EXCEPTIONAL IDEA.... to be promoted far and wide.. our societies seem to forget how much knowledge and wisdom our Elders have... They should be nurtured respected and cared for to the end.
Great idea. My youngest son and his wife invited me to move in with them. I sold my house, moved away from area I had lived in for 50 years, left my oldest son and his very busy family and moved to a new state! It’s been 3 years and all is well. I feel blessed to be with this family. There are a lot of things to overcome but it can be done as long as everyone thinks about the others in the house. Remember... YOUR opinion isn’t always right nor is it the only one! 🙂
I'm a single woman in my late thirties (w/o children) and 5 years ago..my parents, grandparents and I all decided to rent a large home together. It has been a journey that is becoming increasingly the norm in the US. My father is a diabetic amputee and both of my maternal grandparents are incapable of living alone..so working together as a family has been a rewarding and sometimes nerve wracking experience. 😁 Although this is the norm in most countries..I am pleased to see that more attention is being paid to these issues here in the US...Assisted living is incredibly expensive and we have an aging generation that needs assistance in the near future. We need more great minds like theirs to tackle this dilemma 😊
It is a difficult challenge but it forces people in particular families to actually get along and deal "With It" which means you can't just move away when there's a problem. Same thing with white flight. You can't just move away forever lol.
Sounds great, but please consider the future... of you're all renting it makes things unstable... see if you can all move to a home that you can all own. Wishing you all the best :)
Cute idea, and already done in many cultures. I'll be happy when someone starts building realistic solutions for affordable housing to address the epidemic of homelessness due to the extreme lack of affordable housing, and the extreme lack of a decent living wage for those who often work the hardest in the least desirable jobs.
I would agree with you. But only as a last resort, and only because we have been backed into a corner by the _"landlords"._ People like trump who make their wealth from the destruction of other people lives are the root cause of homelessness in America, and all across the world. People who in their greed, care nothing for the welfare of others, and don't think twice about condemning another being to a life of more hardship than they previously had. They buy out all of the small businesses, and hire people into corporations that are all that remains. Than then sell those jobs overseas, until the only way to live comfortably anymore is through becoming a landlord as well, part of the problem, And all out of pure selfish greed.
@@aylbdrmadison1051 ..so we agree. I appreciate the elaboration. My point with regards to this video.. not everyone has a family.. and so a familial home is not a solution for the masses of homeless in this modern world where it's perfectly possible to solve the issue. Yes, greed is what's to blame in general. It also comes down to unnecessary building code restrictions that make sustainable and affordable housing almost impossible. It also comes down to the fact that people are more recently looking for the loopholes they need in order to begin setting new standards. That's what I personally am looking forward to. You have to be clever when dealing with greedy bastards.
My husband and I have no children yet, but have my 67 y/o dad living in an ADU on our shared property. My husband is in the military, so when he is gone, I am not alone and have my village with me. My dad is single and he does not suffer from the very common loneliness at his age. And when we do have kids, our children will know one of their grandparents very well, we get support, and the financial advantages before/after kids are excellent. Definitely recommend it if you can get along with your family!
We have lost sight of our beginnings here in the united states. Hopefully we can learn that there are no true borders and that if we look back far enough, we are all family.
We have lost sight of our beginning. Hopefully we realize that there are no true borders and that if we look back far enough, we can see that we are all family.
Which is slowly fading away dude, in cities no one wants to live with their families anymore children just wanna move out when they grow up and live their own private life.
There’s an old guy who lives in the nursing home by my house and I heard him scream “get me out of here!” and one time he escaped but the workers caught up to him. It sucks how our culture thinks treating old people as burdens or pests is okay. It’s toxic
If we did this, along with losing, 10 pounds, I firmly believe there would be no deficit. Loneliness, end of life care, dementia, which I think are tangential to each other, I believe would be things of the past, if we got back to these ideals.
Excellent talk and topic! Historically, the multigeneration situation has been the norm (natural for humans, in my opinion). So, scientifically, we've been living this arrangement for probably over a hundred thousand years. Thus there may even be some DNA now, for such living. I'm a big advocate of the multigeneration arrangement, in part because it has been the way of the past, and our nature. I also believe that this concept may possibly be developed, or carried-over into other, larger or community/institution designs, applications.
In Egyptian towns and villages, many families live in one building, but in separate flats. (If they can afford it.) Most couldn't afford a compound system because of the amount of land needed as most people couldn't afford that. Buildings get taller but of course often as the generations continue, people move out and set up their own home but also build extra flats for their married children to live in when they grow up. It's not that simple and different families do different things. But certainly this is quite a common way to do things.
Latin families (generally speaking) care much more for each other than most North American families do. You can even see this among friends who have immigrated to America, before they too start becoming _Americanized._ But this hasn't always been the case, it is a growing societal issue. Over the last few decades, I have watched families become less and less interested even in each others welfare. People now are far less likely to support each other in general. Sadly, this has happened to my own family as well. We all used to gather for holidays and go camping together etc. Celebrate birthdays. I come from a rather large family, and although the size of that family has increased if anything, we are all so damnably _independent_ now, that we hardly see each other. At the heart of all of this is _independence._ I think that's really just another word for _greedy_ when you get to the root of it.
Good job man! I saw your success from the minor of Arch. program from a mile away. Great point about laneways and the potential here for intergenerational solutions to fill in economic gaps.
In America they used to be the norm. We called them cottages, or in-law houses. Unfortunately, people have become more and more greedy as the lie of independence has taken root.
Inter-dependence and independence. Here is almost the root of most problems humans face that is actually in our control. Independence is in most cases, an outright lie. The *only* people who are independent in the entire world are those who live lives in complete and total solitude from anyone and everyone else. If you are not living in some remote mountain and never ever see another human soul, you are *not independent,* no matter how wealthy. In fact, if you do happen to be monetarily wealthy, you are no more independent than the average homeless person. It is quite literally impossible to attain any money at all, let alone a lot of money, without being absolutely *dependent* on many other people. This *independence* lie we are being sold is no more than that: an outright and obvious lie. In any society there is no such thing as independence. You can though, be less dependent, but certainly that will never happen to the monetarily wealthy.
Nice idea for countries where there is lots of space per person. The concept though needs to be adapted to fit land scarcity, for example in Central Europe, and working and commuting habits as well as insuring enough free natural space and gardens.
"Laneway house" is a term common in Canada. In the US it is called mother-in-law unit. If there are several houses on a piece of property, I would call that a compound, myself.
@@fionaanderson5796 We have alleys and alleyways in the states, nothing as nice sounding as "laneways". The term "laneway" itself sounds almost glamorous to my ears. Our name for the extra units was either derived by governments or architects. The name itself of the housing is distancing, in a way. Not a "real" family member, it's for an "in-law". Sounds like one could do a whole sociological/psycgological/anthropological Ted Talk on the naming of these units.
@@b_uppy we have laneways in many of the older suburbs, most of which are now considered "inner". My grandmother's house had a laneway - barely wide enough to get a car down and lined with 6' back fences. There was the occasional tree that overhung but not many as garages and sheds were mostly placed on the fenceline. The most attractive thing about the lanes was that most still had the original basalt cobblestones, with the ruts left by years of iron bound cartwheels. Back when my great grandparents moved there the lanes were heavily used by tradesmen. The original toilet was a thunderbox that backed onto the lane. The nightsoil man went up the lane each morning emptying the buckets into his cart. The coal for the fires was delivered through a hatch into the shed beside the loo. The scrap metal merchant, recyclers, and any other waste disposal went up the lane. The cleaner trades such as the butcher, baker, milkman, etc went up the road but walked up the side of the house to the back door to deliver.
@@fionaanderson5796 Where I live those kinds of services would have been few and far between, in part and because they were fairly new, and not dense. There were milkmen. The town had plumbing but but the outer areas had outhouses.
@@b_uppy my grandmother's house was federation, so early 1900's. I think it was one of the oldest houses in her street although the pub on the corner had been there since about 1840. The area was first settled by white man in the 1830's, just after the settlement of Port Philip (which later became Melbourne). Malvern was first the route out to the squatters area by the major creek and then itself became the farms and market gardens to feed Melbourne. By the time it was being subdivided for housing it was a wealthy area and the new houses away from the filth of the city reflected that. Now it's in the belt of leafy green suburbs, and urban sprawl extends about 40km (25miles) out beyond there.
This was culture of India, joint family . We grew up with our grandparents , there was respect , tradition , culture and community. No lonelyness , depression , stress , dependent on Nannies/ maids for kids raising . It was mutual and it is how humans are designed . But current generation more inclined towards nulcear family . Where kids are deprived of grandparents love, knowledge as they are growing in daycare . It is Sad
This is a great idea but the main obstacle would be zoning regulations that make such a thing illegal. In Canada, where I live, making an apartment in the basement would make more sense. Because of our cold winters, foundations have to be very deep and for that reason many Canadian houses have basements that can be finished into nice apartments. It should be possible to have a house that is essentially 2 apartments + an additional common living / recreation room area shared by both apartments.
It'll be tough for most in the United States who have been systematically individualized and as a result have beliefs that reinforce their individualistic identity that's opposed to cooperation.
Imagine thinking learning to be on your own is bad and being codependent way into adulthood is normal. Scandinavian countries are more likely to have young adults live independently and they are some of the best countries in the world. Many countries where multigenerational living are poor and don't really have a choice. Why tf would anyone want their parents and living with them while trying to raise their own kids? Also, power dynamics and people getting in each other's way. People have to move out sometime. Parents don't live forever. Most countries do multigenerational living. Why tf does America have to be like them? Let people be independent here as that's not gonna change. We don't need more codependent people.
@@MsDudette21 Multigenerational living is also common in highly developed countries such as South Korea and Japan. So no it’s not just poor countries and even wealthy people there still live like that.
There needs to be more builders and architects that know about and can implement net zero and passive house building style. Saving energy saves money for all generations of people living there. It also make a building more comfortable.
True, but that's a societal problem. Yes, elders deserve respect, but so does everyone else deserve a modicum of respect, no matter how young or old. Besides, if a parent is dysfunctional, by far the worst damage happens to their children before they are old enough to fend for themselves. Fixing one problem won't make the other go away, it's true. But then that's no excuse for not fixing the fixable problems. I would say that a major part of that problem is that we see _families_ as always having to be related. Often the best solution for some is to simply find a _better_ or at least more _fitting_ family. But then if you have grandparents, parents and children all living together, there is far less chance for abuse in general. Especially if there is a greater extended family nearby. Abuse more often flourishes in situations where victims are more isolated.
@@aylbdrmadison1051 I'm sorry but I think you're wrong... Some people have such power on (many) others that it doesn't depend on isolation or not. If everyone fear a toxic person, we can't protect each other in such a home.
As someone from a culture which actually values living with multiple generations under one roof, for many generations, this video was very funny for me.
@@Zones33 I live in India. Barring the big cities, most people still live together with parents, grandparents & even great grandparents all under the same roof. And even urban residents often go back to rural areas to visit or when on vacation. And then we come back coz we can't stand living with them for too long.
It works out environmentally!! Plus the older generation has company and are not lonely which the most important thing.
Yep! No more excuses to not see your parents/grandparents 😁
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EXCEPTIONAL IDEA.... to be promoted far and wide.. our societies seem to forget how much knowledge and wisdom our Elders have...
They should be nurtured respected and cared for to the end.
Great idea. My youngest son and his wife invited me to move in with them. I sold my house, moved away from area I had lived in for 50 years, left my oldest son and his very busy family and moved to a new state! It’s been 3 years and all is well. I feel blessed to be with this family. There are a lot of things to overcome but it can be done as long as everyone thinks about the others in the house. Remember... YOUR opinion isn’t always right nor is it the only one! 🙂
That's a wisdom my dear!
K. Cook it IS very cool! I’m blessed for sure. We help each other. 🌸
Quantum Resonance thank YOU! 🙂
I'm a single woman in my late thirties (w/o children) and 5 years ago..my parents, grandparents and I all decided to rent a large home together. It has been a journey that is becoming increasingly the norm in the US. My father is a diabetic amputee and both of my maternal grandparents are incapable of living alone..so working together as a family has been a rewarding and sometimes nerve wracking experience. 😁 Although this is the norm in most countries..I am pleased to see that more attention is being paid to these issues here in the US...Assisted living is incredibly expensive and we have an aging generation that needs assistance in the near future. We need more great minds like theirs to tackle this dilemma 😊
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It is a difficult challenge but it forces people in particular families to actually get along and deal "With It" which means you can't just move away when there's a problem. Same thing with white flight. You can't just move away forever lol.
Sounds great, but please consider the future... of you're all renting it makes things unstable... see if you can all move to a home that you can all own. Wishing you all the best :)
Cute idea, and already done in many cultures. I'll be happy when someone starts building realistic solutions for affordable housing to address the epidemic of homelessness due to the extreme lack of affordable housing, and the extreme lack of a decent living wage for those who often work the hardest in the least desirable jobs.
I would agree with you. But only as a last resort, and only because we have been backed into a corner by the _"landlords"._ People like trump who make their wealth from the destruction of other people lives are the root cause of homelessness in America, and all across the world. People who in their greed, care nothing for the welfare of others, and don't think twice about condemning another being to a life of more hardship than they previously had.
They buy out all of the small businesses, and hire people into corporations that are all that remains. Than then sell those jobs overseas, until the only way to live comfortably anymore is through becoming a landlord as well, part of the problem, And all out of pure selfish greed.
@@aylbdrmadison1051 ..so we agree. I appreciate the elaboration. My point with regards to this video.. not everyone has a family.. and so a familial home is not a solution for the masses of homeless in this modern world where it's perfectly possible to solve the issue. Yes, greed is what's to blame in general. It also comes down to unnecessary building code restrictions that make sustainable and affordable housing almost impossible. It also comes down to the fact that people are more recently looking for the loopholes they need in order to begin setting new standards. That's what I personally am looking forward to. You have to be clever when dealing with greedy bastards.
My husband and I have no children yet, but have my 67 y/o dad living in an ADU on our shared property. My husband is in the military, so when he is gone, I am not alone and have my village with me. My dad is single and he does not suffer from the very common loneliness at his age. And when we do have kids, our children will know one of their grandparents very well, we get support, and the financial advantages before/after kids are excellent. Definitely recommend it if you can get along with your family!
Come to the villages of India.... This is our basic way of living. This is part of our culture and tradition.
We have lost sight of our beginnings here in the united states. Hopefully we can learn that there are no true borders and that if we look back far enough, we are all family.
We have lost sight of our beginning. Hopefully we realize that there are no true borders and that if we look back far enough, we can see that we are all family.
@@LuvnPet hope!
Which is slowly fading away dude, in cities no one wants to live with their families anymore children just wanna move out when they grow up and live their own private life.
@@shivamsaini2301 correct. But I think our generation need to think about this
As a senior who moved back up north nd bought a home for my daughter and her family and I, i think this s a marvelous idea.
Good for you, for holding onto logical and time tested traditions that actually work in everyone's best interest. ^-^
I love that this idea is getting a spotlight. It’s the same way I managed at 20years old to be a homeowner & landlord
There’s an old guy who lives in the nursing home by my house and I heard him scream “get me out of here!” and one time he escaped but the workers caught up to him. It sucks how our culture thinks treating old people as burdens or pests is okay. It’s toxic
That’s actually sad. I wonder how’s he doing today. He doesn’t want to be there for a reason.
If we did this, along with losing, 10 pounds, I firmly believe there would be no deficit. Loneliness, end of life care, dementia, which I think are tangential to each other, I believe would be things of the past, if we got back to these ideals.
The idea of a family compound sounds attractive. I'd prefer one in a less urban setting though.
Excellent talk and topic! Historically, the multigeneration situation has been the norm (natural for humans, in my opinion). So, scientifically, we've been living this arrangement for probably over a hundred thousand years. Thus there may even be some DNA now, for such living. I'm a big advocate of the multigeneration arrangement, in part because it has been the way of the past, and our nature. I also believe that this concept may possibly be developed, or carried-over into other, larger or community/institution designs, applications.
In Egyptian towns and villages, many families live in one building, but in separate flats. (If they can afford it.) Most couldn't afford a compound system because of the amount of land needed as most people couldn't afford that. Buildings get taller but of course often as the generations continue, people move out and set up their own home but also build extra flats for their married children to live in when they grow up. It's not that simple and different families do different things. But certainly this is quite a common way to do things.
Great video and many Latin American countries is like that and our parents won’t go to “homes” they stay with family 🙏 until they pass
Latin families (generally speaking) care much more for each other than most North American families do. You can even see this among friends who have immigrated to America, before they too start becoming _Americanized._ But this hasn't always been the case, it is a growing societal issue. Over the last few decades, I have watched families become less and less interested even in each others welfare. People now are far less likely to support each other in general.
Sadly, this has happened to my own family as well. We all used to gather for holidays and go camping together etc. Celebrate birthdays. I come from a rather large family, and although the size of that family has increased if anything, we are all so damnably _independent_ now, that we hardly see each other.
At the heart of all of this is _independence._ I think that's really just another word for _greedy_ when you get to the root of it.
Good job man! I saw your success from the minor of Arch. program from a mile away. Great point about laneways and the potential here for intergenerational solutions to fill in economic gaps.
We do this in New Zealand. Build a small house in the backyard. We call them Granny Flats lol
In America they used to be the norm. We called them cottages, or in-law houses. Unfortunately, people have become more and more greedy as the lie of independence has taken root.
@@aylbdrmadison1051 Americans are still doing this
We do that in Australia too!!
In Nederland they are called kangaroo house and they are subsidiary
Inter-dependence and independence. Here is almost the root of most problems humans face that is actually in our control. Independence is in most cases, an outright lie. The *only* people who are independent in the entire world are those who live lives in complete and total solitude from anyone and everyone else. If you are not living in some remote mountain and never ever see another human soul, you are *not independent,* no matter how wealthy.
In fact, if you do happen to be monetarily wealthy, you are no more independent than the average homeless person. It is quite literally impossible to attain any money at all, let alone a lot of money, without being absolutely *dependent* on many other people.
This *independence* lie we are being sold is no more than that: an outright and obvious lie. In any society there is no such thing as independence. You can though, be less dependent, but certainly that will never happen to the monetarily wealthy.
Nice idea for countries where there is lots of space per person. The concept though needs to be adapted to fit land scarcity, for example in Central Europe, and working and commuting habits as well as insuring enough free natural space and gardens.
I would have like a lot more detail on the concept.
"Laneway house" is a term common in Canada. In the US it is called mother-in-law unit. If there are several houses on a piece of property, I would call that a compound, myself.
In Australia it's called a Granny Flat. They rarely have a laneway and are usually accessed from the road at the front of the main house.
@@fionaanderson5796
We have alleys and alleyways in the states, nothing as nice sounding as "laneways". The term "laneway" itself sounds almost glamorous to my ears. Our name for the extra units was either derived by governments or architects. The name itself of the housing is distancing, in a way. Not a "real" family member, it's for an "in-law". Sounds like one could do a whole sociological/psycgological/anthropological Ted Talk on the naming of these units.
@@b_uppy we have laneways in many of the older suburbs, most of which are now considered "inner".
My grandmother's house had a laneway - barely wide enough to get a car down and lined with 6' back fences. There was the occasional tree that overhung but not many as garages and sheds were mostly placed on the fenceline. The most attractive thing about the lanes was that most still had the original basalt cobblestones, with the ruts left by years of iron bound cartwheels. Back when my great grandparents moved there the lanes were heavily used by tradesmen. The original toilet was a thunderbox that backed onto the lane. The nightsoil man went up the lane each morning emptying the buckets into his cart. The coal for the fires was delivered through a hatch into the shed beside the loo. The scrap metal merchant, recyclers, and any other waste disposal went up the lane. The cleaner trades such as the butcher, baker, milkman, etc went up the road but walked up the side of the house to the back door to deliver.
@@fionaanderson5796
Where I live those kinds of services would have been few and far between, in part and because they were fairly new, and not dense. There were milkmen. The town had plumbing but but the outer areas had outhouses.
@@b_uppy my grandmother's house was federation, so early 1900's. I think it was one of the oldest houses in her street although the pub on the corner had been there since about 1840. The area was first settled by white man in the 1830's, just after the settlement of Port Philip (which later became Melbourne). Malvern was first the route out to the squatters area by the major creek and then itself became the farms and market gardens to feed Melbourne. By the time it was being subdivided for housing it was a wealthy area and the new houses away from the filth of the city reflected that. Now it's in the belt of leafy green suburbs, and urban sprawl extends about 40km (25miles) out beyond there.
Lennar has been building "Next Gen" homes for some time now. Very popular as they gave a separate in law apartment within the home.
This is wonderful. I have been dreaming of this for many years. I want to start my own family compound.
This was culture of India, joint family . We grew up with our grandparents , there was respect , tradition , culture and community. No lonelyness , depression , stress , dependent on Nannies/ maids for kids raising . It was mutual and it is how humans are designed . But current generation more inclined towards nulcear family . Where kids are deprived of grandparents love, knowledge as they are growing in daycare . It is Sad
This is a great idea but the main obstacle would be zoning regulations that make such a thing illegal. In Canada, where I live, making an apartment in the basement would make more sense. Because of our cold winters, foundations have to be very deep and for that reason many Canadian houses have basements that can be finished into nice apartments. It should be possible to have a house that is essentially 2 apartments + an additional common living / recreation room area shared by both apartments.
We have lived in a multigenerational house for 25 years.
It'll be tough for most in the United States who have been systematically individualized and as a result have beliefs that reinforce their individualistic identity that's opposed to cooperation.
Imagine thinking learning to be on your own is bad and being codependent way into adulthood is normal. Scandinavian countries are more likely to have young adults live independently and they are some of the best countries in the world. Many countries where multigenerational living are poor and don't really have a choice. Why tf would anyone want their parents and living with them while trying to raise their own kids? Also, power dynamics and people getting in each other's way. People have to move out sometime. Parents don't live forever. Most countries do multigenerational living. Why tf does America have to be like them? Let people be independent here as that's not gonna change. We don't need more codependent people.
@@MsDudette21 Multigenerational living is also common in highly developed countries such as South Korea and Japan. So no it’s not just poor countries and even wealthy people there still live like that.
Great concept 👍👍👍 nice step up from a community village concept.
There needs to be more builders and architects that know about and can implement net zero and passive house building style. Saving energy saves money for all generations of people living there. It also make a building more comfortable.
It's already done in most Asian cultures.
and Mexican culture too
I love this idea for housing
Woow amazing... 😍😍😍😍
How is this different from a main house with an Accessory Dwelling Unit?
This is a great idea
If your parents aren't bossy and opinionated this might work.
Right. Some parents are so dysfunctional that its better to move far away from them.
True, but that's a societal problem. Yes, elders deserve respect, but so does everyone else deserve a modicum of respect, no matter how young or old. Besides, if a parent is dysfunctional, by far the worst damage happens to their children before they are old enough to fend for themselves. Fixing one problem won't make the other go away, it's true. But then that's no excuse for not fixing the fixable problems.
I would say that a major part of that problem is that we see _families_ as always having to be related. Often the best solution for some is to simply find a _better_ or at least more _fitting_ family.
But then if you have grandparents, parents and children all living together, there is far less chance for abuse in general. Especially if there is a greater extended family nearby. Abuse more often flourishes in situations where victims are more isolated.
@@aylbdrmadison1051 I'm sorry but I think you're wrong... Some people have such power on (many) others that it doesn't depend on isolation or not. If everyone fear a toxic person, we can't protect each other in such a home.
Most countries don't have any options. You have to actually deal with the problem. Can't run away.
Very nice talk!
4:18 yet the countries like that are underdeveloped.
This is typical in many Hispanic homes and continues to increase.
Only works though, if your tribe consists of people who aren’t selfish and or selfcentred
Reminds me of the song dreams adrift by Julius Richard
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Fundamentalism, who are'nt?
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this is not new.. ppl been doing this for ages.. if u have extra space build more for family members.
Not a TED talk worthy.
Duh! We call these Casitas in Texas. Is this one of those horse face Kennedys?
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When you are unable to work, either from age or disability, who will care about you after they see how callous and cold you are toward others?
There won't always be pensions.
As someone from a culture which actually values living with multiple generations under one roof, for many generations, this video was very funny for me.
Which culture?
@@Zones33 I live in India. Barring the big cities, most people still live together with parents, grandparents & even great grandparents all under the same roof. And even urban residents often go back to rural areas to visit or when on vacation. And then we come back coz we can't stand living with them for too long.