There is no right or wrong way to keep house, friends. Never feel guilty for your mess; mess is morally neutral. But I hope my rambles might help you as they did me, in finding a way to function in your home as it is and find things that bring you joy within homemaking. xoxo
Kristina thank you so much for this beautiful video. You are amazing, thank you for putting such beauty into the world. If you haven't already listened take a few minutes to check out Homemaker Chic podcast, I think you would really enjoy it.
Lovely. I think perhaps finding, trying and using different new ways of cleaning works as a way to maintain or inspire enthusiasm? For people with pain, depression, distraction and other challenges in motivation that very well could be key. Something others don't understand or cannot see readily. I'm happy for those with a "this is it and it's enough for me" methodology. Yet just like what foods we eat it isn't universal and I think it detracts from our humanity if we try to portray that it is or should be. ❤ Thank you again for your content. I always feel gently soothed and supported from watching you. Thank you. 🌻🧡🦋
I'm not a mother, but I often find myself watching homemaking videos because I romanticize the perfectly clean house. Since the pandemic, I've been working from home and I find myself constantly cleaning on my lunch break or after work, often until dinner time. I feel like I can never get ahead of it. Thank you for making this video and talking about your views on homemaking! This made me feel much better and gave me a lot to think about. Thank you!
Several years ago I was struck by the scene is the Bible where Jesus keeps asking Peter if he loves him, Peter keeps saying he does, and Jesus tells him to feed and care for his sheep. Whether one ascribes to a faith tradition or not, the idea that we show others we love them by caring, not only for them, but about the things they care about as well, is always true and important to remember. Since I love my husband, and I know he likes living in a cleaner, less cluttered space, I put more effort into cleaning than I used to. Since my husband loves me, and knows I hate vacuuming with a passion, he helps with chores, including vacuuming. This was a lovely video, with an excellent music choice, and I look forward to more of this kind of content.
Oh, Kristina, I'm crying right now......Thank you so much for this video. I also love all those slow-living aesthetic videos, but I have been waiting and waiting to see myself in any of them. This video made me feel seen as a mother, and something my mama/homemaker heart needed.
And I somehow missed this yesterday. You have found your calling! Look at all these people you are lifting up; it's a virtual hug for all of them💗😊 If my mom could have had this when I was young, my childhood could have, well, existed. Instead she felt like things had to be perfect and done, and I had to be a slave to that as the oldest. Moms and dads need this, so much💝💝💝
I'm sooo happy to see just how many people are touched by this. It's something I needed myself, to be honest! I'm very excited to continue down this avenue!
Girl you are now my hero! I love seeing ‘real’ motherhood. Which means sometimes the kiddos look like the peanut butter and jelly sandwich they ate for lunch or that there’s some mystery substance stuck to the wall. That’s real. Perfection isn’t reality. This message ab the care you give to your home being an expression of love is beautiful. Thank you for this. I needed it today! ❤️❤️❤️
I love what you said. And that you were so empathetic about not judging anyone’s messy homes. 10 years ago, I had a coma followed by weeks of rehab, which left me fatigued and with some impaired mobility. My housekeeping was minimal. About a year later, a fellow mom from my friend circle called CPS because I was disabled and put my energy into direct care, rather than cleaning. Instead of helping. Instead of cleaning. Called CPS. (CPS checked that my kids were clean, fed, and loved and closed the case. But by then, we’d been worried and traumatized.) A messy home is morally neutral. And disabled parents can still be great parents who love their kids. Lovely video. ❤️
This was beautiful and just what I needed today. I was lamenting earlier to myself, asking, "how is there already hair and cat fur all over again, I JUST vacuumed!". Along with my daily struggle with figuring out what to make for supper -- that is truly my biggest struggle, and often it makes me feel like crying. It seems like, as mothers, we can be doing so many things right, but the things we perceive as our flaws or failure can just eat us alive. That's not just me, right? I am sitting on my bed that is covered with clothes and towels, but took a break from folding to lean back and watch this, what a refreshing video! So thank you for sharing real motherhood!
"The magic isn't in the routine, it's within myself. The magic was very simply love." As a certified compulsive routine tester, this is a revolutionary message for me. I am saving this and watching it over again. I needed this message. Thank you. ❤
Damn, girl... you just gave me a gut punch-hug with this vid. I'm kind of a hard ass but here i am getting all teary eyed. You hit the nail on the head with this one. As a single mom with a special needs son, we are now living with my mother, working from home and homeschooling. Your words have helped me see that I need a huge attitude adjustment if there is to be longterm joy in this house. I will pray for the courage (and energy!) to make this change a reality in my very non pastel home lol. Mucho love💙
Hugs, friend! Baby steps - it's what I've been taking. Celebrate the little things, and let go of the things that make you feel mom guilt. You are doing great!
Hello! I am a new subscriber, forever housewife, i am 60 years old. I was a childminder always overwhelmed! Now i live in the countryside and i'm not overwhelmed at all, i regret! Don't blame yourself, your house is warm! you are a wonderful mom! your children are happy! it is essential. I really like your vidéos full of natural. I wish you a good day. Matilda from France.
Thank you for speaking these words out loud. I get disillusioned watching those ‘perfect’ homemakers and wonder what I’m doing wrong, why I’m not like them, why my home doesn’t look like theirs. You just spoke the truth and I as well as some many others need to hear that. Thank you 🙏💕
Oh my goodness! When I first saw the title I cringed because as lovely as those romanticized homemaking videos are, I just can’t relate. Then I heard and saw what you were doing and it was perfect! I adored seeing someone else sink full of dishes. I loved seeing someone else cleaning a kid-decorated living room to pretty music. Incidentally, your home is lovely! Now I’m going to go make dinner with a smile. Blessings to you.
Gotta be honest, I cringe at a LOT of homemaking advice because it's very much not realistic especially in the romanticized youtuber world! I'm so glad this resonated, I really want to show finding beauty in a little bit of chaos, or a lot of chaos sometimes.
I really loved this. Especially about slowing down. 3 kids (3 year old daughter and 10 year old boy girl twins). I constantly feel in a rush. Up, breakfast, empty dishwasher, laundry, take small one to nursery, make sure big kids are ready for school. Work (I work mostly from home), in between, tidy, vacuum, more laundry, sweep, mop, wipe bathroom, eat some lunch. Little one home from nursery. Tidying undone in seconds. And still the house never seems tidy, and I am so tired, and so often feel like I'm failing, because I'm not the mum with the spotless house, and coordinated children who are doing fun activities she had laid out. On a more positive note, I have learned that 'little and often' really does add up. That I feel calmer and less overwhelmed if things aren't chaotic.
@@WithLoveKristina . They're great, and unbelievably patient with their little sister and her ruffian ways. They'll help put away a grocery delivery, and my son can set up the coffee machine at night for the morning. They have their moments, the boy put a pile of laundry behind his dresser rather than putting it away, and mixed clean and dirty stuff together. I let him know that's not allowed. His twin sister has autism, and she's great, but easily overwhelmed and struggles with executive function, so things like 'tidy your room ' don't work, it needs to broken down.
Oh, and other thing . From the opposite point of view, I sometimes (often) have to remind myself that my family aren't making a mess to spite me, or because they don't love me, because honestly, sometimes when I've tidied, and it seems I turn around and there's more mess, I'm guilty of thinking that way.
Ooh this video made me feel feelings! Your video is very realistic for a lot of people and honestly reminds me of a grandmother's home. Not in the decor (though it's very cozy!) but how I think of a grandmother's love and care of her children and children's children. Tidying behind the messes, a sink of dishes that get washed but are dirtied again--from her loved ones eating her meals. Sitting around a table with soft, mismatched table setting that accompany a loving meal made by an adoring mother figure. A baby trailing behind learning as she goes, watching and helping with tasks. A home full of people safe, warm, fed, and loved. I sincerely hope this comment doesn't read negatively to you. It just reminds me of my experiences in a grandmother's home. Thank you for sharing!
Kristina, I found this very peaceful to watch and listen to the gentle music as you went about your day in your gorgeous loving home. In no way should we ever feel inadequate or judged. Sure, there are supposedly "super mums" out there in their sterile designer homes trying to show the rest of us how to achieve perfection in every inch of our lives. If this is what makes them happy well and good but it must be so exhausting. Your video on the other hand is simply beautiful in every way. Please keep them coming! xx
You are so right. I am a retired "stay at home" mom, if there is such a thing. My kids are adults and live in their own homes. It's just the two of us now. I still have cooking and cleaning and I still don't like the cleaning. Your video has helped me to see what is really the point. I have seen the quote "I wash the dishes not for the dishes but because I love the people who will eat off of them". This has made it a lot easier for me to enjoy doing dishes. I will try to think of cleaning the house because I love the people who live in the house. Thank you. You are wonderful.
I totally love your channel because it is real life and not just staged! You’re an amazing lovely beautiful woman and mother! Stay real, we all love you!
I love how you said "A messy house is not a moral failing..." So true. Thank you for such an encouraging, heartfelt video...I'm so glad I discovered your channel today!
A wonderful message. Thank you for spreading it, and being brave enough share that you're not perfect, and it's okay. For letting us know that we are not alone in our never-ending battles to be neat and tidy. It is easy to slip, from exhaustion and frustration, into a feeling of resentment about chores and forget that you're doing them to have a better home life. Thank you for that reminder. This year I have been trying to change some house-keeping habits for myself, literally myself, as self-care (showing myself some love?). One item I've changed is doing the dishes before retiring for the night. I wake up with a clean sink (even if the kitchen isn't spotless), and my day starts out a little brighter and my mood is lifted. It takes away that feeling of dread.
You put into words perfectly how I have been feeling recently. This video was so relatable. Especially the clip with your daughter helping you with the dishes, because this is my son and I 100% 🥰 Once he hears the water running, he comes running to help me (he loves squeezing sponges and running them under water as well 🤣) I would love to see more videos like this one 💖 Thank you for making this video 😊
What a beautiful video and message! My kids are now grown, and I take an awful lot of teasing for my house being always tidy. But it’s just me and the days. I have that stretch of time in luxury. But it’s all seasons, yes? God bless you as you embrace this beautiful season that you’re in today
I struggle daily with severe anxiety over the sterilization I can do to everything in my house daily and it devours me. It takes from my husband and son and the guilt consumes me. Thank you for sharing this video, it lets me see that there is really no wrong way to live in our homes. ❤️
Im not a mother, but this was beautiful and made me appreciate my dear mother more than I already do ❤ I’d move mountains for that woman. Your family is lovely ❤
I love this. I'm a stay at home mom and right now I have twins. This philosophy does make me more eager to keep the house tidy. But it will never be perfect. And that is okay because our children don't worry about that stuff.
I love this SO much! I just unsubscribed from a well-known youtuber who I used to like when they started out because they relatable and now they just aren't. Their channel sounds just like the others you described actually. I really love your channel because it's so relatable and you also have a lovely voice ❤️
And this is why I love you so much. Being a mom of 12 children and still loving to sew vintage clothes and costumes is hard when all the mom videos or costuber videos show women with beautiful homes and 1 or 2 children or no children at all. I get down on myself for never seeming to have enough time to sew like I want to and always feeling like my home and children are never presentable enough. So thank you for keeping it real and helping me see there is someone out there who likes the same things I do and has a life like mine.
Oh friend you should see my sewing area, it is a legitimate disaster at the moment. But that's ok! I have realized that having the main living spaces tidy (ish, lol) is what I'm aiming for right now, and then if I've got energy I can do other things!
This video really spoke to me. I don't know if it what you said or how you said it. But I have always hated cleaning. Even after I cleaned I got no enjoyment from the clean room or house. I only saw it as a neverending repetitive task. But this inspired me too look how I spend my time so I can keep a better house. So thank you for making this video.
I’m not a mother and live alone, but I think the quote you shared equally applies to us loners - it’s just mainly showing self love by keeping house. I never thought of it that way. And boy do I struggle lol but I really enjoyed your video. Your home is so cozy and like a fairytale. Your life, family, and your home remind me of the Nanny McPhee Returns movie 😆 and I mean that as a compliment! Lived in, beautiful colors and patterns. I’m so glad I found your channel! ❤️
You are beautiful. Your children are beautiful and your home is beautiful too. You have so much! Thank you for sharing. This video was just lovely and encouraging. Blessings!
This has been my favorite video you have made. Watching someone else clean motivates me to clean, and I love seeing that my house isn't the only house that's is a mess from little hands and active imaginations.
I am so thankful that I found you and your channel. Through your videos I feel like I'm not alone anymore and that there are other mothers out there who also find motherhood/house keeping difficult and even daunting at times. For a long time I felt so guilty about being an awful wife and mother cause of my constant struggle to keep our home clean and tidy. I have begun to realize that just because my home may not be "magazine" worthy it does not mean I have failed. Thank you for sharing and bringing to light the day to day stuff and how to better deal with the challenges that come along as well as have fun.
I started to cry as I listened to this. Because your words encapsulated my feelings so perfectly that I was shocked! I NEEDED to hear this. To understand the part of myself that will kick me into cleaning and then sometimes get so overwhelmed I dont clean at all. This is more real to me then any other I have seen. Thank you.
Beautiful message!! Home making and motherhood can often be isolating and seemingly mundane but it is such a beautiful blessing. Being present and nurturing our children is one of life’s most rewarding and precious gifts. 🩷
I love your channel. I love your realness. I had 4 daughters in 5 years, and it’s hard. I often find myself being resentful of the sacrifices that I’ve made. I try to remind myself that my family is a blessing, and that I can show love by serving them. You are an inspiration, and the words that you share are true and poetic. Thank you.
I can relate to this SO much. When you have four babies in such a short time (I had four in 7 years) it's hard to remember the blessings in the shadow of the sacrifice. You are SO not alone in feeling those things, and working through those feelings!
I am loving your tiding videos. I live a slow and simple life and have done all my life (only recently did I realise it now had a name) but I am not a minimalist, and consider my home an organised mess and for many reasons I am almost never on top of things. It's wonderful to see a beautiful women with a home like my own, not a fairy wondering the woods, picking flowers and coming home to a very sparce home. These videos are making me much happier and I do hope you do more.
Exactly what I needed! Thank you! We have 2 kids (5 & 2), 3 dogs, and I work full time. I feel that my home is never perfect…on top of that, it’s old and needs some love but trying to do it responsibly in a way that we don’t go into debt. Have to keep reminding myself that these things show love even if it doesn’t look how I wish it would all the time. Very encouraging video! ❤️
This hit me so hard. I have been struggling lately with the house and the mess and the things I can't change because it is a temporary place for my family. I love your channel - period. I like the clothes, the 50's routines, all of it. You do you and we will watch. PS. I like to think the perfect houses all have a hideous closet they never let anyone see like Monica from Friends.
Loved this video. I'm a minimalist mom, but my home always gets dirty. The dishes and laundry are never ending even if I don't wear too many things. But at the same time I find joy in keeping my home clean and inviting for my family.
Haha, I loved what my mother-in-law said about laundry - if it wasn't running, there was something wrong. (she had eight kids, I can't imagine how much laundry she did!)
I love that.. how we try to keep house for the people we’re lucky enough to live with is a form of showing love. For sure... your environment plays a large part sometimes on mental health (for me..). Thank you for making this video.
I am an acts of service love show-er and while I know my family doesn't necessarily receive my love this way (they are mostly quality time and physical touch receivers), I do tell them every so often that I show my love for them by keeping things up for them - so they know where their shoes are and that they have clean clothes to wear.
Haha I am NOT an acts of service person, but I enjoy keeping a calm house, and everyone else is so much happier this way, too! I'm very much a words of affirmation person. Which, I think, is why writing out the narration for this was so important to me (I didn't really write a script, just wrote down all the thoughts I wanted to say so I wouldn't lose track)
You did such a beautiful job with this video. More, please!! I love this slow living, homemaking, but need something realistic and relatable. This hit all the high points. Thank you so much!
Wow. Thank you for being so real. It means a lot. The part of feeling resentful at times really hit home even though I love being a mom. It's refreshing to hear moms being honest
As I have binge watching your videos. I just have to say thank you!!! You have helped me so much with my journey into motherhood and with this video and what you have said has given me so much hope. I was struggling really bad with postpartum depression and was very lonely being a new mom in the midst of the pandemic. I just recently have been doing much better and it’s because of caring doctors and specialists but also content creators like yourself. You are real and raw and I just adore you. Again thank you! You have helped one desperate momma. ❤❤
Tidying with love 😃, I love it. I heard this before but it was really needed and well over due reminder thank you. I am often one to clean with a grumpy face, or simply not stay consistent and have days that quit because it was too much and unfair? Lol .
Haha I've always heard people say they love the satisfaction of cleaning, but that's the closest I've ever heard to... homemaking because you love your housemates as it were. Staying consistent is so hard!
Beautiful and true narration and beautiful vd, i just went back into time when my mother was always busy feeding us and loving us and was not bothered for a beautiful home, my house was clean and healthy but she was always busy with us. She gave all her time to us, and that's what mattered...!! Your house is so beautiful with beautiful things, and the most beautiful children...!!
This!!! Thank you so much for doing this video. We have many similarities and this video just gave me the boost and feeling of a warm hug I needed. I became a stay at home mom a few months into my pregnancy with my now 6 year old son. I had post partum depression for a long time after having him, but was able to pick myself up eventually. These past 2 years and change have really brought me back to a less then stellar place, along with seasonal depression. After watching this I am feeling more energized and want to take more time to show more love through my homemaking. Also, our homes could be twins or maybe at least cousins. I nearly spit out my coffee when I noticed the same microwave and carafe we use. Those are not the only similarities, looking at your kitchen makes me think of my own. My son is the 5th or 6th generation in this home. It is not "perfect" and there is still some work to do, but it is an old house and we kind of like it that way. Thank you again for this honest and raw homemaking post.
I am so glad that I found your channel, I am a new subscriber, A newly diagnosed MS warrior and have been separated for almost 2 yrs. This video is beautiful.
Beautiful video. We need to see what a loving home looks like and be reminded that we are doing chores as an act of love for our family and not so we can reach some standard of perfection.
This is now my favorite video of all time, thank you so much for this message. I have been feeling so frustrated because despite to all my efforts I never achieve to live up to those minimalist-perfect-spotless motherhood expectations. And even though I’ve always do things out of love consciously, I end up feeling like it is never enough (that I am never enough). Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!
What a peaceful & "real" video - you said it all so well. I wish I'd heard some of these things when I was your age. You are wise beyond your years. Have a blessed day!! xoxo
I have watched your videos for a while now. And I have enjoyed them. But this is by far my favorite, liked it so much I subscribed today. I hop to see more content like this in the future.
I so needed this today. My husband and I are 33 weeks pregnant and it's getting more difficult on my body to do everything around the house. I then get overwhelmed and feel guilty because all that I feel needs to be done before baby gets here. This video helped me have grace with myself but also see the things I can do as an act of love (not an act of panic). Thanks Kristi!
I know you really really love publishing your fiction. You also have a strong voice about self-love and care that speaks to MANY people. It would make a great book.
Really enjoyed the video and i appreciate your honesty and transparency❤🌷❤🌷❤🌷❤ Sometimes it bothers me youtubers who show fake perfection and are praised for that 🤔🤔 it seems unauthentic from both ends the creator and the viewer. I like this style of video with homemaking honesty P.s. I love all the 🍓🍓🍓🍓 in the kitchen
The message in this video is so beautiful, so appreciated, and so inspiring. Thank you, Kristina, for being so real and for speaking life into myself and others 💜
It is wonderful to hear your words, I wish I had heard something like this when my children were little, I felt so alone and such a failure then. My children are grown, I know I did my best but my home was never perfect or even close to how I imagined how it should be. I am still looking now for something that will help me make a home
There is no right or wrong way to keep house, friends. Never feel guilty for your mess; mess is morally neutral. But I hope my rambles might help you as they did me, in finding a way to function in your home as it is and find things that bring you joy within homemaking. xoxo
You are inspiring. Thank you for this raw, true video. Your not alone.
Kristina thank you so much for this beautiful video. You are amazing, thank you for putting such beauty into the world. If you haven't already listened take a few minutes to check out Homemaker Chic podcast, I think you would really enjoy it.
Lovely. I think perhaps finding, trying and using different new ways of cleaning works as a way to maintain or inspire enthusiasm? For people with pain, depression, distraction and other challenges in motivation that very well could be key. Something others don't understand or cannot see readily. I'm happy for those with a "this is it and it's enough for me" methodology. Yet just like what foods we eat it isn't universal and I think it detracts from our humanity if we try to portray that it is or should be. ❤
Thank you again for your content. I always feel gently soothed and supported from watching you. Thank you. 🌻🧡🦋
I'm not a mother, but I often find myself watching homemaking videos because I romanticize the perfectly clean house. Since the pandemic, I've been working from home and I find myself constantly cleaning on my lunch break or after work, often until dinner time. I feel like I can never get ahead of it. Thank you for making this video and talking about your views on homemaking! This made me feel much better and gave me a lot to think about. Thank you!
Several years ago I was struck by the scene is the Bible where Jesus keeps asking Peter if he loves him, Peter keeps saying he does, and Jesus tells him to feed and care for his sheep. Whether one ascribes to a faith tradition or not, the idea that we show others we love them by caring, not only for them, but about the things they care about as well, is always true and important to remember.
Since I love my husband, and I know he likes living in a cleaner, less cluttered space, I put more effort into cleaning than I used to. Since my husband loves me, and knows I hate vacuuming with a passion, he helps with chores, including vacuuming.
This was a lovely video, with an excellent music choice, and I look forward to more of this kind of content.
I always tell my family “nothing says I love you like clean underwear” 😆
This should be a t shirt 😂
Oh, Kristina, I'm crying right now......Thank you so much for this video. I also love all those slow-living aesthetic videos, but I have been waiting and waiting to see myself in any of them. This video made me feel seen as a mother, and something my mama/homemaker heart needed.
Your comment is exactly how I feel! ❤️
“Mess is morally neutral”!!!!
One, YES!
Two, why are you trying to make me cry because I feel so seen?!
And I somehow missed this yesterday. You have found your calling! Look at all these people you are lifting up; it's a virtual hug for all of them💗😊 If my mom could have had this when I was young, my childhood could have, well, existed. Instead she felt like things had to be perfect and done, and I had to be a slave to that as the oldest. Moms and dads need this, so much💝💝💝
I'm sooo happy to see just how many people are touched by this. It's something I needed myself, to be honest! I'm very excited to continue down this avenue!
Girl you are now my hero! I love seeing ‘real’ motherhood. Which means sometimes the kiddos look like the peanut butter and jelly sandwich they ate for lunch or that there’s some mystery substance stuck to the wall. That’s real. Perfection isn’t reality. This message ab the care you give to your home being an expression of love is beautiful. Thank you for this. I needed it today! ❤️❤️❤️
Love this, it's just like my life 15 years ago. Treasure those messy times, for all too soon it's over and gone
I don't know if I'll ever treasure the mess, but I certainly do treasure the little beings that MAKE the messes ;)
I love what you said. And that you were so empathetic about not judging anyone’s messy homes.
10 years ago, I had a coma followed by weeks of rehab, which left me fatigued and with some impaired mobility. My housekeeping was minimal.
About a year later, a fellow mom from my friend circle called CPS because I was disabled and put my energy into direct care, rather than cleaning.
Instead of helping. Instead of cleaning. Called CPS.
(CPS checked that my kids were clean, fed, and loved and closed the case. But by then, we’d been worried and traumatized.)
A messy home is morally neutral. And disabled parents can still be great parents who love their kids.
Lovely video. ❤️
This was beautiful and just what I needed today. I was lamenting earlier to myself, asking, "how is there already hair and cat fur all over again, I JUST vacuumed!". Along with my daily struggle with figuring out what to make for supper -- that is truly my biggest struggle, and often it makes me feel like crying. It seems like, as mothers, we can be doing so many things right, but the things we perceive as our flaws or failure can just eat us alive. That's not just me, right? I am sitting on my bed that is covered with clothes and towels, but took a break from folding to lean back and watch this, what a refreshing video! So thank you for sharing real motherhood!
"The magic isn't in the routine, it's within myself. The magic was very simply love." As a certified compulsive routine tester, this is a revolutionary message for me. I am saving this and watching it over again. I needed this message. Thank you. ❤
Damn, girl... you just gave me a gut punch-hug with this vid. I'm kind of a hard ass but here i am getting all teary eyed. You hit the nail on the head with this one. As a single mom with a special needs son, we are now living with my mother, working from home and homeschooling. Your words have helped me see that I need a huge attitude adjustment if there is to be longterm joy in this house. I will pray for the courage (and energy!) to make this change a reality in my very non pastel home lol. Mucho love💙
Hugs, friend! Baby steps - it's what I've been taking. Celebrate the little things, and let go of the things that make you feel mom guilt. You are doing great!
Finally! A real house with real messes! I felt this, as a mother myself. ❤️☺️
I loved this so much! I needed to hear everything you said. Thank you friend!
Hello! I am a new subscriber, forever housewife, i am 60 years old. I was a childminder always overwhelmed! Now i live in the countryside
and i'm not overwhelmed at all, i regret! Don't blame yourself, your house is warm! you are a wonderful mom! your children are happy!
it is essential. I really like your vidéos full of natural. I wish you a good day. Matilda from France.
That message is so inspiring! “How you keep home is how you can show love to the ones who live there.” This resonates so well, thank you!
Thank you for speaking these words out loud. I get disillusioned watching those ‘perfect’ homemakers and wonder what I’m doing wrong, why I’m not like them, why my home doesn’t look like theirs. You just spoke the truth and I as well as some many others need to hear that. Thank you 🙏💕
Oh my goodness! When I first saw the title I cringed because as lovely as those romanticized homemaking videos are, I just can’t relate. Then I heard and saw what you were doing and it was perfect! I adored seeing someone else sink full of dishes. I loved seeing someone else cleaning a kid-decorated living room to pretty music. Incidentally, your home is lovely! Now I’m going to go make dinner with a smile. Blessings to you.
Gotta be honest, I cringe at a LOT of homemaking advice because it's very much not realistic especially in the romanticized youtuber world! I'm so glad this resonated, I really want to show finding beauty in a little bit of chaos, or a lot of chaos sometimes.
I really loved this. Especially about slowing down. 3 kids (3 year old daughter and 10 year old boy girl twins). I constantly feel in a rush. Up, breakfast, empty dishwasher, laundry, take small one to nursery, make sure big kids are ready for school. Work (I work mostly from home), in between, tidy, vacuum, more laundry, sweep, mop, wipe bathroom, eat some lunch. Little one home from nursery. Tidying undone in seconds. And still the house never seems tidy, and I am so tired, and so often feel like I'm failing, because I'm not the mum with the spotless house, and coordinated children who are doing fun activities she had laid out.
On a more positive note, I have learned that 'little and often' really does add up. That I feel calmer and less overwhelmed if things aren't chaotic.
Oh goodness I can't even imagine how much more tiring it is with twins! I feel like the cleaning just never stops these days, right?
@@WithLoveKristina . They're great, and unbelievably patient with their little sister and her ruffian ways. They'll help put away a grocery delivery, and my son can set up the coffee machine at night for the morning.
They have their moments, the boy put a pile of laundry behind his dresser rather than putting it away, and mixed clean and dirty stuff together. I let him know that's not allowed. His twin sister has autism, and she's great, but easily overwhelmed and struggles with executive function, so things like 'tidy your room ' don't work, it needs to broken down.
Oh, and other thing . From the opposite point of view, I sometimes (often) have to remind myself that my family aren't making a mess to spite me, or because they don't love me, because honestly, sometimes when I've tidied, and it seems I turn around and there's more mess, I'm guilty of thinking that way.
There is indeed beauty in the chaos. I have just subscribed to your channel Kristina and may I just say how much I love your cardigan! xx
Ooh this video made me feel feelings!
Your video is very realistic for a lot of people and honestly reminds me of a grandmother's home. Not in the decor (though it's very cozy!) but how I think of a grandmother's love and care of her children and children's children. Tidying behind the messes, a sink of dishes that get washed but are dirtied again--from her loved ones eating her meals. Sitting around a table with soft, mismatched table setting that accompany a loving meal made by an adoring mother figure. A baby trailing behind learning as she goes, watching and helping with tasks. A home full of people safe, warm, fed, and loved.
I sincerely hope this comment doesn't read negatively to you. It just reminds me of my experiences in a grandmother's home. Thank you for sharing!
Kristina, I found this very peaceful to watch and listen to the gentle music as you went about your day in your gorgeous loving home. In no way should we ever feel inadequate or judged. Sure, there are supposedly "super mums" out there in their sterile designer homes trying to show the rest of us how to achieve perfection in every inch of our lives. If this is what makes them happy well and good but it must be so exhausting. Your video on the other hand is simply beautiful in every way. Please keep them coming! xx
You are so right. I am a retired "stay at home" mom, if there is such a thing. My kids are adults and live in their own homes. It's just the two of us now. I still have cooking and cleaning and I still don't like the cleaning. Your video has helped me to see what is really the point. I have seen the quote "I wash the dishes not for the dishes but because I love the people who will eat off of them". This has made it a lot easier for me to enjoy doing dishes. I will try to think of cleaning the house because I love the people who live in the house. Thank you. You are wonderful.
I totally love your channel because it is real life and not just staged! You’re an amazing lovely beautiful woman and mother! Stay real, we all love you!
I love how you said "A messy house is not a moral failing..." So true. Thank you for such an encouraging, heartfelt video...I'm so glad I discovered your channel today!
The stove 😍😍😍😍 look at you go
Also this is probably the deepest UA-cam video I've seen in a long time ❤💯
A wonderful message. Thank you for spreading it, and being brave enough share that you're not perfect, and it's okay. For letting us know that we are not alone in our never-ending battles to be neat and tidy. It is easy to slip, from exhaustion and frustration, into a feeling of resentment about chores and forget that you're doing them to have a better home life. Thank you for that reminder.
This year I have been trying to change some house-keeping habits for myself, literally myself, as self-care (showing myself some love?). One item I've changed is doing the dishes before retiring for the night. I wake up with a clean sink (even if the kitchen isn't spotless), and my day starts out a little brighter and my mood is lifted. It takes away that feeling of dread.
You put into words perfectly how I have been feeling recently. This video was so relatable. Especially the clip with your daughter helping you with the dishes, because this is my son and I 100% 🥰 Once he hears the water running, he comes running to help me (he loves squeezing sponges and running them under water as well 🤣) I would love to see more videos like this one 💖 Thank you for making this video 😊
What a beautiful video and message! My kids are now grown, and I take an awful lot of teasing for my house being always tidy. But it’s just me and the days. I have that stretch of time in luxury. But it’s all seasons, yes? God bless you as you embrace this beautiful season that you’re in today
I love listening to you describe mundane daily tasks in such a beautiful way.
I laughed, I cried. How did you fit so much love and realness into this video? 🥺 LOVED!
I struggle daily with severe anxiety over the sterilization I can do to everything in my house daily and it devours me. It takes from my husband and son and the guilt consumes me. Thank you for sharing this video, it lets me see that there is really no wrong way to live in our homes. ❤️
Im not a mother, but this was beautiful and made me appreciate my dear mother more than I already do ❤ I’d move mountains for that woman. Your family is lovely ❤
I love this. I'm a stay at home mom and right now I have twins. This philosophy does make me more eager to keep the house tidy. But it will never be perfect. And that is okay because our children don't worry about that stuff.
I love this SO much! I just unsubscribed from a well-known youtuber who I used to like when they started out because they relatable and now they just aren't. Their channel sounds just like the others you described actually. I really love your channel because it's so relatable and you also have a lovely voice ❤️
And this is why I love you so much. Being a mom of 12 children and still loving to sew vintage clothes and costumes is hard when all the mom videos or costuber videos show women with beautiful homes and 1 or 2 children or no children at all. I get down on myself for never seeming to have enough time to sew like I want to and always feeling like my home and children are never presentable enough. So thank you for keeping it real and helping me see there is someone out there who likes the same things I do and has a life like mine.
Oh friend you should see my sewing area, it is a legitimate disaster at the moment. But that's ok! I have realized that having the main living spaces tidy (ish, lol) is what I'm aiming for right now, and then if I've got energy I can do other things!
What a beautiful video!💜💜💜
Beautiful eloquent video. Motherhood is never easy. May you have manny blessings! Much love to you! ❤ 💋
This video really spoke to me. I don't know if it what you said or how you said it. But I have always hated cleaning. Even after I cleaned I got no enjoyment from the clean room or house. I only saw it as a neverending repetitive task. But this inspired me too look how I spend my time so I can keep a better house.
So thank you for making this video.
❤️❤️❤️ yes we are not alone. I love homemaking. Work in the house is never ending and a sign that a family lives there. Your voice is very calming
I’m not a mother and live alone, but I think the quote you shared equally applies to us loners - it’s just mainly showing self love by keeping house. I never thought of it that way. And boy do I struggle lol but I really enjoyed your video. Your home is so cozy and like a fairytale. Your life, family, and your home remind me of the Nanny McPhee Returns movie 😆 and I mean that as a compliment! Lived in, beautiful colors and patterns. I’m so glad I found your channel! ❤️
You are beautiful. Your children are beautiful and your home is beautiful too. You have so much! Thank you for sharing. This video was just lovely and encouraging. Blessings!
Btw…. I’m a mom on a farm in Alaska and I loved the wood chopping bit…. I do a lot of that…. Not as beautifully as you but it’s ok
Haha I never thought of wood chopping as looking beautiful but you didn't see the multiple times I tried to chop and nothing happened LOL
I am really loving the addition of slow living content to your channel! Your voice is always so soothing.
Oh thank you! I think these are my favorite videos to make, honestly. Finding the small moments that are beautiful is what I live for.
This has been my favorite video you have made. Watching someone else clean motivates me to clean, and I love seeing that my house isn't the only house that's is a mess from little hands and active imaginations.
Hahah I love watching cleaning videos while I also clean! It's become my habit while doing the dishes. I'm sooo glad you like it!
I am so thankful that I found you and your channel. Through your videos I feel like I'm not alone anymore and that there are other mothers out there who also find motherhood/house keeping difficult and even daunting at times. For a long time I felt so guilty about being an awful wife and mother cause of my constant struggle to keep our home clean and tidy. I have begun to realize that just because my home may not be "magazine" worthy it does not mean I have failed. Thank you for sharing and bringing to light the day to day stuff and how to better deal with the challenges that come along as well as have fun.
I started to cry as I listened to this. Because your words encapsulated my feelings so perfectly that I was shocked! I NEEDED to hear this. To understand the part of myself that will kick me into cleaning and then sometimes get so overwhelmed I dont clean at all. This is more real to me then any other I have seen. Thank you.
Beautiful message!! Home making and motherhood can often be isolating and seemingly mundane but it is such a beautiful blessing. Being present and nurturing our children is one of life’s most rewarding and precious gifts. 🩷
I love your channel. I love your realness. I had 4 daughters in 5 years, and it’s hard. I often find myself being resentful of the sacrifices that I’ve made. I try to remind myself that my family is a blessing, and that I can show love by serving them. You are an inspiration, and the words that you share are true and poetic. Thank you.
I can relate to this SO much. When you have four babies in such a short time (I had four in 7 years) it's hard to remember the blessings in the shadow of the sacrifice. You are SO not alone in feeling those things, and working through those feelings!
I am loving your tiding videos. I live a slow and simple life and have done all my life (only recently did I realise it now had a name) but I am not a minimalist, and consider my home an organised mess and for many reasons I am almost never on top of things. It's wonderful to see a beautiful women with a home like my own, not a fairy wondering the woods, picking flowers and coming home to a very sparce home. These videos are making me much happier and I do hope you do more.
this vid was soo good and honest! thank you! us moms need to hear we are doing good even when it feels like we're not!
I agree, we all need to hear it! I needed to hear it, too.
Exactly what I needed! Thank you! We have 2 kids (5 & 2), 3 dogs, and I work full time. I feel that my home is never perfect…on top of that, it’s old and needs some love but trying to do it responsibly in a way that we don’t go into debt. Have to keep reminding myself that these things show love even if it doesn’t look how I wish it would all the time. Very encouraging video! ❤️
I thank you so much for this video! I'm a mom too and this is exactly what I'm looking for, to not feeling alone with the mess 😚
This hit me so hard. I have been struggling lately with the house and the mess and the things I can't change because it is a temporary place for my family. I love your channel - period. I like the clothes, the 50's routines, all of it. You do you and we will watch. PS. I like to think the perfect houses all have a hideous closet they never let anyone see like Monica from Friends.
Lol my house isn’t perfect and I STILL have an ugly closet 😂
@@WithLoveKristina lol. So do I.
Loved this video. I'm a minimalist mom, but my home always gets dirty. The dishes and laundry are never ending even if I don't wear too many things. But at the same time I find joy in keeping my home clean and inviting for my family.
Haha, I loved what my mother-in-law said about laundry - if it wasn't running, there was something wrong. (she had eight kids, I can't imagine how much laundry she did!)
I love that.. how we try to keep house for the people we’re lucky enough to live with is a form of showing love. For sure... your environment plays a large part sometimes on mental health (for me..). Thank you for making this video.
'We cannot all do great things, but we can do little things, with great love.' Mother Theresa.
And really, that's what family life is.
This is content I really needed to hear. Sometimes, I get so overwhelmed with running my home and caring for loved ones. Thank you for this!
I wish I could like this video a thousand times! I watched it as I was washing the dishes and it totally shifted my mindset. Thank you! ❤
I love your channel I hope you're doing wonderful today. You have a beautiful big family. ❤
I always think about blessing the home.
This is a truth! I am glad that you want to be honest!
I am an acts of service love show-er and while I know my family doesn't necessarily receive my love this way (they are mostly quality time and physical touch receivers), I do tell them every so often that I show my love for them by keeping things up for them - so they know where their shoes are and that they have clean clothes to wear.
Haha I am NOT an acts of service person, but I enjoy keeping a calm house, and everyone else is so much happier this way, too! I'm very much a words of affirmation person. Which, I think, is why writing out the narration for this was so important to me (I didn't really write a script, just wrote down all the thoughts I wanted to say so I wouldn't lose track)
You are blessed to stay at home … I missed so much working … your children will have many wonderful memories of their childhood
This is so beautiful, I’ll be coming back to listen to your words again and again. You’ve put some feeling into words that I haven’t been able to 💛
You did such a beautiful job with this video. More, please!! I love this slow living, homemaking, but need something realistic and relatable. This hit all the high points. Thank you so much!
Wow. Thank you for being so real. It means a lot. The part of feeling resentful at times really hit home even though I love being a mom. It's refreshing to hear moms being honest
As I have binge watching your videos. I just have to say thank you!!! You have helped me so much with my journey into motherhood and with this video and what you have said has given me so much hope. I was struggling really bad with postpartum depression and was very lonely being a new mom in the midst of the pandemic. I just recently have been doing much better and it’s because of caring doctors and specialists but also content creators like yourself. You are real and raw and I just adore you. Again thank you! You have helped one desperate momma. ❤❤
Thank you for being so open and transparent, this was wonderful!!!! Motherhood is a LOT!!!
I’m saving this to watch any time I’m feeling overwhelmed…which is often. Thank you! Lovely video, so relatable
I'll just be here sobbing at this video 😅This was absolutely beautiful and I needed to hear it today
This was so wonderful! On so many levels! All the important ones. More of this ❤️
Such a good video. Your home is so beautiful and cozy and has so much charm. I feel we are kindred spirits 🥰 🏡
Tidying with love 😃, I love it. I heard this before but it was really needed and well over due reminder thank you.
I am often one to clean with a grumpy face, or simply not stay consistent and have days that quit because it was too much and unfair? Lol .
Haha I've always heard people say they love the satisfaction of cleaning, but that's the closest I've ever heard to... homemaking because you love your housemates as it were. Staying consistent is so hard!
What a beautiful video! Thanks a lot 😊
I love 💗 that cleaning is an act of love not a chore.
This is a beautiful video. I love the real honesty of your home, the mess, the kids, your efforts and challenges. It’s appreciated 🧡
Thank you for your inspiring words. We do appreciate you and your work very much.
This was a calming and beautiful video. I really needed that today. Thanks for sharing
I'm so glad!
Beautiful and true narration and beautiful vd, i just went back into time when my mother was always busy feeding us and loving us and was not bothered for a beautiful home, my house was clean and healthy but she was always busy with us. She gave all her time to us, and that's what mattered...!! Your house is so beautiful with beautiful things, and the most beautiful children...!!
this was a very beautiful video. thank you for this ... I also am a stay at home mom!! this video hit home for sure.. thank you for shearing
Hugs friend!
This!!! Thank you so much for doing this video. We have many similarities and this video just gave me the boost and feeling of a warm hug I needed. I became a stay at home mom a few months into my pregnancy with my now 6 year old son. I had post partum depression for a long time after having him, but was able to pick myself up eventually. These past 2 years and change have really brought me back to a less then stellar place, along with seasonal depression. After watching this I am feeling more energized and want to take more time to show more love through my homemaking.
Also, our homes could be twins or maybe at least cousins. I nearly spit out my coffee when I noticed the same microwave and carafe we use. Those are not the only similarities, looking at your kitchen makes me think of my own. My son is the 5th or 6th generation in this home. It is not "perfect" and there is still some work to do, but it is an old house and we kind of like it that way. Thank you again for this honest and raw homemaking post.
I am so glad that I found your channel, I am a new subscriber, A newly diagnosed MS warrior and have been separated for almost 2 yrs. This video is beautiful.
Beautiful video. We need to see what a loving home looks like and be reminded that we are doing chores as an act of love for our family and not so we can reach some standard of perfection.
This is now my favorite video of all time, thank you so much for this message. I have been feeling so frustrated because despite to all my efforts I never achieve to live up to those minimalist-perfect-spotless motherhood expectations. And even though I’ve always do things out of love consciously, I end up feeling like it is never enough (that I am never enough). Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!
Lovely. I look forward to your next video. Thank you!
Thank you! 😊
What a peaceful & "real" video - you said it all so well. I wish I'd heard some of these things when I was your age. You are wise beyond your years. Have a blessed day!! xoxo
I have watched your videos for a while now. And I have enjoyed them. But this is by far my favorite, liked it so much I subscribed today. I hop to see more content like this in the future.
Ahhh I'm so happy! I am definitely going to be making a lot more things like this; I've been wanting to for so long but I wasn't sure how to start.
I so needed this today. My husband and I are 33 weeks pregnant and it's getting more difficult on my body to do everything around the house. I then get overwhelmed and feel guilty because all that I feel needs to be done before baby gets here. This video helped me have grace with myself but also see the things I can do as an act of love (not an act of panic). Thanks Kristi!
I know you really really love publishing your fiction.
You also have a strong voice about self-love and care that speaks to MANY people. It would make a great book.
Your narration gives me comfort and clarity. Thank you.
Really enjoyed the video and i appreciate your honesty and transparency❤🌷❤🌷❤🌷❤
Sometimes it bothers me youtubers who show fake perfection and are praised for that 🤔🤔 it seems unauthentic from both ends the creator and the viewer.
I like this style of video with homemaking honesty
P.s. I love all the 🍓🍓🍓🍓 in the kitchen
WONDERFUL!
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This is absolutely beautiful and so helpful. Thank you so much!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I have been finding so much inspiration from your channel. My husband has even noticed and commented. Just want to say thank you!
The message in this video is so beautiful, so appreciated, and so inspiring. Thank you, Kristina, for being so real and for speaking life into myself and others 💜
It is wonderful to hear your words, I wish I had heard something like this when my children were little, I felt so alone and such a failure then. My children are grown, I know I did my best but my home was never perfect or even close to how I imagined how it should be. I am still looking now for something that will help me make a home
Love you sharing the realities of life and being so open and honest with your experiences 💚 good reminders for all of us!
I love you friend!
So well put 💖
Thank you!