Just my personal experience, but the only way to stop drinking is by finding a good, compelling reason to do so. Mine was the atrocious state of my blood readings, and my deteriorating body. Once I decided to think of alcohol as a toxin, I was able to just stop. Why I would I choose to pour poison down my throat? Without that compelling reason to stop, no amount of 'will-power' would have seen me through. By the way, I'm 73 y.o. and stopped completely over five years ago.
Just starting my seventh week sober. Have been fine up to now, it's been easy but suddenly having horrible anxiety and feel desperate for a drink I'll get through it but I'm just posting this to show there's no "normal" when you quit alcohol, everyone has an individual experience.
Just did 2 months sober it seemed to be easier in the first 2 weeks but the second month off the booze cant say it was really easy as a lot of things came up that never came up before and i nhad to deal with them without the booze , took a drink at the end of the two months to stop the internal battle between trying to not drink. and wanting to drink the drink won that day but i guess slip ups happen i dont nbeleive in going back to the day one mindset as ive already covered 2 months already so i'll build up from there .were all different and all on different Paths
I was the same at 2 months didnt really have much anxiety but just had an overwhelming urge to drink at 2 months i was fine up to then back on the wagon again
Relapse sucks. Just know it’s how you get back up! Your quality of life is worth it. No one can truly promise they’ll never, ever, ever drink again. One day at a time, and keep yourself around fellowships with the same agenda of sobriety. Keep a support system, and continue to be compassionate with yourself and LOVE yourself. Talk to your Higher Power, your Divine Creator (God) can help…your heart will be read and will show you want to stop, and you’ll be helped.
I’m mentally preparing myself to start this journey, and I’m very scared and nervous and crying a little as I tell you this but I think you guys have given me a lot of hope about the goodness behind quitting drinking and I hope that I can do as well as you guys have, and be strong as you guys have been Thank you for your stories
I encourage you to take that first step, and when it gets tough, just push through it. I’m 8 months sober today, and life and living w/o alcohol continues to get better day by day. Once you hit 3-6 months; you won’t ever want to look back. God bless you and your journey.
@@stephlovesanimals wow, good for you, I’m so happy for you! Life is so much more adventurous without alcohol:) Btw, I’ve been living in my travel trailer too… for a year now! It’s been the best year of my life❤️
@@davidnoonan7893 thank you very much, I really am enjoying sleep for the first time in my life it feels like. I am happy to not have shame, guilt or depression.
Yes, idle hands! Are you part of my Facebook community, Cody? If not I would love for you to join (It's free) as we often have good debates along with great sober driven discussions - facebook.com/groups/1960061840706240
I'm really looking forward to this evening because it will be my 2nd night not drinking wine. I feel great today after my first night off wine. I got Allen Carr's book last December and got the insights from it but didn't finish reading it, knowing that to reach the end would set up an obligation to stop drinking. But the insights in the book changed my mind nevertheless.
I listened to this the other day while I was working. I’ve been a heavy drinker for many years and it’s getting to the point where it’s out of control and having medical problems. Hearing you guys talk about how good life is after quitting has given me so much inspiration. This will be the hardest thing I’ve ever done but I want it so bad. Thankful for good friends to support me and UA-cam for giving me hope
Thank you very much. I’m three months sober and found it easy, buoyed by the euphoria of quitting, until for the first time, real cravings this week. The cravings have dented my confidence but I’m 53 and I cannot go back. This video has helped. Bless you Simon and Dave
Thank you Emily! Well done on making the change for January! Have you checked out my books yet? If not, I think they will really help you. here is the link - bit.ly/2MjFYm1
Not really. Seek counseling if it continues past the 1st three days to a couple of weeks - and get off your keister and walk at least SOME, every day. You should be feeling better and better about yourself and the world, as well as your sense of control in it, but you'll still have ups and downs. You just have to do one thing when the low points come around: don't drink. Just try it. Waking up feeling good instead of hungover, and having energy all day is really going to grow on you!
I still haven't give up drinking yet I will tho When I've had a few goes at it , I found Camille tea helps. A few cups is like a sedative, but a good one Dunno if that helps Good luck
I enjoyed the video. I relate to most of what you said. The one exception; I don't have a problem with the label alcoholic. To me if you can't, or don't want to drink in moderation, you are an alcoholic.
I know it's tricky to quit but I also feel I spent years and thousands making a rod for my own back and did nothing about it until it was so obviously the only intelligent option left prior to outright killing myself and any future , brick by ugly brick
I have not mentioned alcohol on social media. This is partly because others have and I thought 'so what' . If anyone gets dismissive because of my abstention then they can't be classed as friends and never truely were . Anyone knowing I've quit has been told I'm taking a year off.. this somehow diffuses any misconception about the decision. Most drinkers wish they could cope with a year off, they just can't imagine it. This works really well as it is interpreted as a temporary and even commendable idea. I can avoid the 'life changing' conversations attached with these ultimate questions and meanwhile everyone but me loses track of time and gets used to me driving looking & behaving a bit sharper that before. It certainly feels sharper never again queuing up for rounds at £25+ a pop
Hi Nat, many thanks for your comment. Yes, you have to do what works best for you. Social media can be an excellent motivator for some but not for all. I would love for you to come back and keep me updated on your progress. Happy New Year to you!
Can i recommend interviewing a person called Pip Davidson. He has a really good story. Helps people himself on UA-cam with alcohol. He has a channel called help with alcohol addiction. Would love to see you collaborate.
GOD has to be a big part of recovery 🙏 ❤ read Bible or listen to...there are lots of videos on youtube ❤❤❤❤ youtube is my favorite way to read/watch 😊😊❤🙏
Слава Богу я трезва уже 27 лет! Благодаря Иисусу Христу! Он мне помог освободиться от этой ужасной зависимости! Я радуюсь каждый день! А раньше не представляла как жить без алкоголя!😇🙏❤️
I need deep down basics. Hour by hour of how to get it done. Tapering & what does that look like...i ache, on my knees but its the withdrawls that scare me! I simply cant afford to get help. I have to do it with the Lord & me.
The longer i go without drink the less and less I'm motivated to mention it or make any big deal about it, certainly under my real identity. I'm happier under the radar with the wider world perceiving my insignificant lifestyle choices an extension on a calorie controlled diet or the most iron clad technique to give up tobacco and # .. which it is and I have . This is how my friends and family gets the news.. it isn't really news. I'm not sure if I want any congratulations for somehow shutting down decades of habitual destructive behaviour when most of my brothers and sisters were nowhere near as weak and wilfully ignorant as I have always been
Yes, I think at the start of the journey it is such a life changing thing that it is natural to want to share progress but as sobriety continues it becomes who you are as a person. Well done on also quitting the tobacco!
Amazing to hear, Bobby! Please keep me updated with your progress. If you need any additional support, then please head over to my Facebook support community - facebook.com/groups/1960061840706240
@@suhubu1 You got a point...but some of them Muslim countries ...if they got , its very underground if you get caught , they will tan your hide publicly .
hi why does nobody talk about how much they drink and for how long?? I was traumatised as as a child n0w 52 started of slow but since my dad died I have been driningking 3 bottles of wine a day ?? I don't want AA can I go cold turkey?? I hate the taste I know I am punishing myself and my family and my grandchildren!!! there's more !!! I should make a video
Would have been nice if you normalized the audio levels. Your guest's voice is way quieter and it's annoying to have to adjust the volume constantly while listening.
Just my personal experience, but the only way to stop drinking is by finding a good, compelling reason to do so. Mine was the atrocious state of my blood readings, and my deteriorating body. Once I decided to think of alcohol as a toxin, I was able to just stop. Why I would I choose to pour poison down my throat? Without that compelling reason to stop, no amount of 'will-power' would have seen me through. By the way, I'm 73 y.o. and stopped completely over five years ago.
Just starting my seventh week sober. Have been fine up to now, it's been easy but suddenly having horrible anxiety and feel desperate for a drink I'll get through it but I'm just posting this to show there's no "normal" when you quit alcohol, everyone has an individual experience.
Good on you feel better ? Remember ...it's all down hill after the first drink .
Just did 2 months sober it seemed to be easier in the first 2 weeks but the second month off the booze cant say it was really easy as a lot of things came up that never came up before and i nhad to deal with them without the booze , took a drink at the end of the two months to stop the internal battle between trying to not drink. and wanting to drink the drink won that day but i guess slip ups happen i dont nbeleive in going back to the day one mindset as ive already covered 2 months already so i'll build up from there .were all different and all on different Paths
@@casper1240
it's like you've been hitting home runs every day for 2 months & you struck out just once, that's phenomenal batting average!
@@words4dyslexicon Thanks Mate onwards and upwards
I was the same at 2 months didnt really have much anxiety but just had an overwhelming urge to drink at 2 months i was fine up to then back on the wagon again
30 days today (Dec 10) alcohol free. Delighted to be this way.❤
I really need to stop drinking . It’s not even fun anymore
How is it going now 😳 🙏 you are sober ❤
Same ere
Been 3 years sober and loving it , I intend to keep working at it and enjoy the rest of my life sober
I'm 29 days sober I really appreciate the small things that I'm doing that I wouldn't door if I was drinking
I'm now on day 54
2 months 2 weeks sober 3rd time after excepting it was unmanageable 😢 .1st time now thinking of 1st drink 😢😮😅😅🙏🥵🥶🙏
4 months sober
I did 970 days. Thought I had it wrapped. Started again. Not good. Stop and do it permanently. Causes anxiety and depression for sure. Move forward.
One day at a time. you got this
Relapse sucks. Just know it’s how you get back up! Your quality of life is worth it. No one can truly promise they’ll never, ever, ever drink again. One day at a time, and keep yourself around fellowships with the same agenda of sobriety. Keep a support system, and continue to be compassionate with yourself and LOVE yourself. Talk to your Higher Power, your Divine Creator (God) can help…your heart will be read and will show you want to stop, and you’ll be helped.
Sober for 17 days! Your video's have helped so much. God bless you!
That's fantastic! Soon you'll be at 30 days! Keep going!
Hope you are still going good! I am at day 20 we got this. Each and everyone of us!
I’m mentally preparing myself to start this journey, and I’m very scared and nervous and crying a little as I tell you this but I think you guys have given me a lot of hope about the goodness behind quitting drinking and I hope that I can do as well as you guys have, and be strong as you guys have been Thank you for your stories
Hope youre doing well dude
I encourage you to take that first step, and when it gets tough, just push through it. I’m 8 months sober today, and life and living w/o alcohol continues to get better day by day. Once you hit 3-6 months; you won’t ever want to look back. God bless you and your journey.
@@davidnoonan7893 I’ve been AF for five weeks now, thank you!
@@stephlovesanimals wow, good for you, I’m so happy for you! Life is so much more adventurous without alcohol:) Btw, I’ve been living in my travel trailer too… for a year now! It’s been the best year of my life❤️
@@davidnoonan7893 thank you very much, I really am enjoying sleep for the first time in my life it feels like. I am happy to not have shame, guilt or depression.
Boredom at night is the worst temptation, especially during the lockdown. Almost slipped last night, but didn't!
Yes, idle hands! Are you part of my Facebook community, Cody? If not I would love for you to join (It's free) as we often have good debates along with great sober driven discussions - facebook.com/groups/1960061840706240
I'm really looking forward to this evening because it will be my 2nd night not drinking wine. I feel great today after my first night off wine.
I got Allen Carr's book last December and got the insights from it but didn't finish reading it, knowing that to reach the end would set up an obligation to stop drinking. But the insights in the book changed my mind nevertheless.
14 days sober, it's taken me a long time to get to this point but I'm so glad I finally quit.
Keep up the good work, I promise you things go from better to better
I listened to this the other day while I was working. I’ve been a heavy drinker for many years and it’s getting to the point where it’s out of control and having medical problems. Hearing you guys talk about how good life is after quitting has given me so much inspiration. This will be the hardest thing I’ve ever done but I want it so bad. Thankful for good friends to support me and UA-cam for giving me hope
So how's your sobriety going?
Thank you very much. I’m three months sober and found it easy, buoyed by the euphoria of quitting, until for the first time, real cravings this week.
The cravings have dented my confidence but I’m 53 and I cannot go back. This video has helped. Bless you Simon and Dave
Thanks so much, I am pleased it helped, do keep me updated on your progress.
Thank you Simon
Keep on keeping on!
My 2nd day. Confirmation. It is a personal relationship I have with alcohol.
I'm glad you found the video helpful. How are you doing today?
This was great. Am doing Dry January and this is v inspirational. Thanks!
Thank you Emily! Well done on making the change for January! Have you checked out my books yet? If not, I think they will really help you. here is the link - bit.ly/2MjFYm1
i m suffering from anxiety n negative thoughts since i quit drinking , is this normal .
That means you will die sooner
Keep drinking
Not really. Seek counseling if it continues past the 1st three days to a couple of weeks - and get off your keister and walk at least SOME, every day. You should be feeling better and better about yourself and the world, as well as your sense of control in it, but you'll still have ups and downs. You just have to do one thing when the low points come around: don't drink. Just try it. Waking up feeling good instead of hungover, and having energy all day is really going to grow on you!
I still haven't give up drinking yet
I will tho
When I've had a few goes at it , I found Camille tea helps. A few cups is like a sedative, but a good one
Dunno if that helps
Good luck
Withdraw… please visit with your local doctor to make sure you’re OK
I enjoyed the video. I relate to most of what you said. The one exception; I don't have a problem with the label alcoholic. To me if you can't, or don't want to drink in moderation, you are an alcoholic.
I know it's tricky to quit but I also feel I spent years and thousands making a rod for my own back and did nothing about it until it was so obviously the only intelligent option left prior to outright killing myself and any future , brick by ugly brick
I have not mentioned alcohol on social media. This is partly because others have and I thought 'so what' . If anyone gets dismissive because of my abstention then they can't be classed as friends and never truely were . Anyone knowing I've quit has been told I'm taking a year off.. this somehow diffuses any misconception about the decision. Most drinkers wish they could cope with a year off, they just can't imagine it. This works really well as it is interpreted as a temporary and even commendable idea. I can avoid the 'life changing' conversations attached with these ultimate questions and meanwhile everyone but me loses track of time and gets used to me driving looking & behaving a bit sharper that before. It certainly feels sharper never again queuing up for rounds at £25+ a pop
Hi Nat, many thanks for your comment. Yes, you have to do what works best for you. Social media can be an excellent motivator for some but not for all. I would love for you to come back and keep me updated on your progress. Happy New Year to you!
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Can i recommend interviewing a person called Pip Davidson. He has a really good story. Helps people himself on UA-cam with alcohol. He has a channel called help with alcohol addiction. Would love to see you collaborate.
Many thanks for your comment. I will check them out :)
Pips a good guy, brutal honesty and can laugh at his past...
@@mountaintruth1deeds533 Unfortunately he's deleted his whole channel now.
Day 1 --I don’t drink every day but I drink way too much when I do drink. Trying to go 5 days without
20 days stopped smoking and alcohol after losing my dad
Condolences. I hope you are still doing well.
Keep up your excellent work! I love Iced Tazo Passion Tea with a few drops of Stevia in a stemware glass. YUMMY!
Thanks for sharing your stories!
It is my pleasure, Lois :) I am glad you like them!
Your Absolutely Right. But you left GOD out of the whole journey. 😏
GOD has to be a big part of recovery 🙏 ❤ read Bible or listen to...there are lots of videos on youtube ❤❤❤❤ youtube is my favorite way to read/watch 😊😊❤🙏
Слава Богу я трезва уже 27 лет! Благодаря Иисусу Христу! Он мне помог освободиться от этой ужасной зависимости! Я радуюсь каждый день! А раньше не представляла как жить без алкоголя!😇🙏❤️
What are some free online communities that helped you both that are not AA?
How do I stop drinking without medical help? 😩 I don't have insurance anymore any recommendations would be greatly appreciated
AA and a few benzos to get rid of the alcohol withdrawals.
Ohhh fancy graphics 👌
Haha! Yes we went all out :)
I need deep down basics. Hour by hour of how to get it done. Tapering & what does that look like...i ache, on my knees but its the withdrawls that scare me! I simply cant afford to get help. I have to do it with the Lord & me.
Keep trying!
Do one less drink a day until you stop
Talk to Jesus he will go through it with you. How are you now?
The longer i go without drink the less and less I'm motivated to mention it or make any big deal about it, certainly under my real identity. I'm happier under the radar with the wider world perceiving my insignificant lifestyle choices an extension on a calorie controlled diet or the most iron clad technique to give up tobacco and # .. which it is and I have . This is how my friends and family gets the news.. it isn't really news. I'm not sure if I want any congratulations for somehow shutting down decades of habitual destructive behaviour when most of my brothers and sisters were nowhere near as weak and wilfully ignorant as I have always been
Yes, I think at the start of the journey it is such a life changing thing that it is natural to want to share progress but as sobriety continues it becomes who you are as a person. Well done on also quitting the tobacco!
Gonna do 100 days starting Jan 2021....
Amazing to hear, Bobby! Please keep me updated with your progress. If you need any additional support, then please head over to my Facebook support community - facebook.com/groups/1960061840706240
@@besober I'm not on Facebook. But will deffo keep you informed on here
Bobby Lall then another 100, then another 100 ........ Yaay!!!!
@@besober I'm going good at the mo. Simon. Really not missing the booze. I'll be marching on through Feb and March...
How u getting on ?
UK has a notorious boozin culture .
Everyplace does!
@@suhubu1 You got a point...but some of them Muslim countries ...if they got , its very underground if you get caught , they will tan your hide publicly .
I am dannymunien olso trying to give up alcohol I am try for 2 month's
ALMOST TO RELAPSE NOW FRM DURBAV I AM 60 YEARS OLD
Do we need to tell anyone?,
Hi Simon, I think it is a personal choice and something to be done as and when you feel ready. Simon
I don't think so.
hi why does nobody talk about how much they drink and for how long?? I was traumatised as as a child n0w 52 started of slow but since my dad died I have been driningking 3 bottles of wine a day ?? I don't want AA can I go cold turkey?? I hate the taste I know I am punishing myself and my family and my grandchildren!!! there's more !!! I should make a video
All the black privilege didn’t stop her from being forced to resign.
Would have been nice if you normalized the audio levels. Your guest's voice is way quieter and it's annoying to have to adjust the volume constantly while listening.