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Conversation is key! In 2016 I was feeling a bit lonely and I decided to make more social connections (especially female friendships). I started conversations with shop owners, artists, etc. I asked them about themselves or their work and it opened so many doors. I made so many new friends and connections that year and those friendships are still thriving today. Just showing interest in someone or something I thought was cool or unique brought so much love into my life. My girl gang are my favorite people in the world and I’m constantly in awe of their passion, drive, and beautiful souls.
That's amazing!! I struggle with starting a conversation with strangers and I don't know how to maintain the relationship after the conversation do you have any tips?
@@xiaosimpverifiedI think some of it was just being lucky enough to meet such lovely people. But my biggest tip is to go to an event or market centered around something you like. That way you already have some connection to other people there. I usually started conversations with compliments or asked simple questions like ‘How long have you been a fan of x?’ Or ‘I love your outfit! Where did you get it?’ After that I would let the other person answer and see how receptive they were. If they weren’t, I wouldn’t push it. If they were, I would introduce myself and make some small talk. The best way to keep it going was asking to friend them on social media. That way you can reach out when you’re ready and they know who you are so you’re not just some random person to them. From there it just built up organically.
as someone that is socially magnetic I totally agree with everything you said especially putting others on a pedestal, ppl often get nervous or anxious or awkward when talking to someone they think is better than them at something and they become hyper aware of it and think the other person is comparing them to them self and think they are better, while it's not the case and who ever does that is the actual insecur one . don't creat this status piramid in your head instead just understand that are all the same person in deferent bodies
Idk if you already mentioned this and I just missed it but I think there’s one important thing to remember. So I’m speaking from experience: SMILE GENTLY AND FRIENDLY to others, ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU’RE INTRODUCING YOURSELF no matter how you think others perceive you (if they’re friendly with you or not at all). Don’t overact by your guesses how others feel. Be you and SMILE. Like just a little, don’t show your teeth too much, you could change your facial expressions by the theme of the interview/talk… (Plus I’m sorry if I wrote anything wrong, English isn’t my native language.)
For me one thing that works is my memory, haha. I naturally just like to reflect on events and personalities after they happen, so when I meet a person again after a long time i still remember each and every moment we spent together and when i mention those things they are surprised and pleased by how much i paid attention to them, for example they clothes they wore on a birthday party one and a half year ago, their hyperfixation at the time, etc. I believe this contributes to the topic of being magnetic.
My boyfriend is naturally magnetic, no joke. He's super curious about everything and everyone and every single person I've introduced him to immediately likes him, because he blends in, takes interest. I can be talking about how this friend has achieved that and he'll come up with 10 questions I would never have thought to ask and I'm always like... I gotta learn to do this as well !!! My mom was also like that and it was no surprise to se the funeral home MORE THAN FULL because she just connected deeply with a lot of people and she was invested in her community. She was truly herself and a great model to have. Most of the skills you talked about today made me think about the tips that I found to nail an interview, and I am trying hard to build those up, because it's never too late. :) Thanks for the wonderful video
Sounds like me and my mother as well. We both have a natural affinity for people so it's easy for the both of us to make friends. I have the problem now of having too many friends to invite to my birthday (my house is not that big, don't have the money to rent something). So i have to select my closest friends which is still 15 people
And the catch, do not give to others with the hope of getting something in return. To give is to expect nothing in return, so keep that in mind. As a kid and teenager, I followed all these tips strictly, but because I was desperate about being cared about, I surrounded myself with takers instead. Keep in mind what your boundaries are, and what your motivations for giving kindness are. These underlying forces play a huge roll in the effect of this advice.
I'm awkwardly social, but I'm doing this for my black cat boyfriend who's only confident when he's asked about his talents and generally has a hard time being social.
Thank you, very helpful. Another tip for introverts, talk to someone you know, someone close before you need to engage with strangers, like in a networking event. It kind of trains and calms, because when it's the first conversation throughout the day it may be more awkward. Even more if you didn't talk to anyone for days
Thank you! I'm trying to prep for the social aspect of getting to attend a new school, highschool specifically! I've always been the kid who was excluded, ever since i was FOUR. I'm autistic, so A LOT of these tips might not work for me, but i try to weed out the ones that won't work and just apply the ones that will. My disability makes me have a hard time explaining, so i'm prone to stuttering, and it also makes me seem aloof and cold, even though i'm not like that. I hope i can apply atleast some of these, i atleast want to be somewhat liked at the new school unlike all the other schools i've went to.
Hey! If you've started school already, make sure you join a sport, club, or musical activity (choir, band, orchestra) makes it 10x easier to make friends. As a senior, I wish I had done that as a freshman
Thank you Zoe, I am moving to a new school so I am looking for ways to be able to talk to more people since I will know absoulutely no one so this video really helped. :D
Concrete, executable steps to counter awkwardness and succeed in social settings? This should be required viewing for everyone on the spectrum. Really well done.
not you everglowup aka winterosy soomi choujimi overthinking kpop aedark nabicore etc trying to look nice here after being xpsd as a haatr using alts like nasrun hypeboy and your many xyoutsold alts
love how you try to make a comeback with your everglowup alt and use bots to fill the comments to make it look like you have still some supporters and scripts for your subs.
also funny how youre going off with alt now after being xpsd as just another alt who also coincidentally got 200 subs in just seconds after creating it like always.
and responding right away with more posts trying to look nice and using your alts to support yourself there thank you for still behaving exactly the same like you always do with all your alts
Something i like to do to add a little kick to the conversation is throw in something insane. Like a joke or a crazy comparison that makes them laugh. It takes practice, but i also take other peoples jokes, and sometimes i literally wrote them down ao i dont forget.
The first minute of your video not inspired me but scared me, do I want to be like those people? Not only socially awkward but anxious and schoking in my senteces on a phone call..how person like me would want or see my approach in socializing any other way than it is right now lol
Regarding section 4: being a magnet. Turning interest outward sometimes works and, when done genuinely, can foster real connection and much more interesting conversations, from experience. I would, however, like to hear some thoughts about some exceptions: 1. Sometimes someone showing interest and asking questions can come off a bit performative, intrusive and try-hard. I am saying this from experience. For example, I used to go on some tinder dates or have met people in social situations where they would ask me the standard questions (what I do for a living, where I went to uni, if I like it here, if I have seen any movies lately, etc) and it seemed rehearsed and disingenuous at worst, and repetitive and standard at best. It has made me feel disinterested and uncomfortable. Maybe I am too ready to judge, but I bet I am not the only one. People are highly critical of each other, especially in high-achiever communities. People are also easily bored. 2. It can be true that someone being disinterested and dismissive can be a turn-off. However, I have found myself repeatedly craving the attention and validation of people who are behaving like this. Many people's interest does peak when they are rejected. Since they are dismissing me, they are the real deal and only high standards apply to them, right? If I were better, they would pay attention, right? That person seems to get their attention, look how much better they are than me. What can I do to get their attention? In conclusion, my theory is that those tips seem to apply when your audience are healthy people who are not highly critical. For snobs, being nice, interested, and respectful, might be a turn-off.
Well for the first one it feels rehearsed because it probably is. Those are standard questions but if those are the only questions then you never really learn anything about each other. Like asking if someone goes to uni and what their major is I then ask them about it. Or sometimes they have pins or a bag from a game or show I like, so I make that the topic. Also sharing stuff about yourself to try to give the other person smthg to work off and so it doesn't feel like an interview. Smthg that I find successful is mentioning smthg that's been on my mind lately and ask them what they think. If someone isn't branching out their questions or isn't sharing additional info then they don't usually seem that engaged. Depending on body language tho I might just assume they're a bit awkward. For the second one yeah idk, I don't view it like that. If someone ain't interested then cool, there are other people who will be so best not waste my time here. I'll be friendly but I won't chase after someone who doesn't want me. So I guess it depends on one's need for approval or curiosity?
I have a question, is it ok to eat junk food once in while? Like I'm trying to eat only home cooked food, proteins, fruits or yoghurt but I feel sad that I never allow myself to ever eat junk food ever again like chocolate, burgers, fries, etc. If yes, when do you recommend? Once a month? Once a year? +I really enjoy your videos and it was you that helped me overcome an0r3xia so I'm super grateful 💗
From my personal experience, I only eat junk food when I go for outings w my friends or family. If I go out very often, then I restrain myself from eating it and choose healthier options. I usually eat junk foods 2-3 a month. And I think this is healthy, and we'll balanced
THIS TIME I WANT YOU YOU YOU YOU! LIKE ITS MAGNETIC~ YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU~ (😭 I seriously cant believe people haven't commented smth like this yet ..)
I need this. I have never been able to make a friend. not when I was a child not now. I use ot think it was bacause of my quite nature but I belive it is bacous I don't ever try (then) but now I can talk to a person but it never seems to go any where. I have people I could talk to but It never feels like it is the right time. or that I will never be able to make a friend becouse of my track record but I know I can. That is my new years resolution to find one person in this large world to call my friend. I will uses these tips and come back next year to see if I do make a friend. See you then future me.
I love this videos that it's actually informative and applicable. But i would appreciate if you could be more intentional with your words and not repeat the same sentence again and again like the last part about game changer thing... the first and last introduction about that was creating a good amount of sunspense and excitement but i guess in the middle you also applied this sentence quite a bit. I acknowledge your video information and the effort you put in it... hope to learn more from you in the future. May god brings peace in your heart❤
Much like etiquette tips, social interactions are based in compassion for the other and focusing less on yourself. Focusing on yourself too much likely gets us into anxious/self-conscious mindframes and habits in the first place.
I would LOVE it to always work that way. I am like that naturally, I am genuinely interested in people during conversations, they're often surprised how much I remember about them. No one, and I'll repeat, NO ONE has ever done it for me. People I end up in group projects with are the people who always try to take all of that energy i have to give just for themselves. I talk fast cause I've learned that if I wanna even finish what I have to say, it has to be done as fast as possible. I always stand up for people and try to include the ones who seem left out, only to later be left out myself with no one to stand up for me Edit: guys I've met a person who did it for me, I can't say "no one" anymore
Hi! I must admit that I'm in a similar situation as you, I feel that nobody cares about what I have to say or what I've been doing. Unfortunately I think that everybody is too self absorbed and so when you start a conversation and you ask people about themselves they could go on forever but never ask the same question to you, because to them you are less interesting; it makes me wonder if there is something wrong with me or not, maybe I'm not interesting. You made me realize why I speak so fast😂 I've never thought about it that way so I have to thank you for that. I hope things will improve over time for both of us. Have a nice day ☺️
@@sushi_girl4768 Also, yes. I don't know how many times my family members told me to take it easy, but for me it's the normal way of speaking🥲 tbh I don't even notice that I'm loud 😅
@@sushi_girl4768 yes, i do😂🥲 my family and also my colleagues at work tell me that I'm loud all the time, and the worst thing is that I don't even notice it🥲
- focus outward: don't overthink, don't prepare, don't try to impress Chapter 1: Mindset 1. Forget the fear *enjoy the moments, take pressure of yourself: a bad social interaction won't kill you nor matter The Human Equation (De Menselijke Vergelijking) *we are not that different, everyone is human, no one is superior or inferior, you are not inferior (minderwaardig), because you don't have the same accomplishments, backgrounds, appearances if you are scared to speak up or approach someone: you are worth meeting and talking to, don't feel small because you have so much to offer: your kidness, your humor,... ((: Chapter 2: Conversation 3. Be interested to be interesting *turn your interest outward *become interested in other people and don't try to get other people interested in you, everyone always has something interesting to tell 4. Listen not to talk * you are not listening, if you keep thinking about yourself and your thoughts and what to say next, active listening, pay attention to all information (verbal and physical), repeat the words back to them. 5. Don't rush * no one is putting a timer right next to you, don't say uhmm and filler words, what you say won't improve when you speed it up and it is okay to pause and think, taking pauses shows that a person is comfortable and confident to take a pause with silence and is willing to think deeper. 6. Learning names *it makes the other person feel important, valued and seen -tricks * repeat it back to them(ask them to spell it if it is a rare name) * link the name with something you already know * use mnemonic devices: Karina: queen of ballerina * write it on the notes app * If you forgot their name: introduce them to someone else, let them reintroduce themselves Chapter 3: Physcial 8. Never underdress * put care in how you present yourself * putting in effort in being clean and tidy is a sign of respect, valuing and being aware of the presence of others, so you don't worry about how you look when you're there 9. Smell and Scent (minor) 10. Posture *body language, it will signal confidince and composure not just to others but to ourselves; to avoid appearing and feeling closed off, don't cross arms, your feet and shoulders are point to the person you're speaking to. Bonus: the magical chapter After leaving a conversation, text them about how much you enjoyed talking with them, it can brighten someone's day, you took the time and effort to let them know how special they are, include something that stood out in your conversation or if they were mentioning something that is coming up,... - what you give out comes back to you: kindness attracts kindness, energy attracts energy - everything is a buildable skill
“What everyone is looking for is the feeling of feeling enough” THIS - but going deeper into yourself, doing therapy and meditation on our insecurities, taking the time to do so, it’s not as easily saleable although much more fulfilling and long lasting
It’s good that you’re showing us these important informations. Finally someone said that charisma is more than “that beauty” for which we are desperate for.
I will definitely try these!!! I often feel myself being perceved as boring and nobody ever seems intetested in what i have to say, but I think i need to ask about them and ask them personal questions instead ❤
I learned by myself to get more social... But in my way and energy level. When I am with people I want them to feeling seen and that I hear them. At work I have some facts about them in mind to talk about it with them. That makes a memory and connection. The more you connect, the easier it gets. My rule is to have that with the unique people and loving ones. If I dont feel it, I dont want to interact with them a lot... Its about boundaries and that both sides feel seen and loveable
Just your reminder!! FREE🇵🇸🍉 ALL EYES ON RAFAH. LET'S PRAY FOR RAFAH 🍉🤲 STOP GENOCIDE. The world is only temporary, nothing is permanent in the world including money, wealth and popularity. Humanity is the important thing!! #SAVE🇵🇸🍉
This makes sense. I will try asking more. Grew up with the culture of "don't ask st*pid questions" so I always feared of that, but honestly, asking questions is fun.
tip for being somewhere u know literally no one: usually it doesnt matter what u say as long as u say something (respectful obvsly) going up to someone and asking them "hey how do u like the show so far" or whatever is absolutely enough AND: dont be afraid to be awkward; it happens, and its funny
This is so funny cuz I remember seeing this girl on tiktok in a video talking about how she was getting ready to break up with this guy that she had a crush on for years or something? and she was breaking up with him because he got a girlfriend, but she was acting shocked because she like thought they were dating but apparently they were't and she never even told him she liked him and she confused everyone
Hope you like this video! Remember that you are so precious and worth getting to know! 🫶🏻🩷 Let me know what topics you want me to cover next for our chats 🥰
Thanks for this video Zoe. 😊
Awesome!
Thanks for helping with my confidence. Love you, Zoe.
Love u guuuurl ur the best + how about making a video abt letting go and detachement i think alot of us need that type of videos
This was actually a good video 👍🏾
Conversation is key! In 2016 I was feeling a bit lonely and I decided to make more social connections (especially female friendships). I started conversations with shop owners, artists, etc. I asked them about themselves or their work and it opened so many doors. I made so many new friends and connections that year and those friendships are still thriving today. Just showing interest in someone or something I thought was cool or unique brought so much love into my life. My girl gang are my favorite people in the world and I’m constantly in awe of their passion, drive, and beautiful souls.
That's amazing!!
I struggle with starting a conversation with strangers and I don't know how to maintain the relationship after the conversation do you have any tips?
@@xiaosimpverifiedI think some of it was just being lucky enough to meet such lovely people. But my biggest tip is to go to an event or market centered around something you like. That way you already have some connection to other people there. I usually started conversations with compliments or asked simple questions like ‘How long have you been a fan of x?’ Or ‘I love your outfit! Where did you get it?’ After that I would let the other person answer and see how receptive they were. If they weren’t, I wouldn’t push it. If they were, I would introduce myself and make some small talk. The best way to keep it going was asking to friend them on social media. That way you can reach out when you’re ready and they know who you are so you’re not just some random person to them. From there it just built up organically.
as someone that is socially magnetic I totally agree with everything you said especially putting others on a pedestal, ppl often get nervous or anxious or awkward when talking to someone they think is better than them at something and they become hyper aware of it and think the other person is comparing them to them self and think they are better, while it's not the case and who ever does that is the actual insecur one .
don't creat this status piramid in your head instead just understand that are all the same person in deferent bodies
If you have any tips to make new friends, approach strangers, crush interviews - feel free to share them! 💐✨
Idk if you already mentioned this and I just missed it but I think there’s one important thing to remember. So I’m speaking from experience: SMILE GENTLY AND FRIENDLY to others, ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU’RE INTRODUCING YOURSELF no matter how you think others perceive you (if they’re friendly with you or not at all). Don’t overact by your guesses how others feel. Be you and SMILE. Like just a little, don’t show your teeth too much, you could change your facial expressions by the theme of the interview/talk…
(Plus I’m sorry if I wrote anything wrong, English isn’t my native language.)
Easy to be socially magnetic when you look like a literal goddess 😂
For me one thing that works is my memory, haha. I naturally just like to reflect on events and personalities after they happen, so when I meet a person again after a long time i still remember each and every moment we spent together and when i mention those things they are surprised and pleased by how much i paid attention to them, for example they clothes they wore on a birthday party one and a half year ago, their hyperfixation at the time, etc. I believe this contributes to the topic of being magnetic.
My boyfriend is naturally magnetic, no joke. He's super curious about everything and everyone and every single person I've introduced him to immediately likes him, because he blends in, takes interest. I can be talking about how this friend has achieved that and he'll come up with 10 questions I would never have thought to ask and I'm always like... I gotta learn to do this as well !!! My mom was also like that and it was no surprise to se the funeral home MORE THAN FULL because she just connected deeply with a lot of people and she was invested in her community. She was truly herself and a great model to have. Most of the skills you talked about today made me think about the tips that I found to nail an interview, and I am trying hard to build those up, because it's never too late. :) Thanks for the wonderful video
My ex was just like that, let’s just say I’m still not over him🥲
Sounds like me and my mother as well. We both have a natural affinity for people so it's easy for the both of us to make friends. I have the problem now of having too many friends to invite to my birthday (my house is not that big, don't have the money to rent something). So i have to select my closest friends which is still 15 people
@@Kevin-ok8dj I wish I had this problem
Sorry for your moms passing, hon. ❤️
@Kevin-ok8dj Am so jealous of your problem.
Im actually not an introvert normally. I‘m just socially awkward 😭 when I was younger I didn’t have this problem but I guess it developed somehow?
Omgggg ikrrrr it’s all just so different after puberty
@@bhavananomula24 omg yeaah
Omg same bro
happened to me too. when i was younger i would talk to everyone, but now it's hard
I used to think it was puberty but then I deleted social media and the problem went away
And the catch, do not give to others with the hope of getting something in return. To give is to expect nothing in return, so keep that in mind. As a kid and teenager, I followed all these tips strictly, but because I was desperate about being cared about, I surrounded myself with takers instead. Keep in mind what your boundaries are, and what your motivations for giving kindness are. These underlying forces play a huge roll in the effect of this advice.
I'm awkwardly social, but I'm doing this for my black cat boyfriend who's only confident when he's asked about his talents and generally has a hard time being social.
Thank u for talking about this girl, I desperately needed it! 🛐
I recently moved and didnt know how to approach people, and somehow Zoe uploaded, like girl you got my back
love how you use science to back all your videos, AND thoroughly explain! Thank you! 💕💕
loving how you posted this 4 days before illits debut song Magnetic was released
omg zoe, i just found ur channel and FELL IN LOVE w ur personality and energy! keep it up, ur helping so many ppl and spreading good vibes 🫶🏽🥰
I found your channel a week ago and so happy I did😁! Your videos really help me with my insecurities and fears so I just wanted to say thank you😊🙏🏼!
I started a restaurant job and this was needed i need to be so much more charismatic ty for this vid Zoe❤
Thank you, very helpful. Another tip for introverts, talk to someone you know, someone close before you need to engage with strangers, like in a networking event. It kind of trains and calms, because when it's the first conversation throughout the day it may be more awkward. Even more if you didn't talk to anyone for days
Thank you! I'm trying to prep for the social aspect of getting to attend a new school, highschool specifically! I've always been the kid who was excluded, ever since i was FOUR. I'm autistic, so A LOT of these tips might not work for me, but i try to weed out the ones that won't work and just apply the ones that will. My disability makes me have a hard time explaining, so i'm prone to stuttering, and it also makes me seem aloof and cold, even though i'm not like that. I hope i can apply atleast some of these, i atleast want to be somewhat liked at the new school unlike all the other schools i've went to.
I hope you'll be liked and find awesome friends!
Good luck!! Wish it goes well for you
Hey! If you've started school already, make sure you join a sport, club, or musical activity (choir, band, orchestra) makes it 10x easier to make friends. As a senior, I wish I had done that as a freshman
Darn, good video. It's one of the best you made this year.
Thank you Zoe, I am moving to a new school so I am looking for ways to be able to talk to more people since I will know absoulutely no one so this video really helped. :D
Concrete, executable steps to counter awkwardness and succeed in social settings? This should be required viewing for everyone on the spectrum. Really well done.
not you everglowup aka winterosy soomi choujimi overthinking kpop aedark nabicore etc trying to look nice here after being xpsd as a haatr using alts like nasrun hypeboy and your many xyoutsold alts
love how you try to make a comeback with your everglowup alt and use bots to fill the comments to make it look like you have still some supporters and scripts for your subs.
also funny how youre going off with alt now after being xpsd as just another alt who also coincidentally got 200 subs in just seconds after creating it like always.
and responding right away with more posts trying to look nice and using your alts to support yourself there thank you for still behaving exactly the same like you always do with all your alts
Something i like to do to add a little kick to the conversation is throw in something insane. Like a joke or a crazy comparison that makes them laugh. It takes practice, but i also take other peoples jokes, and sometimes i literally wrote them down ao i dont forget.
The problem with speaking slower and taking pauses is that so many people around me will just start talking over me. As if I dont even excist.
The first minute of your video not inspired me but scared me, do I want to be like those people? Not only socially awkward but anxious and schoking in my senteces on a phone call..how person like me would want or see my approach in socializing any other way than it is right now lol
Loved this video bestie; SENDING POSITIVE VIBES!! 💖💖💖
As a person who is currently reading Carnegie, this video is very much helpful.
Thank you Zoe. ❤😊
am I living or just waiting for another Zoe video? xD luv your videos! ❤
Regarding section 4: being a magnet. Turning interest outward sometimes works and, when done genuinely, can foster real connection and much more interesting conversations, from experience.
I would, however, like to hear some thoughts about some exceptions:
1. Sometimes someone showing interest and asking questions can come off a bit performative, intrusive and try-hard. I am saying this from experience. For example, I used to go on some tinder dates or have met people in social situations where they would ask me the standard questions (what I do for a living, where I went to uni, if I like it here, if I have seen any movies lately, etc) and it seemed rehearsed and disingenuous at worst, and repetitive and standard at best. It has made me feel disinterested and uncomfortable. Maybe I am too ready to judge, but I bet I am not the only one. People are highly critical of each other, especially in high-achiever communities. People are also easily bored.
2. It can be true that someone being disinterested and dismissive can be a turn-off. However, I have found myself repeatedly craving the attention and validation of people who are behaving like this. Many people's interest does peak when they are rejected. Since they are dismissing me, they are the real deal and only high standards apply to them, right? If I were better, they would pay attention, right? That person seems to get their attention, look how much better they are than me. What can I do to get their attention?
In conclusion, my theory is that those tips seem to apply when your audience are healthy people who are not highly critical. For snobs, being nice, interested, and respectful, might be a turn-off.
Well for the first one it feels rehearsed because it probably is. Those are standard questions but if those are the only questions then you never really learn anything about each other. Like asking if someone goes to uni and what their major is I then ask them about it. Or sometimes they have pins or a bag from a game or show I like, so I make that the topic. Also sharing stuff about yourself to try to give the other person smthg to work off and so it doesn't feel like an interview. Smthg that I find successful is mentioning smthg that's been on my mind lately and ask them what they think. If someone isn't branching out their questions or isn't sharing additional info then they don't usually seem that engaged. Depending on body language tho I might just assume they're a bit awkward.
For the second one yeah idk, I don't view it like that. If someone ain't interested then cool, there are other people who will be so best not waste my time here. I'll be friendly but I won't chase after someone who doesn't want me. So I guess it depends on one's need for approval or curiosity?
You give the best advice 🤞🏻😍
The way I clicked so fast was embarrassing
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ur videos are my favourite now zoe! ur doing amazing as always
i luv ur videos smmmm also i LUV ur outfit its so cutee
I have a question, is it ok to eat junk food once in while? Like I'm trying to eat only home cooked food, proteins, fruits or yoghurt but I feel sad that I never allow myself to ever eat junk food ever again like chocolate, burgers, fries, etc. If yes, when do you recommend? Once a month? Once a year? +I really enjoy your videos and it was you that helped me overcome an0r3xia so I'm super grateful 💗
From my personal experience, I only eat junk food when I go for outings w my friends or family. If I go out very often, then I restrain myself from eating it and choose healthier options. I usually eat junk foods 2-3 a month. And I think this is healthy, and we'll balanced
THIS TIME I WANT YOU YOU YOU YOU! LIKE ITS MAGNETIC~ YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU YOU~
(😭 I seriously cant believe people haven't commented smth like this yet ..)
Thanks 😊
I need this. I have never been able to make a friend. not when I was a child not now. I use ot think it was bacause of my quite nature but I belive it is bacous I don't ever try (then) but now I can talk to a person but it never seems to go any where. I have people I could talk to but It never feels like it is the right time. or that I will never be able to make a friend becouse of my track record but I know I can. That is my new years resolution to find one person in this large world to call my friend. I will uses these tips and come back next year to see if I do make a friend. See you then future me.
Thank you so much i needed this ❤
I think prufrock needed this video
how am I supposed to make my feet and shoulder point at them at the same time😭 great video I loved it💛💛💛
Love your videos ❤ This one was really good
Thanks for this very positiv and helpful video 💚
I am obsessed with your words! Going to work on this for sure and just subscribed
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Hi zoe, i am vary long time fan. I like your video so much. They halped me learn a lot.
I love you so much Zoe ♥️♥️♥️
thank u so much💕 - from another zoe
a japanese girl moved to America and got americanized, what a big deal.
Yo guys Zoe just dropped a RIZZ tutorial
I love this videos that it's actually informative and applicable. But i would appreciate if you could be more intentional with your words and not repeat the same sentence again and again like the last part about game changer thing... the first and last introduction about that was creating a good amount of sunspense and excitement but i guess in the middle you also applied this sentence quite a bit. I acknowledge your video information and the effort you put in it... hope to learn more from you in the future. May god brings peace in your heart❤
I'm here because Zoe is hot. And I love girls who dye their hair on one side.❤💙💜
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You are my idol plz respond 😢
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But I am autistic 😢
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This is something we all needed! Thanks🛐
Your videos make me feel very comfortable and now I know why 🤍
I'm realy thankful 🫶🫶
i liked my own comment because no one else will💀
Self-love is the best love ❤
95 people joined in don't worry 😂❤
How cute is this comment 😂❤
Hope it made ur day
Poor thing
I´m often lost in my own mind and this remembered me to seek out to others and especially not only talk with them in my mind, thank you
I have to say that.. I always wanted to comment it… I don’t know why I never did.. Your hair suits you sooooooo well! It’s a 100/100!! 💖💖💖💖
Much like etiquette tips, social interactions are based in compassion for the other and focusing less on yourself.
Focusing on yourself too much likely gets us into anxious/self-conscious mindframes and habits in the first place.
I would LOVE it to always work that way.
I am like that naturally, I am genuinely interested in people during conversations, they're often surprised how much I remember about them.
No one, and I'll repeat, NO ONE has ever done it for me. People I end up in group projects with are the people who always try to take all of that energy i have to give just for themselves. I talk fast cause I've learned that if I wanna even finish what I have to say, it has to be done as fast as possible. I always stand up for people and try to include the ones who seem left out, only to later be left out myself with no one to stand up for me
Edit: guys I've met a person who did it for me, I can't say "no one" anymore
Hi! I must admit that I'm in a similar situation as you, I feel that nobody cares about what I have to say or what I've been doing. Unfortunately I think that everybody is too self absorbed and so when you start a conversation and you ask people about themselves they could go on forever but never ask the same question to you, because to them you are less interesting; it makes me wonder if there is something wrong with me or not, maybe I'm not interesting.
You made me realize why I speak so fast😂 I've never thought about it that way so I have to thank you for that.
I hope things will improve over time for both of us. Have a nice day ☺️
@@gabry1495 do you also speak loudly? Cause I struggle with that too. I feel like at this point it's almost an irreversible habit
@@sushi_girl4768 Also, yes. I don't know how many times my family members told me to take it easy, but for me it's the normal way of speaking🥲 tbh I don't even notice that I'm loud 😅
Yeah I’m this way too naturally but no one really gives me back the same energy 😕 like wow ok
@@sushi_girl4768 yes, i do😂🥲 my family and also my colleagues at work tell me that I'm loud all the time, and the worst thing is that I don't even notice it🥲
- focus outward: don't overthink, don't prepare, don't try to impress
Chapter 1: Mindset
1. Forget the fear
*enjoy the moments, take pressure of yourself: a bad social interaction won't kill you nor matter
The Human Equation (De Menselijke Vergelijking)
*we are not that different, everyone is human, no one is superior or inferior, you are not inferior (minderwaardig), because you don't have the same accomplishments, backgrounds, appearances
if you are scared to speak up or approach someone: you are worth meeting and talking to, don't feel small because you have so much to offer: your kidness, your humor,... ((:
Chapter 2: Conversation
3. Be interested to be interesting
*turn your interest outward
*become interested in other people and don't try to get other people interested in you, everyone always has something interesting to tell
4. Listen not to talk
* you are not listening, if you keep thinking about yourself and your thoughts and what to say next, active listening, pay attention to all information (verbal and physical), repeat the words back to them.
5. Don't rush
* no one is putting a timer right next to you, don't say uhmm and filler words, what you say won't improve when you speed it up and it is okay to pause and think, taking pauses shows that a person is comfortable and confident to take a pause with silence and is willing to think deeper.
6. Learning names
*it makes the other person feel important, valued and seen
-tricks
* repeat it back to them(ask them to spell it if it is a rare name)
* link the name with something you already know
* use mnemonic devices: Karina: queen of ballerina
* write it on the notes app
* If you forgot their name: introduce them to someone else, let them reintroduce themselves
Chapter 3: Physcial
8. Never underdress
* put care in how you present yourself
* putting in effort in being clean and tidy is a sign of respect, valuing and being aware of the presence of others, so you don't worry about how you look when you're there
9. Smell and Scent (minor)
10. Posture
*body language, it will signal confidince and composure not just to others but to ourselves; to avoid appearing and feeling closed off, don't cross arms, your feet and shoulders are point to the person you're speaking to.
Bonus: the magical chapter
After leaving a conversation, text them about how much you enjoyed talking with them, it can brighten someone's day, you took the time and effort to let them know how special they are, include something that stood out in your conversation or if they were mentioning something that is coming up,...
- what you give out comes back to you: kindness attracts kindness, energy attracts energy
- everything is a buildable skill
“What everyone is looking for is the feeling of feeling enough” THIS - but going deeper into yourself, doing therapy and meditation on our insecurities, taking the time to do so, it’s not as easily saleable although much more fulfilling and long lasting
This is all true, however it may enable people pleasing tendencies. I believe that if you want a genuine connection with someone, it should be mutual.
It’s good that you’re showing us these important informations. Finally someone said that charisma is more than “that beauty” for which we are desperate for.
I will definitely try these!!! I often feel myself being perceved as boring and nobody ever seems intetested in what i have to say, but I think i need to ask about them and ask them personal questions instead ❤
yess! and remember that you are not boring! Everyone has fascinating stories
Girl??? You're onto something! You have good observation skills
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omg i feel like you're ms. privet from princess charm school talking about our princess potential 😭😭💗💗
this video gave me so much comfort and hope
I learned by myself to get more social... But in my way and energy level. When I am with people I want them to feeling seen and that I hear them.
At work I have some facts about them in mind to talk about it with them. That makes a memory and connection. The more you connect, the easier it gets. My rule is to have that with the unique people and loving ones. If I dont feel it, I dont want to interact with them a lot... Its about boundaries and that both sides feel seen and loveable
general rule to converse with an autistic person is DONT ask open questions.
Just your reminder!!
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STOP GENOCIDE. The world is only temporary, nothing is permanent in the world including money, wealth and popularity. Humanity is the important thing!! #SAVE🇵🇸🍉
Gurur jyada dene ke liye heater mere pass hota to control panel se bahar ho gai hai pata chal jata ki tar kitni garm ho rahi hai
OMG I'm so excited for the ✨magical game changer✨
This a very helpful video!! Thank you!!!
Genuinely the best video I've seen this year so far
3.2 million subscribers…..congrats Zoe🎉🥳
Youre videos are my favorite to watch. i love catching up on all your new uploads at the end of the week
You give me so much hope in life, zoe. Thanks for all you do. I wish the best for you in life!
Thank you! Loved and needed these tips❤😊
How to socially magnetic?
Leave bangladesh. 🎉 Less judgemental, less you will fear
This makes sense. I will try asking more. Grew up with the culture of "don't ask st*pid questions" so I always feared of that, but honestly, asking questions is fun.
I would love to read some books about this topic.. does anyone know any good ones? ✨🌸
You are such a gift too. I hope you have a lovely day, from Nigeria.😊
This is so true!! Bless you!
Dude I love this vid but it's kind of hard to watch because of all the editing 😁 if you could tone that down a bit it would be more watchable
I just have no idea what to say in a conversation. how do I respond? how do I keep the conversation alive?
Zoe has anyone ever told you how awesome you hair looks😯❤
UA-cam plz recommend me more videos like this about how to be social magnetic, and confident!!
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tip for being somewhere u know literally no one: usually it doesnt matter what u say as long as u say something (respectful obvsly)
going up to someone and asking them "hey how do u like the show so far" or whatever is absolutely enough
AND: dont be afraid to be awkward; it happens, and its funny
I really like your video and most of the points were super valid and useful!
From my expirience it also worked if you are open with your emotion. Don't be scared to laugh if you want and don't me shy with your facial expression
This is so funny cuz I remember seeing this girl on tiktok in a video talking about how she was getting ready to break up with this guy that she had a crush on for years or something? and she was breaking up with him because he got a girlfriend, but she was acting shocked because she like thought they were dating but apparently they were't and she never even told him she liked him and she confused everyone
ur videos are my favourite now zoe! ur doing amazing as always
I wish there were these type of videos for autistic people specifically
I feel like I need an adjusted version, not to be magnetic but just to make like 1 friend 🥹
@@emilphantgod me too
That's the exact same reason I'm here