I applaud you talking about breasts, nipples and breastfeeding. Thank you for normalizing it. So many influencers don’t share this. You’re the best mom
And the way she called a black team mate "looking like a monkey" and said the current gold team is lazy and subpar. She is pure racism and evil and will raise another little Nazi like herself.
Makayla i just want to say i love your content and i feel for you during this time. Don't let the hate get to you. Just keep focusing on yourself and your beautiful family. 😍. I am also a mom to a baby girl.. and guess what... she's freaking sleeping through the night now. I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel. Hang in there girly you are amazing 🎉
Proud of you for apology. You don't deserve any of this!! You are a new mom. You are exhausted. We say things we don't even know what we are saying. It really sucks you have to be judged publicly for your words that maybe you didn't articulate properly. Hang in there..always here for you girl
This is so refreshing to hear! I have a super fussy baby and all I see on social media are these unicorn babies that never cry and parents still having an easy going life. Thank you for being real!
She’s adorable. You guys are doing great. Thank you for being so real about the difficulties. Some people don’t talk about these things and when people do have kids they’re blindsided by how difficult it really is. Thank you for being real and informative!
My pediatrician called the first two months the "fourth trimester." They still want to be in the womb and this world is scary. That totally changed my thinking. It's so rough and it's okay to feel overwhelmed. Having a baby is not all sunshine and rainbows. You are doing GREAT. Hang in there. It does get better ❤
Thank you for sharing this. There’s not enough on the struggles of parenting and there’s no one answer that works. You’re both doing fantastic if she’s eating sleeping and pooping! She looks like she loves sleeping on Jonas! Love how much hair she has and how Jonas lights up when he talks about her and how Makayla looks at Jonas 🥹 she’s beautiful and you’re both amazing!! Hang in there! They only grow up once! (And fast!)
Charlotte is such a cutie. I know it's hard. Trying to get sleep the first few months. Take turns when possible. Hang in there. Eventually they sleep through the night, Being parents is a beautiful and wonderful experience. You both are doing great.
Thank you for being so real. Parenthood is the biggest shock of your life. It’s amazing, but absolutely relentless. Sleep deprivation is at an all time high for you guys now. It only gets better from here. Be nice to yourself and patient with each other. Also. Breastfeeding was really hard for me at the beginning, took 8 weeks to figure it out with our first, and 4 weeks with our second, but I fed them both till 16 months! It was the best and easiest way, in the end- so stick with it! Love the update.
I also agree that the 20 min per side is normal. I also had to ease up on the dairy intake bc it made baby gassy. That’s probably what the grunts are about, not constipation. I don’t know if they still make gas drops but they did wonders for mine. Another suggestion to ease her frustration is to pump until your milk letdowns then put her on so she won’t have to work so hard. Also lots of lanolin nipple cream, saved my nipples. Congrats again! She’s beautiful!
These days are sooooo hard! I can see the exhaustion on your faces! But, even still I can see the joy! I can tell Jonas is obsessed with this baby girl….I’ve never heard him talk and talk the way he did in this video (and I’ve watched every single one of your UA-cam vids 😂) I’m so happy for you….and Yesssss it gets easier! Just hang in there guys! Love you both so much and so glad you document your lives bc it’s so fun following along with you! ❤
Aw you guys…thanks for being so honest with your experience. I have a 3 year old and a 6 month old and I promise it gets easier! All of your struggles are very normal but yes it’s true - nothing or no one can prepare you for the huge life changing event that is your first baby ❤
Jonas hit the nail on the head.. Nobody can prepare you for those first few weeks.. Especially such young parents.! Your doing a great job she's a lucky girl
My first child was born Sept. 21st, 2003. I experienced much of the same things you are experiencing. Nursing was so hard and it hurt terribly. You can do it!! You are right when you say nothing can prepare you for this. Its just the craziest adjustment. I remember trying to figure out why noone talked about how freaking hard it is. It does get better. It does become enjoyable. Celebrate when you finally sleep through the night.
Jonas is such a proud and all in Dad! Charlotte is adorable and such a little angel. Makayla you are a fabulous Mom! You two go together so well and it is such a blessing that you work together so much. You have a beautiful little family. The newness will wear off and you will have a “normal” routine soon.
You are honestly describing my first born experience. Almost exactly! From the pregnancy to her birth. 28 years later she is doing the most amazing things! And she has her own little girl. Chin up. The many years of sleepless nights and sacrifice is well worth it! You can do this!
Jonas basically in the first 55 seconds: Have kids they said. It will be fun they said. 😂😂 I love it. So true. “First of all - no one prepares you for this.” Even out of context, this is just accurate when it comes to a baby. 😂😂😂
My first was exactly the same. She cried ALL day and seemed super frustrated, but by the age of two she was the most lovely, connected, delightful little girl. Some people just have a hard newborn phase. It will get better I promise.
The best advice I can give you when it comes to breastfeeding. Take care of your mental health. Maybe it will get easier, maybe it wont. Pray that it does. Try everything you can. But IF it doesn’t, don’t beat yourself up about it. I had that experience where I couldn’t breastfeed anymore after a month - birth complications long story lol- & I was devastated. That’s the best advice someone gave me. Good luck & sending all the prayers your way that baby girl latches & starts getting all the milk!! 💕😊 You got this, mama! You’re doing great! 💕
Everything you are saying is completely normal! Some babies cry A LOT, some not as much! My first screamed for 6 straight months and didn't sleep for longer than 4-5 hours for almost a year...but I had 2 more. You are in the trenches now but it will be gone in the blink of an eye and you; will miss having a newborn! I breastfed all 3 of mine and it was hard, painful, but it will get better and faster as time goes on, I promise. You feel like it's your whole life, because it is-20 minutes per side, every 2 hours-but this will pass quickly as well!! Hang in there and be kind to each other when you're both exhausted! It will get easier and be so so worth it!
I absolutely LOVE babies!!! Ahh. I’m so happy you have such a cute baby girl. And I see how much yall are excited about her no matter how hard it is. ❤
I’m here to say.. it gets so much easier. First month was the absolutely worst of it. Sleep, breastfeeding, emotions all of it. I now exclusively pump bc that’s less painful for me than breastfeeding and baby still gets the benefits of breast milk. I still have to supplement with some formula bc of how much she eats. My nipples have completely healed and I had a very similar experience to what you’re describing. You guys are doing amazing!!!
You poor thing 😭 this was the exact situation with my first born. We had to syringe feed him, he never slept, I had so much damage to my nipples and tried to just push through because it hurt SO bad. A lactation consultant had me take a couple days off and just pumped to bottle feed so my breasts could heal. The silverette nipple covers are amazing for healing! You are doing amazing, just hang in there!!!!
Great Job! One Day at a Time! Charlotte is Beautiful and Sweet. You’ll are figuring things out and doing a fantastic job every baby is different and only you know advice is wonderful all you can do is try. They don’t come with a manual. So its a try and see what works factor. Keep up the GREAT WORK! YOU’ll GOT THIS❤
Mom of 5 here with 11 week old baby ...it gets easier!!! First few months are always a little rough but it gets so fun and so worth it all❤️ nursed them all till 1yr hopefully can this one as well ❤️ having kids makes you realize what life really is all about! They're the best gifts ever
I agree and my last never had anything but breast milk for a year. It’s so rewarding knowing your body is keeping your sweet blessing alive and growing. So amazing ❤
This video brings me back to my first baby, these memories will fade, it gets easier. I think most of baby being difficult is just that parents are uneasy with their first and there's no way of avoiding that. Grandma's always got baby to sleep and relax but never us, i think we're so wound up. Subsequent babies are a totally different game i promise! Ya'll are amazing, really and truly, blessings to you!
My second was the fussy one and no one could calm her down. Even as she grew she only wanted me. That was totally exhausting but she’s 14 now and AMAZING.
You guys are amazing parents! The chiropractor session was so cool. You are doing great, everyday is problem solving in the beginning. It’s like harder than a job.
Our first few weeks were similar. Its made so much worse by the guilt you feel for not enjoying the newborn stage! Breastfeeding is the hardest thing I've ever done and I came *very* close to throwing in the towel. I struggled consistently for the first 3 months. Right around month 4, it was like a switch flipped and we're still going strong 12 months in. Ask and accept for help. It's the only way we make it through. You're not doing anything wrong -- babies are just SO hard!! Sending lots of love and sleepy vibes
I’m a neonatal RN… y’all are doing a great job. I’m not sure if you said you were doing this but if not give it a try… if she gets frustrated when first starting to nurse and latch on and she just keeps popping off. Pump for 2-3 mins first. This will initiate the let down reflex and gets your milk flowing faster so the baby doesn’t have to do it. Eventually she will get it and be able to do it herself. Also, do you use a swaddler? Swaddle her every time she goes to sleep. Babies sleep better because they are less likely to wake themselves up when they get that startle Reflex which makes them jump a little and it can scare them and wake them up. Being wrapped tightly helps lessen the movement. Plus swaddling even when sleeping makes them feel like they are still in the womb. Nice and tight warm and cozy. Y’all are so patient and happy. Congratulations ❤️
Congratulations! She is beautiful! Breastfeeding is hard at first, it takes some time for baby and mom to adjust to everything. Don’t give up out of frustration. I enjoyed breastfeeding once we both adjusted. I breastfed my daughter, I remember how much my nipples hurt for the first few weeks. Once we got through it , it wasn’t so bad. I never woke her up to feed. As my mom told me, she will let you know when she hungry. Let her sleep until she wakes up. My pediatrician told me “ babies aren’t used-to being out in the big in the world “ Have you tried giving her a pacifier when she is fussy? Your diet may be the issue. My daughter in law had to go dairy free after my grandson was born. It did help. My daughter in law used a nipple shield at first. That helped her . Again congratulations! I see the love and joy she has brought you two. Jonas is a very proud papa! She will have him wrapped around his little finger! You too are great parents!
Being new parents is tough!!My baby is almost 8 weeks old and the first 4 weeks were so hard my baby did not want to sleep at night at all! Around 5 weeks it started getting better and now he sleeps 6 hours at night. They only thing I did was keep it brighter during the day and dark and quiet at night. It felt like it was never going to get better. I hope it gets better! Congratulations on becoming parents!
We also did the chiropractor for both of my children. My son immediately saw improvement week after week with sleeping and comfort. He was also my best sleeper and sleep thru the night by 2.5 months
My first was like this too. Grunting all the time and very colicky. Try gas relief drops for the little miss. We used Little remedies gas relief. Helped a TON! And working her legs in a bicycle motion helps to relieve some gas too. You can look up videos for it. Just know it gets better! Sleep as much as possible and life will return to a happy balance again. My 2nd little girl just turned 9 months and she was a completely different baby. Such a dream, so don’t let this discourage you from growing a family either. I swore I was done after how hard our first was and I’m so glad I wasn’t haha.
This sounds like my husband and I with our first baby. Once she turns 12w old you'll see a drastic change. Just laugh through the long nights because it fades into them starting preschool in no time. Nothing prepares you, parenting is challenging because it's a life change. Just stay positive! You'll look back and say, wow I wish she was 3 weeks old again.... wait til she's a teen and everything is hard!
You should check into scheduling her naps during the day to help with the nights. When babies get overly tired during the day it can cause them to be very restless and agitated at night. Most people think it’s a feeding issue but it actually can be a daytime sleep issue. Just a suggestion if you are looking for something else to try. Good luck! It does get better!
Try not to get overwhelmed. You just do what’s best for you mentally and physically and emotionally. We are all on the path, but our journeys maybe different. You are AMAZING 🥰🥰🥰
I had a couple babies like that and a couple babies that were SO easy. Like taking care of a doll. I couldn’t believe how easy it was. So hopefully your next one is one of those. That might be why people didn’t warn you, because some babies are really easy. You’re doing a great job. Keep up the good work!
She is so beautiful!❤ I’m so excited for you. In my opinion the newborn phase is the hardest by far because of the lack of sleep. You do cry a lot from fatigue. That’s normal but just know you do get through it.
Yes! Chiropractors are amazing! My youngest had a traumatic birth and would only eat one side. We saw the chiropractor a couple times and she was able to start eating on both sides and was so much better. Take her back if she is still struggling. You are doing a great job!
Congratulations!! Try getting a la ration consultant if you can. I had a hard time with breastfeeding at the beginning, but a lactation consultant really helped. It shouldn’t be painful and they can give you suggestions for different ways to hold her and have her latch so it isn’t painful. Much love to your new family!
You guys are doing great! As a mom of 4, my biggest advice: when she is cranky WEAR HER IN A BABY WRAP! I love the solly wrap. It’s a complete game changer. You got this
I highly recommend the Moms On Call schedule! It's so helpful for learning wake windows. I started following their routine with my baby girl about a month in, and, while most days you'll have to stray a little bit from their actual times that they list, it was such a great guide to learn the best timing for her to eat, play, and sleep! My baby started sleeping longer stretches and then through the night pretty early - I know every baby is different, but it's worth a shot! Also, just want to say, HANG IN THERE!! It does get better. The first few months are hard because babies cry the most during this time since they have no other way to get their energy out, and they have no other way to communicate with you. It will get better, and more fun! You're doing great
My baby also spent 20mins feeding each side, till about 5 months old. Hang in there! After about that 5 month mark breastfeeding became something that was easy and wasn’t stressful anymore. If you think you’re babe might be in pain and crying a lot right after feeding due to gas or hard to get a burp out like it was for my baby I recommend looking at UA-cam videos for “burping methods for colic babies” this helped us tons! For us, the typical method of hitting their back didn’t work as well as other techniques. Also giving up dairy did help somewhat. After 5 months the gas/feeding issues went away. It’s also totally normal for newborns to wake every couple hours and normal for kids up to 3 yrs old to wake throughout the night. But during that newborn phase keeping things dark at night (only use a dim nightlight) when she wakes will help her circadian rhythm. Having a baby with colic can be really hard but it sounds like you both are doing great. Wearing a baby in a wrap can help a lot if your baby likes it. For me the 4 month sleep regression was worse than the newborn stage but it’s different for everyone and eventually you learn to go to bed early and prioritize rest and napping and a rhythm that works for you and Jonas to take turns. It does get better!
My son was like this too. It turned out he had a tongue-tie. Even the hospital's lactation nurse didn't notice it. I went to a private lactation consultant who was awesome. She diagnosed my son with a posterior tongue-tie. Tongue-ties make breastfeeding very difficult. If Charlotte has one, she'll have to get it released, most likely at a pediatric dentist who does it via laser. It's a game changer! Don't give up on breastfeeding, I almost did because my mother-in-law kept insinuating that I didn't have enough milk, but in reality it was my son's tongue-tie preventing him from sucking milk out efficiently. The more she sucks out, the more it signals your body to make more milk. If you give her a bottle, please make sure you pump. Also, I learned not to go by every 2 or 3 hrs to feed, but feed her on-demand. Sounds like she needs fix her latch....get into a very experienced lactation consultant to check for that tongue-tie. My second baby did NOT have a tongue-tie and breastfeeding was 1000% better with him.
It's obvious you're doing a great job! The newborn phase is indescribably difficult, and breastfeeding my two kids is the hardest thing I've ever done. Period. It hurt like heck for the first six weeks, and being exhausted all the time made it seem worse. My newborns hated sleep and cried constantly!! But, IT WILL GET BETTER. Seriously. I used to say this to myself, out loud, every day. And it does get better and easier. You will eventually sleep again. Breastfeeding will eventually hurt less. You will be so, so glad if you stick with it. A mother's milk is exactly what her baby needs, and all the discomfort will be worth it when you see your baby grow and flourish. Hang in there, and eat the food that makes you feel good. All the advice about eliminating certain things from your diet is a bunch of hooey!! Most newborns get gassy and constipated..a lot..:) Totally normal!!
Little ones can have a “witching hour” in the evening likely due to being overtired (which you can’t prevent it’s just part of development!) my little guy did that and it went away around 6 weeks! I just rocked him in a dark room with white noise and sometimes I tried nursing like you guys are doing! It gets easier the first 3 months are intense.
Baby girl, you will get used to it. I have one in college and one on the way and I’m revived after six hours asleep still lol. BTW, when you gonna get that Nanny so you can come back? You are very missed..❤️🙏🏾
Try white noise, static or running the vacuum when she’s screaming. I had a colicky baby, she grew out of it around 3 months. Mine’s 27 now, cherish every moment ❤❤❤
Love this video so much I feel it IN MY SOUL hahaha. Hang in there!!! I promise it gets easier! Eventually breastfeeding will be like second nature with no pain! The first 6-8 weeks are ROUGH! So so rough. Definitely think about your diet - as long as you’re nursing, whatever goes in YOUR mouth will end up in your milk. Cutting dairy for the first few months is super common - babies are very sensitive to it at first :) so normal! You’ve got this! You both do! Also - you’re on the same team! Remember that at 2am when Lottie is screaming and your boobs hurt and you’re so tired you can’t see straight. You are both wanting the same thing - being sleep deprived just makes everything feel so much harder. ❤
Thanks for talking about the difficulties that come with breastfeeding. I also had a hard time and was ultimately unsuccessful, but I was so unprepared for the challenge because not enough people talk about the hard things!
My son is this same way. He started out not eating very well so we did skin to skin non stop and latched him then topped off with a bottle to make sure he was full and now at 7 weeks we're e clusively nursing.
Thank you for talking about breasts, nipples and breastfeeding and normalizing it because a lot of influencers that I watch really don't talk about it! Charlotte is so cute! You are doing great mama!
Had our 4th 3 weeks ago 🖤. A game changer for the pain is making sure the latch is correct and nipple cream after every feed and pump session. The nurses didn't really teach me the correct latch, just shoved them on, had to google it lol. Also she could be grunting from gas. I recently cut out dairy (love dairy 😬) and it's helped a bunch. Cluster feeding is exhausting lol.
My oldest was exactly everything you described. People didn’t actually believe me that she could cry between 2-7 hours… a day… you will survive this. Mine didn’t regulate until almost a year. She took longer than the 3 months everyone suggested. However, she is now 16 years old and her two younger brothers were WAY EASIER as babies! This SHALL pass….
I think its parents jitters, mine exact same too. But was someone experienced like grandma always able to settle them? They are so calm and we're first time parents so everything is new and stressful even if you think you're chill
She’s so adorable. My grandson used to cry like that. The one thing we did was used a smaller blanket like a receiving blanket and swaddle him nice and snug. He needed to feel secure.
You guys are doing great! My little one had similar fussy evenings and grunting (gassy belly), so I stopped eating dairy, beans, and gluten. Fixed it all up within a week! Their little bodies can’t always digest those things well so they get gas and cry a lot as a result of the gas being uncomfy. Hang in there - you guys can do it!!
Mykayla you look awesome and Charlotte is beautiful. You are both doing awesome it does a lot of time to adjust to having a little one around, you will figure it out.
This sounds like me with my first baby! When I had my second I would leave her around the house and she would fall asleep and I kept thinking to myself “babies actually sleep!?” Some babies are just different, and more sensitive. I will say that your breastfeeding experience sounds a lot like mine, and by 6 weeks was when the pain finally went away. Keep going, it feels so hard right now but you guys will find it does get better, little by little. Being a parent is the hardest thing I’ve ever done and I don’t think people could ever prepare you for it at all.
you are doing amazing mama!!! It does in fact get easier and those first 2 months are really hard and painful. One thing or product I truly love is the kiinde bottling system it’s very convenient and less washing of bottles also no milk transfer ever so it’s the one thing I gift to all my new mama friends! Also fun fact my daughter Oakley was born on the day me and my husband met too 🖤 makes it extra special! - Rachel
My newborn did all the same things and week 7 is so much better milk is regulating, baby chiropractor helped, and we got to know each other and i figufed him out more. And numbwr 2 was sooo different than number 1! You got this
The same thing happened with me and breastfeeding. After 2.5 months postpartum, breastfeeding got easier. However, I am 10 months pp and baby still LOVES breastfeeding and also wakes me up every two hours to feed/comfort feed and we have started solids. Maybe eventually he’ll sleep through the night? Idk. But I applaud you for pushing through. First few months are wild. It does get better. And as you see her hit milestones, it is even better and makes the journey more manageable and memorable. ❤
Lol you guys are cracking me up! Yes it’s hard someday you will get normal sleep but it does take awhile! Your bf journey sounds very similar to how mine started. Keep pushing thru! I honestly felt that it was harder than giving birth. But, it does get easier I’ve now bf both my kiddos each for a year. It is worth it, we did supplement once a day just to give myself a break 😅. Keep going tho, your doing amazing ❤❤❤
I have a 10 month old- those first two months are so hard!! I will say for sleep that NO one told me sadly: cosleep!!! (with a sidecar basinet) and just keep the baby on the boob is totally okay if done safely especially for the first few months. I will 100% be doing it for our next baby. Just remember you're doing great and they are little humans just like us and have good days/bad days and it will be okay!!!
Have you tried "wearing" her in a baby cloth sling or newborn-appropriate carrier? :) If she is crying, put her in and go about your day. Being close to you, hearing your heartbeat and smelling you will soothe her eventually. Sometimes less is more. And it relaxes you, too. Of course, it may vary but as a midwife experience, it ALWAYS worked ❤ They "tell you" everything they experience through crying and body contact reduces their stress level :) I carried my own children basically all day for six months and we loved it😊 Good luck. You are doing great and thanks for your honest reports!
I see myself listening to you talk. I said to all my friends don't have babies haha. I have a 3 month old. The first 8-9 weeks were HARD. At 6 weeks I crashed, I felt so overwhelmed and the adrenaline wore off by then. I felt so depressed and down. It DOES GET BETTER. It's not just a myth, I hung on to the 3 month "gets better" promise and it really does. Babies get more interesting as well, and wait until they smile! Baby wearing saved my sanity when she would cry for hours during the witching hour. In regards to constipation we've done this to help our newborn with constipation: bigaia (probiotics), fennel tea (when we moved to bottle feeding), Roman chamomille hydrolate and nux vomica (homeopathy). Hang in there, you've got this. Oh and if breastfeeding is draining you, you are not a bad mom for moving on to formula. I have cried so many hours during my breastfeeding journey, and cried so much when I couldn't do it anymore due to tongue tie and repetitive infections on my side. The anxiety it was giving me. Pumping every 3h night and day just finished me. I wanted to breastfeed so bad I hung in there but I came out way more exhausted and it pulled me down. If it doesn't work and you are struggling, don't push yourself too hard.
Lmao mykala!!! I love your honesty that face u made with breastfeeding....I laughed soooo hard my son did the same thing! It does get better...I wish I had suggestions....its just time...and Jonas...it does hurt! And each kid is not always the same...my daughter was completely different...I think its God's way of tricking us to have more 😂
20 min a side is totally normal Mykayla , my babies all three of them are also like that . Have you had her checked her for tongue and lip ties ? Do you eat dairy if so try lessening that . Hang in there being new parents is rough . You are doing great
Mom of 6 here, you're doing a fantastic job. Hang in there. It's tough. I've had 3, really, really hard babies. 5 of them had food intolerances and for two of them I ate chicken and sweet potatoes for 7 weeks to figure out what they were reacting to. I would recommend cutting any dairy and gluten. But I would also recommend Tiny Health gut test. It is life saving. My 6th reacted to everything, never slept and developed eczema. I did the test, implemented the specific probiotics he needed and he was a completely different baby in less than two weeks. From sleeping 2 hours at a time at 8 months old to 9+hours by 10 months. Totally worth it. I would also check tongue ties. All of my kids have had one but I didn't get any of them revised until my 5 and breastfeeding completely changed overnight. Just a few things that I tell my other mom friend who have had success like I have had so I'm passing it along to you!
My son was had colic so bad for 4 months that we had to put him in his swing with the vacuum on leaned up against it so the vibrations could come through the swing lok yeah it was rough, but i promise it will get better just trust your gut and do what you have to so you can get through it and try not to get to frustrated which i know is hard. Trying cuddling with her in a warm bath that helped my son a bit and would calm him down
I ended up switching to exclusively pumping and that was so much better for me. More dishes. But nursing just never got comfortable so I was so much happier. Maybe check into silent reflux too- starting treatment for that made a big difference for one of my kids.
I wish someone would’ve told me when I was a first time mom that it WILL get easier and eventually your baby WILL sleep! It seems like it will never end and you’re never going to sleep again but it will happen! Hang in there!
Our son was the same as Charlotte. We almost went insane. He wouldn't sleep, no napping, grunting, crying. Finally someone suggest Good Start formula. Pediatrician said it wouldn't make ant difference. We finally bit the bullet and tried it and within 24 hours we had a different baby. Good Start is whey based not lactose based. I know you want to breastfeed but a happy mom and baby is the most important thing.
The biggest thing for me that took me a long time to realize (I exclusively breastfed for 7 months) is, do whatever makes you happy. I hateddd breastfeeding. But I felt so pressured and like a bad mom if I didn’t breastfeed. I wish I would have switched to formula at least a little bit a lot sooner. I would have definitely enjoyed the newborn stage a lot more if I wasn’t so miserable with the breastfeeding. Do whatever you need to do to be happy, happy parents make for a happy baby. Absolutely no one prepares you for becoming parents. My husband and I have tried to be so open with other couples that it’s sooo hard. You wouldn’t change it for the world, but that first year of adjustment is shocking, especially for pro athletes who are so used to a fast paced lifestyle. It will get better, just give yourselves grace, work as a team, and don’t constantly wait for the “it will get better” phase. It does get better but the challenges change over the years. Prioritize your marriage, it’s 10 times harder if you don’t work together. You guys are true best friends at the end of the day and no matter how hard it gets you have each other. Hugs, I know I really needed one at this stage. You guys are seen and heard there are people out there that really have experienced what you’re going through. ❤
One day at a time 🤍 It will just be a faded memory before you know it- even though it's so hard right now. She will never be this little again. Tomorrow she will be another day older. Prayers! 💗
Hey Mykayla! I would definitely look into a IBCLC! It helped me tremendously with my breastfeeding journey with my daughter. They’ll help you so much with getting her latch and that should help your nipples not hurt as much. Breastfeeding is not easy and nothing really prepares you for it.
Hii! I am by no means an expert but I’m a first time mom with a 9 month old. Those first few weeks I was DESPERATE to figure out how to stretch the night feeds and how to get baby to not be on my boob constantly. I used taking Cara babies also. Most of it gets better with time but I hated hearing that so I’m going to give you a few things that helped me. 1. If baby is taking a long time to feed, maybe she is falling asleep. I had to strip my baby down to his diaper and give his little feet some tickles to keep him awake. 2. Make sure to feed every two hours during the day and that can help baby sleep longer . 3. Tight swaddle! We used a Jersey fabric swaddle over the sleep sacks until he was bigger. 4. Bedtime routine! It may seem way too early but it’s not. We found that a bath every night helped SO much. We didn’t use soap every night but just the warm water helped. 5. If you end up pumping, get a nipple insert. Most pumps have too large of nipple diameters for the average gal. Amazon has ones that are compatible with different pumps. Those long feeds, cluster feeds, and snuggles at the breast will do wonders for your supply. It’s all driven by supply and demand in those first months. You got this mama!
I applaud you talking about breasts, nipples and breastfeeding. Thank you for normalizing it. So many influencers don’t share this. You’re the best mom
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And the way she called a black team mate "looking like a monkey" and said the current gold team is lazy and subpar. She is pure racism and evil and will raise another little Nazi like herself.
Makayla i just want to say i love your content and i feel for you during this time. Don't let the hate get to you. Just keep focusing on yourself and your beautiful family. 😍. I am also a mom to a baby girl.. and guess what... she's freaking sleeping through the night now. I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel. Hang in there girly you are amazing 🎉
Proud of you for apology. You don't deserve any of this!! You are a new mom. You are exhausted. We say things we don't even know what we are saying. It really sucks you have to be judged publicly for your words that maybe you didn't articulate properly. Hang in there..always here for you girl
This is so refreshing to hear! I have a super fussy baby and all I see on social media are these unicorn babies that never cry and parents still having an easy going life. Thank you for being real!
She’s adorable. You guys are doing great. Thank you for being so real about the difficulties. Some people don’t talk about these things and when people do have kids they’re blindsided by how difficult it really is. Thank you for being real and informative!
Right ❤
My pediatrician called the first two months the "fourth trimester." They still want to be in the womb and this world is scary. That totally changed my thinking. It's so rough and it's okay to feel overwhelmed. Having a baby is not all sunshine and rainbows. You are doing GREAT. Hang in there. It does get better ❤
Thank you for sharing this. There’s not enough on the struggles of parenting and there’s no one answer that works. You’re both doing fantastic if she’s eating sleeping and pooping! She looks like she loves sleeping on Jonas! Love how much hair she has and how Jonas lights up when he talks about her and how Makayla looks at Jonas 🥹 she’s beautiful and you’re both amazing!! Hang in there! They only grow up once! (And fast!)
Charlotte is such a cutie. I know it's hard. Trying to get sleep the first few months. Take turns when possible. Hang in there. Eventually they sleep through the night, Being parents is a beautiful and wonderful experience. You both are doing great.
Thank you for being so real. Parenthood is the biggest shock of your life. It’s amazing, but absolutely relentless. Sleep deprivation is at an all time high for you guys now. It only gets better from here. Be nice to yourself and patient with each other.
Also. Breastfeeding was really hard for me at the beginning, took 8 weeks to figure it out with our first, and 4 weeks with our second, but I fed them both till 16 months! It was the best and easiest way, in the end- so stick with it!
Love the update.
I also agree that the 20 min per side is normal. I also had to ease up on the dairy intake bc it made baby gassy. That’s probably what the grunts are about, not constipation. I don’t know if they still make gas drops but they did wonders for mine. Another suggestion to ease her frustration is to pump until your milk letdowns then put her on so she won’t have to work so hard. Also lots of lanolin nipple cream, saved my nipples. Congrats again! She’s beautiful!
These days are sooooo hard! I can see the exhaustion on your faces! But, even still I can see the joy! I can tell Jonas is obsessed with this baby girl….I’ve never heard him talk and talk the way he did in this video (and I’ve watched every single one of your UA-cam vids 😂) I’m so happy for you….and Yesssss it gets easier! Just hang in there guys! Love you both so much and so glad you document your lives bc it’s so fun following along with you! ❤
It’s refreshing to see Jonas be the primary complainer. All love to both. You are both blessed. ❤
Aw you guys…thanks for being so honest with your experience. I have a 3 year old and a 6 month old and I promise it gets easier! All of your struggles are very normal but yes it’s true - nothing or no one can prepare you for the huge life changing event that is your first baby ❤
Jonas hit the nail on the head.. Nobody can prepare you for those first few weeks.. Especially such young parents.! Your doing a great job she's a lucky girl
My first child was born Sept. 21st, 2003. I experienced much of the same things you are experiencing. Nursing was so hard and it hurt terribly. You can do it!! You are right when you say nothing can prepare you for this. Its just the craziest adjustment. I remember trying to figure out why noone talked about how freaking hard it is. It does get better. It does become enjoyable. Celebrate when you finally sleep through the night.
I think its because once you're on the other side you totally forget! Like watching this video I'm dang yes I forgot how hard it was!
Yup.this is soooo true.. you forget how hard it is lol @Farmerk3547
Jonas is such a proud and all in Dad! Charlotte is adorable and such a little angel. Makayla you are a fabulous Mom! You two go together so well and it is such a blessing that you work together so much. You have a beautiful little family. The newness will wear off and you will have a “normal” routine soon.
You are honestly describing my first born experience. Almost exactly! From the pregnancy to her birth. 28 years later she is doing the most amazing things! And she has her own little girl.
Chin up. The many years of sleepless nights and sacrifice is well worth it!
You can do this!
Jonas basically in the first 55 seconds: Have kids they said. It will be fun they said. 😂😂 I love it. So true.
“First of all - no one prepares you for this.” Even out of context, this is just accurate when it comes to a baby. 😂😂😂
My first was exactly the same. She cried ALL day and seemed super frustrated, but by the age of two she was the most lovely, connected, delightful little girl. Some people just have a hard newborn phase. It will get better I promise.
The best advice I can give you when it comes to breastfeeding. Take care of your mental health. Maybe it will get easier, maybe it wont. Pray that it does. Try everything you can. But IF it doesn’t, don’t beat yourself up about it. I had that experience where I couldn’t breastfeed anymore after a month - birth complications long story lol- & I was devastated. That’s the best advice someone gave me. Good luck & sending all the prayers your way that baby girl latches & starts getting all the milk!! 💕😊 You got this, mama! You’re doing great! 💕
Lovely to see your update. Myk, motherhood suits you so much; you look so radiant and beautiful ❤
Yall are doing great! Hang in there!!
Its really cute seeing Jonas so smitten by Lottie!!!
Everything you are saying is completely normal! Some babies cry A LOT, some not as much! My first screamed for 6 straight months and didn't sleep for longer than 4-5 hours for almost a year...but I had 2 more. You are in the trenches now but it will be gone in the blink of an eye and you; will miss having a newborn! I breastfed all 3 of mine and it was hard, painful, but it will get better and faster as time goes on, I promise. You feel like it's your whole life, because it is-20 minutes per side, every 2 hours-but this will pass quickly as well!! Hang in there and be kind to each other when you're both exhausted! It will get easier and be so so worth it!
I absolutely LOVE babies!!! Ahh. I’m so happy you have such a cute baby girl. And I see how much yall are excited about her no matter how hard it is. ❤
I’m here to say.. it gets so much easier. First month was the absolutely worst of it. Sleep, breastfeeding, emotions all of it. I now exclusively pump bc that’s less painful for me than breastfeeding and baby still gets the benefits of breast milk. I still have to supplement with some formula bc of how much she eats. My nipples have completely healed and I had a very similar experience to what you’re describing. You guys are doing amazing!!!
You poor thing 😭 this was the exact situation with my first born. We had to syringe feed him, he never slept, I had so much damage to my nipples and tried to just push through because it hurt SO bad. A lactation consultant had me take a couple days off and just pumped to bottle feed so my breasts could heal. The silverette nipple covers are amazing for healing! You are doing amazing, just hang in there!!!!
Great Job! One Day at a Time! Charlotte is Beautiful and Sweet. You’ll are figuring things out and doing a fantastic job every baby is different and only you know advice is wonderful all you can do is try. They don’t come with a manual. So its a try and see what works factor.
Keep up the GREAT WORK! YOU’ll GOT THIS❤
Mom of 5 here with 11 week old baby ...it gets easier!!! First few months are always a little rough but it gets so fun and so worth it all❤️ nursed them all till 1yr hopefully can this one as well ❤️ having kids makes you realize what life really is all about! They're the best gifts ever
I agree and my last never had anything but breast milk for a year. It’s so rewarding knowing your body is keeping your sweet blessing alive and growing. So amazing ❤
This video brings me back to my first baby, these memories will fade, it gets easier. I think most of baby being difficult is just that parents are uneasy with their first and there's no way of avoiding that. Grandma's always got baby to sleep and relax but never us, i think we're so wound up. Subsequent babies are a totally different game i promise! Ya'll are amazing, really and truly, blessings to you!
My second was the fussy one and no one could calm her down. Even as she grew she only wanted me. That was totally exhausting but she’s 14 now and AMAZING.
You guys are amazing parents! The chiropractor session was so cool. You are doing great, everyday is problem solving in the beginning. It’s like harder than a job.
Our first few weeks were similar. Its made so much worse by the guilt you feel for not enjoying the newborn stage! Breastfeeding is the hardest thing I've ever done and I came *very* close to throwing in the towel. I struggled consistently for the first 3 months. Right around month 4, it was like a switch flipped and we're still going strong 12 months in. Ask and accept for help. It's the only way we make it through. You're not doing anything wrong -- babies are just SO hard!! Sending lots of love and sleepy vibes
I’m a neonatal RN… y’all are doing a great job. I’m not sure if you said you were doing this but if not give it a try… if she gets frustrated when first starting to nurse and latch on and she just keeps popping off. Pump for 2-3 mins first. This will initiate the let down reflex and gets your milk flowing faster so the baby doesn’t have to do it. Eventually she will get it and be able to do it herself.
Also, do you use a swaddler? Swaddle her every time she goes to sleep. Babies sleep better because they are less likely to wake themselves up when they get that startle Reflex which makes them jump a little and it can scare them and wake them up. Being wrapped tightly helps lessen the movement. Plus swaddling even when sleeping makes them feel like they are still in the womb. Nice and tight warm and cozy.
Y’all are so patient and happy. Congratulations ❤️
It's hard! Do your best everyday. The love and affection you give her everyday is/will calming her. I believe you guys will be great parents.
Congratulations! She is beautiful!
Breastfeeding is hard at first, it takes some time for baby and mom to adjust to everything. Don’t give up out of frustration. I enjoyed breastfeeding once we both adjusted.
I breastfed my daughter, I remember how much my nipples hurt for the first few weeks. Once we got through it , it wasn’t so bad.
I never woke her up to feed. As my mom told me, she will let you know when she hungry. Let her sleep until she wakes up.
My pediatrician told me “ babies aren’t used-to being out in the big in the world “
Have you tried giving her a pacifier when she is fussy?
Your diet may be the issue. My daughter in law had to go dairy free after my grandson was born. It did help. My daughter in law used a nipple shield at first. That helped her .
Again congratulations! I see the love and joy she has brought you two. Jonas is a very proud papa! She will have him wrapped around his little finger!
You too are great parents!
Being new parents is tough!!My baby is almost 8 weeks old and the first 4 weeks were so hard my baby did not want to sleep at night at all! Around 5 weeks it started getting better and now he sleeps 6 hours at night. They only thing I did was keep it brighter during the day and dark and quiet at night. It felt like it was never going to get better. I hope it gets better! Congratulations on becoming parents!
We also did the chiropractor for both of my children. My son immediately saw improvement week after week with sleeping and comfort. He was also my best sleeper and sleep thru the night by 2.5 months
You are doing an amazing job! Things get better, I promise!
So cute! Love the baby's hair! You are great parents!
My first was like this too. Grunting all the time and very colicky. Try gas relief drops for the little miss. We used Little remedies gas relief. Helped a TON! And working her legs in a bicycle motion helps to relieve some gas too. You can look up videos for it. Just know it gets better! Sleep as much as possible and life will return to a happy balance again. My 2nd little girl just turned 9 months and she was a completely different baby. Such a dream, so don’t let this discourage you from growing a family either. I swore I was done after how hard our first was and I’m so glad I wasn’t haha.
This sounds like my husband and I with our first baby. Once she turns 12w old you'll see a drastic change. Just laugh through the long nights because it fades into them starting preschool in no time. Nothing prepares you, parenting is challenging because it's a life change. Just stay positive! You'll look back and say, wow I wish she was 3 weeks old again.... wait til she's a teen and everything is hard!
You should check into scheduling her naps during the day to help with the nights. When babies get overly tired during the day it can cause them to be very restless and agitated at night. Most people think it’s a feeding issue but it actually can be a daytime sleep issue. Just a suggestion if you are looking for something else to try. Good luck! It does get better!
Try not to get overwhelmed. You just do what’s best for you mentally and physically and emotionally. We are all on the path, but our journeys maybe different. You are AMAZING 🥰🥰🥰
I had a couple babies like that and a couple babies that were SO easy. Like taking care of a doll. I couldn’t believe how easy it was. So hopefully your next one is one of those. That might be why people didn’t warn you, because some babies are really easy. You’re doing a great job. Keep up the good work!
She is so beautiful!❤ I’m so excited for you. In my opinion the newborn phase is the hardest by far because of the lack of sleep. You do cry a lot from fatigue. That’s normal but just know you do get through it.
Yes! Chiropractors are amazing! My youngest had a traumatic birth and would only eat one side. We saw the chiropractor a couple times and she was able to start eating on both sides and was so much better. Take her back if she is still struggling. You are doing a great job!
I love her name! Thanks for always being real with us you guys.
Congratulations!! Try getting a la ration consultant if you can. I had a hard time with breastfeeding at the beginning, but a lactation consultant really helped. It shouldn’t be painful and they can give you suggestions for different ways to hold her and have her latch so it isn’t painful. Much love to your new family!
You guys are doing great! As a mom of 4, my biggest advice: when she is cranky WEAR HER IN A BABY WRAP! I love the solly wrap. It’s a complete game changer. You got this
Get an Ergo too, for Jonas.
I highly recommend the Moms On Call schedule! It's so helpful for learning wake windows. I started following their routine with my baby girl about a month in, and, while most days you'll have to stray a little bit from their actual times that they list, it was such a great guide to learn the best timing for her to eat, play, and sleep! My baby started sleeping longer stretches and then through the night pretty early - I know every baby is different, but it's worth a shot! Also, just want to say, HANG IN THERE!! It does get better. The first few months are hard because babies cry the most during this time since they have no other way to get their energy out, and they have no other way to communicate with you. It will get better, and more fun! You're doing great
My baby also spent 20mins feeding each side, till about 5 months old. Hang in there! After about that 5 month mark breastfeeding became something that was easy and wasn’t stressful anymore. If you think you’re babe might be in pain and crying a lot right after feeding due to gas or hard to get a burp out like it was for my baby I recommend looking at UA-cam videos for “burping methods for colic babies” this helped us tons! For us, the typical method of hitting their back didn’t work as well as other techniques. Also giving up dairy did help somewhat. After 5 months the gas/feeding issues went away. It’s also totally normal for newborns to wake every couple hours and normal for kids up to 3 yrs old to wake throughout the night. But during that newborn phase keeping things dark at night (only use a dim nightlight) when she wakes will help her circadian rhythm. Having a baby with colic can be really hard but it sounds like you both are doing great. Wearing a baby in a wrap can help a lot if your baby likes it. For me the 4 month sleep regression was worse than the newborn stage but it’s different for everyone and eventually you learn to go to bed early and prioritize rest and napping and a rhythm that works for you and Jonas to take turns. It does get better!
My son was like this too. It turned out he had a tongue-tie. Even the hospital's lactation nurse didn't notice it. I went to a private lactation consultant who was awesome. She diagnosed my son with a posterior tongue-tie. Tongue-ties make breastfeeding very difficult. If Charlotte has one, she'll have to get it released, most likely at a pediatric dentist who does it via laser. It's a game changer! Don't give up on breastfeeding, I almost did because my mother-in-law kept insinuating that I didn't have enough milk, but in reality it was my son's tongue-tie preventing him from sucking milk out efficiently. The more she sucks out, the more it signals your body to make more milk. If you give her a bottle, please make sure you pump. Also, I learned not to go by every 2 or 3 hrs to feed, but feed her on-demand. Sounds like she needs fix her latch....get into a very experienced lactation consultant to check for that tongue-tie. My second baby did NOT have a tongue-tie and breastfeeding was 1000% better with him.
Aw nice video mykayla and jonas Charlotte is so cute
It's obvious you're doing a great job! The newborn phase is indescribably difficult, and breastfeeding my two kids is the hardest thing I've ever done. Period. It hurt like heck for the first six weeks, and being exhausted all the time made it seem worse. My newborns hated sleep and cried constantly!! But, IT WILL GET BETTER. Seriously. I used to say this to myself, out loud, every day. And it does get better and easier. You will eventually sleep again. Breastfeeding will eventually hurt less. You will be so, so glad if you stick with it. A mother's milk is exactly what her baby needs, and all the discomfort will be worth it when you see your baby grow and flourish. Hang in there, and eat the food that makes you feel good. All the advice about eliminating certain things from your diet is a bunch of hooey!! Most newborns get gassy and constipated..a lot..:) Totally normal!!
Little ones can have a “witching hour” in the evening likely due to being overtired (which you can’t prevent it’s just part of development!) my little guy did that and it went away around 6 weeks! I just rocked him in a dark room with white noise and sometimes I tried nursing like you guys are doing! It gets easier the first 3 months are intense.
Also the sleep will get better! My little at three weeks did the same thing! The sleep gets better as they get older!
Baby girl, you will get used to it. I have one in college and one on the way and I’m revived after six hours asleep still lol. BTW, when you gonna get that Nanny so you can come back? You are very missed..❤️🙏🏾
Try white noise, static or running the vacuum when she’s screaming. I had a colicky baby, she grew out of it around 3 months. Mine’s 27 now, cherish every moment ❤❤❤
Love this video so much I feel it IN MY SOUL hahaha. Hang in there!!! I promise it gets easier! Eventually breastfeeding will be like second nature with no pain! The first 6-8 weeks are ROUGH! So so rough. Definitely think about your diet - as long as you’re nursing, whatever goes in YOUR mouth will end up in your milk. Cutting dairy for the first few months is super common - babies are very sensitive to it at first :) so normal! You’ve got this! You both do! Also - you’re on the same team! Remember that at 2am when Lottie is screaming and your boobs hurt and you’re so tired you can’t see straight. You are both wanting the same thing - being sleep deprived just makes everything feel so much harder. ❤
ALSO - you’re learning as you go! So is she 😉 she’ll always be your Guinea pig. 🥰
Thanks for talking about the difficulties that come with breastfeeding. I also had a hard time and was ultimately unsuccessful, but I was so unprepared for the challenge because not enough people talk about the hard things!
My son is this same way. He started out not eating very well so we did skin to skin non stop and latched him then topped off with a bottle to make sure he was full and now at 7 weeks we're e clusively nursing.
She’s so beautiful!!! I love her hair 😊
Thank you for talking about breasts, nipples and breastfeeding and normalizing it because a lot of influencers that I watch really don't talk about it! Charlotte is so cute! You are doing great mama!
Had our 4th 3 weeks ago 🖤. A game changer for the pain is making sure the latch is correct and nipple cream after every feed and pump session. The nurses didn't really teach me the correct latch, just shoved them on, had to google it lol. Also she could be grunting from gas. I recently cut out dairy (love dairy 😬) and it's helped a bunch. Cluster feeding is exhausting lol.
LOL. How I don’t miss those days! Our first born slept through the night after 7 weeks, so there’s hope for you still! 😂😂😂
My oldest was exactly everything you described. People didn’t actually believe me that she could cry between 2-7 hours… a day… you will survive this. Mine didn’t regulate until almost a year. She took longer than the 3 months everyone suggested. However, she is now 16 years old and her two younger brothers were WAY EASIER as babies! This SHALL pass….
Why do you think this happened btw?
My Mom also said I was the same 😯
I think its parents jitters, mine exact same too. But was someone experienced like grandma always able to settle them? They are so calm and we're first time parents so everything is new and stressful even if you think you're chill
You will like them better when they Coo and smile at you.
She’s so adorable. My grandson used to cry like that. The one thing we did was used a smaller blanket like a receiving blanket and swaddle him nice and snug. He needed to feel secure.
You look fantastic Mykayla…….it really does get easier as time goes by and she is super cute.
You guys are doing great! My little one had similar fussy evenings and grunting (gassy belly), so I stopped eating dairy, beans, and gluten. Fixed it all up within a week! Their little bodies can’t always digest those things well so they get gas and cry a lot as a result of the gas being uncomfy. Hang in there - you guys can do it!!
MyKayla!!! you are glowing
Aww your baby girl was born the day before mine :) very cool to watch your videos, going through the same things :)
It's SO hard. My little one is 7months now and the best advice my mom gave me is "you can
do hard things" ❤️
Mykayla you look awesome and Charlotte is beautiful. You are both doing awesome it does a lot of time to adjust to having a little one around, you will figure it out.
This sounds like me with my first baby! When I had my second I would leave her around the house and she would fall asleep and I kept thinking to myself “babies actually sleep!?” Some babies are just different, and more sensitive. I will say that your breastfeeding experience sounds a lot like mine, and by 6 weeks was when the pain finally went away. Keep going, it feels so hard right now but you guys will find it does get better, little by little. Being a parent is the hardest thing I’ve ever done and I don’t think people could ever prepare you for it at all.
I didn't even know you were pregnant congratulations on your new arrival ❤🎉 it will get easier, time really does fly!
you are doing amazing mama!!! It does in fact get easier and those first 2 months are really hard and painful. One thing or product I truly love is the kiinde bottling system it’s very convenient and less washing of bottles also no milk transfer ever so it’s the one thing I gift to all my new mama friends!
Also fun fact my daughter Oakley was born on the day me and my husband met too 🖤 makes it extra special!
- Rachel
My newborn did all the same things and week 7 is so much better milk is regulating, baby chiropractor helped, and we got to know each other and i figufed him out more. And numbwr 2 was sooo different than number 1! You got this
I love her hair! She is absolutely beautiful.
"I'm telling you guys, she loves screaming." 😂. Oh gosh. I only laugh because I know it so well. My baby was just like this. It gets easier!
The same thing happened with me and breastfeeding. After 2.5 months postpartum, breastfeeding got easier. However, I am 10 months pp and baby still LOVES breastfeeding and also wakes me up every two hours to feed/comfort feed and we have started solids. Maybe eventually he’ll sleep through the night? Idk.
But I applaud you for pushing through. First few months are wild. It does get better. And as you see her hit milestones, it is even better and makes the journey more manageable and memorable. ❤
Lol you guys are cracking me up! Yes it’s hard someday you will get normal sleep but it does take awhile! Your bf journey sounds very similar to how mine started. Keep pushing thru! I honestly felt that it was harder than giving birth. But, it does get easier I’ve now bf both my kiddos each for a year. It is worth it, we did supplement once a day just to give myself a break 😅. Keep going tho, your doing amazing ❤❤❤
Definitely stay on top of chiropractic appointments. She’s adorable. I also had unsettled babies, and it makes it so hard.
Congratulations. She is beautiful!! ❤
I have a 10 month old- those first two months are so hard!! I will say for sleep that NO one told me sadly: cosleep!!! (with a sidecar basinet) and just keep the baby on the boob is totally okay if done safely especially for the first few months. I will 100% be doing it for our next baby. Just remember you're doing great and they are little humans just like us and have good days/bad days and it will be okay!!!
Have you tried "wearing" her in a baby cloth sling or newborn-appropriate carrier? :) If she is crying, put her in and go about your day. Being close to you, hearing your heartbeat and smelling you will soothe her eventually. Sometimes less is more. And it relaxes you, too. Of course, it may vary but as a midwife experience, it ALWAYS worked ❤
They "tell you" everything they experience through crying and body contact reduces their stress level :)
I carried my own children basically all day for six months and we loved it😊
Good luck. You are doing great and thanks for your honest reports!
You are an amazing family ❤
I see myself listening to you talk. I said to all my friends don't have babies haha. I have a 3 month old. The first 8-9 weeks were HARD. At 6 weeks I crashed, I felt so overwhelmed and the adrenaline wore off by then. I felt so depressed and down. It DOES GET BETTER. It's not just a myth, I hung on to the 3 month "gets better" promise and it really does. Babies get more interesting as well, and wait until they smile! Baby wearing saved my sanity when she would cry for hours during the witching hour.
In regards to constipation we've done this to help our newborn with constipation: bigaia (probiotics), fennel tea (when we moved to bottle feeding), Roman chamomille hydrolate and nux vomica (homeopathy).
Hang in there, you've got this.
Oh and if breastfeeding is draining you, you are not a bad mom for moving on to formula. I have cried so many hours during my breastfeeding journey, and cried so much when I couldn't do it anymore due to tongue tie and repetitive infections on my side. The anxiety it was giving me. Pumping every 3h night and day just finished me. I wanted to breastfeed so bad I hung in there but I came out way more exhausted and it pulled me down. If it doesn't work and you are struggling, don't push yourself too hard.
Lmao mykala!!! I love your honesty that face u made with breastfeeding....I laughed soooo hard my son did the same thing! It does get better...I wish I had suggestions....its just time...and Jonas...it does hurt! And each kid is not always the same...my daughter was completely different...I think its God's way of tricking us to have more 😂
20 min a side is totally normal Mykayla , my babies all three of them are also like that . Have you had her checked her for tongue and lip ties ? Do you eat dairy if so try lessening that . Hang in there being new parents is rough . You are doing great
I totally agree with you. 20 minutes. Each side is normal.
You got this guys ! ❤
This shall pass too! Remember brighter days are coming ❤
Mom of 6 here, you're doing a fantastic job. Hang in there. It's tough. I've had 3, really, really hard babies. 5 of them had food intolerances and for two of them I ate chicken and sweet potatoes for 7 weeks to figure out what they were reacting to. I would recommend cutting any dairy and gluten. But I would also recommend Tiny Health gut test. It is life saving. My 6th reacted to everything, never slept and developed eczema. I did the test, implemented the specific probiotics he needed and he was a completely different baby in less than two weeks. From sleeping 2 hours at a time at 8 months old to 9+hours by 10 months. Totally worth it. I would also check tongue ties. All of my kids have had one but I didn't get any of them revised until my 5 and breastfeeding completely changed overnight. Just a few things that I tell my other mom friend who have had success like I have had so I'm passing it along to you!
THE SLEEPING WILL GET BETTER, TRUST ME, I WENT THROUGH IT. SHE IS BEAUTIFUL.CONGRATULATIONS.SHE'S BEAUTIFUL, I THINK SHE LOOKS LIKE MOMMY.
My son was had colic so bad for 4 months that we had to put him in his swing with the vacuum on leaned up against it so the vibrations could come through the swing lok yeah it was rough, but i promise it will get better just trust your gut and do what you have to so you can get through it and try not to get to frustrated which i know is hard. Trying cuddling with her in a warm bath that helped my son a bit and would calm him down
Jonas looks so happy!
I ended up switching to exclusively pumping and that was so much better for me. More dishes. But nursing just never got comfortable so I was so much happier. Maybe check into silent reflux too- starting treatment for that made a big difference for one of my kids.
I wish someone would’ve told me when I was a first time mom that it WILL get easier and eventually your baby WILL sleep! It seems like it will never end and you’re never going to sleep again but it will happen! Hang in there!
Our son was the same as Charlotte. We almost went insane. He wouldn't sleep, no napping, grunting, crying. Finally someone suggest Good Start formula. Pediatrician said it wouldn't make ant difference. We finally bit the bullet and tried it and within 24 hours we had a different baby. Good Start is whey based not lactose based. I know you want to breastfeed but a happy mom and baby is the most important thing.
The biggest thing for me that took me a long time to realize (I exclusively breastfed for 7 months) is, do whatever makes you happy. I hateddd breastfeeding. But I felt so pressured and like a bad mom if I didn’t breastfeed. I wish I would have switched to formula at least a little bit a lot sooner. I would have definitely enjoyed the newborn stage a lot more if I wasn’t so miserable with the breastfeeding. Do whatever you need to do to be happy, happy parents make for a happy baby.
Absolutely no one prepares you for becoming parents. My husband and I have tried to be so open with other couples that it’s sooo hard. You wouldn’t change it for the world, but that first year of adjustment is shocking, especially for pro athletes who are so used to a fast paced lifestyle. It will get better, just give yourselves grace, work as a team, and don’t constantly wait for the “it will get better” phase. It does get better but the challenges change over the years.
Prioritize your marriage, it’s 10 times harder if you don’t work together.
You guys are true best friends at the end of the day and no matter how hard it gets you have each other.
Hugs, I know I really needed one at this stage. You guys are seen and heard there are people out there that really have experienced what you’re going through. ❤
One day at a time 🤍
It will just be a faded memory before you know it- even though it's so hard right now. She will never be this little again. Tomorrow she will be another day older. Prayers! 💗
❤❤❤ hang in there. Y’all are doing great!!! Major learning curve ❤ she is beautiful
Hey Mykayla! I would definitely look into a IBCLC! It helped me tremendously with my breastfeeding journey with my daughter. They’ll help you so much with getting her latch and that should help your nipples not hurt as much. Breastfeeding is not easy and nothing really prepares you for it.
Hii! I am by no means an expert but I’m a first time mom with a 9 month old. Those first few weeks I was DESPERATE to figure out how to stretch the night feeds and how to get baby to not be on my boob constantly. I used taking Cara babies also. Most of it gets better with time but I hated hearing that so I’m going to give you a few things that helped me.
1. If baby is taking a long time to feed, maybe she is falling asleep. I had to strip my baby down to his diaper and give his little feet some tickles to keep him awake.
2. Make sure to feed every two hours during the day and that can help baby sleep longer .
3. Tight swaddle! We used a Jersey fabric swaddle over the sleep sacks until he was bigger.
4. Bedtime routine! It may seem way too early but it’s not. We found that a bath every night helped SO much. We didn’t use soap every night but just the warm water helped.
5. If you end up pumping, get a nipple insert. Most pumps have too large of nipple diameters for the average gal. Amazon has ones that are compatible with different pumps.
Those long feeds, cluster feeds, and snuggles at the breast will do wonders for your supply. It’s all driven by supply and demand in those first months. You got this mama!
You are doing great! Try to enjoy this time as they grown up so fast.