"Straight Acting" Gay Guys
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- Опубліковано 26 лис 2017
- This is winter vlog number two guys! Super pumped to be out filming and showing you guys my life! Really hope you guys are enjoying this style, I know you guys are probably wondering why Luke isnt doing much of the filming and its just because hes super busy with work!
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It's a cliche answer, but "just be yourself" is the correct solution to this "masc/femme" thing. I'm a quiet person and dont like being center of attention. So according to these stereotypes it's because I'm gay and was suppressing it and trying to act straight? Doubt that was on my mind in Kindergarten when I wouldn't interact with anybody. Some gay guys are just very out and proud, and others are more reserved. Gay men are just that, men who are attracted to other men. That doesn't define your personality, whether you're a good or bad person, if you like wine over beer... It literally just defines your sexual orientation. Outside of that, you can act however you want to, and it shouldn't be assumed you are oppressed or hate yourself or something ridiculous.
I guess I'd be considered a 'straight-acting' gay man but I'm just being me. I have no interest in wearing makeup, nail polish, or shocking people in how gay I am. It was one of my struggles coming out that I wouldn't be accepted by my family or the gay community. The stereotype can create a powerful character but the sum of all our differences in homosexuality is so much greater.
I totally agree RMANN22- We have a right to be masculine as well as others have a right to be fem.
I so agree. Me too. Such a struggle when I was growing up and coming out. Now at least I am better adjusted and figured everything out myself. But these kind of videos really makes it lot easier.
Amen :)
rmann22 -
THINGS YOU NEED TO BE GAY:
1. Shout out loud ''I'm Gay''.
2. A Boy Body.
3. True interest in other boys.
4. Nothing else.
@rmann22 I agree if your point is that being yourself is ok regardless of how others perceive you. I think the point that ScottyOh posted is very relevant. If your a man whatever way you act is masculine only people seeking to stereotype a male can say they are ‘effeminate’. There can be lists of effeminate traits but if you identify as a male then you are masculine. Words like ‘effeminate’ or ‘butch’ ‘masculine’ etc serve to only categories/stereotype i think.
Plenty of straight and masculine men wear make-up including eye-liner and nail polish.
Plenty of straight guys act ‘effeminate’ - it’s just their personality mannerism etc...it’s not a statement.
Maybe there’s an element of shame attached to being gay and effeminate. Do we see effeminate as a weakness - but what does that say about our view of women.
Being comfortable to be yourself is all that matters.
And regarding you being straight acting - well, I’ll be the judge of that. (If you get me).
I have to differ a bit... I have to disagree a bit on "Acting Straight". :) - I believe, 1) "Gayness" does not equate to our personality. Being gay is a sexually orientation.
Secondly, I believe that ALL people hide parts of who they are in their earlier years in shame -- we all want to fit. Some straight men will act "overly tough" when they were younger to hide their "softer edges" so that they can be "one of the guys". Eventually, most of us surrender to our true selves. I enjoyed the video guys! Good seeing you all are well and nice haircuts.
Thanks
I think people are people. Be who you are and however you feel comfortable. If someone says that you are acting straight, let them think what they think. If someone says that you're effeminate, fine. They don't matter, and their opinions definitely do not matter. I, myself, have never been told that I'm either masculine or straight-acting or effeminate. But if I had been told that I'm any of those, "Okay, nice to know your opinion"
Let me know your thoughts guys! Hope you enjoyed :) I need feedback lol
TheMonasteroTwins You're theory at 7 mins is literally the exact explanation of my life and how I am. Spot on! 👌
TheMonasteroTwins Keep doing these type of videos which has like a commentary in the middle. It's nice and not boring and doesn't evolve in just one topic. That's my thought.
Yes, love this video mix - you did fantastic work on it! The b-roll work just seems to bring more beauty to it - just seeing what you're seeing and appreciating while you're out running around ... be it nature or guys! ;-)
I don't like the term "straight acting" because it implies inauthenticity; acting like something you are not. I prefer the terms "masculine" and "feminine," because straight or gay men can be either of those and in different ways. But even those terms are not well defined so they can muck up conversation. I tend to be sexually attracted to "masculine" men but that's only sex. There are so many ways to appreciate each other. I tend to be most drawn to geeky people in general, The geek scale is something that defines more of my own life and friends than a gay/straight or masculine/feminine scale.
Agree with all you said, and I hope that gay/bi people who recently came out will realize there are other more important things about their identity and life than how femme or masc they are, or what genitals and gender arouses them. If I say Ricky Martin he's the world-famous singer with epic latin hits, not "the gay guy".
That's actually why both terms are useful, through "straight-acting" is losing ground as fewer people are closeted. Another consideration is that the window has shifted. I've been called "masculine" for having no interest in drag, though I've played Sister Mary Ignatius (who Explains It All For You) on stage as an adult.
Like all stereotypes, the "femme gay guy" trope only applies to a small percentage of the group. Gay people exist on a continuum, from bi to almost transgender, from masculine to feminine, and they're born that way. Some slightly femme guys are able to suppress it to appear more masculine, but someone who's really feminine will have difficulty.
Interesting observation. I like how you point out people are on a continuum. There are gay men who you wouldn't suspect are gay at all and they aren't even trying to hide it. A lot of times in my experience they seem to be more "asexual" seeming, the type of guy who just doesn't seem to talk a lot about their personal life but is ensconced in their job, hobbies, friends, family, etc. in a way where it just doesn't seem to come up. They're neutral seeming, maybe a bit nerdy in a way that covers any particular mannerisms.
We are who we are, there are too many of us to fit into one category. I'm into "masculine" things and get the "I couldn't tell you were gay" all the time but that's not because I struggle or struggled with my sexuality.
As long as people are genuine it makes no difference how they act. Does it really matter that you can't look at someone and tell their sexual orientation?
love the longer videos! Feels so much more personal! And I think the drone would DEF take your hiking adventures to new levels!
Andrew Shupp right?! It would increase the vlog quality drastically
Yes! We need more hairdressers like this! The amount of times I just want to say 'make me look good' and they are just like, well what do you want? I don't know just something good. hahaha!
This whole "straight acting thing" is, as we say in England, utter bollocks. We are who we are. There are plenty of camp straight men and not every gay man loves going shopping with his girl friends.
I've only met one "camp" "straight" guy in my life. Later learned he was super religious, and gay. He married and had kids because that's what his fundamentalist church told him to do.
I come from the Netherlands where guys can be a bit more feminine in general, I know some camp straight guys. I know some masculine gay guys. Straight acting is not a thing.
+C Will Agreed.
Warren Alexander let's not play dumb, we all know what it means. It means a gay guy who act the way that guys are typically expected to act.
And "typically expected to act" means?
Your theory assumes that gay men will inherently act femininely (because you say that suppression of this femininity results in 'straight' acting gay men), which I don't think is correct. I think how feminine or masculine a person is depends upon one's environment and role models during childhood and adolescence. If your influences were mostly feminine people, then you might develop as more feminine, and the same would be true for masculinity.
Justin Sarkis yeah it's like he said that a gay man can't be completely masculine, which i think it's not true. And i think it's more weird when a gay man says so, probably he knows that has something feminine( which is completely fine) and extends this feature to all gay men.
Love it ! Thank you for getting Evan in the vid .😍 you definitely have something there with this whole “straight” acting thing. It would make a great discussion. Peace ✌️ Guys !
Yes yes I do loves them the longer vlogs are the best one's it gives more to watch
Dear Adam, I'm so glad you're on our team. You make me proud. And everybody, just be yourself, because as the saying goes, nobody can be you better than you can.
Lol, that cut out moment after you asked Evan his name...Glad to see him back in your videos
Got to tell you the waterfall was beautiful!!! Thanks for taking us there awesome!!
Great video. You hit the nail on the head with straight acting. Many of us learned how to do that when we were bullied for being more effeminate. It seems natural for me now but it definitely was a learned characteristic. Again good video. I just subscribed!
Thanks for doing a video together!!! Finally! Ugh! #MonasteroTWINS
Oh my gosh Kasha is so cuuuute! Loved the video! As long as people are authentic, no one should judge anyone as trying to be straight-acting or fem!
We love your vlogs!
Adam & Luke 💙
Love you both so much!
Everyone is who they are... being more or less masculine doesn’t always have to be due to how someone was as a teen. Not every gay man tries to be “ultra masculine” in high school or grow into a “”””””””””straight acting””””””””””” man due to comments they heard. No matter how you grew up or how you acted in high school, you could be totally different as an adult. I became a bit more feminine as an adult and I had a good friend in high school who was more feminine and wore makeup every day but now is more masculine with a beard and even talks differently than he used to. I don’t think every gay man who acts “less feminine” is that way due to some kind of self-hatred in their youth... I think everyone is who they are and it’s so complex like so many things mold people into who they are it’s not always so black and white
OMG i loved this video so much! I felt the same way during my high shcool years, and at the i suffocaed myself with my way to act and live just trying to be who i was not. When you said it i just remember that time, and realized more one time that it doest worth. Thanl you
I'm loving your vlogs, Adam. I also totally agree with you about "straight acting" gay guys. Right on! Your grandparents look as sweet as your parents. I'm glad that you are so fortunate to have such a great family.
+William Nesbit glad you like them thank you ! And year and Luke are so lucky
I've been considered a straight acting gay my entire life. I remember at 12 years old. Watching the gay guys my mom hung out with, and thinking, if that's what it means to be gay, I want no part of it!
That being said, my interests have always been in hot rods and industrial type shit. Maybe I'm just a product of my environment, or maybe I choose my environment based on my interests.
It's not easy being a butch or straight acting gay, it can be hard to fine a date sometimes.
But my point is, people are who they are based on their personalities and interests.
As well as it is OK to be a femin homo, it's OK to be a masculine homo! We are who we are
I love watching all of your videos! Thanks for sharing
For me being the “glitter queen” has always meant acting childish. It doesn’t mean trying to act “straight” or “masculine” though, it just means not overdoing it. From the outside it looks like a very shallow spoiled child that’s always yelling
I think a lot of us old and young, can identify with trying to appear super straight to cover our gayness early in our life. As our own self-acceptance grows however we feel freer to develop our personality more fully and that may well include forays into more 'camp' ways of expressing ourselves. It becomes a style choice to be deployed as when it seems appropriate and it becomes a head space battle to ensure that we are ourselves completely confident in who we are as a person and totally confident in asserting our right to make those choices. My own experience over the years has been that the better I do in my head battle the better others accept it. Great video as always, masses of air kisses all round
Well said! This is similar to my experience, though I never felt the need to appear "super straight". I was just a nerdy kid :-)
Haha I was never bright enough to be nerdy!
Adammmmm! I love these style of vlogs...the special effects lens in the middle was great.
When I tell someone that I have a husband, they are usually shocked. My first instinct is to take it as a compliment, but now I'm wondering WHY is it a compliment to be presumed straight??
Your grandparents are the world's cutest things, omg.
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PS, I would fund you!
Hi Luke
+Ken Cairns thank you I love how you guys appreciate Editing and cinematography as much as I do ! And I know they are adorable
I love the format!
Sylvester Bracey thank youuu
YES, make more vlogs and i agree with your topic
thanks for sharing your grandparents with us Evan, they are so cute
Great vid. Is that DJ Grumble that you're using as background music throughout the vid? Love the songs especially the one at the beginning of the dodgeball game & the hiking scene with Chris.
I’m glad you’re dating. I think it’s important to see the variety of guys that there are out there. Good luck & be safe!
Here there very nice camera work even though you said you had a scratch didn't notice too much. I like your video if you keep it to around 10 min or so makes it just perfect but who cares about time just makes each moment exciting and adventurous really shows how us Canadians are so interesting to watch.
yes daddies back to posting more content
I love these vlogs.. you guys are awesome😀💕
I definitely work really hard to hide it. Also, I do not find any feminine gay guys attractive in any way. That’s my personal expirience.
I don't think it matters if somebody appears masculine or feminine. There can be feminine gay guys who tried to suppress their feelings, there can be masculine gay guys who tried to supress their feelings.
idk y but ur hairstylist is giving me kasha davis meets katya realness😍😍😍
Weekly dodgeball: "it teaches you to never get your hopes up" lol!
1) I adore these style videos. It’s like having coffee or drinking a beer with a friend that lives far away. 2) a drone would make for interesting photos! 3) your grandparents are adorable. Makes me miss mine, but in a good way. 4) masculine/straight acting gay guys.... people are who they are. That’s what makes the world interesting.
I just came across your video & really enjoyed it. It wasn’t perfect due to lighting issues, shaky camera and choppy scenes but it’s WAY better than some other popular You Tubers with high quality gear. The video was well thought out. Thanks for not just sitting in front of a camera and talking the viewers to death. I subscribed to see more of your adventures.
+Leo Patrick thanks ! Welcome ! And yea I’m currently working on getting a new camera and drone and steady cam :) Christmas is coming I’m hoping Santa helps me out a bit 😛
TheMonasteroTwins Sounds great. I’m looking forward to some epic aerial shots of Toronto. Gonna binge watch some of your past content this wkd since it will snow here in NYC
"You have topic you want to talk about in a dress?" Do tell, Adam!
Your cinematography is getting really good. Not as good as Luke's sandwich balancing, but close!
+Shawn Ladd thanks imagine with a drone ! *drools*
Luke would make you fly him a sandwich :)
Loved this type of vid.
Love watching Luke & Adam hanging around together, you 2 are so amazing and humerous also beautiful at the same time, btw Evan is extremely handsome and hot too :).
A lot of people think femininity = gay. I think its because that is the stereotype that society thinks is true. When in reality, femininity is simply a way of expressing yourself and is completely unrelated to sexuality. Sexuality is not something that is outwardly visible, but with things like "gaydar" and "men who are feminine must be gay" society makes us think it is.
No matter what your gender or sexuality is, every human has both feminine and masculine traits. Some people have more of one than the other. But no matter how feminine or masculine you are, it doesn't change your sexuality and it definitely doesnt mean you have internalized homophobia. If you are a masculine gay man, then thats who you are and there's nothing wrong with that.
So if I’m a “straight acting” gay guy then is my friend a “gay acting” straight guy 🤔 💭
“I don’t lika dis part!”
“Yea I don’t like It either”
😂😂😂
That was great, so much like my life.
L❤ved the vlog😍
The editing for this was on point. Also don't overthink the whole masculine/feminine thing. You just do you. Xx also whats the name of the song you kept using in the background??
Yass I love drone shots and do a how you met with Chris
13:48 That ending though, it’s so clean ✨
@5:44 I think he almost crashed XD Carry on like you ment it hahah
No, it's not true. A lot of gay guys are "straight" acting, and for them, it's just natural. They were always like that and they just continue to be that way. It's just their personality, period.
Fresh cuts looking lit
“Tickle me homos” lmaooo. Living for it
Love the jerseys
Nice work... keep doing these.
You are, both, two beautiful young fella's with an amazing family. Great attitude and endearing. (I blame your parents)
The basement capture, with your grand-parents was especially telling and genius. Awwww....The young educating the old. Priceless. You are never to old to learn. Nice.
The best thing about your blog's, will lay in the future, for you(s). This is a video diary of your life as it unfolds. One day your great work here will have even more resonance than it has now.
Some excellent editing again. Thought, the dodgeball needed to be quicker & punchier rather slowed down. The Star Wars bit great. However, for a post titled straight acting gay men....there seemed to be a lot of other ideas .. butt who cares. Love the work anyhoo.. Plus 'the hair' transformed fromTrump to Triumph. Hoorah!
Firstly I love the long vlogs and secondly I agree with what you were saying about straight acting guys. I fall into that category. I don't have any issues with my sexually, at least not now, but after so many years acting a certain way, it stands to reason that it's just habit now. This is who I am. End of!
Just watched your video. It was so funny, I was totaly amused. Your so Italian haha You have a very sweet and unique Character
Love and Greetings from Europe
Luke, what, what was that banger/song? Is dodge ball only a Canadian thing? Not around here in Cali or at least in Sacramento. Adam, I love the Crop Tops graphic! ❤️ Adam, you act very masculine!
+Gabriel Cali thank you! I based it off of Francisco Lachowski ahaha
Nah, played dodge ball in elementary school PE in Virginia.
Gabriel Cali i was playing the beginning of silhouette by goldroom (:
Gabriel Cali I’m from Cali (around LA) and we play dodgeball,
Matthew Margrave that’s LA. Nada here is Sacramento.
Honestly, I think that the term "straight acting" is ridiculous. To even begin, let me just first say that there is a huge difference between gay guys who are "straight acting" and gay guys who are masculine. They often coincide, but there is a difference. I don't care if someone is masculine and gay or feminine and straight. If you are an out and "proud" gay, and you call yourself "straight acting", I think you should re-examine if you are truly comfortable identifying as gay. Because, to me, "straight acting" is a bit more than being masculine. *It's a faux closet.* And you know, I get it. Some people just don't want to identify with gay culture for whatever reason. It isn't them. I get it. But that doesn't mean you have to "act" straight to not identify with it. You just... don't identify with it. Like I said before, if someone wants to express themselves as masculine or feminine, more power to them. But don't shame yourself and your own sexuality through "straight acting". There is a name for straight acting before someone comes out. It's called being in the closet.
Like in the video, when you said that all through your teenage years, you would constantly be conscious of your every move to not come off as gay. I went through that too. When I came out, I deconstructed all of that, and it was so liberating to be myself. Whether someone identifies me as masculine or feminine is beyond my concern. I am me, and that is what matters. However, I have met several openly gay guys who truly identify as straight acting, and it is just as if they came out, but they kept the charade up, not just for their public face, but for literally everyone in their life, including other gay guys, which is problematic in itself as many people who are straight acting are extremely homophobic. It is just baffling to me how some people can be out then use a term like straight acting, which makes it seem they are literally crawling back into the closet.
Nicely articulated point Mark. There were more interesting thing's in his blog than this unfortunate.title.
I don't think they are crawling back into the closet. I think he said "straight acting" in the terms of acting masculine so that people won't associate him as gay or call out as being gay. I have met other straight acting gay guys in my life that during their high school and college year, they tried hiding their identity and their gayness that they have to act straights and tried fitting in with other straights so that they can hide they are gay and some of them even became homophobic so that their friends or their community would think them as Anti-gay guys so their hiding would be successful. I have met gay guys said they used to be homophobic in the past and so scared to accept their sexuality. They would do anything to hide it like trying to get a girlfriend, going to a strip clubs with their straight friends and fucked the girls but in the end, they know deep down that they are so into the guys.
For my experience, I used to be very feminine till 12 and my Dad one day called me shouted me if you wanted to be gay (he used the language like faggot). In my mind, I was so sad, scared and ashamed. I wanted to say I did not choose this but I ended up saying No, Daddy. In my country, people think gay as trans guys, who are feminine and like putting makeup and dress up like a girl. I knew I was feminine but I did not have desire to dress like a girl. So since then, I tried everything I could to change myself completely. I tried to do everything straight; acting straight, sounding straight, hating myself for who I am, who I like, how I behave, songs I listened, I changed myself completely. During the process, every night I sleep, I hated myself for who I am and tired to pretending everyday. After several years after High school, I got so used to it. I found myself totally changed. The only thing I could not change is that I find guys are way more attractive than girls. Long story short, I found out Brokeback Mountain movie and youtube videos about coming out and that's where I started to accept for who I am and decided not to control my feelings towards guys. Now I am a openly gay guy who came out to all my straight buddies and people around me. One thing that is left with me from that 10 years of hating myself nightmare was that masculinity is left with me. All my gay friends very feminine but few are not but I embrace them. They showed me the accepting world. So I could totally relate to this guy talking about acting straight. I don't think, I am crawling back into the closet or neither is other guys who are masculine. This is who we are in the gay community.
I guess I'd be considered as a straight acting gay, people often tell me that they can't believe I'm gay, and I'm like dude wtf why I would even pretend to be gay if I'm not? I guess it's due to the fact I have only had straight male friends and some female friends, and honestly I feel more comfortable hanging around with straigh people, I don't know why
torsora Maybe those straight boys aren't so straight. 😉. You're super hot!!!
It is difficult for me to accept myself in anyway. I do wish I had more straight male friends, but sometimes I find it so hard to talk to guys who are so handsome.
Ivan Alejandro You have to get over there looks first. Treat them like a human being. They may not even think they are that great looking (which is usually the case). Kindness goes a long way + so a lot of straight men want to know a gay guy's perspective on women. They appreciate the help. Most guys nowadays don't care that you're gay because they don't have to worry about competition if they have a girlfriend. 👍😀
first time seeing this. when does the "acting" happen?
Loved this video It's not just I'm straight acting , given A choice I'd pick a navy blue shirt over yellow or pink I'd pick plain eyeglasses over really stylish trendy ones you know what I mean.?
Definitely longer videos are better. I prefer less editing TBH. I think its more authentic. Keep up the good work Adam & Luke!
Great video guys. As for your subject matter, I came out when I was 16 yrs old and I never gave it any thought on how to act I mean I'm me and that's it although I've spent time in the Army, drove truck coast to coast for 15 yrs and I have folks all the time I would have never guessed you were gay and I laugh and tell them we are not all hairdressers. lol ALWAYS be yourself and enjoy life.
I’m a straight acting gay guy. Not to hide. Just who I am. I think it had to do with growing up. Knew early I was gay and didn’t want people to know. Now, it just me naturally.
+Calvin Davis exact same!
You are so italian. We are a very select club. What gave it away? The kitchen in the basement with the palace of gold and white upstairs. A few angels, and of course the Holy Family has gotta be somewhere.
+Scott Parisi ur so right with everything you said lol
Scooter PotPie Not just Italians do this, also Spanish and Latin Americans.
Nice video! Your grandparents are too cute. Spend time with them as much as you can. One thing that I would recommend to you is to give your grandparents and your parents a journal and have them write about their life in it. Tell them to write anything they want. We did this with my parents and we thought they would put it aside and not do it. Wrong! They have filled up three of them! Give it a try. Now that my Dad has died, I can go back an read his journals and have happy memories of him. Something even better since you guys are vloggers is to record your grand parents and parents and ask them questions about their life, how they feel about things, etc. You won't regret it.
Love the title so str8 😘
I was UA-cam surfing and watched your video. I liked it. The hiking was cool. I live in Calif. I enjoy visiting Yosemite Nat’l Park
Great video!
Wow, Luck looks so very different without his glasses!
1) The idea of "straight acting" gay guys is a symptom of misogyny. Before you were born there were gay personal ads in gay magazines and papers. "No fems" was a common phrase you would see. Masculinity was prized over femininity. I don't believe anyone should try to act more or less feminine/masculine, but I do see the harm in this value of one form of behaviour over the other.
2) I don't know if this was mentioned in a video I missed, but how did you get your Crop Tops team shirts designed?
3) The editing on this video was really good. Great quality IMO. I was thinking this even before you mentioned it at the end of the video. Very nice job. Are you completely self taught in this?
+Paul Lambert first of all thank you ! Im a graphic designer I designed the logo myself, I used adobe illustrator, and then printed it on shirts. And imagine the quality if I had a drone ! *Drools*
I think you should do a Kickstarter for a drone. a final point I forgot to make before was about dodgeball. In school, it' was mostly a torturous experience for us . I can't imagine doing it willingly for "fun." :D
sitting on that ledge.....gives me the willies. oh yeah, didn't know I was gay until my 20s.
Utterly random question. Your jacket, with the wool collar, what make it is? Love it and would love one 👍❤️. Great video too
+Mugtree thank you ! It’s from Zara from last year !
TheMonasteroTwins thank you so much. It's great 👍. Have a great week
That wide-angle, yaaas.
The long videos are cool.
(personal opinion) I think straight acting is the term used to indicate non flamboyant. I am categorized into straight acting not because of hyper masculinity(far from it) but the fact that I behave like myself and don't seek to flaunt my sexual orientation. I personally don't care if you're masculine or feminine but if I'm to be honest, flamboyancy makes me uncomfortable. I don't see why you have to act a part to be who you are. You will never catch me flinging a limp wrist or drawing out my "S's" like I have a forked tongue. Thats just my bit.
I guess I'm a "straight acting" gay guy and masculine but it's not from "suppressing my gayness". That's just who I am, that's me being true to myself. Being gay doesn't mean you have to be feminine. I think those stereotypes and dichotomy is small-minded. Be you, be true to yourself and don't let people tell you that you r not being your true self and you need to act a certain way because your gay 🙄
Great to hear someone from your generation saying this. I was in high school from 1980-84 and felt the same way you do, and still feel this way.
A man is a man no matter what. I grew up having to hide my "gayness" I think it has big part in it but I feel my own character is my own choice whom I've choosen to be.... I'm not into flaunting my sexuality around, but everyone deserve respect for who they are.
Wow I definitely agree with you! My father raised me as a man but I also naturally picked up after my older sister and mother. I'm probably more masculine today due to adaptation, trying to hide my gayness in my childhood and teens to fit in with my peers and become more undetected. I was very suppressed and femininity in boys was not at all welcomed, encouraged and very hostile in my environment and society in general. I also have a gay older brother who 10+ years older than me. He was really feminine even as a young child, might even be transgender now. He wears women clothing, make up, hair etc. So I think my parents were trying to do something different with me and hope i didn't turn out that way. At the same time I'm also attracted to masculinity, so I try to emulate what I like. Or you become what you like.
I used to talk with a really gay voice, but I’ve trained myself to just talk normal because that’s what I prefer.
I got exactly the same thing. Especially in school.
i think it's definitely formed by the environment you're in, but not necessarily that it has only to do with homophobia or fear, it's just like a personality type
i wouldn't describe myself as feminine really, im definitely not a masculine acting guy, i play Nintendo games, watch anime, and draw
but that's because those are the things i grew up doing, they're my interests. it has nothing to do with my sexuality
i think that for SOME it is internalized homophonia and it should be taken care of if they choose. But to automatically assume that a gay person that "acts straight" is suffering from internalized homophobia CAN counterproductive in terms of promoting healthy self-image.
Looks like Evan drops an F-bomb at 4:49 lol.
I don't actively hide my sexuality and I don't feel any need to be "gay on display" either. I've had pictures of my partner at work, mentioned him as my partner in conversations with co-workers, etc. When I'm talking with other gay co-workers, I will sometimes use a campy expression for fun -- but only if it's appropriate, not because I think I have to to be gay. That said, I'm still sensitive to whether or not I might endanger myself in public when among people or cultures that react negatively to gay people. Overall, I find if I just act like a human being -- by being kind, considerate, and helpful -- rather than worrying about whether I'm "acting straight" or "acting gay", I worry less about what others think and life's happier.
Did Evan forget he has a youtube channel?
Just subscribed because of Luke's joke about Lion King at Kasia's place.
+YoursTruly Ahaha welcome 🙌🏼😘
Longer please 😫🙏🙏💓
Cool vid 👌🏽🔥💯
Armando.Animations thank you sir!