Jump back in again. 05:22 .. Fi critic ISFJ/INFJ 10:29 ,Te ESTP/ENTP critic 15:12, Fe critic ESFP/ENFP 17:33, Ti critic ISTJ/INTJ 24:36, Se critic ESTJ/ESFJ 29:00, Ni critic INTP/INFP 33:20, Si critic ISTP/ISFP 39:23, Ne critic ENTJ/ENFJ 44:56
Thank you for making it easier to find the part where he talks about Ni critic. I was deciding whether I should ask someone if they want to get coffee with me but I kept thinking it was a bad and irresponsible thing to do. But now I am sure I should just go up to them and ask them out.
This is my (haven't totally) educated guess. There are 4 functions that makes him enjoying this lecture. Ti parent, Fe child (both of them to tell the truth so people can be better), Si inferior (recalling all the stories in the past) and Se demon (don't matter whether people say he gives bad experience or not) to give them bad experience to stop being hypocritical FOR ALL OF THE CRITIC FUNCTIONS. These factors may be why, he is enjoying this lecture.
You basically summed up my issue as an INTP as well! I have four different options to pick for my career but I don't know what to pick. I'm overly critical of some of the options even though they may be good for me.
1:28 cognitive functions John Beebe 4:39 Critic Function is 6th function 5:23 6th function is like the Parent function (2nd function) 6th function 5:32 attitude is like a grandparent 5:48 like someone who is wise beyond their years or 5:52 wise within their years 5:54 if you develop your critic function early you can become wiser beyond your years 6:06 7:06 10:00 10:12 10:25 Fi (ISFJ, INFJ) 15:11 Te (ESTP, ENTP) 17:30 Fe (ESFP, ENFP) 24:34 Ti (ISTJ, INTJ) 27:31 Se (ESTJ, ESFJ) 33:17 Ni (INTP, INFP) 38:47 advice 39:22 Si (ISTP, ISFP) are forgetful only recall important stuff advice write down what they said. They get mad if you dont recall. They can be loyal people Advice 44:56 Ne (ENTJ, ENFJ) Wont allow anyone to commit to them. Just assume you will betray them. Afraid of abandonment. Afraid of being betrayed 52:30 meaning of life
Do I have enough knowledge to write this comment - no. Will you ever have enough knowledge to do anything - no. So either you will be stuck in analysis paralysis or learn from a failure - your call =)
MY GOD THIS WAS SO GOOD. The genuine excitement talking about these was amazing, & thanks for the heads up on waking up in my 40s as an INTP finally overcoming failure to launch syndrome, I'll actually try to do that before I hit 20
I identify as an INFP and like CS Joseph content for its direct / no nonsense appoarch. All I would say is move forward in actualising, self love and development is the winning ticket for a stable base. The more knowledge I hoover up when I encounter an issue, the more aware I become, which can then be past onto others. I see new challenges now almost like old fables, which can be past on when someone else counters a similar issue. So take notes when internally running towards the fear I already know you can overcome. Because I have learnt one of my “functions” to be other people’s catalysts. This is an amazing gift, just know your already amazing and learn more about yourself to give more of this gift to others. I must admit I see humans interacting with each other, so rather than always intentional causing pain. It’s difference in mindsets and how we interact. By deep understanding of what sets up these internal differences is what can bring us closer together as a whole. But I am a “fluffy” / deep thinking INFP than using more to the point cutting logic.
Wow.... I am speechless.... You know that feeling, when you learn something so incredible, such a Paradigm shift, that is feels that your life is forever changed? This video, all the way. "Forgive us our sins, as we forgive those who sin against us"
Thank you for willing to critique people. True love does not except people as imperfect, true love seeks to make others better. True love isn't afraid of offending someone, it is hopeful that it will inspire someone. And you have inspired me.
I really enjoyed this video. I'm an INFP and I have a hard time allowing myself to want things, and to take action. I didn't realize this was an infp thing. Thanks for the advice. I'll try harder to initiate action. 🙂
Every time I chose action, it went down in flames after years of efforts. Now 20 years later I still know what I want, I just don't know how to get it...
The law of attraction not working sometimes bc we don't know that we are responsible for desiring things. The universe wants to give us what we want we just need to express it.
@@smartcatcollarproject5699 The key to success here is to take one of your goals and then just do it. It can be a pain to get out of this comfy rut and get going, because it is so awfully comfortable (I'm admittedly guilty of this as well). However, actually getting crap _done_ is more than enough to offset the initial inertia, and while you are at it, use the momentum that you are gaining from getting something done to get started on the next thing. Plus keep in mind that you don't have to be perfect with it as viable is always good enough, and if you feel the need to improve anything, you can still do it.
As an isfp I must admit that my memory is about as useful and detailed as a dog. It's hilariously short lived and I deeply appreciate when people write me lists lol
Thanks Chase, actually needed to hear this as an ENJ so i can practically improve myself 👊🏽. This Bible verse came to mind in this vid, not sure if you’d agree but i cant help but think of: “Do not judge so that you will not be judged. For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you.” Matthew 7:1-2 (NASB).
This is so true especially when I was younger I used to think everyone was stupid and my best friend would think everyone’s a bad person. We had such a hard time making real friends as teenagers
My INTJ dad often says that our wisdom is like a drop in the ocean :) The ENFJ Criitc makes me really sad, since I only now realize how much I've hurt one in my past and I have no idea how or if I could ever make it right :(
Legit write them a letter explaining and apologizing and make sure it is handwritten and mailed to them to engage their Se child. They will appreciate it for the amount of effort you put into the letter.
I almost jumped right up to get to work on my current project as soon as you got to Ni critic and pointed out the inactivity and failure to launch syndrome. But I've got to finish Si and Ne before i get right to work haha. Thank you and your Ti parent, for pointing out the extremely relevant truth behind Ni critic. Definitely motivated after watching this
As a ENFJ, how would I stop criticizing the intentions of other people; when in the past I had to deal with a narcissist who manipulated me into thinking I was crazy and assholes who stole my belongings back in middle school. Although, their are a few people who I trust such as my family and close friends, is it really that bad to keep your guard up most of the time? Especially since we are prone to subtle manipulation.
You are a really good teacher. So many people on the platform talk about the MBTI typing with the letters and vaguely go over the cognitive functions, but you've even seemingly taken it a step further and now its all beginning to make sense. It's no longer wishy, washy. I still cant determine my type that well and im constantly changing my type based on my thoughts and actions, but the point is, im getting closer to the truth of who I am and how to help connect with people, and how to understand peoples movements, what makes them uncomfortable or angry, what brings them joy(even when it seemingly can go unacknowledged on the surface). It helped out when talking to certain types of women and peoples work styles. Gives a sense of relatability to the people around you and helps recognize that the people around us and ourselves are human. Thank you for all of your teachings....(can you tell im informative yet?)
OMG this is the first time I've heard Ni-critic explained to me (as an INFP). So true! We don't dare 'want' anything for real. I think it's even worse when you've been hurt before (because Fi gets hit so hard). And Ne-parent seems to avoid this inaction by taking too many actions (or worse: imagining too many actions) - although avoiding any real commitment deep down. It's like we run around with a thousand personas but don't dare be real to ourselves anymore. we hide the 'real' inside but just wander around on the outside. Why INFPs seem to take on different personas all the time. 2020 resolution: dare to take action! [This is why we love INTJs so much lol bc their Ni takes on our Ne
The function stackings of a type all play in tune with each other. They don't individually exist, they can't. They exist because of each other. Just like the Ni critic exists because of Ne parent priority and critical of itself or everyone else's Ni because you think them(or yourself) being selfish so you saying you like INTJs really makes me really doubt it espcially with Ni critic(it could go either way, either a hypocrite or wise) but since INJs is all about what they want no matter what, the INPs will far more often than not dislike them and view them as the most selfish person ever (especially the INTJ) despite it being far from the truth, unlike the responsible Ni parent of the ENJs the Ni hero of the INJs is more about the Ego/Heroic than responsibility etc., thus being less responsible(often very much so than not) so yeah, the INPs will not like the INJs more often than the ENJs on that specific aspect. Edit: Also speaking of "getting hurt so hard," the child function will get hurt the hardest ever, that's why we need to take care and be mindful of them, not the Hero function, the hero/first function gets "hurt" but it's hurt in the Ego/reputation sense, the child gets hurt genuinely and truly, so anyone hurting the child function knowingly, deserves hell but the ones who hurt the Hero function is fine. The INPs' child is Si, it's nothing about Fi, Fi is the IFPs Ego/hero/reputation, it gets hurt but can't compare to the hurt of the child function. Btw ITJs are the ones who have Fi child, their feelings too fragile but they never show it its because how fragile it is, the IFPs outwardly displays their Fi hero being hurt by moaning outwardly and actively but the Fi child just goes to bed and cries themselves to sleep but no one in the world will ever know that, so yeah
I like how hype you got on Ni critic. This is why INPs need ENJs: someone who isn't afraid to raise their voice at them when Ni critic becomes a problem. GET A DAMN JOB, BOY!😄
That would only make me feel worse. I am an INFP and my ni is the source of anxiety and much pain for me. Preassure only makes it worse for me. I seriously want to kill myself after christmas and one of the reasons is that the process of looking for/applying for a job is so painful to me and because it is so difficult to me to find a job.
@@someonesomewhere6123 Dont let society rush u into a career u don't want unless ur out of options. Instead...try + find urself. Tht way u will find a purpose, not a job
Thanks for doing this lecture chase, as an ISFP I always struggled to comprehend why I could never commit to people in the Long run, and I struggled to understand, to put it into words for myself but this was rather enlightening for myself(: thanks for making this videos really learning about myself more and others as well (:
OMG!!! That's a wakeup call for INFP Why am i like you yelling at me and throw the truth on my face like this?? It hurts but seems it's exactly what i need RN :(
I really appreciate your enthusiasm teaching this subject. I love when the teacher is so excited about their lectures The Ne critic is so accurate about me... sigh. I always grew up thinking why am I like that 👀.
intp/infp here, one way I got around the fear of desire is realizing the desire itself is not bad, but the attachment to the desire is what trips people (or at least me up). This mindset helped me SO much, I now have a career in my chosen field, people who doubted me before apologized to me and went no contact with toxic family. In a few short years I managed to undo years of self sabotage and failure to launch. I still struggle with judging other peoples desires lol, but that's because I see their "wants" as mostly coming from adherence to traditions, or desperately needing security/safety. I really need to work on my instinct to harshly lecture them about how "unconcious" they are, it probably comes off as judgemental and disagreeable af.
INFP here. Just learning myself about the reasons behind my "failure to launch syndrome" as you call it. But your videos are really helping me out! I feel called out, but it's what I needed to hear, so thanks for that. Also, an ISFP exfriend I'm still getting over TOTALLY meets your description of Si critic disloyalty. I heard you talking about that and I was like "THANK YOU!" I feel so validated even though I feel so attacked haha and the "He was waiting for you, but you have to have the GUTS to ask for forgiveness. Maybe YOU need to have some honour for once!" SPOT ON DUDE! SPOT ON!
My theory about the meaning of life is "it's what you give it". I loved the video and I can't wait to have all your teachings internalised and be aware of these things in others all the time. This knowledge is what makes other people interesting to me tbh. It still annoys me a lot though that many people just don't care to develop themselves.
On behalf of Isfjs I'm sorry for what we put people through. I'm greatful that for every arch type there are people they can relate well to. I went through the critical stage with people and am still not all the way out of the woods with that but I have grown a lot and am not the same as I once was I understand better that its hard to measure up to the moral compass of myself and I believe that God wants us to try our best and he knows when we are. But he is more merciful than we are, we have to learn mercy with others and ourselves.
I'm glad to see that you are taking the chance to enjoy life a little with your family. I hope you have a great time and get lots of rest. As always I enjoyed the lecture and can't wait for the next, but I don't mind waiting if it means you are taking care of yourself.
You nailed Fe critic. That was the missing piece for me with someone close to me, once I learned to challenge this person on their selfishness this opened doors and it broke them out of being lazy and selfish.
thank you for this lecture.. very enlightening. i used to be one of those people who just have a surface understanding about all this until ive watched your videos and started to question the type i thought i am. thank you for your hard work. God bless!
The bit about not being able to get mad at ppl has 100% been me since learning this my Ti critic would always get so mad at my infj friends ti child but learning this has made me so much more accepting of them and everyone else I meet love ur content
this video is crazily real and I love that you are so Blunt with it, it's weird though. I'm an INFJ male based on all the functions but the Ni Critic sounds really relatable. I did grow up with an INFP bro my entire life, so maybe it comes off as almost as a part of me. I loved it so much that I made a audio clip just for him to listen to with one of my favorite songs so that maybe he'll pick it up and listen attentively knowing that I cared about him.
Yeah, that thing on not letting ourselves wanting things.. Or others.. I used to make my sister feel guilty for always asking my mother things.. And the thing is my mother gave her, and I would be so pissed, because I actually wanted the same things.. I just felt it was wrong-..
If people would watch your videos on personality types, I believe that more understanding would happen. Have fun with the kids over Thanksgiving and even though you are getting over being sick you are still so animated. I hope no one calls me while I’m recording cause that would suck. I know you are being dead serious but so damn funny . Keep up the good work.
From Proverbs THE book of Wisdom. “Wisdom is the prime thing. Acquire wisdom; and with all that you acquire, acquire understanding.”-Prov. 4:7. “The fear of Jehovah is the start of wisdom.”-PROVERBS 9:10.
So that's why I intentionally go out of my way to look stupid and fail. That's why I need to force myself to just say what I want to say. Ni Critic. It took a massive blow to my self esteem in the military and to intentionally give up to realize there's no perfect answer to anything. You are always going to piss somebody off, but there's no way to progress without taking a risk. Every time I have a suggestion for my job I run into this crippling fear that I'm going run out my welcome because of past experiences. < All internal dialogue don't mind me.
This lecture was fierce, fiery, and a total kick in the pants! Nicely done, Mr. Joseph. We all have weaknesses which must be explored, exposed, and remedied. Unfortunately our inner critics are rooted in fear, ignorance, and pride, which makes finding an antidote difficult at best. Reguardless, we all must strive to be our best, authentic, compassionate self’s so as a collective culture we can help mitigate suffering for the human race. Thank you for your content!
I sort of disagree because Fe does not verify, but Fe is connected on axis with Ti which does verify, so I would offer at least that you are half right.
As an Fi hero/parent, I'm still unsure, I'm often accused of being unsympathetic. I'm very critical of others and their situations and hate when people rationalize their bad behaviors, unless I can relate to them, then my sense of empathy turns up to the highest degree. I filter my empathy through my own feelings and experiences.
Dude... this shit is getting better and better... Thanks man. I need to find a friend like you to criticize me (INFJ). I also have about a million suggestions on how to create a better path through your hours of knowledge. Maybe I'll hit you up after the next 20 hours of content.
Ouch, that was some tough love that I needed to hear...and you paralleled my favorite quote from Scrubs - summed up, nothing worth having comes easy so get off your keister and do the work. I’ve always been afraid of failing because of feeling the shame for it. But I’ve failed plenty of times before and have survived so why the hell am I still not trying. Not to figure out what I want is I can allow myself to want it. As always, thanks for your videos! The best part of being late to your videos is that I can just keep watching more and don’t have to wait. (INFP)
There is a vicious spiral to the bottom regarding trust and abandonment: Someone senses that the person they have some sort of relation with is a high maintainence person becuase they are sensitive-> Want to get the hell out of this high maintainence relation -> The person being sensitive becomes jaded because of this and potentially even more sensitive so next relationship is even more high maintainence -> Abandoned again.
OUUUUUCCCCHHHHH the truth hurts. A few years ago, my sister told me I was selfish. I honestly didn't realize that I was being selfish. I don't go out of my way to be selfish or to act selfish. But, she did - and whether or not it was true, it definitely hurt and I definitely have made a point to NOT be selfish. So, the truth hurts - but is helpful. No one is perfect and every type has their selfish moments considering we do have all 8 functions, but hearing it to my face was one of the worst feelings. So, you are right - ENFPs can definitely be selfish, but remember - the majority of us do not set out to be, and we are usually unaware of it. And you're right - once I processed that shame, I knew better and did better. Yay Fi Parent!
Also, I feel your passion, and I feel how much you really care about people becoming who you know they can be! I hate that I'm like 2 years too late for the original run of these videos LOL.
Also, the whole thing where you know to much psychology when you can't get mad at anyone because you understand why they did what they did was something I've been saying since I started watching your content, my primary motive for learning all of this, and I so desperately wish that was true for the general populous!
Wow Se critic part explains my dad so well. He’d always get irritated whenever my shoe laces weren’t tied properly and is so OCD about small details like that. Also he overdresses a lot and hates casual wear.
I am really enjoying the Cognitive function videos, at about 29:27 you are talking about a critic function that does not trust if you are unshaven or have pet hair on your clothes, and you say "unkept" I listened more then once to be sure and it is pronounced and spelled "unkempt", which I normally am. I shave maybe once every 3 days and 3 cats means trying to remove all the cat hair would encompass my entire day. Just trying to be informative not critical ;-)
Im sending you mind messages of gratitude every day, as you make my own persona and relationships with others so much easier to navigate. And sure Fi critic must hold us to high standards. If people get stuck in their vice they create so much suffering - especially for themselves :)
@@hadisesadat3839 mind message - like an sms sent through the thoughts. So like thinking of someone and sending them gratitude t.ex :) As an infj I also feel quite certain that minds can communicate through the ether ;)
Hi C.S. Joseph! I'm an ENFP who is reading Strength to Love by MLK based on choosing to develop my Fe wisdom. In the book, he mentions that quotation from Jesus that you mentioned at the end of the video. Before you said the quotation it was ringing in my mind. I had an "oh shit" moment as you said it! A beautiful synchronicity. Now I have even more respect for you. You're dope and your videos are changing lives everyday! Thank you so much
#wisdom=love My mind is once again blown! I don't know how you do it. Your vision is beautiful and the fact that you work so hard to get others to realize what you already know is incredible. Thank you for sharing your wisdom 😉 (even as you're yelling at us all 😂)
I think there's some level of depth you left out. Ni critic prevents me from doing a lot more than just what other people have been irresponsible with. IE: The gym, the food I eat (always prefer healthy), the suggestions I bring to work, the posts I make on reddit, or anything to do with a want. If I don't have any data on it at all, it becomes an irrational fear. I think this is a situation where the functions should be understood at a very basic level, and not based off of real life experiences. Otherwise there might be little gems that might have be worth millions in the future.
Great lecture as usual. Enjoy your Thanksgiving and time with children. Take time to recharge ... and congratulations on your 10K subscribers in advance.
INFP: Idk if this stuff applies bc I feel like although both decisions made me FEEL bad but I think they were the most practical for me. Here they are: 1. I was pressured to make a decision about whether I wanted to join the Musical Theatre dept within a few days. I love it but whenever I thought about making the choice my eyes welled up with tears. I didn't end up doing it and my logical reasoning was that the business is too shallow/inauthentic, political, and unreliable. But I also know that it was bc of fear. 2. I fell in love w an INFJ and resisted a relationship for a while but then I decided to see if I could make it work (I couldn't bc my career choice will take me overseas). So basically I felt that I was too young so being in love will not serve me until I'm developed financially, emotionally, and mentally. But I feel like dating (temporary relationships) is so fucking shallow and I try to convince myself that it isn't bc I don't want to feel completely alone. It's hard for me to differentiate whether I am being smart for me or smart for society... more background info: I watched my Mom be financially unstable my whole life and make poor choices with men and I fear being like her.
I remember first finding your channel and stumbling upon this video. As an ISFP I will admit I originally thought my memory was the best memory out of the people I knew. Then I watched this video and on one hand I was pretty mad and annoyed, but on the other it got me thinking. Add in a couple other experiences in the middle of it all and I was able to analyze myself in that regard and realize I can be pretty forgetful. I hope to understand my Critic just as I want to with the rest of my mind so thank you :)
38:19 Not the fist while being angry with ni critic-😭😭😭 I know this was supposed to be taken seriously but its just the way you swing your head with your fist- Also ty For some reason I couldn't understand Something about people choosing the wrong things.. I think I need to rewatch it.
it's great that you're taking care of the kids, we know you really really care for them. great video! it's like I can see your eyes have enlightened from last time we saw you..? heh.
Great point! A father is a pivotal part of the family. He’s called to be the leader, and as such, we shouldn't ever treat them like a "babysitter" or "a great guy for taking care of the kids". Kids need to be with their fathers. Also, thanks to the moms out there taking care of their kids 24/7 too!
Jump back in again. 05:22 .. Fi critic ISFJ/INFJ 10:29 ,Te ESTP/ENTP critic 15:12, Fe critic ESFP/ENFP 17:33, Ti critic ISTJ/INTJ 24:36, Se critic ESTJ/ESFJ 29:00, Ni critic INTP/INFP 33:20, Si critic ISTP/ISFP 39:23, Ne critic ENTJ/ENFJ 44:56
thank you very much for taking the time to put out the time stamps
Thank you for making it easier to find the part where he talks about Ni critic. I was deciding whether I should ask someone if they want to get coffee with me but I kept thinking it was a bad and irresponsible thing to do. But now I am sure I should just go up to them and ask them out.
Thanks I needed that
@Jaden Merrick liar
I see a Pattern in This Comment
Your Fe child is having the time of its life helping people out in this video i.e. lighting them on fire haha
This is my (haven't totally) educated guess. There are 4 functions that makes him enjoying this lecture. Ti parent, Fe child (both of them to tell the truth so people can be better), Si inferior (recalling all the stories in the past) and Se demon (don't matter whether people say he gives bad experience or not) to give them bad experience to stop being hypocritical FOR ALL OF THE CRITIC FUNCTIONS. These factors may be why, he is enjoying this lecture.
Your honesty is my fav it’s so raw that some people might think it’s dark, but that’s the level of honesty I can’t seem to get enough of 😂
Same, love me some painful truth 😆no one else will be this honest with me😅
His rawness is actually quite funny 😂.
I love how he bags out the INFJs 😂
This coming from an INFJ
Some love it some don't. People are different.
What type are you? I’m an INTP, I also appreciate being called out 💁🏼♀️
And then they got married.
INTP here... its not that I dont WANT anything, its that I dont know what I want
Well said
You basically summed up my issue as an INTP as well! I have four different options to pick for my career but I don't know what to pick. I'm overly critical of some of the options even though they may be good for me.
Wants lead to actions, but sometimes you need to look at your actions to figure out your wants!
Same. Life can be scary lol
1:28 cognitive functions John Beebe
4:39 Critic Function is 6th function
5:23 6th function is like the Parent function (2nd function) 6th function 5:32 attitude is like a grandparent
5:48 like someone who is wise beyond their years or 5:52 wise within their years 5:54 if you develop your critic function early you can become wiser beyond your years
6:06
7:06
10:00
10:12
10:25 Fi (ISFJ, INFJ)
15:11 Te (ESTP, ENTP)
17:30 Fe (ESFP, ENFP)
24:34 Ti (ISTJ, INTJ)
27:31 Se (ESTJ, ESFJ)
33:17 Ni (INTP, INFP) 38:47 advice
39:22 Si (ISTP, ISFP) are forgetful only recall important stuff advice write down what they said. They get mad if you dont recall. They can be loyal people
Advice
44:56 Ne (ENTJ, ENFJ)
Wont allow anyone to commit to them. Just assume you will betray them. Afraid of abandonment. Afraid of being betrayed
52:30 meaning of life
Thanks
"STOP JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS ON OTHER PEOPLE'S INTENTIONS"
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I felt heard but also attacked lmao -enfj
No
The ending left me speechless. Thank you for all that you do.
Teardrops on Roses you are most welcome
As an intj, whenever i want to do something, my ti critic says, yo just dont have enough knowledge to do this and read more, search more
Do I have enough knowledge to write this comment - no. Will you ever have enough knowledge to do anything - no. So either you will be stuck in analysis paralysis or learn from a failure - your call =)
@@bohdanpohoriletswhy not both?
21:37 I laughed out loud at the hammer 🔨 and bug 🐜 analogy 😗👏🏻
Lol me too
So do I, especially his sound effect, my goodness, so funny.
Oh yes, that has happened to me. I was the bug 🐜 and just doubled down on my galaxy brained moral hypocrisy 👼
"That's fine. Don't Care. Because you're wrong. And uh there you go." - C.S. Joseph
And uh, thank you, next?
MY GOD THIS WAS SO GOOD. The genuine excitement talking about these was amazing, & thanks for the heads up on waking up in my 40s as an INTP finally overcoming failure to launch syndrome, I'll actually try to do that before I hit 20
I identify as an INFP and like CS Joseph content for its direct / no nonsense appoarch. All I would say is move forward in actualising, self love and development is the winning ticket for a stable base. The more knowledge I hoover up when I encounter an issue, the more aware I become, which can then be past onto others. I see new challenges now almost like old fables, which can be past on when someone else counters a similar issue. So take notes when internally running towards the fear I already know you can overcome. Because I have learnt one of my “functions” to be other people’s catalysts. This is an amazing gift, just know your already amazing and learn more about yourself to give more of this gift to others. I must admit I see humans interacting with each other, so rather than always intentional causing pain. It’s difference in mindsets and how we interact. By deep understanding of what sets up these internal differences is what can bring us closer together as a whole. But I am a “fluffy” / deep thinking INFP than using more to the point cutting logic.
I too, enjoy the fluffy. Cannot live without it.
It's fun to watch you genuinely enjoy every time you go "oh I love it!" :D
C S J's SE Demon ironicly giving one of the best presentations of my life
Wow.... I am speechless.... You know that feeling, when you learn something so incredible, such a Paradigm shift, that is feels that your life is forever changed? This video, all the way.
"Forgive us our sins, as we forgive those who sin against us"
AS we forgive those
Thank you for willing to critique people. True love does not except people as imperfect, true love seeks to make others better. True love isn't afraid of offending someone, it is hopeful that it will inspire someone. And you have inspired me.
you are welcome.
“Man, I’m loving this lecture! I get to light everyone on fiire!!” - C.S Joseph after putting everyone on their designated lanes 😂😂😂😂
I really enjoyed this video. I'm an INFP and I have a hard time allowing myself to want things, and to take action. I didn't realize this was an infp thing. Thanks for the advice. I'll try harder to initiate action. 🙂
Every time I chose action, it went down in flames after years of efforts. Now 20 years later I still know what I want, I just don't know how to get it...
The law of attraction not working sometimes bc we don't know that we are responsible for desiring things. The universe wants to give us what we want we just need to express it.
@@smartcatcollarproject5699 The key to success here is to take one of your goals and then just do it. It can be a pain to get out of this comfy rut and get going, because it is so awfully comfortable (I'm admittedly guilty of this as well).
However, actually getting crap _done_ is more than enough to offset the initial inertia, and while you are at it, use the momentum that you are gaining from getting something done to get started on the next thing. Plus keep in mind that you don't have to be perfect with it as viable is always good enough, and if you feel the need to improve anything, you can still do it.
Being an INFP is almost hell for me. Just telling myself to change doesn't change the problem.
As an isfp I must admit that my memory is about as useful and detailed as a dog. It's hilariously short lived and I deeply appreciate when people write me lists lol
Thanks Chase, actually needed to hear this as an ENJ so i can practically improve myself 👊🏽.
This Bible verse came to mind in this vid, not sure if you’d agree but i cant help but think of: “Do not judge so that you will not be judged. For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you.” Matthew 7:1-2 (NASB).
I love how deep this is going... Your UA-cam account is like a treasure trove to my brain.
This is so true especially when I was younger I used to think everyone was stupid and my best friend would think everyone’s a bad person. We had such a hard time making real friends as teenagers
Well there goes my plans to sleep early lmao but finally we got to the critic....been waiting for this for a while
Fi critic 10:25
Fi wisdom
My INTJ dad often says that our wisdom is like a drop in the ocean :)
The ENFJ Criitc makes me really sad, since I only now realize how much I've hurt one in my past and I have no idea how or if I could ever make it right :(
Legit write them a letter explaining and apologizing and make sure it is handwritten and mailed to them to engage their Se child. They will appreciate it for the amount of effort you put into the letter.
Lets do this
I almost jumped right up to get to work on my current project as soon as you got to Ni critic and pointed out the inactivity and failure to launch syndrome.
But I've got to finish Si and Ne before i get right to work haha.
Thank you and your Ti parent, for pointing out the extremely relevant truth behind Ni critic.
Definitely motivated after watching this
Awesome, this is why I do this.
As a ENFJ, how would I stop criticizing the intentions of other people; when in the past I had to deal with a narcissist who manipulated me into thinking I was crazy and assholes who stole my belongings back in middle school. Although, their are a few people who I trust such as my family and close friends, is it really that bad to keep your guard up most of the time? Especially since we are prone to subtle manipulation.
just verify their intentions before making decisions on said intentions.
What an amazing vid! I have become addicted to this channel and I am slowly making my way through other videos... enough to keep me going for a while!
Grats on taking care of the kids
The infp critic thing gave me stress but thanks for the constructive criticism
You are a really good teacher. So many people on the platform talk about the MBTI typing with the letters and vaguely go over the cognitive functions, but you've even seemingly taken it a step further and now its all beginning to make sense. It's no longer wishy, washy. I still cant determine my type that well and im constantly changing my type based on my thoughts and actions, but the point is, im getting closer to the truth of who I am and how to help connect with people, and how to understand peoples movements, what makes them uncomfortable or angry, what brings them joy(even when it seemingly can go unacknowledged on the surface). It helped out when talking to certain types of women and peoples work styles. Gives a sense of relatability to the people around you and helps recognize that the people around us and ourselves are human. Thank you for all of your teachings....(can you tell im informative yet?)
Man, si critic explains my commitment issues. I really need to figure that out.
OMG this is the first time I've heard Ni-critic explained to me (as an INFP). So true! We don't dare 'want' anything for real. I think it's even worse when you've been hurt before (because Fi gets hit so hard). And Ne-parent seems to avoid this inaction by taking too many actions (or worse: imagining too many actions) - although avoiding any real commitment deep down. It's like we run around with a thousand personas but don't dare be real to ourselves anymore. we hide the 'real' inside but just wander around on the outside. Why INFPs seem to take on different personas all the time. 2020 resolution: dare to take action! [This is why we love INTJs so much lol bc their Ni takes on our Ne
The function stackings of a type all play in tune with each other. They don't individually exist, they can't. They exist because of each other. Just like the Ni critic exists because of Ne parent priority and critical of itself or everyone else's Ni because you think them(or yourself) being selfish so you saying you like INTJs really makes me really doubt it espcially with Ni critic(it could go either way, either a hypocrite or wise) but since INJs is all about what they want no matter what, the INPs will far more often than not dislike them and view them as the most selfish person ever (especially the INTJ) despite it being far from the truth, unlike the responsible Ni parent of the ENJs the Ni hero of the INJs is more about the Ego/Heroic than responsibility etc., thus being less responsible(often very much so than not) so yeah, the INPs will not like the INJs more often than the ENJs on that specific aspect.
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Also speaking of "getting hurt so hard," the child function will get hurt the hardest ever, that's why we need to take care and be mindful of them, not the Hero function, the hero/first function gets "hurt" but it's hurt in the Ego/reputation sense, the child gets hurt genuinely and truly, so anyone hurting the child function knowingly, deserves hell but the ones who hurt the Hero function is fine. The INPs' child is Si, it's nothing about Fi, Fi is the IFPs Ego/hero/reputation, it gets hurt but can't compare to the hurt of the child function. Btw ITJs are the ones who have Fi child, their feelings too fragile but they never show it its because how fragile it is, the IFPs outwardly displays their Fi hero being hurt by moaning outwardly and actively but the Fi child just goes to bed and cries themselves to sleep but no one in the world will ever know that, so yeah
You seem to be in a good mood tonight!
This is your best lecture ever, Chase. Thank you so much. I wish every soul could hear this…
I like how hype you got on Ni critic. This is why INPs need ENJs: someone who isn't afraid to raise their voice at them when Ni critic becomes a problem. GET A DAMN JOB, BOY!😄
That would only make me feel worse. I am an INFP and my ni is the source of anxiety and much pain for me. Preassure only makes it worse for me. I seriously want to kill myself after christmas and one of the reasons is that the process of looking for/applying for a job is so painful to me and because it is so difficult to me to find a job.
@@someonesomewhere6123 Dont let society rush u into a career u don't want unless ur out of options. Instead...try + find urself. Tht way u will find a purpose, not a job
Thanks for doing this lecture chase, as an ISFP I always struggled to comprehend why I could never commit to people in the Long run, and I struggled to understand, to put it into words for myself but this was rather enlightening for myself(: thanks for making this videos really learning about myself more and others as well (:
you are so welcome.
OMG!!! That's a wakeup call for INFP
Why am i like you yelling at me and throw the truth on my face like this?? It hurts but seems it's exactly what i need RN :(
I really appreciate your enthusiasm teaching this subject. I love when the teacher is so excited about their lectures
The Ne critic is so accurate about me... sigh. I always grew up thinking why am I like that 👀.
intp/infp here, one way I got around the fear of desire is realizing the desire itself is not bad, but the attachment to the desire is what trips people (or at least me up). This mindset helped me SO much, I now have a career in my chosen field, people who doubted me before apologized to me and went no contact with toxic family. In a few short years I managed to undo years of self sabotage and failure to launch. I still struggle with judging other peoples desires lol, but that's because I see their "wants" as mostly coming from adherence to traditions, or desperately needing security/safety. I really need to work on my instinct to harshly lecture them about how "unconcious" they are, it probably comes off as judgemental and disagreeable af.
INFP here. Just learning myself about the reasons behind my "failure to launch syndrome" as you call it. But your videos are really helping me out! I feel called out, but it's what I needed to hear, so thanks for that. Also, an ISFP exfriend I'm still getting over TOTALLY meets your description of Si critic disloyalty. I heard you talking about that and I was like "THANK YOU!" I feel so validated even though I feel so attacked haha
and the "He was waiting for you, but you have to have the GUTS to ask for forgiveness. Maybe YOU need to have some honour for once!" SPOT ON DUDE! SPOT ON!
17:19 That fire SFX is perfect! hahaha
was going to say the same thing!
dude me too
This channel is GOLD!!!!! Thank you so much. - INFJ
you are most welcome
Wow, as an entj this really helped. I never knew that was a problem i could do something about
This channel never ceases to amaze me
My theory about the meaning of life is "it's what you give it". I loved the video and I can't wait to have all your teachings internalised and be aware of these things in others all the time. This knowledge is what makes other people interesting to me tbh. It still annoys me a lot though that many people just don't care to develop themselves.
well said and thank you.
Thank GOD you exist mr joseph
Amazing lecture! One of my favorites, but then again; all your lectures are my favorite
On behalf of Isfjs I'm sorry for what we put people through. I'm greatful that for every arch type there are people they can relate well to. I went through the critical stage with people and am still not all the way out of the woods with that but I have grown a lot and am not the same as I once was I understand better that its hard to measure up to the moral compass of myself and I believe that God wants us to try our best and he knows when we are. But he is more merciful than we are, we have to learn mercy with others and ourselves.
I'm glad to see that you are taking the chance to enjoy life a little with your family. I hope you have a great time and get lots of rest. As always I enjoyed the lecture and can't wait for the next, but I don't mind waiting if it means you are taking care of yourself.
the trip was awesome and definitely full of drama.
That little nugget about Ni nemesis for ENTP’s really hit home.
You nailed Fe critic. That was the missing piece for me with someone close to me, once I learned to challenge this person on their selfishness this opened doors and it broke them out of being lazy and selfish.
Thank you! I am pretty sure that I am an ENFJ. You hit things right on the nose.
thank you for this lecture.. very enlightening. i used to be one of those people who just have a surface understanding about all this until ive watched your videos and started to question the type i thought i am. thank you for your hard work. God bless!
The bit about not being able to get mad at ppl has 100% been me since learning this my Ti critic would always get so mad at my infj friends ti child but learning this has made me so much more accepting of them and everyone else I meet love ur content
Nice singing! It made my night. LOL Have fun with your family.
this video is crazily real and I love that you are so Blunt with it, it's weird though. I'm an INFJ male based on all the functions but the Ni Critic sounds really relatable. I did grow up with an INFP bro my entire life, so maybe it comes off as almost as a part of me.
I loved it so much that I made a audio clip just for him to listen to with one of my favorite songs so that maybe he'll pick it up and listen attentively knowing that I cared about him.
Almost 10k subscribers you have, coolness. Hope you feel better soon.
Yeah, that thing on not letting ourselves wanting things.. Or others.. I used to make my sister feel guilty for always asking my mother things.. And the thing is my mother gave her, and I would be so pissed, because I actually wanted the same things.. I just felt it was wrong-..
If people would watch your videos on personality types, I believe that more understanding would happen.
Have fun with the kids over Thanksgiving and even though you are getting over being sick you are still so animated. I hope no one calls me while I’m recording cause that would suck. I know you are being dead serious but so damn funny . Keep up the good work.
awesome, much appreciated
From Proverbs THE book of Wisdom.
“Wisdom is the prime thing. Acquire wisdom; and with all that you acquire, acquire understanding.”-Prov. 4:7.
“The fear of Jehovah is the start of wisdom.”-PROVERBS 9:10.
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Thank you x 1,000,000! I very much so did find this video enlightening, entertaining, insightful, and every other good thing!! Love you Chase!!!!
you are welcome
🔥🔥🔥 Ow Ow Owww!! The truth burns!! But so true about Si critic. You know me so well, CS Joseph 😏.
Loved this lecture bro!
thanks dude, glad to see ISXPs are watching and listening and applying this. I keeps me going.
So that's why I intentionally go out of my way to look stupid and fail. That's why I need to force myself to just say what I want to say. Ni Critic. It took a massive blow to my self esteem in the military and to intentionally give up to realize there's no perfect answer to anything. You are always going to piss somebody off, but there's no way to progress without taking a risk. Every time I have a suggestion for my job I run into this crippling fear that I'm going run out my welcome because of past experiences. < All internal dialogue don't mind me.
This lecture was fierce, fiery, and a total kick in the pants! Nicely done, Mr. Joseph. We all have weaknesses which must be explored, exposed, and remedied. Unfortunately our inner critics are rooted in fear, ignorance, and pride, which makes finding an antidote difficult at best. Reguardless, we all must strive to be our best, authentic, compassionate self’s so as a collective culture we can help mitigate suffering for the human race.
Thank you for your content!
Very well siad, thank you for commenting!
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I think Fe critic also encompasses judging whether people are authentic or “fake”. Not so much “good/bad” (maybe for ENFPs)
I sort of disagree because Fe does not verify, but Fe is connected on axis with Ti which does verify, so I would offer at least that you are half right.
I love how blunt and well researched you are. I love it when people are direct and honest. 👍
As an Fi hero/parent, I'm still unsure, I'm often accused of being unsympathetic. I'm very critical of others and their situations and hate when people rationalize their bad behaviors, unless I can relate to them, then my sense of empathy turns up to the highest degree. I filter my empathy through my own feelings and experiences.
Dude... this shit is getting better and better... Thanks man. I need to find a friend like you to criticize me (INFJ). I also have about a million suggestions on how to create a better path through your hours of knowledge. Maybe I'll hit you up after the next 20 hours of content.
Style is on point!
@45:45 there is already an analogy for this, to do with "carousels". Entp reinvents the wheel :)
Ouch, that was some tough love that I needed to hear...and you paralleled my favorite quote from Scrubs - summed up, nothing worth having comes easy so get off your keister and do the work. I’ve always been afraid of failing because of feeling the shame for it. But I’ve failed plenty of times before and have survived so why the hell am I still not trying. Not to figure out what I want is I can allow myself to want it. As always, thanks for your videos! The best part of being late to your videos is that I can just keep watching more and don’t have to wait. (INFP)
Can Fi critic also largely be the cause why INFJs always automatically assume responsibility / guilt for what goes wrong with loved ones?
yes
There is a vicious spiral to the bottom regarding trust and abandonment: Someone senses that the person they have some sort of relation with is a high maintainence person becuase they are sensitive-> Want to get the hell out of this high maintainence relation -> The person being sensitive becomes jaded because of this and potentially even more sensitive so next relationship is even more high maintainence -> Abandoned again.
OUUUUUCCCCHHHHH the truth hurts. A few years ago, my sister told me I was selfish. I honestly didn't realize that I was being selfish. I don't go out of my way to be selfish or to act selfish. But, she did - and whether or not it was true, it definitely hurt and I definitely have made a point to NOT be selfish. So, the truth hurts - but is helpful. No one is perfect and every type has their selfish moments considering we do have all 8 functions, but hearing it to my face was one of the worst feelings. So, you are right - ENFPs can definitely be selfish, but remember - the majority of us do not set out to be, and we are usually unaware of it. And you're right - once I processed that shame, I knew better and did better. Yay Fi Parent!
Also, I feel your passion, and I feel how much you really care about people becoming who you know they can be! I hate that I'm like 2 years too late for the original run of these videos LOL.
58:50 "...and number 42"
Lovely
Also, the whole thing where you know to much psychology when you can't get mad at anyone because you understand why they did what they did was something I've been saying since I started watching your content, my primary motive for learning all of this, and I so desperately wish that was true for the general populous!
This... This is true knowlegde.. Such wisdom.. Your are changing my whole perspective on life..
Glad I can do that for somebody
The Critic video, in which Te critic has a ball criticizing all the other types about how critical they are.
Again, very insightful. Great final quote. Thank you. INFJ
My enfj assumed the one that loyal to him will betray him. And the one that doesn't have the intention to stay will be loyal to him lol.
Oh wow,what an episode,just left me speechless👏🤐👏🤐👏🤐.
I think we need a summary after we went through all of the cognitive functions
good point, I will look into it.
Wow Se critic part explains my dad so well. He’d always get irritated whenever my shoe laces weren’t tied properly and is so OCD about small details like that. Also he overdresses a lot and hates casual wear.
Seeing the joy on his face before roasting the ENFJ and ENTJ cracked me up.
-ENTJ
Another really beautiful lecture. Thanks Chase.
I am really enjoying the Cognitive function videos, at about 29:27 you are talking about a critic function that does not trust if you are unshaven or have pet hair on your clothes, and you say "unkept" I listened more then once to be sure and it is pronounced and spelled "unkempt", which I normally am. I shave maybe once every 3 days and 3 cats means trying to remove all the cat hair would encompass my entire day. Just trying to be informative not critical ;-)
Im sending you mind messages of gratitude every day, as you make my own persona and relationships with others so much easier to navigate. And sure Fi critic must hold us to high standards. If people get stuck in their vice they create so much suffering - especially for themselves :)
Much appreciated ^^
@@hadisesadat3839 mind message - like an sms sent through the thoughts. So like thinking of someone and sending them gratitude t.ex :) As an infj I also feel quite certain that minds can communicate through the ether ;)
Hi C.S. Joseph! I'm an ENFP who is reading Strength to Love by MLK based on choosing to develop my Fe wisdom. In the book, he mentions that quotation from Jesus that you mentioned at the end of the video. Before you said the quotation it was ringing in my mind. I had an "oh shit" moment as you said it! A beautiful synchronicity. Now I have even more respect for you. You're dope and your videos are changing lives everyday! Thank you so much
you are welcome good sir, I just hope you read into Malcolm X as well.
@@CSJoseph I'll do some research
#wisdom=love My mind is once again blown! I don't know how you do it. Your vision is beautiful and the fact that you work so hard to get others to realize what you already know is incredible. Thank you for sharing your wisdom 😉 (even as you're yelling at us all 😂)
Thank you so much. This is brilliant and what everyone needs to know
I think there's some level of depth you left out. Ni critic prevents me from doing a lot more than just what other people have been irresponsible with. IE: The gym, the food I eat (always prefer healthy), the suggestions I bring to work, the posts I make on reddit, or anything to do with a want. If I don't have any data on it at all, it becomes an irrational fear. I think this is a situation where the functions should be understood at a very basic level, and not based off of real life experiences. Otherwise there might be little gems that might have be worth millions in the future.
Not much on this topic on UA-cam that I’m aware of. Thank you!
Brought a tear to my eye at the end Mr C.S Joseph, Thank you 💛
Great lecture as usual. Enjoy your Thanksgiving and time with children. Take time to recharge ... and congratulations on your 10K subscribers in advance.
INFP: Idk if this stuff applies bc I feel like although both decisions made me FEEL bad but I think they were the most practical for me. Here they are:
1. I was pressured to make a decision about whether I wanted to join the Musical Theatre dept within a few days. I love it but whenever I thought about making the choice my eyes welled up with tears. I didn't end up doing it and my logical reasoning was that the business is too shallow/inauthentic, political, and unreliable. But I also know that it was bc of fear.
2. I fell in love w an INFJ and resisted a relationship for a while but then I decided to see if I could make it work (I couldn't bc my career choice will take me overseas). So basically I felt that I was too young so being in love will not serve me until I'm developed financially, emotionally, and mentally. But I feel like dating (temporary relationships) is so fucking shallow and I try to convince myself that it isn't bc I don't want to feel completely alone.
It's hard for me to differentiate whether I am being smart for me or smart for society...
more background info: I watched my Mom be financially unstable my whole life and make poor choices with men and I fear being like her.
I remember first finding your channel and stumbling upon this video. As an ISFP I will admit I originally thought my memory was the best memory out of the people I knew. Then I watched this video and on one hand I was pretty mad and annoyed, but on the other it got me thinking. Add in a couple other experiences in the middle of it all and I was able to analyze myself in that regard and realize I can be pretty forgetful. I hope to understand my Critic just as I want to with the rest of my mind so thank you :)
Wow, seriously you NEED to teach that on Quora, @CS Joseph!
People really need to hear this.
38:19
Not the fist while being angry with ni critic-😭😭😭
I know this was supposed to be taken seriously but its just the way you swing your head with your fist-
Also ty
For some reason I couldn't understand
Something about people choosing the wrong things.. I think I need to rewatch it.
My parents are ISFJ and INFJ... and I’m an ISFP. So their critic is my hero. No wonder it was such a strange dynamic!!!
Good stuff, I'm calling the 2 sides of the Critic (Deceiving and Discerning) just for my own ease of remembering.
it's great that you're taking care of the kids, we know you really really care for them. great video! it's like I can see your eyes have enlightened from last time we saw you..? heh.
No, I think it is because I just got more sleep... lol
Great point! A father is a pivotal part of the family. He’s called to be the leader, and as such, we shouldn't ever treat them like a "babysitter" or "a great guy for taking care of the kids". Kids need to be with their fathers. Also, thanks to the moms out there taking care of their kids 24/7 too!
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