Just to clarify because a few people have called me a dictator: I'm not trying to get this content taken down, I never once said they shouldn't post it, I'm even not angry about it. I just thought it would be an interesting discussion to have to try and understand the WHY behind bits of human behaviour. I can't cover dark, super serious, shocking topics all the time because it messes with my head. Sometimes I need a break and to talk about something interest but with less high stakes where there's no 'right' or 'wrong', just interesting discussions to be had.
I really liked the tone of the video, Rachel. You did not seem like a dictator to me; you seemed as thoughtful and careful as always. I also liked your break from the dark, serious topics, as I am EXHAUSTED and also need a break!
I don't think you're coming off as a dictator. I personally do think specific types of oversharing should be taken down. Some things should just be private.
As a fairly new viewer (~3 months), I can’t quite remember which exact video as I’ve binged them all together haha but even as a newbie I remember you saying you personally have boundaries about what you’re comfortable with people sharing with you/the public in terms of private *things, and you personally do not feel comfortable sharing your own *things, but you clearly distinguished that you don’t think everyone needs to have those exact boundaries, you’re just a commentary channel going to give commentary from your personal views and boundaries hahaha bc that’s why we’re here! To hear your perspective! so idk why anyone would be surprised you’ve made this video❤️❤️ it’s funny, it’s light, and I needed it after Thanksgiving dinner with extended family who all shared WAY too much information hahaha hope this made sense?
I think the same thing about a lot of influencers. It's honestly sad how they apparently would rather share these things to the public AKA complete strangers rather than with people in their personal life.
I would rather they talk about accidentally eating poop or normalising bodily functions than any of their hateful opinions tbh. She probably posted it for engagement, with over sharing there’s a big grey area between maintaining your own privacy and shedding light on things other people may have also experienced either to teach them or to get advice. The outcome of Morgan’s post could be her feeling shamed if people call her a bad mother, happy at all the clicks and comments even if they’re mostly negative, or some comfort and solidarity from the few people who say “don’t worry that happened to me too and I did X to deal with it”
It's funny because everything they put out intentionally is like "get married. have babies" and then the eating poop reminded me exactly why I never want to have kids or be like them 😂
If I can offer a perspective from an ex-fundie who struggles with oversharing: Those of us raised female are often not given needed information and are also told that we need to keep things hidden(modesty culture, gossiping being sin, etc.). For me, I am still trying to regulate how much of who I am and what I've been through is ok and where it crosses the line into trauma dumping. Because I personally want to know as much information as possible(because I was raised so sheltered), I have a hard time recognizing that it can make people uncomfortable to hear my stories. As for Morgan sharing about eating poop(and Bethany farting stories), I think that can be seen as trying to normalize what they see as a normal(or accidental) wife/mother issues that they feel are just things they never heard about growing up. I have known a lot of parents who make the "is it chocolate or poop" kind of jokes if they have like a weird brown crumb or smear somewhere. And maybe that's more of an American thing? Idk, what the reasoning was behind it, but I just wanted to share a possible option💜
I was going to say something similar to this. There are a LOT of joke about chocolate vs poop in terms of parenting and Bethany sharing normal bodily functions seem okay to me. Though, they definitely both overshare a lot, but I'm okay trying to normalize bodily functions (like someone else earlier said, rather that than their hatred).
For real I was raised very similarly! Exfundie, creationist, and homeschooled. I wasn’t even taught or allowed to discuss what my period was, so when I had excessive bleeding due to being anemic, I didn’t know that wasn’t normal and so didn’t say anything. The 1 time I was taken to a gynecologist she recommended birth control, and my mom freaked out and I was never taken again 🫠
As a chronic oversharer myself (and my own experience as an autistic woman could have something to do with it) I have no problem with other people sharing anything they want to as long as they put a little warning beforehand instead of just jumping right into it. i didnt used to realize how inappropriate my tendency to overshare could be until just a few years back when someone I really love had the decency to talk to me about it and I have made a conscious effort to be more mindful since then. just try to respect peoples boundaries by asking first or if its online, adding a warning.
@ugh712 A lot of people overshare because of culture as either they were encouraged to or they weren't allowed opinions so they bottled it all up inside them so it came out later.
@kerisaltchannel3817 Not everyone who overshares is autistic. Sometimes, they have become needy through trauma, or they just like the sound of their own voices. Some people overshare with only a few people in their life and not with others. Often they overshare because nobody told them not to. Autistic people in my experience were more likely to undershare.
If I was his "trad" wife, I would be LIVID! Imagine depending on that overgrown spoiled brat to provide and lead the family into the next decades! Just get a 9-5 dude!
As an ex-fundie I can understand the oversharing, as most (if not all of them) are raised very strict and isolated you just do not know normal social behaivor or what is normal to say or not. And when you are feeling more free from your upbringing you realized you are not socialized and you struggle with these things. You just don't know what is normal and everything had to be hidden. So yeah, I feel for them, I feel for Bethany because it takes YEARS AND YEARS AND YEARS!
I too have this habit of oversharing my vulnerabilities, practically handing out emotional baggage like free samples at a grocery store. Why do I do this? Honestly, I haven't fully psychoanalyzed myself, but I think it's my weird way of saying, "Hey, look at all my broken bits! You can totally share yours, too!" The problem? I suspect the recipient of my oversharing doesn't think, "Wow, how brave and inviting!" but more like, "Oh no, what have I stumbled into?" So now I'm actively trying to stop, because (a) it annoys me, (b) it's clearly not working, and (c) I want to be one of those intriguing, mysterious people who reveal their secrets in layers-like a terrific novel, not a pop-up book.
I think a lot of it comes from a place of trying to be over relatable as a mom. So many influencers tried to be the perfect mom for so long, now they are swinging in the other direction
As someone who grew up in the online stranger danger of the early 2000s it amazes me how much people will overshare online in front of everyone. I rarely use my social media accounts for posting personal information. Its 99% retweeting cool art and maybe the occasional hobby related post about gaming or cats, nothing super personal. Anything personal related I talk about online is only with friends in private chats that I’ve known for years at this point, sometimes over a decade and trust them.
You mentioned consent, and I think part of the problem is some people don't seem to understand that consent is a thing that extends beyond sexually touching someone into other aspects of people's personal boundaries. I'm in some online groups related to mental health, and people will often post VERY GRAPHIC things about their sex life without a content warning. For a while those same people got upset that a lot of us were asking for content warnings if they were gonna post that stuff, but it was like - I don't want to hop onto social media on the train and not have the choice of whether to opt into hyper-specific details about someone's sex life! I understand people wanting an outlet to share, especially if they don't have much of a support system they see face to face, and I don't even mind if they share inane or gross shit if that's what they feel they need to do to have a sense of community. But at least warning people about what they're getting into seems like the bare minimum IMO.
I do agree that some things *should* be kept private, but I would much rather parents talk openly about the difficult, scary, and even gross parts of parenthood than glorify it as a "blessing" the way people like Paul and Morgan do.
They don't glorify it as a blessing though, they have shared the hard parts quite readily and even kind of retracted some of their statements considering Morgan announced she is done having babies.
Paul seems super needy but doesn't know how to ask for hugs. Morgan seems super resentful and cruel and whiny. They both seem like they're not getting what they need and are lashing out at each other and everyone else.
I think this is an American thing. I am, like you, from Europe (Sweden) and we are more "private" than Americans. I have lived in Michigan and I recognized how much more open they were than what I was used to. With social media, the American way of oversharing has become global / made people from other countries overshare because they have seen so many clips with Americans oversharing.
Ehat makes me enraged is the ones that dont just overshare THEIR life, but overshare about their CHILDREN. Children that didnt consent and dont want people to hear these things. I had that mother and it was horrific.
Remember the times when were told to not share personal information like your full name, birthday or contact info on social media? Seeing people overshare everything with their own name and face and documenting online everything from their lunch to literal poop makes me miss those days. Not to mention people documenting their children from birth to puberty in all details. It's kinda insane actually the more you think about it.
I see a lot of fundamental Christians (and was influenced growing up around fundamentalists/now I'm not in the church anymore) dissecting every part of their relationship and thoughts. It feels pretty compulsive sometimes and can be harmful for sure, the relationship ocd is so real and something I struggled with for a while. But I think it's actually encouraged in the church, at least ones like the church I grew up in (only about certain things, tho). I think there's a fear of "if I don't work through and share everything in my life, I'm being bad or dishonest". This feeling can naturally translate into being an influencer who overshares/telling ppl things you never really needed to
To be fair, what's considered oversharing is also dependent on the audience outside of larger societal norms like your Period example. For me that whole Poop Story was just a funny anecdote and one i could relate to. I mean, if you're a parent at some point you will get Poo or Pipi in your face. That is just what you have to deal with those beloved little disease Cauldrons. Does not mean that her MOTIVES in this case were not bad, i am willing to give those two crap for anything they do just because. But the story itself? No big thing, happens and after a little bit of time you can laugh about it.
I showed my older mom who knows a lil about these fundies and OH MY GOOOODNESSS, she has her jaw on the FLOOR! The one clip about the eggplant worshipping literally had her turning her head and she gave them the dirstest look. INSANE! Thank you for covering this. It gave me such a laugh but it’s such an important topic to talk about. Love your videos rachel!!
Exactly what I came to the comment section to react to. Sadly it is this kind of "religious thinking" that leads to nonconsentual/ forced relations in some marriages. It is disgusting and makes me want to scream and bellow for those women...
People happily throwing privacy and mystery to the wind is a signal that people miss and want to go back to Iron Age days when people lived communally in large roundhouses with their extended relatives and small animals for creature comfort and warmth during the cold times of winter. Lol
Exactly this. People are longing for community. In reference to the video: people bang on about oversharing all the time on here because it gets views, but most of the people I know irl, interact with and see online are so terrified of "oversharing", that they're actually extremely guarded to a fault. So it sucks to see this agenda being pushed even more. I wish our generation could stop pretending that we all enjoy being single, alone, childless etc etc. And stuck in the Stoicism mindset where you don't show any vulnerability to anyone whatsoever
@@notnotneutral15 I understand your point and I can respect it. But as a person who genuinely wants to isolate, stay single, be childless, etc it is for a good reason. People are petty, disingenuous, and cruel especially when they feel threatened and God forbid they feel threatened by you specifically. They will tell you they care for you and then as soon as you leave the room they drag your name through the mud. What is the point of even trying to find effective communication methods when the people you're trying to communicate with don't even genuinely want to connect with you in the first place? Relationships are completely transactional more often than not, and as soon as someone feels like you're not serving their purposes anymore they can and will just drop you with no explanation. And don't get me wrong, that is their prerogative 100%. I just think it is also my prerogative to not engage and so I don't. I don't date because I have trust issues that will never go away due to past trauma. I isolate because I have emotional trauma from being undiagnosed autistic and not understanding that the people I thought were my friends (for years sometimes) actually wished I would just go away the entire time. I don't want to have children because I don't believe it is fair or right to bring someone into this trash world with no recourse for how to minimize their suffering, and I won't force that person to take on the responsibility of giving my life meaning. Stoicism isn't like a religion to me or anything, but it has given me a lot of solace and a way to compartmentalize all of my feelings and experiences. Sorry if this is an overshare, but I just wanted to give my perspective as someone who is single, isolated, and childless and still very much living my life lol
Holy cow i am SOOOOO grateful for my husband. Whenever I see Paul and Morgan (or a lot of fundie couples honestly) and they are just so nasty to eachother and claim that that is marriage? And normal? No it isn't. I married my best friend. We hardly ever fight, honestly I can count on one hand, and they are more just...disagreements? Like we just talk about it and find a solution and there isn't yelling or hurling of cruel words or anything. It's just two people who love eachother and love being around eachother and the worst thing for each of us would be to hurt the other. We are eachothers Safe Space in everyway.
Rachel... Rachel please... 😭 No amount of apologies could've prepared me for THAT video at the beginning- Nah I'm done... I'm done 😭 still gonna watch the whole video bc I love you and your vids and your makeup and outfits and also you're an amazin youtuber.
I rarely agree with Bethany, but the post about gas and pee, to me, is part of de-stigmatizing how bodies are sometimes. And it also helps with stopping others (especially women) from thinking they have to be perfect, to perform, when having s3x. I can't imagine how scared i would be if i had digestive issues like IBS to engage in some s3xual acts if no one was saying it's not a big deal if some gas occurs. But this is a great conversation to have, about how we engage with social media and oversharing :)
Morgan saying that she ate poop didn't have a purpose and it's just gross. I will never forget about the bigotry that she and her husband has spewed. The part about them saying they wouldn't go to their son's wedding and they still love him, hit really close to home to me. my mom has said some similar things and I felt ashamed of my sexuality and identity for a very long time and it never changed me.
I deleted my twitter because I was at the time a teenager, an incredibly mentally ill one, and I, as many of us, experience intrusive thoughts. But I didn't know what they were. And one of the ways for me to get rid of an intrusive thought became sharing it. My account had 10k followers. And when I had violent or suicidal or irrational thoughts I would tweet them and get mocked for it. I accidentally made perfect ragebait. And when I finally understood my behaviour I immediately became uncomfortable with all of my biggest insecurities and fears and delusions being public and just deleted it. I have a diary now
Man I’m kinda doing this on Tumblr, but it’s pretty vague mind flow stuff abt how I have complex feelings about being alive. I think I’ll make it private now.
For influencers there’s an angle of gaining attention, but I think for the average person/smaller creator, sharing something so embarrassing is almost cathartic because then you have people saying that it’s not that bad and validating your feelings, so you don’t have to hold that embarrassing experience inside and have it torture you
I know this isn't the point of the video, but oh wow that first clip... all I could think (as a veteran pet owner and mom of 2) was: Morgan you should KNOW better!! When you have kids in diapers, or even just pets, you can NEVER trust a random nugget of something to be food (and even if it is food, trust it to be safe). Chances are high that it is NOT in fact food. Augh.
You just reminded me of the time my niece almost ate a dog pebble. She was lucky she showed me the “wet raisin” first. 😂 It’s one thing for a kid to do it, but as an adult? It’s really just common sense. 🤦🏻♀️
I am honestly astounded by what is considered “normal” to share I’m a very private by nature so the idea of even telling a complete stranger my favorite color or food feels off to me. And [unfortunately] growing up in the era of social media I went the opposite direction, which was not share at all when the majority started to overshare. To the point where today so many people that used to know [ thank Buddha] woukd call me “secretive” or “weird” because I wouldn’t just trauma dump or over share to the first person who engaged with me. And I had to [and this is wild to me] explain to these people that, we are strangers there is supposed to be a progression in what we tell each other, AFTER we get to know each other. It’s very disturbing that someone call you secretive unless you tell them everything about you. I notice this a lot with influencers, and just have to wonder when are people going to remember that someone having a private life and being selective in what information about themselves they are willing to share is normal not shady
Social media makes people feel like they are the main character and everyone is desperate to hear what they have to say. There are a lot of positives about social media, but I know so many people who overshare graphic, unnecessary information and I believe this is a symptom of main character syndrome. I can't even count how many times I've seen a post somewhere online and thought "Why in the WORLD would you say that to all these strangers?" but here we are.
Unironically, clips like the one where they were talking about how sexy a penis is helped me realize I was asexual. To some people they might be uncomfortable, but in the right context that kind of oversharing can be educational (Even if that's not the way they're intending lol).
i had the same feeling, as a lesbian! hetero women often talk about sex and men as if they (moderately) despise both, so someone saying so clearly how they actually feel, even if its graphic, is really helpful for me to realise..."oh *that's* what it means to be into men!"
I think it’s an attachment issue. I think a lot of over sharers (and probably a lot of people who make content online :P) grew up with parents who didn’t emotionally see them and didn’t emotionally validated them. It’s attachment trauma rearing its head imo. We see Paul and Morgan invalidate each other’s feelings ALL of the time. When a parent does that to a child, they will often shrink into themselves or get louder and more extreme to communicate their emotions in the hopes of their parent seeing them. Same happens for adults. I could imagine both Paul and Morgan have to tell the internet about their experiences, to the extreme, because they aren’t getting emotional validation in their day to day lives from each other and likely their parents and others. Obviously I’m super assuming a ton here and could be 100% wrong. But that’s my hypothesis based on what I know from their internet presence.
I was literally talking about this with my mom yesterday. It is okay to not tell everyone everything about your life. Like there's nothing wrong with privacy. People have no filter anymore and it's gross
So, I have a different view of “oversharing” than what most people mean when they use that term. If someone other than me shares something that I wouldn’t be comfortable sharing, that’s entirely their choice. My viewing it as oversharing is a judgement of their decision to share that isn’t based in anything more than the somewhat arbitrary rules of what’s appropriate. Instead, I view oversharing as a personal feeling of discomfort about something I’ve shared. I’m not judging the actions of others that aren’t really causing any harm, even if I think it’s pointless. I just hope these fundies get to the point they see this stuff as oversharing eventually.
I think Bethany's farting during sex meme does have a purpose of normalizing it by talking about it openly, relating to other women who experience it and that women aren't sexy dolls and we have bodily functions and awkward sex moments, for sure at least some people find it funny because they relate. Although I know Bethany has overshared on other ocassions which is sitll understable because for her it's like she wasn't allowed to talk about sex and now she does talk about it, so it's almost like a late bloomer thing where she's excited to talk about it a lot.
Very good food for thought, but it may be quite a bit simpler-- parenthood can be extremely lonely and isolating at times, even more so when you're a mother in a conservative family. I never ate poop, but I did find myself sharing banal and idiotic things just to have something to say to somebody
assuming she changes the kids’ nappies in the bathroom (i’ve never had a kid but) WHY would u eat what u think is beef jerky if u found it there. or ANYWHERE BRO i’m so baffled
A lot of people change them on the floor (if safe and soft). Perhaps she ate something off the floor? 🤢 I am even a proponent of the five second rule, but with thorough inspection before eating it!
I've been saying this for years. Why do some folks feel the need to tell us literally everything that happens in their day? Privacy is great. Embrace it.
The thing is a lot of people do it so it becomes more normalized and people don't feel ashamed. But you don't have to feel ashamed. Having privacy and having shame are very different.
I’ve been with my wife for ten years. I always felt we have had a very healthy communication dynamic, so all the clips of Morgan and her husband are so bizarre to me. My marriage is very easy! Theirs seems very hard. What’s the point of being together if you speak to each other like that?
There are so many people in my life that have a habit of over sharing every little thing in their lives. But then they wonder why people start having issues with them and don’t want to know everything. Like, if you want to do that, go ahead. But, in my opinion, if you overshare everything that happens, you can’t be surprised when people start saying things or questioning things, if that made any sense.
Over sharing can also be a cry for help. Not that fundies necessarily deserve any sympathy. The over sharing could be some form of subconscious way for them to cry out for help without telling everyone that they are not happy in their situation.
The concept of “personal business” doesn’t seem to exist in recent generations, and since the advent of social media has almost become an antiquated term. People believe that sharing every moment of their daily lives no matter how mundane, or embarrassing gives them “authenticity and relatability”, and though I find it unmannerly, many who engage in it do seem to find a sizeable audience; that is until they share something that audience finds offensive or objectionable.
I think the issue isn't really the oversharing and more the people who are oversharing in most cases. Like I don't think there is anything wrong in sharing details of your sex life, especially to talk about how sex can be silly and messy and enjoyable for women too, even embarrassing stories like accidentally eating your childs poop because you're exhausted and your house is a mess. The issue in these cases to me is more the hypocrisy in not acknowledging the role your religion plays in making the topic a taboo and preaching about relationships when its very obvious you are not in a happy, healthy one yourself. I think people should be able to be as open as they are comfortable with. Especially on youtube, we don't have to click on their videos. However I think its interesting to consider people becoming addicted to oversharing or feeling like they need to share every detail of their lives for clicks. With the last person you talked about I think it might also be more an issue of mental health issues or drugs? But again, is the oversharing the problem or the addiction to views and attention?
i agree, with the example of morgan and bethany, i can genuinely see that sharing those kinds of stories may help mothers who are also exhausted or people who have just started having sex feel less worried and self-conscious. however, the thing i find weird is that as soon as these hyper-religious folks get married and start having sex, they somehow think that they have the most knowledge ever, so their oversharing feels a bit preachy from totally the wrong place
I agree with this 100%. The clips from Morgan and Bethany in the beginning weren't things I'd find super objectionable from other people, they're just people this audience in particular is primed to have a negative reaction to. And I think the addiction to attention can be just as harmful when one isn't over sharing, eg the opposite of over sharing, where you're forcing your life into this pretty, perfect box for clicks. Both can be immensely harmful if they become an addiction. The harm is just more obvious when someone is sharing their mental health struggles instead of concealing them.
I absolutely love your outfits in this video, if you ever want a nice chill video idea talking about where you find clothes and how you learn to style yourself and find things you like would be really interesting! Obviously don't dox yourself but if there's any general/online recommendations I would love that
Gonna be honest, i have overshared online on my channel but for me good things have sort of come out of it. For instance, i was a kid posting art videos, and at that time i didnt have anyone to vent to (ive very rarely had friends and when i did i didnt want to tell them my issues) but that let other people share their experience and let me get comforted, so good did come out of that (mind you there were a few hate comments that gave me issues but its gotten way better over the years)
I think it can be cathartic when people “over share” their emotional interiority. Hearing someone explain depression or anxiety in a new way can be validating. But you have to be emotionally intelligent and a good storyteller to do that. And most people aren’t; they want to get CLOSE to that feeling. So they’ll just make a video about the time they eat poop!
37:47 didn’t expect GlitterForever to get brought up. I used to watch her videos until I started getting a very weird vibe from her videos. That was before the major change in her content.
Uou are awesome, rachel. Homophobia transphobia and all other phobias are rotten. Oversharing is so unnecessary. You are someone i always connect with. Your videos have saved me many tims
That was a horrible clip to watch, but a good point to start the video. As always thanks for your work, Rachel. I'll hopefully finish this in one tomorrow:)
I feel like people who overshare like this want to foster a sense of intimacy and relatability that’s ultimately rings false. And some of them, it’s also a substitute for having a personality.
Questions are things you say to gain more information. I need a word for something I can say to LOSE information. I would absolutely *love* to know less, now and then.
Not to dwell on that first clip 🤢 But how the HELL does that happen? How do you confuse excrement for jerky? Where exactly did you find it that made you think it was something to eat? Like what is going on here?
@@jaymes3554 it actually could be fake, there's still hope...considering that she was eating a piece of jerky, there is a chance she was just like 'oh this jerky kinda looks like shit, imagine if it was and i ate it...'. i have to believe in a world where that is the truth.
I don't have social media right now and even when I did I rarely shared personal stuff. Some of these people give out information for free that you could only get from me if you waterboarded me.
could this oversharing also lead to some sort of attemp of parasocial relationships? Because we know parasocial relationship sells a lot (taylor swift is a great exemple of using parasocial relationships to grown a carrier) this is a genuine question, no hate or sarcasm in it. By the way, as usual, a excellent and impecable video!
Thank you for such a well spoken video on exactly how I've been feeling lately. We should all know way less. I was just saying to my husband how I thought oversharing online was something we all used to do (as a fellow millennial) because these platforms were all brand new and it was so exciting. But I really am shocked at the number of people who still overshare WAY too much online. I'm a mother to a 3 year old and the amount of DEEPLY personal things I have seen online is seriously alarming. It's so bad. I don't understand why they're not more cautious of the world that exist so easily on the internet. Thank you again for your content. I fall so in love with you every time I watch a new video. I am the Barbie girl and I LOVE seeing little peeks of your collection!!
Yeah, I really don't get it. I've always been the type to post something completely innocuous on social media and then be embarrassed about it and delete it within hours. Lol!
even though it isn’t the same, this is a really bad problem with dog breeders. i remember my dad trying to find a dog breeder, and when we did, she said she had a litter on the way. she live-streamed the dog giving birth of Instagram and Facebook. like a 24 hour livestream. it was so weird and inappropriate looking back on it now
that’s a problem with mills and backyard breeders. you’d be hard pressed to find a responsible breeder engaging in this kind of behaviour. like that’s a red flag to run from a breeder unless they tick every single other box for responsible breeding lol
I think they also just need as much content as possible so every little thing gets shared. I genuinely dont think she's trying to be shocking, she thinks it is funny and relatable to other moms. Out of all the Fundies, Morgan is probably the most detached from the fame- she doesn't even want to be a UA-camr anymore, never watches hate videos about herself or reads subreddits. Shes just talking to her little circle.
Thank you for posting!! I only realise after it went live there was a font issue with exporting so the text wasn’t perfect but at least everyone can still see your channel info :)
Just to clarify because a few people have called me a dictator: I'm not trying to get this content taken down, I never once said they shouldn't post it, I'm even not angry about it. I just thought it would be an interesting discussion to have to try and understand the WHY behind bits of human behaviour. I can't cover dark, super serious, shocking topics all the time because it messes with my head. Sometimes I need a break and to talk about something interest but with less high stakes where there's no 'right' or 'wrong', just interesting discussions to be had.
I really liked the tone of the video, Rachel. You did not seem like a dictator to me; you seemed as thoughtful and careful as always. I also liked your break from the dark, serious topics, as I am EXHAUSTED and also need a break!
Someone had to say it, oversharing is getting wild. Not everything should be content.
I don't think you're coming off as a dictator. I personally do think specific types of oversharing should be taken down. Some things should just be private.
@@RachelOates Yeah, I'm not sure why people are saying that about you. I thought it was a really interesting topic that should be discussed.
As a fairly new viewer (~3 months), I can’t quite remember which exact video as I’ve binged them all together haha but even as a newbie I remember you saying you personally have boundaries about what you’re comfortable with people sharing with you/the public in terms of private *things, and you personally do not feel comfortable sharing your own *things, but you clearly distinguished that you don’t think everyone needs to have those exact boundaries, you’re just a commentary channel going to give commentary from your personal views and boundaries hahaha bc that’s why we’re here! To hear your perspective! so idk why anyone would be surprised you’ve made this video❤️❤️ it’s funny, it’s light, and I needed it after Thanksgiving dinner with extended family who all shared WAY too much information hahaha hope this made sense?
Every time I see any clip of them I just think: have Paul and Morgan ever considered talking to each other instead of talking to a camera? 🤔
That one!! Lol
They seem to hate each other, why would they? Could you imagine trying to talk to that selfish manbaby?
Morgan needs to talk to literally anyone else but that awful man, he’s a disgusting person.
I think the same thing about a lot of influencers. It's honestly sad how they apparently would rather share these things to the public AKA complete strangers rather than with people in their personal life.
@@nephthys0xa499 Fair point. I'm not sure it would really result in any sort of useful outcome. But I can't help but wonder.
I would rather they talk about accidentally eating poop or normalising bodily functions than any of their hateful opinions tbh. She probably posted it for engagement, with over sharing there’s a big grey area between maintaining your own privacy and shedding light on things other people may have also experienced either to teach them or to get advice. The outcome of Morgan’s post could be her feeling shamed if people call her a bad mother, happy at all the clicks and comments even if they’re mostly negative, or some comfort and solidarity from the few people who say “don’t worry that happened to me too and I did X to deal with it”
It's funny because everything they put out intentionally is like "get married. have babies" and then the eating poop reminded me exactly why I never want to have kids or be like them 😂
“People kept telling me to eat sh!t, and now that I’ve tried it I understand why.”
Str8 Up!!!💀@@PixelPenguin87212
Yep 100%
yeah like. eating a bit of poop is a lot funnier and sillier than the rest of her deplorable content
If I can offer a perspective from an ex-fundie who struggles with oversharing:
Those of us raised female are often not given needed information and are also told that we need to keep things hidden(modesty culture, gossiping being sin, etc.). For me, I am still trying to regulate how much of who I am and what I've been through is ok and where it crosses the line into trauma dumping. Because I personally want to know as much information as possible(because I was raised so sheltered), I have a hard time recognizing that it can make people uncomfortable to hear my stories.
As for Morgan sharing about eating poop(and Bethany farting stories), I think that can be seen as trying to normalize what they see as a normal(or accidental) wife/mother issues that they feel are just things they never heard about growing up. I have known a lot of parents who make the "is it chocolate or poop" kind of jokes if they have like a weird brown crumb or smear somewhere. And maybe that's more of an American thing?
Idk, what the reasoning was behind it, but I just wanted to share a possible option💜
Love your point!
But you still don’t EAT the mystery crumb!
I was going to say something similar to this. There are a LOT of joke about chocolate vs poop in terms of parenting and Bethany sharing normal bodily functions seem okay to me. Though, they definitely both overshare a lot, but I'm okay trying to normalize bodily functions (like someone else earlier said, rather that than their hatred).
For real I was raised very similarly! Exfundie, creationist, and homeschooled.
I wasn’t even taught or allowed to discuss what my period was, so when I had excessive bleeding due to being anemic, I didn’t know that wasn’t normal and so didn’t say anything. The 1 time I was taken to a gynecologist she recommended birth control, and my mom freaked out and I was never taken again 🫠
I dislike their beliefs but as long as they aren’t exploiting their children it’s on them If they want share their own embarrassing stories lol
As a chronic oversharer myself (and my own experience as an autistic woman could have something to do with it) I have no problem with other people sharing anything they want to as long as they put a little warning beforehand instead of just jumping right into it. i didnt used to realize how inappropriate my tendency to overshare could be until just a few years back when someone I really love had the decency to talk to me about it and I have made a conscious effort to be more mindful since then. just try to respect peoples boundaries by asking first or if its online, adding a warning.
@ugh712 A lot of people overshare because of culture as either they were encouraged to or they weren't allowed opinions so they bottled it all up inside them so it came out later.
I’m autistic and overshare too
@kerisaltchannel3817 Not everyone who overshares is autistic. Sometimes, they have become needy through trauma, or they just like the sound of their own voices. Some people overshare with only a few people in their life and not with others. Often they overshare because nobody told them not to. Autistic people in my experience were more likely to undershare.
Relatable
@@lemsip207 I also have some pretty bad trauma, I wonder if my tendency to overshare has more to do with that
Great and interesting point in how oversharing isolates people, which makes them even more lonely, which leads to even more over sharing.
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Cutting to Paul with the pickleball paddle is giving Uncle Rico "if coach woulda put me in... I'd take state"
😂😂😂
If I was his "trad" wife, I would be LIVID! Imagine depending on that overgrown spoiled brat to provide and lead the family into the next decades! Just get a 9-5 dude!
As an ex-fundie I can understand the oversharing, as most (if not all of them) are raised very strict and isolated you just do not know normal social behaivor or what is normal to say or not. And when you are feeling more free from your upbringing you realized you are not socialized and you struggle with these things. You just don't know what is normal and everything had to be hidden. So yeah, I feel for them, I feel for Bethany because it takes YEARS AND YEARS AND YEARS!
Fundies never ever learned about boundries. So yeah, feel sorry for them and give them grace. It's hard...
I too have this habit of oversharing my vulnerabilities, practically handing out emotional baggage like free samples at a grocery store. Why do I do this? Honestly, I haven't fully psychoanalyzed myself, but I think it's my weird way of saying, "Hey, look at all my broken bits! You can totally share yours, too!" The problem? I suspect the recipient of my oversharing doesn't think, "Wow, how brave and inviting!" but more like, "Oh no, what have I stumbled into?" So now I'm actively trying to stop, because (a) it annoys me, (b) it's clearly not working, and (c) I want to be one of those intriguing, mysterious people who reveal their secrets in layers-like a terrific novel, not a pop-up book.
Oof, this hits more close to home than I would like to admit 😅
lmao novel not a pop up book is so real😭😭
I think a lot of it comes from a place of trying to be over relatable as a mom. So many influencers tried to be the perfect mom for so long, now they are swinging in the other direction
As someone who grew up in the online stranger danger of the early 2000s it amazes me how much people will overshare online in front of everyone.
I rarely use my social media accounts for posting personal information. Its 99% retweeting cool art and maybe the occasional hobby related post about gaming or cats, nothing super personal. Anything personal related I talk about online is only with friends in private chats that I’ve known for years at this point, sometimes over a decade and trust them.
You mentioned consent, and I think part of the problem is some people don't seem to understand that consent is a thing that extends beyond sexually touching someone into other aspects of people's personal boundaries. I'm in some online groups related to mental health, and people will often post VERY GRAPHIC things about their sex life without a content warning. For a while those same people got upset that a lot of us were asking for content warnings if they were gonna post that stuff, but it was like - I don't want to hop onto social media on the train and not have the choice of whether to opt into hyper-specific details about someone's sex life!
I understand people wanting an outlet to share, especially if they don't have much of a support system they see face to face, and I don't even mind if they share inane or gross shit if that's what they feel they need to do to have a sense of community. But at least warning people about what they're getting into seems like the bare minimum IMO.
the way she's still eating jerky while talking about confusing a piece of actual human shit for a piece of jerky is... a choice...
Ikr 🤢 🤮
I do agree that some things *should* be kept private, but I would much rather parents talk openly about the difficult, scary, and even gross parts of parenthood than glorify it as a "blessing" the way people like Paul and Morgan do.
They don't glorify it as a blessing though, they have shared the hard parts quite readily and even kind of retracted some of their statements considering Morgan announced she is done having babies.
@@morgianasartre6709 I said people *like* Paul and Morgan.
@@spiceupyourafterlife So people *like* them who are not actually like them...
Paul seems super needy but doesn't know how to ask for hugs. Morgan seems super resentful and cruel and whiny. They both seem like they're not getting what they need and are lashing out at each other and everyone else.
They’re both cruel imo
I honestly think Morgan would be a lot happier if she got away from him. And got herself a REALLY good therapist.
Yup, they barely knew one another when they got married and it shows
She’s not as pure or as pretty as Paul and he never lets her forget it.
I like her more tho
the title is so real
Lol
I think this is an American thing. I am, like you, from Europe (Sweden) and we are more "private" than Americans. I have lived in Michigan and I recognized how much more open they were than what I was used to. With social media, the American way of oversharing has become global / made people from other countries overshare because they have seen so many clips with Americans oversharing.
Ehat makes me enraged is the ones that dont just overshare THEIR life, but overshare about their CHILDREN. Children that didnt consent and dont want people to hear these things. I had that mother and it was horrific.
They do it in public too, not just online.
Remember the times when were told to not share personal information like your full name, birthday or contact info on social media? Seeing people overshare everything with their own name and face and documenting online everything from their lunch to literal poop makes me miss those days. Not to mention people documenting their children from birth to puberty in all details. It's kinda insane actually the more you think about it.
I was a stay at home with two kids close in age and I promise you I never ate poop.
Like girl what jerky looks nothing like feces huh 😭😭
I see a lot of fundamental Christians (and was influenced growing up around fundamentalists/now I'm not in the church anymore) dissecting every part of their relationship and thoughts. It feels pretty compulsive sometimes and can be harmful for sure, the relationship ocd is so real and something I struggled with for a while. But I think it's actually encouraged in the church, at least ones like the church I grew up in (only about certain things, tho). I think there's a fear of "if I don't work through and share everything in my life, I'm being bad or dishonest". This feeling can naturally translate into being an influencer who overshares/telling ppl things you never really needed to
Gives me that vibe, also the "need for confessing"
Confessions like that are why God stays in Heaven
@@Fruitytooty6969 100%!
Good point. I never thought about the confession to fundie influencer pipeline.
To be fair, what's considered oversharing is also dependent on the audience outside of larger societal norms like your Period example. For me that whole Poop Story was just a funny anecdote and one i could relate to. I mean, if you're a parent at some point you will get Poo or Pipi in your face. That is just what you have to deal with those beloved little disease Cauldrons. Does not mean that her MOTIVES in this case were not bad, i am willing to give those two crap for anything they do just because. But the story itself? No big thing, happens and after a little bit of time you can laugh about it.
I showed my older mom who knows a lil about these fundies and OH MY GOOOODNESSS, she has her jaw on the FLOOR! The one clip about the eggplant worshipping literally had her turning her head and she gave them the dirstest look. INSANE! Thank you for covering this. It gave me such a laugh but it’s such an important topic to talk about. Love your videos rachel!!
Synagogue of Schlong
Church of the Crotch
I don’t know where I’m going with this
The eggplant is a false prophet. Worship the peach!
At 12:55, "Your body is not your own anymore."
YUCK
Exactly what I came to the comment section to react to. Sadly it is this kind of "religious thinking" that leads to nonconsentual/ forced relations in some marriages. It is disgusting and makes me want to scream and bellow for those women...
People happily throwing privacy and mystery to the wind is a signal that people miss and want to go back to Iron Age days when people lived communally in large roundhouses with their extended relatives and small animals for creature comfort and warmth during the cold times of winter. Lol
Everyone wants the simple life, but what are you going to do when the Sea People attack?
Exactly this. People are longing for community.
In reference to the video: people bang on about oversharing all the time on here because it gets views, but most of the people I know irl, interact with and see online are so terrified of "oversharing", that they're actually extremely guarded to a fault. So it sucks to see this agenda being pushed even more. I wish our generation could stop pretending that we all enjoy being single, alone, childless etc etc. And stuck in the Stoicism mindset where you don't show any vulnerability to anyone whatsoever
@@notnotneutral15 I understand your point and I can respect it. But as a person who genuinely wants to isolate, stay single, be childless, etc it is for a good reason. People are petty, disingenuous, and cruel especially when they feel threatened and God forbid they feel threatened by you specifically. They will tell you they care for you and then as soon as you leave the room they drag your name through the mud. What is the point of even trying to find effective communication methods when the people you're trying to communicate with don't even genuinely want to connect with you in the first place? Relationships are completely transactional more often than not, and as soon as someone feels like you're not serving their purposes anymore they can and will just drop you with no explanation. And don't get me wrong, that is their prerogative 100%. I just think it is also my prerogative to not engage and so I don't.
I don't date because I have trust issues that will never go away due to past trauma. I isolate because I have emotional trauma from being undiagnosed autistic and not understanding that the people I thought were my friends (for years sometimes) actually wished I would just go away the entire time. I don't want to have children because I don't believe it is fair or right to bring someone into this trash world with no recourse for how to minimize their suffering, and I won't force that person to take on the responsibility of giving my life meaning. Stoicism isn't like a religion to me or anything, but it has given me a lot of solace and a way to compartmentalize all of my feelings and experiences. Sorry if this is an overshare, but I just wanted to give my perspective as someone who is single, isolated, and childless and still very much living my life lol
„Can I just say“ Morgan, please, don’t. You can. But you shouldn‘t.
Holy cow i am SOOOOO grateful for my husband. Whenever I see Paul and Morgan (or a lot of fundie couples honestly) and they are just so nasty to eachother and claim that that is marriage? And normal? No it isn't. I married my best friend. We hardly ever fight, honestly I can count on one hand, and they are more just...disagreements? Like we just talk about it and find a solution and there isn't yelling or hurling of cruel words or anything. It's just two people who love eachother and love being around eachother and the worst thing for each of us would be to hurt the other. We are eachothers Safe Space in everyway.
Completely unrelated to the video (which was great) but that is such a beautiful top, the lapels are sublime
Thank you! It’s a favourite! It’s from Hippie Shake :)
Rachel... Rachel please... 😭 No amount of apologies could've prepared me for THAT video at the beginning-
Nah I'm done... I'm done 😭 still gonna watch the whole video bc I love you and your vids and your makeup and outfits and also you're an amazin youtuber.
I rarely agree with Bethany, but the post about gas and pee, to me, is part of de-stigmatizing how bodies are sometimes. And it also helps with stopping others (especially women) from thinking they have to be perfect, to perform, when having s3x. I can't imagine how scared i would be if i had digestive issues like IBS to engage in some s3xual acts if no one was saying it's not a big deal if some gas occurs.
But this is a great conversation to have, about how we engage with social media and oversharing :)
Yeah I thought the exact same thing
im writing the title onto a sticky note and framing it as a constant reminder of a good lesson.
Morgan saying that she ate poop didn't have a purpose and it's just gross. I will never forget about the bigotry that she and her husband has spewed. The part about them saying they wouldn't go to their son's wedding and they still love him, hit really close to home to me. my mom has said some similar things and I felt ashamed of my sexuality and identity for a very long time and it never changed me.
Saw the new Rachel Oates vid and clicked right away. 5 mins in, I have decided I will finish watching it after I've cooked and eaten dinner...
I deleted my twitter because I was at the time a teenager, an incredibly mentally ill one, and I, as many of us, experience intrusive thoughts. But I didn't know what they were. And one of the ways for me to get rid of an intrusive thought became sharing it. My account had 10k followers. And when I had violent or suicidal or irrational thoughts I would tweet them and get mocked for it. I accidentally made perfect ragebait. And when I finally understood my behaviour I immediately became uncomfortable with all of my biggest insecurities and fears and delusions being public and just deleted it. I have a diary now
Man I’m kinda doing this on Tumblr, but it’s pretty vague mind flow stuff abt how I have complex feelings about being alive. I think I’ll make it private now.
For influencers there’s an angle of gaining attention, but I think for the average person/smaller creator, sharing something so embarrassing is almost cathartic because then you have people saying that it’s not that bad and validating your feelings, so you don’t have to hold that embarrassing experience inside and have it torture you
Why did you make me hear this with my good ears?!
I know this isn't the point of the video, but oh wow that first clip... all I could think (as a veteran pet owner and mom of 2) was: Morgan you should KNOW better!! When you have kids in diapers, or even just pets, you can NEVER trust a random nugget of something to be food (and even if it is food, trust it to be safe). Chances are high that it is NOT in fact food. Augh.
Thank you! I have two cats and was like girl, you had a dog before you had kids how do you not know this??
You just reminded me of the time my niece almost ate a dog pebble. She was lucky she showed me the “wet raisin” first. 😂 It’s one thing for a kid to do it, but as an adult? It’s really just common sense. 🤦🏻♀️
Mom-shaming and internalized misogyny be real
I am honestly astounded by what is considered “normal” to share
I’m a very private by nature so the idea of even telling a complete stranger my favorite color or food feels off to me.
And [unfortunately] growing up in the era of social media I went the opposite direction, which was not share at all when the majority started to overshare. To the point where today so many people that used to know [ thank Buddha] woukd call me “secretive” or “weird” because I wouldn’t just trauma dump or over share to the first person who engaged with me. And I had to [and this is wild to me] explain to these people that, we are strangers there is supposed to be a progression in what we tell each other, AFTER we get to know each other. It’s very disturbing that someone call you secretive unless you tell them everything about you. I notice this a lot with influencers, and just have to wonder when are people going to remember that someone having a private life and being selective in what information about themselves they are willing to share is normal not shady
Social media makes people feel like they are the main character and everyone is desperate to hear what they have to say. There are a lot of positives about social media, but I know so many people who overshare graphic, unnecessary information and I believe this is a symptom of main character syndrome. I can't even count how many times I've seen a post somewhere online and thought "Why in the WORLD would you say that to all these strangers?" but here we are.
Omg Morgan has *two* kids now?! I was already worried for her wellbeing when the first was born, but now I'm lowkey terrified.
Watching Paul and Morgan makes me so uncomfortable, I swear
The Room is less awkward.
@warlordofbritannia For real!!
Unironically, clips like the one where they were talking about how sexy a penis is helped me realize I was asexual. To some people they might be uncomfortable, but in the right context that kind of oversharing can be educational (Even if that's not the way they're intending lol).
i had the same feeling, as a lesbian! hetero women often talk about sex and men as if they (moderately) despise both, so someone saying so clearly how they actually feel, even if its graphic, is really helpful for me to realise..."oh *that's* what it means to be into men!"
Every clip i see of Morgan she looks so depressed and dissociated
I think it’s an attachment issue. I think a lot of over sharers (and probably a lot of people who make content online :P) grew up with parents who didn’t emotionally see them and didn’t emotionally validated them. It’s attachment trauma rearing its head imo. We see Paul and Morgan invalidate each other’s feelings ALL of the time. When a parent does that to a child, they will often shrink into themselves or get louder and more extreme to communicate their emotions in the hopes of their parent seeing them. Same happens for adults. I could imagine both Paul and Morgan have to tell the internet about their experiences, to the extreme, because they aren’t getting emotional validation in their day to day lives from each other and likely their parents and others. Obviously I’m super assuming a ton here and could be 100% wrong. But that’s my hypothesis based on what I know from their internet presence.
That's a great insight
What a title and what a start to the video😭
I was literally talking about this with my mom yesterday. It is okay to not tell everyone everything about your life. Like there's nothing wrong with privacy. People have no filter anymore and it's gross
So, I have a different view of “oversharing” than what most people mean when they use that term. If someone other than me shares something that I wouldn’t be comfortable sharing, that’s entirely their choice. My viewing it as oversharing is a judgement of their decision to share that isn’t based in anything more than the somewhat arbitrary rules of what’s appropriate.
Instead, I view oversharing as a personal feeling of discomfort about something I’ve shared. I’m not judging the actions of others that aren’t really causing any harm, even if I think it’s pointless.
I just hope these fundies get to the point they see this stuff as oversharing eventually.
As many problems as I have, I want to thank the universe I’m not in a relationship like theirs.
You’re absolutely stunning. The yellow eye shadow brings out your eyes so beautifully. Great video ❤
Grumplepig ♥️♥️♥️ I love how you interact with Kyra, it always warms my heart
Alizee: "I think I share way too much with you guys."
Me: Eh. It's in context and you're trying to make a point. It's fine.
I think Bethany's farting during sex meme does have a purpose of normalizing it by talking about it openly, relating to other women who experience it and that women aren't sexy dolls and we have bodily functions and awkward sex moments, for sure at least some people find it funny because they relate. Although I know Bethany has overshared on other ocassions which is sitll understable because for her it's like she wasn't allowed to talk about sex and now she does talk about it, so it's almost like a late bloomer thing where she's excited to talk about it a lot.
I think Morgan posted that story for shock value and engagement. I don’t believe that is a typical, usual parenthood experience…
Very good food for thought, but it may be quite a bit simpler-- parenthood can be extremely lonely and isolating at times, even more so when you're a mother in a conservative family. I never ate poop, but I did find myself sharing banal and idiotic things just to have something to say to somebody
7:44 🥺I love hearing your sweet little pup in the background 🥰🥰🥰💓
assuming she changes the kids’ nappies in the bathroom (i’ve never had a kid but) WHY would u eat what u think is beef jerky if u found it there. or ANYWHERE BRO i’m so baffled
Nah fr I was confused too like how are you confusing food and poop unless you are changing the baby in the kitchen or eating where you shouldn't?
@@peopleeps4756yeah idk why someone would change a baby in the kitchen but I think that's what happened. Either way tmi didn't need to know lol
A lot of people change them on the floor (if safe and soft). Perhaps she ate something off the floor? 🤢 I am even a proponent of the five second rule, but with thorough inspection before eating it!
I've been saying this for years. Why do some folks feel the need to tell us literally everything that happens in their day?
Privacy is great. Embrace it.
The thing is a lot of people do it so it becomes more normalized and people don't feel ashamed. But you don't have to feel ashamed. Having privacy and having shame are very different.
I agree. I don't need to hear what someone had for lunch.
A lot of folks tell stories w/o contemplating the storytellers’ fundamental question “why am I telling you this?”
I’ve been with my wife for ten years. I always felt we have had a very healthy communication dynamic, so all the clips of Morgan and her husband are so bizarre to me. My marriage is very easy! Theirs seems very hard. What’s the point of being together if you speak to each other like that?
There are so many people in my life that have a habit of over sharing every little thing in their lives. But then they wonder why people start having issues with them and don’t want to know everything. Like, if you want to do that, go ahead. But, in my opinion, if you overshare everything that happens, you can’t be surprised when people start saying things or questioning things, if that made any sense.
Over sharing can also be a cry for help. Not that fundies necessarily deserve any sympathy. The over sharing could be some form of subconscious way for them to cry out for help without telling everyone that they are not happy in their situation.
Ugh.... I feel sick. Understand why you shared it though.
3:50 was a JUMPSCARE good lord
Bethany always "uhmmm yeahh uhmm" kills me lmao
I agree with this woman wouldn’t expect something like this on fundies channel. Such seggs positive vibes she even mentioned blowjob 😂
hey glitter critters
@@str3brry I love this phrase omg and nice username hahaha
No
@@icravedeath.1200 YES!!!
@@strawberryprincess88 thanks! but it’s what glitterforver17 used to say in her vids I saw her in the thumbnail and it reminded me of it
Oh god
First minute into the video and I’ve already gagged.. Rachel I’m trying to eat
First minute is amateur time. I didn’t start gagging until three minutes! 😂
just woke up and there’s a new rachel video! hurray! 💖💖 i love listening to you!
The concept of “personal business” doesn’t seem to exist in recent generations, and since the advent of social media has almost become an antiquated term. People believe that sharing every moment of their daily lives no matter how mundane, or embarrassing gives them “authenticity and relatability”, and though I find it unmannerly, many who engage in it do seem to find a sizeable audience; that is until they share something that audience finds offensive or objectionable.
As someone who has had pets and a child, i have never eaten any poop. That's insane. Who just puts random shit in their mouth?
I think the issue isn't really the oversharing and more the people who are oversharing in most cases. Like I don't think there is anything wrong in sharing details of your sex life, especially to talk about how sex can be silly and messy and enjoyable for women too, even embarrassing stories like accidentally eating your childs poop because you're exhausted and your house is a mess. The issue in these cases to me is more the hypocrisy in not acknowledging the role your religion plays in making the topic a taboo and preaching about relationships when its very obvious you are not in a happy, healthy one yourself.
I think people should be able to be as open as they are comfortable with. Especially on youtube, we don't have to click on their videos.
However I think its interesting to consider people becoming addicted to oversharing or feeling like they need to share every detail of their lives for clicks. With the last person you talked about I think it might also be more an issue of mental health issues or drugs? But again, is the oversharing the problem or the addiction to views and attention?
i agree, with the example of morgan and bethany, i can genuinely see that sharing those kinds of stories may help mothers who are also exhausted or people who have just started having sex feel less worried and self-conscious. however, the thing i find weird is that as soon as these hyper-religious folks get married and start having sex, they somehow think that they have the most knowledge ever, so their oversharing feels a bit preachy from totally the wrong place
I agree with this 100%. The clips from Morgan and Bethany in the beginning weren't things I'd find super objectionable from other people, they're just people this audience in particular is primed to have a negative reaction to. And I think the addiction to attention can be just as harmful when one isn't over sharing, eg the opposite of over sharing, where you're forcing your life into this pretty, perfect box for clicks. Both can be immensely harmful if they become an addiction. The harm is just more obvious when someone is sharing their mental health struggles instead of concealing them.
Thank you I agree with what you said.
I absolutely love your outfits in this video, if you ever want a nice chill video idea talking about where you find clothes and how you learn to style yourself and find things you like would be really interesting! Obviously don't dox yourself but if there's any general/online recommendations I would love that
Gonna be honest, i have overshared online on my channel but for me good things have sort of come out of it. For instance, i was a kid posting art videos, and at that time i didnt have anyone to vent to (ive very rarely had friends and when i did i didnt want to tell them my issues) but that let other people share their experience and let me get comforted, so good did come out of that (mind you there were a few hate comments that gave me issues but its gotten way better over the years)
I think it can be cathartic when people “over share” their emotional interiority. Hearing someone explain depression or anxiety in a new way can be validating. But you have to be emotionally intelligent and a good storyteller to do that. And most people aren’t; they want to get CLOSE to that feeling. So they’ll just make a video about the time they eat poop!
37:47 didn’t expect GlitterForever to get brought up. I used to watch her videos until I started getting a very weird vibe from her videos. That was before the major change in her content.
Her videos always had weird vibes! I miss her Breland channel, where she was actually herself.
I liked some of her hacks and diy videos just cause they were fun and that was the UA-cam thing at the time, but yea she got really weird
@@jaymes3554she was addicted to drugs so... yeah
Clicked so fast, I just woke up like not even 2 min ago
Same😅
I love your glittery eyeshadow Rachel!
Uou are awesome, rachel. Homophobia transphobia and all other phobias are rotten. Oversharing is so unnecessary. You are someone i always connect with. Your videos have saved me many tims
I will say- that is like the most normal I've ever seen Morgan act 💀
0:23 I started laughing at that
GOD IM SO IMMATURE 😭
That was a horrible clip to watch, but a good point to start the video.
As always thanks for your work, Rachel.
I'll hopefully finish this in one tomorrow:)
I feel like people who overshare like this want to foster a sense of intimacy and relatability that’s ultimately rings false.
And some of them, it’s also a substitute for having a personality.
Questions are things you say to gain more information. I need a word for something I can say to LOSE information. I would absolutely *love* to know less, now and then.
Petition to only hear Kyra, never Paul, in future videos.
Great content, love that shirt
Not to dwell on that first clip 🤢
But how the HELL does that happen? How do you confuse excrement for jerky? Where exactly did you find it that made you think it was something to eat?
Like what is going on here?
The sad thing is it's too specific to be fake 😭
@@jaymes3554 it actually could be fake, there's still hope...considering that she was eating a piece of jerky, there is a chance she was just like 'oh this jerky kinda looks like shit, imagine if it was and i ate it...'. i have to believe in a world where that is the truth.
I don't have social media right now and even when I did I rarely shared personal stuff. Some of these people give out information for free that you could only get from me if you waterboarded me.
could this oversharing also lead to some sort of attemp of parasocial relationships? Because we know parasocial relationship sells a lot (taylor swift is a great exemple of using parasocial relationships to grown a carrier) this is a genuine question, no hate or sarcasm in it. By the way, as usual, a excellent and impecable video!
I always thought it's because they don't have many friends irl
I AM EATING LUNCH RN WHY DID I CLICK ON THIS 😭 I will be back after eating 😭
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Thank you for such a well spoken video on exactly how I've been feeling lately. We should all know way less. I was just saying to my husband how I thought oversharing online was something we all used to do (as a fellow millennial) because these platforms were all brand new and it was so exciting. But I really am shocked at the number of people who still overshare WAY too much online. I'm a mother to a 3 year old and the amount of DEEPLY personal things I have seen online is seriously alarming. It's so bad. I don't understand why they're not more cautious of the world that exist so easily on the internet. Thank you again for your content. I fall so in love with you every time I watch a new video. I am the Barbie girl and I LOVE seeing little peeks of your collection!!
Yeah, I really don't get it. I've always been the type to post something completely innocuous on social media and then be embarrassed about it and delete it within hours. Lol!
Love your eye makeup, lady!
3:40-4:00 my jaw is on the FLOOR. WHAT?!? Also 20 seconds of my life that I’ll never get back…
I actually vomited when I heard Morgan ate poop. I had to take a few days to come back to this video.
Yes please do more videos on parents sharing stuff about their children on social media!
I love oversharing and people who overshare. I wanna know and I NEED to know I'm not the only one lol
this is an awesome video!
Oh my gosh that podcast clip from Bethany 😳
rachel what hair dye do you use it's amazing!
even though it isn’t the same, this is a really bad problem with dog breeders. i remember my dad trying to find a dog breeder, and when we did, she said she had a litter on the way. she live-streamed the dog giving birth of Instagram and Facebook. like a 24 hour livestream. it was so weird and inappropriate looking back on it now
that’s a problem with mills and backyard breeders. you’d be hard pressed to find a responsible breeder engaging in this kind of behaviour. like that’s a red flag to run from a breeder unless they tick every single other box for responsible breeding lol
I think they also just need as much content as possible so every little thing gets shared. I genuinely dont think she's trying to be shocking, she thinks it is funny and relatable to other moms. Out of all the Fundies, Morgan is probably the most detached from the fame- she doesn't even want to be a UA-camr anymore, never watches hate videos about herself or reads subreddits. Shes just talking to her little circle.
Thank you for the shoutout on the cringe compilation :) They are wild as hell...
Thank you for posting!! I only realise after it went live there was a font issue with exporting so the text wasn’t perfect but at least everyone can still see your channel info :)
Unfortunately I will returning to this video *after* my lunch 😅