions and become more well-rounded! Its really nice to see! I'm an INFP and I have also spent a lot of time developing Te. You're right. Te is a really great function to have and it would be nice to see more Fis develope it. But I like your humility that you can say maybe I should tone it down sometimes. And the act of sheathing the sword is humble as well. I found it interesting how you use the word "qualify" as in to qualify your opinions. You use the example of using thoughts or feelings. Though I am an fi, I also use Te and the way I think of "qualify" is actually to not use thoughts or feelings at all. Instead, for example, I would say " hey there's this great restaurant, its got X,Y and Z. Do you want to check it out?" Or "what do you think?" If people are standing around not making up their mind I would say " I think this is our best bet". So now it makes me wonder is this more Fi or Te? I mean, what does it take to quality, I guess? Anyway, love the Jesus example.
Um, day-um! You are one sexy speaker! As a fellow-ENTJ, I have to say that I felt like I was listening to my twin. I wish I knew your name. I'm Steven. I think I need to take a trip to Sweden! Woof!
Haha, I'm never one to turn down a compliment - but I must admit, it's just the lighting :)
intp female here...being faced with entj's is alarming mostly because in everything I've ever been attracted to in people they're all qualities that the entj embodies. When I first learned about typing I was really turned off at first by the stereotype of the entj--that for some reason male entj's tend to be these stallions, which tbh intimidated me...cause I have to actually work on my Se. I quickly liked that the energy from an entj man can make the more low simmer vibe of an aloof intp submit to his presence.... now that I have learned so much more about entj men I've found that they're perfect for what is natural to me in every way and it's hot! 🤓
This video was gold. So much good insight
Thanks for this! I love INTPs also, one of my best friends is an INTP, our dynamic is perfect. A weird comment: for some reason though (low Se probably), I find the dress style of the INTP a little lacking haha (I'm sure there's exceptions though!)
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth it is lacking! Lol until there is self awareness on this and an attempt to correct it , this will probably be a problem into adulthood. It isn't always the case for sure and how they grew up can definitely shape this. Personally, i was made fun of as a kid so it was a quick lesson. Also, females tend to learn quicker on this if it matters to them because we tend to have societal pressures to look a certain way. Give us a chance to channel our ENTJ shadow with maturity and turn our demon into an angel and we're quite stylish and structured and the best of both 🥰
Oh gosh... I needed this. I'm pretty sure I'm TeSe though. My introverted mode is a shut off and shut out kinda vibe, and it takes a lot of time to rebuild but I always feel so much more grounded afterwards.
That's a lot of extrovert!
Awesome video - as an ENTJ in my 20s, where weaknesses start to become more and more apparent, this video has helped a lot actually! Thanks for sharing your experience!
INFP tuning in :) Love this!
Thanks so much!
I'm an INTJ and yet this video is helpful for me. Thank you.
Thanks for taking the time to comment this :)
Very good advice. It is very helpful as a leader. Thanks.
We now have a weekly meeting where two of my staff, an INFj and INFP sit me down and teach me what I am feeling and how to connect with others.
It is amazing how they can tell what another person is feeling. People love them.
Its a learning curve but very effective.
I appreciate the videos.
It's all very new to me.
Thanks for you feedback! It's great to hear that this are helpful to you as a leader :)
Lol this reminds me of gavin belson from silicon valley. Its kinda sad about his character but i think he sorta did grow in the end
Wonderful video. I'm an ENTJ who uses playing his own music to connect to how he feels. In being able to play what naturally came to me and intuitively felt right through guitar/piano, I was led to understand through the sound I made what mood I was in, where I sat emotionally on something while it even helped me loosen a bottleneck on feelings I needed to empty. Would recommend they pick up an instrument in their free time. Thanks for the vid. Realizing personally that my entire life growth arc has been summed up in your 5 tips LOL.
"Realising personally that my entire life growth arc has been summed up in your 5 tips LOL"
Haha this is my fav comment of all time. Cheers mate. Definitely motivates me to get back out there and create more content!
Great video, I really appreciate the first tip you gave of really trying to understanding and study emotions through a sort of TE lens. I think that’s a genius way for someone like an ENTJ to learn about their emotions.
Haha cheers! I didn't know about MBTI theory then haha - just reflecting back on some of the idiosyncrasies of being a younger ENTJ!
I had a hard time typing myself as i grew up in a feeler family and naturally developed my Fi more to keep up.
I did many Fi activities like Writing, reading fantasy, playing piano and making music. I loved them all and many stuck with me.
I think they help keep me quite balanced. Though i still struggle with many of the Fi inferior problems (Lack of identity, pushing aside emotions) etc etc, having such activities helped me a lot.
You are such a legend! Thank you for putting this video! Already printed out my emotion chart :)
I really liked the music you recommended, you should totally make a Spotify playlist.
Cool idea! Thanks!
very educational video, thanks! the emotion chart is the best way for me to understand how Fi works. and also as a fellow ENTJ me using "I think" and "i sense/found" before my opinion is a habit to appear more objective and precise ie my decision comes from rational Te analysis rather than feely touchy emotions(lol), rather than decreasing the intensity of my speech. thus I rarely use "I feel" to refer my opinions, unless they're directly asking me how I feel, because honestly, i didn't feel. I try to analyse my emotions thru Te as well, along with Se cues: identify-> analysis the cause and potential real world consequences->what to do about it. I can't bring out my Fi thru Ni "dopamine detox", for I find if I dive too deep into my Ni I become paranoid and stuck in my head like an unhealthy INTJ and doesn't helps me to identify my emotions at all. to me there must be Se cues present in order for me to reflect on Fi.
ps: I think you can do a video on developing our Se or the TeSe loop in the future.
Hey Natural Instinct!
Thanks again for your quality comment! A little hard to read as always lol (perhaps you could improve your grammar!) but once I get past that, there's some real gold in here!
Before I knew about MBTI, I used to have a 'name' for my TeSe loop at parties... - 'party Dan' (super lame, I know!)... That guy was way too wild haha.
I know what you mean by getting stuck on your head if you dive into Ni... You've gotta be super careful... that's why I journal - to give me an Se anchor-point. Actually - if you want to be really effective, listen to positive music AS you dopamine detox :)
How have you experienced your Te-Se loop?
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth i mainly use it in sports. TeSe gives me more spontaneity and adaptability, and more body awareness so that I have better coordination. it has the potential to improve my Fi as well, for I mentioned I understand my Fi when I dive into Se. Anyway I play combat sports and I find Fi can improve your endurance(being in touch with how your body feels) and give you that "killer instinct"(better at knowing how your opponent feels so that i know exactly when to take them down, Connor McGregor, an ESFP, really mastered that). however Fi can potentially hinder my Te performance so I have to find a sweetspot. Overall, I consider TeSe loop as a tool that can be used for both "good" and "bad". although the general public consider this "primary-tertiary" loop as purely negative.
also, the reason why my comment can be hard to read is that I try to cram as much ideas into one sentence as possible, without using a comma or a period. so that I need the least word possible to demonstrate my point. thats really a Te thing, almost compulsory.
It's all about balance. Balance the decision making between logic in a social spectrum and personal values.
As an ENTJ, I’m having so much in common with you wow. It was as if I was the only one.
I journal all the time to reflect with my Ni parent, although I find it to be quite mentally and emotionally exhausting.
I was known for being a really good artist in high school. I think it has to do with the ISFP
subconscious that we have. Kinda addressed by C.S Joseph
You’re right, there is almost nothing “meek” about my personality type 😂
Yes C.S Joseph has some great insights on this, he's helped me understand the cognitive function dynamics a lot!
I recommend reading your Bible daily . I would say I’m at the same growth point and I’m 21 , from learning bible principles :-) 👍🏼 love your content ! mostly to validate me haha .
Very well done. I saw that the video was 10 minutes long, and thought you’d drone on with unnecessary content, but everything you said was useful. Thank you :)
Cheers! There's a lot I cut out actually - future videos? :P
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth that would be great! :)
The term “meek” in the sermon on the mount does not mean “weak”. It means “power under control”. Love your comparison as the sword in the sheath though.
Oh nice - great point! That's really insightful :) Thanks!
Writing is such a deep need for Fi. Bc its introverted, it needs focused attention to come up and it needs an outlet so writing is perfect. And, of course, art. Anyway you can get it, however you want to express it. Again Fi needs an outlet but it also needs to feel connected and integrated with the rest of the self - the other functions. So thats why art is so unique because each individual is going to produce something personal based on their own make-up. But its usually Fi thats going to rally the functions and demand a voice in this arena. You just have to give him one. So if you don't feel very creative or artistic or this is awkward at first then just start with art appreciation. Te is great at this bc you want to go out and take in information. So go to museums, Art galleries, the ballet, whatever. You can just listen to more music and CONSCIOUSLY DECIDE what you like or don't. Can you answe why? Pay more attention to your feelings, likes and dislikes. What offends you about society and why? Its hard to find an Fi that can't answer that question 😆 Anyway, I don't want to tell anyone how to think or feel. Just hope to shed some light on the curiosities here. I'm surprised how happy I am that you are doing this. Most people have bad things to say about Fi bc they think its selfish. But not only will you have more understanding of Fi's but you are purposely developing yourself. Its always nice to see 🌞
I must admit, I was interested and very skeptical when I first read the title of the video.
But I really loved the fact that your ideas resonate with the way I see and understand the world. What you're saying is something that I would actually do because it does make sense.
Anyway, thanks for sharing this, it was completely worth it, and I appreciate it:)
Thanks for the feedback!
THIS IS HELPFUL! THANKYOUUUUU
This is great stuff man thank you
Thanks so much for the feedback
as an ENTJ, i struggle with emotions all my life. i would say seeing psy definitely helps me a lot. reading psychology books too. i still use my head to make a decision rather than my heart. but to better communicate with others and to understand my own emotions, i ask myself to directly deal with them.
As an ENTJ this was very useful. So many people just talk about fucking theory. Practical steps and systems built from legit facts to cause change or the byproduct of success in the real world is the absolute best. Thank you for this. Newly subscribed... still watched this at 2x speed haha
Wouldn't expect anything else from an ENTJ haha!
I recently found out I’m the turbulent entj. Was kinda bummed out about it,but there’s some positives to it and now I get to attack my weaknesses so that’s good. Great video btw. New subscriber here
Hey man your channel is fantastic i would like to see a video of how Te+Ni vs Ni+Te manifests since i know this 2 functions are my primary but unsure which one is the dominant. Thank you very much!
Very informative
Thanks for your feedback! :)
Thanks for putting in the links in the description man
Hey! Thanks for watching the video mate! We'll have to do a collab one time :)
I really needed this, I rushed into a decision too fast without thinking and I'm currenty taking time to reflect on what i need to do better.
👍 Thanks a lot for this video, i hope this advice will work for my goals in the future.
Loving this commentary. Very helpful. To corroborate some of your concepts - personal couples therapy brought up expanding use of “F” words (F = feeling) via emotion wheel which has had a tremendous impact on mitigating the “steamroller” TE syndrome. It’s amazing how much these simple adjustments improve life quality. The dopamine commentary is interesting - the biochemistry behind it is nuts - have you drawn connections to TE? My review of nootropics drew me to l-tyrosine,and phenylalanine (amino acids) which definitely seems to modulate drive.
What a great vacation! Thank you for the excellent suggestions on how we can improve. I am in my 40s and recently started to understand better my personality, having an understanding of my cognitive functions has made a huge difference in my life. I hope all the professionals that share all this helpful information would allow translation into other languages, like Spanish, almost no information in Spanish can be found , I believe allowing captions in Spanish for example it would increase your followers 😃 thank you again for your very informative videos, I love they are short and straight to the point!
Good point! I’ll have to look into how to do that, so more people can access my content :)
Thanks. I will continue trying to use small words
This is GOLD
Thanks, so useful. I love the great energy you have. I really appreciate how you get to the point quickly in this video. It is refreshing, most UA-cam videos I watch stretch so much. Thanks again! Wishing you success and positive energy!
Thanks for this Lina! That’s definitely something I’ve been working on compared with earlier videos - appreciate the feedback :)
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth :) I always wondered about how we ENTJ's usually communicate and think. Sometimes my Te goes overboard and all the thoughts come out before facts/my Se can catch up/check up viability. Maybe a video on optimizing Te-Se would be cool too. :)
The feelings naming part is something I tried doing before, really helped (but not so organized, thanks for the sheet). The songs are awesome, really my specific type of music to get productive/focused and relaxed at the same time. Neovaii's music is quite similar, maybe a bit more Fi though.
Awesome job, hope you keep coming with more videos. :) You really capture our type I think.
Thanks for the feedback - I'm excited to do more videos soon!
Yes - an ENTJ can operate by 'trusting'/step out with what your Ni brings up to your Te... without your Se actually comprehending it!
Maybe that would be 'acting before thinking'! I can relate! A future video for sure :)
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth Cool :) Will be watching it!
great video, thanks!
love your channel
Damn, great video, please keep uploading more stuff. As a ENTJ myself I would love to learn how to control/channel my emotions, I make poor choices when emotions are high(high on the negative side). You have one more subscriber BTW.
I think you have a wonderful energy and i loveee ben böhmer's cercle video, you are right it's really uplifting one
Hey thanks for this feedback! :) Are you an INFJ per chance? Or maybe an ENTJ with a healthy Fi haha
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth Oh wow I'll take the ENTJ with a healthy Fi, sir :)
Well done for your target audience. Very effective and helpful!
Thanks Drew! This is my favourite video I've done... and why I started this channel to be honest!
By the way loved the music 💕
Never clicked faster
Nice
Thank you.
What's your enneagram if you don't mind sharing? I feel like your videos should talk to me but they don't and i think it may because we've got different enneagram types.
Hi, please talk about how to actually start doing things that you know you should be doing but are not doing because you think you will manage it somehow later. Thanks and have a nice day.
Thanks for this! Next video, I'll talk about how to IMPROVE your Te!
It feels like home here I swear !!
Edit: In a good way !!!😂
Welcome!
4:02 so true
You are so charming dude
Hi, just found your channel, like it. I have been typed MF-TeNi-BSPC by the objective personality. They separate all entj into 32 subtypes of which 16 are TeSe and 16 TeNi like us. I have not yet found an exact type twin, that is I am the only ome of my subtype that I know about. Until I found your channel that is. I think you and I are the exact type twins. Any way to get in contact?
Hi, can you please elaborate) how Jung said to not directly develop the function but rather through auxiliary. How does this work? Where is the place in his book i could read about it for myself? Thanks in advance, looking forward to your replies>>>
I'll see if I can find it again! It been a while since I've did the video/did the research for it!
What about the emotional intelligence and entj correlation? In addition while im listening music emotions comes, when music finishes emotions gone.
I feel like what people are THINKING (Te) is very obvious to me... which is not emotional intelligence per-say, but connected... it's a bit weird seeing the world hide this all the time when it's pretty obvious.
Perhaps that's why ENTJs tend to be blunt... they know what you are thinking, so they don't wait around for you to say it.
On the flip side, I can miss the emotional connotations to what I say very easily, so in that sense emotional intelligence is low (Fe/Fi)
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth thank you for your good answer. But i dont wanna believe that eq is low with us. If i will talk about for my self its about the time. Forexample live the life with people like emotionles for a bit(1-6month, 1-2year) then emotions come and strong and intense from everyone around you. Even so strong for your body and mind. Because of that we are escaping from our emotions as far as i see. And from your perspective knowing what people thinks makes me anxietic.
Do you think it's possible to have HIGH levels of Fi as an ENTJ? I recently scored it as my second highest function, following Te. It's contradicting and I'm rather conflicted.
More insight to me (if it helps):
- I'm a queer teenage girl
- I have quite a deep interest for self-development (like learning and researching about mbti and enneagrams)
Questions:
- How will this affect my stack? (Te, Ni, and Se)
- Is it really Fi?
- Are there more ways to measure our functions objectively?
Hey there - a curious one!
A few points to consider
1: What site/test gave this result? It’s often best to create a larger sample size (many different tests) and exclude outliers - many bad test websites out there!
2: Perhaps the MBTI of interpretation does not fit you directly (two or three types might have elements of who you are), but the language of the cognitive functions is helpful.
3: Perhaps Te is your parent function (second) that you are aspire to - so you were biased in your answers to favour it (this would make you an ISTJ or INTJ)
4: Generally, at your age, your top function is developed at the expense of it’s opposite, so you are right - it is quite surprising!
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth Hello! An update from me: for the past several months, I've been working non-stop. I have an organisation to run while being mistreated by my colleagues. Constantly getting the same feedback, my words nitpicked, and getting misinterpreted for the worst.
Repetitively backed up to a corner every conflict we face and my emotions being up for debate were clear signs that my Te getting strained to its breaking point.
I've noticed my functions flipped upside down the past couple of weeks. I'd zone out in class when it's revision week to our final exams. I couldn't bring myself to catch up with every lesson I missed. All of this masked under the reason that "I deserve a break" which was something I wasn't given for half a year.
I have been feeling dysfunctional. I can't tell if I was overusing my Te as an ENTJ causing me to fall into a grip or an ISFP overexerting my Te from the start and finally letting my Fi make the decisions.
I'm now just trying to pick myself back up and revise like its the last thing i'll do, stumbled across this comment when procrastinating and seeking answers for how I've been acting recently.
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth Hiya! not sure if you still remember this case: I typed myself as ESFP and now it made a lot of sense!
The Se-Te can really be misinterpreted as ENTJ. I realised that I was most likely peacocking my Te and Ni then ending up mistyping myself.
I take comments very personally, I feel overly suffocated by generalisations, I never fail to bright up a room.
And once I got over the "party animal" stereotype of ESFPs, I started to really live up to the characteristics of my type. It's been giving me a lot of peace of mind knowing I've found my type, learning more of myself in the process.
How can I be more disciplined in the gym if my personality makes me distracted. Thanks.
Hey :)
What’s your personality type?
My advice: Get a personal trainer. If you can’t motivate yourself to do it, then pay someone to motivate you haha. It also optimises your time at the gym - more efficient use.
That’s actually what I did when I set a goal of getting in shape!
What was the question for us? You never really reiterated it again. 🤷🏽♀️
??
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth 9:36 ideas from what specific parts of our life? Or were you even genuinely interested? You don’t remember asking?
@@marisabond2006 ideas on how to mature as an ENTJ; how to improve your Fi!
Yes, I’m very interested in your ideas! I think it’d be awesome if we could get a discussion happening and share ideas.
Anything that’s worked for you?
Makes a video about ENTJ and talks for 55 seconds about the channel subscribers which has nothing to do with ENTJ. As an ENTJ, we don't like that :)
Haha, thanks for the feedback.
That’s why I put chapters in the video 😉
Also, also, only 27sec if on 2x speed 😏
Great video but you should really credit Jordan Peterson for the interpretation of ‘blessed are the meek...’ otherwise that wouldn’t be very meek of you :)
Yes! I really should've done that! I'm a huge JP fan... though a little worried about any controversy his name might bring to this channel (sadly!)
Let me give you the full story on this one - It was my Dad who first gave me this advice - I'd been talking to him about some conflict I'd had at work and (although successful) he commented on the collateral damage I was incurring . He gave me some advice for when he'd been in politics - even though you might have a 'gun' (Te strength) you don't have to wield it - sometimes it's just enough to show people that you have the gun, sit back and observe... only 'fire' it when it's really needed.
Similar analogy to JPs... but his is more elegant I think!
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth Hey. I’m an ENTJ too so I’m just trolling you. You are right in what you are saying. Interestingly enough my dad said something similar as I keep falling out with people due to conflicts.
@@TeNiPersonalityGrowth I can relate with the conflict at work. But the just sitting back and observe while showing confidence is such a tricky thing. I really have a problem with balance. Either I am too passive and people think they can walk over/take me for granted or I keep wielding 'Te' left and right without caring about conflict. It is really hard art to master.
Thanks !
You’re enfj
If only. Fe would be OP.