Nikkyo Stop The Brutality/Aikido Hereford

While there is a time and place for Kotei/strong training that is not all the time. Often Aikidoka seem to preoccupied with "whether it is on", ie am I causing you enough pain? I am not sure that this is in the spirit of Aikido. All that is really required is that Uke's body is momentarily unbalanced long enough to neutralise the attack.