The S Word Women Pretend Not to Want (It's Not Sex)
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- Опубліковано 8 вер 2024
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The Flow is how to effortlessly flow from one step to the next (i.e. from the start of a conversation to a phone number, kiss, date or sex) with a woman that you find attractive.
As a man, if you don't know how to flow from one step to the next with a woman, you will often lose golden opportunities with women that you find attractive.
Women expect you to know how to go from one step to the next with them and if you don't, they will almost always just miss out on being with you, rather than having to take on the role of the one who guides you from one step to the next.
So, if you want to guarantee that you will secure the next opportunity you get with a woman that you find attractive, prepare yourself and get ready for success by reading The Flow (or listening to the audiobook version).
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There is a certain S word that women pretend not to want (it's not sex), but secretly yearn for and often feel desperate to get.
As explained in the video, it's not something women can go around showing though.
A woman has to hide their interest in it, otherwise, many guys will see her as weird, low value, or assume that there's something wrong with her.
Since she is hiding her interest in it, most guys assume that she really isn't interested in it.
As a result, they feel useless or unnecessary to a woman.
Hopefully, you now know the truth and will begin to see yourself as a necessary and needed thing in a woman's life.
Women can't tell you that, but they hope that you know and then act on that knowledge.
Cheers
Dan Bacon
Founder, TheModernMan.com - Secrets to Success With Women
Bought a copy of "The Flow", Dan, and it transformed my thinking forever. My greatest regret is that the wisdom in that book was never explained to me in my younger years. Sincerely, the content of "The Flow" ought to be MANDATORY course material for every man attending college. This world would be a far more peaceful and harmonious place if we men only knew how to find the female companionship that we all crave, yet so few know how to attract with ease.
I was an ass-kissing nice guy chasing after unimpressed women, while fixated on building a gym body and acquiring the trappings of wealth all in a futile bid to attract women, when in fact I had NO idea that the approach I'd taken was dead wrong right from the get-go. Thanks to you Dan, my confidence is through the roof, and the sense of humor I had all along is now being put to the use for which nature intended.
Those angry and lonely men called incels simply would not be doomed to their isolated existences of bitter frustration if only they all knew what you've been kind enough to share with the world. The $100 that I spent on your book "The Flow" is without question the BEST expenditure of my entire life, bar none.
I simply cannot thank you enough, Dan. My hat is off to you sir, with deep respect.
Awesome! 👍👍👍 It's so good to hear from a man who has seen the truth and now gets it.
BTW: The confidence you've been experiencing lately will grow and become stronger by the day, if you are willing to continue implementing the advice.
Make sure you use the confidence technique at the start of the section on Confidence in The Flow.
It's so important for building and maintaining confidence and such and easy, powerful way to instantly attract women.
Enjoy the amazing times ahead with women! I hope to hear more success stories from you in future.
Cheers
Dan
@@DanBacon_ were i can buy from philippines?😊
I go from buying and listening to the flow some years back to being engaged. It was amazing when I took the lessons and applied the theory by changing them to keep true to myself.
Congratulations! I'm so happy for you 😄 Full credit goes to you for applying the knowledge to get the result. As you now know, knowledge is power when used. Some guys only ever learn, but don't follow through. Enjoy the amazing times ahead with your wife-to-be. Marriage is a beautiful thing when done right. BTW: If you ever need some tips on maintaining respect, love and attraction in your relationship, be sure to watch this playlist of videos: ua-cam.com/video/CF54ljVirro/v-deo.html Cheers, Dan 👍
I'm guilty of the "playing it cool" type of thing, not making a move, and possibly having the girl lose interest (yet to find this one out). Although I keep it flirty and fun, I don't just talk to them like a friend.
I have a gym crush who has been showing plenty of signs of interest for a little while, then we got introduced by one of the people I know at the gym, and she was eager to share her name with me. The next chat we had, she didn't even do a workout, she talked to me for about 30-40mins, told me personal stuff, including stuff about her abusive, stalker ex that she broke up with 3 months ago, and the ex before who cheated on her, and broke the touch barrier volunatarily, plus didn't seem to want to leave the conversation, I had to keep ushering her to get going, as I needed to do my workout. She's an absolute babe too, short, petite, feminine, slim/fit, very pretty face, bubbly personality etc.
I was pretty confident that her interest level at that point was very high, so I thought "I'll just wait before I ask her out"...well, opportunities weren't there, or I think they aren't there, but later, I think "why did I not see what she was doing?".
Her and I have several interactions since then, she's always wanting a chat, always really into our chats too, and a few times we've had big 20-30min chats at the gym, but I'd rather it be on a date.
Yesterday, I went to the gym with the mind-set of "I'm going to focus on my workout, HOWEVER, I am absolutely going to give her my number, or get hers and make something happen"...but then she arrives 1.5hrs after I started my workout, and I was exhausted. She initiated the first interaction, but I didn't add much to it, too exhausted to speak much. She then went to walk off to go do her workout somewhere else in the gym, but then stopped, and decided to get on equipment directly in front of me, backside toward me, and while it seemed obvious at the time, I also played it off in my head as "it's just part of her workout routine, stop thinking she's trying to get close to you".
I went to the downstairs area of the gym shortly after, and when I came back upstairs temporarily, she was watching me in the mirrors, doing double takes as if to catch my gaze, but I chose not to look at her, I guess I kind of ignored her, I have no idea why the heck I did this, it was as if because I was choosing to read all the signals as not being signals at all....maybe it's because I had been burned by someone a few months ago who showed very high interest before treating me like a stalker after I asked her out....maybe I'm scared of that same treatment, except it being at the local gym, where I go every day almost.
I did a similar thing with a really shy girl who came into my workplace, who went out of her way to walk into the store, right up to the counter where I was standing, before seeing my boss was there, and then freezing, unable to speak, and acting SUPER nervous...I played it "cool", I didn't give my number to her, she didn't ask it, she just came up with random reasons to talk to me....and my stupid brain didn't act on it.
It's almost as if once a girl seems really interested in me now, I don't believe it, I automatically categorize it as "Ah, she's just being nice", so that I don't become emotionally attached or invested....even though I obviously like these girls.
Anyway...the next time I see this girl at the gym, I absolutely plan to either give my number somehow, or get hers. I WAS caught up on "I NEED TO GIVE MY NUMBER, NOT TAKE HERS", but really, it's a silly power game that makes me nervous, where as asking her number doesn't scare me as much for some reason...what's up with that?
And if she says no, well....heck, I dunno, everyone who has seen us interacting has said "She very clearly likes you" and they keep encouraging me to make a move, but I haven't.
Let's hope that I haven't let the opportunity slide. It's been weeks of her and I interacting, weeks of her giving signals, if I wait any longer, the opportunity may be gone.
If she's not interested, well...that sucks, I'll probably doubt my ability to read these signals even more, but at least I know then, and I can stop driving myself insane, because that's what you'll do if you do not make a move folks.
You miss 100% of the opportunities you don't take. So DO IT. Stop messing around, stop getting in your own head. Go for it.
I'll keep you guys posted (if I remember).
Hey guys, we all have this problems. The fear that trying to pursue her would lead to rejection. But remember Dans rule number one: Always be the Man, who choose the girl and START the interaction. And lead her through the Flow.
U r the only coach whose advice work in real world👏👏
Thanks man 👍 My advice comes from decades of successful experience with women and from teaching guys how to do the same. Will hopefully post another video next week. All the best in the meantime. Cheers, Dan
I was never taught how to get a girl, so when i started trying at the end of last year i had no idea what i was doing, with a lot of trial and error, experimenting, getting out of my comfort zone and learning from the internet i have totally overhauled how i think.
The biggest hurdles for me to overcome were not that i was afraid of talking to women or that i lacked the social skills to be succesful, it was that i didnt think i was good looking enough, that women did not want a relationship and being desperate because i thought i had no options. Of course i had heard before that i am good looking enough and that women like confidence, but just hearing these things wasnt good enough, i needed to actually understand them.
Now that i do, i no longer think that i have no options, instead i think i can pretty much just choose which woman i want to be with, i do have options, now its just a matter of meeting these women in a setting that allows talking to them.
You really are most sensible and best dating coach out there!
Dan, can you make videos in the future about what women to avoid, what traits, and what manipulations women pull up on men to gain power and how to react?
Sure. I do plan on making a video like that (i.e. which women not to get involved with). Cheers, Dan
Finally someone telling the truth not playing games or manipulation tactics. Games made me more awkward than ever.
Hey Dan, don’t you sometimes wonder why are so many men (and women) experiencing so much fear around relationships, even with so much technology advancement. By this point I feel like we should’ve already mastered our own minds.
It's because of the mixed messages people see in TV shows (i.e. most women initiate first kisses with men on TV shows, men act wimpy and weak in movies and TV shows and then get the girl in the end) and because it's not possible for women to tell the truth and not be judged. An example of this is how women say, "I just want a nice guy who loves me" and guys assume that it means she wants a really nice guy. Yet, what she really means is, "I want a confident, good guy who doesn't suck up to me like a nice guy, but does treat me well and does know how to turn me on during interactions." She can't go around saying that she wants a guy who turns her on because people will assume she is slutty and some guys will assume she wants to be treated badly if she says that she doesn't like guys who suck up to her. Women expect men to just know this stuff. Some men are naturally good with women and understand what to say and do, whereas other men need to learn it. Unfortunately, if a man attempts to learn this stuff from someone who can't tell the truth, or who is just making stuff up and isn't successful with women, then he will experience even more problems. I plan to continue posting videos for decades to come, to hopefully reach enough men to cause a significant, positive shift in men's awareness about attraction, love and relationships with women. Cheers, Dan 👍
Good to see you again Dan, much love. I have a question for you though, do you have anything on how to call out or how to deal with when a woman disrespects you verbally?
I will make a video about that. However, do you have any examples of what women have said or done to disrespect you? Cheers, Dan 👍
@@DanBacon_thanks for getting back, Dan. either name calling such as being called a pussy or asking for a small favor and them spitefully declining.
I do have a general problem with standing up for myself, it doesn't happen often so when it does my guard is down and I don't know what to say. often times I dont want to get into an argument. I think I have this learned helplessness. I have noticed calling certain things out can help a little but it continues again at some point... almost like I'm being tested to see if my guard is down or something when I'm usually just chilling at home or something, it is.
Dan could you do a detailed video clip on approaching women at concerts, night bars and night life? Most women bring up their guard, and it's much harder to find a gf just by going out, but that's most of guys sometimes only chance to approach any and get a gf? Such as me.. TNX!
Damn Dan. There really is Unlimited levels lol. Just when you think you have writers block, you come out with something brand new. #longetivity
Oh, there isn't any writer's block at all my friend 😄 In fact, I have a spreadsheet, with multiple sheets separated into categories (i.e. dating, relationships, texting, ex back, sex) and literally have 1,000s of video titles and what to teach in the video. Ideas come to me all the time. It's endless. I can and will make unique and helpful videos about all this for decades and if you own any of my programs, you will see that I don't ever reveal what is taught in my programs in the videos. I always keep the knowledge that I teach on UA-cam completely separate from what I've taught in my programs. More unique, helpful videos on the way! Cheers, Dan 👍
Thank you for your content! This is some great stuff to know!
Cheers - glad you enjoyed the video! 👍
This is so good. Officially just became a fan. Thanks for great content.
More Gold Dan. Thanks again.
thanks, good video
That thing with the women hitting on the menu was hilarious
😄 For sure. Yet, millions of guys go through their life hoping and wishing that if they just look good enough, women will start acting that way towards them. It's not going to happen. Women have a different role to play in the male-female human mating dance. It's the man's role to start an interaction, attract the woman and move things forward. Single women hope and wish that men will understand that, but unfortunately, most never do. Cheers, Dan
Hey Dan :)
Just finished reading The Flow, Amazingly Captivating book! Any ideas on how to kill social anxiety so I can actually use that golden knowledge?😂😂
Stay awesome and keep rocking, George
Hi George! Great to hear you enjoyed The Flow. About your question: Use the confidence technique at the start of the section on Confidence in The Flow. If you use that technique, you will see that not only do you feel more confident around women, but women instantly feel more attracted to you as well. You will also notice that the technique applies to social interactions in general as well and results in people automatically liking you and you automatically feeling more comfortable and confident. The more you use that technique, the less anxious you will feel. If you ever need more in-depth training on overcoming social anxiety, I recommend that you watch my program Alpha Male Power. Cheers, Dan 👍
hey dan, all thanks to ur videos and the flow im getting more confident by the day.......earlier talking to a girl was unthinkable ......now i am growing my confidence with each interaction....still hasnt done much cold approaches because the girls i like are in my university ...has more friends who love me for me....i have a question.... how do u show emotional strength and not get angry when a girl is rude or i feel disrespected............and how to do it without being seen as a people pleaser or needy. Would love ur reply.....
Great to hear of your progress. Regarding your question: Sometimes a girl isn't being rude, but the guy sees it that way because he's either not strong enough to handle her challenging behavior, or isn't aware that she's just playfully messing with him. In the case where a girl is seriously being rude or disrespecting you, then you need to be the bigger person (i.e. don't stoop to her level, don't get dragged into the drama she is creating, maintain your cool). Just smile, be confident and know that she will realize that she was out of line later on, or will regret it later on when she realizes that you didn't react in a sulking, angry or defensive way. Instead, you maintained your cool and didn't see her behavior as a threat to you. Think of it as though you are a big, strong UFC fighter and there's a little boy trying to be rude to you. You're not going to hit him, or get angry at him, are you? You're just going to smile and not take it seriously. Use the same approach with women. Don't get angry and feel the need to prove yourself. Just see her as a silly girl who you don't need to take seriously. Cheers, Dan
After a year of building a good bond with a particular woman, I did some wrong to upset her. Now she said she's lost all her trust and respect for me now. Is it possible to regain this?
When you say, 'after building a good bond,' I assume you either mean 1) You are in the friend zone with her, or 2) You are in a relationship with her. Without knowing which one you mean for sure, here is a relevant video that should answer it for you: ua-cam.com/video/CF54ljVirro/v-deo.html Cheers, Dan
@DanBaconTheModernMan Thanks Dan. Actually she is my work college lol. Lot of flirting going, iv been following your tactics. However she is a religious person which I don't mind at all because she has morals.
@DanBaconTheModernMan thanks for that video Dan! Very helpful 👌 ☺️
❤😊Excellent,Perfect,Smart!!!
1.Dan I am too afraid to show sexual desire... Because I am worry that women will think I am creepy, wired and pervert and they will file a case of rape or sexual harassment Against me...What can I do???
2.If women reject me, does it mean that I am bad person??
1. That doesn't happen if you're just being a normal, confident guy. If it did, then no single people would get together. Single people in your town or city are and have been getting together without any problems. If you're worried about the whole #metoo thing that occurred in 2017, just understand that for the most part, it happened to celebrity men who were abusing their power. No one talks about that stuff anymore though. It was a trend that came and went and during the trend, single people continued to meet, hook up and get into relationships without any problems. However, if you want to make sure that you avoid problems when meeting women, simply don't use a sleazy approach. I'm sure you wouldn't do that anyway. If you want to use a confident, normal approach that women want and welcome, then use The Flow: store.themodernman.com/in/39ecf18 When you use The Flow approach, you're not trying to pick up women in a sleazy or aggressive way. Instead, you're just being a normal, confident guy who is making the woman feel attracted by displaying naturally attractive personality traits and behaviors (e.g. charm, charisma, humor, confidence) and then moving things forward in a way that she wants and welcomes.
2. Weird question my friend, but no. Of course not. Women will reject you if you don't know how to attract them, are being sleazy or weird, or if they already have a boyfriend. In all other cases, as long as you are making her feel attracted (very easy to do) and she is single, she is not going to reject you. I explain the percentages and reasons why in this video: ua-cam.com/video/CoXC2pBRGUY/v-deo.html
What is actually #Metoo?? If any director or actor showing sexual desire toward female celebrity.. Will they face problem?? #Me too can be filed against them??
I finding more older women are wanting marriage before sex. They will go out on your dates on your dime but they waiting for ring before sex. I leave them quickly and they are still alone, years later. and more depressed
Hey Dan, nice video again.
I have a question about IG & would like to have your thoughts on it. What are your thoughts about how impacting of IG in today inter-relationship between people?
I have a feeling people check each other out online, esp IG, then make up their mind about that person & of course employers are checking out those IG too, I had an experience myself they didnt say it but they told me to go outside & then come back & then they sound like you cant socialise
I have some experience about people; guys & girls are acting weird after I post something (just social things, no thing drama / polarised). I also just started to use IG a few months ago & did not have many followers, then look like people spot that & didnt see my IG grow, I didnt give out my IG but they found it from my tag location, then they acted weird with no reason. Some people said why i didnt follow them back & acted disrespectful (of course not because I'm not just not following back but on top of that I got only a few followers). Some clubs I went to, not a fancy one anyway, where if I joined a guest list then I can get a discount for entire, then they just blocked me, but when I'm in person they ok with me
Your thought Dan? Thanks 👍
Sounds like you are overanalyzing people's reactions to you in person and then linking them up with your IG profile 😅 That said, IG does have an effect if you are using it. Women will check out your IG to assess what kind of guy you are. Generally speaking, women want to see an IG that shows the guy looking confident, happy and included around other people, or confident, masculine and included around other people. If a guy is very good looking, then he can get away with more solo pics. However, most guys should have photos of themselves looking confident and included around other people. The worst type of IG profiles are where guys post lonely-looking photos of themselves, along with other lonely-looking photos on the profile (e.g. sunset, landscape photos, photos of their pet, bathroom selfies, selfies on the sofa alone). Cheers, Dan 👍
Could you recommend one of your videos that explains how to react when a woman brings up your past mistake as a shit test ? 🤔 please Dan
When you talk about the stuff that women learn, where do they learn it from? Their female friends, television, movies, music or somewhere else?
I do I get the book
Hey Dan, so I’ve been watching a lot of your content on how to attract women and their psychology behind what makes them attracted to you. But i feel as if this is useful for getting multiple women back to back to sleep with you which is my plan for the next few years. But eventually i want to settle down with one woman for the rest of my life which you have already done and i want to know how that process works. So obviously for short term hookups you wanna use manipulation tactics like ignoring them for example, or leading them on then ghosting them for a little to make their attraction stronger for you. But what do you change in your approach to your long term relationship with the girl you want to settle down with, because when i find that woman i dont want to have to use the tactics that are used for these short term relationship flings. I dont want to have to ghost her to try and keep her attracted to me. I want it to be a genuinely good relationship built on communication and trust. So i guess my question is how do you treat and act towards your wife compared to a one night stand girl. Is there any way we could set up a coaching call?
Hi Avery - I don't do coaching calls anymore (no time to do it. See: www.themodernman.com/phone-coaching-closed.html). However, I explain how to approach a relationship that you want to remain in love for life (this is the approach I use with my wife and that I used with previous girlfriends, which resulted in them proposing marriage to me and wanting to be with me for life. My wife also proposed) here: store.themodernman.com/make_her_love_you_for_life.html I've been with my wife for more than 10 years now and the Make Her Love You For Life approach is still exactly what I use, which results in the respect, attraction and love growing over time, rather than fading away. Cheers, Dan 👍 P.S. Here's the backstory of what happened between my wife and I and why I decided to accept her marriage proposal: www.themodernman.com/relationship/why-i-decided-to-accept-my-girlfriends-marriage-proposal.html
Random Dan appearance again! Lol what up! 👋🏻👊🏻👊🏻
😄 Haha, not random. I post as soon as I have a video ready. Was busy last week, so I just got around to posting this now. Cheers, Dan 👍
Hey Dan my girlfriend broke up with me what should I do please help
Watch this playlist of my ex back videos and get her back: ua-cam.com/video/so3ceyNW_IA/v-deo.html
Hi dan can I buy your book flow with teter usdt? I mean with crypto doller? I'm in Iran and can't have a visa card
Hi - crypto is not an accepted payment option. However, you can use your bank account/savings account by linking it to Pay Pal. More info here: store.themodernman.com/payment.html Cheers, Dan
Hi Dan,
I have The Flow and other products of yours which are fantastic.
I wanted to ask though that whilst I have listened/watched them, I find when interacting I'll "forget" to implement them. It's hard to explain, but whilst I fully understand the logic and concepts, I find myself consciously having to think how/when to implement them during an interaction. Is it possible I'm in my head too much? If so how do I go about putting it into practice without having to overly consciously think about using humour, being masculine, sexual etc. Any suggestions?
PS - how are Ben and Stu doing?
Cheers
Yes, that is a normal part of the learning process. You're at the stage of learning called Conscious Competence, which means that you can do things correctly, but you still need to think about it and focus. The next level is Unconscious Competence, which means that you do the right things automatically without having to think about it. Watch this video for more info: www.themodernman.com/videos/what-is-your-skill-level-with-women.html Cheers, Dan P.S. Ben and Stu are still enjoying their choice of women 👍
Is the Flow on Video? Or Audio? I hate to read
That clip with the women hitting on men lmaooo
😄 👍 Would be a crazy world if it worked like that.
🤣🤣🤣
Dan how do you make women fall in love so fast kiss and have sex on the same day. What's the tips on that? And how to know now she is attracted enough time to kiss or have sex
And there is the girl who flirts with me i have also went for a movie with her we are very close she looks attracted but never say okay to meet up is it because she wants to test whether i get desperate?
1) How to do that is taught in The Flow: store.themodernman.com/in/39ecf18 Getting to kiss and/or sex on the same day or night is easy and standard. It's a completely normal and easy once you know how to do it.
2) It could be that, or it could be that she only wants a casual relationship, but you seem like you'd want a serious one, or she only wants a serious one, but you seem like you want a casual one.
@DanBaconTheModernMan Please providers us article also your UA-cam channel video for better understanding non English viewer
Hey Dan, after I become successful with attracting women and doing it constantly, I'm planning to get revenge on all of my previous haters and doubters. I want to show off my success in their faces so I can enjoy the satisfaction of knowing that they're mad and they were wrong. I've also had an abusive alcoholic father and I want to destroy his arrogance by beating him at his own game. I've had a narcissistic, emotionally manipulative, self-centered, girl who I've never met in real life that was always misjudging me and I'm ready to get the last laugh and beat her in her own game as well. It's been 10 years since I've seen her in person and she always evades the fact that she doesn't want to see me in person and she's an emotionally, manipulative Scorpio. I have a total of 90 people that I want to infuriate and they've all wronged me before and left me with post-trauma so payback is long overdue
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