This episode (and the previous) have given me validation that I’m not alone. This validation (and others) allows me bring up my ultimate core issues. When providers can’t get to know me- I look like a mix of so many things (ADHD, identity disturbance, depression, anxiety, intense emotions, etc). Trying to treat all these separately has been a nightmare. Also- many have noticed that when I’m able to function- I’m able to connect to others and care for them on very deep levels. I need to be careful to not exhaust myself with this because I’m still not adjusted to healthy human interactions... but I feel I can turn things around and have the connections and love I deserved growing up. As an educator- I feel tremendous empathy for many children doing their best to survive CEN. Sadly, our system doesn’t provide enough resources to help all but the most dire of physical or sexual abuse cases. I suffered what many therapists have said was horrible abuse... but I was fed, clothed, and isolated enough that I didn’t realize anything was “unusual” until I was a pre-teen. I learned to just stay out of the way as much as possible, “read minds,” and kept telling myself I can’t be as bad as they said (logically I knew- but it still hurts).
I am so glad to see someone connect these two experiences that deeply affect the way we see the world! When I found out about both CEN and HSP, it changed how I treated myself and led to much more self compassion. Thank you for both your insights.
I have had few options to turn my life around to positive values ,but need distance ,time n place with my own values . What i'm good at. My language owned doors. This is not about me ,any longer. I wish the rev. (I will soon be grandma.) TY. Parental immaturity.
thank you. this is exactly the resource i needed
This episode (and the previous) have given me validation that I’m not alone. This validation (and others) allows me bring up my ultimate core issues.
When providers can’t get to know me- I look like a mix of so many things (ADHD, identity disturbance, depression, anxiety, intense emotions, etc). Trying to treat all these separately has been a nightmare. Also- many have noticed that when I’m able to function- I’m able to connect to others and care for them on very deep levels. I need to be careful to not exhaust myself with this because I’m still not adjusted to healthy human interactions... but I feel I can turn things around and have the connections and love I deserved growing up.
As an educator- I feel tremendous empathy for many children doing their best to survive CEN.
Sadly, our system doesn’t provide enough resources to help all but the most dire of physical or sexual abuse cases.
I suffered what many therapists have said was horrible abuse... but I was fed, clothed, and isolated enough that I didn’t realize anything was “unusual” until I was a pre-teen. I learned to just stay out of the way as much as possible, “read minds,” and kept telling myself I can’t be as bad as they said (logically I knew- but it still hurts).
I am so glad to see someone connect these two experiences that deeply affect the way we see the world! When I found out about both CEN and HSP, it changed how I treated myself and led to much more self compassion. Thank you for both your insights.
I have had few options to turn my life around to positive values ,but need distance ,time n place with my own values . What i'm good at. My language owned doors. This is not about me ,any longer. I wish the rev. (I will soon be grandma.) TY. Parental immaturity.