When Helping Hurts: Is Being an Empath a Recipe for Burnout?

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  • @ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp
    @ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp  2 місяці тому +196

    Thank you friends/Beautiful Messers for your support and kindness as I try to spread a little positivity through my channel. Thank you also for your understanding my need to set some boundaries on how I interact with my community as mentioned at the end of this video. I love reading your comments and try to read as many as possible. To increase the chance that I will see your comment, please leave a ❤emoji somewhere in your comment as I will be filtering them by searching that out after I have responded to channel members and SuperThanks donations. I really appreciate you all and I'm glad you are part of this community!🥰

    • @fifefreecleaning
      @fifefreecleaning 2 місяці тому +12

      ​@@edwardschwenk3100 but not people who leave negative comments 😊 x

    • @Parisgirl548
      @Parisgirl548 2 місяці тому +8

      ❤ yay ! I was excited to see you on today !! 😊 I now fold all my laundry with the pocket method I love it! It keeps my dresser drawers so much neater and makes laundry actually fun ❤😊 you are a huge asset to my world 🌎 ❤Thankyou Bonnie !! ❤❤

    • @plant495
      @plant495 2 місяці тому +1

      19:50 I'm so glad you got to hear her say they need to do differently at her home.
      A turning point for me was hearing an organizer say:
      If something falls on the floor, pick it up immediately.
      Nothing belongs on the floor.
      Not even temporarily. Temporary becomes permanent.
      Only a few pieces of furniture, with space between them, to allow air and light to circulate around them to prevent mold. So the room feels light and spacious, not congested and claustrophobic.

    • @lisaschulz1868
      @lisaschulz1868 2 місяці тому +3

    • @narfeggio
      @narfeggio 2 місяці тому +7

      ❤️ I subscribed a while back thanks to one of Mack's MMC videos where you were organizing a kitchen like a beast 😤 (that's a compliment lol) so ultimately YOU brought me here. Don't forget that aspect please. You're awesome and your work and vulnerability is very appreciated

  • @mmh290
    @mmh290 2 місяці тому +224

    I don’t think you should think of it as viewers not choosing you, such as Mac’s subscribers, because not ALL of his fans watch every single video, and I’m guessing 1/2 of the views are repeat ones. You are unique and have a kind heart and organize like no one! You nailed it when you said you have to sometimes step back and focus on finding things to be grateful for, no matter how small. You inspire me and thousands of others to be better people, Bonnie. Thank you for sharing your videos and showing us how we can make life easier and tidier and being more empathetic towards our fellow human beings. 🙏💕

    • @edieboudreau9637
      @edieboudreau9637 2 місяці тому +8

      Yes.

    • @SharaLee60
      @SharaLee60 2 місяці тому +9

      I agree! Just take your time, Bonnie & heal! I love what you do for others, but you need to take care of yourself first! Thanks for being real & explaining everything, but you didn't have to! We all understand! The best to you & your family! Love & Hugs! ♥️😉🫂🦋🍄✏️📓🧶🪡🧵🍁🧙‍♀️🎃✨️

    • @CindyLooWho96
      @CindyLooWho96 2 місяці тому +17

      Absolutely 🎉 I watch Mac because I've come to love his quirky humor and presentation style. But i watch you, Bonnie, for totally different reasons. You can't compare yourself to Mac at all. You're different types of content creators... and this is not one size fits all. I did come here and subscribed because Mac mentioned you and fell in love with your insight and heart. Not everyone who watches Mac will share those same views. Keep being YOU, Bonnie. Those who truly love and appreciate your videos will keep coming back.... and I am lucky enough to be one of those. ❤❤❤

    • @louisejackson348
      @louisejackson348 2 місяці тому +7

      ❤ love your folding techniques! You are such a kind and caring person. Take care of yourself.

    • @Shrinkingviolett2
      @Shrinkingviolett2 2 місяці тому +4

      @@CindyLooWho96exactly!!❤

  • @megwolff58
    @megwolff58 2 місяці тому +56

    Yours is probably the only extreme cleaning channel where the cleaner works alongside the home owner and talks to them for many hours. I don't think there are many people, neurodivergent or not, who could cope with that much mental labour, input and physical work without being totally overwhelmed. You have set yourself a superhuman task each time, and as I have said before, I am in awe of your strength. Perhaps there are some boundaries you can add to actual cleaning/organising days where you are left alone for a set amount of time. Also, the laundry section of this video was wonderful! Thanks for sharing that and your thoughts with us. Sending you much love from Australia.❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @SIC647
      @SIC647 2 місяці тому +3

      These are wise words.

    • @CaliAnimalLover
      @CaliAnimalLover 2 місяці тому +9

      @@megwolff58 or maybe she could make it known to new clients that she’s found that chatting while working is just too hard or too much for her, so she prefers to work alone.

    • @Shrinkingviolett2
      @Shrinkingviolett2 Місяць тому +3

      @@CaliAnimalLoverI suggested just this very thing!!❤

  • @WrightThinkingInMO
    @WrightThinkingInMO 2 місяці тому +63

    ❤ Bonnie, know that you are loved!! 🎉

  • @laurieolson6063
    @laurieolson6063 Місяць тому +3

    Hi! I came here from Mac’s channel staying because of you ❤️

  • @PeelingAwaytheClutter
    @PeelingAwaytheClutter 2 місяці тому +97

    Wow, I don't know how you kept the laundry organized. Thank you for doing that for me. I'm so grateful!

    • @frealafgb
      @frealafgb 2 місяці тому +18

      I think Bonnie is a laundry wizard! Absolutely incredible.

    • @mariafigueroa1625
      @mariafigueroa1625 2 місяці тому +6

      I feel your pain. ❤️🙏🙏🏼

    • @Shrinkingviolett2
      @Shrinkingviolett2 2 місяці тому +13

      She summited Mount Washmore.

    • @CaliAnimalLover
      @CaliAnimalLover 2 місяці тому +7

      @@PeelingAwaytheClutter I honestly think that laundry is good for Bonnie. She enjoys doing it. She finds the repetition calming. And the end result satisfying. Especially since she folds so dang perfectly. She does say it’s one of her favorite tasks.

    • @Shrinkingviolett2
      @Shrinkingviolett2 Місяць тому +3

      @@CaliAnimalLoverit’s ASMR Therapy!!!

  • @brendasnow8255
    @brendasnow8255 Місяць тому +8

    Sorting, washing and folding clothes is beyond what anyone else does. I hope that, if it contributes to your burn out, the people whose homes you so generously clean will understand if you sort them and then leave the washing to them to do. ❤

  • @bdazzlefromage
    @bdazzlefromage 2 місяці тому +28

    Comparison is the thief of joy and you deserve all the joy. Take care Bonnie ! ❤

  • @rwetzbarger1244
    @rwetzbarger1244 2 місяці тому +3

  • @kaleasinden6427
    @kaleasinden6427 Місяць тому +4

    You need to look after yourself before you can look after others♥♥♥♥♥

  • @landraliebling5699
    @landraliebling5699 2 місяці тому +1

    Fantastic job, Bonnie!!! Watching you fold the laundry was gold!! You are wonderful!!! We love you 🩷🩷🩷

  • @misshippi971
    @misshippi971 2 місяці тому +67

    I think helping someone clean their house is so amazing but taking on the added responsibility of doing their laundry in above and beyond.

    • @teresaminick1169
      @teresaminick1169 2 місяці тому +2

      Agree!

    • @Shrinkingviolett2
      @Shrinkingviolett2 Місяць тому

      @@teresaminick1169I seriously offered to pay for the laundromat!! Super Bon Bon goes above & Beyond💕!!!

    • @DebsGoldsworthy
      @DebsGoldsworthy 6 днів тому

      Yes, I agree.😊❤. Xxx

  • @bellabobs9890
    @bellabobs9890 2 місяці тому +3

    ❤ please look after yourself first and foremost. You are doing amazing xx

  • @DaisyCutter-qg5qx
    @DaisyCutter-qg5qx Місяць тому +7

    ❤the laundry washing and folding was incredible!!

  • @marriedagain2008
    @marriedagain2008 Місяць тому +2

    I ❤ Shinedown!

  • @voodle48
    @voodle48 2 місяці тому +32

    As an empath, yes, burnout is a huge issue.

    • @jolenewhite370
      @jolenewhite370 Місяць тому +1

      ❤absolutely true!!!

    • @marie_84
      @marie_84 Місяць тому +1

      That's why boundaries are so important. And learning to use the word NO. 😮

  • @starklingspars8956
    @starklingspars8956 Місяць тому +2

    💛

  • @Rachel-ul8et
    @Rachel-ul8et Місяць тому +3

    You will always be a Pep Club! Living it, loving it!

  • @angelamelville67
    @angelamelville67 Місяць тому +4

    Bonnie you are amazing, a wonder woman. Please ignore the very few Debbie downers who just want to upset you 😡 With much love ❤️ from the 🇬🇧

  • @goldenretrievermom7945
    @goldenretrievermom7945 Місяць тому +3

    Hi there, Mack sent me over from Midwest Magic and I hope you are doing better and your burnout is clearing up!

  • @DANA-r9o4s
    @DANA-r9o4s 2 місяці тому +1

    My dearest Bonney hello from Dana /Illinois. I think you are just one of the greatest humans. Hugs. remember to rest (on drink water - you know is very important). I like your yard/garden, wow.

  • @alwaysthesleepless1
    @alwaysthesleepless1 2 місяці тому +3

    I can really relate to the things you said. Thank you for sharing. You did a fantastic job as always. Well done and keep up the good work. (loved the little dog)

  • @kellihorsman2837
    @kellihorsman2837 Місяць тому +1

    I am a little lady on seeing this video. I want to express my sympathy towards you and your friend here that you are helping. I am also an empathic woman and I “feel” where you come from with carrying other people’s feelings. I have that problem too. Plus your friends talking incessantly is like me a lot. Hahaha. I love to clean other peoples houses more than mine.
    I wish her better health and time for you to download your mind.

  • @K4rmaRules
    @K4rmaRules 2 місяці тому +17

    Being an empath is exhausting. It takes a lot of energy. Not only that but it's exhausting fighting off the people who ridicule you for your empathy and don't understand how you could care so much for others.

  • @janegruler8500
    @janegruler8500 Місяць тому +1

    ❤You are such a blessing to those you help! Am I weird in that I enjoy watching you bring order and cleanliness out of chaos? If I lived in Utah, I would volunteer to help you as I love to organize and create order.

  • @kamidsjournee
    @kamidsjournee Місяць тому +4

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤ I don’t want to lose you, so please do all you can to care for yourself! You’re beautiful! You are one of those women that ppl want to be with. I’m so sorry it’s been a struggle, but Lord willing, you will find and grasp your healthy-self and not give too much of yourself away that it hurts you. 🙏🏼

  • @shannonphx407
    @shannonphx407 Місяць тому +1

    Love the laundry folding.

  • @sabbys7750
    @sabbys7750 2 місяці тому +1

    Sweet!!! Another folding laundry video!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤️

  • @lanas8066
    @lanas8066 2 місяці тому +39

    Please don't think that half a million Mac viewers have seen you and rejected you. Most may not be aware of you or don't watch every video. I really love your channel and while I know there's other cleaning channels and I've seen them and they're amazing, you and Mac are my favorite so the only 2 I will watch more, but still don't watch every video. I'm a caregiver and have a ton on my plate and other interests/videos I watch. I love that you integrate people's stories more because I love that aspect. Please take care and I'm glad you're back.❤

    • @carolynsimone8647
      @carolynsimone8647 2 місяці тому +9

      Right with you...I'm a caregiver of an older sister...she's a hospice patient...love watching utube ...it's like therapy...you know what I'm saying...❤

    • @lanas8066
      @lanas8066 2 місяці тому +3

      @@carolynsimone8647 for sure! These videos are like therapy to me because in addition to the person I'm caring for, I have to clean up after additional family members and do all general cleaning and I've done what I can to change that with a little progress. But some family members won't change and probably have ADHD/on spectrum. Hugs to you!

    • @CaliAnimalLover
      @CaliAnimalLover 2 місяці тому +2

      @@lanas8066 and I do believe that just because he says it on his videos doesn’t mean others run to watch his recommendations! His subscriber isn’t the typical cleaning video subscriber I’m thinking. Just because his type of comedy is a little more in your face.

    • @Shrinkingviolett2
      @Shrinkingviolett2 Місяць тому

      @@carolynsimone8647you are not alone. ❤

    • @Shrinkingviolett2
      @Shrinkingviolett2 Місяць тому

      @@lanas8066❤

  • @susiekerley544
    @susiekerley544 Місяць тому +2

    Golly Bonnie, I’m so sorry you were feeling so bad about things! I’ll be praying for you! I think you’re terrific! I love your posts. They are so relaxing and Goooood! ❤you should know you have so many watchers that feel the same as I do!😊 you know, I think Mack has said he has given a few of his members(?) the ability to delete people leaving negative comments. I thought when he mentioned that, it is a wonderful solution. You don’t need creepy people! Anyway, I’m hoping things really start picking up, I think you’re great!❤❤

  • @barbaramarkham4736
    @barbaramarkham4736 2 місяці тому +15

    Bonnie, you have such a beautiful kind and loving heart ♥️. Please take it easy on yourself. I know that’s easy to say but I truly understand. You are a lovely and caring lady, wife, Mother and friend. This is the biggest accomplishment in life. I’m 70 yrs. old & have had an interesting, great, tragic life, so I know these things.
    Bless your heart ♥️ dear one and please know I think of you so often. I send you lots of love from B.C. Canada 🇨🇦

  • @rebeckamattisson5083
    @rebeckamattisson5083 2 місяці тому +3

    ❤❤❤

  • @karenomran6060
    @karenomran6060 2 місяці тому +3

    ❤❤❤❤❤ I really appreciate your channel and your empathy toward others and your amazing laundry skills. You really are inspiring. ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @melinarappestad9192
    @melinarappestad9192 2 місяці тому +2

    ❤❤❤❤❤ You are so strong for being so open about mental health and your own mental health, thank you, sincearly! Do what works best for you, we will be here no mather what and cheer you on. Go you Bonnie!! ❤❤

  • @salscycleshop3416
    @salscycleshop3416 2 місяці тому +5

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @jacquelineteague3545
    @jacquelineteague3545 Місяць тому +2

    You do an amazing job I hope you get better soon soon take care sometime off till you feel better. We will be here waiting for you to come back. You health is very important so take care of yourself. We all love you

  • @RadCenter
    @RadCenter 2 місяці тому +37

    ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
    You deserve all of the hearts for everything you do!

  • @melaniehutchinson5306
    @melaniehutchinson5306 2 місяці тому +2

    Love that song… just looked up the lyrics. And added them to my Spotify. For those of us neuro spicy people who have never really fit in and struggle with overstimulation, the lyrics spoke to me and made me emotional. Thanks for sharing Bonnie. Hugs ❤. And Cammies daughter’s furry outfit was pretty awesome.Cammie also did a great job. Hope she is feeling better. the power of body doubling.
    You are so brave in sharing about this tough period. I think it will help others.
    But you could also reframe all this that you are learning about what you need to be at your best, how to let down your mask, and to avoid overstimulation and burnout and take care of yourself , set and hold boundaries. Love you Bonnie! Always around to communicate if you ever need. So many of us have shared experience and just knowing we are not alone is huge.
    Cammie and her family needs some functional storage solutions geared to her kids needs and issues so things are as easy to put away, as it is to put it down. Open lids, labels , less drawers, clear containers even. And organizing around the point of performance.( where used).

    • @ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp
      @ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp  2 місяці тому +1

      Thanks for all your advice. I am planning to do a video hopefully this coming weekend with footage of me taking care of some of the neglected things around my house because I have been taking care of everyone else and talking more about my burnout and trying to frame it in a way similar to what you've mentioned here. And, yes, I absolutely agree that Cammy's very neurodivergent household could benefit from all those things you suggested.😊❤

  • @quaintlyso
    @quaintlyso 2 місяці тому +20

    I love how you highlighted the advantage of working with other neurodivergent people: when you make the “I’m totally overwhelmed” gesture, they understand ❤

  • @AstridSouthSea
    @AstridSouthSea 2 місяці тому +28

    Sometimes i think it takes the burnout to teach us to pull our boundaries back. Also, i often only comment to feed the algorithm. I definately do not expect an interaction. How exhausting would that be for you! Hearts!!

  • @LC-38338
    @LC-38338 2 місяці тому +2

    💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗

  • @lindseyglaeser165
    @lindseyglaeser165 2 місяці тому +3

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @joycehatcher4520
    @joycehatcher4520 2 місяці тому +26

    You are not just a cleaner you are a hell of an organizer I love watching your channel for that reason

  • @JuneWilson-nq9yn
    @JuneWilson-nq9yn 2 місяці тому +13

    Bonnie, do you remember when you first started out. You chose someone you don't know and did an outstanding job in one day. It was one and done. Being nice and going back to their homes is what is causing burnout. These people have proved that they can continue cleaning after you have given them a jump start. Please know this is coming from the heart❤, cause I love you!

  • @joanie3158
    @joanie3158 Місяць тому +2

    ❤ Thanks for sharing the song. Really appreciate it. My thoughts are with you and I wish you well. Big hugs to you. 🥰

  • @AngieJenkins-o5l
    @AngieJenkins-o5l 2 місяці тому +7

    ❤ Bonnie, first you're human, and we all have times we feel overwhelmed, and it's okay! Your plate is full, and it's okay to push it away and walk away for a while. The most important thing is you take care of yourself first and foremost, please! As for you not acquiring more subscribers and achieving the same status as Mack is because, as you know, you two are very different people and how you do things. Please don't compare yourself to anyone else, you are a unique individual with some amazing gualities. I love watching you fold sheets, especially!

  • @caroltharpmcgrath1533
    @caroltharpmcgrath1533 Місяць тому +1

    I love watching your channel! I am overwhelmed just looking at the mess you cleaned up. Awesome!

  • @Chrissyhappy
    @Chrissyhappy 2 місяці тому +34

    That ladies daughter could get a career on film sets making costumes…she’s amazing!😊

    • @Shrinkingviolett2
      @Shrinkingviolett2 2 місяці тому +6

      I have actually gotten wardrobe department job offers for films and music videos. She has a great talent and I hope she actually does go on to do that. She has access to industrial sewing machines in my studio too!

  • @patriciapavey1748
    @patriciapavey1748 Місяць тому +2

    Thank you ❤

  • @emilysurany3468
    @emilysurany3468 2 місяці тому +12

    ❤ You are the Empress of folding!!!❤

  • @marybedy9760
    @marybedy9760 2 місяці тому +25

    I think most of us "responsible" adults who care about our friends and our work ethic sometimes forget we can't do it all. You are special. You do more than most of us to help others. You need to take care of you. No guilt. Walk away when you have to. We understand. We will still be here if you need to take time out.❤❤

    • @bjumorrisdatter904
      @bjumorrisdatter904 Місяць тому +1

      Thank you for putting responsible in " ". That goes for normal too.

  • @MrSamisue27
    @MrSamisue27 Місяць тому +1

    Your folding is immaculate. Thank you for your bravery in sharing and talking about it. Take care of you first ❤

  • @brette6117
    @brette6117 2 місяці тому +3

    Being an Empath is difficult especially when you don't know what it is until later in life. Setting Boundaries is just as hard or harder sometimes. We have to remember we can't help fill other's buckets if our own bucket is empty. ❤❤
    I don't think the subscribers or watchers have anything to do with your content or your personality because you're awesome when you are just your wonderful Bonnie self. I think YT is run and programmed by humans and humans make lots of mistakes including breaking stuff that didn't need fixed.

  • @CHrisPetE056
    @CHrisPetE056 Місяць тому +3

    So adorable in the pep club sweater. I love it. How fun to fit something that was years ago. ❤❤❤. I love Cami’s. Willingness to help out with a mask. I love a walk in closet and have always dreamed of having one. But mine would look the same. 😢😢. Good job and thank you for your caring video. ❤❤❤

  • @Brandy-r4d
    @Brandy-r4d 2 місяці тому +3

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @amandabecker642
    @amandabecker642 Місяць тому +2

    ❤ Take care of yourself!

  • @marshatubbs2360
    @marshatubbs2360 2 місяці тому +3

    ❤❤❤❤ love to you Bonnie! You do what you need to do.

  • @LindaHarris-GAUSA
    @LindaHarris-GAUSA 2 місяці тому +19

    Keep putting yourself first ❤
    You are great at what you’re doing and you can make your own rules!!!

  • @estercns
    @estercns Місяць тому +5

    Take care of yourself, Bonnie! It's going to be okay 💚

  • @lornamclemore4558
    @lornamclemore4558 2 місяці тому +58

    You are such a beautiful soul! Take care of yourself so that you can help others, including your family. No one should expect you to harm yourself in the process of doing good for someone else. We love you! ❤❤❤❤

  • @cindysams9832
    @cindysams9832 2 місяці тому +19

    If it makes you feel better, I subscribed because of Mack's video. I love your compassion. ❤

  • @teresasnutch5760
    @teresasnutch5760 Місяць тому +2

    I love watching what you all do I think your all amazing helping out others , please don’t feel defeated your brilliant, Mack put me on to your channel .
    Keep up the amazing work you do, watching from 🇬🇧 xx

  • @nelitasciretta7101
    @nelitasciretta7101 Місяць тому +6

    Being an empath is not only stressful but also exhausting. I admire you for being able to do what you do while being empathic, I can't do it. It's too overwhelming!!💜

  • @katrina4947
    @katrina4947 Місяць тому +2

    Enjoying watching all your videos. You are so kind and giving and deserve to receive so much in return. Blessings to you!

  • @Bekind0612
    @Bekind0612 2 місяці тому +8

    You are a good person. I really love your content, your personality, your joy, your strength, your kindness etc you are a blessing ❤

  • @tiffanyjohnson4649
    @tiffanyjohnson4649 2 місяці тому +22

    Bonnie, you are INSANELY good at folding sheets! I was mesmerized! 😀

  • @maryloesing9415
    @maryloesing9415 2 місяці тому +11

    Bonnie, you are a saint for doing all of that laundry. You do great work, don’t listen to the negative comments, you don’t deserve them! ❤❤❤

  • @LisaAnnSpencer
    @LisaAnnSpencer 2 місяці тому +2

    ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @valerielatpakdy4805
    @valerielatpakdy4805 2 місяці тому +22

    I admire you so much because of your empathy, kindness, energy, and stamina. You are wise to know when to pull back and take a mental health timeout. Learning to say no, is not a negative thing when you need to protect yourself. The more you do it, the easier it becomes and you will feel free and lighter.❤

  • @NancyTawil-c3h
    @NancyTawil-c3h 2 місяці тому +2

    🧡🧡🧡

  • @lizwallberg859
    @lizwallberg859 2 місяці тому +9

    our dear girl, (I say this as a 70 year old). We are all hard on ourselves, the negative self talk we all listen to, I remember a stat about one negative equals 35 positives in how it affects us. We come here for you, and that's enough.

  • @marybethsmith6458
    @marybethsmith6458 2 місяці тому +1

    Welcome back Bonnie. Have a blessed day.

  • @prymodee6723
    @prymodee6723 2 місяці тому +21

    Dear Bonnie, I wish you all the best! You don`t need to respond to all of the comments - we (your supportive community) will watch your videos anyway ♥ God bless you!

  • @moniquepiche571
    @moniquepiche571 Місяць тому +2

    Wow again. Very good job. Seen my daughter have some autistic burnout too. Today she's very outgoing, smiley. Take a little break and see you when you will be ready. Loved these people with masks. 😊

  • @joanngarza3734
    @joanngarza3734 2 місяці тому +18

    No reply needed. You are amazing and those of us that are genuine subscribers are here because you have touched our hearts and we care that you are okay. Please feel loved and supported. ❤❤❤❤.

  • @MemawsHomestead
    @MemawsHomestead 2 місяці тому +1

    I love your channel. Never compare yourself to other channels. The hardest part for me is you gab a little too much in my opinion. I still watch your channel and always will and just fast forward through it. Keep staying positive and help others. I loved your parents garage clean and organize. Ignore the trolls and never feel you must comment on every comment left for you.

  • @lightgiver7311
    @lightgiver7311 2 місяці тому +47

    I can never stop praising you for helping those in need. I wish there were more people out there like you.

    • @plant495
      @plant495 2 місяці тому +2

      With all due respect, no, we don't. Women have living expenses, including the need to save for retirement. Women need to be paid, just as men do. This is not a model for health or happiness. Do you hear her voice trembling in this video?
      If she were getting paid for 40 hours/week of work, and then did this for 4 hours/week on the side, I'd be all for it.
      That would be a healthy model for others to take on, too.
      I agree with you we need more generous, kind people who want to help others in dire need. But not this model, where she is not earning a living and is sacrificing her physical and mental health. Yes?

    • @Shrinkingviolett2
      @Shrinkingviolett2 Місяць тому

      @@plant495I think Bonnie will get a big enough audience to sustain herself simply because she’s adorable, but you are right. There needs to be a grassroots effort towards love, kindness, and compassion.

  • @SheilaBlackburn-w9f
    @SheilaBlackburn-w9f Місяць тому +2

    🥰

  • @CHrisPetE056
    @CHrisPetE056 Місяць тому +3

    Bonnie you are beautiful inside and out. Thanks for sharing your cleaning, your folding, your kindness and for you reaching your limit. We all do. Thank you for showing your human side. ❤❤❤ please taking care of you and others. I’m going now to go listen to your song. 🎶

  • @RoxanneR8375
    @RoxanneR8375 2 місяці тому +1

    Love you so much, Bonnie! ❤❤❤

  • @jojobe8078
    @jojobe8078 2 місяці тому +8

    Bonnie I love watching your videos! You inspire me and make me appreciate how lucky your clients are to have such a compassionate person helping them. I’m sending healing energies and prayers to you so you can learn what boundaries you need to set for yourself and more importantly how to stick to them! When you enjoy helping others by using your time and talents, it’s hard to just shut it off without feeling guilty. I’ve had a hard time remembering to give to myself so I can refill my giving reserves. And please don’t feel guilty about not being able to respond to everyone. I know that is time and energy consuming and I’m sure others do too! Much love and many blessings to you! ❤

  • @lmrader85
    @lmrader85 2 місяці тому +2

  • @victoriarussell4771
    @victoriarussell4771 Місяць тому +5

    thank you for the folding part. I had never figured out how to fold those bottom sheets and then put them in their set. Thanks (heart emoji)

  • @mwhite6820
    @mwhite6820 Місяць тому +2

    ❤❤

  • @ellamariebennett3741
    @ellamariebennett3741 2 місяці тому +2

    I love watching you for you Bonnie. I follow a few cleaning channels . Some have more subscribers than you , but some have a lot less. The one thing I will say nobody can organize like you! If you feel overload coming on again, take a break and come back to it when you are ready.

  • @Jessica-cares
    @Jessica-cares 2 місяці тому +20

    Let's all comment on this video (maybe just a heart emoticon), so the algorythm does its thing!

  • @lanakukla8966
    @lanakukla8966 2 місяці тому +9

    I'm one of the person's that Mac had suggested your channel and I love watching/listening to your channel! Don't let the negative nellys get you down. There's always someone who feels they have to spread negativity. You're a great person who likes to help others and empathize. It's very soothing. You just keep doing what you can, but take care of yourself and your family first. 🙂🥰❤️❤️❤️

  • @LauraLouise008
    @LauraLouise008 2 місяці тому +1

    Bonnie dear, you are overloading yourself for sure. Good you know you have to take care of yourself-otherwise you will be no good for no one, I too had to learn this. I tend to try to do too much, then I get sick with panic attacks and can’t do anything that was planned…Doing stuff for others is really a kind thing. But even then limit how much you do. please take care dear lady and comments from people who have nothing better to do than to be mean, have no idea how good if feels to be kind. ❤❤

  • @Tinastiny
    @Tinastiny 2 місяці тому +6

    You are so inspiring

  • @mandywells2934
    @mandywells2934 2 місяці тому +6

    You’re awesome Bonnie!!! ❤❤❤

  • @CammyHell
    @CammyHell 2 місяці тому +1

    I LOVE the way you fold!!! All tucked in!!

  • @rozanidesignsmasquerade7050
    @rozanidesignsmasquerade7050 2 місяці тому +7

    Wow❗️ Impressive, Bonnie❣️ Also entertaining and informative, of course. Thanks for telling it like it is and tending to your own very important metal health. I appreciate your efforts. They have helped so many people. 💖

  • @normahenley5834
    @normahenley5834 2 місяці тому +2

    Love the video!! Thank you for sharing that song! I've never heard of that band and I love them after one song! For Cami - I get where you're coming from on the health front meaning that you just can't all the time. I finally hired a cleaner about 6 weeks ago. What a difference! Problem is that when she's here, I try to do my part and then I crash and just have to sit and watch. We all need to give ourselves grace whether it's physical (Cami & me) or mental (Bonnie & me). Hugs to us all!! ❤❤

  • @cindyfreeman5660
    @cindyfreeman5660 2 місяці тому +10

    I'm so glad you're back, Bonnie!😊

  • @MidwestMagicCleaning
    @MidwestMagicCleaning 2 місяці тому +2

    I loooove Shinedown!

    • @Shrinkingviolett2
      @Shrinkingviolett2 2 місяці тому +1

      So do I! Top 5.

    • @Shrinkingviolett2
      @Shrinkingviolett2 2 місяці тому +1

      They help me accept myself and stand up for myself. Also You only get cooler Mack and or Jason. I have a story about them….

  • @cindycain9272
    @cindycain9272 2 місяці тому +16

    My prayers are sent your way today for restored health and JOY!

  • @Stefunny82
    @Stefunny82 2 місяці тому +2

    I so get this Bonnie. Being neurodivergent I feel things SO big. A nasty comment from someone is difficult for me to get over and easily ruins my day or more. Social interactions are exhausting and don’t come naturally even virtually so words matter. I wish you well. ❤❤❤

  • @GinaAdams-tw7lh
    @GinaAdams-tw7lh 2 місяці тому +2

    ❤ look after your mental health

  • @CindyLooWho96
    @CindyLooWho96 2 місяці тому +2

    3:31 omg!!! I am a huge Shinedown Super FANGIRL ❤

    • @ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp
      @ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp  2 місяці тому

      Awesome! I just love them so much. They are such a down-to-earth band. I feel like I would be comfortable hanging out with them.😊

    • @Shrinkingviolett2
      @Shrinkingviolett2 2 місяці тому

      Friend of the band recommended them to me last year because they knew I could use it. The lyrics changed my life.

  • @cookingheifer
    @cookingheifer 2 місяці тому +1

    You are so brave! Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Praying for you and your family.