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Entrepreneurs in Cars . Superb videa. I'm 5 months into my divorce. 2 or 3 months to go. I decided to file for divorce but as in your 1st point. It was her who said she wasn't in love. Appreciate the videos. Really helping me through this tough time
Entrepreneurs in Cars it would be good to mention that women that are required to pay support when men get custody aren't held to near the standard men are. I have proof if you need it.
"Where Have All The Good Men Gone? They're Staying Clear Of Worthless Women" Have You Watched Some Of Her Vids? She Has 415,000 Views.. She's Using The "Cool Shades On While Driving" Platform Too!! She's Not A "Fan" Of The Stereotypical Woman Of Today... (At Least It Appears That Way) ;)
I'm living this nightmare now. Everything he speaks is the truth. Knowing what I know now, I would have never have been married and had a child. The ex will lie in court to ruin you despite having never done anything wrong. I'm paying 3x in support than what it cost to raise him. And still fighting in the courts to see my son. All this, DESPITE never doing anything wrong!!! It happens. I'm living proof.
The problem is the goverment know about these woman. It knows that these single moms with children and this mindset/behaviour will cause a lot of trouble AND costs. And the trick of the goverment is im mostly of the western coutries not to deal with these high costs! And to give an example ... in Germany back in the days there was law written like: who is responsible for the end of marriage. And it had big influence to the whole money part. cus if the wife was a whore and slept with another men during marriage - she got nothing! But the fun part was they changed the law and now we have the situation as Richard described. Cus now men pay for all this insane crazyness. Not the goverment pays for a single mom and the kid (lot of them) ... NO the men pay for it ... even if they are not responsible for her cheating. Thats so insane and woman abuse this. As Richard describes they can end marriage whenever they want and they dont have to behave in and normal way in the interest of the kid(s). Smart goverment saves billions ... and men nowadays dont wanna marry anymore for very good reasons. I understand that it is not so easy to tell who is resposible for the end of marriage but the actual situation is not the solution. It makes everything so bad that it changed society hardly. In my opinion we have to go back to the old system. We have to stop this feminism crazyness and everybody should be responsible for their actions / behaviours. A better system, a fair system and trust me the amount of divorces and cheatings would decrease in a very high number.
Hi bifford, I'm sorry you're going through that. I can't imagine the hell you're through. Liars and manipulative people need to just live on another planet. I hope everything goes good for you and your son eventually. I'm too scared to get married because I grew up in a crappy environment with my parents fighting all the time. I honestly would be happy if my boyfriend just came back to our house everyday after work and that's all I need. He comes back LOL. I'm not saying I'm rich but I made about 4 grand a month for an easy driving job and this guy is a huge loser I dated worked at a just bit minimum wage job.. He overlooked what I had in my bank account every week when I was checking my bank account one day. so he start kiss my ass saying he want to get married then suddenly the company closed down and I got a normal job like him and he left. What a coincidence right? Then my stupid ass got back together with him because he found out I would be in inheriting money from my father. He expect me to give him some at money for his business which is a joke. Band banners actually, they're cool but you don't make much revenue on. And coincidentally I caught him cheating after I told him he's not entitled to my money even if he marry me because we haven't been together that long and I didn't tell them this but I had a underlining feeling that he was up to something. So yeah, women get gold diggers to just not often as you guys do. I wish the best for you you sound like a good person
Lets Go This isn’t a roasting I don’t need to have a come back I’m just saying every women when their grown they probably wouldn’t want to Mary that’s my reason because you never know other women opinion yes I may be just a teenager and may not know much but some women don’t even like mentioning marriage so don’t try to assume things.
Dude seriously I use to wonder why men just kill off their wives but after seeing that, I can see why. 130K on something you had literally no control over will piss anyone off.
They are emotional thinkers, and the laws are this bad because they constantly voted to expand the size of the Government and the social programs that benefit only them.
Cardel Turner if you want to invest half your money into a woman than go ahead. Its your fault if the stock crashes in value and you lose your house. You have been warned.
Marriage is like a hurricane, in the beginning there’s always a lot of blowing and sucking going on… But in the end you always end up losing the house!
Because men are romantic, and believe in benevolence of women. That's how society tries to make us all think. If you are careful, you're often labeled as "cold" and "heartless". Society doesn't teach honesty, it teaches deceit and sadly rewards ones who cheat.
There's actually very interesting biology behind that. Men are visual creatures. Hence they generally only judge women based on their physical capabilities. They are easily manipulated by soft skin, soft voice, and obviously other "soft body parts". They get manipulated by their biology that they are the ones who is in control.
@Insidious Sid Another thing, if a Man actually wants to be in his childs life (which a lot of them do), then they should have 50/50 custody. There's absolutely no reason why a man should be on "child support" if he truly wants to be their for his children. Money isn't a replacement for having a father in life.
I understand, but we should also feel bad for them because each one is a horror story waiting to happen, and we as men NEED to get men to stop marrying and passing over resources to women, and thus deny them resources in the gender war.
@@curtislegall8324 I agree with you 100 percent. We need to deny women our time, money and attention. They started this gender war and all we need to do is walk away. Game over!!
Went for some drink with a friend. We got to the bar and there was an 65 yr old man. He asked me if i am married. I told him no. Better keep it that way son woman these days aren't worth it!
Good Day Mate I do too he's not the boss more beta simp to me she rarely says hi or to my bud an electrician it's a status thing for her I guess he's happy as long as he kisses her feet she was once very hot orthodontist I think he stays for the kids and cash benefits I think he's living a lie but oh well
There was a short time when I felt like "Oh my, friends are getting married, making babies, I am not.. what to do?", then... they started getting divorces, telling me stories/complaining about their marriages, some just began plain cheating, living a lie, some are same age as me, but already broken/fucked up from that stuff beyond repair, it's sad to witness... and I just... live worry free, making money, just enjoying the time I have here, life is good.
That's exactly where I'm at in life. What I wanted more than anything else (love/marriage/children) but never obtained ended up becoming the best blessing in life.
Any guy who is even flirting with the idea of marriage should watch this. It will save you from a whole bunch of headache and misery down the line. Great video as always!
Marriage is like putting your hand into a bag of snakes in the hope of pulling out an eel. -Leonardo da Vinci Married men live longer than single men. But married men are a lot more willing to die. -Johnny Carson A man in love is incomplete until he has married. Then he’s finished. -Zsa Zsa Gabor Funniest contradicting phrases: 1.Clearly misunderstood 2.Exact estimate 3.Small crowd 4.Act naturally 5.Found missing 6.Fully empty 7.Happily married
@@sunnysideup5826 Isn't that where the current term "Unicorn" came from?...{Especially in the U.S.} I have had 2 friends that do have theirs... but they are RARE...
@Captain RedPill Well now isn't that why the few good one's are called a "Unicorn"?....The sexual revolution of the late 60s/70s did destroy a lot for this country and I think you could say the "family unit" was the greatest destruction set upon our society by that time period...the one thing about modern woman is she no longer needs a man for protection {as was the case for centuries} however, it appears that our society may be getting dangerous enough in the future to turn that around...
I ended a possible "relationship" after just the first "date" after i witnessed her parking in the handicap space just to run into the store for a minute. That action alone told me everyrhing i ever needed to know about her!
@Joy Ellen If only female comedians just went on stage and casually spoke their mind like Joy here. Then no one would ever say women aren't funny, because they'd be too busy laughing to even try.
This doesn't occasionally break a chance with a guy but if he's annoying enough this is the last straw, when somebody brings him a plate of food and they dump salt all over it before even tasting it, then they complain how it's too salty. I actually dated someone who did this all the time to my cooking and I would literally make chili for hours, soups, whatever. I like to cook, and I do that after a whole day of working 10 hours and cleaning my own house. Sorry I'm kind of ranting here LOL
A woman wants a wedding, and the security that a husband provides...and the guarantee of cash and prizes if he is unwilling to submit and put her happiness above his own. A man has absolutely nothing to gain from marriage, it is all risk and a diminishing asset that becomes less infrequent until the only thing she had to offer you you were interested in becomes a memory of better days... Now for those men who do not enjoy sex and like to be a punching bag...marriage is right up your alley! What blows my mind are the guys who marry more than once...how do you escape a prison only to knock on the door of another prison and ask the warden if you can serve some time there!?
TheEgalitarianFemale ////// technically, MORTGAGE is the Law French term used in Britain in the Middle Ages meaning "death pledge" .. facts. im just saying, maybe marriage should include “death” in the name too so that we can settle this once and for all, and continue fapping to reddit threads and amateur porn.
After 8 years of marriage, I initiated my divorce. The last 3 years of marriage it became a intimacy/sexless marriage. I was patient.... gave her 3 years without sex to figure out, discuss with therapist, marriage counselors, ect... to work with me to fix the intimacy problems. After 3 years I just told her I have no use for a sexless marriage.
My best advice to all the other men out there is: Never get married! If you decide to live with a woman, share the expenses, at least as much as possible. Don't support someone who would never support you! What is yours, keep it that way. What's hers is hers. I don't just mean material possessions, but bank accounts as well! Never trust a woman 100%, ever. I've kept faithful to these rules to this day, and so far so good.
@@tekorepoka8033 then you should pay for the divorced fathers, and he’s right share the expenses, that’s the best thing to do, so no one will get destroyed. If you’re against it then you have some hidden harmful agenda
Look. Most marriages are not a two way street. You never know who you marry. Separate EVERYTHING is a good marriage. Yes, even bedrooms/bathrooms. The idea is seperate but together. 👍
My divorce AFTER 18 faithful years cost me the following: - half of my pension - half of my 401k - half of my monthly income from a six figure salry job - my health due to working shkftwork and overtime to provide for her and the kids - time with my kids as they were growing up... see above - my ability to retire... at 4i i cant possibly save enough - my ability to be a father to my children since i dont get to see them much - my house... sbe wouldnt work or even try to work or take classes to improve her employment options. No amount of overtime was enough to pay our mortgage and we lost our house in 2010 - my balls... i got a vasectomy so she didnt need the pill that was causing her migraines In the end, i was a chump and gave my life to a shitty and selfish person. My fault. I will never ever get married again and im telling my son the same thing.
CJ Majesty the system works exactly how it was intended to. Break up the family unit because when that happens the powers that be can get away with anything because us fathers are too busy just trying to see our kids to keep the rest of society in check!
Marriage is to build a futute together hopefully in love. Praps you married the wrong person. Most girls want the fairy tale. They do not start out to deceive so something changed her praps. Show appreciation for each other may help stay in love.
Yea every girl is up for marriage the problem is STAYING married. Marriages now days are up until the women become dissatisfied or find a better man. The laws are in favor of this, men are disposable and the only alternative we have to win is just not playing the game.
This is easily the most productive 16 and a half minutes that I have spent on UA-cam, thank you Richard for saving me a ton of heartbreak, time and money,...peace from Australia.
20+ years and 3 kids later she grew restless Wanted the kids and the support and the visitation Our oldest son 13 at the time told her NO WAY I’m staying with dad When our younger son turned 14 he came with me She turned to drugs and I got my daughter at 12 Moms mostly am embarrassment for the kids now She’s heading for a nervous breakdown Couldn’t happen to a nicer person
I only dated 2 women last year. The first one manipulated me and showed her ex being mean to her.... She did that to him ALL the time. CALLED THE COPS... about every other week. When she realized i was no chump she started doing the same to me as far as setting me up to be ANGRY AND making it look like I was a psycho. Even though I literally never got mad, she made it look like I was mad. Saying things like"why are you upset" in front of people. She had done the same with her ex to get me to think he was psycho. ... Literally I asked her for ONE kiss at her house during a party, and two guys ran up and asked her if she was "OK," one of them was in a biker gang. (Two weeks earlier she had been asking me to live at her house, which I basically was living there!!!!! I said no, and then SHE WENT psycho and started all this crap). I left the party and blocked her, erased her and I only remember her to tell the story.... Half of all women these days HATE MEN and are EVIL.
Marriage is similar to an employee working for a manager. Being a bachelor is similar to having your own business. Why would you go from having your own business to working for someone.
I'm 52 years old. I've never been married,and I have no children. I can genuinely and honestly say that I cannot see myself any happier than I am now,if I were married. ✌
Bad analogy. Gravity will 100% make you fall. Marriage divorce rates are influenced by so many things. For example, if 50% of sky diving resulted in death, you have to ask yourself why? If there's something in particular about sky diving that makes the chances of dying so high then you know what to do to avoid the high chances.
Ahem, lemme quote someone: "I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone." - Need I say more?
wth divorce u'll end up alone anyway so why bother ? but i still wnt kids , here what i think , i go to another 3Th world country choose a woman to carry one my offspring and i pay her so that i could go with rhe children 2 years later i do it again with another women , the only danger is that , they surely gonna try to make me fall in love with them damn , may be just surrogatory like christiano , you know guys childrens are the only love that is real the only that matter at the end of the day , but i would waste that if it means handing my faith to a woman by marriage in the western world
I don't know about you guys, but I love being alone. I can read, listen to music, play games and do whatever the fuck I want stress free. If I want company, there are always my friends waiting to go out, eat good food and talk shit. For the ones in this comment section warning us about going home to and empty house, let me ask you this: what if you don't even have a house anymore, before your unhappy wife took it from you in the divorce?
From watching some friends getting divorced over the years it's always the woman who loses out in the end in regards to wanting more control and custody over the children I've noticed how the children always end up resenting the mother and leaning towards the father at the end of the day. Not all women but the children can see the mother trying to be conniving and deceiving the father just normally tends to be humble and wants fair custody of the kids it just seems to be a big power trip for the woman to hurt the father through the children
simon hendriks true, I resent my mother because of custody. And my parents divorce is also why I refuse to marry or have kids, which makes my mom hate me more... Funny how that works...
I know guys that stay with women and end up in trouble for the dumbest reasons. They stay with a woman that's hot and the sex is amazing, but the guy is plainly being used, or he's blinded by the beauty and sex, but the obvious signs to leave her are in plain sight. If you don't take time to date, converse, spend time and REALLY get to know the woman, and if she's on the same page as you in life and you get a really good feeling with her, she's a keeper. Look out for the red flags and intelligently determine whether it is something severe or something that can be worked with. Not every woman out there is horrible. Be smart, get to know the woman. Women aren't perfect and us men aren't either.
I have a friend who is quickly coming to terms that her life is screwed up because she has repeated all the same mistakes of her own mother. Her mother left her dad when she was young (her mom just got bored one day and gave up on the marriage). A couple years ago, my friend left her own husband over petty problems. I ask her sometimes how she's going to prevent her daughter from making the mistakes of her mother and grandmother.
Best bet is to just have a long-term relationship with someone who doesn't want kids or marriage. They are out there, just have to look. Unfortunately, many of the women who don't want kids or marriage aren't attractive or have some major behavioral issue that limits their choices to begin with!
As a woman something doesn’t sit right with me. Don’t get me wrong, I love the fact that men are taught more and more these days to pursue their purpose but what does that mean for women that want to build a family? If all these men are on their purpose what does that mean for the women that feel that raising a family IS part of their purpose? There’s no way I could keep pursuing my purpose and up until my late 30’s without feeling like it would be better with a partner by my side. So logically , if men are settling much later these days ... that means women will also have to settle later too right?
@@pinktrutle1490 that means that women like you who feel that family is part of their purpose is very rare therefore it's less likely to find people like you , especially females . I'm pretty young and i was taught as a man that marriage is one of the best moments in life but unfortunately after taking the red pill, i don't see it that way at all . Women can't settle too late though because the older you are to have a baby , the more likely he or she would be born retarded or handicapped
I always cringe to myself when I hear my married friend say shit like "happy wife, happy life" (he's actually quite miserable, is a borderline alcoholic and purposely works extra overtime to be away from his unappreciative, abusive, she-demon wife) like c'mon man at least pretend like your wife doesn't keep your balls in her purse. Like the old saying goes "wise people learn from the mistakes of others while fools learn from their own".
johnpetrius28 Petrius I'm doing better now been Mgtow for 1 year and I love having my own place. I'm just hooking up with random women now. That's my type of life style. I don't hate women either I'm just educated on there nature.
that's the problem with marriage! they want the divorce when you already have kids! so they can screw you with the exorbitant child support that these bitches will use not for the kids of course! but to buy stupid designer bag and clothes and shit. Oh and if you have a house.. say bye bye cuz now the house is for the children and mommy! and you get the fuck out u__u
@@theshapeexists Did he killed anyone on those situations??? He was trying to prove something and you didn't absorb the main idea... When the chips are down EVERYBODY is in it for themselves! No time for humanity or civil behavior! When the opportunity arises... EVERYONE turns into an animal! There are some exceptions of course... But for the most part... No there isn't! It's like.... If you find a briefcase with a billion dollars would you give it to people or take it all for yourself?? Even if you gave it all to other people that would be considered somewhat crazy! The thing is, since it was a movie and nothing REAL was on the line... They had the luxury to make Joker look like a villain and it had an happy ending. That's stupid Hollywood - you can't make movies where everybody dies and show the dark nasty nature of people. That would be horrible. Oh, there's also another thing... For the smarty pants... When you shine these facts in the face of people they will ALWAYS chose the right thing. But if no one is watching, they'll do the wrong thing for sure! Out of sight, out of mind kind of thing. It's a mask, it will always be a mask...
I was the kind of guy who dreamed to marry... And always heard from other dudes I was better single... And usually I thought "nha... With me will be different..." Now I am going through a divorce... 😐 And thinking... "dang.."
I'm 24 and i've seen enough in relationships and in your vids, to know that long term you can't trust women enough to bet half your money and goods on it. Still want to have a real relationship, but i'm never signing for marriage. Thanks for the video, very enlighting !
So fortunate to have worked in a courthouse in my early 20's. I remember making a promise to myself to never put myself in a situation of vulnerability towards women (children, marriage, living together). I'm 44 now, it has served me so well particularly when I look at devasted guys around me. So sad.
Fuckin A. I just ended a relationship today. She wanted marriage. I was so unsure going into it. I loved her and could’ve been a good life partner. Short term pain will be better than the pain and devastation of divorce and being obligated to pay for her future lifestyle and child support.
@Gray Kin I disagree, guys who marry up are very smart in this materialistic dating world today... The better looking the woman when this happens, the higher the points.... It almost always means the women truly loves you... Even if it's just mainly for your looks, It's a a big win for a man imo
@@michaelangst6078 Destinty is correct. I "married" twice and in both cases, I quickly became the default server. The wives do what they please, I deal with what they don't or won't. Quick tale: This week the wife made arrangements to pick up her girlfriends and play cards. She left and 3 minutes later she came through the front door and told me the van had a flat tire. The problem instantly became mine to deal with. I am appreciated to the extent of my utility. Between wives, I dated a widow (early 40's)and we got fine and I treated her well. There was but one problem, she was financially irresponsible and when she realized I was not handing her a credit card or adding her name to my checking account she disappeared. Chuckle
@@ianremsburg613 All women aren't bad, but most now seem to really take advantage of the dating game.and want to rely on a man to ''save them'. I have been happy having open relationships and splitting the bills 50/50.. That's all fucked up now because of Corona though..a couple have shown their true colors, but if I haven't invested any money, there is no pain... Don't know why so many men still fail to realize spending money on women is the worst thing to do in most cases
Point 5 (Desire tanks in women much faster than men), my guess for this is that a lot of women are like spoiled children and spoiled children get bored easily.
If you don't wish to have children, absolutely do it. I did, at 27. People thought I was doing it too early but I knew kids were never in the cards for me, and the last thing I wanted was to be with a woman and have birth control fail (or have her "forget" to take the pill) and end up tied to a child and a woman I may not wish to be with for the rest of my life. Don't trust a woman to take care of birth control. If you don't want kids, take control into your own hands. It's a simple surgery, about 10 minutes, very little discomfort, and many insurance plans cover it completely. Then after a month to clear the pipes, have fun without any worry.
People dont seem to comprehend one very important fact in marriage. A girl only stands to gain from marriage, and the guy only stands to lose. Thats it! There is no other possible scenario, this is the only outcome that will occur.
@@socalstreets Not for very long, and she went off and raised the kids as a single mom, venerated by the French and British for generations. Last credible story I read of his fate was he was secretly packed off to a distant commune where they tried to heal his wounds but he died of complications anyway.
Love your videos. People very seldom question "The Script." Meet a girl, fall in love, get a job that eventually pays well but makes you miserable, have kids, buy a bigger house, count the days until retirement then spend your final years telling stories about your bratty grand kids and taking trips to Florida. Question the script gentleman. Find out who YOU are and what makes YOU happy. I know a lot of 'successful' people and very few of them are truly and genuinely happy.
Women have the power on who she dates, but men have the power on who he marries. This is men's one and only last card to play with. Don't ever lose it.
Marriage & Children Solutions: 1.) Have a small private ceremony but don’t sign a marriage license. 2.) Develop a marriage agreement and have it notarized by both parties with help of a lawyer (this is in line with our constitutional rights). *Depending on the violation, the marriage ends. 3.) Only have a child if the state has a default shared custody law. 4.) Be self employed and strategically show an operating loss every 2-3 years and store most of money in “non-banks” like bitcoin and cash deposit boxes that can’t be traced. These solutions will help to avoid the division of assets, alimony, and lawyer fee reimbursement of traditional divorce. The child support can be minimized as long as the state law supports 50/50 custody to two responsible parents.
I m 23 years old and i have a few mates getting married, i tell them dont rush it. Dosent mean you been dating for 3 years mean you gotta get married. But sadly they don't listen 😞 i just hope it works out
Agree 100%. Going through divorce as we speak. We agreed to custody 50/50, money 50/50. Two days before I was supposed to move out she called police and said I assaulted her. So they kicked me out of my house. Two days later county sheriffs showed up at my door and handed me order of protection papers which included my kids. So 4 days prior I was good enough father to have them 50% of the time but now I’m a monster. Women make decisions based on emotions. Stay away. Don’t get married.
Dude. Yeah. I feel you there. Got that PO myself. Total garbage. Ex parte. No hearing for 1.5 years for me. That violates due process. Supposed to be 30 days. Right….
Child support equals 60 hour work weeks and almost 0 time with the children. The child support system loves your money but the children suffer from lack of parental involvement. The whole system is screwed up.
I remember wondering why people would hold so many negative views towards women when I was young growing up. Now being an adult and seeing guys in marriages, I finally understand why a lot of them think that way.
Today, the discussion of marriage came up at my workplace during lunch and the women in our group were shocked an appalled that as a forty year old man I had never been married and never had kids. "Why not?" they asked, to which I replied, "Why would I want marriage or kids?" They had no answer. These women don't understand that not everyone wants the package deal due to the hassle, expense and risk involved. I was literally being chastised by these women because I didn't buy into societal expectations. This is the world we're living in guys. Women expect this shit.
oh Ive had these same discussions and interactions from former female classmates and colleagues and exs ...they just don't fkn get it and are so narrow minded in their BS expectations
Im a bit confused. You said that you refused to move in with him and were trying to buy your own home. Then you mention that you never claimed his house as yours though you helped furnish and build his house. So were the two of you living in different locations/ residences? And then moved in together And, all that aside..What happened after you discovered that he got some 18yr old pregnant? Were the two of you living in the same house then? Married? It's an interesting story that's why I ask.
That's definitely one of the greatest challenges when going through deep personal soul crushing struggle. The saying "become better, not bitter" is a good one..but there is a large divergence between "in theory" and "in practice". Easier said than done. But I definitely admire that you are cognizant/ self-aware to notice the bitter-better conundrum. I had to use my maternal grandmother as an example to never ever embrace bitterness. She had some awful experiences in life, but drowned them in Alcohol from the age of 35 to her death at the age of 86. ( died from cancer) She embraced bitterness towards certain people and events..and embraced alcohol as self medication. She held on to that bitterness up the day before her death. On my mother's last visit to see her in the nursing home, she, (my mom), said the she noticed that she, (my grandmother), was finally coming to peace and letting that bitterness, resentment and hatred go. It's a shame though..that she essentially wasted her life and embraced toxic thinking, ,behavior and coping mechanisms instead of getting help and being open to finding help. I wish you the absolute best in growing through this...and reaching a positive place some point in the future. Sincerely, -Chris
@Ainka Ryan Can I add something which is I feel discouraged to help you with how women are these days. I would be scared to help you cause so many women might misuse me.
Love your advise. It's good solid talk. I have been married for 29 years. I think it has been worth it, but IT'S VERY DIFFICULT TO KEEP IT TOGETHER. I tell my son to avoid women from Western cultures. Western women are more spoiled, aggressive, discontented, and poisoned by the toxic form of feminism. We have relatives in Africa who are going to help him find a good African woman. Also, I had a great woman from Haiti before I was married.
Dude... Am from Kenya... It doesn't get more African than that... Women here are just the same... Woman's nature is the same everywhere... Our customs have been diluted by social media and all that... Trust me... Its the same here
You do have to be careful about the culture of the West being transported through the mass media which has been taken to another level through the internet. Information travels....and so does toxic feminism. So whether it is here in the West or in a more traditional land; vetting needs to still be quite deep. Perhaps years ago before the information age...being in a traditional land and culture would have almost been all the vetting you needed...but not in today's times. Check for a woman who has grown up in deeply spiritual and religious household where live out the truth about God esteeming marriage and hating divorce. Someone who really gets the mind of Christ when it comes to marriage. Otherwise, if you get married the post-modern secular way and everything that comes with; everything will be on shifting sands instead of the solid Rock of Christ. And make sure the woman is truly Christian in substance and spirit...NOT Christian in name only yet post-modern-anything-goes-secular-in-substance....such women are at high risk to betray the marriage bond just like any other secular woman.
I'm a lady from South Africa 🌻🌞🌈🦄🇿🇦 everything that is being said here is so true. It's very sad that women are trying so hard to be men it's like an endless competition most have lost that feminine thing that makes us great women and its only getting worse.
My first marriage was a disaster. I was 24 and was given the ultimatum. She morphed into a feminist monster over our 14 years together and I left her at the cost of $250k (worth every penny). I then dated for 7 years, had fun, and focused on making the most of my second chance. Met a great gal who has a great career, will retire in 2 years financially set for life, treats me like gold, has the same goals I do, busts her ass with me remodeling my house, takes pride in herself, always looks great, has similar hobbies, and is just a genuine person. She offered that we get married before she retires so I can share her retirement benefits like healthcare for life. When I told her I wasn’t interested in ever getting married again due to the potential of another alimony judgment, she wholeheartedly offered to sign a prenup agreement. So that’s what we’re doing and there’s no risk on my end to lose like I did the first time around. There are still a few selfless women left out there. But they’re as rare as hen’s teeth. Don’t ever settle for a gal who isn’t worth investing your time and money into.
@@joederocco9321 we actually listed line by line the items that were hers to remain hers and mine to remain mine in the prenup. Anything after marriage was to be considered community property.
This is one of the reasons why I have a tough time rationalizing attending, or being a part of wedding/engagement parties. Though I do want to support my brothas, if they decide to go this route, I end up questioning their life choices and/or sanity and whether or not a true friend should/would support them at all...
I had this same thought recently as i was attending my best friend's wedding a few weeks ago. My thoughts were "Your insane" however I also thought "Your my best friend and i support your decision even if I dont agree with it, Its your life" . All you can do in these cases is show support and be there for your friend if the shit hits the fan in the future for him. When a guy is "In love" and feels "shes the one" theres nothing you can really say to change his mind. Ive been there and so have many of my other friends. when your into a girl, You dont care what anyone else says because you "know" shes not like that lol. Until you get burned, Thats when the life lesson starts and its a painful one but we all have to learn some day.
Ray I was there 3 weeks ago. I was a groomsman for a good friend of mine. Although the ceremony and the party were great, I couldn't help but cringe at what he had just done. It didn't feel right to be encouraging..
I'm just trying to understand the end game. Do we just date woman after woman until we're too old for any woman to want us? Just live with a woman and not be married, but then it's considered common-law (pretty much the same as marriage) I'm just trying to understand all this
I just stumbled on this vid. I’m 52 I’ve been divorced for 16 years now. You articulate what I am thinking perfectly! Thanks! I realized I didn’t want to have a family with my wife at the time who by the way I was seven years older than me and I filed for divorce at 35 years old. She was 42. I only know of one couple that divorced and they both agreed no child support. They both said when the kids are with me they have what they need.! Very rare case! Fortunately for me, Common law no longer exists in Vermont and I had no alimony payments because I was married for less than 15 years. I feel I dodged a huge bullet! Thanks again for the great content!
Sage and practical advice. My heart just aches for all the good guys out there that get shafted. I have been binge-watching your content and you are pretty on it. Keep up the great and needed work.
I have been thru the divorce mill. I agree with everything you say! I have a 20 year-old son so what do I advise him? What makes absolute sense to me doesn't seem to register with him. He thinks that love is everything. I am afraid he will have to learn the hard way!
Please explain to me why i ought to allow family law into my life in order to procreate? If I have kids, its out of wedlock. Dont need the state to make me faithful. Lord knows it doesnt make women faithful.
I have been married for 40 yrs.. I would say it is happy and successful. There were certainly times when it was less than happy for short periods. Those times were due to boredom or to slights real or imagined that were taken personally. When things went off track we would talk about it and fix it but realize that it would eventually go off track again. Our relationship was just something that needed to be tuned up and tweaked from time to time. As the years went by those times of contention became fewer and fewer largely because we truly believed in our hearts that we wanted the best for each other. There were high stress times like when parents were elderly and ill or when the kids were having trouble. We saw each of us step up and put our needs aside and support one another. At this point I have no doubt she would sacrifice herself for me and me for her. I can't imagine life without her. The kids are grown, gone, successful and come by often. We have a couple of grand kids who are our joy. We are pretty much dating each other again. We ride our Harley with a group of couples of similar age and travel all over. We have a lot of fun together and always have. It's a good life.
I'm glad you are one of few who in the world who has a happy and healthy marriage. I sometimes come across couples who have been married a long time. I've met one couple that was out celebrating their 35th wedding anniversary, the other 44 years and still going strong. Congratulations man! Both genders have trouble finding what you have.
I'm a young family lawyer from Montreal, Canada and I think it is important to point out (at least here in Canada) that children are equals before the law, meaning that either if they are born issued from a marriage or from cohabiting parents, they have the same rights i.e a man that gets divorce or just a separation will STILL pay child support for his children. At this point the advice would be to not have children or carefully choose the mother of your children. And I can testify for having seeing it first hand that women do have the advantage in the family court rooms.. And I have seen ugly things in my short career so far. So much so that I started to hate women for what they do. They do not care about their children, they make irresponsible decisions, they are bitter and most of the time become miserable. On the other hand, I have seen so much injustice from the files where my client is the father. They just really want to be there for their children.. I am still too young a lawyer (less than five years of practice) and I need to build more experience but I've been thinking, when I get to choose my files I plan on ONLY take those of fathers fighting against the family system. I know it's going to be long before we see a real change overall but that's the little part I can do from the skills I have.
Lovely //////// thanks for the insight. I wish there were more marriage/divorce lawyers who can share what they notice in the process. i feel like they have all the answers to our burning questions. Keep fighting the good fight!
I know guys that stay with women and end up in trouble for the dumbest reasons. They stay with a woman that's hot and the sex is amazing, but the guy is plainly being used, or he's blinded by the beauty and sex, but the obvious signs to leave her are in plain sight. If you don't take time to date, converse, spend time and REALLY get to know the woman, and if she's on the same page as you in life and you get a really good feeling with her, she's a keeper. Look out for the red flags and intelligently determine whether it is something severe or something that can be worked with. Not every woman out there is horrible. Be smart, get to know the woman. Women aren't perfect and us men aren't either.
Very educational. Most of the things you've said are accurate. Especially about women with disorders. I keep thinking of those uncompassionate, narcissistic women in desperate pursuit of a "high society" man as I'd like to call them. I've seen it happen many times, to friends and family members. Truly sad, if not pathetic. That's also why I want to remain single, happier too. Why imprison yourself in this old fashion constitution? Am a woman in my 30s, also an Early Childhood Educator (PreSchool Teacher)
Makes total sense. Great vid! Totally true when you marry you essentially invite the government into your home. Shortly after I married my wife I could not sell MY HOUSE that I owned for many years before knowing my wife until SHE signed off on the real estate papers because of some ridiculous 50 year old state law where I live!!
As a man who has been through a divorce (not my idea) I can tell you, if you're a young man thinking of getting married, remember what Rich said about inviting the government to decide what happens to you when you're wife wants out. In most cases, you are better off staying single.
I love Women, I Love their softness and their submissiveness in the bedroom however I have been cheated on really bad in the past that left me extremely depressed and thought what suicide would be like for the first time in my life. That was about 7 years ago. With that said, I will remain a bachelor quite possibly the rest of my life. I can easily get with many Women however to actually stay in a relationship with them, Eh.... I really avoid that now and I'm upfront about it to Women I'm with but many of them are cool with it. Anyways, Overall i find it fascinating that Men across the world are describing the same problems in their Marriage which leads me to say that the warnings are definitely real and highly advisable. It's just too dangerous. I have a business that I'm pretty successful with and many of my decisions are based on Risk/Reward ratios. If Marriage was a stock, lets just say I definitely wouldn't be buying it lol
I only date pale submissive women, but they always come with a price. Nothing about women is free. They are a temptation for sure, but getting married and/or having kids is out of the question. Spending time with them and sex-based relationships are where it's at.
@@manynumeritos my ex was always super submissive. Even told me she liked it when I told her what to do in the bedroom and out. Some women are just better made to please men I guess.
I’m the 4th wife to my husband, who believe it or not is a great man who has a past of poor judgement in character. He’s an example of someone who matured later in life and I’m honestly lucky to have him. Despite that, I’ll be sure to warn my son to not make the same mistakes his father made. DON’T rush into marriage just because you think you’re in love. DON’T marry a woman who is either divorced, has kids or both. And DON’T have sex with just any woman. Being on the hook for child support without the benefit of a real relationship with your kids isn’t worth it. I’ve seen all of this blended family mess from the divorced man’s perspective and I’d be terrified of women if I was one.
During my sister's wedding, my grandfather was called to give advice about long term marriage, he uttered the greatest quote, that to this day I will never forget, he said this " Marriage is all about give and take, I give and she takes." That was the one time he got back at the completely hateful and entitled B!T@# that my grandmother is, she ran him through the dirt every day he was alive.
This is true. Been married 7 years now and I’m unhappy and miserable because she doesn’t respect my headship 100%. Listening to her and trying be an loving husband, I gave in to her needs/wants and always put what I wanted to the side. And it finally hit me, that I’m not happy. I just wanna be stress free and relax in peace. Now that I’m trying to leave now she says shell let me be the head from now on. I love her but I can’t do this anymore.
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Entrepreneurs in Cars . Superb videa. I'm 5 months into my divorce. 2 or 3 months to go. I decided to file for divorce but as in your 1st point. It was her who said she wasn't in love. Appreciate the videos. Really helping me through this tough time
Entrepreneurs in Cars it would be good to mention that women that are required to pay support when men get custody aren't held to near the standard men are. I have proof if you need it.
Joe Jones which is a rear 9 out or 10 times the courts side with women!
"Where Have All The Good Men Gone? They're Staying Clear Of Worthless Women"
Have You Watched Some Of Her Vids? She Has 415,000 Views..
She's Using The "Cool Shades On While Driving" Platform Too!!
She's Not A "Fan" Of The Stereotypical Woman Of Today... (At Least It Appears That Way) ;)
I was so close to contacting the ex but didn't thanks to these vids I didn't.
Women cry at weddings. Men cry after weddings.
schallrd1 roflmao 🤣
@xc5647321 xc5647321 for the wife, and for the husband its the most expensive lol
Before I got married I felt incomplete. After I got married I felt like I was finished.
Lol
Lol true
This is all i'am going to say:
There is a reason why clothing in marriages and funerals are the same.
Felipe Doege that's one of the best quotes i have ever heard.
Only 13 likes....what!
Amen
Don't forget about all the flowers.
Funerals are cheaper tho... :-D
I'm living this nightmare now. Everything he speaks is the truth. Knowing what I know now, I would have never have been married and had a child. The ex will lie in court to ruin you despite having never done anything wrong. I'm paying 3x in support than what it cost to raise him. And still fighting in the courts to see my son. All this, DESPITE never doing anything wrong!!! It happens. I'm living proof.
Shitty story, but thx for sharing your experience. Time will make things a bit better.
Ex’s are the worst at least with regular relationships you don’t have to see them again but marriage holy shit ur fuked
The problem is the goverment know about these woman. It knows that these single moms with children and this mindset/behaviour will cause a lot of trouble AND costs. And the trick of the goverment is im mostly of the western coutries not to deal with these high costs! And to give an example ... in Germany back in the days there was law written like: who is responsible for the end of marriage. And it had big influence to the whole money part. cus if the wife was a whore and slept with another men during marriage - she got nothing! But the fun part was they changed the law and now we have the situation as Richard described. Cus now men pay for all this insane crazyness. Not the goverment pays for a single mom and the kid (lot of them) ... NO the men pay for it ... even if they are not responsible for her cheating. Thats so insane and woman abuse this. As Richard describes they can end marriage whenever they want and they dont have to behave in and normal way in the interest of the kid(s). Smart goverment saves billions ... and men nowadays dont wanna marry anymore for very good reasons. I understand that it is not so easy to tell who is resposible for the end of marriage but the actual situation is not the solution. It makes everything so bad that it changed society hardly. In my opinion we have to go back to the old system. We have to stop this feminism crazyness and everybody should be responsible for their actions / behaviours. A better system, a fair system and trust me the amount of divorces and cheatings would decrease in a very high number.
I've seen your experience from the son's perspective, my mom fucked dad's life reaaaally hard and used us as trade coin.
Hi bifford, I'm sorry you're going through that. I can't imagine the hell you're through. Liars and manipulative people need to just live on another planet. I hope everything goes good for you and your son eventually. I'm too scared to get married because I grew up in a crappy environment with my parents fighting all the time. I honestly would be happy if my boyfriend just came back to our house everyday after work and that's all I need. He comes back LOL. I'm not saying I'm rich but I made about 4 grand a month for an easy driving job and this guy is a huge loser I dated worked at a just bit minimum wage job.. He overlooked what I had in my bank account every week when I was checking my bank account one day. so he start kiss my ass saying he want to get married then suddenly the company closed down and I got a normal job like him and he left. What a coincidence right? Then my stupid ass got back together with him because he found out I would be in inheriting money from my father. He expect me to give him some at money for his business which is a joke. Band banners actually, they're cool but you don't make much revenue on. And coincidentally I caught him cheating after I told him he's not entitled to my money even if he marry me because we haven't been together that long and I didn't tell them this but I had a underlining feeling that he was up to something. So yeah, women get gold diggers to just not often as you guys do. I wish the best for you you sound like a good person
Is marriage worth it? HELL YES!!!
... if you're a woman.
Some women's
Lets Go nope you never know other ppl opinions on marriage
Lets Go Guess what
Lets Go Good to know I didn’t ask for that.
Lets Go This isn’t a roasting I don’t need to have a come back I’m just saying every women when their grown they probably wouldn’t want to Mary that’s my reason because you never know other women opinion yes I may be just a teenager and may not know much but some women don’t even like mentioning marriage so don’t try to assume things.
My marriage cost about $1500 to enter (tux and wedding band) and $130K to end (divorce and custody battle). You do the math...
Dude seriously I use to wonder why men just kill off their wives but after seeing that, I can see why. 130K on something you had literally no control over will piss anyone off.
My cost 100,maybe free to divorce
@chris burger are you serious man??? $130k?? Shit... Money spent on attorneys, and what other things? Hope to hear from you man
Dam.
Jesus christ, your making terrified of getting married.
Instead of getting married, cut out all the pain and heartache and buy a house for someone you hate.
Hahahahahahah!!!! Fuck that's good!!!
Hahahaha nice one
your dad hey dad don’t hate, it’s just another opinion lmao 😂
DarkiPoker yes it is a good one ☝️😘
😂 lol
Rich you are an absolute legend. Your videos are invaluable. I'm 30, already been married, and divorced. Never again!
Mark S right there with ya, 9 years and two kids, Rich is right on with this knowledge. Facts are hard for women to understand for some reason.
They are emotional thinkers, and the laws are this bad because they constantly voted to expand the size of the Government and the social programs that benefit only them.
Mark S what happened?
Same here I will never marry again. It’s a BAD business model. Women left traditionalism 40+ years ago.
Tits and vaginas are the bait....the lure. Learn how to dissconnect from it.
If you're male: NO. It is not a good idea to get married. I just saved you 16 and a half minutes.
All of this is bullshit!
Cardel Turner if you want to invest half your money into a woman than go ahead. Its your fault if the stock crashes in value and you lose your house. You have been warned.
Yes, all young men stay away from. Marriages. Believe me you will never get old and enjoy every day of life.
haha
Marriage is like a hurricane, in the beginning there’s always a lot of blowing and sucking going on… But in the end you always end up losing the house!
Lmao Good one dude! 👍
😂😂lol
Gold 😂 ... and true 🇦🇺👍🏽
Brilliant 😂
LOL
In todays society why would any man in his right mind still sign a contract with someone who benifits from breaking it..
Because men are romantic, and believe in benevolence of women. That's how society tries to make us all think. If you are careful, you're often labeled as "cold" and "heartless". Society doesn't teach honesty, it teaches deceit and sadly rewards ones who cheat.
@@TheSeth256 And social media only made things worse..
well said!
There's actually very interesting biology behind that. Men are visual creatures. Hence they generally only judge women based on their physical capabilities.
They are easily manipulated by soft skin, soft voice, and obviously other "soft body parts". They get manipulated by their biology that they are the ones who is in control.
@@justinacase2623 🤷♀️
Short answer: No.
Long answer:
NOoOOOOOOOOOOOOOOooooooooooo.......
yes but I am a Codependent Person and I completely Lack the ability to give myself Goals and Tasks to do,
so I cannot Sustain any Kind of Business
@dig duck *repeatedly slams the table* NEIN NEIN NEIN NEIN
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LOOOOL
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Oh yeah and my dad was paying THOUSANDS in child support each month even though my mom made plenty of money. She just spent it irresponsibly.
@Insidious Sid The most financially capable parent should hold the custody, of course most of them are men so it goes to them.
My money is my money your money is my money is what a women thinks
@Insidious Sid Another thing, if a Man actually wants to be in his childs life (which a lot of them do), then they should have 50/50 custody. There's absolutely no reason why a man should be on "child support" if he truly wants to be their for his children. Money isn't a replacement for having a father in life.
You smart
thanks for that
When I see other dudes getting married I just breathe a sigh of relief that it's not me.
I understand, but we should also feel bad for them because each one is a horror story waiting to happen, and we as men NEED to get men to stop marrying and passing over resources to women, and thus deny them resources in the gender war.
@@curtislegall8324 I agree with you 100 percent. We need to deny women our time, money and attention. They started this gender war and all we need to do is walk away. Game over!!
And my sister is getting married soon and I feel bad for the guy
Instead of saying 'congratulations,' I now ask, 'Why?'
@@shadowwolf2918 is she married now
Went for some drink with a friend. We got to the bar and there was an 65 yr old man. He asked me if i am married. I told him no. Better keep it that way son woman these days aren't worth it!
I'm in my mid 50's and see the look of defeat in some of my male married friends and when asked why I never married I just grin.
Clearly, you've benefited from the power of simple observation
@@hogant.551 Yeah.. Hookers are always there they are so beautiful and can be used for sex only :D
Surfallday did you have kids?
@George Duffy what?! are you effin' stupid?
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marriage is a workshop! you work she shops!
I have married friends with wives that have great jobs and work hard. They're building a great future together.
Good Day Mate I do too he's not the boss more beta simp to me she rarely says hi or to my bud an electrician it's a status thing for her I guess he's happy as long as he kisses her feet she was once very hot orthodontist I think he stays for the kids and cash benefits
I think he's living a lie but oh well
oh my god loool
That's great...but she better work or back down
ROTFL!!! Rolling on the floor...laughing!
There was a short time when I felt like "Oh my, friends are getting married, making babies, I am not.. what to do?", then... they started getting divorces, telling me stories/complaining about their marriages, some just began plain cheating, living a lie, some are same age as me, but already broken/fucked up from that stuff beyond repair, it's sad to witness... and I just... live worry free, making money, just enjoying the time I have here, life is good.
People just encourage others to marry because in the back of their mind they are scared that the single person may actually lead a better life.
@@azzaman171 They don't live a better life if they mentally need companionship. Most men think they need that and will never admit it.
Thank your friends
Story of my life bro
That's exactly where I'm at in life. What I wanted more than anything else (love/marriage/children) but never obtained ended up becoming the best blessing in life.
Any guy who is even flirting with the idea of marriage should watch this. It will save you from a whole bunch of headache and misery down the line. Great video as always!
Marriage is like putting your hand into a bag of snakes in the hope of pulling out an eel.
-Leonardo da Vinci
Married men live longer than single men. But married men are a lot more willing to die.
-Johnny Carson
A man in love is incomplete until he has married. Then he’s finished.
-Zsa Zsa Gabor
Funniest contradicting phrases:
1.Clearly misunderstood
2.Exact estimate
3.Small crowd
4.Act naturally
5.Found missing
6.Fully empty
7.Happily married
VOIP Portland This comment is pure gold!
Happily Divorced, front tag on my car.
LMAO
I remember Johnny Carson saying that when I was a young man and I have lived my life with this saying in mind!
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I am never unsubbing from this channel. I feel like it's saving my future
Marriage = skydiving minus the parachute landing in a crocodile farm...
LOL
Erwin agsalud Lmaoooo
Jay Evans that's right, it's called divorce court..
hahaha u got it
Arturo Garcia be my guest.. for sure.
Wasn't it Socrates that said:"By all means marry, if you have a good wife you'll have a happy life, if not, you'll become a philosopher"
Different era. Plus, the term "good wife" which is rare nowadays unfortunately
@@sunnysideup5826 Isn't that where the current term "Unicorn" came from?...{Especially in the U.S.}
I have had 2 friends that do have theirs... but they are RARE...
@Captain RedPill Well now isn't that why the few good one's are called a "Unicorn"?....The sexual revolution of the late 60s/70s did destroy a lot for this country and I think you could say the "family unit" was the greatest destruction set upon our society by that time period...the one thing about modern woman is she no longer needs a man for protection {as was the case for centuries} however, it appears that our society may be getting dangerous enough in the future to turn that around...
I ended a possible "relationship" after just the first "date" after i witnessed her parking in the handicap space just to run into the store for a minute. That action alone told me everyrhing i ever needed to know about her!
Good choice!
Yep!
@Joy Ellen
If only female comedians just went on stage and casually spoke their mind like Joy here. Then no one would ever say women aren't funny, because they'd be too busy laughing to even try.
Dave H handicap parking spaces are a hot topic today 😂
This doesn't occasionally break a chance with a guy but if he's annoying enough this is the last straw, when somebody brings him a plate of food and they dump salt all over it before even tasting it, then they complain how it's too salty. I actually dated someone who did this all the time to my cooking and I would literally make chili for hours, soups, whatever. I like to cook, and I do that after a whole day of working 10 hours and cleaning my own house. Sorry I'm kind of ranting here LOL
If 50% of marriages end in divorce then 75% of marriages end in misery.
Lol there should be at least a 5% happy marriage
This 5 percent is just hard work. Nothing is as effortless as the bond between dudes....
50% end in divorce...
50% end in death!
A woman wants a wedding, and the security that a husband provides...and the guarantee of cash and prizes if he is unwilling to submit and put her happiness above his own.
A man has absolutely nothing to gain from marriage, it is all risk and a diminishing asset that becomes less infrequent until the only thing she had to offer you you were interested in becomes a memory of better days...
Now for those men who do not enjoy sex and like to be a punching bag...marriage is right up your alley!
What blows my mind are the guys who marry more than once...how do you escape a prison only to knock on the door of another prison and ask the warden if you can serve some time there!?
No, marriage is the death of your personal freedom.
Young Victor Same for women.
Young Victor Marriage is the death of your personal freedom. True for men and women. Why would I feel better about stating the truth?
TheEgalitarianFemale ////// technically, MORTGAGE is the Law French term used in Britain in the Middle Ages meaning "death pledge" .. facts.
im just saying, maybe marriage should include “death” in the name too so that we can settle this once and for all, and continue fapping to reddit threads and amateur porn.
What if sex is good but you can't stand her personality? Thats where heavy booze consumption comes in.
@Super Girl You can be in a relationship without needing to involve the government and get married.
After 8 years of marriage, I initiated my divorce. The last 3 years of marriage it became a intimacy/sexless marriage. I was patient.... gave her 3 years without sex to figure out, discuss with therapist, marriage counselors, ect... to work with me to fix the intimacy problems. After 3 years I just told her I have no use for a sexless marriage.
What was her response
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Kakejolas who killed who. Huh.
@@Brascobadboy it was a joke
More than likely she was banging someone else.
My best advice to all the other men out there is:
Never get married!
If you decide to live with a woman, share the expenses, at least as much as possible. Don't support someone who would never support you!
What is yours, keep it that way. What's hers is hers. I don't just mean material possessions, but bank accounts as well!
Never trust a woman 100%, ever.
I've kept faithful to these rules to this day, and so far so good.
that's so not true
@@tekorepoka8033 then you should pay for the divorced fathers, and he’s right share the expenses, that’s the best thing to do, so no one will get destroyed. If you’re against it then you have some hidden harmful agenda
Look. Most marriages are not a two way street. You never know who you marry. Separate EVERYTHING is a good marriage. Yes, even bedrooms/bathrooms. The idea is seperate but together. 👍
@@patriciakatz7866 Not a bad idea im divorcing a guy and he always was in my space
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My divorce AFTER 18 faithful years cost me the following:
- half of my pension
- half of my 401k
- half of my monthly income from a six figure salry job
- my health due to working shkftwork and overtime to provide for her and the kids
- time with my kids as they were growing up... see above
- my ability to retire... at 4i i cant possibly save enough
- my ability to be a father to my children since i dont get to see them much
- my house... sbe wouldnt work or even try to work or take classes to improve her employment options. No amount of overtime was enough to pay our mortgage and we lost our house in 2010
- my balls... i got a vasectomy so she didnt need the pill that was causing her migraines
In the end, i was a chump and gave my life to a shitty and selfish person. My fault. I will never ever get married again and im telling my son the same thing.
I feel you brother
5 years later, how u doing bro?
@@Gavi-144 no reply, hopefully still alive..
Marriage is where you go to watch your dreams die.
True 😂
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If you let them. I been married 17 years and we have both managed our own goals with success
@@chiefskingdom4151 Oh we're successful beyond our wildest dreams. Its just not all ninjas and princesses.
The laws need to be updated.
CJ Majesty the system works exactly how it was intended to. Break up the family unit because when that happens the powers that be can get away with anything because us fathers are too busy just trying to see our kids to keep the rest of society in check!
If it does, A lot of lawyers will a huge part of their income.
Some day we'll look back at Ronald Reagan with the same contempt now enjoyed by Thomas Edison's legacy.
Then men needs to work to forwards at update or else nothing happens.
HandyMan101 Updated by getting the state out of marriage ; )? Lol
You are saving lives.
Life is so much happier without being married, I love the the gym, sports cars, and designer clothes, wife is when you're finished with life.
So she will care for you in your later years??
Marriage is to build a futute together hopefully in love.
Praps you married the wrong person.
Most girls want the fairy tale.
They do not start out to deceive so something changed her praps.
Show appreciation for each other may help stay in love.
@people of the way ministries gen z here girls in my gen 22 and under are more for marriage than the melenials before us
Yea every girl is up for marriage the problem is STAYING married. Marriages now days are up until the women become dissatisfied or find a better man. The laws are in favor of this, men are disposable and the only alternative we have to win is just not playing the game.
@@michelletonkin8855 It could be the reverse. My uncle had to be a nurse maid to his wife after she got ms.
This is easily the most productive 16 and a half minutes that I have spent on UA-cam, thank you Richard for saving me a ton of heartbreak, time and money,...peace from Australia.
Imagine if the Actual Wedding Vows were “LEGALLY BINDING” for both parties!
Since they are not...Marriage is a joke and a scam.
Lose, lose for men.
20+ years and 3 kids later she grew restless
Wanted the kids and the support and the visitation
Our oldest son 13 at the time told her NO WAY I’m staying with dad
When our younger son turned 14 he came with me
She turned to drugs and I got my daughter at 12
Moms mostly am embarrassment for the kids now
She’s heading for a nervous breakdown
Couldn’t happen to a nicer person
epic
Great. You got lucky though. Only in extreme cases does that happen. Your guardian angel was on your shoulders.
I only dated 2 women last year. The first one manipulated me and showed her ex being mean to her.... She did that to him ALL the time. CALLED THE COPS... about every other week. When she realized i was no chump she started doing the same to me as far as setting me up to be ANGRY AND making it look like I was a psycho. Even though I literally never got mad, she made it look like I was mad. Saying things like"why are you upset" in front of people. She had done the same with her ex to get me to think he was psycho. ... Literally I asked her for ONE kiss at her house during a party, and two guys ran up and asked her if she was "OK," one of them was in a biker gang. (Two weeks earlier she had been asking me to live at her house, which I basically was living there!!!!! I said no, and then SHE WENT psycho and started all this crap). I left the party and blocked her, erased her and I only remember her to tell the story.... Half of all women these days HATE MEN and are EVIL.
Men problems: Tryna make money and providing for family
Wahmoon problems: I'm bored
@ What a piece of shit of a human wow
Marriage is similar to an employee working for a manager.
Being a bachelor is similar to having your own business.
Why would you go from having your own business to working for someone.
This is straight facts
good analogy.
Kinda worked when life expectancy was 30 and there were no microwaves.
I'm 52 years old. I've never been married,and I have no children. I can genuinely and honestly say that I cannot see myself any happier than I am now,if I were married. ✌
That's where I'm heading and I'm 30
@@shadow-wolfgaming1737 should man get marriage?
The only thing is, it makes you look irresponsible
@@shadow-wolfgaming1737 im 30 as well bro lol.
38 and on the same path. 👌🏻
“Guys it is your life and you only get one so make it a good one” words to live by
Men, when you get married create a "plan b" box of hidden currency in cash. It will save you!!
Brendan Harnett real talk. I will never only have a joint account with someone. I will always have my own account
Brendan Harnett Hide your money in Bitcoin . Buy physical silver and gold and hide it it the back yard.
Separate accounts won't work in a marriage as it's showing a lack of trust. It's the first step in putting the marriage on the road to divorce.
Definitely no joint credit cards. Keep those separate. Her debt is her debt when she splits.
agreed. all married men should make sure they can take care of themselves and deposit to foreign bank accounts.
Would you fly in an airplane if all flights crashed 60-70% of the time? Hell No... Better for men to go MGTOW.
Bad analogy. Gravity will 100% make you fall. Marriage divorce rates are influenced by so many things. For example, if 50% of sky diving resulted in death, you have to ask yourself why? If there's something in particular about sky diving that makes the chances of dying so high then you know what to do to avoid the high chances.
mgtow isnt the answer. you want to be 50 or 60 and come to an empty home?
Ahem, lemme quote someone: "I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone." - Need I say more?
wth divorce u'll end up alone anyway so why bother ? but i still wnt kids , here what i think , i go to another 3Th world country choose a woman to carry one my offspring and i pay her so that i could go with rhe children 2 years later i do it again with another women , the only danger is that , they surely gonna try to make me fall in love with them damn , may be just surrogatory like christiano , you know guys childrens are the only love that is real the only that matter at the end of the day , but i would waste that if it means handing my faith to a woman by marriage in the western world
I don't know about you guys, but I love being alone. I can read, listen to music, play games and do whatever the fuck I want stress free. If I want company, there are always my friends waiting to go out, eat good food and talk shit. For the ones in this comment section warning us about going home to and empty house, let me ask you this: what if you don't even have a house anymore, before your unhappy wife took it from you in the divorce?
From watching some friends getting divorced over the years it's always the woman who loses out in the end in regards to wanting more control and custody over the children I've noticed how the children always end up resenting the mother and leaning towards the father at the end of the day. Not all women but the children can see the mother trying to be conniving and deceiving the father just normally tends to be humble and wants fair custody of the kids it just seems to be a big power trip for the woman to hurt the father through the children
simon hendriks true, I resent my mother because of custody. And my parents divorce is also why I refuse to marry or have kids, which makes my mom hate me more... Funny how that works...
I know guys that stay with women and end up in trouble for the dumbest reasons. They stay with a woman that's hot and the sex is amazing, but the guy is plainly being used, or he's blinded by the beauty and sex, but the obvious signs to leave her are in plain sight. If you don't take time to date, converse, spend time and REALLY get to know the woman, and if she's on the same page as you in life and you get a really good feeling with her, she's a keeper. Look out for the red flags and intelligently determine whether it is something severe or something that can be worked with. Not every woman out there is horrible. Be smart, get to know the woman. Women aren't perfect and us men aren't either.
Good Day Mate So true.
I have a friend who is quickly coming to terms that her life is screwed up because she has repeated all the same mistakes of her own mother. Her mother left her dad when she was young (her mom just got bored one day and gave up on the marriage). A couple years ago, my friend left her own husband over petty problems. I ask her sometimes how she's going to prevent her daughter from making the mistakes of her mother and grandmother.
Best bet is to just have a long-term relationship with someone who doesn't want kids or marriage. They are out there, just have to look. Unfortunately, many of the women who don't want kids or marriage aren't attractive or have some major behavioral issue that limits their choices to begin with!
I am not getting married period
Gooe choice!
As a woman something doesn’t sit right with me. Don’t get me wrong, I love the fact that men are taught more and more these days to pursue their purpose but what does that mean for women that want to build a family? If all these men are on their purpose what does that mean for the women that feel that raising a family IS part of their purpose? There’s no way I could keep pursuing my purpose and up until my late 30’s without feeling like it would be better with a partner by my side. So logically , if men are settling much later these days ... that means women will also have to settle later too right?
@@pinktrutle1490 that means that women like you who feel that family is part of their purpose is very rare therefore it's less likely to find people like you , especially females . I'm pretty young and i was taught as a man that marriage is one of the best moments in life but unfortunately after taking the red pill, i don't see it that way at all . Women can't settle too late though because the older you are to have a baby , the more likely he or she would be born retarded or handicapped
@@thomasf4764 what if I date older men maybe I can settle down and have a family with them I'm 21 so I still got a shot right
@@pinktrutle1490 don't worry about it just stay away from the Chads and Tyrones and you will fine.
I always cringe to myself when I hear my married friend say shit like "happy wife, happy life" (he's actually quite miserable, is a borderline alcoholic and purposely works extra overtime to be away from his unappreciative, abusive, she-demon wife) like c'mon man at least pretend like your wife doesn't keep your balls in her purse. Like the old saying goes "wise people learn from the mistakes of others while fools learn from their own".
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🌻🌞🌈🦄🇿🇦 That sucks
Or when you hear a grown man say she's the boss lol fuck that the man is the boss and the prize.
😆😆😆 🤣
Fucking losers be so scared of they woman
Why he don’t just leave ??
You are one of the most concise and well-spoken UA-camrs I have ever seen
I’m SO GRATEFUL I’ve never been married and I’m SO GRATEFUL I’ve NEVER had kids!
I agree but I still hopefully would like a family
🙂👍
Yeah I'm never getting married again. I'm divorced now and paying child support.
simps have to learn the hard way!
That's true.
Nelson stay strong champ!
johnpetrius28 Petrius I'm doing better now been Mgtow for 1 year and I love having my own place. I'm just hooking up with random women now. That's my type of life style. I don't hate women either I'm just educated on there nature.
that's the problem with marriage! they want the divorce when you already have kids! so they can screw you with the exorbitant child support that these bitches will use not for the kids of course! but to buy stupid designer bag and clothes and shit. Oh and if you have a house.. say bye bye cuz now the house is for the children and mommy! and you get the fuck out u__u
"When you're good at something, never do it for free..." The Joker
Pay the man. He knows his shit.
The jocker in that movie is not a villain but a man who understand the bitter reality of anarchy and human pschy
@@hamza-kx8hv he blew up a hospital and tried to kill boat fulls of people. He most certainly is a villain .
@@theshapeexists still he represents the shadow in all of u . Carl Gustav gung was right .
@@theshapeexists Did he killed anyone on those situations??? He was trying to prove something and you didn't absorb the main idea... When the chips are down EVERYBODY is in it for themselves! No time for humanity or civil behavior! When the opportunity arises... EVERYONE turns into an animal! There are some exceptions of course... But for the most part... No there isn't! It's like.... If you find a briefcase with a billion dollars would you give it to people or take it all for yourself?? Even if you gave it all to other people that would be considered somewhat crazy!
The thing is, since it was a movie and nothing REAL was on the line... They had the luxury to make Joker look like a villain and it had an happy ending. That's stupid Hollywood - you can't make movies where everybody dies and show the dark nasty nature of people. That would be horrible. Oh, there's also another thing... For the smarty pants... When you shine these facts in the face of people they will ALWAYS chose the right thing. But if no one is watching, they'll do the wrong thing for sure! Out of sight, out of mind kind of thing. It's a mask, it will always be a mask...
I was the kind of guy who dreamed to marry... And always heard from other dudes I was better single... And usually I thought "nha... With me will be different..."
Now I am going through a divorce... 😐 And thinking... "dang.."
Damn bro sorry to hear.. So depressing.. Hopefully you make it out in a better position 🙏🏻
I hope you are better now.
I'm 24 and i've seen enough in relationships and in your vids, to know that long term you can't trust women enough to bet half your money and goods on it. Still want to have a real relationship, but i'm never signing for marriage. Thanks for the video, very enlighting !
Avoid hairdressers named Tiffany! lol
hahaha..and strippers and redheads
lol
Avoid all hairdressers they blow everyone off
That’s why I cut my own hair. Use my razor set at 4
Write down summer to that list lol
So fortunate to have worked in a courthouse in my early 20's. I remember making a promise to myself to never put myself in a situation of vulnerability towards women (children, marriage, living together). I'm 44 now, it has served me so well particularly when I look at devasted guys around me. So sad.
Fuckin A. I just ended a relationship today. She wanted marriage. I was so unsure going into it. I loved her and could’ve been a good life partner. Short term pain will be better than the pain and devastation of divorce and being obligated to pay for her future lifestyle and child support.
Women love a man's resources, not the man himself!!!
what about the ones who make more money than the man, and still marry?
@Gray Kin I disagree, guys who marry up are very smart in this materialistic dating world today... The better looking the woman when this happens, the higher the points.... It almost always means the women truly loves you... Even if it's just mainly for your looks, It's a a big win for a man imo
@@michaelangst6078 Destinty is correct. I "married" twice and in both cases, I quickly became the default server. The wives do what they please, I deal with what they don't or won't. Quick tale: This week the wife made arrangements to pick up her girlfriends and play cards. She left and 3 minutes later she came through the front door and told me the van had a flat tire. The problem instantly became mine to deal with. I am appreciated to the extent of my utility. Between wives, I dated a widow (early 40's)and we got fine and I treated her well. There was but one problem, she was financially irresponsible and when she realized I was not handing her a credit card or adding her name to my checking account she disappeared. Chuckle
My God !! so true
@@ianremsburg613 All women aren't bad, but most now seem to really take advantage of the dating game.and want to rely on a man to ''save them'. I have been happy having open relationships and splitting the bills 50/50.. That's all fucked up now because of Corona though..a couple have shown their true colors, but if I haven't invested any money, there is no pain... Don't know why so many men still fail to realize spending money on women is the worst thing to do in most cases
My friend said marriage is work, the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. Sounds like a blast.
It is endless work for the husband and the wife is never satisfied.
Supposedly there is some mental satisfaction from all that hard work but after 27 years of marriage I can tell you there isn’t.
So right ! 2years out from my divorce, and child custody war. Every point of this is 100% correct.
Point 5 (Desire tanks in women much faster than men), my guess for this is that a lot of women are like spoiled children and spoiled children get bored easily.
Hit the nail on the head.
Stuff like this makes me want to not get married and get a vasectomy.....
Arec men that get vasectomies forced to by their wives?
David A by stuff like this you mean THE TRUTH ? Come on brother it's always been like that
Did you have any side effects getting a vasectomy?
+Daniel W Was it your wife`s decision though?
If you don't wish to have children, absolutely do it. I did, at 27. People thought I was doing it too early but I knew kids were never in the cards for me, and the last thing I wanted was to be with a woman and have birth control fail (or have her "forget" to take the pill) and end up tied to a child and a woman I may not wish to be with for the rest of my life. Don't trust a woman to take care of birth control. If you don't want kids, take control into your own hands. It's a simple surgery, about 10 minutes, very little discomfort, and many insurance plans cover it completely. Then after a month to clear the pipes, have fun without any worry.
"Yes." -MacKenzie Bezos, 2019
People dont seem to comprehend one very important fact in marriage. A girl only stands to gain from marriage, and the guy only stands to lose. Thats it! There is no other possible scenario, this is the only outcome that will occur.
I wonder this is why JESUS didn't get married.
Yea I'll be dam, that's right. And he said follow my example too...
What would be the point? Every time he fingered his wife the bloody thing would heal up!
Jesus WAS married lol.
@@robertmassive5335 Then Chinweizu's profile of women still holds. Never thought women could be so disgusting.
@@socalstreets Not for very long, and she went off and raised the kids as a single mom, venerated by the French and British for generations. Last credible story I read of his fate was he was secretly packed off to a distant commune where they tried to heal his wounds but he died of complications anyway.
marriage is no good for a man PERIOD.
Agreed
I agree. A woman should be a helper. Not an albatross
AGREED!
anthony perkins nor women period.
anthony perkins period.
Love your videos. People very seldom question "The Script." Meet a girl, fall in love, get a job that eventually pays well but makes you miserable, have kids, buy a bigger house, count the days until retirement then spend your final years telling stories about your bratty grand kids and taking trips to Florida.
Question the script gentleman. Find out who YOU are and what makes YOU happy.
I know a lot of 'successful' people and very few of them are truly and genuinely happy.
I have told a lot of young men to not get married. I'm thinking of starting a channel to help men.
Women have the power on who she dates, but men have the power on who he marries. This is men's one and only last card to play with. Don't ever lose it.
Wise words...
I will NEVER marry! In these times, a man has to be a mindless fool to make that move.
Marriage & Children Solutions:
1.) Have a small private ceremony but don’t sign a marriage license.
2.) Develop a marriage agreement and have it notarized by both parties with help of a lawyer (this is in line with our constitutional rights). *Depending on the violation, the marriage ends.
3.) Only have a child if the state has a default shared custody law.
4.) Be self employed and strategically show an operating loss every 2-3 years and store most of money in “non-banks” like bitcoin and cash deposit boxes that can’t be traced.
These solutions will help to avoid the division of assets, alimony, and lawyer fee reimbursement of traditional divorce. The child support can be minimized as long as the state law supports 50/50 custody to two responsible parents.
@Leonardo Gomes so glad to hear that! I’m on my way to getting most of these setup with crypto and self employment deductions
I m 23 years old and i have a few mates getting married, i tell them dont rush it. Dosent mean you been dating for 3 years mean you gotta get married. But sadly they don't listen 😞 i just hope it works out
Agree 100%. Going through divorce as we speak. We agreed to custody 50/50, money 50/50. Two days before I was supposed to move out she called police and said I assaulted her. So they kicked me out of my house. Two days later county sheriffs showed up at my door and handed me order of protection papers which included my kids. So 4 days prior I was good enough father to have them 50% of the time but now I’m a monster. Women make decisions based on emotions. Stay away. Don’t get married.
Dude. Yeah. I feel you there. Got that PO myself. Total garbage. Ex parte. No hearing for 1.5 years for me. That violates due process. Supposed to be 30 days. Right….
Child support equals 60 hour work weeks and almost 0 time with the children. The child support system loves your money but the children suffer from lack of parental involvement. The whole system is screwed up.
It's not an accident. It's designed that way to discourage the return of the traditonal nuclear family.
It’s no wonder why so many men commit suicide
I remember wondering why people would hold so many negative views towards women when I was young growing up. Now being an adult and seeing guys in marriages, I finally understand why a lot of them think that way.
Today, the discussion of marriage came up at my workplace during lunch and the women in our group were shocked an appalled that as a forty year old man I had never been married and never had kids. "Why not?" they asked, to which I replied, "Why would I want marriage or kids?" They had no answer. These women don't understand that not everyone wants the package deal due to the hassle, expense and risk involved. I was literally being chastised by these women because I didn't buy into societal expectations. This is the world we're living in guys. Women expect this shit.
oh Ive had these same discussions and interactions from former female classmates and colleagues and exs ...they just don't fkn get it and are so narrow minded in their BS expectations
Im a bit confused. You said that you refused to move in with him and were trying to buy your own home. Then you mention that you never claimed his house as yours though you helped furnish and build his house. So were the two of you living in different locations/ residences? And then moved in together
And, all that aside..What happened after you discovered that he got some 18yr old pregnant? Were the two of you living in the same house then? Married? It's an interesting story that's why I ask.
damn. That's deep.
That's definitely one of the greatest challenges when going through deep personal soul crushing struggle. The saying "become better, not bitter" is a good one..but there is a large divergence between "in theory" and "in practice". Easier said than done. But I definitely admire that you are cognizant/ self-aware to notice the bitter-better conundrum. I had to use my maternal grandmother as an example to never ever embrace bitterness. She had some awful experiences in life, but drowned them in Alcohol from the age of 35 to her death at the age of 86.
( died from cancer)
She embraced bitterness towards certain people and events..and embraced alcohol as self medication. She held on to that bitterness up the day before her death.
On my mother's last visit to see her in the nursing home, she, (my mom), said the she noticed that she, (my grandmother), was finally coming to peace and letting that bitterness, resentment and hatred go. It's a shame though..that she essentially wasted her life and embraced toxic thinking, ,behavior and coping mechanisms instead of getting help and being open to finding help. I wish you the absolute best in growing through this...and reaching a positive place some point in the future.
Sincerely,
-Chris
@Ainka Ryan Can I add something which is I feel discouraged to help you with how women are these days.
I would be scared to help you cause so many women might misuse me.
Love your advise. It's good solid talk. I have been married for 29 years. I think it has been worth it, but IT'S VERY DIFFICULT TO KEEP IT TOGETHER. I tell my son to avoid women from Western cultures. Western women are more spoiled, aggressive, discontented, and poisoned by the toxic form of feminism. We have relatives in Africa who are going to help him find a good African woman. Also, I had a great woman from Haiti before I was married.
Dude... Am from Kenya... It doesn't get more African than that... Women here are just the same... Woman's nature is the same everywhere... Our customs have been diluted by social media and all that... Trust me... Its the same here
You do have to be careful about the culture of the West being transported through the mass media which has been taken to another level through the internet. Information travels....and so does toxic feminism. So whether it is here in the West or in a more traditional land; vetting needs to still be quite deep. Perhaps years ago before the information age...being in a traditional land and culture would have almost been all the vetting you needed...but not in today's times. Check for a woman who has grown up in deeply spiritual and religious household where live out the truth about God esteeming marriage and hating divorce. Someone who really gets the mind of Christ when it comes to marriage. Otherwise, if you get married the post-modern secular way and everything that comes with; everything will be on shifting sands instead of the solid Rock of Christ. And make sure the woman is truly Christian in substance and spirit...NOT Christian in name only yet post-modern-anything-goes-secular-in-substance....such women are at high risk to betray the marriage bond just like any other secular woman.
I'm a lady from South Africa 🌻🌞🌈🦄🇿🇦 everything that is being said here is so true. It's very sad that women are trying so hard to be men it's like an endless competition most have lost that feminine thing that makes us great women and its only getting worse.
@@sbc4434 oh so its called fairer sex hahahahah
Lots of men are choosing not get married or be in a LTR, they are voluntarily single.
My first marriage was a disaster. I was 24 and was given the ultimatum. She morphed into a feminist monster over our 14 years together and I left her at the cost of $250k (worth every penny). I then dated for 7 years, had fun, and focused on making the most of my second chance. Met a great gal who has a great career, will retire in 2 years financially set for life, treats me like gold, has the same goals I do, busts her ass with me remodeling my house, takes pride in herself, always looks great, has similar hobbies, and is just a genuine person. She offered that we get married before she retires so I can share her retirement benefits like healthcare for life. When I told her I wasn’t interested in ever getting married again due to the potential of another alimony judgment, she wholeheartedly offered to sign a prenup agreement. So that’s what we’re doing and there’s no risk on my end to lose like I did the first time around. There are still a few selfless women left out there. But they’re as rare as hen’s teeth. Don’t ever settle for a gal who isn’t worth investing your time and money into.
some advice ,there are ways around prenups lawyers know this
@@joederocco9321 we actually listed line by line the items that were hers to remain hers and mine to remain mine in the prenup. Anything after marriage was to be considered community property.
@@joederocco9321 she has a career so she must pay something too
I'm a yough lady and I love watching your vedios and learning from another perspective
This is one of the reasons why I have a tough time rationalizing attending, or being a part of wedding/engagement parties. Though I do want to support my brothas, if they decide to go this route, I end up questioning their life choices and/or sanity and whether or not a true friend should/would support them at all...
I had this same thought recently as i was attending my best friend's wedding a few weeks ago. My thoughts were "Your insane" however I also thought "Your my best friend and i support your decision even if I dont agree with it, Its your life" . All you can do in these cases is show support and be there for your friend if the shit hits the fan in the future for him. When a guy is "In love" and feels "shes the one" theres nothing you can really say to change his mind. Ive been there and so have many of my other friends. when your into a girl, You dont care what anyone else says because you "know" shes not like that lol. Until you get burned, Thats when the life lesson starts and its a painful one but we all have to learn some day.
Ray I was there 3 weeks ago. I was a groomsman for a good friend of mine. Although the ceremony and the party were great, I couldn't help but cringe at what he had just done. It didn't feel right to be encouraging..
When I meet a couple who are getting married, I say to the woman "Congratulations". To the man "Good luck".
I'm just trying to understand the end game. Do we just date woman after woman until we're too old for any woman to want us? Just live with a woman and not be married, but then it's considered common-law (pretty much the same as marriage) I'm just trying to understand all this
to old for woman to want us?? if you are well off financially they will come no matter the age
"Women reserve the right to change their mind at any time."
That's an Iron Law of female nature. Tattoo it to your face! Lol
Applies to everyone regardless of sex. Singling out women is just spinning.
Lol, so true!
@@VersusARCH but women take advantage of it more than men
I just stumbled on this vid. I’m 52 I’ve been divorced for 16 years now. You articulate what I am thinking perfectly! Thanks! I realized I didn’t want to have a family with my wife at the time who by the way I was seven years older than me and I filed for divorce at 35 years old. She was 42. I only know of one couple that divorced and they both agreed no child support. They both said when the kids are with me they have what they need.! Very rare case! Fortunately for me, Common law no longer exists in Vermont and I had no alimony payments because I was married for less than 15 years. I feel I dodged a huge bullet! Thanks again for the great content!
Is Marriage Worth It?
Short answer: No
Long answer: Nooooooooooo
I wasted 3 seconds not 5!
Sage and practical advice. My heart just aches for all the good guys out there that get shafted. I have been binge-watching your content and you are pretty on it. Keep up the great and needed work.
I have been thru the divorce mill. I agree with everything you say! I have a 20 year-old son so what do I advise him?
What makes absolute sense to me doesn't seem to register with him. He thinks that love is everything. I am afraid he will have to learn the hard way!
he will learn once he has a break up, thats what did the trick for me lol
Let him follow his own destiny.
Get him to read The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi
He's 20, its completely normal to be naïve.
Yeah, I am afraid he will...tsk, tsk
Please explain to me why i ought to allow family law into my life in order to procreate? If I have kids, its out of wedlock. Dont need the state to make me faithful. Lord knows it doesnt make women faithful.
Love is a dream, marriage is the alarm clock
This is an excellent metaphor.
Lol
This is MUST WATCH material for all young men out there!
I have been married for 40 yrs.. I would say it is happy and successful. There were certainly times when it was less than happy for short periods. Those times were due to boredom or to slights real or imagined that were taken personally. When things went off track we would talk about it and fix it but realize that it would eventually go off track again. Our relationship was just something that needed to be tuned up and tweaked from time to time. As the years went by those times of contention became fewer and fewer largely because we truly believed in our hearts that we wanted the best for each other. There were high stress times like when parents were elderly and ill or when the kids were having trouble. We saw each of us step up and put our needs aside and support one another. At this point I have no doubt she would sacrifice herself for me and me for her. I can't imagine life without her.
The kids are grown, gone, successful and come by often. We have a couple of grand kids who are our joy. We are pretty much dating each other again. We ride our Harley with a group of couples of similar age and travel all over. We have a lot of fun together and always have. It's a good life.
Good for you. Not everyone is lucky as you.
@@Kevin-cy2dr not luck dude, proper choosing & work.
I'm glad you are one of few who in the world who has a happy and healthy marriage. I sometimes come across couples who have been married a long time. I've met one couple that was out celebrating their 35th wedding anniversary, the other 44 years and still going strong. Congratulations man! Both genders have trouble finding what you have.
Difficult but not impossible. Takes two to tango, find yourself the right partner and don’t expect it to work without solid effort.
How long did you date each other before getting married?
I'm a young family lawyer from Montreal, Canada and I think it is important to point out (at least here in Canada) that children are equals before the law, meaning that either if they are born issued from a marriage or from cohabiting parents, they have the same rights i.e a man that gets divorce or just a separation will STILL pay child support for his children. At this point the advice would be to not have children or carefully choose the mother of your children.
And I can testify for having seeing it first hand that women do have the advantage in the family court rooms.. And I have seen ugly things in my short career so far. So much so that I started to hate women for what they do. They do not care about their children, they make irresponsible decisions, they are bitter and most of the time become miserable. On the other hand, I have seen so much injustice from the files where my client is the father. They just really want to be there for their children.. I am still too young a lawyer (less than five years of practice) and I need to build more experience but I've been thinking, when I get to choose my files I plan on ONLY take those of fathers fighting against the family system. I know it's going to be long before we see a real change overall but that's the little part I can do from the skills I have.
Godspeed to you, Sir
It won't change. The whole socialists narrative and welfare has to die before this can change.
Lovely //////// thanks for the insight. I wish there were more marriage/divorce lawyers who can share what they notice in the process. i feel like they have all the answers to our burning questions. Keep fighting the good fight!
We need more decent, compassionate, woke Lawyers such as you in the world. Thanks for speaking the truth.
I really appreciate your kindness, as a child of a custody battle you're 100% correct my dad got f*cked and my mom just wanted the money.
I know guys that stay with women and end up in trouble for the dumbest reasons. They stay with a woman that's hot and the sex is amazing, but the guy is plainly being used, or he's blinded by the beauty and sex, but the obvious signs to leave her are in plain sight. If you don't take time to date, converse, spend time and REALLY get to know the woman, and if she's on the same page as you in life and you get a really good feeling with her, she's a keeper. Look out for the red flags and intelligently determine whether it is something severe or something that can be worked with. Not every woman out there is horrible. Be smart, get to know the woman. Women aren't perfect and us men aren't either.
@@sbc4434 that doesn't make sense. There's nothing wrong with marrying someone you love.
Very educational. Most of the things you've said are accurate. Especially about women with disorders. I keep thinking of those uncompassionate, narcissistic women in desperate pursuit of a "high society" man as I'd like to call them. I've seen it happen many times, to friends and family members. Truly sad, if not pathetic. That's also why I want to remain single, happier too. Why imprison yourself in this old fashion constitution?
Am a woman in my 30s, also an Early Childhood Educator (PreSchool Teacher)
Marriage is like playing russian roulette with a pistol instead of a revolver...
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Makes total sense. Great vid! Totally true when you marry you essentially invite the government into your home. Shortly after I married my wife I could not sell MY HOUSE that I owned for many years before knowing my wife until SHE signed off on the real estate papers because of some ridiculous 50 year old state law where I live!!
After seeing friends pretty much get destroyed by divorces I'm good tx.
As a man who has been through a divorce (not my idea) I can tell you, if you're a young man thinking of getting married, remember what Rich said about inviting the government to decide what happens to you when you're wife wants out. In most cases, you are better off staying single.
My single experience is that female desire tanks just about five minutes after the marriage is consummated.
That's why women are always smiling in their wedding photos because they know they've given their last blow job.
@@corytrevorson1411 This actually happened to me after I got married. Not telling a lie
My ex wife turned off the sex on our honeymoon from then on it was once a month if I was lucky
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I love Women, I Love their softness and their submissiveness in the bedroom however I have been cheated on really bad in the past that left me extremely depressed and thought what suicide would be like for the first time in my life. That was about 7 years ago. With that said, I will remain a bachelor quite possibly the rest of my life. I can easily get with many Women however to actually stay in a relationship with them, Eh.... I really avoid that now and I'm upfront about it to Women I'm with but many of them are cool with it. Anyways, Overall i find it fascinating that Men across the world are describing the same problems in their Marriage which leads me to say that the warnings are definitely real and highly advisable. It's just too dangerous. I have a business that I'm pretty successful with and many of my decisions are based on Risk/Reward ratios. If Marriage was a stock, lets just say I definitely wouldn't be buying it lol
I only date pale submissive women, but they always come with a price. Nothing about women is free. They are a temptation for sure, but getting married and/or having kids is out of the question. Spending time with them and sex-based relationships are where it's at.
surrogacy is the best option or you risk the chance of loosing your life (STD) and wealth (Divorce).
Their submissiveness? Quite sexist isn't it, as a female myself I feel quite insulted
@@manynumeritos my ex was always super submissive. Even told me she liked it when I told her what to do in the bedroom and out. Some women are just better made to please men I guess.
@@manynumeritos Nobody gives a sh!t.
I’m the 4th wife to my husband, who believe it or not is a great man who has a past of poor judgement in character. He’s an example of someone who matured later in life and I’m honestly lucky to have him.
Despite that, I’ll be sure to warn my son to not make the same mistakes his father made. DON’T rush into marriage just because you think you’re in love. DON’T marry a woman who is either divorced, has kids or both. And DON’T have sex with just any woman. Being on the hook for child support without the benefit of a real relationship with your kids isn’t worth it. I’ve seen all of this blended family mess from the divorced man’s perspective and I’d be terrified of women if I was one.
During my sister's wedding, my grandfather was called to give advice about long term marriage, he uttered the greatest quote, that to this day I will never forget, he said this " Marriage is all about give and take, I give and she takes." That was the one time he got back at the completely hateful and entitled B!T@# that my grandmother is, she ran him through the dirt every day he was alive.
"Women with personality disorder will particularly target higher value men."
Fuck , thats why i guess.
This is true. Been married 7 years now and I’m unhappy and miserable because she doesn’t respect my headship 100%. Listening to her and trying be an loving husband, I gave in to her needs/wants and always put what I wanted to the side. And it finally hit me, that I’m not happy. I just wanna be stress free and relax in peace. Now that I’m trying to leave now she says shell let me be the head from now on. I love her but I can’t do this anymore.