How To Build Self Confidence & Overcome Imposter Syndrome. 7 mins.
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- Опубліковано 6 вер 2024
- Cultivating Creative Confidence. Confidence is a skill and ability which can be cultivated. I share some personal stories and tips from my talk at Post Production World in Las Vegas.
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0:09 Confidence is a skill and ability that can be cultivated/mastered.
0:28 Introversion & overcoming the fear of public speaking
1:10 Recognizing your discomfort, become more self-aware of your internal signals
1:20 Sugar Ray Leonard
1:43 Transparency is self-truth
2:08 Self-truth gives you freedom
2:55 What is confidence & how do you find it?
3:05 Search for peace of mind. Have what you think, say and do be in harmony.
3:29 Unhappiness can come from attachment to knowledge, power, wealth, or ego.
3:50 The ego exists in the gap between the conscious and unconscious mind.
4:30 How do you overcome imposter syndrome?
5:30 How do you stop feeling like an imposter? Surrender To The Real You.
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So glad you guys exist
Sussy sus
Exactly ❤️
I have a big creative challenge tomorrow and the imposter syndrome hit me with full force today. Your video couldn't have come at a better time for me, very helpful and touching. Also, what you say about surrender reminds me a lot of buddhist approaches from people like Alan Watts, Dean Sluyter or Eckhart Tolle. Confidence really isn't about pretending, but letting go of all attempts to impress people and instead make peace with yourself, so your words really resonated with me. Thank you!
"Confidence really isn't about pretending, but letting go of all attempts to impress people and instead make peace with yourself". #PERFECT
i felt the emotion when you talked about you & your dad relationship, im from an asian immigrant family too, first generation and.... moments of connection are rare
I've read, watched, and meditated on 10,000 things about imposter syndrome. The point at 5:00 about how our mask is internal, that others have been seeing me, not the mask, all along, is the most powerful point I've ever encountered to battle imposter syndrome. Thank you thank you thank you.
Thank you Joel!
I'm also an extreme introvert. I will start to tremble when more than 2 persons focus on my speech. Still working on it. Thanks Chris. You are my inspiration.
Wan Jun Phua hang in there. Expose your weakness and it will make you stronger.
I was inspired by your "things that they don't teach in school" playlist and have made my own. Half of it is your videos though xD
: ) Happy to be on your list.
Share your playlist please
This video is exactly what I needed to watch right now. I’m going through imposter syndrome and I thought it was gonna be really hard to separate that from myself, but after watching this video, I feel much more confident that I can do it.
As a self taught designer I always felt this type of pressure. Watching this, and your interview with Ben on the "I Wish I Knew This When I Started" video. It really helps to know I am not the only one. As usual always amazing content. I swear when I am back working in design I will make a big donation. I have learned so much on this channel.
Jason Yourell thanks 🙏Jason.
This is indeed an important one to learn from. I too identify as an introvert and have found that pushing myself to do the things that felt uncomfortable (like public speaking) would not only help my career but most importantly empower myself. After 3 speaking engagements this year I know I'm not there yet in terms of how I would like to sound, but I know I found the courage to get up there and say something that was important me. It's helped identify strengths and weaknesses to build on and ask for honest feedback from the audience on the spot. A common thread was the emphasis on the personal story and narrative.
I like how you show vulnerability in lots of your videos. You make it look cool,not weak but strong. Thank you.
Great video, Chris! Short but the insights you shared are invaluable. Thank you for reminding us that "transparency is self-truth and self-truth gives you freedom."
futur has ambition, charisma, brains, talent. I find him fascinating.
I definitely have Chris Do as a role model, because from this and a few other videos I got the impression that he's been very introvert, but has overcome that by working on himself. I just relate to that.
I used to think it was impossible for me to change and be a better person, because I was so clingy to my past self. But once I started letting it go, I noticed I change. One of my favourite quotes is "When I let go of who I am, I become who I might be".
This video hits home! There are allot of public speakers that tells you that confidence is a skill that you can master but most of the famous ones are extraverts, so as a mild introvert you blame it on being that. I didn't place you on the very introverted side and couldn't imagine you having trouble public speaking. You are well articulate person that seems like a natural at it. Your story of your growth is a true inspirational one! Even for a camera operator this channel is gold!
Luciano Monteiro Baptista thanks buddy. By putting in the work and facing my fears I managed to overcome most of my anxiety.
You're a real-life coach.
This was super helpful. I can usually be very open about my weaknesses in front of people I’ve already gotten to know better
but I still struggle around new people…
Gotta stop thinking and just DO.
As I’m writing this I’m realizing I’m stuck in my head cause I’m thinking more of myself than of the people that I need to help…
I Gotta just go for it.
I relate so much to Chris. He’s one of my favorite teachers of all time. Thank you 🙏❤️
That's a really good point - I feel it's actually easier to be open around new people as it won't be biased by the pattern I interacted with people I'm familiar. My tip is to share 1 or 2 learnings on things I worked, and there are usually struggles, and once I shared it, usually I found it's not just me.
Such a short video with an abundance of very important information for personal development... brilliant
Wanted to make clever comment about this topic, but can't think of anything after seeing that "deal with it" Chris at the ending ;x
This is exactly what I found out about not felling like an imposter. especially the part of being at peace with yourself/your mind and the also the part aboout reliquish what you want to gain. It's not always easy to remind myself about all this things so this is a good reminder. Also it can help a lot to get a permit from an outside person to do what you feel is right, but you will sometimes question.
So, the imposter syndrome comes from what you say and what you do being misaligned. I can relate to being an extreme introvert too. I was raised by an extreme extravert, though, so I have learned to "fake it" around select groups of people, but going it alone and being confident while talking about what I do just makes me fall to pieces. I appreciate this take on things. It's not about faking it, it's about pulling back the curtain and letting people see that you're human.
thank you for sharing this with us..everyday it's like learning something new, without being actually at school..that's a good thing for sure :)
I love Chris Do, he has such a disciplined fire quality to him yet also spiritually in-tune in mindset. Listening and respecting your true self vs an image of yourself is something I have thought about before, and also surrendering is actually not a bad thing sometimes. We have a negative connotation with the word surrender but it can actually help a lot in terms of freeing ourselves from a false sense of control or self image, unrealistic expectations in doing something, etc. Love it~
Grat video, it really helps to hear from your opinion. I Sometimes find myself with endless thoughts of instatifaction, like it is never enough to fulfill oneself, even if you did something right or given good opinion, my mind rapidly discards it.
... when you gain by loss. now THAT--- that is some deep daoist truth right there! total respect.
Keep aside whatever is you are doing and watch whatever this channel throws at you :) Grateful.
Hardip Patel we are pulling out all the stops. Giving away the content.
thank you Chris! you really helped me, this was like a huge weight off my shoulders for really quite sometime now, thank you
Can't get over how much i relate and also LOVE this channel. Never stop. Ever think about starting a Patreon? I know you guys put a ton of time and money into this content and many of us would love to help you guys out in some capacity.
Ali Zendaki you can donate on our site. TheFutur.com
Thank you so much for sharing ♡
Perfect. Wonderful "Ray" story, thanks, again, for the share!
Thank You Chris for all the design knowledge and those smart words. I really appreciate that!
You're very welcome
good. useful. thought provoking. clear.
Thank you Keith
I have just cried watching this. It's brilliant. Thank you.
Great video. Thank you for sharing. An important topic.
So my problem statement kind of goes from the heights of being an extrovert to ambivert and then severely introvert. It was like everything around me chipped off my confidence little bit at a time. Watching your videos, reading all these amazing books, I think I can reinvent myself. Thanks Guys
It's very cool when someone we look up to turns out to be a relatable, positive and down to Earth person. I like the self imposter analagy too, haven't heard that before. Thank you for the relaxing 6min session!
That moment when you like a "the futur" video before it buffers
lol.
Nice logo
Thank you guys!
You present self knows that "the futur" will be good
Thank you so much
I grew up in the same block as Ray. I used to go to his gym everyday. Palmer Park MD
This 5 min speech open my eyes, thank you Chris!
Wooooow
I've heard the term before but did't know i had this till last night. I love your video. Best one I've seen so far. you should come to speak at my Law of Attraction Summit. Seems like it'll be right up your alley. Thanks for the great content.
Please contact me on IG
My confidence was recently shattered when a client fired me during the process of a designing logo for a rebrand. I was following everything I thought the client wanted and actually completed the another round of drafts they requested, however I did not get to send them because they decided to go with another designer in their country. The client wants to pay me some of what I have worked for but I would still like to present the work anyways. Should I accept the money? Should I event have the urge to present those final drafts? I think my ego was bruised and I have hope that they would change their mind. My confidence definitely needs to rebound, especially since this is a new endeavor that I am just now coming back too. Thanks for posting this topic and keep up the good work. I am confident your content is helping more people than just mere mortals such as myself.
Thank you for this video. So many key insights to work towards being one true self.
Great Video on How To Build Self Confidence & Overcome Imposter Syndrome.
Léon Boyd appreciate it
YAS do more of this type of self development videos!!
one of the best personal coach i ever seen , keep the good work
Just the video I needed. This channel is gold!
Videos with qualities, as always! Grateful to have a channel like this, seriously Thank you man!
Being a fan since skool days, I'm happy to see this channel produce amazing content. @ChrisDo, amazing work, man.
"By relinquishing power, you gain it." I know this to be true and have seen it work in my life. The question for me then becomes: "What is the right balance and attitude towards being assertive, versus surrendering - when a situation in, say, work comes up? An example might be a co-worker or boss giving a certain attitude or perspective which we do not think will lead to success. How to know when to push back (with choice words and emotions) and react, or to let it sink in? I guess it is about letting it sink in first, and then reacting from a state of calmness. Does this sound right? The challenege then is how to be quick at this? When someone asks you something, you don't always have 5 minutes or even 10 seconds to react; you have to be quick. How to be in a state of alert, constructive surrender in a work environment. What a tough challenge this is, especially in today's faster-paced world. Another reason why meditation and self-analysis is so important in my opinion - no matter your field, but especially for creatives. Any thoughts on this? Thank you for the content Chris.
HOw ungrateful those 7 people who disliked this video can be. I mean, a free, short and helpful video for anyone.
can't please everyone.
Beautiful! Very well explained, CD 👏🏽
Thank you so much for putting this up Chris. I was recently made redundant and although I have managed to find work fairly quickly, now that I am self-employed, I still very much suffer from imposter syndrome. Tbh I think I've have had it even longer than that, as a result of my time in local politics during my early 20's.
Anyway. I have an interview Wednesday, my second in as many weeks (the CEO of this company passed on my details to his wife's advertising agency, who then asked me in for the previous interview), but I am terrified that I am going to choke it in a similar fashion to the previous interview. Let me tell you, it got a tad awkward on more than one occasion!
As a type 4 ENFP I can go between bouts of extreme self doubt to what can only be described as 'special snowflake syndrome'. I've recently bought a book to study my personality type and its been useful trying to find ways to navigate through these periods of self doubt. Thing is... although it has helped, it's still a struggle trying to overcome these feelings in light of my recent redundancy, as you probably see above.
Anyway, I just wanted to say thank you again for the video, it's easy to forget that other people might be in a similar boat. I'm going to try and take the lesson to ❤, and hopefully I'll smash the interview instead 😉
smash it. you got this!
Thanks @Chris Do for your wisdom.
Hey man thank you so much for the videos, it has made my life so much better, much gratitude ❤️
I would love to print out that thumbnail and hang it on my wall, to remind myself every single time.
Tribox Design Here watching you Chris!
This video struck a chord in me. Loved it!
Glad to hear.
I'm really fascinated about the conscious and subconscious mind. Would love to hear you go deeper on this subject!
what more do you want to know? keep in mind, this is a 7 min version of a 50 minute talk i gave.
The Futur I know you have a podcast on this subject where you talk about consuming as much info as you can and solving problems in your sleep. So it would be going deeper into that. I appreciate though that it might not be part of The Futur's curriculum agenda, so may be for a conversation another time :)
What's the podcast episode name where they speak about this? if you don't mind sharing.
U X it's episode 12 - tapping into your subconscious
Kevin Bishop oh I see. The power of your subconscious mind.
Powerful! Thank you!
WOW!!!!!
Pure fire
Love the outro with the animating sunglasses :-)
nice!! Lets watch this on repeat until it sticks! :)
this is amazing thankyou
Summary:-
Feeling out of character and starts to act squirly.
EGO is the gap that seprates us from our better future self. We need to let it go to learn and accept the values others give. It doesn't matter of the other here is your student, younger in age, or less skilled. Always accept and be greatfull for the value.
This is the sign that you are not being who you actually are. So we need to be ourselves and shouldn't care whether others accept you or not.
By relinquishing authority we gain authority
By relinquishing power we gain power
By relinquishing influence we gain influence
Dat sunglasses tho 😎
Those dang shades at the end never fail to make me laugh lol I love it
you never know when they're gonna fly in.
Well, Chris Do, what about you not being relatable? :D In here you definitely are! Thank you for your videos, futur guys and girls! As I usually communicate with my clients by text mostly, I actually listen to your videos and use them as on-site guides while I have conversations with my clients :D
My takeaway from the ending is that trying not to take control of the situation lets you gain control of yourself, which might actually put some control of the situation in your hands.
Tymprasta yes.
Design was my passion and my rice bowl. Lately its making feel like i am nothing and devouring me from the inside... it feels wrong to talk about it
Chris Do, you're d man!! I Love you talks.
Libby Jones ty
Woah TYPO... I meant I love "your" talks ;)
that's okay Libby. love you too. : )
Is there a full version of this talk?
Great talk. :)
great
Wonderful. Very helpful! I laugh when the Thug life glass effect appear in the end
The sunglasses in the end #dowithit :D
Question: introverts are scared of making eye-contact? Or, it’s just that if introverts make eye-contact with people it’s as if looking into the other person’s soul (exhausting). I guess.
🤔
Second
Good talk :)
Waiting for among us to take over
What is the song in the end??
🔥🔥🔥💯 thank you
Appreciate it.
wow
Hey Chris, thank you for your Videos. I keep getting to know new perspectives. Perspectives that also makes me think about how I can improve my personality. I've heard the following quote in the past: „Fake it until you make it“. I interpreted that as an imitation. Would it be correct to assume that this is a matter of an imposter syndrome?
Thanks for sharing and I had som similar feeling. But now my understanding on "fake it until you make it" is more about actions. Actions can change feelings, and so it will change mindsets. This saying encourage people to do something when they are not sure (having an imposter syndrome), and when doing stuff, it will feel different - quite similar as workout. All you need to do is just put gear on and do a few reps :)
I can imagine Chris ranting on UA-cam for making the user thumbnails circular. thefutur doesn't fit anymore.
What do you think about the new UA-cam interface design guys? :)
Malaz Halabi I didn't notice. Depending on who you are, I think youtube loads a different site. My son remarked how different my interface was compared to his.
Love your videos!! Just wanted to share a small feedback - Please try to make them a bit shorter like this one. 2 hour long videos are too big to comprehend. Other than that you're really rocking!!!
we have short videos. we have long videos. watch what works for you.
This guy should do ted talk for sure
Chris I know it's been a while since this vid came out but is there any way you could recommend any books on topic, that helped you?
yeah. there's a whole blog post on the futur site with recommending reading, videos and podcasts. check it out.
Thanks!
How to get over the imposter syndrome? Any book recommendations?
Archana Rao yes. I'll update the description with book links. Stay tuned.
Was I supposed to cry after watching this?
#sage
I'd fan girl, too, if I met Chris :D
I wrote an article that was featured on dzone.com about this
If I'm being who I am, then how can I become better? Won't I always say: "Oh that's not who I am. I can't do public speaking. That's not the real me." ?
ARM Cezar own who you are. Do things that scare you. Not mutually exclusive ideas.
The Futur Appreciate the answer but does that mean that by putting myself out there I can transform myself from an introvert to an extrovert?
Thanks man!
no. i'm not sure. what i meant is that if you fear being a fraud, the best way to overcome that is to disarm people. if you're nervous, tell them you're nervous.
Oh sorry. What I wanted to ask was something long-term. Like changing who we are. Or better yet, becoming a better version of ourselves. "Better" being, of course, subjective. But that's also a great takeaway! Thanks again!
i had a client who is a creative person and as chris said "creative people are the worst client" ever
and...? we prefer working with business people so our skills don't overlap. the one exclusion is musicians. they're fun to work with. but working for another >frustrated< creative who thinks they know what they want, and wants to control the entire process is no fun. general rule of thumb.
Sometimes I feel like a blahvert...
Tony / LopezArts what's that?
That "success" stock music kind of spoils everything for me, but good speech nonetheless.
Thrifty Ultra you have a track in mind?
To be honest, I don't. But since you are asking, personally I wouldn't use any background music at all. It feels unnecessary to me in this video. But you know better, of course.
honestly, i don't. i let each editor try what they think is right. sometimes i might not agree, but i think it's important to let each person working on a project have autonomy over their work. since music is very subjective, i don't want to micromanage that.
I understand. This was just my two cents after all. Others seem to like it.
Thought the exact same thing
too lazy tho
Sussy sus
I am secretly in love with you. 🖤