Penélope Cruz on protecting her children from social media
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- Опубліковано 23 вер 2024
- In this web exclusive, Oscar-winning actress Penélope Cruz talks with correspondent Rita Braver about the harmful effects of social media on young people, and how she tries to protect the mental health of her own children.
Don't miss Holly Williams' interview with Cruz on "CBS Sunday Morning" December 19.
She’s very right. Social media destroys teens confidence and sense of self.
*confidence. I'm only correcting you because non-english speakers read the comments as well and when they translate it into their language 'conference' won't make sense;)
@@ksc743 thanks it was auto spelled but I have since corrected it.
I agree with her too.
True
It's not just teens though. It's a social experiment on all of us. Most who work directly in all social medias, in Silicon Valley, don't allow their teens or pre-teens, to have social media cause they know the negative psychological impacts outweigh the positive most of the time. And many of those same adults, don't have social media themselves.
My son is nearly 25. Doesn't text and not on social media. Knows how to put away his phone and be in the moment. Penelope is definitely right.
Hes lucky social media destroy me
It is very rare and also hard for a Gen Z-er to be that withdrawn from technology and social media. You should be very proud of him.
Good for him! My son is a teenager and has no phone or social media. H
Video games, yes. That's it though thank god. I've butted heads with his dad and even my own parents for restisting getting him a smartphone, but I'm sticking to my guns. Thankfully, he's not interested.
I think once you turn around 16 it’s fine. Then it’s up to you how you let it affect you tbh
Good for him
I wish more people felt this way, perhaps there would be less pain for our children and the world
Absolutely!
JM - recently I gave up my smartphone for a flip phone, so I go to my cell phone provider to downgrade my phone and the guy helping me was like " why do you want to downgrade your phone, don't you want to scroll your life away like the rest of us" and at that time I told him " what a sad way to live"
@@itsme-ih2cx scroll your life away? That's if you download Instagram and have ZERO self control. Come on now, I use my iPhone 13 Pro Max to order groceries from Walmart curbside pick, lunch for me and the fam again curbside pick. It's like saying you want to wash your clothes on washboard because these new electronic wash machines is too dang complicated and you're a simpleton who doesn't have time to fiddle with them things.
they embrace it though. they have responsibility
@@jjjjjj192 u know you shouldn't be dictating to people what to do nor flex that you have more will power then others. u don't know me. you should now these devices are made to keep your eyes on the screen.
This is one of the most spot on things I have heard anyone say in a long time. She is an excellent mother, an intelligent person and she is naturally so beautiful. Kudos Penelope, your children are lucky to have a mother who is so smart and cares so much about them like this.
I applaud her for this! She’s so right we have to protect our kids!
I'am 22 years old and I used to get mad when my parents limited my internet/social media access but now I see how cruel and ruthless these networks can be. What it's supposed to be "a place for sharing your life" ends up being a regurgitated dump of perfect lives, ridiculous standards and an insane rhythm. It can drain our energy, our time and sometimes, our life.
Chapeau Penelope, this is not a controlling parent but one who loves their children.
Yes she is so right. I have kids that grew up thru teens. And one after the availability of the technology boom. Big difference in what they encountered in their teens. Guard your kids no one else will.
adults on twitter often act as bad as kids on tik tok
She is absolutely correct. I am 29 years old and pregnant with my first. I never was into social media culture (more of a day dreamer and outdoorsy type) and ended up being the most mentally healthiest and strongest out of many people I know. Social media will damage your sense of self. I am fiercely protecting my offsprings from the social media nonsense.
I made Facebook when I was 13, when it was the main social media because Instagram wasn't a thing yet, so it was very use by people for my generation. I don't know which relation have 13 years old with TikTok, but for me, what was really destructive and stressful was the mindset of competition, of constant comparison and judgment we had. Which pictures had more likes, which filters, who did a night out with whom, who has more friends ? It really did have an impact on my confidence. Lucky you, you grew apart of all this
@@kriss581 I agree with you. I am currently a counselor and now there are designated meetings in EA (Emotions Anonymous) combating social media "trauma". The exact points you brought up seem minuscule to some but it is extremely destructive to young minds.
My mother hates social media and technology. It also divides us and makes us jealous of each other people brag about wealth and all that bs
@@KD400_ exactly and there are SO many fake pseudo influencers who pretend to have the perfect life. Also people who think they are celebrities but aren't adding any substance to those around them. It's annoying.
Absolutely right. The other day I was having a drink with my group of friends and we started talking about this. We are in our early 30s/late 20s and honestly we don't look so bad. We are not top models of course but we are normal people with dates/bfs/gfs and that look fine. Surprisingly all of us happened to have a complex, body issues and feel very insecure and unhappy about our image. If a group of young people that look ok feels so insecure about their image, something is damn wrong in this society. And it definitely has something to do with social networks.
"It's easy to stand with the crowd, it takes courage to stand alone." #greatparenting #moderation #selfesteem #mentalhealth
Brava Penelope! Good for you. You are not only right but doing the right thing for your children. I have always raised an eyebrow when seeing children under 10 using smartphones. It's really beyond their years and as she says it is a gateway to bullying. Life is hard enough for adults, let's protect our children! There's time enough for social media when they are older.
I am very out of touch with children, but I have been somewhat uneasy when I see them using smartphones. I did play with cellphones, but they weren't as advanced and I focused on the games.
Cyber bullying or not kids are cruel no matter what
It’s bravo, not brava, just so you know.
@@Monninaq1 😂😂😂! Love it when the kettle calls you black. Just so YOU know it's bravA since Penélope has elected to remain female 😉 she deserves the feminine form of the adjective 😊 - got it?
Bravissima!
That is exactly what is happening. Especially on tik tok. Behaviourism. Bad. And for all the evolution in the world, to come to this kind of manipulation is terrible. And no one to speak out or try and protect this generation. Penelope nailed it. She sees through all these stuff going on in front of our eyes. Hope more can see this.
She's a 100% right and I had social media since I was 11 yrs old
tik tok is insane
I'm surprised too at how easily people surrendered their children's brains to this kind of psychological abuse. I know it's different when you're in it and I'm not a mother so I have a non biased view. I'm not being begged for a phone or laptop every day all day. The parents mean well but also have to be in some sort of denial too because it's really disturbing hearing how anxiety, depression, and suicide have gone up in teens exponentially in the last 10 years.
@Pablo Moreno Cordón I think it's because they don't want to think they had a hand in the horrible experiment so they pretend nothing is wrong.
Yes, Penelope! No one seems to recognize this or care enough to highlight this as a critical issue facing young children, teens, and even adults to a lesser degree.
Good to see Penelope speak out like this - I couldn’t agree more
I didn't grow up with social media and I'm so grateful that I didn't.
She is obviously an amazing mother
So wise. I agree totally. Penelope must be an amazing mother. I never knew she was capable of thus kind of empathy and depth of understanding. Great respect for her now.
as a former elementary teacher - I refused to put my class on computers in first grade ... I wanted them doing more outdoor learning, real world engagement and meaning based education. Their minds are subtle and sensitive and should not be exposed to toxic media.
I was tormented in Jr high. But when I went home I was safe. I worked all day to get home where I couldn't be reached. I don't know what babies now are doing to be safe. I am 39 and I certainly do not want children to be born in this environment. God help us.
as a medical interpreter it's true that giving teens smartphones and unsupervised access to social media is messing them up with early sexualization, obsessiveness, emotional issues, sexual or gender confusion, bullying.
Oh so social media is what makes them gay, is that what you are trying to convey here? I think sexual or even gender confusion has always been a part of adolescence and of the development. How is that new? It's simply too easy to blame social media for the lack of parental attention, of education, reasoning and attention. youngsters have always been exposed to those issues. I know we are busier than ever. We went from a lack of sexual education to a enormous amount of sexual education. Whereas before, parents had to deal with a lack of sexual education, nowadays they have to deal with the huge amount of sexual information. The job lies in making sure the young ones can differentiate between good and bad and feel free to develop themselves to their full potential.
@@KrlKngMrtssn nah,it was never at this extent ,it's insane ,most kids nowadays identify as part of LGBT ,they are confused and influenced by ideology that is way too mainstream nowadays
@@Србомбоница86 oh dear, seek help if you can. Luck to you
We just feel more comfortable with it, it’s always been a part of society. Some previous/older cultures also were more open about these things than we are now
@@chickenisindeedmystyle7316 Sure, but not to the same extent as now. And if teens' sexuality has always been influenced by their peer groups...it's not far off to think that their own understanding of their sexuality is very heavily influenced by social media rather than personal introspection and experience.
She is so right, the way social medias affect our society is alarming, just as adults who did not grow up with it we're totally impacted especially women so I can just imagine the pressure young people growing up now with social medias are feeling ( with unreachable beauty standards, , awful role models promoting fast fame and money at all cost, bullying...). I am trully blesséd for growing up away off social medias and internet in general I am in my thirties and I used to have to read books and go to the library to do my homeworks, no cellphones in my teenage years having to call my Friends at their homes, just having real interactions with people and listening to music on my walkman, watching movies on VHS, just in a few years it seems like technology has just took over every part of our lives sometimes for the best and sometimes for the worst.
Parents thought I was crazy for not letting my pre-teen have a phone or any social media. I waited as close to 16 as possible....it still effects them but as parents we are here to educate and love them. It is our duty to provide them love and guidance when there is no where else to receive it. She is right, it is like some cruel experiment on your youth. Couple that with our pathetic mental health care, we are doomed. Please do you part and love those you can.
Exactly! My parents didn’t let me have a Facebook account until I was 17 and it was the best decison ever and even today, years later, I still barely use it. But so many of my friends are addicted and can't live without it
Sure. But phones are such a helpful tool when it comes to their safety. Were living in such an insane world right now, that it's hard to not want them to have one, simply for the purpose of calling and/or texting if they're in danger.
I thought the same way you did, about a decade ago. But now that we have said technology, it seems detrimental to waste it.
Just my opinion. 😊
@@midsummersnight3848 Sure, when he started driving and being away from home and then the needs of school. So yes, common sense must take place.
My family got our first dial-up desktop when I was six. Me and my brother used it for painting, pinball and AIM with our close friends. Nowadays younger generations have centered their developing brains around these continuously (d)evolving platforms. Scary stuff.
Absolutely agree with Penelope - I’m a Mom too! My kids are we’re on the cutting edge of social media, now 20 and 23. We had strict guidelines in our house. No cell phones til 12 years and monitored social media. Times have changed and only ramped up . Children, young minds need to be protected and nurtured.The desensitization and bullying is 24/7.
She is spot on. See "The Social Dilemma" 2020.
This is so smart. I attribute so much childhood anxiety to social media. It's sad because kids grow up damaged and they will be running the world one day. 💔
I always loved this woman. One of the best actors ever. ❤
I’m with you Penelope.
My children are grown adults and I’m grateful I had the opportunity to raise them without the modern technology aka social media that exists today, and they are grateful for that as well.
If I had kids I’d raise them how I was raised- without access to a personal phone and internet unless it was for school. It’s crazy that toddlers, infants even, are getting cell phones before they’re even in school. Let them live in the world in the moment, and not attached to or lost in social media.
My niece made an Instagram account for her baby before she was born. I considered it borderline abuse.
Same here. If I had kids they will be raised similar to me -- without cell phones or iPads. Children don't need cell phones or social media anyways, they have more imagination that keeps them busy.
@@heidyozuna6693 Same. Or maybe I would give an iPad without internet, then at like 13 years maybe I'll allow 1 hour per week, they can surf the social by my side with my supervision (of course without reading any comment), so they don't become completely detached compared to their counterparts.
She’s speaking the truth! I love her!
She is correct. My daughter is 33, social media wasn't as big when she was growing up.
I’m 33 as well, and I’ve noticed the impact of social media on my life. A while ago I quit Twitter, and deleted Facebook. I’ll check into my FB every now and then because it’s how I stay connected with family. But my life has been so much better. I mostly stick to UA-cam and Netflix lol.
i'm 33 and it was only big after I was 18 with facebook. But you can you imagine at 12?! I took it off for some years and from time to time I still do. I know how to be more present at events unlike peers. I get told why I take hours to respond from people my age and younger when it's not even urgent. Back in the day, people didn't also call back right away at times and still don't. Sometimes you designate when you'll respond to people to clear your head and get things done.
She’s 1000% correct on all counts.
She talked with common sense, something that is more and more scarce among parents these days.
THANK YOU for speaking out! I feel like I have been the only one shouting this into the void.
She’s right
More parents should be 'part of the minority' with parenting their children. What a changed world this would be if they did!
I will do the same to my children. More should be this wise and caring for their children
This is refreshing to hear. I wasn't allowed to have any social media until I was 16, and I'm now 25. We didn't watch tv during the week either up until I was 18- I read a lot of books and had so much time to cultivate my imagination and love of art as a result. She's right, social media has gotten scarily Panoptic in recent years and there are no real measures to protect young people from the dangers of constant immersion in a fake reality.
That you’re well-read shows through in your comment. You write very well!
We're with you Penelope! You're 100% correct!
She is absolutely right ! 100% those of us who had a great childhood without social media and technology grew up different but healthier and words like "mental health" were not even on our radar as kids , now I can't imagine being a kid because these kids are not only mimicking bad behavior that is online , they seem to think that you can get rich quick off social media become a celeb and that is not a healthy for a 12 year old to believe let alone try to do it at any cost, so Penelope is doing an amazing job as parent keeping her children away from Social media, we latinos never loose our values no matter how much the world changes we try to keep it old school as much as possible !!!! Even as an adult now one look from my latina mother and I still cringe lol
It is like a kid in a grown up environment...that is social media
Hurrahhhh for Penelope for saying it as it is💥 l applaud her for speaking out, because we all feel the same about protecting
the next generation.
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Thank you for another person reminding parents of this!
When I first entered the UK mental Health System they encouraged you to avoid social media. She’s exactly right.
There is only one proper response, as a parent, when kids enter a zone that is x-rated in content and emotion, get them involved in other things!!! Your kids will thank you for the clean, fresh air they were able to breathe instead of the constant pollution of social media!!! Some kids are just top emotionally sensitive and why not put that energy into learning a skill or just becoming more grounded as people!!!
I'm 100% with you. I have a 17 year old boy he's never used social media has zero desire for it. However, all the girls in his giant high school do use it and it's vicous and no one really dates, it's so weird. These kids can't communicate at all in person, like we did. I always feel bad for Gen Z. They have it the worst.☹️
Gen Xers we had it best, last people to have normal childhoods.
She is absolutely right.
Penelope is right and brave to talk about this.
She is so right on that one
Good for you Penelope. It's about time someone with a high profile said something about the dangers of social media with children and young people.
She hit it on the nail! 🔨
she is so so so so right!!
She makes very good points. I knew I always liked her but never really actually heard her talk about anything and I respect and adore her so much more now. She seems very caring and open.
So very glad to have grown up between 1955 and very early 1970's, not in today's world. Modern tech for us Boomers is a part of our lives, not our whole world/reason for existing. We have lived, thrived and survived without it, can take it or leave it. The younger generations can't, are literally addicted to it. Very disturbing to witness, very damaging.
Good for Penelope....it's very frightening how kids are so plugged into technology...parents/guardians need to be very vigilant.....I tell my grandkids all the time, not everyone is your friend.
It's a minority because alot of parents don't care and they're glued to social media too
I am going to share this on Facebook as I know I am more addicted to Streaming Tv and Film than I like as I got involved more online originally through filesharing music and arranging events via local forums. Myspace (poor Tom) and Facebook followed, then a friend introduced me to Streaming sites and I was in. I can admit that.
I do not want that for my friend's and familiy children. Such Wisdom, thanks Ms CRUZ x!
Por fin alguien valiente que dijo LAS COSAS COMO SON
Excellent interview and comment!
Finally a non-woke celebrity mother protecting their children from this world's stupidity!
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Somos muchas las personas que pensamos como tú.
Wow! Love that she brought this issue up 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
The fact that parents let their kids have phones and tablets is disgusting. Their brains can't handle the entire world, folks. Shut the computers off.
I deleted my Facebook when I was 16 back in 2008 because I realized it was starting to have a profoundly negative impact on my mental health. I'm now 29 and I still have no social media other than a Twitter I seldom use. Very happy I have no addiction to it, but I had to break those habits young. It's scary to think that everything young people post will follow them for the rest of their lives. The days of making mistakes privately are gone. Everything is cemented on the Internet for all eternity. That's insane.
My boys are 11 and 13, I feel like I am in the minority all the time. Thank you so much for speaking out on your beliefs for your children and social media. #Solidarity
I never agreed with celebrity's but I totally agree with her, I too feel like I'm protecting my kids by keeping them off social media till they're a little older, social media is like a social experiment on our children she's right! I didn't look at it this way before but that makes sense. We really don't have any idea how social media affects kids and from what I observe it really doesn't improve kids quality of life.
I feel exactly the same way. We practice this sort of discipline and caution in our home.
Dear Penelopez, you are a true inspiration to many parents who are awakened enough to protect their kids from devious social ways! God bless and protect you and family. You seemed to be a very wise Soul! Thank you for sharing 🙏 ❤
She sounds like a strong mother. Javier is lucky to have such a beautiful woman who is also passionate about her family life.
So good. Wish all parents followed.
Agreed!! This is basically the only thing I have. I hate anything else. The hate and judgement is digusting.
I was a teenager back in the early 2000s when social media weren't really that spread. I think it helped us put a kinda of a wall between what we should show and what we shouldn't. Nowadays, children are are so exposed and many of them are exposed by their own parents.
People have been mentioning this quite a lot, but many parents that are more affluent, highly educated, and/or work in tech industry tend to be very cautious about letting their children use social media. And that's probably because they understand what social media is doing to get people addicted and to market them stuff they don't need (such as beauty trends, plastic surgery, etc). Meanwhile the less privileged parents are probably too busy working to pay as much attention to what their kids do on the internet. Social media is basically like the new junk food.
You are in a minority dearest Penelope but you are on the correct side of things and your children will be very lovely, well balanced individuals in this crazy world and they will thank you for it.
What a smart and thoughtful comment on how parents can help and the scary "experimental" outcomes of social media on children. She nailed it!
She is so right, I am happy she speaks about this, nobody else does
No one can be more right than her. Hats off lady! You really speaking your mind and heart!! Loved it.
Thank you Penelope
Shes the most beautiful woman in the world. My god. Aging naturally without getting ridiculous botox and ruining her face like some other actresses.
Completely agree. I myself have logged off social media accounts recently and I could not recommend this enough. Turn of your phone people, life is so much better.
I totally agree. In my opinion, social media deprive children of their childhood.
Agreed!! I can not stand social media in all of its forms!!! I use it sparingly and for small bits of entertainment such as this. Specifically for information and confirmation. Wholly agree!! Good for you!
I admire you and respect you so much after that statement, Penelope. Such a wise decision.
She is so beautiful and smart. She haven’t changed !! Just brilliant as well!!
Social media has ruined Gen-Z. Crippling anxiety and bad communication skills. It’s sad.
I don't have instagram. AND I am completely OK with it. AMEN Penelope!!
She is so right. Thank you so much Penélope Cruz
Thank You
She is IMMENSELY WISE!!
No dear P. Cruz, you are not, every parent I know talks about this and how to handle it. But I guess it should start for real a educational movement or something that puts real legal limits.
I have always had said and repeat to say, this devices should be taken as dangerous as cigarettes, alcohol or drugs. A kid shouldn’t own a phone in general until a majority of age by the law.
I don’t allow my 2 year old to take the phone. She doesn’t know what is it yet cause I agree her brain is still developing and she should get all this stimulation so young. She should play normally to understand the real world first.
I’m glad you talked about this cause it should be taken seriously. 100%
I want all these huge multinationals and the governments to take this seriously cause it’s involved MENTAL HEALTH.
No kid should own a phone until adulthood PERIOD.
LET’S ALL TAKE ACTION !!!
She’s so beautiful
Thanks Penelope for giving voice to what many parents believe to be right but the current average parental mediocrity and laziness allow everyday.
Exactly! I was never into the whole social media thing when I was a teen, and I'm glad I wasn't because I already had such a low self-esteem at the time and being online so often would've destroyed any self-confidence I had. Even though I use social media a bit now, I'm older and more self-assured so I'm able to recognize when I need to take a step away from the phone.
Welldone to her. Most parents if not all should be following her lead.
I agree with Penelope.
She out it in such a intelligent way. I hope more parents thought this way. So many children, they post some stuff on instagram, and it is scary. Exposing them to pedophiles and addiction, an incessant flow of information. It is very disturbing as well, as if the internet is grooming children to be more sexual, even though their body and mind are not ready for it. Like a constant external stimulus.
Spot on
Good on her for being a responsible parent!
Wow Im happily surprised a Holywood star feels that way. It's our job to protect our kids.
The thing is we went from a generation who was raised without social media to one born in a society where nearly everything revolves around it.
Unfortunately, like always, the generation that lived in times of great changes will be the one that suffers from it the most.
Mom of the year. She doesnt want her children to turn into the Kardashians. One of the most vain, insecure, superficial insecure families in Hollywood. They photoshop their childrens pictures and leave them vulnerable for spectators to disect, bully and chastise the way they look. Love Penelope Cruz. I hope she is the example and sets a trend on how to raise children navigating social media and monitoring and limiting their use of it. None of us need social media. We are told that we need it.
Great mother! Yes she is right! It seems like the journalist does not understand her point of view! Penelope you are a great mother!
100% pure classy!!
I think some day we're gonna look back at this social media thing with the same way we look back at the victorian era. It was a horrible time that we will never go back to but we'll be glad we went through it and learned what we needed to learn.