Omgosh!! So well said. I am 60 years old and have worked since I was 14. I cannot even begin to tell you the number of times I was made to feel really uncomfortable about something a male boss or co-worker said
My GOD!! why do you NOT have your own TV show ?????????????? You are FUNNY, you are VERY SMART, You have extreme Charisma...... so I just had to AX you that question, WHY DON'T YOU HAVE YOUR OWN TV SHOW???.. (yeah, I said AX..) :D :D :D ...
Philip Y because in order to have a tv show u have to bow down to Satan and play his game. Or be born into a Jewish family and be well connected but they all are anyways.
You are spot on. Thank you. One thing no one talks about is how many men are constantly sexually harassed by women, on a daily basis. I've been one of them and I'm not alone. Talk about that.
Great advice! It's quite apparent in today's digital age which often lacks face to face communications. Many males AND females are lacking in the art of and basic skills of how to flirt appropriately as well. *So may not even grasp the inappropriateness of doing this at all in a career environment.* Worse yet, thier job may be the ONLY place they have to practice thier awkward lack of skills in this area. The educational system in our society is severely lacking to teach even common "How to be a friend" skills. Like common etiquette, values, morals, etc. So many broken homes now too! Quite difficult for a young boys or girls to see healthy examples of how to treat one another... You get the idea. I pray single parents take this issue seriously and supply thier children ample opportunities to see the opposite sex behaving appropriately towards thier parent for reference and life skills example. Thank you for taking the time to spread your wisdom!
My mother, who was an intelligent woman like you and also an ICU nurse, used the same method you described in your video. She also received excellent reviews from those same men, one of whom told me what a fine person my mother was as well as a nurse who should have been a doctor. Character trumps lack of character.
So glad you’re consistently posting videos! Thank you for this one! What seems like common sense and logic is somehow a problem with people. You are completely right. Love hearing your 2¢. Peace and love!!
Love you! Just came across your videos. Your videos seem well thought out, insightful, intelligent and even amusing at times. I have decided to subscribe, not only to hear what you say but to remind me to contemplate these issues and to really think about how I feel. Thanks!
I love your videos! I haven't been watching them for very long but, much like this one, in a lot of them it seems as though the core message is "Use your common sense!". How difficult is that? Apparently more difficult than I realized, hence the need for your videos. Keep up the good work. Your videos are invaluable!
Great video. In your advice to women, some people just don't have the right words to say when they are in an uncomfortable moment. They want to get out of the situation as quickly as possible, so rather than say something "disarming" they might laugh uncomfortably. Unfortunately, some men would take this laughter as encouragement, and so the cycle begins. Excellent advice to both men and women. Keep up the good work!
I really loved your thought on moving it along by letting someone keep their dignity. I think that is what we really want to do for another human. Its about being confident, not a shrinking violet or a drama queen.
My husband has been sexually harassed several times by men and women! This is not just a man doing this to women women do it all the time to man I have done it to man
The issue with sexual harassment is not the men but the double standard. Case in point two people did sexual acts of sexual harassment on this one person but yet this one person only cried wolf on one of them and exonerate the other. Simply preference. Another case in point would be back then it was ssdd but now it's more of an opportunity to cash in or other. The problem with sexual harassment is not the gender but the person allegating. There's no standard it's a free-for-all and can be interpreted in unlimited ways based on the Accuser(s). The problem with sexual harassment is there's no formality so it's anyone's call and although it may and may not be true it is for the Accuser. They have the power to crucify who they want and exonerate who they please. "Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely* Today's feminist as defined in 2017
Elated to see you've posted another video! It's funny how I got into bed last night and a video of your's popped into my mind and then I thought how much I wish you posted more. KEEP POSTING. We love your opinion.
Brianna Bayon NOT ALL THE TIME! SHE WAS DEAD WRONG IN THIS VIDEO! SOMEONE CALLED ME SEXY ONE TIME AND THAT CONSTITUTES HARASSMENT? I DON'T THINK SO AND NEITHER DID MY WIFE,DAUGHTERS OR MOTHER!
I too disagree. I don't think it constitutes sexual harrassment. I'd be hella flattered if I received that compliment from a coworker, and hell, I have a fiance! But that being said, although I may disagree with the woman in the video (gosh, I can't believe I love her videos so much and I don't even know her name!) on some points, I still adore the content she posts.
The best way to avoid sexual inappropriate matters as it relates to the workplace, don't discuss sexual activities, and keep as many job options in case you have to simply leave.
You are spot on. I know that there have been numerous times when women have had to endure the ignorant advances of men. (I was one of those women.)But I have seen instances where a man may ask a coworker if she would like go to the theatre to see a play or a concert. She makes an excuse not to go with him at his first attempt. So, he thinks that maybe by offering to take her to dinner would be more appealing to her. Instead, she declares him to be a sexual harasser. Some women like to play the "hard to get" game & this can be confusing for today's men since it's from out of an old playbook. My question is, how can men or women know where to draw the line? Is an innocent flirt too much to endure from someone who would like to get to know you? Do people not know the difference between someone asking for a date & someone who just wants to take advantage of you? Nowadays, I wonder how difficult it must be for people to use a modicum of intelligence or reasoning when it comes to discernment. I think part of it has to do with the education systems teaching students WHAT to think, not HOW to think. Dr. Blair, what do you think?
Suzanne Best You make some very good points, and raise very thought provoking questions. I don’t have any succinct answers. I think part of the problem is that people vary in their sensitivities. There are some women who might be offended if a man winks at them, whereas other women would just shrug it off, or just take it in stride and not be offended at all. Honestly, I’m in the latter group. Men just have to be really dialed into the person they’re approaching, and be sensitive to how their advances are being received, and they need to retreat and/or apologize if they sense any type of apprehension or recoiling on the part of the woman.
Hey, doc. Just wanted to give you some feedback, because you seem to not only be open-minded enough to consider viewpoints you don't necessarily share, but also to even enjoy this sort of intellectual gymnastics (a vanishingly rare predilection these days). So, while I pretty much agree with your social and political views--well, actually, I completely agree with everything I've heard you say in these areas--I am slightly puzzled by your views on the connection between healing and faith. I mean, mind/body connection, sure. The power of positive thinking, ditto. But, there are obviously limits to this sort of thing...or at least to our current understanding and (consequently) our ability to heal ourselves using these largely latent and unexplored "powers." Anyone who considers the implications of the placebo effect (and I do mean anyone, not just freakish cats in psychoneuroimmunology) will understand that there's an extremely powerful and direct connection between belief and efficacy of treatment, for example. And not to rain on your parade, truly, or to sow doubt where it can do harm, but isn't it just possible that the healing that you and so many others have experienced and which you attribute to the agency of and/or active intercession by the Supreme Being is actually due to your belief in both the existence of that Force-in-the-Universe and the efficacy of the plan you carry out in His name? The reason I ask is not out of some idle curiosity; both of my sisters have died from different cancers in the last two years, my very, very much loved sister-in-law is fighting for her life right now from yet another form of cancer (don't know what kind of secret nuclear waste dump is hidden there in northern Illinois), my good friend is barely human anymore, so ravaged is he by MS...and I've been disabled myself for 12 years now. Now, I do know something about that power you've tapped into--by refusing to accept either the diagnosis I've been given or the very real limitations I face with regard to my strength, stamina, mobility, etc, I manage to be far more active than I have any right to expect to be. But I can't stubbornly ignore the pain away: there's only so far that sheer bloody-mindedness will get you. And for many of us, faith isn't really a viable option, as organized religion has generally been a right vicious, hypocritical bastard. Since we no secular methodology for faith healing, what does that leave those of us poor in spirit and in the flesh?
Doctor -- Thanks for another fine video. But what do you think about the distinction between "sexual harassment" and "sexual attention," which some of the commenters here are raising? Surely not all "sexual attention" should be considered "sexual harassment," since it is obvious that some forms of "sexual attention" are actually wanted and some are not, correct? For example, an older male friend of mine who is financially well-off recently had (what he thought would be) a purely "professional" lunch meeting with a young female colleague, to discuss her possible career moves. She showed up for the lunch wearing a super-short skirt, a tight and low-cut blouse, bright red lipstick, tons of make-up on her face and eyes, and ridiculously high heels. He thought that her overall appearance was unprofessional, since it was plain that SHE was the one "sexualizing" their meeting. In fact, HE found this offensive. Was he supposed to blithely pretend that she didn't know exactly what she was doing, and how she would appear to him, when she made the intentional choice to dress in this inappropriate "sexy" manner?
I have had women touch me who shouldn't have many times and sometimes multiple times over multiple occasions by the same woman. For a man tho it's often not a big deal because the woman is normally just messing with you. She is just being an imp. I just make a joke and/or laugh it off. When a man does it tho it's normally the other way around-he is testing the waters, (inappropriately of course).
"...then I gotta make another video for YOU!" Hilarious! You're a funny lady. If the pedes thing doesn't work out, you can always try comedy. ;>) I have another solution to the problem. Body cams. Honestly, it's getting to the point that we will ALL have to wear them for self-protection. Women are harassed, men are (rarely) falsely acccused, cops hassle EVERYBODY. Within I'd say fifteen years at most, body cams will be standard, they'll be fashion accessories.
In this day and age, there is ZERO shame for coming forward. There is in fact, I believe, MORE pressure and negative influence on women who DON'T come forward immediately. I don't mean to be cruel, but for the most part, these allegations are from decades ago, and I will agree that at that time, what you describe was the case, but not any longer. Times have changed, and it's high time the rhetoric and the narrative catch up. In my estimation the dialogue is behind by perhaps 30 years, maybe less. Also, with the scenario you described, there needs to be much more context. Were you both single? Were either of you ever flirty at any time? Your story, while cringe-worthy, is not sexual harassment, it was an awkward attempt at flirting, which you handled perfectly. We need to be honest about this sort of thing, otherwise, our species is doomed, couples will never meet, fall in love, or have kids. Wrong is wrong... but we need to be adults and stop demonizing men for every misstep, or the MGTOW movement will spread out of sheer necessity, and we'll begin segregation and modern ... I'll call them JILL CROW laws. to "protect" women. Don't think that can happen? It already is starting. Our civilization is balancing on the razors edge, and this is just one more issue that threatens humanity falling into the stone age again, or worse.
(I cut off my first comment before I was through, sorry) I used to laugh it off and move on because I couldn’t afford to lose my job. I had one boss who said to me, “love the dress, very sexy. Now you just need to wear 6 inch stiletto heels to top it off”. I said to him: thank you for the fashion advice but wouldn’t I look rediculous having to duck under doorways (I was 5’11” at the time) can we now have a serious conversation about what I came in here for? Some men are just jerks and you can’t change stupid. Love your video!!
Mindy Linsdau. And how is that harassment when he only said it once and it was a compliment? Did you not address it? You said u did with no mention of a repeat conversation. That is not harassment by any means. You might as well try to sue like the rest of the gold diggers. This is way out of hand. PC CULTURE AT IT'S BEST. I think we should not be so sensitive unless it's founded. If a woman says she likes my clothes n they make my ass look good is that harassment? NO! DEFINITELY NOT! NO! NO! NO! IF I'M WRONG PLEASE TELL ME WHY. THANKS
I agree with your initial response to your colleague but, at a later date, I would find out what the sexual harassment policy is at your workplace and have someone speak to this guy.
Fiona... you are SO funny and SO smart but you've GOT to SLOW DOWN! Your brain goes at about 120 MPH! Also, it's ok under certain circumstances to come onto women (or men) sexually. (Like we all have to talk like were talking to our sisters or mothers! lol)
I'm feeling proud of myself. These were things I began to teach my son from a very early age as they became appropriate. A product of a workplace rape by a superior, I was determined he knew his place in a society with women. (No, he didn't know how he was conceived until adulthood.)
I think the woman movie stars that spent 20+ years in the business and made their money and coming out now is crap. They are not brave. They let all those women behind them become victims too. What now you made more money than you can spend and world wide fame achieved and nothing to lose, you're going to come out?
Someone told you that you were sexy? At work? And then he dropped it when you didn't show any interest? Were you single? Was he? I don't think you've told us enough to show us the problem here. You seem like you're trying to say that work colleagues can never be permitted to be attracted to one another. The unfortunate reality is that most people meet their significant other through work because that is how most people spend most of their lives - working. If people followed your rules, there wouldn't be many couples. The problem is never that men express interest in women, and that sometimes the woman appreciates the overture and sometimes she doesn't - that's still the way the world works. The problem is with men who use their power to FORCE women to have relationships with them, or who don't have power but unreasonably persist after a woman has made it clear that she is not interested. The Harvey Weinsteins of the world are few. They make it seem like most women face horrors that they don't face. Women who face what you did (barring more details to your story that you didn't include) should chalk it up to living in a world where a man always has to take the chance of expressing interest in a woman before he can be sure that she has any interest in him.
Leonardo di C3PO Of course colleagues are allowed to be attracted to one another. But it should be expressed at the proper time, under the proper circumstances. In the middle of a medical consultation is not appropriate. If men, and women, spent more time thinking with their brains and not their genitals this would all be much less of a problem.
+Susan Jordan So, if you really want to help, map out all of the circumstances where it would be ok for a work colleague to express his interest in a co-worker. However, I think you'll find it to be a nearly impossible task. Every workplace would be different. Even if you could get that far, it would be impossible to communicate all of these expectations to everyone. What is more practical and works better are more simple rules For men, try to consider whether your advance might embarrass the woman you're interested in. If it will, you won't likely get a positive response, even if she's a little interested. For women, remember that men never know if you are interested or not, so try to say no in the most considerate way possible in the circumstances.
Leonardo di C3PO Outside of the workplace. It can't be that difficult to speak to the person they are interested in after work hours. Catch them outside the building, etc. Then it would be less likely to be misinterpreted. I do agree with your suggestions for men and women. They make a lot of sense.
+Susan Jordan There is no perfect place to approach a woman - if it turns out she's not that interested. If you catch her outside the building, you could end up looking like a stalker, and she may feel more vulnerable without the security of being somewhere among her friends or colleagues. Men can be misinterpreted (or correctly interpreted) whenever they misread the situation between themselves and a woman that they are interested in. I don't think women can truly appreciate the perspective of men who are expected to "make the first move" in most relationships. Getting rejected will always be awkward wherever it happens and regardless of why it happens. However, people need to be able to distinguish between feeling awkward and feeling threatened. It's the latter that is the foundation of sexual harassment. There are still no real rules in war or love. In both, you just try to keep the casualties to a minimum.
I usually agree with the stuff you put out, but this time I would opine that it is only sexual harrassment when the woman isn't interested in the man. When she's interested, the man can say whatever to her, whenever.......even in the conference room. And the board would be green.
Rat Bat Nuff Time. How would ever find a girlfriend? Not saying be inappropriate but you have to hit on a woman to see if she's interested. This is spiraling out of control!
Adam Pauley yes, it is. Unfortunately, most women won't go for the grounded, serious guy who is genuinely interested and will appreciate them. It's always thr the delinquent players who will hurt them and they never understand why.
That's good but if women were obedient to God they'd stay at home where their place is. Every position a woman fills is a waste of space because it is a man's job to be out in the world providing. This way we would avoid all the mess we are in: lusting, cheating, affairs, stress, and all nonsense...
I hope you are joking, but I fear that you're not. It is possible to be obedient to God without being subservient to men. Unfortunately it is just not possible for all married women to get to stay at home and play wifey. God created woman to work beside man and be his helpmate. If a person, man or woman, is going to give in to temptation and lust, it's not just going to happen in the workplace.
This exactly! If men obeyed God and respected and protected women physically and financially where their place is tilling the ground or working at the office, heavy machinery.
Omgosh!! So well said. I am 60 years old and have worked since I was 14. I cannot even begin to tell you the number of times I was made to feel really uncomfortable about something a male boss or co-worker said
You are so spot-on and so logical. Thank you for these views and keep them coming please.
My GOD!! why do you NOT have your own TV show ?????????????? You are FUNNY, you are VERY SMART, You have extreme Charisma...... so I just had to AX you that question, WHY DON'T YOU HAVE YOUR OWN TV SHOW???.. (yeah, I said AX..) :D :D :D ...
Philip Y because in order to have a tv show u have to bow down to Satan and play his game. Or be born into a Jewish family and be well connected but they all are anyways.
Philip Y [ what's to say she doesn't?]
i agree. she is smarter, funnier and INFINATELY more attractive than oprah and ellen combined.
I really love your videos. I could just listen to you for hours, you're so honest, logical and straight forward. Thank you for sharing!
You are spot on. Thank you. One thing no one talks about is how many men are constantly sexually harassed by women, on a daily basis. I've been one of them and I'm not alone. Talk about that.
Great advice!
It's quite apparent in today's digital age which often lacks face to face communications. Many males AND females are lacking in the art of and basic skills of how to flirt appropriately as well. *So may not even grasp the inappropriateness of doing this at all in a career environment.* Worse yet, thier job may be the ONLY place they have to practice thier awkward lack of skills in this area. The educational system in our society is severely lacking to teach even common "How to be a friend" skills. Like common etiquette, values, morals, etc. So many broken homes now too! Quite difficult for a young boys or girls to see healthy examples of how to treat one another... You get the idea. I pray single parents take this issue seriously and supply thier children ample opportunities to see the opposite sex behaving appropriately towards thier parent for reference and life skills example.
Thank you for taking the time to spread your wisdom!
My mother, who was an intelligent woman like you and also an ICU nurse, used the same method you described in your video. She also received excellent reviews from those same men, one of whom told me what a fine person my mother was as well as a nurse who should have been a doctor. Character trumps lack of character.
Wonderful video, enjoy your enlightened and fair approach to issues, thank you very much
Cathy G. Thanks for your kind comments!
You are so funny, sophisticated, and intelligent. It is really interesting watching your opinions.
3 points for use of the word “sequelae” in a casual video:)
So glad you’re consistently posting videos! Thank you for this one! What seems like common sense and logic is somehow a problem with people. You are completely right. Love hearing your 2¢. Peace and love!!
Love you! Just came across your videos. Your videos seem well thought out, insightful, intelligent and even amusing at times. I have decided to subscribe, not only to hear what you say but to remind me to contemplate these issues and to really think about how I feel. Thanks!
You are great on the tube and your messages are so on point keep them coming, it needs to be said and you do it very well,all the best. Cheers!!!
I love your videos! I haven't been watching them for very long but, much like this one, in a lot of them it seems as though the core message is "Use your common sense!". How difficult is that? Apparently more difficult than I realized, hence the need for your videos. Keep up the good work. Your videos are invaluable!
Great video. In your advice to women, some people just don't have the right words to say when they are in an uncomfortable moment. They want to get out of the situation as quickly as possible, so rather than say something "disarming" they might laugh uncomfortably. Unfortunately, some men would take this laughter as encouragement, and so the cycle begins. Excellent advice to both men and women. Keep up the good work!
I really loved your thought on moving it along by letting someone keep their dignity. I think that is what we really want to do for another human. Its about being confident, not a shrinking violet or a drama queen.
My husband has been sexually harassed several times by men and women! This is not just a man doing this to women women do it all the time to man I have done it to man
The issue with sexual harassment is not the men but the double standard.
Case in point two people did sexual acts of sexual harassment on this one person but yet this one person only cried wolf on one of them and exonerate the other. Simply preference.
Another case in point would be back then it was ssdd but now it's more of an opportunity to cash in or other.
The problem with sexual harassment is not the gender but the person allegating. There's no standard it's a free-for-all and can be interpreted in unlimited ways based on the Accuser(s).
The problem with sexual harassment is there's no formality so it's anyone's call and although it may and may not be true it is for the Accuser. They have the power to crucify who they want and exonerate who they please.
"Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely*
Today's feminist as defined in 2017
Well said. Thank you for making time to be on UA-cam.
Elated to see you've posted another video! It's funny how I got into bed last night and a video of your's popped into my mind and then I thought how much I wish you posted more.
KEEP POSTING. We love your opinion.
Brianna Bayon NOT ALL THE TIME! SHE WAS DEAD WRONG IN THIS VIDEO! SOMEONE CALLED ME SEXY ONE TIME AND THAT CONSTITUTES HARASSMENT? I DON'T THINK SO AND NEITHER DID MY WIFE,DAUGHTERS OR MOTHER!
I too disagree. I don't think it constitutes sexual harrassment. I'd be hella flattered if I received that compliment from a coworker, and hell, I have a fiance! But that being said, although I may disagree with the woman in the video (gosh, I can't believe I love her videos so much and I don't even know her name!) on some points, I still adore the content she posts.
I really love your video . thank you
That's really good, well thought out, common sense advice to help both women and men. It also does not fuel gender warfare. Well done and thank you!
Roy Wane3 Thanks!
The best way to avoid sexual inappropriate matters as it relates to the workplace, don't discuss sexual activities, and keep as many job options in case you have to simply leave.
Love how you word things.
You are so cool and above all you are very intelligent lady. Hats off!
I love you and support you! don't stop sharing. You are amazing I wish I could meet you.
You are spot on. I know that there have been numerous times when women have had to endure the ignorant advances of men. (I was one of those women.)But I have seen instances where a man may ask a coworker if she would like go to the theatre to see a play or a concert. She makes an excuse not to go with him at his first attempt. So, he thinks that maybe by offering to take her to dinner would be more appealing to her. Instead, she declares him to be a sexual harasser. Some women like to play the "hard to get" game & this can be confusing for today's men since it's from out of an old playbook. My question is, how can men or women know where to draw the line? Is an innocent flirt too much to endure from someone who would like to get to know you? Do people not know the difference between someone asking for a date & someone who just wants to take advantage of you? Nowadays, I wonder how difficult it must be for people to use a modicum of intelligence or reasoning when it comes to discernment. I think part of it has to do with the education systems teaching students WHAT to think, not HOW to think. Dr. Blair, what do you think?
Suzanne Best You make some very good points, and raise very thought provoking questions. I don’t have any succinct answers. I think part of the problem is that people vary in their sensitivities. There are some women who might be offended if a man winks at them, whereas other women would just shrug it off, or just take it in stride and not be offended at all. Honestly, I’m in the latter group. Men just have to be really dialed into the person they’re approaching, and be sensitive to how their advances are being received, and they need to retreat and/or apologize if they sense any type of apprehension or recoiling on the part of the woman.
Arrrgh! I fear never getting another compliment again! Lol
awesomeness
Make another video of the sister thing you said, your reaction is funny though. My first video was why can't black people pronounce the word ask.
Hey, doc.
Just wanted to give you some feedback, because you seem to not only be open-minded enough to consider viewpoints you don't necessarily share, but also to even enjoy this sort of intellectual gymnastics (a vanishingly rare predilection these days). So, while I pretty much agree with your social and political views--well, actually, I completely agree with everything I've heard you say in these areas--I am slightly puzzled by your views on the connection between healing and faith.
I mean, mind/body connection, sure. The power of positive thinking, ditto. But, there are obviously limits to this sort of thing...or at least to our current understanding and (consequently) our ability to heal ourselves using these largely latent and unexplored "powers."
Anyone who considers the implications of the placebo effect (and I do mean anyone, not just freakish cats in psychoneuroimmunology) will understand that there's an extremely powerful and direct connection between belief and efficacy of treatment, for example. And not to rain on your parade, truly, or to sow doubt where it can do harm, but isn't it just possible that the healing that you and so many others have experienced and which you attribute to the agency of and/or active intercession by the Supreme Being is actually due to your belief in both the existence of that Force-in-the-Universe and the efficacy of the plan you carry out in His name?
The reason I ask is not out of some idle curiosity; both of my sisters have died from different cancers in the last two years, my very, very much loved sister-in-law is fighting for her life right now from yet another form of cancer (don't know what kind of secret nuclear waste dump is hidden there in northern Illinois), my good friend is barely human anymore, so ravaged is he by MS...and I've been disabled myself for 12 years now.
Now, I do know something about that power you've tapped into--by refusing to accept either the diagnosis I've been given or the very real limitations I face with regard to my strength, stamina, mobility, etc, I manage to be far more active than I have any right to expect to be. But I can't stubbornly ignore the pain away: there's only so far that sheer bloody-mindedness will get you.
And for many of us, faith isn't really a viable option, as organized religion has generally been a right vicious, hypocritical bastard. Since we no secular methodology for faith healing, what does that leave those of us poor in spirit and in the flesh?
Doctor -- Thanks for another fine video. But what do you think about the distinction between "sexual harassment" and "sexual attention," which some of the commenters here are raising? Surely not all "sexual attention" should be considered "sexual harassment," since it is obvious that some forms of "sexual attention" are actually wanted and some are not, correct? For example, an older male friend of mine who is financially well-off recently had (what he thought would be) a purely "professional" lunch meeting with a young female colleague, to discuss her possible career moves. She showed up for the lunch wearing a super-short skirt, a tight and low-cut blouse, bright red lipstick, tons of make-up on her face and eyes, and ridiculously high heels. He thought that her overall appearance was unprofessional, since it was plain that SHE was the one "sexualizing" their meeting. In fact, HE found this offensive. Was he supposed to blithely pretend that she didn't know exactly what she was doing, and how she would appear to him, when she made the intentional choice to dress in this inappropriate "sexy" manner?
I love you! Thank you ❤️
Everything you said was dead on right, I couldn't agree more
I have had women touch me who shouldn't have many times and sometimes multiple times over multiple occasions by the same woman. For a man tho it's often not a big deal because the woman is normally just messing with you. She is just being an imp. I just make a joke and/or laugh it off.
When a man does it tho it's normally the other way around-he is testing the waters, (inappropriately of course).
"...then I gotta make another video for YOU!"
Hilarious! You're a funny lady. If the pedes thing doesn't work out, you can always try comedy. ;>)
I have another solution to the problem. Body cams. Honestly, it's getting to the point that we will ALL have to wear them for self-protection. Women are harassed, men are (rarely) falsely acccused, cops hassle EVERYBODY. Within I'd say fifteen years at most, body cams will be standard, they'll be fashion accessories.
In this day and age, there is ZERO shame for coming forward. There is in fact, I believe, MORE pressure and negative influence on women who DON'T come forward immediately. I don't mean to be cruel, but for the most part, these allegations are from decades ago, and I will agree that at that time, what you describe was the case, but not any longer. Times have changed, and it's high time the rhetoric and the narrative catch up. In my estimation the dialogue is behind by perhaps 30 years, maybe less. Also, with the scenario you described, there needs to be much more context. Were you both single? Were either of you ever flirty at any time? Your story, while cringe-worthy, is not sexual harassment, it was an awkward attempt at flirting, which you handled perfectly. We need to be honest about this sort of thing, otherwise, our species is doomed, couples will never meet, fall in love, or have kids. Wrong is wrong... but we need to be adults and stop demonizing men for every misstep, or the MGTOW movement will spread out of sheer necessity, and we'll begin segregation and modern ... I'll call them JILL CROW laws. to "protect" women. Don't think that can happen? It already is starting. Our civilization is balancing on the razors edge, and this is just one more issue that threatens humanity falling into the stone age again, or worse.
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(I cut off my first comment before I was through, sorry) I used to laugh it off and move on because I couldn’t afford to lose my job. I had one boss who said to me, “love the dress, very sexy. Now you just need to wear 6 inch stiletto heels to top it off”. I said to him: thank you for the fashion advice but wouldn’t I look rediculous having to duck under doorways (I was 5’11” at the time) can we now have a serious conversation about what I came in here for? Some men are just jerks and you can’t change stupid. Love your video!!
Mindy Linsdau. And how is that harassment when he only said it once and it was a compliment? Did you not address it? You said u did with no mention of a repeat conversation. That is not harassment by any means. You might as well try to sue like the rest of the gold diggers. This is way out of hand. PC CULTURE AT IT'S BEST. I think we should not be so sensitive unless it's founded. If a woman says she likes my clothes n they make my ass look good is that harassment? NO! DEFINITELY NOT! NO! NO! NO! IF I'M WRONG PLEASE TELL ME WHY. THANKS
I agree with your initial response to your colleague but, at a later date, I would find out what the sexual harassment policy is at your workplace and have someone speak to this guy.
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I never liked Matt Lauer. His interviews sucked and he was so obviously 'in-love' with himself.
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there is a sea change due in regards to this from both sexes
You're a Dr. you had to say that. You had his life in that persons hands.
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LOL "...then I gotta make another video for you..."
Fiona... you are SO funny and SO smart but you've GOT to SLOW DOWN! Your brain goes at about 120 MPH!
Also, it's ok under certain circumstances to come onto women (or men) sexually. (Like we all have to talk like were talking to our sisters or mothers! lol)
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Lady.....if you weren’t married. I would definitely like to meet you. You and I think alike.
What a great, simple way to think about what constitutes as harassment or not. Such a good video!
I'm feeling proud of myself. These were things I began to teach my son from a very early age as they became appropriate. A product of a workplace rape by a superior, I was determined he knew his place in a society with women. (No, he didn't know how he was conceived until adulthood.)
Ignominious......hmm..is that a word?
I didn’t
Thank god for Diamond and Silk. Sensible women.
What do they have to do with the topic?
I think the woman movie stars that spent 20+ years in the business and made their money and coming out now is crap. They are not brave. They let all those women behind them become victims too. What now you made more money than you can spend and world wide fame achieved and nothing to lose, you're going to come out?
Someone told you that you were sexy? At work? And then he dropped it when you didn't show any interest? Were you single? Was he? I don't think you've told us enough to show us the problem here. You seem like you're trying to say that work colleagues can never be permitted to be attracted to one another. The unfortunate reality is that most people meet their significant other through work because that is how most people spend most of their lives - working. If people followed your rules, there wouldn't be many couples. The problem is never that men express interest in women, and that sometimes the woman appreciates the overture and sometimes she doesn't - that's still the way the world works. The problem is with men who use their power to FORCE women to have relationships with them, or who don't have power but unreasonably persist after a woman has made it clear that she is not interested. The Harvey Weinsteins of the world are few. They make it seem like most women face horrors that they don't face. Women who face what you did (barring more details to your story that you didn't include) should chalk it up to living in a world where a man always has to take the chance of expressing interest in a woman before he can be sure that she has any interest in him.
Leonardo di C3PO Of course colleagues are allowed to be attracted to one another. But it should be expressed at the proper time, under the proper circumstances. In the middle of a medical consultation is not appropriate. If men, and women, spent more time thinking with their brains and not their genitals this would all be much less of a problem.
+Susan Jordan So, if you really want to help, map out all of the circumstances where it would be ok for a work colleague to express his interest in a co-worker. However, I think you'll find it to be a nearly impossible task. Every workplace would be different. Even if you could get that far, it would be impossible to communicate all of these expectations to everyone. What is more practical and works better are more simple rules For men, try to consider whether your advance might embarrass the woman you're interested in. If it will, you won't likely get a positive response, even if she's a little interested. For women, remember that men never know if you are interested or not, so try to say no in the most considerate way possible in the circumstances.
Leonardo di C3PO Outside of the workplace. It can't be that difficult to speak to the person they are interested in after work hours. Catch them outside the building, etc. Then it would be less likely to be misinterpreted.
I do agree with your suggestions for men and women. They make a lot of sense.
+Susan Jordan There is no perfect place to approach a woman - if it turns out she's not that interested. If you catch her outside the building, you could end up looking like a stalker, and she may feel more vulnerable without the security of being somewhere among her friends or colleagues. Men can be misinterpreted (or correctly interpreted) whenever they misread the situation between themselves and a woman that they are interested in. I don't think women can truly appreciate the perspective of men who are expected to "make the first move" in most relationships. Getting rejected will always be awkward wherever it happens and regardless of why it happens. However, people need to be able to distinguish between feeling awkward and feeling threatened. It's the latter that is the foundation of sexual harassment. There are still no real rules in war or love. In both, you just try to keep the casualties to a minimum.
Leonardo di C3PO Good points. I still believe that in the middle of a medical consultation, or any other at-work activity, isn't the best time.
I usually agree with the stuff you put out, but this time I would opine that it is only sexual harrassment when the woman isn't interested in the man. When she's interested, the man can say whatever to her, whenever.......even in the conference room. And the board would be green.
Rat Bat Nuff Time. How would ever find a girlfriend? Not saying be inappropriate but you have to hit on a woman to see if she's interested. This is spiraling out of control!
Adam Pauley yes, it is. Unfortunately, most women won't go for the grounded, serious guy who is genuinely interested and will appreciate them. It's always thr the delinquent players who will hurt them and they never understand why.
Sadly, not all countries will have law very enforced on sexual harassment, usually in corrupted countries.
That's good but if women were obedient to God they'd stay at home where their place is.
Every position a woman fills is a waste of space because it is a man's job to be out in the world providing.
This way we would avoid all the mess we are in: lusting, cheating, affairs, stress, and all nonsense...
Adriana Morawietz LOL!
I hope you are joking, but I fear that you're not. It is possible to be obedient to God without being subservient to men. Unfortunately it is just not possible for all married women to get to stay at home and play wifey. God created woman to work beside man and be his helpmate. If a person, man or woman, is going to give in to temptation and lust, it's not just going to happen in the workplace.
This exactly! If men obeyed God and respected and protected women physically and financially where their place is tilling the ground or working at the office, heavy machinery.
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