How To Heal From A Trauma Bond

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  • Trauma bond or trauma bonding, often associated with narcissistic abuse, can leave individuals feeling trapped and emotionally entangled in toxic relationships. In order to heal from a trauma bond, we need to recognize the signs to understand the impact of narcissism. This video offers practical guidance on how to heal from a trauma bond.
    So, whether you're navigating the aftermath of narcissistic abuse or seeking to understand the complexities of trauma bonds, we hope this video provides invaluable insights to help you reclaim your emotional well-being and foster healthier relationships. Don't let trauma bonds dictate your life - empower yourself with the knowledge and tools to break free and heal.
    #traumabond #trauma #narcissist #relationship
    Writer: Dylan Swanepoel
    Script Editor: Kelly Soong
    Script Manager: Kelly Soong
    Voice Over: Brandon / @littleghostyofficialtm
    Animator: Naphia @Naphia
    UA-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
    REFERENCES:
    Stines, S. (2023, November 8). 10 steps to recovering from a toxic trauma bond. GoodTherapy.org Therapy Blog. www.goodtherapy.org/blog/10-steps-to-recovering-from-toxic-trauma-bond-0110175
    Dutton, Donald & Painter, Susan. (1993). Emotional Attachments in Abusive Relationships: A Test of Traumatic Bonding Theory. Violence and victims. 8. 105-20. 10.1891/0886-6708.8.2.105.
    Sias, P. M., & Bartoo, H. (2007). Friendship, social support, and health. In Low-cost approaches to promote physical and mental health: Theory, research, and practice (pp. 455-472). New York, NY: Springer New York.

КОМЕНТАРІ • 130

  • @MikaLowes
    @MikaLowes Місяць тому +351

    I can't be the only one who thought trauma bonding was when you bond with someone who has similar trauma as you

    • @AnaAlvarez-ph5sl
      @AnaAlvarez-ph5sl Місяць тому +9

      Me too

    • @Rymeen23
      @Rymeen23 Місяць тому +4

      You are not

    • @ryanc5572
      @ryanc5572 Місяць тому +3

      That is what I thought as well

    • @LucieTalks101
      @LucieTalks101 Місяць тому +1

      I thought the same thing

    • @keip4568
      @keip4568 Місяць тому +9

      If you have the means too" is the key here, therapy isn't for everyone even in abusive relationships and recovering from them. Plus not everyone can afford or have the right for therapy it obviously isn't free. A great example is that betterhelp thing.
      Sometimes you just need a good friend or someone reaching out that cares about your trauma and is willing to listen and understand you with much needed empathy/sympathy.
      Which is oh so rare and hard to find.
      Many people nowadays have zero tolerance for anything that isn't joyful or painless.

  • @lilly.8391
    @lilly.8391 Місяць тому +153

    Not this video being about trauma bond and the thumbnail being Makima and Denji😭🙏

    • @e5OCleo
      @e5OCleo Місяць тому +17

      THAT'S WHAT BOUGHT ME HERE (⁠✷ ⁠╹⁠▽⁠╹⁠ ✷⁠) ♥️

    • @yuutathehuman
      @yuutathehuman Місяць тому +6

      THATS WHAT I NOTICED FIRST

    • @fallingdevilglazer
      @fallingdevilglazer Місяць тому +5

      Im here for queen

    • @Dobbz_Media
      @Dobbz_Media Місяць тому

      Lmao for real

  • @Just_a_Nobody00
    @Just_a_Nobody00 Місяць тому +106

    When you are in a trauma bond, the lingering feelings and false hope can be overwhelming making it hard for you to move on. It’s like the ghosts of the past are still haunting your thoughts and emotions.

    • @shihabulhasan8633
      @shihabulhasan8633 Місяць тому

      True

    • @keip4568
      @keip4568 Місяць тому +1

      If you have the means too" is the key here therapy isn't for everyone even in abusive relationships ans recovering from them. Plus not everyone can afford or have the right for therapy it obviously isn't free. A great example is that betterhelp thing.
      Sometimes you just need a good friend or someone reaching out that cares about your trauma and is willing to listen and understand you with much needed empathy/sympathy.
      Which is oh so rare and hard to find.
      Many people nowadays have zero tolerance for anything that isn't joyful or painless.

    • @41052
      @41052 9 днів тому

      My sister can be such a kind person when she can be, she’s one of my best friends. But she’s also can be violent and mean. I just want an apology and for it to stop.

  • @nourmallysalty
    @nourmallysalty Місяць тому +51

    Makima and Denji being the face of this issue so on target

  • @psych2gomandarin
    @psych2gomandarin Місяць тому +84

    0:00 intro
    0:26 recognize that you are in a trauma Bond
    1:25 talk about your trauma
    2:21 build a support system
    2:53 live in reality
    3:38 allow yourself to heal
    4:23 outro

  • @sufianabuahmad7781
    @sufianabuahmad7781 Місяць тому +13

    Man, it's been two years and I'm still getting random things that pull me back to it. Perfume of a coworker made me have a small panic attack. Going no contact was the best move, but I never really realized that there was still internal connections . Stay strong people.

    • @shihabulhasan8633
      @shihabulhasan8633 Місяць тому +1

      Oh man! Even going no contact has become a source of mental torture as i always have to see this person since she is my co-worker.

    • @sufianabuahmad7781
      @sufianabuahmad7781 Місяць тому

      @@shihabulhasan8633 that sounds freaking terrible . Mine was part of my friend group for a time and that made the whole dynamic impossible and just uncomfortable for everyone. Thankfully overtime it improved as they left the group.

  • @daijoubuu
    @daijoubuu Місяць тому +34

    traumabonds are so complicated to deal with and hard to really understand especially as the receiver of it
    i really am thankful nowdays we have things like this to explain and help us

  • @geokowalski314
    @geokowalski314 Місяць тому +6

    so many misconceptions out there about what a trauma bond is so i'm glad this vid came out

  • @Travis_20098
    @Travis_20098 Місяць тому +43

    That thumbnail is amazing
    Poor Denji

  • @VejeSanmat
    @VejeSanmat Місяць тому +22

    Always used to think that the people who comment stuff like perfect timing are just exaggerating but it really happened with me just now

  • @Spider-milow
    @Spider-milow Місяць тому +45

    Not makima and Denji! 😭🙏🏻

  • @stayhappylittlemermaid
    @stayhappylittlemermaid Місяць тому +5

    The greatest inspiration you can derive is from your inner self and from a heart that knows you are on the right path.

  • @41052
    @41052 9 днів тому +1

    A trauma bond is like being in the best relationship and in the worst relationship at the same time. Constantly walking on egg shells, but genuinely looking forwards to seeing them because when they aren’t being mean or violent, they are one of the best people. I love my sister so much, but she hurts me.

  • @JohnSmith-wo7ns
    @JohnSmith-wo7ns Місяць тому +6

    I knew something was wrong when I could acknowledge her abusive behaviour but was still devastated when we split up. I should have been happy to be free, instead I didn't want to exist.

    • @emiemilia6219
      @emiemilia6219 Місяць тому

      Jesus loves you John Smith - He loves you so much, He (being God in the flesh) came down to earth and humbled Himself to death on the cross. He died, was buried and rose on the third day defeating sin and death - so you can be saved? Why would He do that, you may ask? Because Jesus loves you - and me, humanity that He created, we are all sinners guilty of committing sin against God. We once had a relationship with Jesus - beginning with Adam and Eve - until they sinned; now that sin entered into the world, it has completely separated us from God. The wages of sin is death, and our deserved punishment is hell. Except our Lord has made a way for us all - through His Son Jesus Christ 💙🩵💟.
      By grace through faith in Jesus Christ, you will be saved (from death to life) and have received the beautiful gift of eternal salvation through Jesus Christ. Failure to repent and accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior will lead to Judgement (of ALL of your sins) and cast into hell for eternity. Jesus loves you. In Jesus name, Amen.

  • @clareoreilly7187
    @clareoreilly7187 Місяць тому

    Thank you so much for this video

  • @yubeluchiha
    @yubeluchiha Місяць тому +2

    I needed this thanks ❤❤❤

  • @Subscribe_to_agentomega
    @Subscribe_to_agentomega Місяць тому +2

    I love your voice its so calming

  • @zaixoxoo
    @zaixoxoo Місяць тому

    thank you for this

  • @march5233
    @march5233 Місяць тому +2

    Shabbat Shalom
    I hope one day we all can accept /love each other as well as our Creator
    Sending positive vibes to this beautiful couple and to everyone.
    Be love 🙏

  • @luvqraft6024
    @luvqraft6024 Місяць тому +1

    Being from the School of Assume what it Means, I’ve always assumed that the definition is a bond that exists via trauma, even without “abuse”. But I’m stoopid.

  • @niasiamack9333
    @niasiamack9333 Місяць тому

    Amazing

  • @SourCube-ko4ls
    @SourCube-ko4ls Місяць тому +4

    I have not been in any type of bond with anyone 😢

  • @A55a551n
    @A55a551n Місяць тому +2

    Timestamps
    1). Recognise that you are in a trauma bond 0:26
    2). Talk about your trauma 1:25
    3). Build a support system 2:20
    4). Live in reality 2:54
    5). Allow yourself to heal 3:38
    Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

  • @funkymonkeyofficialchannel6182
    @funkymonkeyofficialchannel6182 Місяць тому +4

    I tried telling this to the very person verbally abusing me
    And it went about as bad as you'd expect it
    Denial outbursts gaslighting ghosting me and ignoring answering my questions when j asked why

    • @ryanc5572
      @ryanc5572 Місяць тому

      I hope you can get away from them. I hope you can find happiness and safety with yourself

  • @XxRandom_VivAxX
    @XxRandom_VivAxX Місяць тому +2

    CSM!!!! THIS IS TOO REAL 😭

  • @Learningisfun373
    @Learningisfun373 Місяць тому

    Very interesting!🧐 ❤

  • @HeroponMan
    @HeroponMan Місяць тому

    still trying to recover from the trauma my abusive ex girlfriend put me through, several months later. it takes time, sometimes a lot of it. that is ok. keep yourself busy and achieving!!

  • @vengefulfork
    @vengefulfork Місяць тому

    Oh good timing, TCOAAL

  • @keip4568
    @keip4568 Місяць тому +1

    "If you have the means too" is the key here therapy isn't for everyone even in abusive relationships ans recovering from them. Plus not everyone can afford or have the right for therapy it obviously isn't free. A great example is that betterhelp thing.

  • @Lafilledlapluie
    @Lafilledlapluie Місяць тому

    This is so brutal. I don't even know how I broke it. My friends helped a lot

  • @slashr406
    @slashr406 Місяць тому

    I love how fittingly they putting denji and makima here like the last piece to a puzzle

  • @joeyRaven201
    @joeyRaven201 Місяць тому +1

    I dont feel emotions i just act like i have them by looking at other people

  • @inamabilis7423
    @inamabilis7423 Місяць тому +1

    It’s been nearly 3 years but I still wonder if she’s still suicidal. It hurts to think about it not because I worry for her, but because she has made me think this way.

  • @my8O8
    @my8O8 Місяць тому +2

    poor denji i hope he finds love
    (he won't fujimoto is evil😭)

  • @patriciaarodriguez6641
    @patriciaarodriguez6641 Місяць тому

    I would like to see a video on how to help someone who is in a trauma bond relationship but doesn’t acknowledge it. Also, both are close relatives so a lose-lose situation here.

  • @rufoisaiahbracamonte338
    @rufoisaiahbracamonte338 Місяць тому

    My past trauma bound is about my brother who is toxic and manipulative related to my siblings that he wont allow me to enjoy those things inside the house and punishing me to have no wifi that I did something wrong and he keeps continuing to over controlled my behavior and disrespecting me which is critical. Even my sister who is also toxic that she talked to me so bad during breakfast meal. I felt anxious that they'll might do it again. Thats why I decided to set boundaries and decluttered space to take deep breaths in order to heal from past trauma and surround myself with the right people who are good listeners but im free from any judgement and criticism by my siblings or a family members while going on a vacation. My cousin had gone through a toxic mother who is abusive and damaging child's development which is awful for her. Her dad told not to yell at their children like that. I hope this video was helpful to anyone 4:26

  • @TheNonameHousehold
    @TheNonameHousehold Місяць тому

    And so the journey continues...

  • @Rmm1722
    @Rmm1722 Місяць тому

    Wow 😮

  • @DaTLMusic
    @DaTLMusic Місяць тому +2

    You could also peel off your skin

  • @BeelzeKid
    @BeelzeKid Місяць тому +1

    it still hurts even after 296 days

  • @user-xe4yu2om8j
    @user-xe4yu2om8j Місяць тому +3

    I want friends who r interested in psychology, mental health and anthropology... Anyone? ❤

  • @AdrianScanlon
    @AdrianScanlon Місяць тому

    This was a tough video to watch, relevant, certainly, but tough. Its not always easy to spot someone with a malicious nature. To add, increasing numbers of people seem to be mean and downright nasty.

  • @ashleyrandall2160
    @ashleyrandall2160 5 днів тому

    Yeah.... I definitely have a trauma bond with my mom. 😢

  • @wildyato3737
    @wildyato3737 День тому

    3:40 This is the best words which is well said.but undescribable..cuase many people are used to hear..anyone's worst lives...is never ending complaining from their POV..that's why they just don't want a person who always ..feel bad in mood..
    or people sometimes exaggerate enough to make you feel even worse or even gaslight you!..that you are worse than a girl..itself😂😂....
    No body is listening your tragic story..
    People only want bad from.you..to do
    something bad..and end your life😂😂..

  • @krishna335
    @krishna335 Місяць тому +1

    End the bond, no matter how painful it is. No addiction can be broken without willpower.

  • @castielysia
    @castielysia Місяць тому +2

    Why is the thumbnail Denji and Makima, except in the artstyle of Toilet Bound Hanako Kun😭😭😭

  • @Sodsaran2009
    @Sodsaran2009 15 днів тому

    I’ve been with my bf for over 4years, and he’s so toxic af. But even so, we both love each other so much?! I get so hurt from his manipulative/abusive actions, and he won’t apologize, but just the mere thought of leaving him makes me so depressed. I’m mentally drifting away, but can’t let go. I really don’t know what I should do.

  • @robotronicsl.p8886
    @robotronicsl.p8886 29 днів тому

    Using designes of rudeus and eris

  • @yuriridley8144
    @yuriridley8144 Місяць тому

    1:02
    “In case I don't see ya, good afternoon, good evening and good night!”

  • @user-on6nw6pk6h
    @user-on6nw6pk6h Місяць тому

    did naphin do this one aswell?

  • @husnaliyana8393
    @husnaliyana8393 Місяць тому +1

    I can't be the only one who thought they were yoosung and rika on the thumbnail

  • @-G-GaziAbrerZakir
    @-G-GaziAbrerZakir Місяць тому

    you guys are doing god's work. i wouldve died by now if not for your channel. thank you

  • @yipipayayiii
    @yipipayayiii Місяць тому +1

    Genuinely who draws the thumbnail for these videos 😭

  • @sincerelysophiak
    @sincerelysophiak Місяць тому +1

    finally

  • @user-rh3wd9th6u
    @user-rh3wd9th6u Місяць тому +2

    ( saying this on an alt acc so they don’t find me. ) Hey, I need a little bit of help, I have a friend but they’ve been extremely iffy all of a sudden, they kept on making me confused about my boundaries and they took advantage of my abandonment issues, when I confronted them earlier, they quickly got a friend involved and lied saying I was using my eating disorder to manipulate and gain sympathy. I don’t know if it’s true so I apologised to them but I have a feeling they’re manipulative but I can’t leave because they’ll get the other guy involved and they’ll stain my name and reputation towards friends and acquaintances, are they manipulative and how do i leave them?

    • @user-rh3wd9th6u
      @user-rh3wd9th6u Місяць тому +2

      I’m also autistic which means I can’t read social cues, they know this.

  • @mahakrathore5
    @mahakrathore5 18 днів тому

    I seriously need help right now😢. It is really hard for me of letting him go ...
    I love him so much but he is verbally abusive controlling disrespectful and sometimes physically violent too.. I need help to move on from him . Why do I even feel for him.. 😮

  • @legostop-motion5503
    @legostop-motion5503 Місяць тому +1

    Tryna get in shape.
    1 situp for every like.

  • @ikrimase
    @ikrimase Місяць тому +1

    only clicked on this because i saw makima and denji

  • @BenMojo.
    @BenMojo. Місяць тому +1

    🤯🤯

  • @_-_-_Namelesscat
    @_-_-_Namelesscat Місяць тому +1

    THE FEMALE VOICE😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • @Kinaeyo
    @Kinaeyo Місяць тому

    IS THE FIRST 14 SECONDS A REFERENCE TO BITTER CHOCO DECORATION??

  • @YoseiHayashiiiiYT
    @YoseiHayashiiiiYT Місяць тому +1

    THE THUMBNAIL WAS MAKIMA AND DENJI WASN'T IT?

  • @Annanovelman
    @Annanovelman Місяць тому +1

    Veryyyy early person here hehe

  • @benbeans1561
    @benbeans1561 20 днів тому

    Does anyone know what the art style is? Please tell me 🙏

  • @yeddareacts2.0
    @yeddareacts2.0 Місяць тому +1

    No not the thumbnail 😭💀

  • @bornsniper9531
    @bornsniper9531 Місяць тому +1

    I thought trauma bond is when you connect with someone because of trauma?

  • @LSkull666
    @LSkull666 Місяць тому

    Does almost drowning as a kid and almost hitting his head that could hav led to an concusion Count as trauma? Because i also think that im starting to lose my sanity haha

  • @omegakile2328
    @omegakile2328 Місяць тому

    Is it normal that if i have a crush on someone that i often say to myself that i never gonna get their attention becaus im too ugly/fat? Is it normal too to be sad about animated Shows like Pokémon or Animes becaus you cant be in then becaus theyre not Real?

  • @Pastabeannscrazy
    @Pastabeannscrazy Місяць тому

    My mom

  • @omegakile2328
    @omegakile2328 Місяць тому

    why cant i see the comment that replied to my problem in my comment.

  • @Gsjsji_jwjsbs
    @Gsjsji_jwjsbs Місяць тому +3

    Thumbnail lmfao

  • @9_33.
    @9_33. Місяць тому

    Well i cant.

  • @kazuhaism
    @kazuhaism Місяць тому

    OH NAH BRO NOT MAKIMA AND DENJI IM GONNA SOB

  • @linli_n1
    @linli_n1 Місяць тому +2

    OMG, no way the thumbnail is finally not with OMORI characters (but I think I noticed few references in the vid ?? )

  • @sayyedaabbas3432
    @sayyedaabbas3432 Місяць тому

    I clicked this video just because there was Denji and Makima.

  • @necrogenesis1981
    @necrogenesis1981 Місяць тому

    I thought trauma bonding was when traumatized people bond over their trauma.

  • @TheBushSpirit
    @TheBushSpirit Місяць тому +1

    Chainsaw man.

  • @psychologyforeveryone226
    @psychologyforeveryone226 Місяць тому

    My channel is similar to yours

  • @shahzodyahshi-ly4ye
    @shahzodyahshi-ly4ye Місяць тому +2

    What is happened to your animation

    • @SL1M3C1CL3
      @SL1M3C1CL3 Місяць тому

      Bro it’s just another art style-

    • @shahzodyahshi-ly4ye
      @shahzodyahshi-ly4ye Місяць тому

      @@SL1M3C1CL3 can’t you realise how bad the quality become compared to these videos a year ago

    • @SL1M3C1CL3
      @SL1M3C1CL3 Місяць тому

      I’m just not going to argue

  • @pogboy537
    @pogboy537 Місяць тому +1

    bro wtf is that thumbnail

  • @tommyboom11
    @tommyboom11 Місяць тому +1

    574 views in 8 minutes, fell off

  • @thaG86
    @thaG86 Місяць тому

    Thought this was called Stockholm Syndrome 🤔

  • @kidszonebabyshop877
    @kidszonebabyshop877 Місяць тому +1

    I see that you have changed your animations.....( not tryna be rude ) but in my opinion your colourful animations were better but it’s still okay but the old animations were really good

    • @shutupandletmegohey
      @shutupandletmegohey Місяць тому

      Idk, I like this soft style, it feels like it was handmade ;3

  • @shutupandletmegohey
    @shutupandletmegohey Місяць тому

    Very helpful! Thank u so much for talking about this topic

  • @TC19
    @TC19 Місяць тому

    Hey Psy2Go team, hope that you're well ✨. If we would like to reuse one of your content and mention your credentials, who may we kindly ask that request to receive that consent? Thank you so much 🌻🤍