She’s not doing what everyone else wants. She’s doing what she wants, keeping him in her life because she can’t move on, and pretending it’s self-sacrifice on everyone else’s behalf in order to make it seem like a noble thing and hide from herself and others the fact that it’s self-destructive.
I just wonder what her clients are like, and what advice they've been given. That's why when someone tells me they're in therapy it starts to hold less and less weight. A lot of people are now treating it like church. Something you do once a week, completely forget the message the second it's over, and do nothing to actually improve their life. It's okay though, because "They're in therapy".
Damn it’s terrifying knowing this lady is a therapist. Wow, this got some attention. To be clear, of course therapists are not perfect people and they need help as well. This particular caller just seemed to be a therapist i would not want, because she admits if she had a client going through what she was going through, she would give them the advise she is currently giving herself. Which is obviously not good advise, that being, continuing to be around someone that takes advantage of you and you are aware of it and don't have the self control to stop it.
Listen to the john delony show, his callers will be like "yea my therapist told me to cheat on my wife with me and I'll always be suicidal" they're mostly terrible people coping by taking that kind of job. My mom had one during my parents divorce and the dude just wanted my mom and would lie to me to try to get me to tell him shit (I'm sure illegal as fuck)
100% the first time this guy says “I just miss you” she is going to sleep with him believing they are getting back together and then be confused when it doesn’t work out.
Gawd it's exhausting. My best friend from college did that bs. She'd go on tinder dates for just a hookup, then a week later be fuming that the guy hadn't called for a proper date. One of them she's stuck with for over a decade now, even after finding out he was cheating with multiple women and playing house with a family in the next town.
@@jakobm1291 The unintentional irony of your claim of being “quieter” in your page long, unsolicited, moralistic manifesto. Pat yourself on the back harder.
@@mrs.h2725 lol, my ex would date guys like that after we broke up. One of her boyfriends was sleeping with dudes behind their back and they were engaged!!
I hope she calls back after they hook up again. Also I’d be willing to bet this is probably the first time someone broke up with her. It’s EASY to be friends with someone after a break up when you are the one that shut it down.
No no. There was a qualifier there. "I haven't REALLY talked to him since April." In other words, she's been talking to him the whole time. Also, 6 years on and off. 3 MONTHS?! That's just another "off".
100%. Had it happen a few times that a girl I’m dating enjoys hanging out with me and my friends more than her friends and her friends don’t stick around so without me she has nothing to do and I get no alone time with friends because she’s bored and lonely on her own.
He wasn’t down for boyfriend responsibilities, but wants to remain friends……which means she was a good piece of a$$ for him. Of course he wants to meet for “coffee”. How this therapist can’t see this…..is insane.
as a therapist who cringes any time they hear “evidence-based treatment” from a fellow counselor, this chick is so dubious lmao. this is why you need heuristics, core reliable axioms, and MUCH more emotional intelligence than the average bear. this lady is cooked. genuinely stunned at how little self awareness she has. stav i promise we aren’t all like this lmao
Genuine question - Why do you cringe? Because many therapists don’t have a good grasp of good evidence? Because many treatments haven’t been demonstrated the be more effective than a placebo? Something else?
This lady is the reason why so many people are skeptical of therapists. I hope this girl is actually a school guidance counselor who claims to be a therapist because she has a masters degree is psychology. Something tells me this is the kind of person you get connected with on "Better Help".
Guidance counselor has more education and experience than the entry level of "therapist". People SHOULD be skeptical of therapists because the bottom rung is accessible to complete dipshits, on top of mental health being completely subjective and rife with manipulation by pharma and the APA. And no, I don't have a problem with real medicine or pharmaceuticals. Or the minority of therapists who are good at their job.
@@tradtke101 You need a Ph.D usually to be an actual therapist, not a guidance counselor. So no, not as much education. Possibly more experience though.
@@willvr4 totally wrong. majority of therapists nowadays have a master's degree. You can get an online MA in social work or counseling and then take the easy licensing exam. But your confident incorrectness is admirable
its easy to mistake staying in a toxic situation as being strong. you are not too weak and need to be stronger. the situation is bad and it takes strength to remove yourself
It's the same as someone saying they have street smarts to just use smart to describe yourself. There is a point in a toxic bad relationship where you are proving your weakness by being unable to leave the situation
@@wingdingdmetrius8025 people call it "strong" or "loyal" when they stand by an abuser but really they have no self respect and just want to lie to themselves to feel like a good person
priding yourself on "doing the hard thing" will get you in a lot of trouble if that's your only qualification for taking an action. you can definitely talk yourself into stuff you don't want to do because "it's hard but it's gotta be done" outweighs what you actually want.
"You're a grown woman with a lot to offer Suz, who would be much better to other people than you're expecting other people to be to you" Dam. What a word Stav.
I am also a licensed therapist in the state of OR, USA, and I can assure all of you that this guest is going against everything they teach us in terms of healthy boundaries. What an embarrassment to my field, jfc lmao.
This is why I don’t do causal relationships with friends, a close friend told me she loved me after we hooked up. There was no way we were going to date so it just made it awkward, and when I cut off sex it broke the friendship. This guy is going to 100% get in there again after a dry spell, i’ve never seen a more backup person who is so desperate to be a backup
@@fakename1656 It's the consequence of a caveman brain in the modern world. The chemicals produced in your reptilian & limbic systems don't care about a partner's long-term financial & social viability within a capitalist economy. The chems have simply identified that there's good odds for healthy offspring with this person. And considering that survival and reproduction are their only two jobs - they WILL take the wheel if you're not careful. Your frontal lobe has to be on guard at all times to mitigate the potential damage. It's exhausting. But it can be done with permanent no-contact. Because the best way to extinguish a flame is to smother it.
@@justascomplicated8182 that’s just a way to disregard theories you don’t prefer through labeling. “however, the term may also be used to describe professionally produced psychological knowledge, regarded by most experts as valid and effective, that is intended for use by the general public.” It’s just really funny to say it’s not “evidence based” as she literally produces real world empirical evidence.
She's chasing a fantasy. She's never had an Ex that she she can be "friends" with. She thinks that makes her a bad person because of it. She thinks that because she's a therapist, she's expected to be able to have that kind of relationship with him. It's clearly her pride getting to her. Suz doesn't want her friends thinking that she's a bad therapist. But the reality is that MOST people aren't friends with their ex's for a reason. It's a dysfunctional relationship.
I think “her friend group” has become all of his friends and without him they won’t keep her around so she needs the friendship to work so she can keep what she thought was her friends. If my friend broke up with a girl 100% she’s never invited again…. Unless another friend is trying to smash but then he’s exiled from the group too
Bro I dated one of my best friends for a few years. We've known each other since preschool (23 now). When she broke up with me I wanted to go back to being friends so bad but it just doesn't work man. It sucked not having her around after so long but eventually it got easier. This woman just needs to accept that this dude doesn't HAVE to be in her life. It's way easier mentally to just forget about the whole situation and move on.
@@123a-o5d pedantic, everyone here is gossiping not doing math problems. E.g. an anarchist book fair sounds cool in a vacuum; fill it with these people and it's suddenly it's much less interesting and maybe even vaguely concerning.
I don't think she has been the one the got broken up with. When you are the one that initiated the breakup, it's easy to immediately shift to "being friends." After all, you were the one who was ready for the relationship to be over. She clearly doesn't want the relationship to be over, so she is going along with the "let's be friends" thing to trick both him and herself into getting back together.
She desperately wants the world to believe she's got this guy on the hook/in reserve. The reality is, she's the one on the hook. #mainCharacterSyndrome
18:20 If you haven’t talked since April then clearly this person is not that deeply embedded in your life/ friend group. 3 months later is the first time you’re finding yourself in a room together?
We haven't talked "really at all" since April. That makes me think they have absolutely talked that entire time, otherwise you wouldn't add the "really at all."
I don't think he's in any danger of lurking, I think he's running for his life lol. He's probably also reconsidering his "move to her city", if what she was saying is true.
If you call for advice, you get the advice, but then say no im going to do what I already planned to do, then why are you even asking? This lady likes her ex too much to do what is necessary to get over him.
Not Stavvy being a better therapist than the professional. Damn. I was going to say, seek out psychologists with at least a 4 year degree at a reputable university and not someone that took 6 years to get a psychology certificate at a community college. But then I hear Stav kill it with the advice here and I realized that some people are just inherently smarter than others. Geesh.
Being just platonic really real friends with an ex is just for ppl who don’t want to let go She’s not putting everyone else first, she’s doing what she wants to do- she wants to see him
Im sure she dumps so much transference onto her patients .. like i could so clearly see herself giving her clients advice like "i think the friendship is worth it, give it a shot" just to make herself feel better about her situations
My therapist was great and went on to form a lot of programs that helped many young men with similar problems. It took me four therapists to run into him, but if you just try a few times you find someone that works
My therapist is great too. Took 4 different people and 3 years to find someone who isn't simply validating me, but willing to call me out when I fuck up and help me become better.
9:09 This caller's perceived "friendship/relationship/situationship" is also "not evidence based." It's just a story she keeps telling herself to avoid the reality that she was a slam piece.
"I'm going to an event in his city and soon he'll be moving to my city." So what? Does "city" mean something different in America? In American english, does "city" mean "apartment block" or "bed?"
She worded it weird. When someone says “the city” they usually mean the downtown area or the bigger city. Let’s say you live in Yonkers New York. That’s a city, but if you said your going to THE city, it means NYC
Stavvy is giving her the BEST advice, and she's delusional - she called in to get attention and try to convince him to side with her reasoning. She sounds sweet - she needs to let him go and move on. Anything less and she's just disrespecting herself.
lmaoooooo s/o my hometown Asheville. most gentrified place on earth.. I bet she lives off Haywood rd down the street from the voodoo ranger beer factory..
Suzi isn’t who you should be talking to. We need to hear the real reasons and truth from her ex. Talking to her is like running in a hamster wheel thinking you’re getting anywhere!!
A therapist calling into a standup comedian's advice podcast is insane!
It's not like we would expect her to read books about how to ending a toxic relationship
Every therapist has a therapist homie
@@young__blacksmith it's therapists all the way down.
Leave it all behind and pursuit what is clearly your destined profession as a kids TV voice actor
I couldn’t put my finger on the quality of her voice but this is definitely it. She should consider a career change.
The singsong “I’m a therapist!” sent chills down my spine
😂
Something about her voice tells me she's crazy as F.
She 1000% used to call lesbians in her high school slurs and now is obsessed with Charli XCX and Chappell Roan.
@@neighborhoodmusicsnob5517extremely specific lol
@@papitomichael3317 you know someone like that in your life, whether or not you're aware of it
She’s not doing what everyone else wants. She’s doing what she wants, keeping him in her life because she can’t move on, and pretending it’s self-sacrifice on everyone else’s behalf in order to make it seem like a noble thing and hide from herself and others the fact that it’s self-destructive.
Fuckin bullseye
You couldn’t be more on the ball
He’s trying to tell it in a way she’ll listen. He’s actually being really kind and trying to help her. But yeah, he’s spinning it lol
Thanks for explaining my thoughts better than i can.
This the one
Stav being a therapist's therapist wasn't on my loteria card this year
Why not just say bingo
@@Oobi666cus we play lotería out here foo
@@Oobi666foo
I just wonder what her clients are like, and what advice they've been given. That's why when someone tells me they're in therapy it starts to hold less and less weight. A lot of people are now treating it like church. Something you do once a week, completely forget the message the second it's over, and do nothing to actually improve their life. It's okay though, because "They're in therapy".
Tf is loteria
Damn it’s terrifying knowing this lady is a therapist.
Wow, this got some attention. To be clear, of course therapists are not perfect people and they need help as well. This particular caller just seemed to be a therapist i would not want, because she admits if she had a client going through what she was going through, she would give them the advise she is currently giving herself. Which is obviously not good advise, that being, continuing to be around someone that takes advantage of you and you are aware of it and don't have the self control to stop it.
The people that learn it are the ones that need it the most. Biggest red flag imo. They're all deeply fucked people.
Listen to the john delony show, his callers will be like "yea my therapist told me to cheat on my wife with me and I'll always be suicidal" they're mostly terrible people coping by taking that kind of job. My mom had one during my parents divorce and the dude just wanted my mom and would lie to me to try to get me to tell him shit (I'm sure illegal as fuck)
tbf it's always hard to see our own faults whoever we are lol
We’re all like that. Wouldn’t go into the field if we were sane
Most therapists are just people that need therapy
100% the first time this guy says “I just miss you” she is going to sleep with him believing they are getting back together and then be confused when it doesn’t work out.
Yup. Dude has her brainwashed. He's out there slaying and knows all he has to do is drop some corny "i miss you" line to get some when he is bored lol
Gawd it's exhausting. My best friend from college did that bs. She'd go on tinder dates for just a hookup, then a week later be fuming that the guy hadn't called for a proper date. One of them she's stuck with for over a decade now, even after finding out he was cheating with multiple women and playing house with a family in the next town.
@@jakobm1291i’m sure celibacy is a choice for you bro, very cool manifesto
@@jakobm1291 The unintentional irony of your claim of being “quieter” in your page long, unsolicited, moralistic manifesto. Pat yourself on the back harder.
@@mrs.h2725 lol, my ex would date guys like that after we broke up. One of her boyfriends was sleeping with dudes behind their back and they were engaged!!
"White people with dreads were banned from the book club" is a very funny sentence
Stav should have asked “does that include albino people?”
"Anarchy is when you ban douchebags and ICP fans from buying books", is what I'm picking up.
Anarchists passing the laws that really matter 😆
“i just can’t not”
“YOU CAN THOUGH SUZ!”
She’s so emotionally dumb and immature it’s terrifying that she’s a therapist💀💀
I hope she calls back after they hook up again.
Also I’d be willing to bet this is probably the first time someone broke up with her. It’s EASY to be friends with someone after a break up when you are the one that shut it down.
“I haven’t talked to him since April but he already asked me to have coffee” girl who is being honest
No no. There was a qualifier there. "I haven't REALLY talked to him since April." In other words, she's been talking to him the whole time. Also, 6 years on and off. 3 MONTHS?! That's just another "off".
@@riskylifie #honesty
@@For_The_Watch Also clearly this was recorded in June so...barely been 2 months and she's acting like it's been a year.
Wild swing: she called-in because the friend group is his friends, not hers, and they're not going to want her around now.
Would not surprise me. lol
Exactly what I was thinking. She sounds hard to be around lol
@@Theblackout292would be tough to hear that voice constantly
100%. Had it happen a few times that a girl I’m dating enjoys hanging out with me and my friends more than her friends and her friends don’t stick around so without me she has nothing to do and I get no alone time with friends because she’s bored and lonely on her own.
That's weird. As a friend who gives a fuck. I've never been at a event and been OMG I can't believe Steve's ex his here. You're a odd little man.
She’s got the crazy voice
This is definitely a BetterHelp therapist
Its patently insane that someone who is a therapist is not wise enough to get over degrassi highschool level tricks.
He wasn’t down for boyfriend responsibilities, but wants to remain friends……which means she was a good piece of a$$ for him. Of course he wants to meet for “coffee”. How this therapist can’t see this…..is insane.
Therapists can’t figure their own shit out
as a therapist who cringes any time they hear “evidence-based treatment” from a fellow counselor, this chick is so dubious lmao. this is why you need heuristics, core reliable axioms, and MUCH more emotional intelligence than the average bear. this lady is cooked.
genuinely stunned at how little self awareness she has. stav i promise we aren’t all like this lmao
Evidence based treatment= I have a friend who this happened to so it's officially peer reviewed 😂
Genuine question - Why do you cringe? Because many therapists don’t have a good grasp of good evidence? Because many treatments haven’t been demonstrated the be more effective than a placebo? Something else?
Only 15% of the population has true self awareness. That rate isn't increased for people in mental health care.
@@dezmodiumhow do you know that?
@@neighborhoodmusicsnob5517 because of the pfp I'm guessing it's the woman from the call pretending she's Neo.
I also like how she just ignores everything your saying for the full call
She’s hardcore in denial.
Poor kid is that girl in every open "relationship". She caught feelings and dude was like ugh.
hes an aNaRcHiSt bro. cant let the social norms hold u back
@@mike-gt8yo lmao
@@mike-gt8yostill listening to Chapo in 2024
@@mike-gt8yoHe still thinks Punk Rock is gonna make a comeback any day now lmao
Man the mental gymnastics this woman takes to avoid her own reality is pathetic 😢
It’s cuuuuute!
Yeah she deserves a gold medal for doing all that mental gymnastics
I can fix her
This lady is the reason why so many people are skeptical of therapists. I hope this girl is actually a school guidance counselor who claims to be a therapist because she has a masters degree is psychology.
Something tells me this is the kind of person you get connected with on "Better Help".
Guidance counselor has more education and experience than the entry level of "therapist".
People SHOULD be skeptical of therapists because the bottom rung is accessible to complete dipshits, on top of mental health being completely subjective and rife with manipulation by pharma and the APA.
And no, I don't have a problem with real medicine or pharmaceuticals. Or the minority of therapists who are good at their job.
@@tradtke101 You need a Ph.D usually to be an actual therapist, not a guidance counselor. So no, not as much education. Possibly more experience though.
@@willvr4 totally wrong. majority of therapists nowadays have a master's degree. You can get an online MA in social work or counseling and then take the easy licensing exam. But your confident incorrectness is admirable
its easy to mistake staying in a toxic situation as being strong. you are not too weak and need to be stronger. the situation is bad and it takes strength to remove yourself
That is a great line I’ll have to steal
It's the same as someone saying they have street smarts to just use smart to describe yourself. There is a point in a toxic bad relationship where you are proving your weakness by being unable to leave the situation
@@bensheard3969 reading your comment is like attempting to decipher what a toddler wants
@@wingdingdmetrius8025 people call it "strong" or "loyal" when they stand by an abuser but really they have no self respect and just want to lie to themselves to feel like a good person
priding yourself on "doing the hard thing" will get you in a lot of trouble if that's your only qualification for taking an action. you can definitely talk yourself into stuff you don't want to do because "it's hard but it's gotta be done" outweighs what you actually want.
If she was my therapist and i saw this i would be changing therapists
"You're a grown woman with a lot to offer Suz, who would be much better to other people than you're expecting other people to be to you"
Dam. What a word Stav.
Based on how annoying she is to talk to I'm convinced he just listens to her in exchange for sex and it's a fair trade if you ask me
I am also a licensed therapist in the state of OR, USA, and I can assure all of you that this guest is going against everything they teach us in terms of healthy boundaries. What an embarrassment to my field, jfc lmao.
I live In Portland. Hello Oregon Brotha or Sista!
She is making anarchism look bad in new and fun ways as well
Almost like all humans are fallible and we should be responsible for ourselves instead of paying someone else to say it. Wild stuff.
“Therapy is gay”
-Man Hathaway
it's almost like she's using what she learned to deal with her emotions
This is why I don’t do causal relationships with friends, a close friend told me she loved me after we hooked up. There was no way we were going to date so it just made it awkward, and when I cut off sex it broke the friendship. This guy is going to 100% get in there again after a dry spell, i’ve never seen a more backup person who is so desperate to be a backup
Praying for her clients.
That "animal compatibility" thing is so real & so difficult to surmount. Takes years.
Ur gay
It sucks, had this chick I called the scourge and it took years to get past.
@@fakename1656 It's the consequence of a caveman brain in the modern world. The chemicals produced in your reptilian & limbic systems don't care about a partner's long-term financial & social viability within a capitalist economy. The chems have simply identified that there's good odds for healthy offspring with this person. And considering that survival and reproduction are their only two jobs - they WILL take the wheel if you're not careful. Your frontal lobe has to be on guard at all times to mitigate the potential damage. It's exhausting. But it can be done with permanent no-contact. Because the best way to extinguish a flame is to smother it.
@@fakename1656 lol not The Scourge xD
So why even call in lol
She likes to listen to herself talk
validating her side
She wanted validation obviously
“That’s not evidence based” as she literally proves it is so awesome
The tragedy is that the more therapy stuff you know, the easier it is to trick yourself into believing you’re good.
@@FreeEduardGrigoriannDunning and Kruger are coming for us all, one day
@@Psilo-gn1sxit’s not if but when 😢
I think she means that it's pop psychology. One conversation isn't going to change that reality.
@@justascomplicated8182 that’s just a way to disregard theories you don’t prefer through labeling. “however, the term may also be used to describe professionally produced psychological knowledge, regarded by most experts as valid and effective, that is intended for use by the general public.” It’s just really funny to say it’s not “evidence based” as she literally produces real world empirical evidence.
No fucking way this woman is a therapist
Bad people fail upwards
Ever seen how neglected a mechanic’s car gets? Same principle.
high demand for mental health services = quantity of providers.Quantity degrades your ability to find quality. I don't go to therapy anymore.
@willmills-cz4er kind of true, yeah. Focusing on fixing everyone elses psychological mess, they dont take care of the mess in their own heads.
@@brentoncarter4275 sadly. Facts
She's chasing a fantasy. She's never had an Ex that she she can be "friends" with. She thinks that makes her a bad person because of it. She thinks that because she's a therapist, she's expected to be able to have that kind of relationship with him. It's clearly her pride getting to her. Suz doesn't want her friends thinking that she's a bad therapist. But the reality is that MOST people aren't friends with their ex's for a reason. It's a dysfunctional relationship.
I think “her friend group” has become all of his friends and without him they won’t keep her around so she needs the friendship to work so she can keep what she thought was her friends. If my friend broke up with a girl 100% she’s never invited again…. Unless another friend is trying to smash but then he’s exiled from the group too
Bro I dated one of my best friends for a few years. We've known each other since preschool (23 now). When she broke up with me I wanted to go back to being friends so bad but it just doesn't work man. It sucked not having her around after so long but eventually it got easier. This woman just needs to accept that this dude doesn't HAVE to be in her life. It's way easier mentally to just forget about the whole situation and move on.
So who else can’t wait for call number 4 where this all unfolds exactly how stav called it?
Any woman with that voice is 100% a run away time bro.
What is a "run away time bro"?
Don't mind them, they're boofing the red pill@@galactictomato1434
@@galactictomato1434well it seems your reading comprehension skill isn’t too high lol
@@yondeefeedz What is a "reading comprehension"?
What is a “what is a”?
This is one of those chicks that has a camera on her dog all day so she can watch it at work.
I think I'm missing the joke or being too pedantic but... Isn't keeping tabs on an ex bad, but watching over your dog is a nice, caring thing to do?
😂
@@123a-o5d pedantic, everyone here is gossiping not doing math problems. E.g. an anarchist book fair sounds cool in a vacuum; fill it with these people and it's suddenly it's much less interesting and maybe even vaguely concerning.
@@123a-o5d Stop spying on your dog, weirdo
Yo this made me bust out laughing , most accurate read ever just by hearing someone talk
Stav when do you open your own practice ur genuinely more thoughtful/insightful than any licensed "therapist" ive been around lol
Comedy pays more
Has this lady never broken up with someone before??
Judging from the age and relationship length absolutely not
I don't think she has been the one the got broken up with.
When you are the one that initiated the breakup, it's easy to immediately shift to "being friends." After all, you were the one who was ready for the relationship to be over.
She clearly doesn't want the relationship to be over, so she is going along with the "let's be friends" thing to trick both him and herself into getting back together.
Love that suzy pushed back and spoke up when she felt stavs advice was not right for her. Hope she calls back with an update
Props to Stav for not calling her a dumb betch and ending it immediately
Her being a therpist is terrifying
She desperately wants the world to believe she's got this guy on the hook/in reserve. The reality is, she's the one on the hook. #mainCharacterSyndrome
That's how this stuff works. Letting a woman believe she has you is the best way to get her
18:20 If you haven’t talked since April then clearly this person is not that deeply embedded in your life/ friend group. 3 months later is the first time you’re finding yourself in a room together?
We haven't talked "really at all" since April.
That makes me think they have absolutely talked that entire time, otherwise you wouldn't add the "really at all."
@@bearsonwelles3407 o that’s a good point
Was he ever her "friend" or was she always just his convenient "friend with benefits?"
Stavy is an underrated artist.
Holy hell I had a hard time getting through this. Her voice alone drives me bananas.
Other dudes aren't going to want her with him lurking around in the background.
I don't think he's in any danger of lurking, I think he's running for his life lol. He's probably also reconsidering his "move to her city", if what she was saying is true.
That was a bit tough to watch but actually really good, thanks Stavvy
This is 100% about a friend or friends in their tightly-knit group of weirdos that she doesn't want to "lose in the divorce."
"We'll give you a crystal for your troubles." 😂
Shrinking a shrink is a new high
If I found out this was my therapist I would drop her hahah. Completely disconnected from reality lol
stav taking a quick second to examine his hand hahah @ 1:48
checking his manicure
If you call for advice, you get the advice, but then say no im going to do what I already planned to do, then why are you even asking? This lady likes her ex too much to do what is necessary to get over him.
In the words of j Cole don't save her she doesn't want to be saved
She doesn't even like him. What a twisted understanding of love
She knew another therapist would tell her she's insane. She thought a comedian would back her up. She's just fishing for validation.
Also likes the sound of her own voice lol
"If you being sad benefits others than thats a problem" great advice Stavy!
Not Stavvy being a better therapist than the professional. Damn. I was going to say, seek out psychologists with at least a 4 year degree at a reputable university and not someone that took 6 years to get a psychology certificate at a community college.
But then I hear Stav kill it with the advice here and I realized that some people are just inherently smarter than others. Geesh.
Never be afraid to switch therapists after the first or second session. You can tell right away if they are genuinely wise, or spouting bullshit
Therapy just like physics is something where some of the best minds never had professional schooling and just succeeded on their gift
It’s not about her being smart. She’s not being honest with herself and she’s likely in a trauma bond.
Being just platonic really real friends with an ex is just for ppl who don’t want to let go
She’s not putting everyone else first, she’s doing what she wants to do- she wants to see him
I’m a therapist and I have a therapist so I don’t behave like this therapist.
Man i feel for the patients/clients that have her as a therapist.
She’s so easy for this guy, has her in a chokehold
Im sure she dumps so much transference onto her patients
.. like i could so clearly see herself giving her clients advice like "i think the friendship is worth it, give it a shot" just to make herself feel better about her situations
Calls like this are a big part of why I don't go to therapy, and if I had to, would try to get a therapist who is at least 60
My therapist was great and went on to form a lot of programs that helped many young men with similar problems. It took me four therapists to run into him, but if you just try a few times you find someone that works
My therapist is great too. Took 4 different people and 3 years to find someone who isn't simply validating me, but willing to call me out when I fuck up and help me become better.
I wonder how long she keeps clients with advice like, “just so long as everybody’s honest it’s ok!”
9:09 This caller's perceived "friendship/relationship/situationship" is also "not evidence based." It's just a story she keeps telling herself to avoid the reality that she was a slam piece.
Just living around is an insane response to how are you doing?
She got no life anymore
The title is awesome, they already know she ain’t listening to any of this
Why did she even call in if she didn’t need/want advice lmao
10:55 She's like the female Ross Geller/Ted Mosby/JD; desperately wanting her life to follow some "the one" narrative.
Hell yeah, three mediocre to terrible shows
@@WaldoCarmen That wasn't the point. But yeh, Friends and HIMYM are terrible and Scrubs is at least three seasons too long.
"I'm going to an event in his city and soon he'll be moving to my city." So what? Does "city" mean something different in America? In American english, does "city" mean "apartment block" or "bed?"
She worded it weird. When someone says “the city” they usually mean the downtown area or the bigger city. Let’s say you live in Yonkers New York. That’s a city, but if you said your going to THE city, it means NYC
Damn Stav, you give genuinely great advice. You have a second calling❤.
This is the best advice she could ever get. Job well done fellers 👏
Awesome call
Some ppl just love and crave the drama. You'll give her the same advice every 3mos forever.
Well one more reason I will never hire a “professional therapist”
I appreciate room temp commenters that let me know I've scrolled too far
this is a very funny person
This one is infuriating
She's a fool for him, it's sung in every third country song.
A therapist 😂😂😂
It’s crazy how good Stav is looking he’s really slimmed Down he’s literally about to become him
She should not be a therapist 😂😂😂
Stavvy is giving her the BEST advice, and she's delusional - she called in to get attention and try to convince him to side with her reasoning. She sounds sweet - she needs to let him go and move on. Anything less and she's just disrespecting herself.
'Just living around' is a new one for me
just a friendly reminder that therapists are not perfect people
She called up and had already made her decision. She just wanted to convince Stav. She’s got problems.
Lol I love this woman. She is crazy af. Must be amazing at the bedroom Olympics.
Needed to hear this today thank you stavros 😅😅
I will never trust a therapist. This is beyond insane!
Stav and Aldis are goated for doing this shit… remembering the callers and stuff? Damn.
Accept its over and move on..from one therapist to another 🙃
Im training to be a therapist and it makes me uneasy seeing people like this and thinking who are they giving advice to
Are we sure that's not Mindy Kaling? 😂
The fact she’s a therapist is so funny lmao. “Those are not evidence based” cracked me up.
She literally called in just to completely ignore and deny any actual help. This woman is self-destructive and I don’t blame the guy for ghosting her
lmaoooooo s/o my hometown Asheville. most gentrified place on earth.. I bet she lives off Haywood rd down the street from the voodoo ranger beer factory..
tell her to go find a Bbc in Shiloh..😂😂
0:16 the look lmao
Feelings are a part of being alive, Stavvy.
Good morning y’all
How does a therapist have such poor listening skills. Relationship attachment issues aside, she doesn't even take in and consider what Stav is saying
Suzi isn’t who you should be talking to. We need to hear the real reasons and truth from her ex. Talking to her is like running in a hamster wheel thinking you’re getting anywhere!!
I HAAVE to go to this event bc he invited me to coffee there
Y'all haven't talked in 6 months, but you think it would be difficult for your friends to navigate? Girl.