Men's Mental Health // Ground Up 093
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- Опубліковано 7 січ 2019
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Dan Doty is the founder of everyman and co-founder of the tv show MeatEater. You've seen him on the Joe Rogan Experience talking about his programs to get men to open up. Today we chat about the importance of addressing our emotions, what camping has taught Dan, and the simplicity and freedom of escaping into the wilderness.
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Matt D'Avella COME ON MATT! THIS IS YOUR YEAR!! MAKE SURE TO HAVE FUN TOO!!!
Can you start putting your podcast audio on Spotify? I tend to listen to most podcast up there and I can turn my screen off. I love the podcast just wanna have it in a more convenient place to listen
Thanks
@@codyclips3623 Same here dude.
How did you know about the APA considering natural masculinity as "problematic" to say the least? Because you are a professional journalist?
@@codyclips3623 you can use Google Podcasts instead and you can turn off the screen there too
saved timestamps:
2:28-3:32 (Intro)
13:40-15:00 (unpracticed at feeling difficult emotion)
15:16-16:02 (basic formula, speaking from experience)
16:22-17:51 (it gets easier)
18:07-19:24 (men’s friendships/relationships)
22:22-23:40 (let real anger out)
24:00-26:07 (effect it has on those around us)
31:17-34:49 (tech, can’t sit still with our own thoughts)
36:32-39:18 (let yourself feel)
*We are addicted to our thoughts. We cannot change anything if we cannot change our thinking.*
@@Jeorgy92 Buddhism?
We are our thoughts
Jes Web how? If we don’t even know what we’re going to think of next? How can it possibly be us ?
I'm writing this comment in the half of this podcast, crying like a baby understanding the background of the state that I am in right now.
Perfect timing Matt, it opened my eyes. I suppose it's time to open my mouth now.
Thanks for great work.
It ended up in my fiance telling me that she loves me but she's not sure whether she wants to stay with me. Fuck this is a great start of the year...
@@robertkinski4775 you've got this g
You got this, dude!
@@robertkinski4775 why get married. God marriage is a fucking scam
It’s sometimes great to cry! When it comes let it go! I haven’t cried in 7 years and know that it would have made me feel better if I did. The last time I cried was at my grandmother’s burial until now I didn’t cry although I went through lots of bad things in my life (really bad skiing accident), had to retake a year in university because I suffered from a small depression after all this shit happened. I changed my life and habits but I still have a long way to go! Keep working on yourself bro and don’t be scared to ask for help when it’s getting tough. I wish you all the best!
A lot of men are deeply traumatized from unhealthy childhood family dynamics and need most of their adulthood to unpack it and heal from it if they even gain awareness of it. If you don’t gain awareness of it and heal it from within, you will perpetuate the abuse that was inflicted on you when you couldn’t defend yourself. Don’t feel bad for being a man, just take full responsibility for your actions and their consequences. You must live and love authentically and let go of the fear of loss that compels you to lie or hide.
Love your comment. It's lack of education and understanding that makes people never accept that they have something wrong about themselves that prevents them from healing themselves and hence the trauma continues through generations.
Hi 👋 I’m 17 years old and I’m going through a lot. I didn’t want the internet to know this but I need more motivation lots of people motivate me and it seems like it isn’t working. I have depression and it’s sad I’m not going to school which is the worst thing you could do. I used to play baseball a year ago and left it, feel like depression took over. And everything I do I feel like not doing it. I also feel extremely bad when I’m in the house or outside because I don’t have my depression peels. Please help me. I feel like if I overcome this mentality killer I would find my future and succeed. It’s really hard especially for my age and any feedbacks are gladly appreciated.
Vegeta SAN coming out of depression can be difficult. If anything you need to find something you love doing if it’s baseball focus yourself into that find a hobby, something that excites you and do it. Eating, exercising and sleep can really help you to feel better even if you start off slow just 30 minutes a day can be great for your mental health. Lastly something I have found major benefit in stabilising my mood and not getting too low is nofap sounds strange but this can really effect your hormones and mood. Lastly caffeine can effect your anxiety and can make you more anxious and obviously stay away from alcohol. I would say try coming off the meds allow yourself to overcome these emotions, talk to people you trust about how you feel. Lastly time is a healer it won’t happen overnight but putting good habits into place can build your resilience snap out of he depression cycle and hopefully not return. If you read this, I wish you the best of luck and hope you overcome this, take care. :)
Bball Biopic yes I read it made me feel a lot better someone took there time to help me thx a lot for everything you wrote it means a lot. But don’t worry I’m not backing down that easily😁 I’m attending school more and doing exercise. Also I have been going out more and been watching a bunch of motivation videos which has helped me a lot. And I think I know what I want to do for my future. Thank you for everything really appreciate it. GOD BLESS YOU🙏🏽 And I will take on all your advice. Once again thx🙏🏽
Vegeta SAN that’s great I’m pleased you’ve already implemented some of these that help me too. We are social creatures so getting out and talking to people and socialising is very important, isolation and loneliness is the worst as your with your own thoughts. Same with school or work keeping yourself busy can sometimes be the best thing. If you ever need a chat, feel free I’m here man :)
You are inspiring and have such great topics and guests.
I am in the middle of changing a lot in my professional life and I've been watching each and every episode to learn, grow and then implement new techniques and skills. Seriously - you are changing lives.
"That is such a good question and I'm not gonna answer this with authority. I'm just gonna answer this from experience." It is heartwarming to see how gentle, respectful and authentic both of you treat each other in this interview. I've been following this youtube channel for a while now but this hour of realness let me see a personal side of you, Matt, I can really relate to. Keep being close to the core. Thank you
I just watched this guy on JRE yesterday, what a coincidence! Opening up about my Mental Health has been very hard but has helped me a lot to hear other people are going through the same thing and wanted to share it as well but were to afraid to mention it. Men aren't really allowed to be depressed or anxious in our society but that's not fair. Its very humbling when you see how many men have mental health issues and we're not as alone as we may think we are.
I'm sooo glad to see such a video up! I always encourage the men in my life to talk about how they feel and try to provide a safe space for that (without pushing of course). It helps so much and I hope a mentality like this spreads more and more.
Wow, is about time some said this things. When i lost my daughter, people told me that my wife had more right to grief than i did so i should forget my pain and "be there for her", when all i really wanted to do was sit in corner and cry.
The world is so confusing for men these days. So much Flipping expectations from everyone around us.
Wife expectations, mother expectations living up to dads idea of what a man should be.
Having to be chivalrous all the fucking time is so tiring. Dealing with a partner that believes her issues are more important than yours
The fear of being called lazy. The fear of walking away from a marriage that some of us hate because we don't want to be known as the "father that walked out" or "see our kids hurt".
Every fucking thing is a mans fault.
And who the fuck decided what it means to be a "real man" anyway.
I cant even talk about my issues without it devolving into a "gender slug-fest", it always ends with "Women have it worse". Rather than viewing every fucking thing trough the gender lens, how about we view everything through the humanize lens. If a person is hurting (Man or Woman) just help that person. Don't wait until he or she becomes suicidal before their issues become important.
hey mahmoud! wondering if you'd be interested in a feature for mens mental health startup to share your story. i feel that we NEED to give more men a voice in this topic. let me know if you'd want to play an important role i empowering others!
I think this has been my favorite episode that I've watched so far. Really important information and articulated very well.
Its really refreshing to find quality content like this on youtube between all the clickbait videos which are exactly 10 minutes long to get some revenue. Its like most people dont even try anymore and dont do the videos because they love what they do, but to get a few bucks. Thanks for beeing you.
If we don`t open about our build-up feelings, they will control us and result in damaging behaviours, physical and mental. Vital conversation.
You can really tell that Dan is passionate about this, amazing podcast, really enjoyed it.
What a fantastic episode! Great insight to our issue, brilliant ideas and such a good flow in your conversation this time! Thank you for making it! It brang a lot of thoughts in to my mind. I have also noticed what I have to work on and how I can help in my community.
We need more people talking about this. It is as important as being sick physically. We need not be ashamed of having mental issues.
I’m trying to work on myself and heal from the pain others have caused me I’m not perfect myself but I know I’m a good person and I’m just staying strong 🙏🏽❤️
El trabajo de Matt es muy inspirador, algunos de los consejos que diste en los videos me ayudan a ser mas productivo, cada día. No se si hablas español pero me es mas dificil escribir en ingles que escucharlo o hablarlo. Gracias!
Definitivamente Matt es uno de los mejores creadores de contenido que frecuento, siempre tiene contenido valioso e inspirador. Me alegra ver a mas hispanohablantes por estos lados. Saludos y un abrazo!
The Sun City Lifestyle si totalmente es bueno saber qué hay mas hispanohablantes! Abrazo!
@@LucioSuarez Uno más acá! Y me la paso intentando traducirle a mi novio los videos, pero termino con dolor de cabeza. El no habla inglés, se está perdiendo de tanto!
Victoria Argañaras uf que difícil, pero entiendo cuando uno disfruta del contenido de alguien, como que lo quiere compartir a toda costa. Quizás elegir los mejores videos y sumarle subtítulos te sea más práctico y después lo ven juntos. 🤷♂️ saludos que alegría que somos varios hispanoparlante acá.
to be honest ....I have never felt comfortable in a group of men....I feel way more easy when women are around as they are often more open and less competitive than men...plus straight men just do not share their emotions or feelings very willingly, and as a gay men I often felt cut out from their "world"...
Daniel_81 same boat here brother
Daniel_81 I’ve always felt u comfortable around guys, always assume one guy wants to fight, this is my social anxiety lmao, I always have to be ready to fight if there’s ever a bigger guy around, taller or musclier and I’m instantly on the defensive. I can feel fine in a group of friends obviously. But I’ve never been comfortable around girls, now this is coming from a guy who had no mother and was thrown Into boys only schools since 10, so u can understand why I wouldn’t be comfortable.
@@thinkingofaname6233 I can understand from where you are coming from. I guess different upbringings, different experiences and a different mind/body set, make such a huge difference in the way we perceive ouselves and the others. I have always felt prone to communicate and embrace the other ....and often men, gay and straight men alike, seem not equipped to operate in this way...I also believe that there are for sure plenty of exceptions :-). All the best man!
Daniel_81 what do u mean by exceptions?
Unless they're feminist
I LOVE this! These ideas are so relevant to me and to the past couple decades of my life(practically all of it). I feel like Dan explained to me the thoughts I've been having for so long.
Wish he opens an Israeli branch as soon as possible. I'll be the first volunteer, for anything.
What a great theme on the emotions, would like to watch more videos on that! Thanks for your podcast, Matt!
This was fantastic. Something that really captivated me and aligned with what I have going on right now. Much appreciated.
hey jow! wondering if you'd be interested in a feature for mens mental health startup to share your story. i feel that we NEED to give more men a voice in this topic. let me know if you'd want to play an important role in empowering others!
I really loved this conversation. And Thank You for making me find Evryman
FUCK DUDE HOW HAVE I NEVER SEEN YOU?! I fucking love the vibe of this show. your entire channel. color, sounds, topics. so chill man. good job.
This is just what I needed at the time. Thanks for everything you do
I watch all of your videos Matt, they are all so Inspirational, educational & entertaining. Thank you Matt!
Thank you so much! I really needed to hear that conversation!
Gotta say, I love that you say "ground up show" and "ground up show" pops onto the screen in the bottom left as you speak it. Well done.
I always love watching these videos keep up the great work
Thanks, Alex.
My most favourite podcast episode by far!! Just awesome content and ideas!!!
I was thinking of going to sleep but nope, this is too important.❤
out of all the podcasts i listen to, jesus christ, this is my favourite! amazing talks :)
Absolutely enjoyed it. Thanks for doing this man.
Who is going to be up all night watching this. Its already 12pm here.
I think I'm going to start posting the video version of the podcast Tuesday at 8pm EST so people can watch it at night... or listen to it on the commute in the morning.
I am.
I love all of your videos, thank you! Great job always!
Very well said, Appreciate your efforts to keep on moving with the awareness drives.
As a young Male Therapist I see how important it is to speak about things, Its so vital and important that us MEN talk about mental health.. And for us men, we prefer mostly to talk to another dude. I hope I can take away that stigma and shame we carry about opening up through my channel. But, I just wanna say Matt, great piece of content very pleased this is a discussion becoming more common and not hidden away.
Guys we need to not be ashamed, we have so much pressure and hate from all directions. Lets use Counselling as a source of self development and not see it as a sign of weakness.
Peace out.
Lliam.
Openup Counselling.
This video reminded me of how some of us run from our problems and even our emotions when its not healthy. A lot of us run from self disclosure because really it is scary to disclose and at times its a lot easier to just let it fester and not do anything about it.
Alec Butler Seeing your comment made me think about those who use drugs or alcohol to numb their feelings/emotions. I myself am not a user or addict, but I do try to hold compassion for those who have been down that road. Life isn’t easy, especially if you bring mental illness into the mix as it heightens your emotional state sometimes
the stigma around mental health needs to be broken, and I'm so glad you're helping to break the taboo! these topics are so important
Such an important topic. Thank you for making this.
I'm a girl and I totally support this. A lot of guys I know are not expressive, as if they were robots, and when they do they are shy about it. Please, be you.
🙏❤️
This episode was great!! This actually seems like the mastermind groups. Thanks Matt!! I'm really interested on create one of this type of groups.
Hi Matt, Life goes smoothly and clam. Clearly organized and meaningful but some times in life. We all have this sleepless nights with lots of thoughts running inside our mind. We really don't want it but sadly we can't control it. Everything seems to be very meaningless. We sit in search for answer, solutions, ways but we could not do anything about it. Not just sleepless nights but even the unproductive day time. We try to concentrate on present works but our mind keeps on jumping from this and that thoughts. May be one particular things or about your desire, past love stories, vision, goals, business name for company, humanity, speculation, society, health, color for designing logo, even about sleeping and waking up. These are all stuff running in my mind. Noted I generally don't have these kind of cluttered mind. Some times it happens like now.
Why this disconnect happens inbetween our minds?
How to put our thought, words and actions in one clean straight line?
Enlightening podcast, thanks for both of you. *thumbsup*
Great prodcast!!
I got learn about mental health and everything else!
Thanks!!👍👌
Keep it up Matt! So awesome to see you grow! I remember watching your video "a day in the life of a minimalist" before it got big lol
Thanks, Daniel! Apprecaite it.
Excellent podcast and subject matter.
Big thumbs up.
It's one AM here and I have to get up at six. somehow, watching this still seems better than sleeping. Boy, life is tough. Gotta hope I'm tougher.
Thank you for this episode. I shared it with my boyfriend. Tons of value in it! Thanks again! :)
Loved this podcast. Even though I’m not a man, I found that this content reaches females too. As a fellow creative, I found all of your podcasts very helpful. What’s funny is that most of the motivational quotes I hear from this show about achieving your goals and following your dreams etc. are quotes and ideas that I already know. However; there’s something about hearing you and all of your guests reiterate those ideas that keeps drawing me back to your podcasts.
With all that being said,
Thank you!
My freaking dude. Thank you for this. You are DOPE.🔥❌
Hey Matt.. I have fallen in love with yr vloggs...i immediately subscribed 👋....u r an inspiration 💙.. thumbs up , from Delhi (India)💖💖
What a nice guy, I wish I could have such friend.
Great podcast. Keep it up!
Love this needed to hear this Iam 26 and I am going through a divorce. But I am looking at the bright side on things taking care of myself mentally and physically and I am feeling great.
I am ready to live 👍🏾
I think Dan's mission at "Evryman" is super interesting. As a gay man, I feel like I see both worlds. I have my "gay" world but often hangout with my straight guys. Often, when hanging with this group, I see this group's disconnect for sharing emotions. I see how it hurts their relationships. Society has constructed this group to suppress their feelings, making it harder to be vulnerable. I totally agree with Dan, sharing is like a practice. Tying it back to how I'm labeled as gay, I feel like it's more the norm for me to share/show emotion. Just wanted to share, since I feel like I have the pleasure of seeing the world from a bit of a different lens. Great job Dan and Matt!
hey colin! wondering if you'd be interested in a feature for mens mental health startup to share your story. i feel that we NEED to give more men a voice in this topic. let me know if you'd want to play an important role in empowering others!
Fuuuuuuuuuu... Why are the podcast topics always on time Matt!!! 😁👊🏽💯
Thank you for sharing another great podcast. 😎🇨🇦❄️
This was important..thank you :)
Simply INCREDIBLE podcast
I am 22 and turning 23 this year. I stopped giving a shit on the thoughts negative self-image early in life. Hope it turns out great.
I find this so fascinating from “the other side”, because I definitely see that there are massive relational problems between men, and I definitely experience it in terms of friendships (though many of those barriers are starting to break, thanks to working things out a little), but I have never in my entire life had a moment in time when I wasn’t open to my parents. I am a completely open book to them, and they know just about every little thing about me.
It’s fascinating because it makes me wonder, what are American men experiencing in their homes? What unnecessary emotional hardship and pain, what emotional bottling are they experiencing? To what degree can I help? And to what degree am I restrained from helping because of my lack of experience, having not entirely walked in their shoes?
*AWESOME INFORMATION* _THANKS FOR SHARING THIS!_
This was amazing. I love that, without being a filmmaker, a digital artist, musician or a guy in this industry or some awesome motivational mentor, I as a female hairstylist can take away a monumental amount of information and inspiration from your podcasts and the amazing people who have arrived to share this knowledge. Thank you, Matt.
Ps. If you know a womens version of this man that would be amazing! Haha
Thanks matt for this video!
Ever since the New Year your channel has not shown up in my sub feed. I hit the Bell... Missed you sir.
First! Love your videos man. I also want to meet The Rock one day too! Keep going after your goals and never give up!
This is an amazing podcast!
My father has experienced so much pain throughout his life that no amount of medication or alcohol has been able to keep him numb. It destroys me to see him struggle to find a purpose to live, and I'm overwhelmed by a deep sense of hopelessness that he might attempt suicide again. I've been searching for ways to help him, help himself; but there seems to be few books or resources out there that acknowledge the true emotional needs of a grown man or offers sound advice and affective help.
I'm going to share this podcast with my dad and I hope that he will be receptive to what it offers.
Like your contents!
Keep the good work up it is very interesting!
Great info mate!
Hey dude I am happy to watch all your vids really I enjoy a lot and at the same time I improve my English language Skill. Viejo mucha gracias!!! Sigue hacia adelante. Hope you can understand me in spanish.
Is that the old school photo of Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson hanging on your wall behind Dan?
can you do a final cut pro work flow tutorial? or file management/ your favorite extensions ?
This was so interesting to listen to this and I learnt a lot
I just wished your podcasts could have Spanish subtitles. I want to share them but I'm the only only one that speak English fluently in my group of friends. I hope in the future it could be possible. Love your content!
You said podcasts are going over to the new channel. Whats up?
Next week my friend. I wanted to migrate people over there over the course of 2 weeks.
Thank you!
This channel should have more subscribers!
I'd be happy with like 15k tbh but that's very nice of you to say.
Matt D'Avella don’t worry bud, i will tell my friends to subscribe!
@@boothcamp9789 here we are haha
"there is something so liberating about not having to choose every single thing everyday". Totally agree, like the Bandersnatch episode, found it quite stressful
2021 still watching.
*I think one day you'll find that you're the hero you've been looking for. ×*
Matt I’m late but this is great
God, this was refreshing.
Excellent topic/video! #realconversation
This is it chief, more of this.
This is very interesting. Brilliantly made and very informative.
Do you have any advice for two young men starting a podcast about mental health?
We aim to remove the stigma behind men not speaking up.
Much love dude.
What is your podcast set up? What mics do you use? Are you recording to your laptop? Whats your recommendations for a basic set up? Thank you so much really appreciate it!
Thats a great idea.
Matt, you probably know this already, but that link to ground up show is not working. This was a great podcast. I found camaraderie in a men's chorus when I moved (at 52) to a new town half-way across the world. There's a special magic to work with a diverse group of men towards a common goal, in my case an artistic expression. Keep up the great work!
Can you start putting your podcast audio on Spotify? I tend to listen to most podcast up there and I can turn my screen off. I love the podcast just wanna have it in a more convenient place to listen
Thanks
Cody Clips it is on spotify
@Dara Gm link?
@@ilanmichel link?
I SUBSCRIBED BECAUSE YOUR CHANNEL IS ADS FREE👏👏❤
This was an important episode for me. Never was in touch with my emotions but seeing groups like this exist makes me want to change. Might be seeing myself in one of these soon. Thanks Matt and thanks to your guest Dan.
Dan talked about creating your own evry man group but i don't know if id be able to do it seeing as i live in canada. can anyone help with this?
Good idea, matt. I see only 3 videos. Will add all the others as well?
What a great conversation, you guys are so honest and real.
Omg do till the 100th podcast here and then switch over to the new channel😂 (adding to the confusion ;)
WUT... YES!
Hey Matt, if you have time (I know you are v busy) you could consider editing together the highlights of all your previous episodes and call them Espresso Episodes or something haha! That way you can upload all your original previous content to the new Ground Up channel. But mainly, it would be good because I subscribed to you after you had already made 70 episodes and although I don't have heaps of time to go watch them all, I would love to see highlights of them in 70 different episodes. It could also be good for you because you can get content on the channel without production-time-investment only editing time. Probs could help your algorithm with uploads, plus the newer subscribers won't have seen the content yet, like me. Would love highlights!! Love from Melb, Australia
Agreed!
Matt don't you post the ground up show Wednesday? Do we just have different time zones?
Usually 12am EST Wednesday for both the audio & video versions but I think I'm going to start posting the video at 8PM EST on Tuesday. Doesn't really make much sense to release it in the middle of the night (for US people).
Take away! Without a group you will only reach 35% of potential. Totally agree! That me at the moment
Recommend the Scene on Radio podcast series entitled Men.