Paraplegic - the first two years
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- Опубліковано 4 жов 2024
- A recent event prompted me to reflect on how far I've come since my accident, how I've expanded my comfort zone, and how far I can go, given the perspective of zooming out.
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I was rude to you years ago. Everyone liked you, I didn’t understand why I felt so bitter and negative towards you at the time but a couple of years later I did a bit of reflecting (always good to reflect!) the penny dropped and I realised I actually didn’t have anything against you, I was just jealous of you. I was jealous of your impulsiveness, I was jealous of your adventures, I was jealous of your intelligence and your amazing people skills. I was even jealous of your positivity.
Insecurity is one of the most destructive things, it takes on many forms such as envy, jealousy, anger, pride, arrogance and more.
About 3 years ago all the jealousy I had for you had disappeared and it was replaced with respect and admiration. You didn’t know it but you’ve actually helped me become a better person. I’ve changed the negatives into positive.
Now it pains me to see you like this, I can’t believe you had that accident. But you still have that amazing smile and that uncanny positivity.
You are a great person Fredo,
Keep going 🙌🏻
What a raw, honest comment, I'd love to know who you are! Don't feel too bad about being rude to me, I've been rude to people too, we're all human. What's important is we learn from these experiences, which by the sounds of it you certainly have. I wish you all the best, but please do share your identity, as the mystery is painful! ❤️✌️
@@FreddotheWheelchairGuy I’m Steve Shelton, we worked for a bit at banana wharf. It was only a couple of months, most of the time we got on fine but back then I was grouchy and it was a rough patch because I was dropping out at uni and I didn’t know what my future would be. Thankfully I feel like I have a purpose now 😌. You made me a lovely drawing of a bass clef in the form of a moon, and a tree made up of musical notes 🥰. I still have that drawing.
I saw you commented on Lav’s status the other day, and since finding you I’ve been tuning into your podcasts 😄
@@steveshelton3153 STEVE! I remember you dude. I remember drawing that picture for you too. I also remember you misinterpreting a text message when I was trying to warn you the head chef was in a bad mood. I guess you were going through a tough time back then.
We bumped heads a bit, but I always liked you. I'm glad to hear you have a purpose now and you're in a better headspace.
I had no idea you were jealous of me, I just kinda thought you were a bit grumpy.
I'm really glad to hear you have turned a corner and also very humbled to hear I made an impact on you back then.
Also, really happy you are enjoying the podcasts too! Man, this comment thread has actually been incredible. Thank you so much for your message. It took a lot to be that honest and I admire it. Peace and Love to you man ❤️✌️
@@FreddotheWheelchairGuy haha, it’s very weird to think of me as grumpy ahaha but times were different back then I guess. I think this is why I wanted to get it off my chest, when I responded to your text, that was your last day so I never had the chance to make it up to you. anyways I’ve added you on Facebook so we can catch up properly soon :)
It was a phase I was going through, my confidence was knocked (failing uni) but now days if I were anymore laid back - I’d fall over 😂😂😂.
Peace and love to you and your family ✌🏻🍻❤️
Wow. So much honesty. Love u guys
You’re owning your new life , from not wanting to live to relearning & appreciating what life is about, & reminding others. I 💜 you.
Also missing your poo updates , that was a great era for your blogs
Haha - I can continue the poo updates if it’s what the people want ❤️✌️🥰
It’s truly amazing to see what you have achieved in the last 2 years but it seems your mental health has taken leaps and bounds. I love your honesty about your real feelings and how u don’t try to sugarcoat it . You have made me realise I have devoted the last 10 years to my children and now it’s time to have a look at the goals I lost along the way .... thank u I really needed to hear that xxx
Wow thank you, again, lovely kind words and really helps me focus on creating content that can help others on their journey, wheelchair or not. ❤️✌️
@@FreddotheWheelchairGuy I was just reading some of the replies and didn’t realise that your earlier vlogs were mainly for family and friends.. I got watching these short stories on how people ended up disabled and it always finished with them becoming inspirational talkers , transferring around their specially made units ( lucky for them really) with ease and always positive. Then I saw yours .... long beard , hair stuck a mile high bawling your eyes out saying you didn’t want to live this life and I have never been more shocked to see someone showing their true real pain and it hurt but it was also beautiful... I feel almost invested in your ability to keep moving forward even though I have never met you . I have learnt a lot about what it means to be real and one day if u become an inspirational talker and come to Australia I insist we meet for a beer
@@Kenzie_McIntyre what another wonderful comment, thank you so much 😁I don't really want to be an inspirational speaker, but if you can find inspiration form these videos, then great ❤️✌️
Freddo.... there aren't words. I don't comment, but it doesn't mean I don't always watch your videos. This one brought tears to my eyes, you're such an incredible, kind, driven human. You always were but my gosh have you put that drive into motion over the last few years! Cannot wait for that long overdue brew and catch up, it's bee too long! x
Wonderful, thank you Katie, that’s very kind ❤️✌️
Well done Son another amazing video, some memories very hard and painful to watch, but your positivity, guts and determination shows how far you have come, since the accident. We are so proud of you. You are a true inspiration to anyone in a similar situation. We love and miss you so much, can’t wait until we can visit you again xxxxxx
Thanks Mum, that’s so kind and I love you too, hopefully you’ll be able to visit this summer/autumn time ❤️
You’re a beast!!! Watching you do those pull-ups in your chair just awesome.
Thanks! 💪
What a wonderful video and message, man! Anyone has the power to inspire and support others but very few actually do. I'm a big fan of your work :))
Thank you mate! Appreciate it 😁
First of all, a great thumbnail to the video I really like how professional it looks & just overall another inspiring video to add along from you. Your words really hit and motivate me whenever you talk about the perspective and how gratitude is always vital in any sort of situation. I like the throwback with that blog which I did give a watch a couple weeks ago, some highs and lows during it but just incredible to see how strong and capable you really are dude, there is always something positive at the end in every blog update you did. Thank you for being YOU man, your future is certainly bright!
I have to agree.
Oh wow, thats amazing, thanks so much, I hadn't realised you'd seen the old vlogs, they aren't as sharply edited as the new ones, but they were only meant to be for close friends and family.
I'm so glad I did them, it has been great to reflect back and see how far I've come. Happy you like the thumbnail ✌️❤️
What a weapon and a champion!
If only everyone could make light of tough, anxious, and scary situations.
You're my favorite tuber too.
Much love home slice.
You're new friend, Marlon ❤️🤗🌞
WOW, thank you so much Marlon. ❤️✌️
Wow, you are amazing Freddo! Just came to your channel from Struthless's comment section and really admire your positive energy and overall attitude! Seeing your harder days really hit us hard, we can only imagine how difficult it must have been to come to terms with the injury. Honestly inspired by you and your story. Keep up the great work and happy we found your channel (just subscribed) 😁 Hope we cross paths one day, we love connecting with other talented creators who want to make a positive impact on the world🙌💛Where are you based btw? (don't worry we won't come stalk you haha)
Hey guys, thanks for the compliment! I actually just checked out your channel and it is awesome! Great work on the editing skills.
I actually get a lot of inspiration from Struthless, his channel is amazing. I'm glad I found your channel too, honestly looks very creative and fun.
I'm based in Morzine, France.
❤️✌️
Love your wisdom. Thankyou
Great to see how far you've come Freddo, so impressed! This is Jon, we met in Cambodia! I was doing work-trade at Hariharalaya... teaching some classes and doing acupuncture. Happy to see you happy!
Oh hey Jon! Thanks so much ❤️✌️
I'm sitting here crying as you're last 2 videos have inspired me in many ways. My tears are of pain and happiness.
On march 10th 2021 I was shot in my back during a fight, I was paralyzed and my left lung collapsed due to the bullet fragmenting on my spine causing the fragments to spread and hit my lung. My brother was shot in his chest and stomach from point blank. I watched him bleed out and we told each other we loved one and other as we were swarmed by paramedics. That was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life, I am my brother's protector and watching him in the pain he was in tore me apart for years. I still can't get that image out of my head. I have nightmares of it and it makes me have a horrible sleep schedule, I don't like sleeping because of it.
The person that did this plead guilty to murder and assault with a deadly weapon. The guy I was fighting was charged with sexual assault on a minor, the whole reason I was fighting him was because he had molested my sister-in-law's, little sister. His brother pulled the gun on my unarmed brother that wasn't even in confrontation with him.
Long story short. I have a lot of grief and weight on my shoulders that I can't seem to let go of. It's made me a miserable person to be around, as well as stopped me from doing things that I know I should be doing by now.
Thank you for inspiring me to do better as a person. And inspiring me to get off of my ass even if it hurts.
Ah man that sounds really tough. I don’t know what to say. You can’t rush your healing, and there must be some deep trauma associated with your injury.
I hope time will give you peace and you can move forward in a positive way and I’m humbled that my videos give you strength.
Keep in touch. If any other videos inspire you, please drop a comment to let me know.
How long have you been paralysed?
Really great stuff, keep up the good work.
Thanks Rob, I really hope it helped. There are more videos to do with my mental health struggles if you think they’ll help. I’ve been thru the same headspace and luckily made it out the other side. Big love man ❤️✌️
'Some great advice for everyone here in this vid' Fred. Small, gradual steps forward outside of your comfort zone is definitely the way to go. :)
Thanks 😊 ❤️✌️
You are so honest and everything you say, I can feel it. Have gone through it. Loved the poo part coz I have been there. You are spreading positivity and making this world a better place Freddo. Love from Nepal.
Thanks so much! What a great comment ❤
Great perspective and thanks for the reminder! I'm about 8 years post injury and I'm amazed at how much my life has changed in that time. If you think it's been crazy in 2 years you will be absolutely blown away looking back just a few more years from now. There is something about having an SCI that supercharges growth, as long as you have the right perspective. God bless you man!
Thanks so much! What a great comment. So glad you enjoyed the video. I’m sure the next few years will be supercharged, and maybe I’ll keep documenting it on here- ❤️✌️
@@FreddotheWheelchairGuy I think it's a valuable thing to do, even if it's just to look back later!
So proud of you mate you've achieved so much and with such genuine openness and honesty. By being so brave and bearing all for the world to see and learn from you will of inspired so many newly and not so newly injured people and shown that being scared is ok and to be honest probably necessary to make the most of an incredibly challenging situation, crikey it's an entire new way of life that we have to learn. You've shown us that by embracing all of the fears and feelings that we experience along the way opens up so much more which enriches our life in ways that we can't even imagine at the beginning of our the journey. You are proof that we can achieve a richer and more colourful life something that is completely and utterly unthinkable when we are first given that crushing news after being injured. Mate you make me want to do more want to be a better stronger more outgoing person which awesome. My ten year anniversary are being a quadriplegic quadriplegic is only few weeks away and thanks to your videos I've started to blow the cobwebs off my dreams and ambitions so that the next 10 years I'm more colourful and enriched all thanks to you the whole inspiring Brother from another Mother 😎 sending love and prayers to you mate 🙏🤗♿
Wow Darren, that is such an awesome compliment, that actually brought a tear to my eye - you’re so kind to write that.
I had no idea that these videos could have such an impact and if it inspires you to be stronger and push yourself even further in the next ten years that is amazing. Hopefully we can look back in ten years time to see how far we’ve both come. ❤️✌️
@@FreddotheWheelchairGuy Sorry mate for my delayed reply been laid up with a rather persistent chest infection. I know that the next ten years are going to genuinely be so much more inspiring following your journey and I know deep down you’re going to make my journey one of laughter inspiration and achievement. God bless you and yours. Sending love and prayers brother 👍🙏🤗♿️
# Freddo The Wheelchair Guy 👍😎♿️
@@dazza70smith Thanks! I hope your chest infection clears up soon brother! ✌️❤️
Brilliant stuff again Fred
Thank you! ❤️✌️
You’re amazing!
Just saw this from the Facebook group. Really good video, it's nice to see someone who's a similar character, age and injury as me but a year ahead. Glad it's going well!
Awesome comment, thank you so much. I guess you've been injured for just one year then? Going through rehab during covid must have been tough!
@@FreddotheWheelchairGuy yeah mine was January 2020. The nurses were just being measured up for masks as I was leaving ICU, then a week after I got to Salisbury it was fully locked down. It was a weird year for everyone but absolutely crazy for me!
Lovely inspiring video to kick off the weekend!
Thanks ❤️✌️
Thanks!
Thanks so much! ❤️
Great video man! Its awesome how far you've already come. Also great to see you yesterday!! x
Thanks so much man. Great to see you too 😊 let’s have a proper catch up soon. I’ll even put the kettle on 😉
@@FreddotheWheelchairGuy haha, perfect. I'll send you a message
Banger of a video brother 👊🏻
Cheers my dude! Lets catch up soon ❤️✌️
You are a lovely person 🩵🩵
Oh thank you!
Another likewise paraplegic from Western Germany here: i can only back up your experiences (six years ago learning to tie a Shoe in bed with one Hand in half an Hour and than - drenched in sweat - being asked by the Nurse „and what‘s up with the other one“? - this is just my kind of humour and spirit).
And here i am now, back from a three day Festival, a week with my two Boys and heading to Berlin tomorrow (a 700km drive) and all by myself.
The only thing that cant be measured is personal growth - the progression may be slower for us, but nonetheless do we feel it and live the best of our lifes.
Cheers to that, mate and best of luck in the Finals tomorrow!
Wonderful comment! So glad you found it resonated with you.
Thank you!
Your just Amazing man. 👏
Thanks man ❤️✌️
Got me right in the feels that one mate! Brought a tear to me eye and everything! Can you tell me where you read that quote about overestimating a year and underestimating a decade? Will send you some new music soon ;)
Can’t remember, probably saw it on a UA-cam video and just regurgitated it on my own channel🤣 I’d love some more music from you man 😊 so glad you liked the video, I had some tears when looking back at the old vlogs too😭
At College I did a (interior) design module, and one day we explored what needs to be considered for people with disabilities. One thing we did was blindfold each other, and one of my friends did not cope with it at all, we were in a real quiet area, but he was like: everyone is staring at me, although there was no-one there. I guess it is very much your personal perception, how you feel about a situation, and as well how people around you react to you, or what you expect how they will react to you. I guess around friends it is good, but people stare or do not know how to act around you. Your personal attitude and comfort within yourself will affect how people around you respond.
It is a bit deja vu when one listens to your podcast. Great video, though! ..and I watch it at normal speed! (Suedfrucht00 on Insta)
Yeah you’re right, I think the podcast and UA-cam compliment each other well, you get a sneaky peek at what’s coming up sometimes 😉 it’s just my ideas formulating
Oh well at the moment I’m traveling but I’m sure this is the same furniture the hotel has had for at least 20 years lol. No at home everything is different and change can be good but it can be scary as well. I am impressed with how far you’ve come. I look forward to seeing where you go.
Me too, where will it take me? Time will tell. 😁
@@FreddotheWheelchairGuy as a friend in America if you ever want to visit Texas please don’t hesitate to reach out I’d love to meet up with you.
@@Jaggededge112 Thanks! I'll keep that in mind if I ever head out that way. Now that would be expanding my comfort zone 😁
@@FreddotheWheelchairGuy I think you would enjoy it out here. We have some beautiful areas and good food.
Yoo same injury year as you dude what level are you and incomplete or complete 🤘🏻
I'm T11 incomplete, from a snowboarding accident. You ?
@@FreddotheWheelchairGuy T6 complete motocross bike 🤪
hello with turkish subtitles please
I’ll try and figure it out for the next video 😊
@@FreddotheWheelchairGuy thank's
Do you use Instagram? I will consult you on a topic.
Yes use the link in the description 👍
Hola tío cómo estás SILLA De la instagram
How old are u bro.?
I just turned 41