This has been incredibly helpful. After years of betrayal I was told I had trust issues. I was told it's all in the past and I need to forget and move on all whilst the other person was still lying.
I'm 25 years sober in AA Thank God I came across this! I'm an incest survivor, domestic violence survivor, PTSD and ADD years of truma therapy, you given me such validation. Thank you, thank you!!!
It gives me shivers! I’ve betrayed and been betrayed. And the realization that I’m sooo damaged is so real right now. I seek out like relationships and they always end up the same. Wrecked
So true. Im deep in this so deeply. Oh man. I can't deal with this now. I know im different now. I know. Pray please. I wanna not be alive anymore. Ive watched so many videos on narcissistic people there where many red flags but none of it made sense until your Videos. Please im in dire need of your advice. Please Help. So so many years. Started with my own my dad. First man to break my heart. Then on and on and on and on!
You should not be afraid to live! There is always something to look forward to. You may just have to have faith in yourself. If you have to take it hour by hour.
I feel defeated too. Like I'm balls deep in a strategic survival game that I do not want to play, do not know how to play, have zero energy to play, and shouldn't have to play. It sucks
Find the treatment(s) that work for you and can be trusted. I e the 12 steps do not work for me nor do they make logical sense .All the best with it all!.
It’s extremely difficult to be mentally and physically healthy in an extremely sick world 🌎 _____ Countries fighting with countries, wars and threats of war, unfair trade wars , sick drug trafficking, lying stealing and cheating in every neighborhood around the country. Cost of living is outpacing personal income. And we wonder why society and individual households are so messed up…..
How do I find a therapist who has betrayal trauma training? Is there a specific type of training or specialty that they’ll advertise or have a special term for? So far none of the therapists I’ve talked to can say “I have betrayal trauma training”.
There’s a few trainings I know of…APSATs, CSATs, Omar Minwalla’s curriculum, Michelle mays curriculum. But if they have long term work in addiction recovery, infidelity recovery, sex addiction, they hopefully have some experience with betrayal trauma? Hope that helps.
After 33 years of marriage, I was shocked to find out about babe(whore of havasu), I had to put all that on back burner to take care of him in hospice during his last 4 months. He took all the chaos with him. Almost 2 years ago now and I’m doing great but it still saddens. I did get some closure, but it took a while to accept his disorder and then heal myself
Hi Janet. I guess you could start with web searching “betrayed partners groups in my area” (or whatever the type of group you’re looking for) but I have groups listed on my website under live workshops. Sexandrelarionshiphealing.com has groups. There are always a ton of various 12 step groups that range with various topics. Hope that helps.
My husband of 9 years would just scream at me and walk out the door for 2 weeks at a time every month to binge drink with other alcoholics without ever calling until he was needing a ride home because he wasn't wanted anywhere I finally divorced him last month he is trying to get back together but doesn't go to treatment also it was usually on payday and he would spend his money on his friends he lost several jobs
I’ve been in meetings. Did you bring that up during meetings, when it happened? When I went to group I was done taking crap and I just spoke up because there’s always going to be bad apples. In group you’re around people that want to be there, and people that have to be there. The ones that have to be there and don’t want to be are the ones that are going to be buttholes
This has been incredibly helpful.
After years of betrayal I was told I had trust issues. I was told it's all in the past and I need to forget and move on all whilst the other person was still lying.
This happened to me. The counselor made feel terrible and then it was discovered he was lying.
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Addiction
Kristen's description of how it feels to be betrayed was spot on. Wow. It's hard to find someone who actually understands.
I'm 25 years sober in AA
Thank God I came across this!
I'm an incest survivor, domestic violence survivor, PTSD and ADD
years of truma therapy, you given me such validation. Thank you, thank you!!!
Oh my goodness, you hit the nail on the head, words that describe exactly my thoughts, words no one speaks😢
It gives me shivers! I’ve betrayed and been betrayed. And the realization that I’m sooo damaged is so real right now. I seek out like relationships and they always end up the same. Wrecked
same same same!
Spot on !! 😭
You explained this so well. Good job.
So true. Im deep in this so deeply. Oh man. I can't deal with this now. I know im different now. I know. Pray please. I wanna not be alive anymore. Ive watched so many videos on narcissistic people there where many red flags but none of it made sense until your Videos. Please im in dire need of your advice. Please Help. So so many years. Started with my own my dad. First man to break my heart. Then on and on and on and on!
Cheryl there is so much to live for for one YOU. Live for yourself. Be your own best friend. I am by myself and learning all about it.
Beloved, there is one constant and that is Christ. I have learned this the hard way. Praying for you.
You should not be afraid to live! There is always something to look forward to. You may just have to have faith in yourself. If you have to take it hour by hour.
I feel defeated too. Like I'm balls deep in a strategic survival game that I do not want to play, do not know how to play, have zero energy to play, and shouldn't have to play. It sucks
6:45 I think I’m the only sucker walking around here
Thank you
Find the treatment(s) that work for you and can be trusted. I e the 12 steps do not work for me nor do they make logical sense
.All the best with it all!.
It’s extremely difficult to be mentally and physically healthy in an extremely sick world 🌎 _____
Countries fighting with countries, wars and threats of war, unfair trade wars , sick drug trafficking, lying stealing and cheating in every neighborhood around the country.
Cost of living is outpacing personal income.
And we wonder why society and individual households are so messed up…..
How do I find a therapist who has betrayal trauma training? Is there a specific type of training or specialty that they’ll advertise or have a special term for? So far none of the therapists I’ve talked to can say “I have betrayal trauma training”.
There’s a few trainings I know of…APSATs, CSATs, Omar Minwalla’s curriculum, Michelle mays curriculum. But if they have long term work in addiction recovery, infidelity recovery, sex addiction, they hopefully have some experience with betrayal trauma? Hope that helps.
@@KristinSnowden thank you so much.
After 33 years of marriage, I was shocked to find out about babe(whore of havasu), I had to put all that on back burner to take care of him in hospice during his last 4 months. He took all the chaos with him. Almost 2 years ago now and I’m doing great but it still saddens. I did get some closure, but it took a while to accept his disorder and then heal myself
What’s the best way to find a group
Hi Janet. I guess you could start with web searching “betrayed partners groups in my area” (or whatever the type of group you’re looking for) but I have groups listed on my website under live workshops. Sexandrelarionshiphealing.com has groups. There are always a ton of various 12 step groups that range with various topics. Hope that helps.
I'm the sucker, this is 1 month 2 weeks ago that I'm left to fend for myself as a mom. The pain and confusion is immense. Feel like the biggest fool.
Everything that is psychological is also physiological. So, there's no such thing as something being 'all in your mind.'
My husband of 9 years would just scream at me and walk out the door for 2 weeks at a time every month to binge drink with other alcoholics without ever calling until he was needing a ride home because he wasn't wanted anywhere I finally divorced him last month he is trying to get back together but doesn't go to treatment also it was usually on payday and he would spend his money on his friends he lost several jobs
Disagree .I was hurt badly in meetings.
You can get hurt at a Christmas party. What's your point?
I’ve been in meetings. Did you bring that up during meetings, when it happened? When I went to group I was done taking crap and I just spoke up because there’s always going to be bad apples. In group you’re around people that want to be there, and people that have to be there. The ones that have to be there and don’t want to be are the ones that are going to be buttholes
I don't believe any of this.7 years in aa and betrayed
NEVER AGAIN!
Hi. I’m confused. You don’t believe any of what? Are you saying you were betrayed by AA?
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