She wants to punish them by ghosting them? Girl, take them to court. Help the wedding planner take them to court for defamation and damage to his business.
I think the point of ghosting them was to make them metaphorically shit their pants and stew in the anxiety as the walls caved in on them, which is it's own form of revenge, i think
They are narcissists. She wanted them to get anxious as hell, and reveal themselves unintentionally. She was trying to beat them at their own game which is something Narcs can’t stand.
Nah. I mean, maybe I missed it, but did we find out that the mom actually cheated? Dad may have been the asshole in denying his ex and younger daughter any inheritance out of spite. They might rightfully be wondering why op gets all the money when she just clicked more personality-wise with her dad.
@erinfield1943 i think you missed the part where the dad only paid child support for op. If the sister was his child then he would have to pay support for both of them. The sister isn't his child. As money hungry as the mother is, she would never let him off the hook for child support.
I am inclined to believe OPs mom cheated on her husband. With how hard up she was for taking money, she would have demanded child support if she had a leg to stand on.
"Im too smart to be a doormat." (proceeds to be a doormat) That first story had me frustrated asf. How are you gonna feel bad for the people that manipulated and lied to you and get mad at your husband for telling the truth??
She got frustrated she didn't get angry he just did something she told him not to it isn't like she was gonna fight him over it. And yeah I know she said the sleeping outside thing wasn't a joke but it was. She was upset because her husband went against what she told him and against her plan and literally nothing else happened so it would be dumb to actually act like she was mad at her husband when at most it got him 5 minutes of scolding
Eh, it can happen sometimes especially between parents and children. Back when I was 12 and got taken away from my highly abusive and manipulative "mother" I also spent at least a year or two regularly crying myself to sleep, missing her, and wanting to go back to live with her. And even afterwards, I often initiated contact and also did a lot of stuff for her, with the hopes that she would one day realize and admit all the things she did and genuinely apologize. Took me a very long time to finally get to the point of just cutting all contact with her, I think I was like 25 or 26 when I finally managed to stop talking and responding to her calls and text messages.
@@HippieInHeart It took me 37 years to cut contact with my abusive spermdonor. While I am known for having no issues offending people to stand up for myself, I really had a blindspot to my parents treatment of me. So I also totally can see this. Also, good for you! Wish you the best.
There's no way the wedding planner would take blame for something that wasn't his fault and ruin his livelihood because a couple of deadbeats ripped him off.
Well if it's family of a friend i could see it happening. But i can't understand why he would do it for people's his friend no longer considers family.
Honestly the OP was probably more mad about him doing something she asked him not to do other than what he actually did. Other comments are acting like OP was genuinely angry at her husband when she didn't give any sign of it and all she did was make a joke and said she was serious even though it was obviously a joke and people apparently don't get that
@@DummyThiccccc If people tell you with their own words the kind of person they are then it is best to believe them and not make up your own assumptions. She said she was serious so it makes no sense to assume it was a joke. Especially when she got mad at him for not letting her be petty.
@@DummyThicccccuh she double and triples down on that "joke" and said she was dead serious so you can stop trying to defend the indefensible. She's honestly a petty woman and not very good spouse by how she talks about her husband. She also lacks self awareness as evidenced in this post
@@DummyThiccccc so if someone says they're gonna kill you then laughs, then later says I'm gonna kill you, I'm dead serious, you'd take that as a threat ? On God? Lol
The dumbest people often think they're the smartest, because they aren't smart enough to see that they're missing obvious things - OPs arrogance was the first sign to where this was going.
Leave it to the husband to not keep a secret. But OP seemed like she's still holding onto her "family", when time and time again they have showed their true colors.
Op was acting like a cunt toward her husband. He just wasn't about to play her high-schooler games. He should have put her in her place reminding her that all this crap happened because she was a moron too weak to actually cut her toxic family and that she brought the drama home and was trying to instigate more.
You mean leave it to the husband to not allow his wife to be petty with; her mother who always showed favoritism to her sister, and her sister who didn't think it was worth the effort to tell the truth about her wedding; and instead told op's mother where both sides stood. If the mother hadn't disowned op, which only happened because the husband told her that op knew she was lying, then op would have sent more money to pay for the wedding.
@@lilchristuten7568not at all. You must be young or single. She wanted revenge, that’s what she said. She wasnt going to send more because she already knew. And shes not petty for having plans for revenge. It’s her money and she was the one being taken advantage of. Not her husband. He had no reason other than to throw his wife’s trust out the window, to do that. So please tell us how exactly was she petty. She wasn’t and her husband was lucky he wasn’t kicked out that night because what was the reason of crossing that boundary, disregarding your wife completely, giving her mother a heads up so she had more time to scheme, and sabotaging his wife. It wasn’t his place and no matter how you spin it, he was wrong to the max.
@@breannaa3693 It's hilarious how you suggest that a person in a relationship would understand your take on the situation when quite frankly a married person would understand my take. She was petty period. Her "revenge" amounted to nothing more than having her mother continue to try to get her to send her money. If she had kicked her husband out for that then she isn't worth being married to. Also they are MARRIED it's not her money it's their money that's what it means to be married you share everything with your spouse. Also you know what we aren't being told in this story? What the husband had to go through everyday. In general women like to complain and they like to run their mouths. We have no idea how obnoxious she was while she was getting her PETTY revenge.
@@lilchristuten7568 I’m also married and my husband watched this whole thing with me and agreed lol. Same way how “I don’t know..”, you dont know what her revenge could have been, what if it had nothing to do with money? But she’s petty for being taken advantage of by people who are supposed to give their lives for her? Your partner must be proud to have you. And regardless of what you say. It wasn’t his place, and that settlement had her name, not his. It’s not his money, not his place and it’s petty to think you can bulldoze someone’s way of life. It literally, wasn’t his place. Bye now
Story 1: OP disappointed me for talking to her husband like that and never mentioned an apology, she never realized she was petty, and never realized she was a doormat.
I honestly don't feel bad for her. If you get duped that many time you deserve it, and then turn on the person on her side is pure arrogance. At the end she still wanted to be mommy's favorite child
The first OP was bragging about how smart and clever they were making them not a doormat, when in fact all of that was the opposite 💀. Despite knowing how vindictive her family is, she was still teetering on helping them save face despite being actively disowned. She is not a doormat, she's the whole front yard.
Yup. I was infuriated with OP's weakness throughout the whole story, as well as with the wedding planner who foolishly decided to take the high road by not telling people the truth about the lackluster event. Taking the high road and turning the other cheek only works in movies. In reality it does nothing but give evil people full control of the narrative. Keeping quiet and taking the high road is nothing but enabling bad people to continue being bad without consequence.
@@mannydcbianco exactly. “Be the bigger person”, “Keep the peace”, “Take the high road”, “Two wrongs don’t make a right”, all ways of saying “Be a doormat and never stand up for yourself”.
ikr she sounds like a fucking tissue. "Too smart" and "good school" my ass she got walked over like a fucking wooden plank, and she's surprised that her mom and sister are such terrible people. and despite saying shes "not falling for her moms manipulation" she clearly still is considering she feels bad
how is it a doormat to pay for your moms knee surgery and to pay for a home renovation for her mom? She did basic things that are reasonable. It is reasonable to pay for a parents medical bills and to help them out when in need and yeah I agree she was a bit of a push over on the house but she did expect in the beginning to be paid back. Also, 40k is a lot but obviously not to OP
Story 1: OP's a stupid doormat, and it's good that she's finally free. But that freedom cost her 40k. At least the wedding planner, if they had any brain cells to rub together, should be able to sue for their 10k balance. Unless they were also stupid and were legitimately working without a contract? In which case everyone's an idiot. Hell, the OG contract for the wedding should have been for the full 50k and there should have been an amended one for the 30k wedding downsizing. I almost have harsher criticisms of him than OP, because losing money to family who's trying to take you for inheritance after the death of a parent is one thing, there's emotions and family politics and relationships involved in those choices. And 40k out of a 400k inheritance is a 10% lesson/olive branch to try to have the family you want. But if the wedding planner had a BUSINESS and he didn't take into account contracts or liability? He sucks as a businessman and professional in the industry anyway.
Agreed. I wouldn’t have loaned them a penny without them signing on collateral to match the amount. Title to the house, and cars that they have, wage garnishment, and an ironclad, dipped in gold contract, WITH INTEREST. Failure to pay, I take them to court and clean them out.
@@dudeorduuude5211 I think you are a bit dumb. Sorry but 40k is 10% of the inheritance. She didn't lose too much more or she would've said something about that and yeah 40k is a lot of money but when you have 360k left and have a really good job as she said and has a husband who works you aren't going to run out of money. I get that you think 40k loans is lose with money but let me tell you 40k loans aren't actually that much when you expect the money back and probably have at least a million dollars to your name(Husband adds to that).
The wedding planner contracts to plan the wedding. They don't contract to take a sum of money and use it to do whatever. They book everything and then gives the people paying a bill for what is booked. Yes the people can mention a budget which the planner can use to plan their moves in regard to the wedding but they don't contract for the full budget and then the planner spends however they want.
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story 1; "my husband ruined it" ,he ruined what? you getting manipulated and sending over the rest? And the last bit of not informing her friend of what her family was up to, even though someone`s reputation is on the line? OP is no better than her family
Her friends reputation wouldn't have been fixed. If she told the truth how would that of done anything? The money situation would have been the exact same no matter if the friend knew and the sister would've blamed him if the friends knew so sorry to burst your bubble but his reputation was ruined by the people who slandered him. Also she didn't mention a fight or any actual issues with her husband all she did was get angry when he specifically did something she asked him not to do. It is reasonable when you ask your husband to not do something to expect he wont do it
A wedding planner's reputation is on the line with every job they take. The reason his reputation took a hit is because he let it take the hit. The sister said that she was throwing a high class wedding and the planner did what he could with a promised $10k instead of the $30k that was supposed to be available, and then the sister blamed the planner for the wedding not being up to snuff and he kept his mouth shut about it.
@@Carnibee he didn’t violate her trust, the mom asked him and he stood on business and told her why his wife was upset. He was just trying to help 🤷🏾♂️ and her saying she wanted to smack him upside the head for telling the mom “we know ur a liar” is wrong. The dad part was supposed to be more so a joke as to how she can treat her man poorly while loving her dad so much since fathers determine how women view men in their adult lives
@@Yuri13Sao I don’t understand how she treated him poorly. If I asked my partner not to speak to my toxic, emotionally abusive family and they not only did anyway, but they divulged things I was not ready for them to know, I would be FURIOUS. “Stand on business” but whose business was it? Not his, not completely. It was her money and her family so he should have respected her wishes and let her handle it by SUPPORTING her, not telling her toxic mother everything and opening her up to more abuse before she was ready to deal with it. Y’all be setting yourself up tryna stand on business and “keep it real.”
I don't understand y the hell you feel it's your fault in story 1... You finally woke up from being stupid for a long time... Remember to love only those who deserve...
@@dumbidea1007when you have a narcissistic parent you can pick up narcissistic tendencies without actually being a narcissist because of how you’re raised and socialised. The same reason she thinks it’s her fault is the same reason she handled the situation in a way to hurt everyone, that’s all she knows, as an adult it’s on her to get the therapy to fix that but it doesn’t mean she doesn’t love her husband it just means she needs to work on communicating in a less aggressive way, and remember that he’s a safe person. It can take a lifetime to undo the damage and trauma from narcissistic abuse that won’t change overnight. She didn’t go about it in the right way but she set the boundary not to answer the calls he should’ve just blocked the numbers and moved on, him not listening made her feel the way her mother makes her feel and she didn’t communicate effectively because she never learned how to. It’s so more complicated than everyone’s evil. This is the exact reason my fiancé and I deal with our families separately my family drama’s bigger and more complicated so I sort it myself and vent to him when necessary, his is smaller and different so he manages it and I put myself on his level so that I don’t belittle his situation. In certain situations that separation between families is necessary, each of us knows we’re safe with the other and when we have children we’ll work on that together but knowing he’s an only child and his family dynamics he shouldn’t have to deal with my family and knowing how messed my family dynamics can be I shouldn’t have deal with his on top of mine. Actual handling of situations tends to work best that way and ghosting is actually a reliable method for dealing with narcissists it’s called stonewalling or sometimes grey rocking and it’s an effective therapy technique but also something you just pick up from being around narcissists if you give them nothing they get bored and they’ll get over themselves, when someone like that realises they have no power they move on
it seems like her mother and sister's lies, manipulation, and abusing op's money made her so angry that she was willing to speak to her husband like that makes me think that she SHOULD'VE SUED THEM. If it makes you that riled up if he talks to them then clearly they are the problem not him. Yet she is still making excuses like "I feel bad for her wedding being ruined". Like, what??
Story 1 The amount of abuse OP had to suffer is so obvious in her unwillingness to financially destroy her family. She was willing to let $40k just disappear - for the record, this amount of money being used in this way is a felony of the highest order. It has real prison time, and with it being across state lines it would probably be a federal prison. Story 2 Drunk people don't lie. You can lie while you're drunk, but the lies are motivated by some kind of reasoning - the things you say, however, are impulsive. That's what it means to lose your inhibitions - you no longer have the capacity to prevent yourself from doing things that you wouldn't normally do. But, lying requires a bit of thought behind it, a reason to fabricate the truth and a reason to spread the fabrication. Most people who lie when they're drunk are lying to stay out of trouble, not to get into it.
I think it depends on whether or not they had an actual loan contact detailing what the money was supposed to be used for. Now if they forged documentation about the mom receiving knee surgery thrn thrg would have been thrown in jail.
15:53 / 21:47 in many cases alcohol doesn't actually speak for the drunken person, but gives the person the confidence to say things he normally wouldn't . So ...
Going to marriage counseling, lmao what a joke. The truth is out now, she knows her husband is in love with her sister, that she's a second choice, and that he probably only chose to be with her to be able to be around her sister. Acting like there's anything to salvage in her situation is just willful self delusion. She should tell her sister what a creep her husband is so she can take precautions, and have him served asap.
OP has to stop guilting herself over not paying for all of her sister’s wedding, because her and her mother have been horrible to her and it’s not like she needs a 50k wedding anyway. Her and her friend’s husband need to stand up to her family instead of letting them walk all over them, they could potentially sue them for monetary damages and defamation. Also OP please give your husband a break, he must’ve just panicked on the phone and it’s not like him telling the truth really affected anything anyway.
No shame in asking for money but won't even send a wedding invite to their own kid. Terrible family all around. Dad blamed the other daughter for something out of her control and mom blamed the older daughter for the husband's choices.
Story 1 is plain infuriating. OP, despite her claims is just a stupid doormat. Just how much effort and money can you throw at the people that you grew up with, before you realise you're nothing but a cash-cow for them? That isn't family. Treat your husband better, cause he cares about you and the kids, don't lash out when he tries to cut ties with your horrible parent.
yeah i agree she should be nicer to him, she threatened to make him sleep on the cold porch if he answered their calls and wanted to smack him when he stopped giving them money
Dad was definitely right about the cheating. If they were struggling with money and the mom even thought the sister was his she would have hounded him for that money too. I can’t blame them for not being clear with the kids but it’s pretty clear that both of them knew that sister wasn’t his. Not thought, knew.
Story one: Op can, infact, sue for the money back. One: the gift claiming will not stand for many factors take play, the fact op has a witness to the agreement of the money being used for one thing, that being her husband. Two, the fact being that op used a bank account to LEND money in installments to the mother for the house. And three, even if they claim it as a "gift" if it was GIFTED for a specific purpose and not used for said purpose, you can sue/be sued for failure to do so.
Can we talk about how she seemed more or just about as mad at her own husband for not wanting to put up with this back and forth never-ending BS between op and her family than she is actually at her family For manipulating and lying to her it's like look op. You can play all the petty games you want but as soon as your husband gets dragged into it, he has every right to cut the bullshit
If a single person called that dude in the first story 'heartless' or 'mean' for 'ruining' her wedding then natural selection really didn't do it's job tbh
S1: Never loan money to family without notarized paperwork. Usually by family asking to borrow money they really mean give me money. Cheaters always cheat and liars always lie. You are better off without them.
That mother is a hell of a hypocrite. Id have said sounds great since im ashamed to have a mother who tries to manipulate their own kid for money, not even an apology and still asked for more money.
JUST FYI, drywall and stuff dosent matter what shape its in, as long as the frame and foundation of the house are still in good shape itll stay solid no matter what kind of weather you have, sounds to me she just wanted a makeover on the inside lol, and 100k for literally a full inside renovation is crazy bro maximum 20-30k and thats for new toilet, sinks, counters all of that
The good thing about getting disowned via text or voicemail is that whenever they need to ask for a favor from you, you can just send them back a screenshot/mp4 of the disownment lmao
Story 1: Dont see why people are so annoyed with story 1. She was trying to get that sweet revenge and make them simmer but her husband couldn't keep his lips sealed. And I interpreted her "threat" to be a half joking one, like if he fucked up again she would get mad but nothing bad would actually happen (besides her getting mad and the repercussions from that). Glad she's doing fine now. Good idea from the husband to pay in enstallments, probably got saved a load of money that way.
@OdakaMemeingI'm sorry, but I agree the with person who wrote comment here, she wanted some revenge on being mistreated by her mother, to be honest, her mother and sister both are narcissists and manipulated her into being a doormat.
@@c4e_gacha87 She wanted petty revenge that wouldn't go anywhere. After she had he fun of making them sweat for a while she would have paid the rest of the money because that's the type of person she was. The only reason she didn't pay is because the mother disowned her as a result of the husband telling her the situation.
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WAIT! So with 100 guests is already a grand wedding? We're working for an intimate wedding of 50 guests, but we figured it is not enough for our close relatives and friends so we have to increase it to 100. But we still can't invite everyone that are important to us with that number. Well, can I claim my wedding will be a grand one?
Story 1. F them Story 2. Drunk person's words are a sober person's thoughts; the sex that was so amazing, he was thinking about the sister. Next time you all 4 got together, put a camera up without him knowing and, once they left, see what happens
People have unhealthy obsession with weddings. Why would you EVER want to start a life together in debt? I think the same thing about wedding rings. Yes I am married. Family came together to hold it at my stepdad and mom's house. It was potluck. I bought the rings and dress myself. We are very in our marriage, and isn't that what matters? Normalize quiet weddings put together by family.
The fact that people think op is in the wrong for saying that about the husband is wild. It wasnt his job or right to tell the mother anything. Op even told him straight up dont entertain anything yet he went behind ops back and said everything. I would be mad too. Its not his right to say anything. She didn't want her mom or sister to know and he didnt care. Maybe he didnt think or smth but i personally think op did nothing wrong.
Maybe op shouldn’t be such a sniveling coward and should’ve been straight up instead of trying to get petty revenge on people she knew were trash when she put herself in the situation. The only rational one in the story was her husband.
Not to mention he didn’t approach them first, they approached him, everyone out her acting like he sought them out, OP is pissed off that he used his God-given right of free speech to tell them to piss off, when he probably knew his wife well enough to know she probably would become a doormat to them again, so in doing so he spared them. Also what was the point of the revenge? It served no purpose as they probably would have stopped soon anyway, so why would he entertain something useless for no reason. He’s a man with a wife and children, a grown adult that doesn’t have the time for childish, petty, and down right useless revenge
No, he is under no obligation to play those stupid Petty games if he doesn't want to. If his wife wants to behave like a child she can but he don't have to and the moment he started getting calls about the situation he was officially involved meaning he can cut the BS if he wants
That is what I'm saying people are calling her a doormat like paying for house repairs and your moms knee surgery is unreasonable. Also everybody acting like the OP abused her husband when she made an obvious joke and literally brought u 0 details about him being upset or them fighting at all. Literally 2 lines about her husband 1 of him being dumb another of a bad joke and people act like OP is the bad one when her family especially her sister is awful
It's really difficult for me to tell what parts of these stories were the actual stories and what were people's comments... it would've been nice if there was some way to distinguish between them.
I really hope the husband either laid or lays down the law in the future with OP 1, telling him to sleep on the porch for helping her situation is awful. If she does that again he should leave.
Right?! That comment about him "disobeying" her was bad enough, but saying that she'd make him sleep out on the porch in the cold? Yeah, NO. That's not how a partnership works. OP seems to think that she's a better person than her mother and sister, but honestly they seem like they're cut from the same cloth.
@@weirdlybeloved They are both Aholes for all I am concerned, the good boy my mother raised wants to say "lay down the law you will respect me" the no nonsense man I became after her death wants to say "I want a divorce"
@@Eidolon5150 Ditto. If it were me I'd say that she needs to apologize to me, and then tell her that if she speaks to me like that again then we're going to therapy and/or separating. I know some people would probably say that that's an overreaction, but if someone is comfortable threatening you to get their own way, then that's a major issue that will only get worse if you don't make it clear that you are not going to tolerate being treated like that.
@@weirdlybeloved I’m personally not a fan of marriage counseling. Also can’t say that I haven’t quote on quote threatened people to get them to stop being idiots. Like my friend was hardcore simping for a chick and it was effecting his health, said breakup with her or I am walking away from this friendship.
@@Eidolon5150 Yeah, I'm not really a fan of marriage counseling if one party is clearly the problem, but it does help sometimes I think.. provided the therapist is actually impartial and doesn't try to play both ends against the middle. And agreed! I meant more threatening someone to get your own way like the woman in this story did. There are definitely times when an issue gets out of hand and an ultimatum is the only way to make it clear that you're done with someone's bs. Did your friend end up breaking up with her?
@Jaygermeister93 @Jaygermeister93 bruv she did nothing petty she ignored ppl stealing 40k wtf you mean. Also a partner in crime in this scenario would be someone supporting her also don't use the xrap line"dont let me tell you what I think" when your first comment was sarcasm and you literally didn't tell anybody what you thought.
Story 1: OP's mom was right about her being arrogant and self centered. This whole story proves that. Also the fact that she said she was smart and clever to be a doormat only for her actions to prove otherwise 💀
What did she do that was arrogant? She called herself smart enough to not be used by her mom? Like yeah she was wrong but acting like she was self centered is insane because what did she do that was self centered? Was it the 20k she gave to fix her mom's knee? Was that self-centered? Or was it the 50k she was gonna give to fix her mothers house? Maybe that was selfish part. She was arrogant and used and she probably isn't even that arrogant because she is probably correct about half the shi she said.
I'm sorry how is she arrogant and self centered? By not giving more money to her lying mother? The only issue here is she was dumb enough to bring about not being a doormat, despite being a colossal doormat and letting her shit mother get away with that behaviour.
Final story: That husband cleared everything up with flying colors, and that commenter at the end is just evil. Stirring everything up for no reason, with the words of a Disney villain.
I agree w/ the other commenters they've been usin like a ATM n if u don't stand up 4 urself n put a stop 2 it it'll never end n u'll b broke. Sue the pair of em n get ur money bk n teach em a hard lesson in respect n money.
Story 1: one of my biggest pet peeves in life is lending money. People are so disrespectful. They assume just because you may happen to have come into some money that they’re entitled to some (or all) of it and don’t understand why you should be paid back. I’ve heard: “but you’re not really hurting for this money right?” 🤨 Also, I never lend if they don’t have CashApp. That allows us to completely transact through the app and keep track of how much has been lent versus paid back. Far easier to say “no” to the next ask when you can simply send them a screenshot of how much they already owe you from two years ago.
Ha! When story 2 started, I thought it was from the same person who wrote story 2. So when they went ‘my husband is in love with my sister’ I was shook! Hahaha! Like, what a plot twist! I thought her life couldn’t possibly get worse but now this!?! Glad it was a totally different story though haha! 😅
I don't see how the mother disowning her was such a threat. She basically only contacted as it was to get money and lie to her. She wasn't even invited to her sister's wedding. She was already basically disowned. But I have a feeling whatever the mother said she'll be back asking for money eventually.
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1st Story: I'd file a cease and desist stating that they need to return the money back at a certain date and promise to file an embezzlement lawsuit against them if they don't, and then go NC with them once I get my money back.
2nd story- in vino veritas babe, I wouldn't be able to trust him ever again. Maybe- if sister is trustworthy- talk to your sister about it, she's happily newly married, in the perfect position to tell him off and how he didn't deserve his wife...maybe get new BIL to tell him off too. Ugh, yeah, there are no happy endings here, hubby is just a pig and ruined a perfectly good marriage, poor OP..and poor kiddos!! Lol I wish there was an update, we need updates!!
Second story: that woman is going to ruin her own life overthinking about that. Everyone has secret crushes/fantasies (and if you deny it you're lying) that'll forever stay in the vast realms of the imagination.
She wants to punish them by ghosting them? Girl, take them to court. Help the wedding planner take them to court for defamation and damage to his business.
I think the point of ghosting them was to make them metaphorically shit their pants and stew in the anxiety as the walls caved in on them, which is it's own form of revenge, i think
They are narcissists. She wanted them to get anxious as hell, and reveal themselves unintentionally. She was trying to beat them at their own game which is something Narcs can’t stand.
@@jama3997narc is short for narcotic agent not narcissist 🤣
I may start using that though
1st story; id sue for the money back. If their accounts are empty thats fine, the house is worth more than 40k
Exactly.
Exactly
The courts may deem them "gifts" which you cannot sue for if I am not mistaken.
If they had a written agreement, it would be a different story.
Nah. I mean, maybe I missed it, but did we find out that the mom actually cheated? Dad may have been the asshole in denying his ex and younger daughter any inheritance out of spite. They might rightfully be wondering why op gets all the money when she just clicked more personality-wise with her dad.
@erinfield1943 i think you missed the part where the dad only paid child support for op. If the sister was his child then he would have to pay support for both of them. The sister isn't his child. As money hungry as the mother is, she would never let him off the hook for child support.
I am inclined to believe OPs mom cheated on her husband. With how hard up she was for taking money, she would have demanded child support if she had a leg to stand on.
I bet that he got dna test done and op was his kid but the sister wasn’t so he got his name off the birth certificate
Wonder if dad threatened to do dna testing if she tried for CS for youngest
"Im too smart to be a doormat."
(proceeds to be a doormat)
That first story had me frustrated asf. How are you gonna feel bad for the people that manipulated and lied to you and get mad at your husband for telling the truth??
She got frustrated she didn't get angry he just did something she told him not to it isn't like she was gonna fight him over it. And yeah I know she said the sleeping outside thing wasn't a joke but it was. She was upset because her husband went against what she told him and against her plan and literally nothing else happened so it would be dumb to actually act like she was mad at her husband when at most it got him 5 minutes of scolding
Eh, it can happen sometimes especially between parents and children. Back when I was 12 and got taken away from my highly abusive and manipulative "mother" I also spent at least a year or two regularly crying myself to sleep, missing her, and wanting to go back to live with her. And even afterwards, I often initiated contact and also did a lot of stuff for her, with the hopes that she would one day realize and admit all the things she did and genuinely apologize. Took me a very long time to finally get to the point of just cutting all contact with her, I think I was like 25 or 26 when I finally managed to stop talking and responding to her calls and text messages.
@@HippieInHeart It took me 37 years to cut contact with my abusive spermdonor. While I am known for having no issues offending people to stand up for myself, I really had a blindspot to my parents treatment of me. So I also totally can see this. Also, good for you! Wish you the best.
Coz she is a human and has emotions
@@DummyThiccccc
You have no idea what else happend. All you know is what she was willing to post for complete strangers to read.
There's no way the wedding planner would take blame for something that wasn't his fault and ruin his livelihood because a couple of deadbeats ripped him off.
Well if it's family of a friend i could see it happening. But i can't understand why he would do it for people's his friend no longer considers family.
Yup I don't believe that
OP's husband must come from a nice loving family. He doesn't seem to comprehend that honesty is not always the best path forward.
Honestly the OP was probably more mad about him doing something she asked him not to do other than what he actually did. Other comments are acting like OP was genuinely angry at her husband when she didn't give any sign of it and all she did was make a joke and said she was serious even though it was obviously a joke and people apparently don't get that
@@DummyThiccccc
If people tell you with their own words the kind of person they are then it is best to believe them and not make up your own assumptions.
She said she was serious so it makes no sense to assume it was a joke. Especially when she got mad at him for not letting her be petty.
@@DummyThicccccuh she double and triples down on that "joke" and said she was dead serious so you can stop trying to defend the indefensible. She's honestly a petty woman and not very good spouse by how she talks about her husband. She also lacks self awareness as evidenced in this post
@@TheForkOnTheLeftist she doubles down but that doesn't mean it isn't a joke
@@DummyThiccccc so if someone says they're gonna kill you then laughs, then later says I'm gonna kill you, I'm dead serious, you'd take that as a threat ? On God? Lol
OP: "I was smart as a child and could never be treated as a doormat".
Also OP: behaves like a complete doormat.
👍👍
"Can you hand over $20k becauee reasons?"
"I'm no doormat! Here you go."
@@worldcomicsreview354lmfao Tsundere energy
@@worldcomicsreview354 theres a difference between goodwill and being a doormat
Also My sister entitled. Yet my dad pay for me and ignore my sister and allowed it.
She's a petty person and a bad wife tbh
"Too smart to be a doormat" 😂
IKR 🤦♂
The dumbest people often think they're the smartest, because they aren't smart enough to see that they're missing obvious things - OPs arrogance was the first sign to where this was going.
She sounds like Peggy Hill.
Leave it to the husband to not keep a secret. But OP seemed like she's still holding onto her "family", when time and time again they have showed their true colors.
Op was acting like a cunt toward her husband.
He just wasn't about to play her high-schooler games.
He should have put her in her place reminding her that all this crap happened because she was a moron too weak to actually cut her toxic family and that she brought the drama home and was trying to instigate more.
You mean leave it to the husband to not allow his wife to be petty with; her mother who always showed favoritism to her sister, and her sister who didn't think it was worth the effort to tell the truth about her wedding; and instead told op's mother where both sides stood.
If the mother hadn't disowned op, which only happened because the husband told her that op knew she was lying, then op would have sent more money to pay for the wedding.
@@lilchristuten7568not at all. You must be young or single. She wanted revenge, that’s what she said. She wasnt going to send more because she already knew. And shes not petty for having plans for revenge. It’s her money and she was the one being taken advantage of. Not her husband. He had no reason other than to throw his wife’s trust out the window, to do that. So please tell us how exactly was she petty. She wasn’t and her husband was lucky he wasn’t kicked out that night because what was the reason of crossing that boundary, disregarding your wife completely, giving her mother a heads up so she had more time to scheme, and sabotaging his wife. It wasn’t his place and no matter how you spin it, he was wrong to the max.
@@breannaa3693
It's hilarious how you suggest that a person in a relationship would understand your take on the situation when quite frankly a married person would understand my take.
She was petty period. Her "revenge" amounted to nothing more than having her mother continue to try to get her to send her money.
If she had kicked her husband out for that then she isn't worth being married to. Also they are MARRIED it's not her money it's their money that's what it means to be married you share everything with your spouse.
Also you know what we aren't being told in this story? What the husband had to go through everyday. In general women like to complain and they like to run their mouths. We have no idea how obnoxious she was while she was getting her PETTY revenge.
@@lilchristuten7568 I’m also married and my husband watched this whole thing with me and agreed lol. Same way how “I don’t know..”, you dont know what her revenge could have been, what if it had nothing to do with money? But she’s petty for being taken advantage of by people who are supposed to give their lives for her? Your partner must be proud to have you. And regardless of what you say. It wasn’t his place, and that settlement had her name, not his. It’s not his money, not his place and it’s petty to think you can bulldoze someone’s way of life. It literally, wasn’t his place. Bye now
Story 1: OP disappointed me for talking to her husband like that and never mentioned an apology, she never realized she was petty, and never realized she was a doormat.
OP is very slow - Too slow to realize she is, and arrogant to boot.
I honestly don't feel bad for her. If you get duped that many time you deserve it, and then turn on the person on her side is pure arrogance. At the end she still wanted to be mommy's favorite child
I dated twins once and it was really easy to tell them apart, one painted her nails purple and her twin was called George…
The first OP was bragging about how smart and clever they were making them not a doormat, when in fact all of that was the opposite 💀.
Despite knowing how vindictive her family is, she was still teetering on helping them save face despite being actively disowned. She is not a doormat, she's the whole front yard.
She is every man's and woman's doormat. I need to wipe my ass, where is OP? 😂
Yup. I was infuriated with OP's weakness throughout the whole story, as well as with the wedding planner who foolishly decided to take the high road by not telling people the truth about the lackluster event. Taking the high road and turning the other cheek only works in movies. In reality it does nothing but give evil people full control of the narrative. Keeping quiet and taking the high road is nothing but enabling bad people to continue being bad without consequence.
“She is not a doormat, she’s the whole front yard.” Good one! 👍🤣
@@mannydcbianco exactly. “Be the bigger person”, “Keep the peace”, “Take the high road”, “Two wrongs don’t make a right”, all ways of saying “Be a doormat and never stand up for yourself”.
Not the front yard, but the carpet, bath mat, and tile floors.
1st op said they were too smart to be treated like a doormat, evidently not...
This much truth should not be said in the open bro 😭
Bro is speaking too many facts 😂
ikr she sounds like a fucking tissue. "Too smart" and "good school" my ass she got walked over like a fucking wooden plank, and she's surprised that her mom and sister are such terrible people. and despite saying shes "not falling for her moms manipulation" she clearly still is considering she feels bad
She's too slow to be able to understand that she's missing things, and super arrogant.
how is it a doormat to pay for your moms knee surgery and to pay for a home renovation for her mom? She did basic things that are reasonable. It is reasonable to pay for a parents medical bills and to help them out when in need and yeah I agree she was a bit of a push over on the house but she did expect in the beginning to be paid back. Also, 40k is a lot but obviously not to OP
Story 1: OP's a stupid doormat, and it's good that she's finally free. But that freedom cost her 40k. At least the wedding planner, if they had any brain cells to rub together, should be able to sue for their 10k balance. Unless they were also stupid and were legitimately working without a contract? In which case everyone's an idiot. Hell, the OG contract for the wedding should have been for the full 50k and there should have been an amended one for the 30k wedding downsizing. I almost have harsher criticisms of him than OP, because losing money to family who's trying to take you for inheritance after the death of a parent is one thing, there's emotions and family politics and relationships involved in those choices. And 40k out of a 400k inheritance is a 10% lesson/olive branch to try to have the family you want. But if the wedding planner had a BUSINESS and he didn't take into account contracts or liability? He sucks as a businessman and professional in the industry anyway.
Agreed. I wouldn’t have loaned them a penny without them signing on collateral to match the amount. Title to the house, and cars that they have, wage garnishment, and an ironclad, dipped in gold contract, WITH INTEREST. Failure to pay, I take them to court and clean them out.
I suspect she lost more than that, if you added up all the other small loans. OP is terrible with money and is going to lose it all.
@@dudeorduuude5211 I think you are a bit dumb. Sorry but 40k is 10% of the inheritance. She didn't lose too much more or she would've said something about that and yeah 40k is a lot of money but when you have 360k left and have a really good job as she said and has a husband who works you aren't going to run out of money. I get that you think 40k loans is lose with money but let me tell you 40k loans aren't actually that much when you expect the money back and probably have at least a million dollars to your name(Husband adds to that).
The wedding planner contracts to plan the wedding. They don't contract to take a sum of money and use it to do whatever. They book everything and then gives the people paying a bill for what is booked.
Yes the people can mention a budget which the planner can use to plan their moves in regard to the wedding but they don't contract for the full budget and then the planner spends however they want.
Father must be turning in his great that those vixens got some of his money.
I like the part when OP says that shes smart and not a doormat but her actions tells something different.
The OP's husband is the only honest person in the entire bunch.
Story 1: When ppl brag about how smart/clever they are, God humbles them and shows them how foolish they can be
Exactly
Haha! You got that right.
No one is as smart/clever as God, god always has a plan for you and if you think your life is bad and god has given up on you remember god never gives up on you, if your life is going really bad right now wait, in the future your live will be as good as it was as bad (if you know what I mean) never give up on god and god won’t give up on you!
Its something done exclusively by morons, never seen an intelligent person brag about it
@@3GenEditzwho cares
I’ll never understand the ludicrous amounts of money people spend on weddings
Right
Courthouse wedding and a party.
story 1; "my husband ruined it" ,he ruined what? you getting manipulated and sending over the rest? And the last bit of not informing her friend of what her family was up to, even though someone`s reputation is on the line? OP is no better than her family
Her friends reputation wouldn't have been fixed. If she told the truth how would that of done anything? The money situation would have been the exact same no matter if the friend knew and the sister would've blamed him if the friends knew so sorry to burst your bubble but his reputation was ruined by the people who slandered him. Also she didn't mention a fight or any actual issues with her husband all she did was get angry when he specifically did something she asked him not to do. It is reasonable when you ask your husband to not do something to expect he wont do it
@@DummyThiccccc
She said that he would be sleeping on the porch if he did it again. Clearly it didn't end with her just getting mad at him.
A wedding planner's reputation is on the line with every job they take.
The reason his reputation took a hit is because he let it take the hit.
The sister said that she was throwing a high class wedding and the planner did what he could with a promised $10k instead of the $30k that was supposed to be available, and then the sister blamed the planner for the wedding not being up to snuff and he kept his mouth shut about it.
OP talking to her husband like that is crazy 😂 you’d think with all the love she got for her dad she’d treat and speak to her husband better
…wtf? What does having a good dad have to do with her husband violating her trust and her response to it???
@@Carnibee he didn’t violate her trust, the mom asked him and he stood on business and told her why his wife was upset. He was just trying to help 🤷🏾♂️ and her saying she wanted to smack him upside the head for telling the mom “we know ur a liar” is wrong. The dad part was supposed to be more so a joke as to how she can treat her man poorly while loving her dad so much since fathers determine how women view men in their adult lives
@@Yuri13Sao I don’t understand how she treated him poorly. If I asked my partner not to speak to my toxic, emotionally abusive family and they not only did anyway, but they divulged things I was not ready for them to know, I would be FURIOUS. “Stand on business” but whose business was it? Not his, not completely. It was her money and her family so he should have respected her wishes and let her handle it by SUPPORTING her, not telling her toxic mother everything and opening her up to more abuse before she was ready to deal with it.
Y’all be setting yourself up tryna stand on business and “keep it real.”
@@Carnibee he behaved like an adult unlike op.
She has every right to be upset at her husband for not telling off his mother
The mother has every nerve to disown the daughter after extorting so much money 💴 and lying. Foolish narcissist
I don't understand y the hell you feel it's your fault in story 1... You finally woke up from being stupid for a long time... Remember to love only those who deserve...
Clearly she doesn't by the way she treat her husband
@@dumbidea1007when you have a narcissistic parent you can pick up narcissistic tendencies without actually being a narcissist because of how you’re raised and socialised. The same reason she thinks it’s her fault is the same reason she handled the situation in a way to hurt everyone, that’s all she knows, as an adult it’s on her to get the therapy to fix that but it doesn’t mean she doesn’t love her husband it just means she needs to work on communicating in a less aggressive way, and remember that he’s a safe person. It can take a lifetime to undo the damage and trauma from narcissistic abuse that won’t change overnight. She didn’t go about it in the right way but she set the boundary not to answer the calls he should’ve just blocked the numbers and moved on, him not listening made her feel the way her mother makes her feel and she didn’t communicate effectively because she never learned how to. It’s so more complicated than everyone’s evil. This is the exact reason my fiancé and I deal with our families separately my family drama’s bigger and more complicated so I sort it myself and vent to him when necessary, his is smaller and different so he manages it and I put myself on his level so that I don’t belittle his situation. In certain situations that separation between families is necessary, each of us knows we’re safe with the other and when we have children we’ll work on that together but knowing he’s an only child and his family dynamics he shouldn’t have to deal with my family and knowing how messed my family dynamics can be I shouldn’t have deal with his on top of mine. Actual handling of situations tends to work best that way and ghosting is actually a reliable method for dealing with narcissists it’s called stonewalling or sometimes grey rocking and it’s an effective therapy technique but also something you just pick up from being around narcissists if you give them nothing they get bored and they’ll get over themselves, when someone like that realises they have no power they move on
If he disobeys me I’ll make him sleep on the porch is crazy. wouldn’t stand for that comment.
I cringed at the disobey comment too... shows she's problematic as well
it seems like her mother and sister's lies, manipulation, and abusing op's money made her so angry that she was willing to speak to her husband like that makes me think that she SHOULD'VE SUED THEM. If it makes you that riled up if he talks to them then clearly they are the problem not him. Yet she is still making excuses like "I feel bad for her wedding being ruined". Like, what??
Story 1
The amount of abuse OP had to suffer is so obvious in her unwillingness to financially destroy her family. She was willing to let $40k just disappear - for the record, this amount of money being used in this way is a felony of the highest order. It has real prison time, and with it being across state lines it would probably be a federal prison.
Story 2
Drunk people don't lie. You can lie while you're drunk, but the lies are motivated by some kind of reasoning - the things you say, however, are impulsive. That's what it means to lose your inhibitions - you no longer have the capacity to prevent yourself from doing things that you wouldn't normally do. But, lying requires a bit of thought behind it, a reason to fabricate the truth and a reason to spread the fabrication. Most people who lie when they're drunk are lying to stay out of trouble, not to get into it.
I think it depends on whether or not they had an actual loan contact detailing what the money was supposed to be used for.
Now if they forged documentation about the mom receiving knee surgery thrn thrg would have been thrown in jail.
first story op could just sue her family for the money back lol
"Drunk people don't lie"
Girl, how many drunk men brag about their manly accomplishments? Bullshit
15:53 / 21:47 in many cases alcohol doesn't actually speak for the drunken person, but gives the person the confidence to say things he normally wouldn't .
So ...
Going to marriage counseling, lmao what a joke. The truth is out now, she knows her husband is in love with her sister, that she's a second choice, and that he probably only chose to be with her to be able to be around her sister. Acting like there's anything to salvage in her situation is just willful self delusion. She should tell her sister what a creep her husband is so she can take precautions, and have him served asap.
OP has to stop guilting herself over not paying for all of her sister’s wedding, because her and her mother have been horrible to her and it’s not like she needs a 50k wedding anyway.
Her and her friend’s husband need to stand up to her family instead of letting them walk all over them, they could potentially sue them for monetary damages and defamation.
Also OP please give your husband a break, he must’ve just panicked on the phone and it’s not like him telling the truth really affected anything anyway.
Isn't that also child abuse or child neglect
@@arietavakasoqo4901who’s the child?
@@arietavakasoqo4901what child are you referring to?
I would have told the inlaws too tbh they should know what they are getting into
OP should have asked for a DNA test against her "sister"
They have the same mom. The dna tesf would show that they are indeed sisters.
@@lilchristuten7568A dna test would show if they're full or half sisters.
Without one she must assume she is full sisters, and their father has abandoned her
No shame in asking for money but won't even send a wedding invite to their own kid. Terrible family all around. Dad blamed the other daughter for something out of her control and mom blamed the older daughter for the husband's choices.
Story 1 is plain infuriating. OP, despite her claims is just a stupid doormat. Just how much effort and money can you throw at the people that you grew up with, before you realise you're nothing but a cash-cow for them? That isn't family. Treat your husband better, cause he cares about you and the kids, don't lash out when he tries to cut ties with your horrible parent.
yeah i agree she should be nicer to him, she threatened to make him sleep on the cold porch if he answered their calls and wanted to smack him when he stopped giving them money
Dad was definitely right about the cheating. If they were struggling with money and the mom even thought the sister was his she would have hounded him for that money too. I can’t blame them for not being clear with the kids but it’s pretty clear that both of them knew that sister wasn’t his. Not thought, knew.
Op should know she's not getting the money back ever, so she should report her mum to the IRS for $40k in undeclared income
S2: Narrator and comment text should be in a different color than OPs story. It's confusing since the voice is the same too.
Not rlly
It was mentioned that they were on a different story when they said now on to story 2
Story one: Op can, infact, sue for the money back. One: the gift claiming will not stand for many factors take play, the fact op has a witness to the agreement of the money being used for one thing, that being her husband. Two, the fact being that op used a bank account to LEND money in installments to the mother for the house. And three, even if they claim it as a "gift" if it was GIFTED for a specific purpose and not used for said purpose, you can sue/be sued for failure to do so.
Can we talk about how she seemed more or just about as mad at her own husband for not wanting to put up with this back and forth never-ending BS between op and her family than she is actually at her family For manipulating and lying to her it's like look op. You can play all the petty games you want but as soon as your husband gets dragged into it, he has every right to cut the bullshit
Ifdad had not been able to prove that sister was not his, he'd have been paying child support.
"I AM DISOWNING YOU !!" - mom, who just spent the last months begging for her daughter's money
Freezing an account is the best way to get back at really big spenders.
Domt you just love it when the OP claims to not be a doormat and then the opposite is true?
The male wedding planner has a wife? I have never heard of a straight male wedding planner before, that's a first!!
Problem with first story: Op: “I’m not a doormat”
Proceeds to act like a doormat
Problem with 2nd story: Op will never grow a spine
If my wife told she'll make me sleep outside I'd tell her to try it.
^how to brick your marriage asap
If she's trying to do that then she already did.
@@athrunmoza8996That's abuse buddy, The moment she bring that up, she bricked the relationship between them.
Yeah who is she to talk to him like that specially when his big crime was being the one adult in the whole story
@@athrunmoza8996she already bricked it when she got mad at him for being upfront and not involving himself in their bullshit family drama?
She shouldn’t feel guilty, because what they did, was absolutely despicable!?!😡🤬
0:23 “Living in Ohio” More like Town of Memes and funni
If a single person called that dude in the first story 'heartless' or 'mean' for 'ruining' her wedding then natural selection really didn't do it's job tbh
I wouldn’t call OP evil and arrogant, instead, I’d call her a doormat for sending her lying, thieving mother and sister all that money. Sue them!
S1: Never loan money to family without notarized paperwork.
Usually by family asking to borrow money they really mean give me money.
Cheaters always cheat and liars always lie.
You are better off without them.
That mother is a hell of a hypocrite. Id have said sounds great since im ashamed to have a mother who tries to manipulate their own kid for money, not even an apology and still asked for more money.
JUST FYI, drywall and stuff dosent matter what shape its in, as long as the frame and foundation of the house are still in good shape itll stay solid no matter what kind of weather you have, sounds to me she just wanted a makeover on the inside lol, and 100k for literally a full inside renovation is crazy bro maximum 20-30k and thats for new toilet, sinks, counters all of that
The good thing about getting disowned via text or voicemail is that whenever they need to ask for a favor from you, you can just send them back a screenshot/mp4 of the disownment lmao
Story 1: Dont see why people are so annoyed with story 1. She was trying to get that sweet revenge and make them simmer but her husband couldn't keep his lips sealed. And I interpreted her "threat" to be a half joking one, like if he fucked up again she would get mad but nothing bad would actually happen (besides her getting mad and the repercussions from that). Glad she's doing fine now. Good idea from the husband to pay in enstallments, probably got saved a load of money that way.
@OdakaMemeingI'm sorry, but I agree the with person who wrote comment here, she wanted some revenge on being mistreated by her mother, to be honest, her mother and sister both are narcissists and manipulated her into being a doormat.
@OdakaMemeing tbh, I was also laughing, lol
@@c4e_gacha87
She wanted petty revenge that wouldn't go anywhere. After she had he fun of making them sweat for a while she would have paid the rest of the money because that's the type of person she was. The only reason she didn't pay is because the mother disowned her as a result of the husband telling her the situation.
yeah i kinda get that she wanted to get revenge but she literally said shes damn serious about the threat
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Last one is a nightmare
The fact that British people say “you’re brilliant” during sex is hilarious
They are asking for her to fund the wedding without even inviting her
WAIT! So with 100 guests is already a grand wedding? We're working for an intimate wedding of 50 guests, but we figured it is not enough for our close relatives and friends so we have to increase it to 100. But we still can't invite everyone that are important to us with that number. Well, can I claim my wedding will be a grand one?
Depends on how much it costs. Though I'd think a "grand" wedding would cost at least 6 figures.
i thougth an intimate wedding is like just family
The friend was angling for the money .
They are going to disown her? Don't threaten her with a good time.
Story 1. F them Story 2. Drunk person's words are a sober person's thoughts; the sex that was so amazing, he was thinking about the sister. Next time you all 4 got together, put a camera up without him knowing and, once they left, see what happens
People have unhealthy obsession with weddings. Why would you EVER want to start a life together in debt? I think the same thing about wedding rings. Yes I am married. Family came together to hold it at my stepdad and mom's house. It was potluck. I bought the rings and dress myself. We are very in our marriage, and isn't that what matters? Normalize quiet weddings put together by family.
The fact that people think op is in the wrong for saying that about the husband is wild. It wasnt his job or right to tell the mother anything. Op even told him straight up dont entertain anything yet he went behind ops back and said everything. I would be mad too. Its not his right to say anything. She didn't want her mom or sister to know and he didnt care. Maybe he didnt think or smth but i personally think op did nothing wrong.
Maybe op shouldn’t be such a sniveling coward and should’ve been straight up instead of trying to get petty revenge on people she knew were trash when she put herself in the situation. The only rational one in the story was her husband.
Not to mention he didn’t approach them first, they approached him, everyone out her acting like he sought them out, OP is pissed off that he used his God-given right of free speech to tell them to piss off, when he probably knew his wife well enough to know she probably would become a doormat to them again, so in doing so he spared them.
Also what was the point of the revenge? It served no purpose as they probably would have stopped soon anyway, so why would he entertain something useless for no reason. He’s a man with a wife and children, a grown adult that doesn’t have the time for childish, petty, and down right useless revenge
No, he is under no obligation to play those stupid Petty games if he doesn't want to. If his wife wants to behave like a child she can but he don't have to and the moment he started getting calls about the situation he was officially involved meaning he can cut the BS if he wants
@@captaingramcrackergrams5990 Also though it affecting his wife would affect him, so it also becomes his problem in that way to
For living in Ohio and being from Houston, this sure sounds like it was run through Google translate a time or two
Story OP is like the opposite of what they say they are 😅!
Why are people so passive with OPs family?
That is what I'm saying people are calling her a doormat like paying for house repairs and your moms knee surgery is unreasonable. Also everybody acting like the OP abused her husband when she made an obvious joke and literally brought u 0 details about him being upset or them fighting at all. Literally 2 lines about her husband 1 of him being dumb another of a bad joke and people act like OP is the bad one when her family especially her sister is awful
It's really difficult for me to tell what parts of these stories were the actual stories and what were people's comments... it would've been nice if there was some way to distinguish between them.
My thing is your mom and sister need to support themselves if they go into poverty then they need to get on assistance
For the second story, my grandma, Mom and Aunt always told me that a drunk person’s words are sober man’s thoughts…
1st story:he is gonna sleep on the potch.
He:yeah that's normal 😅
I really hope the husband either laid or lays down the law in the future with OP 1, telling him to sleep on the porch for helping her situation is awful. If she does that again he should leave.
Right?! That comment about him "disobeying" her was bad enough, but saying that she'd make him sleep out on the porch in the cold? Yeah, NO. That's not how a partnership works.
OP seems to think that she's a better person than her mother and sister, but honestly they seem like they're cut from the same cloth.
@@weirdlybeloved They are both Aholes for all I am concerned, the good boy my mother raised wants to say "lay down the law you will respect me" the no nonsense man I became after her death wants to say "I want a divorce"
@@Eidolon5150 Ditto. If it were me I'd say that she needs to apologize to me, and then tell her that if she speaks to me like that again then we're going to therapy and/or separating.
I know some people would probably say that that's an overreaction, but if someone is comfortable threatening you to get their own way, then that's a major issue that will only get worse if you don't make it clear that you are not going to tolerate being treated like that.
@@weirdlybeloved I’m personally not a fan of marriage counseling. Also can’t say that I haven’t quote on quote threatened people to get them to stop being idiots. Like my friend was hardcore simping for a chick and it was effecting his health, said breakup with her or I am walking away from this friendship.
@@Eidolon5150 Yeah, I'm not really a fan of marriage counseling if one party is clearly the problem, but it does help sometimes I think.. provided the therapist is actually impartial and doesn't try to play both ends against the middle.
And agreed! I meant more threatening someone to get your own way like the woman in this story did. There are definitely times when an issue gets out of hand and an ultimatum is the only way to make it clear that you're done with someone's bs.
Did your friend end up breaking up with her?
never give money to people like that. pay the contractors directly.
The 1st: they straight up lied about the house. Houses don’t need renovations till over 100 years if lived in and kept up on cleanliness.
The mom probably disowned OP because she had no intention of paying her back.
The husband catching strays 😂
Dude, the husband fumbled hard! She needed a partner in crime. Not the kid that reminds the teacher we had homework. 😂
@@Jaygermeister93 yeah it was exactly what she needed
@Jaygermeister93 @Jaygermeister93 bruv she did nothing petty she ignored ppl stealing 40k wtf you mean. Also a partner in crime in this scenario would be someone supporting her also don't use the xrap line"dont let me tell you what I think" when your first comment was sarcasm and you literally didn't tell anybody what you thought.
11:27 he would sleep outside 😂😂
Story 1: OP's mom was right about her being arrogant and self centered. This whole story proves that. Also the fact that she said she was smart and clever to be a doormat only for her actions to prove otherwise 💀
What did she do that was arrogant? She called herself smart enough to not be used by her mom? Like yeah she was wrong but acting like she was self centered is insane because what did she do that was self centered? Was it the 20k she gave to fix her mom's knee? Was that self-centered? Or was it the 50k she was gonna give to fix her mothers house? Maybe that was selfish part. She was arrogant and used and she probably isn't even that arrogant because she is probably correct about half the shi she said.
I'm sorry how is she arrogant and self centered? By not giving more money to her lying mother?
The only issue here is she was dumb enough to bring about not being a doormat, despite being a colossal doormat and letting her shit mother get away with that behaviour.
Some people will bleed you dry and then be mad because you have no more for them to take from you.
Final story: That husband cleared everything up with flying colors, and that commenter at the end is just evil. Stirring everything up for no reason, with the words of a Disney villain.
I agree w/ the other commenters they've been usin like a ATM n if u don't stand up 4 urself n put a stop 2 it it'll never end n u'll b broke. Sue the pair of em n get ur money bk n teach em a hard lesson in respect n money.
Story 1: one of my biggest pet peeves in life is lending money. People are so disrespectful. They assume just because you may happen to have come into some money that they’re entitled to some (or all) of it and don’t understand why you should be paid back. I’ve heard: “but you’re not really hurting for this money right?” 🤨
Also, I never lend if they don’t have CashApp. That allows us to completely transact through the app and keep track of how much has been lent versus paid back. Far easier to say “no” to the next ask when you can simply send them a screenshot of how much they already owe you from two years ago.
I'd be talking with lawyers to try to reclaim that 40k that was taken. How fucked up can people be?
Drunkenness = sober thoughts 14:40
Absolutely. Always take the words of a drunk person because alcohol makes the truth come out
Ha! When story 2 started, I thought it was from the same person who wrote story 2. So when they went ‘my husband is in love with my sister’ I was shook! Hahaha! Like, what a plot twist! I thought her life couldn’t possibly get worse but now this!?! Glad it was a totally different story though haha! 😅
I don't see how the mother disowning her was such a threat. She basically only contacted as it was to get money and lie to her. She wasn't even invited to her sister's wedding. She was already basically disowned. But I have a feeling whatever the mother said she'll be back asking for money eventually.
pretty sure OP from story 1 can sue her mother and sister for fraude if she can prouve that she was deceived
There's no such thing as an "innocent" crush when you
Are
Not
SINGLE!
I don't play this game of "who would be your free pass" if you could
Marriage is not a game
An "innocent" crush can lead to shit like this
It's not worth it
Your emotions and your lust are deceptive
1st Story: I'd file a cease and desist stating that they need to return the money back at a certain date and promise to file an embezzlement lawsuit against them if they don't, and then go NC with them once I get my money back.
If you too smart, to be a doormat you’d know to stop giving them money & realise you keep being exploited. LOL
2nd story is like no one Wendy to school because drunken words are drunken thoughts
Through story 2 was continued from story 1 at first and was like wtf 😂😂
Your mom definitely cheated !!!!! Go NC.
@@Nameless82284 this^ plus the lying and manipulation
Dad was gigachad based, too bad he wasted all his efforts on a ☕
that was smart of you because you did not gave her money
2nd story- in vino veritas babe, I wouldn't be able to trust him ever again. Maybe- if sister is trustworthy- talk to your sister about it, she's happily newly married, in the perfect position to tell him off and how he didn't deserve his wife...maybe get new BIL to tell him off too. Ugh, yeah, there are no happy endings here, hubby is just a pig and ruined a perfectly good marriage, poor OP..and poor kiddos!! Lol I wish there was an update, we need updates!!
I missed the announcement that it changed to a second story and I was sooo shocked lmaooo.
Second story: that woman is going to ruin her own life overthinking about that.
Everyone has secret crushes/fantasies (and if you deny it you're lying) that'll forever stay in the vast realms of the imagination.
A lawn party with unlimited wine to announce an engagement? I just used Facebook, that seemed to work OK.
1st story if I was the wedding planner I’d sue for slandering their business. Feel bad for groomsmen for whom he is marrying
OP in the first one is just plain pathetic. “I’m too smart to be a doormat” and proceeds to hand over money to her mom and sister? How sad.
The way op treats her husband is sick, ruining petty revenge is not a sin
Edit: Sisters husband is stupidly noble, I pray for him