How To Be A Gentleman - Confucius (Confucianism)

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  • @PhilosophiesforLife
    @PhilosophiesforLife  5 років тому +67

    Confucius says “A superior man is modest in his speech, but exceeds in his actions.”
    Hope you all like this video.. please do make sure to check out the full Philosophies for Life channel and for more videos to help you find success and happiness using ancient philosophical wisdom, don’t forget to subscribe. Thank you so much for watching.

    • @HeyungWonKang
      @HeyungWonKang 4 роки тому

      very true. action speak louder than talk.

  • @byronyadao5550
    @byronyadao5550 4 роки тому +43

    When the Family is united and orderly, society flourishes. Its breakdown leads to chaos and every man for himself attitude.

  • @challenja
    @challenja 5 років тому +104

    Confucius says "too many ads make videos less enjoyable."

    • @lesliefarnworth1399
      @lesliefarnworth1399 4 роки тому +1

      lol

    • @USAads2023
      @USAads2023 4 роки тому +5

      Who go to sleep with Itchy butt, wakes up with stinky fingers

    • @drewduenas6699
      @drewduenas6699 4 роки тому +5

      facts but the man needs too make his money for providing the info

    • @nettwoel
      @nettwoel 4 роки тому +3

      Try this. When a video starts just fast forward to end then hit replay and no more ads

    • @thorstenenge9662
      @thorstenenge9662 3 роки тому +1

      Very wise, mmm, yes

  • @janakakumara3836
    @janakakumara3836 5 років тому +60

    Great video. I'm very impressed by this aspect of Chinese culture.

    • @PhilosophiesforLife
      @PhilosophiesforLife  5 років тому +7

      Thank you....glad we could add value..do subscribe to us for more such philosophical videos.

    • @HeyungWonKang
      @HeyungWonKang 4 роки тому +3

      it's NOT chinese wisdom, it's totally asain culture

    • @szerablyn
      @szerablyn 4 роки тому +4

      @@HeyungWonKang Yes, totally Asian brought by the Chinese. Korean friend

  • @oodlesofnoodles4660
    @oodlesofnoodles4660 5 років тому +32

    Of the chief virtues in Stoicism, I always thought wisdom was the most important as the other 3 would be difficult or even impossible to practise without it.

    • @westpacific1661
      @westpacific1661 2 роки тому

      The word wisdom is not always a positive term in Confucian thinking. It is more aligned with one’s ability to defend oneself; as opposed to compassion which is one’s ability to defend my loved ones from “me” and my own inadequacies. When you establish that one is wise, you’d have to next establish if they are compassionate as well.

  • @russellbarndt6579
    @russellbarndt6579 5 років тому +14

    The art of moral conduct

  • @ayyonmichaels9731
    @ayyonmichaels9731 4 роки тому +11

    That moment you've realised that you have become the gentleman you admired as a child...

  • @bvbydo4433
    @bvbydo4433 4 роки тому +4

    I not only enjoyed but I LOVED this I've never even heard of confusious
    I was some how already doing this because it was what I knew what right. THEN DAMN this video hit me in the face like an amazing brick or tin of brick but those bricks were soft and fluffy and also comforting!
    SO THANKYOU AND THIS IS GREATLY APPRECIATED.
    BUT IM NOW APPLYING THIS NOW THAT IM NOT COMPLETELY IN THIS ALONE.

  • @Jennypenny3467
    @Jennypenny3467 5 днів тому

    Best video on Confucius on UA-cam! 🎉Excellent work!

  • @daithiocinnsealach1982
    @daithiocinnsealach1982 5 років тому +10

    Laozi and Zhuangzi had some issues with Confucius and his disciples.
    "When the Tao is lost, there is goodness."

    • @fraidoonw
      @fraidoonw 5 років тому +2

      Yes, they bombarded Confucius often because of his unnaturalness.

    • @TimMer1981
      @TimMer1981 5 років тому +3

      @@fraidoonw Which is logical, as Taoism is focussed on nature and its laws and Confucianism is focussed on society and its rules. Man can't make true laws, only rules.

    • @fraidoonw
      @fraidoonw 5 років тому +1

      @@TimMer1981 thanks yes you're right!

  • @evapaparisteidou9040
    @evapaparisteidou9040 Рік тому +1

    Li corresponds to etiquette, ceremony, protocol. I didn’t see that.

  • @themelonn6313
    @themelonn6313 4 роки тому +1

    Everyone need to watch this.

  • @mike.p.1400
    @mike.p.1400 3 роки тому +1

    Skip the commercial. Video starts at 2:42.

  • @russellbarndt6579
    @russellbarndt6579 5 років тому +12

    Most impressive ! Love eastern teachings

  • @masExz
    @masExz 2 роки тому

    Thanks for this video.
    That explains why people are having a fine time whenever I'm present.
    I can consider myself as a gentleman now

  • @undertaker9991
    @undertaker9991 4 роки тому +1

    I agree with "Li". Traditions tend to help people bond.

  • @mysticdragon2101
    @mysticdragon2101 7 місяців тому

    The pronunciation and romanization of the Chinese terminology is somewhat inconsistent, but still a nice summarizing video!
    Below is a list of the major concepts discussed with the Chinese Characters, pinyin, and time stamps
    君子 (jūnzǐ): Gentleman (0:01)
    仁 (rén): Benevolence (2:44)
    禮 (lǐ ): Ritual/Etiquette/Propriety (5:36)
    五倫 (wǔ lún): Five Constant Relationships (6:26)
    孝 (xiào): Filial Piety (8:06)
    中庸 (zhōng yōng): Doctrine of the Mean (9:34)
    信 (xìn): Honesty (10:46)
    智 (zhì): Wisdom (13:07)
    義 (yì): Righteousness/Justice (16:16)

  • @zhiqianwen
    @zhiqianwen 2 роки тому

    Wow, this is one of the best youtube videos I have seen...

  • @rachelring2542
    @rachelring2542 5 років тому +29

    Nobody is perfect!!
    Not a social rank either. Any man can be a gentleman

    • @nicoled4021
      @nicoled4021 3 роки тому

      No. That's wrong. No one is perfect but some people will be much better than others. Only a few men are true gentlemen, not every man is.

  • @niluka1974
    @niluka1974 Рік тому

    Great insight

  • @christophercirocco8611
    @christophercirocco8611 3 роки тому

    Thank You

  • @pedrozaragoza2253
    @pedrozaragoza2253 2 роки тому +1

    Gloria in Excelsis Deo!

  • @fraidoonw
    @fraidoonw 5 років тому +6

    thanks! a very useful talk! suggestion: would you please put the original Chinese Characters beside the English ones? i.g. Li 禮. thanks!

  • @dr.gaosclassroom
    @dr.gaosclassroom Рік тому +1

    These key concepts are articulated in 礼记 or the Book of Rites especially the section 内则 which lay out the etiquette and manners within the family. 😀😀

  • @cngreen2950
    @cngreen2950 3 роки тому

    Thank you very much!

  • @okacet9412
    @okacet9412 4 роки тому

    It was really very good presentation.
    Good work. Much appreciated.

  • @nanaadomako7476
    @nanaadomako7476 4 роки тому +4

    Didn't realize I clicked on a skillshare advertisement

  • @Eškala_Iśa
    @Eškala_Iśa 5 років тому +2

    Skill Share is everywhere

  • @garyball6986
    @garyball6986 4 роки тому +1

    Latest culture. I love good gentleman and a good woman in life and may everything be there in the first place

  • @drewduenas6699
    @drewduenas6699 4 роки тому +2

    Haha I disappoint my mom my entire life but the last two years been busting ass too graduate college just so I can make her smile once. Only at 22 im 24 now did I realize just how much I am too handle and she managed too do that for 22 years. She still doesn't like me but dont mistake that as she doesn't love me and I completely understand why and am just touched that she still loves me.

  • @BeautifulJ
    @BeautifulJ 3 роки тому +1

    I claim and attract a perfect gentleman husband into my life right now. Amen.

  • @jefrinjob3531
    @jefrinjob3531 3 роки тому

    Great 👍

  • @USAads2023
    @USAads2023 4 роки тому +3

    If you cannot found a good man, become one.

  • @NateBostian
    @NateBostian 4 роки тому

    Very well done. An excellent classroom video for introducing students to the Way of Confucius.

  • @shawnd1966
    @shawnd1966 5 років тому +1

    7:21 In the US, government are not leaders but representatives. The citizens are not subjects but are the power.

    • @infinity-gn9xq
      @infinity-gn9xq 4 роки тому +1

      Lie.. that has been taught to us all so that we believe that we aren't totally powerless..

    • @bunchberry_
      @bunchberry_ 3 роки тому +2

      You honestly believe the citizens have the power in the USA?

  • @whyownperhapsjustusethings9471
    @whyownperhapsjustusethings9471 3 роки тому +1

    Question about #2, “proper conduct in society”-
    What about if one is in a society where a despotic foreign entity has taken over the government, and the society is mentally ill, following propaganda and living in fear? What is “proper” in this situation?

  • @azuza123456
    @azuza123456 Рік тому

    The family one is all good and well on paper, however. My birthgivers were very abusive/neglectful.
    Perhaps I'll shift that over to community. Since community and whatnot are what raised me, kept me safe and showed me love.

  • @drummytibeb2187
    @drummytibeb2187 4 роки тому

    Great video. Thank you! I learned a lot.

  • @ernavendu
    @ernavendu 4 роки тому

    well said

  • @amirmahia3047
    @amirmahia3047 5 років тому

    Loving the vid

  • @nutier
    @nutier 5 років тому +1

    very nice information that I like ! What is the meaning of Confucius ? Please let me know , thank you . I think that , the gentleman is a person who has the peace , happiness , loving kindness , compassion , wisdom , loyalty , and understanding in his mind .

  • @2view944
    @2view944 4 роки тому +1

    Eastern philosophy teaching the goodness of the female attitude. Western teaching the goodness of a men attitude. The female attitude is fond to compassion. The men attitude is fond to righteousness

  • @alpinelthabah3444
    @alpinelthabah3444 4 роки тому

    One of the best Life Improving video 😘😘😘

  • @Nibs333
    @Nibs333 5 років тому +1

    Great vid

  • @louiemarshall
    @louiemarshall 4 роки тому +1

    Sorry but skillshare's not a tool to understand wisdom, but merely knowledge... too many ads

  • @jwhippet8313
    @jwhippet8313 4 роки тому +3

    "Of course these lessons apply to all people equally, not just men."
    You say, but is that what Confucius thought? Under Confuciun Choseon women were not allowed to read and slavery was enforced even when economically unviable bc rigid societal stratification was necessary in an ideal Confuciun society.

    • @yumpatMEOW
      @yumpatMEOW 4 роки тому

      Could you cite where you found this information? What you said seems very contradicting to Confucius way of teaching.

    • @jwhippet8313
      @jwhippet8313 4 роки тому +1

      @@yumpatMEOW , you'll find the story in any book on Korean history.

    • @yumpatMEOW
      @yumpatMEOW 4 роки тому +2

      @@jwhippet8313 Um I'm pretty sure Confucius was Chinese and how Korea decided to take his influence and morph it into whatever was more fitting for the culture and society at that time has nothinig to do with Confucius himself lol.

    • @Deadsea_1993
      @Deadsea_1993 3 роки тому

      @@jwhippet8313 . That is false. He believed in roles of wife and husband, but he taught that both were equals that each had strengths and weaknesses and that's why they needed each other. Most cultures, especially of the times, saw women as inferior to men and that's not what Confucius believed. He also absolutely didn't believe in slavery because he believed that justice and kindness should be given to all. He sought for a harmonious relationship between government and subjects. That all were as a loving family. So he very much was against slavery

    • @jwhippet8313
      @jwhippet8313 3 роки тому

      @@Deadsea_1993 , where are you getting this from? Confucius regarded women as equal to slaves and promoted slavery, even complaining that the Zhou dynasty slave rites should be re-established. Those rites involved killing or burying slaves alive when their more important masters died.
      UA-cam doesn't let me lost links, but Google Confucius and Slavery and you'll be given dozens of Chinese scholars' articles on Confucius as the champion of slave owners.
      Confucius' main belief was that you should be the absolute best example of whatever you were in the hierarchy and not try to adjust your place, and to keep doing that even if others failed in their duties. So the slave should work hard and honor his master even if the master abused him. That's virtuous. Trying to escape is not virtuous.

  • @ergo322
    @ergo322 2 роки тому

    the glory of G-d is in the East-- Confucious was a strict monotheist and believed in Shang-Di the supreme One Ruler of the Universe which was quite unique at the time; also predicted via astronomical calculations was the birth of the Messiah

  • @andrewdong3875
    @andrewdong3875 4 роки тому +2

    君 (Jun) 子 (zi) --> 君子 = gentleman; a man prudence

  • @marcus716
    @marcus716 3 роки тому

    16:28 E A SPORTS TO THE GAMES

  • @dr.winstonsmith
    @dr.winstonsmith 3 роки тому

    Confucius definitely meant these virtues for men only.

    • @hellohuman6993
      @hellohuman6993 3 роки тому

      Doesn’t mean that he was right in making the distinction.

  • @rogeliolobato819
    @rogeliolobato819 5 років тому +1

    Too many commercials plus the long infomercial imbeded as part of the video

  •  3 роки тому

    "Confucius says..."
    Even the predictive text knows it. 😏

  • @InceyWincey
    @InceyWincey 4 роки тому +3

    “He says gentle”man” but he’s just a victim of his time.”
    Either that or he is wise enough to know why God historically has a problem with civilisations that pretend men and women are equal and had a penchant for burning them to the ground. I guess we’ll see for ourselves too.

    • @dr.winstonsmith
      @dr.winstonsmith 3 роки тому +1

      Indeed. Confucius explicitly supported that men should be the leaders of a society. Women needed to be structured into their important roles or social and cultural collapse will occur. This is clearly seen in Western countries today.

    • @bunchberry_
      @bunchberry_ 3 роки тому

      There is no "god". Grow up.

    • @InceyWincey
      @InceyWincey 3 роки тому

      @@bunchberry_ no you are right there is not, I merely use God as the label for the force of nature that causes actions to have consequences.

    • @hellohuman6993
      @hellohuman6993 3 роки тому

      That’s why the most prosperous societies in the world have gender inequality, right ?

    • @InceyWincey
      @InceyWincey 3 роки тому

      @@hellohuman6993 that is a very vague statement. The answer is yes, but I think it might be important to know what sort of gender inequality you meant, because the answer may mean something different to you than it does to me.

  • @J10_THE_ロボ侍
    @J10_THE_ロボ侍 2 роки тому

    "my balls hurt" - Confucius

  • @nicholasmckenna8614
    @nicholasmckenna8614 4 роки тому

    3:57 I read that as “virtue of p*n*s naturally present in everyone”

  • @江炩鵑
    @江炩鵑 4 роки тому

    I am from Taiwan, so I can deeply comprehend what you are teaching about the Ideas of Confucius. I keep reading and learning from the Four Books collected by his students while Confucius was alive. It is really true saying from Confucius. Not like the other religions which focus only on Buddha or God separated from the real life. Confucius says "If you can't do what humans must do to duty, you have no duty for the heaven." No qualification for heaven.

  • @nikolaosgiannopoulos9338
    @nikolaosgiannopoulos9338 4 роки тому

    True

  • @nstewart1623
    @nstewart1623 3 роки тому

    Isn't it pronounced Xiao? I'm watching this for a class and they also misspelled the term, calling it xio, and I had the hardest time looking it up to define it.

  • @AnthonyAcello
    @AnthonyAcello 4 роки тому +1

    The golden rule. How does it work for the masochist? : )

  • @Norgy1989
    @Norgy1989 4 роки тому +2

    Confucius says " A man who stands on toilet, is high on pot"

  • @tabinekoman
    @tabinekoman 4 роки тому

    Lao Tze : Yeah, Okay...

  • @elibonsatvproduction3629
    @elibonsatvproduction3629 2 роки тому

    A powerful Man or the powerful one

  • @thejohanvalli
    @thejohanvalli 3 роки тому +1

    Thanks for this video. It was very wise indeed. I think it would be very interesting to combine marxism with Confucian philosophy.

  • @labornurse
    @labornurse 5 років тому +1

    Sorry, too long commercial

  • @zhubajie6940
    @zhubajie6940 5 років тому +1

    Though there are many good concepts to take from Confucian philosophy, ultimately because of the hierarchy system it promulgates, it leads in practice to distrust or lack of care outside of that unit. Family more important than the city and the country more important than the world. 仁 ren is superseded in the case of the "child in the well" because it is not your child it is that child's family is responsible for it. Cheating a stranger is acceptable because they are not from your city. Mozi, with his concept of universal love, jian ai 兼爱, says we owe everyone 仁 no matter what group we belong to.

  • @naturalLin
    @naturalLin 3 роки тому

    How is Junzi different from alpha male?

  • @CuriousCortex007
    @CuriousCortex007 7 місяців тому

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @milekrizman
    @milekrizman 5 років тому +11

    1:14 - political corectness

  • @PhucNguyen-tb2kw
    @PhucNguyen-tb2kw 4 роки тому

    Which software did you use to edit this video ??

  • @ill76er11
    @ill76er11 5 років тому +13

    No actually being a gentleman is exclusive to the male of the species... just as being ladylike is exclusive to females. Yes it’s true any sex can exhibit qualities of all shade till the cows come home... but a gentleman is a gentleman and a lady a lady...

  • @jamesm6576
    @jamesm6576 4 роки тому +4

    Kant believed that humans have a "good will" which sounds somewhat similar to the concept of "ren."

    • @JoeyGirardin
      @JoeyGirardin 4 роки тому

      It is moral law

    • @thejohanvalli
      @thejohanvalli 3 роки тому

      I think that there is very little goodness on humanity. Sadly. Like Schopenhauer said, the fools audience is always busyest.

  • @benquinney2
    @benquinney2 4 роки тому

    You are what you think

  • @annaethridge9013
    @annaethridge9013 3 роки тому

    Ok here you go . Noah’s training

  • @johnwang6142
    @johnwang6142 2 роки тому

    Superior man is a person who is a grown-up
    A small man is a 3 year old

  • @I..dīg..hõles
    @I..dīg..hõles 4 роки тому

    Learning to be a gentleman by the virtue of imitation.

  • @dannyc.jewell8788
    @dannyc.jewell8788 4 роки тому

    They played this at the reeducation camp ,and we were tested on it ,ifwe failed test , they

  • @edwardtang101
    @edwardtang101 8 місяців тому

    Not “Xao” but “Xiao” is the more common latinization of the virtue of propriety.

  • @lowkh4137
    @lowkh4137 5 років тому

    filial piety is xiao and not xao

  • @daithiocinnsealach1982
    @daithiocinnsealach1982 5 років тому +5

    Way too many adverts. 4 of them and a long produft placement. This is not being a gentleman...

  • @johnwang6142
    @johnwang6142 2 роки тому

    Li is "manners"

  • @ohmohm7401
    @ohmohm7401 5 років тому

    i don't think there are many that would run to help a child. they would run to wait though

  • @saadabbas8976
    @saadabbas8976 3 роки тому

    ❤️

  • @ajbigdogcarter6865
    @ajbigdogcarter6865 4 роки тому

    ✨🙏✨

  • @drewduenas6699
    @drewduenas6699 4 роки тому

    Oh that third way too gain wisdom really hit home after challenging people who were clearly superior intellectually getting smacked too the curb then debating if the little bit of information you gained was worth the mental ass whooping I am glad I dont do that anymore

  • @dannyc2995
    @dannyc2995 4 роки тому +2

    So Confucius stressed trickle-up morality?

    • @bunchberry_
      @bunchberry_ 3 роки тому

      I would say it's not just trickle-up or trickle-down but a dialectical (two-way) relationship. The rulers being virtuous is just as important as the masses, if either side goes astray it can lead to instability and chaos. Confucius said, "If the people be led by laws, and uniformity sought to be given them by punishments, they will try to avoid the punishment, but have no sense of shame. If they be led by virtue, and uniformity sought to be given them by the rules of propriety, they will have the sense of the shame, and moreover will become good." It is important to lead by example from the top just as much as it is to cultivate virtue in the home from the bottom.

  • @Guledismail96
    @Guledismail96 Рік тому

    50 looooool

  • @tamarawyndham7518
    @tamarawyndham7518 5 років тому +1

    This is an advertisement.

    • @JoostEurovisionFans
      @JoostEurovisionFans 4 роки тому +2

      Everything is an advertisement
      Don't be a fool. Choose wisely

  • @Gomez39905
    @Gomez39905 4 роки тому +4

    Consider sending this to the BLM people.

  • @VjKam
    @VjKam 4 роки тому

    No! Shem cannot be to treat others like we with to be treated ourselves. This is a selfish way very narcissistic to assume everyone should define good and bad like ourselves. No! We all have different needs, ideas, opinions and perception of Reality is relative to each and only one of us. Don't fool yourself pretending that you know what makes others happy without checking with them first.

  • @roshanudayanga272
    @roshanudayanga272 3 роки тому

    Llttle difficult to understand

  • @investornabil8825
    @investornabil8825 4 роки тому +2

    Such folly to assume Confucius was a victim of his time. You are.

  • @kristensorensen2219
    @kristensorensen2219 4 роки тому +1

    Except for sociopaths & psychopaths🔱🙉🙈🙊🌈

  • @zhubajie6940
    @zhubajie6940 5 років тому

    孝 xiào​ filial piety or obedience not xao

  • @garyball6986
    @garyball6986 4 роки тому

    We just ask that you be a gentleman when you tear down a Confederate statue don't be up for an animal we don't need animals in this world just let you know if you just say we are all people with my old people there for everyone

  • @taipeienterprisesenterpris9851

    It should be XIAO NOT XAO

  • @ahsaiahzephaniah8512
    @ahsaiahzephaniah8512 3 роки тому

    Woman just follow what they see as the example set by men

  • @christinemartin63
    @christinemartin63 Рік тому

    This type of automatic, superficial belief and trust in precepts propounded by "sages" and "experts" give rise to blind obedience to authority--no critical thinking. Example: why do so many have poor relationships with their parents? Why automatically assume the child is at fault and the parent the virtuous one because he/she is the "authority"? A slippery slope to walk down if you don't question or at least investigate dogma.

  • @tavoiaiono7885
    @tavoiaiono7885 5 років тому +4

    HHHahahahahaha...did you just say, the Government take good care of their people...HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA,, ttthhe government....hahaahahaHAHAHAHAHA hahaha suppose next you gonna say, religions are true and real........HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

  • @humbleforest
    @humbleforest 5 років тому +1

    Nowadays gentleman becomes ungentle-man because of its loss of moral values.

    • @bunchberry_
      @bunchberry_ 3 роки тому +1

      The west has a horrible family unit which encourages people to leave their parents behind to pursue individualistic pleasures and they also have a horrible moral system centered around belief that you have to arbitrarily follow a list of divine commandments or else a deity will smite you. Confucius makes it clear that you cannot frighten people to be good or else they will require constant control because they will never learn _why_ they should be good and will never control themselves. Kindness, empathy, benevolence, etc, don't come from divine commandments but are part of all of us, and in order to cultivate 仁 it has to start with upbringing, with the family, but western families don't do this, and usually if they do try to enforce values it's through punishment only.

    • @AbdulKareem-uy6hk
      @AbdulKareem-uy6hk 3 роки тому +1

      @@bunchberry_ , you are absolutely correct in all you say. I am Spiritual rather than religious. I left christianity years ago once I learnt that it's man-made doctrine designed to control the masses....

  • @Acelevi999
    @Acelevi999 5 років тому

    I just unsubscribed

    • @chaz001100
      @chaz001100 5 років тому +1

      why, this was good vid