7 Things Men Think Women Care About But Really Don't - Gentleman's Gazette
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Bottom line is, if a woman is really interested in you, the seven things we discuss here, may be nice to have but they're definitely not a NEED to have.
1. Fortune
Most of the time, your work ethic, your passion, your ambition, and your hobbies, matter more than your bank account. This approach can be extended to many things; it's less about what you have but what you make with what you have. If a woman is just interested in how much money you make it's probably not a good idea to date her in the first place.
2. Physique
In fact, all the women we talked to preferred that you weren't. Why? You might wonder. Well if you spent all the time in the gym and you're very ripped yourself as a man, that may be intimidating to the woman and she might feel like you judge her all the time which can be unhealthy for the relationship.
3. Size of your Manhood
Many men out there think that the size of their penis is really important and the bigger the better, not just for their ego, but also to satisfy women. In reality, the vast majority of penis sizes out there are just fine for most women. In fact, most women consider your size to be nun criteria in the first place.
4. Vulnerability
Most women are attracted to men who are emotionally stable and who can express their feelings. I think a lot of men don't want to show emotions because they feel like they need to save face from other men who might judge them as weak.
5. Worshipping Women
Yes, everyone likes a genuine compliment every once in a while but if you're being put on a pedestal all the time, it can lead to a disconnect between you as partners. Most women want a connection with you and they want to be treated as an equal to you, not as something that is superior or inferior.
6. Insincere Compliments
Yes, it's okay to compliment your spouse and her partner or the women in your life, however, if you repeatedly just tell them that they look gorgeous, it becomes old quite quickly.
7. Hair
Many women also associate gray hair with maturity which is a big plus for us men. Most women also don't care about the receding hairline, they care about your character, your humor, and the way you are as a person.
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I can't agree more. Every single point is 200% true.
This is really something to think about
I’m a woman who had questions regarding fashion and happened upon your website. I love your advocacy quality; not only of clothing and appearance, but of respect, kindness, productivity and honesty. Couples who share the same core values have a shot at being pretty happy in life. Thank you for your good work.
From buying suits and shoes to knowing if I'm acting accordingly and being useful to people. These are the things Raphael helped me with. Keep up the good work!
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Haha didn't expect you to talk about penises!
It's what came up when we asked different women ;)
it came up... when we asked when we asked different women........lol..that best Germen joke ever....an lived there 4 years. super video also
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I would really like to watch a channel like Gentleman’s Gazette but geared towards women.
@Marinebattleships 1 do tell?
Do not make the mistake of chasing what women want. Focus on doing what you want to do, and not what women say they want.
I can't believe you got so many thumbs up for this selfishness. Try to find things you both enjoy and can do together. If you are doing sports 3 times a week, and she is out with the girls, well, what holds you together? Similarly once you start having children you will have to plan FAMILY activities, not just what you like to do.
@LVXH if you want to understand what women want, reverse everything this man just said. Women care PRIMARILY about how much you make, and how willing you'll be to share it with them and any children you may have together. This is why tying together your resources is still the primary and fundamental legal aspect of marriage, and divorce is all about the resources, and who gets them.
That fact that he got his information from women means it’s not reliable.
What women SAY they want is very different from what they really want or need. On top this can change depending on her mood, moment, age, and your capacity to buy gold...
I'm a woman and I'm totally shocked about some comments, especially those that assume you can't trust what a woman says about what she wants (they're like "Oh, you don't want what you are saying, you want what I believe you want and that's all"). C'mon, guys! Yes, some women care about those things, some others don't... just pay attention to what she does and says and then make a decision if she is the woman for you or not (I've met men who don't care if she is a gold digger as long as she looks "trophy" enough). Nice video!
I understand we (mostly) cannot control our looks, but having a modicum of physical fitness should be an aspiration of men (and women).
OMG BodYShAmIng!!!!
(Ironical)
Yeah it’s not vain. It shows you care about your health and if anything, should show you want to live long with your loved one, and not just die young after sinking into a meaningless and unhealthy lifestyle
Gotta disagree on the money issue. That changes as time passes. When you're a student, she loves you for your potential and all is good if you are broke. If you are 28 and working at McDonald's, you don't stand a chance with most women unless they too work at McD's. When you are 40 and still working a dead end job, you don't stand a chance. They say money doesn't matter but when Pizza Hut is where you take her on a date, forget about it.
BTW, your wife looks very much like a girl I was madly in love with in college. Now I'm feeling nostalgic. :-)
Being 28 and working at McDonald's is not only a money thing though.
It often tells a lot about your ambitions and your character as well.
Gold Winger I agree. What they say they want is very very different from what they really want or need. This changes depending on her mood, moment, age etc.
What she wants is somehow proportional to her capacity to obtain it from a Darwinian relative point. If she is a rich princess she wants richer. if she is tall she wants as tall or taller. If she feels beautiful he needs to look or feel as powerful or successful (what if Clooney was a janitor?). They rarely admit to this because they are romantic until they make a final choice that needs to get darwinian pragmatic. I am not sure on the rate of change in her wants and needs however.
Somehow people find their equals, and they muddle through.
It's more about what type of job you have. Working at McDonald's isn't a respectable career and she sees you're a hopeless fool. They don't care too much about money, most of them anyways.
You wouldn't marry McDonald's woman if she were 30 year old and if you yourself were better placed either.
Based on the comments, it seems many people who disagree are interpreting this list as things that are completely irrelevant in attracting a woman, but I think it was meant to be more of a list of qualities that aren't deal breakers if a woman is already attracted to you as a person with good character, passions, and ambitions, and you're both pursuing a meaningful, lasting relationship.
Are you serious? You don’t think that women would prefer a ripped guy with money over a broke chubby dude (all other things being equal)?
Amen!
Absolutely, but simps gotta tell themselves things to feel better. A better approach would be "you can still achieve your goals despite your shortcomings" rather than pretending they're not something women are after.
If you are a woman, what do you think men care about that you don't?
If you are a man, what do you think women care about the most?
It's a little confusing... wear expensive (i.e. quality), well-tailored clothing, but own your graying hair? To be certain, a 76 year-old Wayne Newton with jet-black hair looks dreadful... but surely there's a middle ground?
I think it means that you should feel comfortable with your body, otherwise you risk 'trying too hard' to fix something, and people will notice it.
Well made does not always equate with expensive, and Rafa has gone to pains to advise that taking care of one's appearance is different to trying to fit in with certain stereotypical beliefs in what is necessary for a "real man" to adhere to
That's what I've gotten from all of his videos which is why I was a bit confused by him saying, 'don't do this' rather than, 'if you're going to do it, find an experienced men's hairstylist and get the job done properly.'
If you like to dye your hair, go for it.
Great video and sound advice. Our society has become overly obsessed regarding the "perfect form" for both genders. It is important to be clean, neat, well groomed and healthy but to obsess over hair color, if you have a few extra pounds, and other physical attributes is unhealthy from a psychological point of view.
Its due to the mass degeneracy and destruction of European peoples by nefarious actors. Look at most Zommer women they are over 200lbs and on their death bed from Type 2 Diabetes. Its a symptom of sick society by parasites... We are in our Wiemar Republic stage...
Woman here: I could not care less about how big or expensive your car is.
True. When it comes to men and cars, all I care about is that you drive safely. Nothing worse than being driven on a date and wondering if you should have left a will on the desk before you left.
What matters is that you have a car that seems safe. Clean and rust free are also good.
As long as it works right, if not let’s fix it or work to get anew one.
@E KL Yes, clearly there is no reason a guy would ever want a cool car other than compensating right? Guess we should all be buying a silver base Camry LOL. Way to be a simp dude.
@E KL That is simply a projection on your part. There are several reasons a guy could have to purchase something ridiculous like an orange Lambo, the fact that you chose to see it as overcompensating without even knowing him would be a flaw on your end, not his.
Can’t agree more, if your are NOT financially well off and if you find a woman who wants YOU, you can be fairly sure it (relationship) can work as you are only able to give of yourself and not any worldly possessions (money). 👍
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Very nice but wrong. What they say they want is very very different from what they really want or need. This can change depending on her mood, moment, age etc.
What she wants is somehow proportional to her capacity to obtain it from a Darwinian relative point. If she is a rich princess she wants richer. if she is tall she wants as tall or taller. If she feels beautiful he needs to look or feel as powerful or popular (what if Clooney was a janitor?). They rarely admit to this because they are romantic until they make a final choice that needs to get darwinian pragmatic. Still looking for a more reallistic video because not sure on the rate of change in her wants and needs
I respectfully disagree and feel sorry for those people who are in the never ending battle to continually see a partner who is richer, successful, has more $$$ than themselves, taller, etc...as these are sad people who will truly never be satisfied or happy in life because they will forever be searching for this ideal mate. There are millions of wonderful people out in the world who are not rich, tall, or whatever label you wish to lay on them, but are deserving of a partner who can equally share their life with. Best of luck to you if you are stuck on the wrong side of this option.
I agree that these are sad people but women will naturally seek a mate that will guarantee security and good offspring which in today's society is often measured in money, looks and power. In the end they have to settle for less because there are much less truly successful, intelligent, rich, handsome, powerful, men in real life than perceived but women will attempt the three point basket, especially if they feel they deserve it, until the clock runs out of time, after which they can settle for a simple 2 point lay up.
The way I have experienced it are girls I fancied and categorically rejected me during university that come back more than 10-15 years later asking somehow if I am still interested. And I am not because I have evolved, do not see them that charming any more, plus they have been broken by their "cool rich studs" who left them stranded with kids for a younger woman. They made their choice, not my problem anymore.
Totally agree with points 2 and 5. I was “worshipped” once, and at some point it just became annoying. Other points make sense as well. I would like to add from my experience, men are often concerned about their chest hair, whether its amount is ok for a woman or not. How silly is that! As for me, chest hair is the last thing I would think of when starting to date a really nice man.
Thanks for adding your point of view!
As long as the cash keeps flowing in.
Love your content. I don’t always agree with all of your assessments, yet I still come away feeling that it was time well spent. Most genuine! Thanks and keep them coming
April 1st was 26 days ago.
@Hobbesian Thinker HER wife?
You read that right her wife is getting hosed down by the pool boy.
That guy sure is bluepilled af
you should be the next bond villain
No cash no women. I can agree about other points but stash means beautiful women, no doubt about that.
It honestly just depends. I think the woman i'm with is stunning, I only make 70k a year and she's a therapist with a masters degree. Maybe some people would consider that a lot of money but everyone of our friends live in houses by themselves that we couldn't afford with combined income and some of them have not so attractive partners. (to us anyway) personal taste and attraction varies. It's truly impossible to know.
Uh. If you’re after only beautiful women, you’re just as shallow as the women who are after only men with money.
You need to get over that mindset if you want to get a good woman. All women are shallow? Are you going to say you don’t care about looks either? What he’s saying is if the woman sees you are striving for something and that you are going somewhere then they don’t care if you are broke. No, women don’t want to be with a broke guy. But do you want to be a broke guy, no, so why do does it matter what they think
The real message is "Be yourself ,i.e a good person, and do not care about what others think, including women, and you will feel better in your life. If woman like you, that is good. If not, you dont have to waste time and energy to find out how to impress them; it will bring nothing. Continue to be yourself and be good person, your chances are much better.
"Never B#, Never Bb, always B natural !" ;)
So for #2 I disagree only because of the health benefits of exercise. If my husband didn't care about his strength and health, I would not have been as attracted to him. It's not about appearance but about health and safety.
Everything else was dead on! Great video!
The battle in the comment section is adorable..........
Every woman is different but communication is the key to a good and healthy relationship. An honest man makes love a lot easier and trust inevitable.
In the world of Oil painting we would call the color harmony of your outfit a " Double Split - Complementary " color harmony. It really works!!!
Men, please be comfortable around us women, so that we will be comfortable around you👍🙏
Is there a LGBTQ version for this?
Rafael, are you personally aware of any channel that edifies women in the same way Gentlemen's Gazette does ? Can you please site them for us ladies? I am a great fan of GG and watch with interest because I too learn much from you about the genteel lifestyle, manners, good taste and the modern interpretation of the rules of etiquette and comportment. Thank you for your attention and I await your response with interest.
Excellent video that covers important topics. I think woman want a man with a sense of humor, who is also able to be a good conversationalist.
Brilliant video. I wish I had seen this when I was 16. I love your point about working out. Keep fit yes. But guys who spend every day in the gym seek quite insecure and trying to prove something.
As a woman, I found this list to be incredibly accurate. I've had relationships in the past that have failed because of his concern over a couple of the things you listed (most especially because of being set on a pedestal.) As it happens, this list seems to highlight my husband's best qualities and why I fell for him so hard.
As you mentioned, all women are different, but overall I think a lot of young men who would like some guidance would learn a lot from this.
In my experience, they care about all those things
Of course they do, but to what EXTENT? Many men think those things are a great deal more important than they are - that's not to say they'r not important at all, and it will vary with the individual, but this video is a reminder that they may not be as crucial and you think.
well said!
Like from a woman! :)
:) Merci
Gentlemen should be proud of who they are and what they have. A true gentlemen cares for everyone which makes you look more attractive to a woman. Women love well kept men.
I agree with every point apart from not dyeing hair. I started going grey from 18. My own image confidence and even compliments increase when I dye it. The key is to not over do it but so it looks very natural.
I like your take on gray hair and aging. When I see old men dying their hair to look young I think of that clown Ronald Reagan and how ridiculous he looked. There comes a time when you have to accept aging and embrace it.Antonio from RMRS is of a different opinion ,which took me by surprise. IMHO if you are in good shape you don’t need hair dyes. That is an easy way of trying to look young.
Women do care about net worth, make no mistake.
#3...shit you actually touch that subject.
The key is to be yourself, as cheesy as that sounds. Doesn't mean walk around without a care and do and say whatever you want, when you want, but if you're putting on airs to try to seem a certain way, people can tell. You could do all the things in this video, but if you do them because that's who you are and you're truly passionate about working out, or working a high-paying job, then people will appreciate that you're forging your own path in life instead of obsessing over what you think other people want from you.
I should not cry in public? Haha try to stop me.
Not a bad presentation! Putting things in perspective. Yes! and being sure of oneself is crucial if a viable healthy relationship is to grow emotionally, (from the heart). Everything else falls in place. Be the man you were designed to be. Semper Fidelis
it's not grey hair it's platinum highlights 😎
I had to compare my life experience with the advices given in this video, now I feel a lot more confused than ever... Well, that's it, enough Internet for today.
i literally need this fit
I am digging that outfit.
Here are some of the things that are red flags (as in, turn around, walk out, and don't look back) when I first meet a man: 1. He lies about something. Incredibly, most men lie within the first 10 minutes, or at least the first 30 minutes. 2. He looks disappointed because you are not attractive enough, or you are too tall/short, so he won't be able to impress his friends. 3. His haircut is too short, or weird in some way. 4. He is divorced (or not), with children he has left behind. 4. His wife left him, or he says that she was just interested in his money. 5. He is well out of high school, but has no means of transportation. 6. His politics/religion/life plans do not square with mine. 7. Profanity.
Sven, I'm a fan and a subscriber but I just have to say that YOUR TROUSERS ARE TOO DAMN SHORT! CONSISTANTLY!
Then I suggest you watch this: www.gentlemansgazette.com/proper-pants-break/?
Good evening.
Big fan of your style advice.
Perception? Not so much.
Let's get this out of the way first- Penis size - like a man's height - women preceive that more is better.
The woman is like a Fish- you have to match the BAIT (that's you) with the FISH you are trying to catch.
If you are going after a woman who has an athletic appearance, you better be fit.
If the lady is fashionable, you need to be well groomed.
If she is a Professional, you better be worldly.
But if she's dressed in stilettos and short dress-
It's Christmas !
JT CROWNS all studies ive heard about on the subject shows that what raphael said about penis size is true
You are impressive.
I think this is my favorite outfit I've seen you in. So distinct and well-matched, I love the colors too.
At the end of the day you just need to find someone who is communicative otherwise you will never know how they actually feel about these things, just be guessing.
This is a really good point. Don't go looking on UA-cam for how your woman feels based on generalising videos. Remember she's just as individual as you are and she might match or vary from these statements, so you need to find out. You can only do that with someone who is self-aware and can can communicate about their needs, preferably early on so you both know what you're getting into, what expectations there are (mis-matched or uncommunicated expectations, in my experience, is responsible for a VAST number of break-ups) and what a person's non-negotiable needs are.
Exactly, this video is not about absolutes but more meant as food for thought
Was this video really made by a real men, because I can't really believe a real men could write so many lies in a script and try to sell it like it was all true.
Of course, women do make "exceptions", but these exception are just for a very small percentage of men.
If you are an average, or low average men, you can be sure that they will care about all of it in this video and even more.
LOL.
love the video but, point2 is utter nonsense, I switch depending on what my goal is from 16-17 stone back down to 13, most prefer me at 13 stone, but whether 13 or 17 still in shape.
Loved this video, makes much sense the way you explain it, is sad to read that some men (sorry for the expression) still penis-measure their value and self confidence
Adored and appreciated, not 'worshiped'. Good video, nonetheless!
Women protect themselves by never revealing truth about what they really want. Imagine I a woman ask you "what do you value in us". We likely are not going to tell her the truth that we value you the most when you are 18-25, slim and not many miles in meter. We tell her we value things like similarity, good soul and other phrases that women want to hear.
Please don't project your own superficiality onto all men. I have been with women of all ages and all body shapes ad have loved them to pieces and had many great experiences with all of them. If you still want a 25yo when you are 30+, chances are you are just immature, as no 25yo will hold a conversation as well or know as much as a 35 or 45yo, and yes, that's pretty important. As is communication ability and self-awareness. If all you care about is looks, you're likely after casual sex, not a relationship.
Maybe you guys hang out with the wrong women ;)
Darting makes a fair comment. My last gf had a high-paying job while I was unemployed, but she still had some expectations about when I would do something about that. I talked her into trying to be with someone that wasn't her usual "type" (I'm shorter), but she had definite physical preferences and if I had not been fairly fit, I would not have got a look in, regardless of other characteristics. I couldn't hold that against her, because she took the time to go to the gym and take care of herself as well. As for the length thing... I don't mean to lower the tone of the channel, but there are such things as extensions, sleeves, and toys, and you also have your own hands, if such... deep... sensations are required by your particular lover. Experience and knowledge will always reign in that department, and physical fitness pays off there, too.
Kutkis I defend Kutkis. What they say they want is very very different from what they really want or need. This changes depending on her mood, moment, age etc.
What she wants is somehow proportional to her capacity to obtain it from a Darwinian relative point. If she is a rich princess she wants richer. if she is tall she wants as tall or taller. If she feels beautiful he needs to look or feel as powerful or successful (what if Clooney was a janitor?). They rarely admit to this because they are romantic until they make a final choice that needs to get darwinian pragmatic. I am not sure on the rate of change in her wants and needs however.
I like how many men value young women even when they get old (and don't mantain the youth themselves) and think that they still deserve it at like 60
On most of these points I think you are not wrong, not right, but the truth is in the middle. I think actually all these things do matter to a degree. Less than men think they do, but they matter. Not as much as men think they do.
I really like your style in this episode.Keep up the good work guys.
Good Vid. However women do care about package size. If your abnormally small she will leave.
Hey Sven,
I just found out i have the extract same flat cap you have on the background.
Will it suit with a little bit lighter grey overcoat with the same pattern?
Do you have a video on how to hand clean a shirt
no
When I’m out with my wife if I don’t get my way I throw myself on the ground and moan and groan she says it’s not sexy what do you think?
Totally awesome list. Funny that the last point is REALLY true 😅😅
More people need to watch this. I agree 100% with this. Crying is fine ... everyone has bad moments. There's no need to repress your feelings.
I really like the colors and style of the outfit. A slightly lighter pants color would have worked better thoughz
So do you think women would like to be married to a poor consultant surgeon ?
I know doctors are well paid but let's pretend to meet a poor one who has many responsibilities beside his wife ..
Shout out for featuring a Montblanc TimeWalker in your photo!
So this is a list of 7 things men think women care about but 12 women from Minnesota don't.
6:59 Use the Boresley Method " Just two easy steps, Shave your head, and Grow a Goatee" From Bald to Badass lol...
Honestly, the gym thing is just stupid. It is proven that people that go to the gym are healthier, look better and have longer lifespans. I don't care if women don't like it, I want to live longer.
Then you should go to the gym and enjoy it.
This video makes a very strange assumption: it assumes women would tell the truth when asked these questions.
Wish I could be a GigaChad like Raphael so these advices apply to me 😢
Women not caring about these things? I find this video very questionable.
They just care for a man's bank account and what car he drives, prove me wrong. Also what women say and what they mean are two different things.
As a woman I can agree on all of these points! Well put together sir!
I can tell you really care for your audience and want to get the best from us. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge, sir!
All compressed into one sentence: Keep it real.
Be true to yourself!
Or swear off women for life and you never have to worry about these issues ever again
Lol crying in public i could see that and be laughing non stop sorry but its funny
Good advice. I've learned these lessons over 74 years. BTW, your pants are too short.
Like your channel; wish I had a place to dress like that.
1:15 So sweet :D
It depends on the woman.
Money yes. No woman wants a lazy man. And what my aunt used to say it's better to cry in a Mercedes. Than have to take a bus.
It’s so cute how excited he looks talking about his wife
I don't think that list applies to the women of the world. Here in S.Korea numbers 1 and 2 are of most important.
Also number 7
ricky dedos well that's superficial... Every society has it's own priorities tho
Outstanding as always Sven, thanks for the video
Today's outfit has been a favourite, it's autumn where I live and your colour scheme today really suits it
Raphael have you and your wife considered doing a UA-cam channel for classy women? I have looked and come up with nil. I would so enjoy it. Please think about it.
Never ask a fish how to catch a fish, ask the fisherman
Came for the content, stayed for the outfit
Bravo! Really nice video. Interesting topic with interesting approach.
The consistent theme here is that men who have something to offer women other than the things listed in the video recognise that the things listed in the video are not ultimately all that important to women. Meanwhile, men who do not have much else to offer women, and also can't offer these things, blame this on women only caring about these things to make themselves feel better about their failure.
I don't know if this is because the men without much to offer are trying to blame it on things they think they can't control (looks etc.), or if those of us with more to offer have accounted for the better women who don't care about these things, but in either case it says more about the men complaining about women than it actually says about women. Be better, and these things won't matter all that much.
I’m a married guy and Raphael is mostly right!
Can I send my boyfriend to you?
Has anyone ever told you that you and your wife look alike? 😂
no
This aged like fresh milk
Not a problem for those who watch Gentleman's Gazette
This is very informative
Women do care about how much money you have & what you make. People run out of patience dealing with financially dysfunctional individuals, free loaders, slothful or just plain thieves. Even the Bible says if you don't work you don' t eat.
2 Thessalonians 3:10-12 King James Version (KJV)
10 For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat.
11 For we hear that there are some which walk among you disorderly, working not at all, but are busybodies.
12 Now them that are such we command and exhort by our Lord Jesus Christ, that with quietness they work, and eat their own bread.