I feel this. For a long time I thought of my introversion and calm personality as some huge weakness, especially when it came to work but recently I’ve come to realize that there’s literally nothing wrong with it at all. I’m never gonna be someone who bounces off the walls and that’s completely ok. I work with kids too and not to brag but they love me lmao because I’m nice and goofy in my own laid back way and I really do think you are too. Gotta let the stress go and accept yourself lil mama
Sam perfectly said! I also within the last year have realized that the way I am is fine, and that my personality may be more relaxed and reserved at times but that’s ok. Something I’ve been telling myself is that if people don’t like who I really am, they aren’t for me. By not being ourselves we miss out on attracting the people who do connect with us
Hearing you talk about how you didn't feel like yourself, felt empty, and felt sad is really reassuring. My summer has been the same way, and I've boiled it down to not having a schedule to stick to and make me feel accomplished. So basically, not having full control of my situation. I bet it's worse going through this in the summer, too, because we expect the summer to be the best time of the year, and if it's not it feel like I've "failed" summer. Basically, you aren't alone!
I love how you said about being more in touch with the introverted side of u instead of just putting yourself in either the extroverted or introverted category. I mostly relate to introvert characteristics but sometimes my extrovert side comes out. So good to let both sides exist in yourself and not feel like you have to “pick” one. Just a lil’ revelation i’ve had this year.
I became a counselor after watching your first vid this past summer and had the time of my life!! It was such a fulfilling and amazing experience. It barely even felt like a job. I’d highly recommend everyone to try it.
Hi girl! I totally relate to your experience. It is horrible to feel that you're a stranger to yourself ,and that your personality it isn't working to reach your own expectations in life. I guess, with time, everything would come to normal. But...you have an amazing personality, you really know how to express yourself. You 're going places, is just a matter of time. Have a great day!
It’s strange because I’m usually super introverted, but it’s just different at camp. Maybe it’s the people around me being super supportive or what idk. For anyone interested doing it you will make so many friends. It’s was the best summer of my life.
Hey Tiffany! I’ve been watching your vids for a while now and I’ve always held back from commenting but I just gotta tell you I can’t thank you enough for being real about what it’s like to go through life as a highly introverted person. I related to every point you brought up in the camp video (despite never working at a camp, which, I can’t even imagine signing up for that kind of work😅, so major props👏) I too have found myself become more shy/introverted as I’ve gotten older and I definitely wonder like what the heck is wrong with me. But I’m glad to know we’re not alone and that it’s okay to be how we are! Keep on doing what you do because you have a gift of connecting with others, not to mention, have an incredible sense of humor😜! I hope you’re doing well and again, thank you!!! 💯👍💕
I understand you so deeply on the energy thing. I work at Starbucks and automatically always trying to talk to customers but by the time I’m done with work or hit a break I want to sleep, sit in a corner alone, etc. can never do anything after work!!! But I do get the personality issues I feel the same about myself. But it’s so great to have you to relate to
I relate so much!!! That was me freshman year of college ❤️ I’m going through a very similar thing to you right now !! Thank you for making me feel less alone 😌
I have been watching your videos for a while now and I have always enjoyed your content. I feel like you've opened up and given us real talk on your well being and what your going through and I have even more respect for you and support you (In a friendly stranger way lolz) I hope you feel more like yourself soon :)
great video! ive never seen anyone share this type of experience on youtube and im so glad you did. being a camper for many years with the same personality that you have, i can relate so much to everything you said. definitely very isolating sometimes. glad im not alone in that
Thanks for using my question from Instagram. I think my camp experience was pretty similar to your first year, i was a art specialist and i was the only one running that area. That's hard as an introvert (especially with a very mean bully of a supervisor). At my camp we were on the clock pretty much 22 hours a day and our kitchen was not making enough food so we were running on nothing at times so that mixed with the anxiety i have was hard. The friends i found was what made camp worth it for me but we had really bad management so despite the fact i had a good time and pushed through a lot of crap i just can't see myself returning. I really related to all the things you said in this video as it's very close to my personal experience.
I 100% agree and understand you. Im an introvert and i just finished my last day of my summer camp. Im a generalized worker so i felt a huge push to be "on". I felt so drained that I would have to be completely solitary when i was out of work which really hurt my relationships with other humans and in turn my self-esteem. And worst of all my co-workers tried to hang out with me for hours afterwards. The activities are always group activities and I realized the kids that constantly left the group were introverts (duh, why didnt i realize sooner). I should've tried to implement some new activities that would offer more of a choice if the kids wanted to be by themself or with others. This world was not made for introverts.
I wish you the best. Mental health is no joke. It is important that you get professional help early. I have watched a young man spiral into oblivion. What started in high school as a refusal to go to school, turned into schizophrenia and delusions so bad he can’t function in society right now. His mother’s denial of the situation and enabling of him did not help. Do not be afraid of medication either. Every time our neighbor gets committed, he gets medicated and does much better. The problem is he gets released and his mother can’t get him to stay on his meds. I wish you well 🥓
HEy, cassywarrior here. FInally got around to watching this vid because adulting sucks hah. But anyway, yeah your camp is SO different from mine! Mine is an all girls camp located in South Texas and it's quite literally the smallest camp I've ever seen. We have five cabins in all and counselors quite literally do everything. Like personally last summer I was a lifeguard, counselor, and the photographer! We live with our girls in the cabin, because there is no staff housing but I lowkey love it. It just sucks having to wait to take your shower when it's like 10;30 at night. Then we teach three classes throughout the day and do gatherings and make sure our cabin is bonding and everything is going smoothly! I taught canoeing, art, and a power tool class this summer and it was amazing! I personally really like the small camp, and when i say small i mean small (like we have 24 people on staff, including directors and kitchen staff) because they know you well and know when you need to take a breather and totally validate all mental illnesses and it's so nice! That's how i survive being a camp counselor as an introvert quite honestly, also it's a camp that wants to promote differences as healthy and normal so they literally seek out every summer to create the most diverse summer staff as much as they can. This video is great and I love it!
(It's true) for me it has been better to think about my introverted side not as a bad part of my personality but just a normal/natural/ok thing.. Not forcing myself to do the extroverted things (I hate to do) has made me feel better (Some people can really like the quiet girl that I am at times)
omg i totally feel the part about not feeling comfortable in your own skin this summer. i felt the same way, still kind of do. usually i am pretty care free and confident but i have definitely been struggling with that this summer. i wonder if it has anything to do w all of the mercury in retrograde shit because it was in retrograde all of july and the beginning of august i think
I also feel like I used to be much more extroverted, but I think I slowly became more introverted over the years. I think it's partially because I've always felt like the least important person in my friend group and I started to give up
Anxiety makes you tired all the time. And being an introvert, we tend to get our energy from being alone versus extroverts who get energized by being around people. We don’t like fake smiling with people and go to parties where you make small talk with tons of people. Introverts value quality over quantity-relationships. We value one on one relationships where we can literally GET REAL with each other and put all the pretences aside. Peoples energy literally drain me too, so I get where you’re coming from. Biggest challenge is being able to accept who you are-unapologetically. This is the story of my life. Social people are actually the reason why I feel there is something wrong with being the way I am- an introvert until I found a term called “indigo or rainbow” children. Google this and look at the traits of being an “indigo” child or a “rainbow” child and see if you can relate. You have what I call a warrior spirit that is here to guide other like-individuals into greater awareness, so they can evolve and do what they were put on earth here to do. I found this theory super fascinating! Love you and be well!
I Would never have guessed you view yourself as an introvert. You really don't seem like one... Whenever you get down, just remember there's a lot people who love you for just being yourself.
You're welcome. Remember, your focus creates you your reality. Whatever you send out there the Universe mirrors back to you. It al depends on your intent(focus-desire)... At some point, would you please consider pasting a Bitcoin wallet address on your social media accounts. Mycelium is a good choice for a mobile phone wallet. Most secure and lowest transfer cost options. Electrum is best for a PC wallet. ;-)
12:20 that feeling you were describing was me on my last day at my internship. And it was horrible because I felt so awkward saying bye to my co-workers and that just made me feel even more uncomfortable lol and that was the first time I ever felt that during my internship. I am pretty sure I have anxiety issues but I never think it's that big of a deal that I need to see a therapist for... Should I? Could you give me advice for that? I am still in college and they give free counseling but when I went the grad student (who wasn't even certified yet) just said I was fine after my first walk-in, and said I only needed to come back if I had thoughts of hurting myself or others. And TBH that kind of hurt because I felt he didn't listen to anything I had said. Idk this comment went haywire but I'mma post it anyway.
Kind of off-topic, but I see your videos about college and it makes me upset that you couldn't afford the schools you want to go to. You should try University of Maryland, College Park. They have really good programs for Performing Arts, the campus is just outside of Washington D.C., and it is a school with a good reputation.
I know what you mean by comparing yourself to others it’s such a horrible thing to do you can only point out the bad qualities you have and the good qualities other people have
Heyy !! I was wondering how did you deal with being more introverted and your year abroad ? I'm going on Erasmus this year and as a more introverted person I'm not sure I can deal with all the partying and a lot of socialising :/
I 100% agree and understand you. Im an introvert and i just finished my last day of my summer camp. Im a generalized worker so i felt a huge push to be "on". I felt so drained that I would have to be completely solitary when i was out of work which really hurt my relationships with other humans and in turn my self-esteem. And worst of all my co-workers tried to hang out with me for hours afterwards. The activities are always group activities and I realized the kids that constantly left the group were introverts (duh, why didnt i realize sooner). I should've tried to implement some new activities that would offer more of a choice if the kids wanted to be by themself or with others. This world was not made for introverts.
I feel this. For a long time I thought of my introversion and calm personality as some huge weakness, especially when it came to work but recently I’ve come to realize that there’s literally nothing wrong with it at all. I’m never gonna be someone who bounces off the walls and that’s completely ok. I work with kids too and not to brag but they love me lmao because I’m nice and goofy in my own laid back way and I really do think you are too. Gotta let the stress go and accept yourself lil mama
Sam perfectly said! I also within the last year have realized that the way I am is fine, and that my personality may be more relaxed and reserved at times but that’s ok. Something I’ve been telling myself is that if people don’t like who I really am, they aren’t for me. By not being ourselves we miss out on attracting the people who do connect with us
Hearing you talk about how you didn't feel like yourself, felt empty, and felt sad is really reassuring. My summer has been the same way, and I've boiled it down to not having a schedule to stick to and make me feel accomplished. So basically, not having full control of my situation. I bet it's worse going through this in the summer, too, because we expect the summer to be the best time of the year, and if it's not it feel like I've "failed" summer. Basically, you aren't alone!
i totally relate!!! i'm a huge introvert and especially when my mental health flares up socializing drains me! omg, we'd be such good friends irl
I love how you said about being more in touch with the introverted side of u instead of just putting yourself in either the extroverted or introverted category. I mostly relate to introvert characteristics but sometimes my extrovert side comes out. So good to let both sides exist in yourself and not feel like you have to “pick” one. Just a lil’ revelation i’ve had this year.
As a fellow camp counselor and UA-camr i LOVE when you make videos talking about your camp, hearing other people's experiences is so fascinating :)
I became a counselor after watching your first vid this past summer and had the time of my life!! It was such a fulfilling and amazing experience. It barely even felt like a job. I’d highly recommend everyone to try it.
Hi girl! I totally relate to your experience. It is horrible to feel that you're a stranger to yourself ,and that your personality it isn't working to reach your own expectations in life. I guess, with time, everything would come to normal. But...you have an amazing personality, you really know how to express yourself. You 're going places, is just a matter of time. Have a great day!
It’s strange because I’m usually super introverted, but it’s just different at camp. Maybe it’s the people around me being super supportive or what idk. For anyone interested doing it you will make so many friends. It’s was the best summer of my life.
this is so relatable honestly. i've been working in a summer camp for 2 summers now and i 100% feel this
Finally someone i can RELATE to❤
My fave moment was the Britney effect on the “skillshare baby”
i love how real you are
Hey Tiffany! I’ve been watching your vids for a while now and I’ve always held back from commenting but I just gotta tell you I can’t thank you enough for being real about what it’s like to go through life as a highly introverted person. I related to every point you brought up in the camp video (despite never working at a camp, which, I can’t even imagine signing up for that kind of work😅, so major props👏) I too have found myself become more shy/introverted as I’ve gotten older and I definitely wonder like what the heck is wrong with me. But I’m glad to know we’re not alone and that it’s okay to be how we are! Keep on doing what you do because you have a gift of connecting with others, not to mention, have an incredible sense of humor😜! I hope you’re doing well and again, thank you!!! 💯👍💕
I understand you so deeply on the energy thing. I work at Starbucks and automatically always trying to talk to customers but by the time I’m done with work or hit a break I want to sleep, sit in a corner alone, etc. can never do anything after work!!! But I do get the personality issues I feel the same about myself. But it’s so great to have you to relate to
I relate so much!!! That was me freshman year of college ❤️ I’m going through a very similar thing to you right now !! Thank you for making me feel less alone 😌
I have been watching your videos for a while now and I have always enjoyed your content. I feel like you've opened up and given us real talk on your well being and what your going through and I have even more respect for you and support you (In a friendly stranger way lolz) I hope you feel more like yourself soon :)
SAME! I’m an introvert and I was a lifeguard living in a bunk with 5th grade girls a few summers back.
great video! ive never seen anyone share this type of experience on youtube and im so glad you did. being a camper for many years with the same personality that you have, i can relate so much to everything you said. definitely very isolating sometimes. glad im not alone in that
Thanks for using my question from Instagram. I think my camp experience was pretty similar to your first year, i was a art specialist and i was the only one running that area. That's hard as an introvert (especially with a very mean bully of a supervisor). At my camp we were on the clock pretty much 22 hours a day and our kitchen was not making enough food so we were running on nothing at times so that mixed with the anxiety i have was hard. The friends i found was what made camp worth it for me but we had really bad management so despite the fact i had a good time and pushed through a lot of crap i just can't see myself returning. I really related to all the things you said in this video as it's very close to my personal experience.
I 100% agree and understand you. Im an introvert and i just finished my last day of my summer camp. Im a generalized worker so i felt a huge push to be "on". I felt so drained that I would have to be completely solitary when i was out of work which really hurt my relationships with other humans and in turn my self-esteem. And worst of all my co-workers tried to hang out with me for hours afterwards. The activities are always group activities and I realized the kids that constantly left the group were introverts (duh, why didnt i realize sooner). I should've tried to implement some new activities that would offer more of a choice if the kids wanted to be by themself or with others. This world was not made for introverts.
+tiffanyferg We should both pat ourselves on the back. What made it worth it were the kids. Their happiness kept me going
I wish you the best. Mental health is no joke. It is important that you get professional help early. I have watched a young man spiral into oblivion. What started in high school as a refusal to go to school, turned into schizophrenia and delusions so bad he can’t function in society right now. His mother’s denial of the situation and enabling of him did not help. Do not be afraid of medication either. Every time our neighbor gets committed, he gets medicated and does much better. The problem is he gets released and his mother can’t get him to stay on his meds. I wish you well 🥓
Wow thank you, SO relatable!
I know I am also a high sensitive person, maybe you are too. I don't know, but researching the topic really helped me 💕
HEy, cassywarrior here. FInally got around to watching this vid because adulting sucks hah. But anyway, yeah your camp is SO different from mine! Mine is an all girls camp located in South Texas and it's quite literally the smallest camp I've ever seen. We have five cabins in all and counselors quite literally do everything. Like personally last summer I was a lifeguard, counselor, and the photographer! We live with our girls in the cabin, because there is no staff housing but I lowkey love it. It just sucks having to wait to take your shower when it's like 10;30 at night. Then we teach three classes throughout the day and do gatherings and make sure our cabin is bonding and everything is going smoothly! I taught canoeing, art, and a power tool class this summer and it was amazing! I personally really like the small camp, and when i say small i mean small (like we have 24 people on staff, including directors and kitchen staff) because they know you well and know when you need to take a breather and totally validate all mental illnesses and it's so nice! That's how i survive being a camp counselor as an introvert quite honestly, also it's a camp that wants to promote differences as healthy and normal so they literally seek out every summer to create the most diverse summer staff as much as they can. This video is great and I love it!
I quite like the extra commentary cut-ins you add to your videos whenever you're reviewing them.
(It's true) for me it has been better to think about my introverted side not as a bad part of my personality but just a normal/natural/ok thing.. Not forcing myself to do the extroverted things (I hate to do) has made me feel better (Some people can really like the quiet girl that I am at times)
omg i totally feel the part about not feeling comfortable in your own skin this summer. i felt the same way, still kind of do. usually i am pretty care free and confident but i have definitely been struggling with that this summer. i wonder if it has anything to do w all of the mercury in retrograde shit because it was in retrograde all of july and the beginning of august i think
I also feel like I used to be much more extroverted, but I think I slowly became more introverted over the years. I think it's partially because I've always felt like the least important person in my friend group and I started to give up
Anxiety makes you tired all the time. And being an introvert, we tend to get our energy from being alone versus extroverts who get energized by being around people. We don’t like fake smiling with people and go to parties where you make small talk with tons of people. Introverts value quality over quantity-relationships. We value one on one relationships where we can literally GET REAL with each other and put all the pretences aside. Peoples energy literally drain me too, so I get where you’re coming from. Biggest challenge is being able to accept who you are-unapologetically. This is the story of my life. Social people are actually the reason why I feel there is something wrong with being the way I am- an introvert until I found a term called “indigo or rainbow” children. Google this and look at the traits of being an “indigo” child or a “rainbow” child and see if you can relate. You have what I call a warrior spirit that is here to guide other like-individuals into greater awareness, so they can evolve and do what they were put on earth here to do. I found this theory super fascinating! Love you and be well!
I Would never have guessed you view yourself as an introvert. You really don't seem like one... Whenever you get down, just remember there's a lot people who love you for just being yourself.
You're welcome. Remember, your focus creates you your reality. Whatever you send out there the Universe mirrors back to you. It al depends on your intent(focus-desire)... At some point, would you please consider pasting a Bitcoin wallet address on your social media accounts. Mycelium is a good choice for a mobile phone wallet. Most secure and lowest transfer cost options. Electrum is best for a PC wallet. ;-)
12:20 that feeling you were describing was me on my last day at my internship. And it was horrible because I felt so awkward saying bye to my co-workers and that just made me feel even more uncomfortable lol and that was the first time I ever felt that during my internship. I am pretty sure I have anxiety issues but I never think it's that big of a deal that I need to see a therapist for... Should I? Could you give me advice for that? I am still in college and they give free counseling but when I went the grad student (who wasn't even certified yet) just said I was fine after my first walk-in, and said I only needed to come back if I had thoughts of hurting myself or others. And TBH that kind of hurt because I felt he didn't listen to anything I had said. Idk this comment went haywire but I'mma post it anyway.
you rock. Thank you for sharing this!
love your videos
"I wAnt a cHurCh gIrl tHat gO tO ChUrch...
Mugen Lee and reeeead her bawyble
I get some major Taylor Swift vibe from you in this video.
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Kind of off-topic, but I see your videos about college and it makes me upset that you couldn't afford the schools you want to go to. You should try University of Maryland, College Park. They have really good programs for Performing Arts, the campus is just outside of Washington D.C., and it is a school with a good reputation.
I know what you mean by comparing yourself to others it’s such a horrible thing to do you can only point out the bad qualities you have and the good qualities other people have
tiffanyferg we all do
Relatable.
Heeeey cuutaaaay
Heyy !! I was wondering how did you deal with being more introverted and your year abroad ? I'm going on Erasmus this year and as a more introverted person I'm not sure I can deal with all the partying and a lot of socialising :/
tiffanyferg thank you so much ! I hope you have a good time at camp !
“I don’t care, I’ll be different, bleh!”
Would you get paid hourly ?
I 100% agree and understand you. Im an introvert and i just finished my last day of my summer camp. Im a generalized worker so i felt a huge push to be "on". I felt so drained that I would have to be completely solitary when i was out of work which really hurt my relationships with other humans and in turn my self-esteem. And worst of all my co-workers tried to hang out with me for hours afterwards. The activities are always group activities and I realized the kids that constantly left the group were introverts (duh, why didnt i realize sooner). I should've tried to implement some new activities that would offer more of a choice if the kids wanted to be by themself or with others. This world was not made for introverts.